I have and I would again.

Bill Gates get a divorce lol

nope.

I would date anyone froma any race.
I was very racist in my youth I once believed that you should not date outside your race….I grew up.

The only major difference I noticed was the first time I kissed a white guy..I was like damn he has no LIPS…nothing like a black mans lucious lips
lol

No i would have to say i wouldn’t. Im just not attracted to white guys, even when they are supafly. The ones i think twice about and i think are white, they are usually mixed with something.

I would date outside of my race. I would face all kinds of adversities with my man whether he’s Black, White, Hispanic, etc. That’s life I guess.

Oh, and I love James Blunt’s song!

already have. i’d date someone of any ethnicity. i guess it all depends on your perspective/what attracts you, but to me it’s much more important that we share the same faith/worldview than the same color skin.

I agree with taco. I think what matters most are what your own personal views are, not what race the person is. I mean, I wasn’t raised to think that people are going to be that drastically different from me just because of their skin color. Seriously, as you get to know people, what I’ve found is that what matters most is socioeconomic status and upbringing and personal beliefs

Also, I think if you do date someone of a different ethnicity, that perosn will tend to be more open minded and accepting of you for who you are, which can be really beneficial to the life of the relationship.

I’ve done it. I’ve also dated men from different ethnic/racial backgrounds. I agree with artgyrl.. a lot of it does come down to socioeconomic status, upbringing, personal values and beliefs..

In my experience, race isn’t what breaks up a relationship.. it really comes down to compatibility and maturity.. ultimately in romantic relationships, a lot of it boils down to male/female issues..

I’m white and I’m glad there’s dark kinned ladies who actually will not limit themselves in relationships.

date - married - got a mortgage and had a kid
been doing it since the 90’s before it was hot and as a friend of mine loves to remind me “your white husband sat through black church in jersey for your ass -you KNOW that’s love”
hub thinks its cool he’s in vogue now - counting robert deniro and paul wall in his midst
he don’t claim bill maher though - something about a no skank rule

Hey Lisa, you can get a mortgage with a black man too, my credit is good!

I agree, love can come from anywhere….I’m just not willing to seek love from a White man. I am atill holding out for a Brotha.

Brothas….don’t let me down, now..

i can’t relate to a white man and a so called injustice he might have. as my man’s equal i should understand him. i’m a black woman who understands a black man plain and simple. nothing better than black love

Does anyone know if James Blunt is dating a black girl, cos what’s his big surprise?

Your Paul Wall’s don’t count firstly Paul Wall falls in another catagory altogether. He’s an honorary negro with Tina Marie. Period. His ghetto pass will never expire. And his love for black people to me is hella respectful and you can tell there is a lot of reverence there. White people like that only come around once every 25 years or so. It aint no everyday occurrance that you can actually get entry.

The other urban white variety really pisses me off….for so many reasons….and I will clown you before I date you.

Now on to the straight up garden type variety, I almost did. It was in NYC. And he was “REALLY” white. Like an architect and banana republic white. Its a double edge sword because I don’t want a disingenioius wanna be and the straight up white guys don’t have enough edge for me to even consider. And we talked on the phone and he would walk me to the train and stuff like that. But I couldn’t bring myself to date him. I couldn’t get passed the white thing.

And an urban legand in my family has always been…you can bring a white man home if you want to just remember when he gets mad enough at you that “n” word will slip. I don’t think its necessarily true…but It still crosses my mind.

Yes, and will continue to date any man of any race who is interested in me. My on/off again boyfriend of 8 years is white. There is nothing wrong with white men. By the way, the whole myth is untrue about what is in their pants, that can happen to any man. I was raised that people are people no matter what their race. Besides, it is 2k6, the only thing a lot of people look at is education and money

I’ve dated white guys and would do so again if the opportunity presented itself again. I’m glad to see so many black women are willing to think outside the box.

And no, the concept of a black woman dating/marrying a white guy is not something new.

I’ve dated white guys and would do so again if the opportunity presented itself again. I’m glad to see so many black women are willing to think outside the box.

And no, the concept of a black woman dating/marrying and having a white guys children is not something new.

As long as I click with their mind that’s what matters to me. I’d have a very tough time dating someone who was conservative of any color. Though I’m probably older than a lot of posters here and I’ll admit that I was less open-minded to mixing it up when I was younger.

No.

To be honest, I have a hard time looking past their color. Just not into them. I really think it comes done to ur believes. I’ve been around too many blacks that dating a white guy just doesn’t sit right with me. It doesn’t turn me on. Besides I am African if u understand what i mean.

Yes. I absolutly have and will date a white. White guys r soooo sweet and secure. They know about give and take. They understand 50/50. There is no difference with sex either. Some r big and some r small just like with black guys. Some go the xtra mile to please and some don’t but its all good. However I Do LOVE my Black Men.

He will have to be exremely gorgeous. White dicks look weird to me but I could get pass that.

I’m doing it even as we speak although not in America so it’s a bit of a difference. I’m married to a white British man and live in London at the moment. I do feel the racial and cultural difference, but it makes our relationship fun, interesting, and different. You learn something new every day plus my man knows history so I don’t have to debate my struggle with him. Also he’s Irish so they have their own problems. It’s great here, because the United Kingdom doesn’t have the same history as we do in the South (I’m from Texas) and although they did some dirt, England was the first nation to abolish slavery and the slave trade as well as the one of the first to accept Blacks as people. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it’s better and although I love Black men and still do, I definitely love my White husband. (and I agree with Ke Ke, the sex thang is not that different, my man has NO problems)

I’ve done it before but I felt guilty ass hell like I was betraying black men. It seems like black men are always turning on us and dating Latino & white women but I feel like no other race will understand my plights as a black woman than a black man. I don’t knock interracial dating but it’s just not for me… anymore.

I could see myself with a white man.

My question is why does Oprah think this is new?

White dicks look weird to me but I could get pass that.

POSTED BY: Bobby Pins | March 7, 2006 08:08 AM

lol
I think all dicks look weird. LOL
But I guess a little colour makes everything looks better

There are drawbacks to dating a man period, regardless of what color his skin is or isn’t. I’ve dated out of my race only twice in 23 years. I first dated a Pilipino, we dated in high school. I’m dating a white man now. It’s so much more different from dating my last boyfriend who was black. He played too many games which lead me to believe that he wasn’t mature enough for me. With the white man I’m dating, sometimes, he’ll never understand how hard it is to be a black woman but atleast he’s not unconcerned. He there for me and for the first time, I’ve experienced unconditional love. I’m NOT saying black men aren’t capable of giving unconditional love or that I don’t love black men, but the man I’m with means a lot to me.

Well, i have been with a white guy and i feel you on whoever said the small lips thing. So for myself or anyone for that matter, shouldn’t limit themselves to one particular race. Where anyone finds love, they’ll find it. However, i would never want to give up the Black Man that i have now….scrumptious

Well the option is not there for me any more but prior to being committed I had dated a couple of men of other ethnicities but not white. There were a couple of guys who I’d met and thought about in that way but I don’t think I could’ve went all the way. I just don’t think it’s the complexion for the connection. But again it’s all about who you fall in love with, I’m a strong believer in that. Some things just “happen”. I guess I have a problem with people who purposely seek to date outside of their race. That’s just my own personal bias though.

Race is a non issue. Its about the person inside

yes

Heeelllll no.

Not because I have anything against women of color dating outside of their race, but because I am not attracted to white men.

Black/hispanic men are absolutely scrumptious: their skin, demeanor, family morales. Black love is wonderful and I wouldnt trade it for the world.

Now, I’m not saying I would NEVER date a white guy. He just couldnt be a wigger (white dude trying to act black), broke, ugly, lazy, small (yes, in that way) or rascist. Hmm…guess that’s basically a never, huh? LOL

again….nope.

i love black men cause we can relate. I never thought i was attracted to white guys until I found myself watching the movie FEAR with Mike Wahlberg a lil too much (yes this was a while ago)…he is a cutey pie, and he was thugged out in that movie. But to actually make a move on those feelings in reality, I dont think I have it in me. A white guy tried to talk to me before and me and my friends started busting out laughing and kept it moving…I feel bad now, but thats probably what it would be to me, a damn joke. Sorry, I know its not right, but thats how it is

Maybe, if Angelina would let go for a minute LOL
Naaah, I dealt with a white man once, never dated. He was cool, just not the man white or otherwise for me. One thing about him, he had a academic knowledge of black culture but in my view he still had that paternalistic attitude toward black folks. He was a teaching assistant at a black university, where we me. So even a white man,with that kind of information still has issues with racist thinking. And I would say I had a hard time getting past the race issue myself.

Yes, I would date a person of another race, although I think it is easier to date another minority. I have dated Iranian, Spanish, Italian and of course black men.

I believe that the Iranian and the Spanish men (men that were born abroad) really understood what it means to be a minority in this country, whereas “white/caucasian” really had no clue or did not acknowledge any racial differences. The more accomplished the person, the less difference would be acknowledged.

Also, I think the reason why there are not more white men+blk woman relationships is that white men are “ashamed” to date black women, of course many white men hit on blk women on the dl, you know as long as no one knows about it, that is their significant others: co-workers, boss, family. I have been approached by a couple of white men (professional) who made it clear that are relationship would be strictly sexual, basically non-committal. This conversation usually happens dutring the second ‘date” or lunch meeting. It is quite amazing b/c this group of men believe that a blk woman should be flattered just being with them on any terms. It is so amazing b/c many white men, not all have peculiar sexual perversions. I will speculate and say that Bill Maher probably falls w/n this group.

Videos perpetuate the image of a black woman as highly sexualized and thus the majority population believe that ALL black woman are just skank/whore-ish and that we have no values and that we are game for anything sexual. The truth is that most black woman I know are rather prudish. Untill the proliferation of these videos lessen, black woman will be viewed simialrly. I would demand the same qualities in a white man that I require in a Black man.

I think that it is difficult for a highly educated Black woman to find a mate period, regardless of race, which is sad b/c regardless of race ALL woman want to be loved, valued and respected.

In the movie why does Sanna Lathan character mary down? Afterall, she is marrying the help.

I DONT DISCRIMINATE…SHORT(WELL MAYBE),TALL SKINNY,TUMMY..IT DOESN’T MATTER.

I HAVE DATED A PUERTO RICAN,HAITIAN BUT NO WHITE MEN. SOME OF THEM ARE FLY(NOT MOST)…I CANT TRULY SAY I WOULD..BUT I DONT SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH INTERACIAL DATING..

This show is not appropriate.

Dayum, Gracie. Where do YOU work? Your white men are bold as hell! and it sounds like there issue goes a little beyond race, it sounds like they just don’t respect women, period.

I CAN NOT AND WOULD NOT IT COULD BE ME BUT MY THOUGHS ARE WHEN WE ARGUE WHAT WOULD BE SAID YOU BLACK B**CH WHAT YOU YOU DO NEXT WHEN YOU PUT YOURSELF THERE I WOULD NEXT ANY RACE BUT WHITE AM WEST INDIAN SO I HAVE NO PROBLEM TESTING THE WATER BUT NOT WHITE OUR FOUR FATHER FOUGHT TO HARD FOR THAT AM A NEW YORK AND YOU REALLY HARDLEY SEE BLACK AND WHITE YOU COULD SEE CHINESE AND BLACK NOW IN MD THEY LOVE THE INTER-RACIAL DATING I DON’T HATE BUT ME NEGATIVE.

CORRECTION, WHAT WOULD YOU DO WHEN YOU BUT YOURSELF THERE I WOULD DATE

i used to think it was my job to preserve the race and only date black men. I’m over that! I really really love black men though, i mean I like ‘em real black, blue black isn’t too dark for me. I like ‘em dark and from the south, which is odd since I am a California native, but here lies the challenge.

Just because someone is black doesn’t mean we’re compatible, which is how my relationships have failed in the past. I am looking for someone who I am truly compatible with, and he can be white, black, half and half, some kinda Spanish, I’m open!

Dayum, Gracie. Where do YOU work? Your white men are bold as hell! and it sounds like there issue goes a little beyond race, it sounds like they just don’t respect women, period.

POSTED BY: Original Sindee | March 7, 2006 10:28 AM

OK Sindee. I work in the legal industry. I meet men everywhere. The last white man (M.D./pediatrician) I met, we went on two dates and he basically communicated the aforementioned “terms of our relations” AS IF I was going to fall for this shyt.I met him at Starbucks, near my office in Downtown Chicago.

Why is this surprising (speaking of odd sexual proclivities) Most of the men that are caught in online scams for sexual predaters crimes are White professional/highly educated men. This is the profile, sadly. By no means am I saying that all White men are like this, however many are.

This is why it is important to “interview’ any date for the first couple of dates and then eliminated them quickly if you cannot meet their ummmh terms/expectation of a relationship.

Hopefully, I have provided some women the heads up…

Yes, I have and I will continue to do so. Brothas don’t have a problem doing it, so why should I? I don’t feel like you should put a limit on love…you never know where your blessing is going to come from. I love my brothas and I don’t discriminate or think badly of them, but I’ve went out with plenty of guys of other races who came correct and treated me like a lady. I feel like as long as you don’t exclusively AVOID dating your own race and blame your own race for your failures and poor decision-making to have a healthy/happy relationship, you should do whatever you want.

Yes being a minority in America brings its own challenges to a relationship but that is not all the relationship is going to be about or based on. If that is so, then it is doom to fail. Issues on race will come up but it is how the two people deal with it. I have family members who are married to people of the same race as well as people of different races and the success or failures of those relationships were not based on the ethnicty of the persons. Otherwise all black relationships, all white relationships would be successful.

I would date a white man hell If look good an treat me like a lady but he have to be cute ass hell like justin, clooney, and I can’t forget nick lachey he is fine ass hell

My simple and honest answer: I don’t know. Anything is possible..

I date any minority..

white woman married to a black man. we get dirty looks from some older white men and from some black women when we are out. do we care? hell no. no one has a say in our relationship but us. we both dated outside & within our races and while we found good people our chemistry could not be knocked. we’re different in almost every aspect but it works. love him dearly!

I feel you miss ahmad on the preserve the race thing. I want my children to be black like me. Although I would date men of another race, my problem would be having mixed children. I haven’t yet decided if I’m okay with that, because first of all, although I am brown-skinned, my father and all three of my sisters are very light skinned and I have one sister with green eyes, so I’m aware that the white and fair-skinned genes are prominent in my DNA, so if I married a white person, I think it’s just as likely that my children will come out looking white as looking black or mixed. And I just have this stupid fear of people looking at my children and not thinking that they’re mine, or thinking that I’m their nanny or something, which would really piss me the hell off. So then whenever I would take my children out, I’d have to take my white man with me so people would know that these are my children.

I know this sounds really stupid and petty, but it’s how i feel. I mean, if I fell in love with a white man, really truly in love, I would just have to conquer that fear, that’s all. But for right now, it’s an issue, and it makes me hesitant to choose a non-black mate.

no, no and no

I hate Oprah for this. She is just making a big issue out of this. In return, more viewerships and more money for her.
A human being is a human being, no matter what color. If you are in love then who cares. I don’t know when Will Oprah realize this and move on.

I was always skeptic about dating a white man b/c of the sex. I just was too infatuated with black di**, than Emeniem and these Noreiga rappers came on the scene and I was like I could deal with that they got the black street pass.

But I grew up and discovered Brad Pitt, Ryan Phillipe, Justin Timberlake and others; as well as, all the other male races that were chasin me down at school, work or wherever. I told myself these men are respectful, intelligent, and attractive why limit myself.

Now I enjoy dating out my race. Sometimes when I’m out with friends they are starring at the black thug passion, i’m looking over his shoulders at the sexy latin or white dude b/c he looks different to me in a classy way.

I’m not saying black men can’t be classy, but I don’t see it alot anymore.

Besides, I also get a kick out of the look on black men faces when I enter the room with a date from the other race. Wow, if looks could kill!

Plus, a powerful, strong, business minded black woman and white man is the United States worse nightmare. (Oprah + Bill Gates= US Gov’t takedown)

Well I’ve dated my fair share of the rainbow including more than a few white men. Plenty actually, and I don’t think I’d marry one, at least not an American one. American white men still have alot of racial hangups and either fetishize the black woman or pat themselves on the back for being so liberal. Also, it easier to come home from a long hard day of racial bs to another person of color. I can see myself with a hot husband of any variety other than American white male. But who knows?

Oh and I don’t go around kissing thin lipped white men. Sorry, I sipped only the finest vanilla, I’m talking mega tall, juicy lipped, tight assed Mr. Charlie, LOL LOL.

I did years ago. I have to admit, the intensity of the relationship I had with him has never been matched. That’s because he was a great person, inside and out and I’ve just never met another like him. Chose to marry a black man though. Chose to divorce him too because I found out he knew nothing about how to be a man or treat a woman. I’d date a white man again. Was treated far better and with more consideration than any black man ever has shown me.

Gracie: Wow, u are speaking my experience. Except that Im a dude. On the gay side, its the same thing as what you were saying is goin on on the str8 side.

I have dated several different ethnicities including black men…never white…none asked, but I’m not putting myself out there like that, either…other minorities seem a little more open minded and self secure, however, I was raised by a black male and am attracted to black males. I have married two and either they weren’t the right ones or I wasn’t the right one for them, but that doesn’t sour me on love. I have 2 GORGEOUS black sons(and aBEAUTIFUL daughter) I want all of them to bring home CHOCOLATE!!! “If they can’t use your comb, don’t bring ‘em home” BTW my parents have been married for going on 41 year(next month) BLACK LOVE IS STILL ALIVE!!!!!YEAH!!

@dee dee

why didn’t you marry your white man (if you don’t mind me asking)?

personally, i don’t see a black man as my go-to option simply because we share a common phenotype. while i think shared characteristics are a good foundation to building a long-lasting relationship, i think black women put too much stock in the value of a “black” man. we want america to look past our skin color, but when it comes to love, we can’t do the same thing. this is not to say that i don’t love black men in general; my first love, my father, is a black man. but, first and foremost, he is a good man. and that’s what i want and what i think all black women, or any woman for that matter, deserve regardless of race. “black” man does not necessarily equal “good” man. black women should date whomever makes them happy and respects them. if it’s a black man, cool. if not, who really cares? cheesy, i know, but love is much deeper than the color of one’s skin. if we all looked at one another as God sees us, the world would be a much better place. blessings and love to all.

Angel La… what bout us MEN, how come you only directed the questiont to WOMEN, i mean you should have at least as how we felt bout BLACK WOMEN dating WHITE MEN and how we FEEL ABOUT DATING WHITE WOMEN, just cuz some KNOWN marrying them doesn’t me we all are, we just choose to mess around when them, which in the end doesn’t mean we are dating them or given them that FULL COMMITMENT…. LOve your site though

i’m not “holding out for” or holding my breath for a “brother”. the truth of the matter is that a lot of them aren’t holding out for us either. i think black women need to accept that and move on. broaden you horizons, open your mind up to someone who really cares for you.

i hope oprah touches on white women’s response/feelings about white men with black women. i have dated my fair share of white men, and i always snickered to myself when we would go out together and a white girl would look at me cross. i think the real issue is that for so long, white america has tried to make black women feel like we are totally undesirable. if you look back in history, white men have been tied to black women for years…moses was married to an ethiopian, king solomon was married to an egyptian, anthony and cleopatra, etc. anyway, this “new trend” just exposes what we have always known: white men ARE attracted to black women. i don’t really know what value this show is going to have for white middle class housewives, but whatever. at least now that (queen) oprah has exposed the truth behind the myth, white women might actually come to grips with the fact that they are not as highly sought after and regarded as they think.

angel la - how about a post on what we (black women and men) are looking for in a mate/significant other? if people were truly honest, it might be an interesting dialogue. it’s clear that we’re all looking for love, i’m just curious to know what we think that love should look/feel like.

your site is one of my favorites;)

ALL OUR BLACK MEN SEEM TO LOVE THE WHITE WOMEN AND THE UGLY ONES AT THAT. SO WHY CANT A BLACK WOMAN LOVE A WHITE MAN. SHIT THE BLK MEN GET MONEY AND GET WHITE. SO ANYWAY I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A NEGRO-WHITE BOY.AND A LOT OF NIGGAS AROUND MY WAY WAS HATIN ESP WHEN I WAS CARRYING HIS BABY. HA

White men are the new pink! I read this somewhere and started laughing. I have dated outside my race and I continue to do so. It opens up more opportunities to meeting interesting people, possibly even THE ONE.

Besides, brotha’s don’t seem to have any problem delving into relationships with other races, so why should us sista’s hold back. All’s fair in love right?

Someone had mentioned something about white boys having thin lips…trust me hon, they ALL don’t have that problem. And another thing, these fellas love, and I do mean LOVE pleasuring a woman orally. It’s almost like it’s in their DNA or something. They reciprocate oral loving and that alone makes me go running after them.
HOLLA!

I have not dated a white guy, but if I found one who I found a bond with, I would.

Honestly, I think there’s something about black men that just can’t be denied. God broke the mold when he made the fine black man. There’s just none like him. On top of that, as a black woman, I think there are just things about my life that only a black man can really relate to. (I know that the black community is not a single community and that we don’t all have the same experiences, but I think just the general knowledge of what it is to be Black in America is something that only Black people can relate to with each other.)

With that being said, I’m not into closing doors that haven’t even been opened. If I found a white guy who could really appreciate:
1.) me
2.) what it is to be a black person in America 3.) The fact that I might have some issues with white folks that I need to work out,
than I would definitely consider it. I believe people see color, but I don’t believe God judges on that. So if its God’s will for me to be with a white guy, I’m not going to close that door because of my issues or the issues others might have with it. But I pray that if God is planning on me being with a white guy, that its a nice garden variety white guy. Not someone like Paul Wall or Eminem. Someone like ole dude in “Something New.” He was white as hell but he was ignorant of other people’s cultures.

In my previous post, I meant to say that the white guy from “Something New” was NOT ignorant of other people’s cultures. Sorry bout that.

I would date anyone out of my race.

Crazichick, this question was not aimed at you. I think our girl specifically asked “Sisters, would you date a white man?” Not “People, have you ever dated outside your race?” I swear for God, y’all just love to throw that shit in our faces. Don’t nobody care that you got you a lil black man. Always gotta be throwing y’alls two cents up in the pot. That’s why I can’t barely go on BlackPlanet right now. All these white women on there talking about how much they love black men! Can’t we have shit for ourselves???

anon - back off. i’m not loving him cause he’s black. i’m loving him cause he’s him. don’t hate cause i scored a good black man. and if i wanna comment i’m going to. don’t care who it’s directed to.

Crazichick. Figures. Y’all always take the liberty of saying what you want to say whenever you want to. I guess its just the great white way.

i would date a white guy or a guy or any other race or ethnicity for that matter. Generally, I am not as attracted to white men physically as I am to men of other races, but I never want to say never.

these sorts of conversations are always somewhat odd to me. you either have people obsessively exalting black men or expressing skepticism and doubts about their worth. From my perspective, black men are just men, just people, with equal chance of being beautiful and amazing as being deadbeat and rotten. And this is true for men of any background.

I know that interracial relationships amongst black folk aren’t that high compared to people of other races, but the highest pairing of interracial relationships amongst blacks is black + white. Still, I can’t help but feel bored by the question. Maybe its because I’m in New York. It just annoyes me how people consider white (ppl of european descent) to be the only interracial/interethnic option when these discussions come up.

anon - guess so.

give a stupid comment, get one back.