I have and I would again.

Bill Gates get a divorce lol

nope.

I would date anyone froma any race.
I was very racist in my youth I once believed that you should not date outside your race….I grew up.

The only major difference I noticed was the first time I kissed a white guy..I was like damn he has no LIPS…nothing like a black mans lucious lips
lol

No i would have to say i wouldn’t. Im just not attracted to white guys, even when they are supafly. The ones i think twice about and i think are white, they are usually mixed with something.

I would date outside of my race. I would face all kinds of adversities with my man whether he’s Black, White, Hispanic, etc. That’s life I guess.

Oh, and I love James Blunt’s song!

already have. i’d date someone of any ethnicity. i guess it all depends on your perspective/what attracts you, but to me it’s much more important that we share the same faith/worldview than the same color skin.

I agree with taco. I think what matters most are what your own personal views are, not what race the person is. I mean, I wasn’t raised to think that people are going to be that drastically different from me just because of their skin color. Seriously, as you get to know people, what I’ve found is that what matters most is socioeconomic status and upbringing and personal beliefs

Also, I think if you do date someone of a different ethnicity, that perosn will tend to be more open minded and accepting of you for who you are, which can be really beneficial to the life of the relationship.

I’ve done it. I’ve also dated men from different ethnic/racial backgrounds. I agree with artgyrl.. a lot of it does come down to socioeconomic status, upbringing, personal values and beliefs..

In my experience, race isn’t what breaks up a relationship.. it really comes down to compatibility and maturity.. ultimately in romantic relationships, a lot of it boils down to male/female issues..

I’m white and I’m glad there’s dark kinned ladies who actually will not limit themselves in relationships.

date - married - got a mortgage and had a kid
been doing it since the 90’s before it was hot and as a friend of mine loves to remind me “your white husband sat through black church in jersey for your ass -you KNOW that’s love”
hub thinks its cool he’s in vogue now - counting robert deniro and paul wall in his midst
he don’t claim bill maher though - something about a no skank rule

Hey Lisa, you can get a mortgage with a black man too, my credit is good!

I agree, love can come from anywhere….I’m just not willing to seek love from a White man. I am atill holding out for a Brotha.

Brothas….don’t let me down, now..

i can’t relate to a white man and a so called injustice he might have. as my man’s equal i should understand him. i’m a black woman who understands a black man plain and simple. nothing better than black love

Does anyone know if James Blunt is dating a black girl, cos what’s his big surprise?

Your Paul Wall’s don’t count firstly Paul Wall falls in another catagory altogether. He’s an honorary negro with Tina Marie. Period. His ghetto pass will never expire. And his love for black people to me is hella respectful and you can tell there is a lot of reverence there. White people like that only come around once every 25 years or so. It aint no everyday occurrance that you can actually get entry.

The other urban white variety really pisses me off….for so many reasons….and I will clown you before I date you.

Now on to the straight up garden type variety, I almost did. It was in NYC. And he was “REALLY” white. Like an architect and banana republic white. Its a double edge sword because I don’t want a disingenioius wanna be and the straight up white guys don’t have enough edge for me to even consider. And we talked on the phone and he would walk me to the train and stuff like that. But I couldn’t bring myself to date him. I couldn’t get passed the white thing.

And an urban legand in my family has always been…you can bring a white man home if you want to just remember when he gets mad enough at you that “n” word will slip. I don’t think its necessarily true…but It still crosses my mind.

Yes, and will continue to date any man of any race who is interested in me. My on/off again boyfriend of 8 years is white. There is nothing wrong with white men. By the way, the whole myth is untrue about what is in their pants, that can happen to any man. I was raised that people are people no matter what their race. Besides, it is 2k6, the only thing a lot of people look at is education and money

I’ve dated white guys and would do so again if the opportunity presented itself again. I’m glad to see so many black women are willing to think outside the box.

And no, the concept of a black woman dating/marrying a white guy is not something new.

I’ve dated white guys and would do so again if the opportunity presented itself again. I’m glad to see so many black women are willing to think outside the box.

And no, the concept of a black woman dating/marrying and having a white guys children is not something new.

As long as I click with their mind that’s what matters to me. I’d have a very tough time dating someone who was conservative of any color. Though I’m probably older than a lot of posters here and I’ll admit that I was less open-minded to mixing it up when I was younger.

No.

To be honest, I have a hard time looking past their color. Just not into them. I really think it comes done to ur believes. I’ve been around too many blacks that dating a white guy just doesn’t sit right with me. It doesn’t turn me on. Besides I am African if u understand what i mean.

Yes. I absolutly have and will date a white. White guys r soooo sweet and secure. They know about give and take. They understand 50/50. There is no difference with sex either. Some r big and some r small just like with black guys. Some go the xtra mile to please and some don’t but its all good. However I Do LOVE my Black Men.

He will have to be exremely gorgeous. White dicks look weird to me but I could get pass that.

I’m doing it even as we speak although not in America so it’s a bit of a difference. I’m married to a white British man and live in London at the moment. I do feel the racial and cultural difference, but it makes our relationship fun, interesting, and different. You learn something new every day plus my man knows history so I don’t have to debate my struggle with him. Also he’s Irish so they have their own problems. It’s great here, because the United Kingdom doesn’t have the same history as we do in the South (I’m from Texas) and although they did some dirt, England was the first nation to abolish slavery and the slave trade as well as the one of the first to accept Blacks as people. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it’s better and although I love Black men and still do, I definitely love my White husband. (and I agree with Ke Ke, the sex thang is not that different, my man has NO problems)

I’ve done it before but I felt guilty ass hell like I was betraying black men. It seems like black men are always turning on us and dating Latino & white women but I feel like no other race will understand my plights as a black woman than a black man. I don’t knock interracial dating but it’s just not for me… anymore.

I could see myself with a white man.

My question is why does Oprah think this is new?

White dicks look weird to me but I could get pass that.

POSTED BY: Bobby Pins | March 7, 2006 08:08 AM

lol
I think all dicks look weird. LOL
But I guess a little colour makes everything looks better

There are drawbacks to dating a man period, regardless of what color his skin is or isn’t. I’ve dated out of my race only twice in 23 years. I first dated a Pilipino, we dated in high school. I’m dating a white man now. It’s so much more different from dating my last boyfriend who was black. He played too many games which lead me to believe that he wasn’t mature enough for me. With the white man I’m dating, sometimes, he’ll never understand how hard it is to be a black woman but atleast he’s not unconcerned. He there for me and for the first time, I’ve experienced unconditional love. I’m NOT saying black men aren’t capable of giving unconditional love or that I don’t love black men, but the man I’m with means a lot to me.

Well, i have been with a white guy and i feel you on whoever said the small lips thing. So for myself or anyone for that matter, shouldn’t limit themselves to one particular race. Where anyone finds love, they’ll find it. However, i would never want to give up the Black Man that i have now….scrumptious

Well the option is not there for me any more but prior to being committed I had dated a couple of men of other ethnicities but not white. There were a couple of guys who I’d met and thought about in that way but I don’t think I could’ve went all the way. I just don’t think it’s the complexion for the connection. But again it’s all about who you fall in love with, I’m a strong believer in that. Some things just “happen”. I guess I have a problem with people who purposely seek to date outside of their race. That’s just my own personal bias though.

Race is a non issue. Its about the person inside

yes

Heeelllll no.

Not because I have anything against women of color dating outside of their race, but because I am not attracted to white men.

Black/hispanic men are absolutely scrumptious: their skin, demeanor, family morales. Black love is wonderful and I wouldnt trade it for the world.

Now, I’m not saying I would NEVER date a white guy. He just couldnt be a wigger (white dude trying to act black), broke, ugly, lazy, small (yes, in that way) or rascist. Hmm…guess that’s basically a never, huh? LOL

again….nope.

i love black men cause we can relate. I never thought i was attracted to white guys until I found myself watching the movie FEAR with Mike Wahlberg a lil too much (yes this was a while ago)…he is a cutey pie, and he was thugged out in that movie. But to actually make a move on those feelings in reality, I dont think I have it in me. A white guy tried to talk to me before and me and my friends started busting out laughing and kept it moving…I feel bad now, but thats probably what it would be to me, a damn joke. Sorry, I know its not right, but thats how it is

Maybe, if Angelina would let go for a minute LOL
Naaah, I dealt with a white man once, never dated. He was cool, just not the man white or otherwise for me. One thing about him, he had a academic knowledge of black culture but in my view he still had that paternalistic attitude toward black folks. He was a teaching assistant at a black university, where we me. So even a white man,with that kind of information still has issues with racist thinking. And I would say I had a hard time getting past the race issue myself.

Yes, I would date a person of another race, although I think it is easier to date another minority. I have dated Iranian, Spanish, Italian and of course black men.

I believe that the Iranian and the Spanish men (men that were born abroad) really understood what it means to be a minority in this country, whereas “white/caucasian” really had no clue or did not acknowledge any racial differences. The more accomplished the person, the less difference would be acknowledged.

Also, I think the reason why there are not more white men+blk woman relationships is that white men are “ashamed” to date black women, of course many white men hit on blk women on the dl, you know as long as no one knows about it, that is their significant others: co-workers, boss, family. I have been approached by a couple of white men (professional) who made it clear that are relationship would be strictly sexual, basically non-committal. This conversation usually happens dutring the second ‘date” or lunch meeting. It is quite amazing b/c this group of men believe that a blk woman should be flattered just being with them on any terms. It is so amazing b/c many white men, not all have peculiar sexual perversions. I will speculate and say that Bill Maher probably falls w/n this group.

Videos perpetuate the image of a black woman as highly sexualized and thus the majority population believe that ALL black woman are just skank/whore-ish and that we have no values and that we are game for anything sexual. The truth is that most black woman I know are rather prudish. Untill the proliferation of these videos lessen, black woman will be viewed simialrly. I would demand the same qualities in a white man that I require in a Black man.

I think that it is difficult for a highly educated Black woman to find a mate period, regardless of race, which is sad b/c regardless of race ALL woman want to be loved, valued and respected.

In the movie why does Sanna Lathan character mary down? Afterall, she is marrying the help.

I DONT DISCRIMINATE…SHORT(WELL MAYBE),TALL SKINNY,TUMMY..IT DOESN’T MATTER.

I HAVE DATED A PUERTO RICAN,HAITIAN BUT NO WHITE MEN. SOME OF THEM ARE FLY(NOT MOST)…I CANT TRULY SAY I WOULD..BUT I DONT SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH INTERACIAL DATING..

This show is not appropriate.

Dayum, Gracie. Where do YOU work? Your white men are bold as hell! and it sounds like there issue goes a little beyond race, it sounds like they just don’t respect women, period.

I CAN NOT AND WOULD NOT IT COULD BE ME BUT MY THOUGHS ARE WHEN WE ARGUE WHAT WOULD BE SAID YOU BLACK B**CH WHAT YOU YOU DO NEXT WHEN YOU PUT YOURSELF THERE I WOULD NEXT ANY RACE BUT WHITE AM WEST INDIAN SO I HAVE NO PROBLEM TESTING THE WATER BUT NOT WHITE OUR FOUR FATHER FOUGHT TO HARD FOR THAT AM A NEW YORK AND YOU REALLY HARDLEY SEE BLACK AND WHITE YOU COULD SEE CHINESE AND BLACK NOW IN MD THEY LOVE THE INTER-RACIAL DATING I DON’T HATE BUT ME NEGATIVE.

CORRECTION, WHAT WOULD YOU DO WHEN YOU BUT YOURSELF THERE I WOULD DATE

i used to think it was my job to preserve the race and only date black men. I’m over that! I really really love black men though, i mean I like ‘em real black, blue black isn’t too dark for me. I like ‘em dark and from the south, which is odd since I am a California native, but here lies the challenge.

Just because someone is black doesn’t mean we’re compatible, which is how my relationships have failed in the past. I am looking for someone who I am truly compatible with, and he can be white, black, half and half, some kinda Spanish, I’m open!

Dayum, Gracie. Where do YOU work? Your white men are bold as hell! and it sounds like there issue goes a little beyond race, it sounds like they just don’t respect women, period.

POSTED BY: Original Sindee | March 7, 2006 10:28 AM

OK Sindee. I work in the legal industry. I meet men everywhere. The last white man (M.D./pediatrician) I met, we went on two dates and he basically communicated the aforementioned “terms of our relations” AS IF I was going to fall for this shyt.I met him at Starbucks, near my office in Downtown Chicago.

Why is this surprising (speaking of odd sexual proclivities) Most of the men that are caught in online scams for sexual predaters crimes are White professional/highly educated men. This is the profile, sadly. By no means am I saying that all White men are like this, however many are.

This is why it is important to “interview’ any date for the first couple of dates and then eliminated them quickly if you cannot meet their ummmh terms/expectation of a relationship.

Hopefully, I have provided some women the heads up…

Yes, I have and I will continue to do so. Brothas don’t have a problem doing it, so why should I? I don’t feel like you should put a limit on love…you never know where your blessing is going to come from. I love my brothas and I don’t discriminate or think badly of them, but I’ve went out with plenty of guys of other races who came correct and treated me like a lady. I feel like as long as you don’t exclusively AVOID dating your own race and blame your own race for your failures and poor decision-making to have a healthy/happy relationship, you should do whatever you want.

Yes being a minority in America brings its own challenges to a relationship but that is not all the relationship is going to be about or based on. If that is so, then it is doom to fail. Issues on race will come up but it is how the two people deal with it. I have family members who are married to people of the same race as well as people of different races and the success or failures of those relationships were not based on the ethnicty of the persons. Otherwise all black relationships, all white relationships would be successful.

I would date a white man hell If look good an treat me like a lady but he have to be cute ass hell like justin, clooney, and I can’t forget nick lachey he is fine ass hell

My simple and honest answer: I don’t know. Anything is possible..

I date any minority..

white woman married to a black man. we get dirty looks from some older white men and from some black women when we are out. do we care? hell no. no one has a say in our relationship but us. we both dated outside & within our races and while we found good people our chemistry could not be knocked. we’re different in almost every aspect but it works. love him dearly!

I feel you miss ahmad on the preserve the race thing. I want my children to be black like me. Although I would date men of another race, my problem would be having mixed children. I haven’t yet decided if I’m okay with that, because first of all, although I am brown-skinned, my father and all three of my sisters are very light skinned and I have one sister with green eyes, so I’m aware that the white and fair-skinned genes are prominent in my DNA, so if I married a white person, I think it’s just as likely that my children will come out looking white as looking black or mixed. And I just have this stupid fear of people looking at my children and not thinking that they’re mine, or thinking that I’m their nanny or something, which would really piss me the hell off. So then whenever I would take my children out, I’d have to take my white man with me so people would know that these are my children.

I know this sounds really stupid and petty, but it’s how i feel. I mean, if I fell in love with a white man, really truly in love, I would just have to conquer that fear, that’s all. But for right now, it’s an issue, and it makes me hesitant to choose a non-black mate.

no, no and no

I hate Oprah for this. She is just making a big issue out of this. In return, more viewerships and more money for her.
A human being is a human being, no matter what color. If you are in love then who cares. I don’t know when Will Oprah realize this and move on.

I was always skeptic about dating a white man b/c of the sex. I just was too infatuated with black di**, than Emeniem and these Noreiga rappers came on the scene and I was like I could deal with that they got the black street pass.

But I grew up and discovered Brad Pitt, Ryan Phillipe, Justin Timberlake and others; as well as, all the other male races that were chasin me down at school, work or wherever. I told myself these men are respectful, intelligent, and attractive why limit myself.

Now I enjoy dating out my race. Sometimes when I’m out with friends they are starring at the black thug passion, i’m looking over his shoulders at the sexy latin or white dude b/c he looks different to me in a classy way.

I’m not saying black men can’t be classy, but I don’t see it alot anymore.

Besides, I also get a kick out of the look on black men faces when I enter the room with a date from the other race. Wow, if looks could kill!

Plus, a powerful, strong, business minded black woman and white man is the United States worse nightmare. (Oprah + Bill Gates= US Gov’t takedown)

Well I’ve dated my fair share of the rainbow including more than a few white men. Plenty actually, and I don’t think I’d marry one, at least not an American one. American white men still have alot of racial hangups and either fetishize the black woman or pat themselves on the back for being so liberal. Also, it easier to come home from a long hard day of racial bs to another person of color. I can see myself with a hot husband of any variety other than American white male. But who knows?

Oh and I don’t go around kissing thin lipped white men. Sorry, I sipped only the finest vanilla, I’m talking mega tall, juicy lipped, tight assed Mr. Charlie, LOL LOL.

I did years ago. I have to admit, the intensity of the relationship I had with him has never been matched. That’s because he was a great person, inside and out and I’ve just never met another like him. Chose to marry a black man though. Chose to divorce him too because I found out he knew nothing about how to be a man or treat a woman. I’d date a white man again. Was treated far better and with more consideration than any black man ever has shown me.

Gracie: Wow, u are speaking my experience. Except that Im a dude. On the gay side, its the same thing as what you were saying is goin on on the str8 side.

I have dated several different ethnicities including black men…never white…none asked, but I’m not putting myself out there like that, either…other minorities seem a little more open minded and self secure, however, I was raised by a black male and am attracted to black males. I have married two and either they weren’t the right ones or I wasn’t the right one for them, but that doesn’t sour me on love. I have 2 GORGEOUS black sons(and aBEAUTIFUL daughter) I want all of them to bring home CHOCOLATE!!! “If they can’t use your comb, don’t bring ‘em home” BTW my parents have been married for going on 41 year(next month) BLACK LOVE IS STILL ALIVE!!!!!YEAH!!

@dee dee

why didn’t you marry your white man (if you don’t mind me asking)?

personally, i don’t see a black man as my go-to option simply because we share a common phenotype. while i think shared characteristics are a good foundation to building a long-lasting relationship, i think black women put too much stock in the value of a “black” man. we want america to look past our skin color, but when it comes to love, we can’t do the same thing. this is not to say that i don’t love black men in general; my first love, my father, is a black man. but, first and foremost, he is a good man. and that’s what i want and what i think all black women, or any woman for that matter, deserve regardless of race. “black” man does not necessarily equal “good” man. black women should date whomever makes them happy and respects them. if it’s a black man, cool. if not, who really cares? cheesy, i know, but love is much deeper than the color of one’s skin. if we all looked at one another as God sees us, the world would be a much better place. blessings and love to all.

Angel La… what bout us MEN, how come you only directed the questiont to WOMEN, i mean you should have at least as how we felt bout BLACK WOMEN dating WHITE MEN and how we FEEL ABOUT DATING WHITE WOMEN, just cuz some KNOWN marrying them doesn’t me we all are, we just choose to mess around when them, which in the end doesn’t mean we are dating them or given them that FULL COMMITMENT…. LOve your site though

i’m not “holding out for” or holding my breath for a “brother”. the truth of the matter is that a lot of them aren’t holding out for us either. i think black women need to accept that and move on. broaden you horizons, open your mind up to someone who really cares for you.

i hope oprah touches on white women’s response/feelings about white men with black women. i have dated my fair share of white men, and i always snickered to myself when we would go out together and a white girl would look at me cross. i think the real issue is that for so long, white america has tried to make black women feel like we are totally undesirable. if you look back in history, white men have been tied to black women for years…moses was married to an ethiopian, king solomon was married to an egyptian, anthony and cleopatra, etc. anyway, this “new trend” just exposes what we have always known: white men ARE attracted to black women. i don’t really know what value this show is going to have for white middle class housewives, but whatever. at least now that (queen) oprah has exposed the truth behind the myth, white women might actually come to grips with the fact that they are not as highly sought after and regarded as they think.

angel la - how about a post on what we (black women and men) are looking for in a mate/significant other? if people were truly honest, it might be an interesting dialogue. it’s clear that we’re all looking for love, i’m just curious to know what we think that love should look/feel like.

your site is one of my favorites;)

ALL OUR BLACK MEN SEEM TO LOVE THE WHITE WOMEN AND THE UGLY ONES AT THAT. SO WHY CANT A BLACK WOMAN LOVE A WHITE MAN. SHIT THE BLK MEN GET MONEY AND GET WHITE. SO ANYWAY I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A NEGRO-WHITE BOY.AND A LOT OF NIGGAS AROUND MY WAY WAS HATIN ESP WHEN I WAS CARRYING HIS BABY. HA

White men are the new pink! I read this somewhere and started laughing. I have dated outside my race and I continue to do so. It opens up more opportunities to meeting interesting people, possibly even THE ONE.

Besides, brotha’s don’t seem to have any problem delving into relationships with other races, so why should us sista’s hold back. All’s fair in love right?

Someone had mentioned something about white boys having thin lips…trust me hon, they ALL don’t have that problem. And another thing, these fellas love, and I do mean LOVE pleasuring a woman orally. It’s almost like it’s in their DNA or something. They reciprocate oral loving and that alone makes me go running after them.
HOLLA!

I have not dated a white guy, but if I found one who I found a bond with, I would.

Honestly, I think there’s something about black men that just can’t be denied. God broke the mold when he made the fine black man. There’s just none like him. On top of that, as a black woman, I think there are just things about my life that only a black man can really relate to. (I know that the black community is not a single community and that we don’t all have the same experiences, but I think just the general knowledge of what it is to be Black in America is something that only Black people can relate to with each other.)

With that being said, I’m not into closing doors that haven’t even been opened. If I found a white guy who could really appreciate:
1.) me
2.) what it is to be a black person in America 3.) The fact that I might have some issues with white folks that I need to work out,
than I would definitely consider it. I believe people see color, but I don’t believe God judges on that. So if its God’s will for me to be with a white guy, I’m not going to close that door because of my issues or the issues others might have with it. But I pray that if God is planning on me being with a white guy, that its a nice garden variety white guy. Not someone like Paul Wall or Eminem. Someone like ole dude in “Something New.” He was white as hell but he was ignorant of other people’s cultures.

In my previous post, I meant to say that the white guy from “Something New” was NOT ignorant of other people’s cultures. Sorry bout that.

I would date anyone out of my race.

Crazichick, this question was not aimed at you. I think our girl specifically asked “Sisters, would you date a white man?” Not “People, have you ever dated outside your race?” I swear for God, y’all just love to throw that shit in our faces. Don’t nobody care that you got you a lil black man. Always gotta be throwing y’alls two cents up in the pot. That’s why I can’t barely go on BlackPlanet right now. All these white women on there talking about how much they love black men! Can’t we have shit for ourselves???

anon - back off. i’m not loving him cause he’s black. i’m loving him cause he’s him. don’t hate cause i scored a good black man. and if i wanna comment i’m going to. don’t care who it’s directed to.

Crazichick. Figures. Y’all always take the liberty of saying what you want to say whenever you want to. I guess its just the great white way.

i would date a white guy or a guy or any other race or ethnicity for that matter. Generally, I am not as attracted to white men physically as I am to men of other races, but I never want to say never.

these sorts of conversations are always somewhat odd to me. you either have people obsessively exalting black men or expressing skepticism and doubts about their worth. From my perspective, black men are just men, just people, with equal chance of being beautiful and amazing as being deadbeat and rotten. And this is true for men of any background.

I know that interracial relationships amongst black folk aren’t that high compared to people of other races, but the highest pairing of interracial relationships amongst blacks is black + white. Still, I can’t help but feel bored by the question. Maybe its because I’m in New York. It just annoyes me how people consider white (ppl of european descent) to be the only interracial/interethnic option when these discussions come up.

anon - guess so.

give a stupid comment, get one back.

@ MrKnockout4232, this question wasn’t directed toward you guys. We already know what black men for the most part want in a woman.

I could care less what color you are. If you love, respect me, and we share the same values it’s all good! I personally prefer non-black guys that have dark or olive skin. Living in L.A I tend to meet a lot of Armeanians, Russians, Lebanese, etc…If they are fly, I can’t deny it.

Oh yea, I forgot. I dated a white guy in high school. Men are men.

First of all, I want to preface this by saying that I think ALL good men, no matter the color, are the hotness!!!

I am currently dating a white man right now.we have been dating for a few months. Though I have been hit on and propositioned by such in the past, Anatoli(my honey:), is the only one that came to me with respect.

At times, I wonder if it has anything to do with him being foreign (Russian). Alot of the American White men (yes even the suits or the polo types), made me feel dirty or trashy when they asked me out on a date. It was hard to “graciously” decline their offer, when what I really wanted to do wasn’t very ladylike.

I find that I have had to deal with alot of my fears concerning this very thing. I am still working on a few, but you know I have help. My boyfriend has been very understanding, a great listener and most all-patient. I could truly love this man (maybe heading in that direction anyway).

Anyway, just thought I’d share.

Black, white, Latin, Asian. Why do we still care about the color of one’s skin or whether someone dates a person of the same or opposite sex? The important thing is is there love and respect in the relationship. Interracial, interreligious, gay, straight, or bi, it doesn’t matter one bit.

HELL TO THE FULLY FUCK NAW! I SAY THIS BECAUSE WHITE MEN HAVE HAD HIS WAY WITH ME A LONG TIME AGO. YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW WHY IT IS SUCH A BIG DEAL WHEN BLACK MEN DATE, FUCK, AND MARRY WHITE WOMEN? IT’S JUST THAT, HE’S TOUCHING A PRESCIOUS, PURE AS THE DRIVEN SNOW, WHITE WOMAN! AND AS FAR AS US, THE BLACK WOMEN, WHITE MEN CAN DO WHATEVER HE WANTS TO US. HE CAN DO ANYTHING TO HIS OWN WOMAN, A WHITE WOMEN! BECAUSE HE IS A WHITE MAN, DICTATOR AND DESTROYER OF THE WORLD! MANY BLACK WOMEN BUY INTO THE REALITY THAT A WHITEMAN OR ANY OTHER NON-BLACK MALE, IS AND WILL TREAT THEM BETTER! AND THAT IS JUST BULLSHIT! IF A MAN IS DISRESPECTFUL AND A PHILANDERING DOG, HE IS JUST THAT- REGUARDLESS OF HIS RACE OR ETHNICITY! RAP VIDEOS ARE NOT THE REASON WHY BLACK WOMEN ARE THOUGHT OF AS BEING OVERSEXED WITH NO INTELLECT! THAT IS SOMETHING THAT WHITEMEN HAVE BEEN SAYIING ABOUT US SINCE BEFORE WE ARRIVED IN AMERICA! THEY CALLED US NIGGAR WENCHES AND SAID THAT BECAUSE OF HOW OUR BODIES WERE BUILT, WE WERE MADE FOR HAVING SEX ALLDAY! AND IF ANY PERSON WILL BELIEVE WHAT THEY SEE ON TV THEN THEY THEMSELVES ARE FOOLS, AND I WOULD NOT WANT THEM IN MY PRESENCE IN THE FIRST PLACE!OPRAH HAS JUST LOST ALL RESPECT FROM ME! BLACK WOMEN AND WHITE MEN, SOMETHING NEW? SOMETHING NEW MY ASS, BITCH, PLEASE!!!!!

Had a black husband first; he was an asshole but not because he is black. I don’t see it that way. Have a white husband now. Gives me a steady reparations stream of cash. Not giving him back. He is kind and good to this black girl. If something happened to him, I’m not sure who I would date. Just depends on the attraction and if he is good to the black girl.

^ I’m sure what you have to say is SUPER IMPORTANT. buts its really hard to read. And makes me want to go right over what the hell you had to say.

***This is just my opinion and not meant to be taken personally by anyone. It’s alright to have different opinions and I don’t deny anyone thiers*****

I have dated white men and I am currently dating a white man. I do NOT believe anyone should date outside of thier race EXCLUSIVELY, and I have always dated and will continue to date my brothers if this relationship dissolves, as they are wonderful and beautiful. The man that I date now has the utmost respect for our culture. He does not pretend to know how it is like, but his eyes are open and he takes the time to educate his less enlightened friends and himself.. He was that way before he met me and I am not the first woman he has dated outside of his race. I am not a toy, or an exotic fascination for him. I am a woman in his truest sense of the word in his eyes and I am treated as such. That’s what I care about. My daughter needs to see that a man a woman should have a mutual repect for one another as much as possible. That is my major requirement when looking for a partner.

I do not judge anyone who choses to stay within thier race nor do I judge who decides to date outside of thier race. Not my job to do that. I just wish happiness for all of our brothers and sisters. I was raised in a racially diverse community right outside of NYC and I remember ALL of the kids going to ALL of the houses to play and ALL of the parents hanging out together and they all had plenty in common. During the 77 Blackout (I am showing my age) we all sat on the porch of my house and the adults talked about race and the things they learned from each other. It was a great night for everyone, especially the children. I will never forget it. We learned a lot from each other.

Our community can be divisive amongst ourselves and that’s where I think some of our biggest weaknesses lie. To reject another brother or sister for dating outside of thier race, thier sexuality, thier skin tone, thier manner of speaking. Its all weakening us as a race. We call on white people not to be discriminatory towards us when we do it to ourselves by not accepting ALL of us. We come in different, shades, heights, weights, lifestyles, levels of education, different religions, different econmic classes but to most of THEM we are all just a bunch of “N” s, no matter what we do. We need to accept that we are all different and embrace the fact that within our race we are very diverse. We should be proud of that fact that we are at a level where we don’t have to be predjudiced like some of them are and that we are better and more beautiful than that.

I liked your post Rock Music Diva…now that would be a great movie…”the black out of 77″ and racial dialouge with white and black folks….

I have dated E. Indian, Asian and Hispanic but never a White man–yet. The ones I have met were a little too eager to satisfy their “sexual” curiosity about Black women. I am friends with White men who are in relationships with Black women and they truly treasure their queens. Black women have always supported our Black men but where’s our support?? AIDS is growing among African American women and thats not a joke! I can go out with my Asian boyfriend and the same Black men who I know that parde around their white tricks give me the “dirty glare” Love knows no color. I don’t go looking outside my race but whomever treats me right gets my heart and that’s real.

I personally dont think there is an issue on White men dating Black women, I have done it before and I have never had a problem, however I should state, that I am African (from Southern Africa) and of mixed race…. in Africa, skin colour really does matter, and some black folks think we “coloured’ arent African anyways.

Rockmusicdiva, that was an excellent post! I was especially feeling the first paragraph. I think what a lot of black women are fearful with, concerning white men, is that we will become some sort of “exotic fascination” for them or that we’re their little “experiments.” And I definitely feel you on saying that someone who dates exclusively outside of their race is suspect. There seem to be ulterior motives other than love and respect. But if you find a guy who truly treasures you, that’s what’s up. Period.

I am Caribbean and only used to date black, Rastafarian men. I had a physical type I was attracted to. These “relationships” never went anywhere, because they were simply based on pure physical attraction. Then I met a white dude. He never hit on me all sleazy, or tried to mack on me like I had become accustomed to. We had a simple, pure, platonic friendship. Hell, he even had a little white brown haired girlfriend from the midwest. And over time, things changed between us. I saw him for him, for his sweet nature, for the fact that we could stay up talking all night about all sorts of shit without me getting bored of him and wanting him to leave or hang up the phone. I fell in love. So did he. After he broke up with his girlfriend (who hates my guts, BTW), we wound up hooking up for the first time and it was just magical. We’ve been together for eight years now, and this summer will mark our fourth wedding anniversary.

We’ve faced alot of discrimination together. His grandfather (old white Catholic Republican from Florida panhandle) pounded his fist on the table when he took us out for dinner, and told us our children would never amount to anything in this country. And our marriage would never be accepted. Many of my black and Caribbean friends started treating me differently. I have had black guys stop speaking to me when they realize my husband is white. I’d say the majority of the racism I’ve faced is from black people, and that makes me sad. Because we know what discrimination feels like more than most other people.

His parents and most of his family have accepted me with open arms. Sometimes, sure. I feel aware of being the only black person in a room full of caucasians. But then I take him back to my island home, and he gets a taste of that strange medicine himself. It helps us to understand each other better. I never even thought of dating a white guy, and one wound up being my soul mare. It just goes to show that you really can’t judge a book by it’s cover. Love isn’t about what a person looks like, it’s about who they are, how they treat you, and how you feel about them. And if it’s all good, then who cares what anyone thinks?

I would date a white guy if I could look past that pink ass penis…..eeeewwwwww.

@ Augusta; what is it that us BLACK MEN only want from women??? i’m curious to how you would answer this question….

I’ve dated a few white guys, slept with one (It wasn’t that great, though he did so LOVE to eat. I really didn’t attribute the so-so sex to him being white though, because I have seen some white boy dicks and they range in size. However, this guys’ problem was that he had a little dick, but the tons and tons of oral kinda made up for it).

I dunno. . . like many of you have already said, it’s all about finding someone who loves you for you. When you shut the door in someone’s face just because they don’t look like you do, you severely limit your possibilities.

Still, I live in Tallahassee where there is FSU (predominantly white) and FAMU (predominantly black). And I’ve noticed that when I attend FSU parties, lots of white guys will be giving me the eye, but they never come up and say anything. Conversely, at FAMU parties, a guy that I never even noticed (so clearly I never gave that come-hither look or even made deliberate eye contact) will come up, try to holla, and really won’t want to take no for an answer.

My point is that we black women are used to the very direct approach of black men. White guys don’t use that approach with us, so unless you have a common bond with one of them (like work or class), they will never try to holler. I believe that the way we are depicted in the media (and, I must admit, the way some of us ARE sometimes) leads them to believe that black women are mean and bad-tempered and if they were to approach, not only would they get shot down, they would also be mocked and humiliated.

But I can tell you that, based on the longing glances that I get when I do go to the FSU clubs and parties here, the problem is not that they aren’t attracted to black women.

Why is Oprah asking this question? What year is this, 2006 or 1976?

I find it interesting that a lot of people say “I would never date a white guy because…” of whatever reason, but I bet if some white guy were to say, “I would never date a black woman because…”, everyone would be labeling him as a racist.

@ Original Sindee:

Not wanting to date someone of a different race just because you are afraid of what other people will think of you if your kids turn out to be lightskinned is just– I think that is the most ludicrous thing I’ve heard all year!

When are black people going to wake up? First, we complain that 3-6 mafia is “embarrassing us” by performing “a pimp song” at the Oscars, then we say, “I’d never date a white guy, because they just don’t appeal to me, I’m just not into white people”.

Apparently, a lot of black people are more into white people than they will ever admit– we need to get rid of this silly plantation mentality and grow to be a people who can think independently enough to do whatever the fuck we want without caring about what “THEY” might think.

And all the women who are willing to “wait for my black man”– how many black men do you hear say something like that? Black women need to get real!

Honestly, if someone said to you, “I want to marry a millionaire, and I won’t settle for anything else– even if I have to wait for him, I’ll just be alone…” What would you think of the person who said something like that?

you can take a kid and raise it with a pack of wolves and the kid will grow up thinking its a wolf…same thing if it was tarzan of the jungle…take a white kid, grow him up around black folk, he will identify with blacks, same goes if you flip the scrip…ultimately, if you grow up sharing common values, interests, beliefs and live near each other or across the country from each other, you will be attracted to that other person, regardless of ethnicity, regardless even of socio-economic status, although that condition is trickier to navigate…attraction is way more powerful than any political philosophy

I might as well. The brothas (especially those in the public eye) don’t seem to want us. So, why should I limit myself?

As an African women, I think that the idea of me personally dating a white man, would be more acepting coz being of mixed race already, I do expereience racism but not from the White African commutites but from the Black Africans, and thus to me, I am more willing to go that route, I have dated black Africans, but within there own family, it was not a case of race but more tribal, and y’all dont know nothing about issues than tribal issues in the motherland. Some people go to some extreme measures to make sure folks dont date outside their tribes.

@ginger..I live in Tally too and i’ve had the exact same thing. I don’t goto clubs here but when I’m in the gym, I catch white guys looking at me all the time..and like you said, they never say anything. I get a sense, especially in the South, that some white men have hang-ups about going to the other side..

“Also, I think the reason why there are not more white men+blk woman relationships is that white men are “ashamed” to date black women, of course many white men hit on blk women on the dl, you know as long as no one knows about it, that is their significant others:”

@ Gracie — I completely disagree, this has not been my experience. I will not say that this is not true for a certain population of white men.

To answer the question, I have and I would…but I prefer black men. My last experience made me more prone to not want to, b/c culturally we are VERY different. There are bad qualities culturally exclusive to my race that soem people exude far too well that I don’t like, but I can put up with. HOWEVER, there are certain characteristics that are culturally exclusive to whites that for some reason go all over me and get on my nerves. But I also realize that not EVERYONE is going to have those bad qualities, b/c of the type of person they are and the character that they have. And in the end that is what wins my heart, regardless of race. For that reason, I am not totally turned off from white men just yet, but I am EXTREMELY selective.
On another note about white men, and men of other races, many people will not like this comment but it is very true. I find it EASIER to date them. When I say that I mean, most were raised with a certain respect for women, that many mothers in the black community have not been raising their sons with. It’s not true for all, but it’s true for a lot. Black love is in a bad state, I think it’s getting better, but it’s just now starting to heal, b/c OUR generation is realizing we need that other person that is going to hold us down. But for teh most part, Black men act like they HATE black women. AGAIN NOT ALL, but it’s in the music it’s in everything. Love our sex, hate us. Their weary of us, we’re jsut out to get them. From the door, you can’t get in a conversation with out every word or nice gesture being checked for signs of alterior motives. And maybe all of it has to do with the ‘Struggle’, or whatever…and in that sense it’s understandable, but not forgiveable. I like the idea of going out and being treated like I’m the priority as opposed to like I should be grateful. And even if it’s corny, and the oldest most unoriginal gesture in romance, I like the fact that each white boy I have dated thought enough of me to bring me roses jsut to make me smile…as opposed to thinking he was too hard for that, or that it was lame. One things for sure white boys know how to make it about a woman, and they might be the biggest players there is ( 2, 3 wives in diferent states etc.) they understand and appreciate the value of a woman, and act accordingly. It’s just a completetly different vibe dealing with men of another race.
I’m completely SPRUNG when I find it in a man who’s skin is as chocolatey as man, but I don’t find it often…and they’re usually taken, b/c those sistas know just like I do what they have.
I love my black men, I love my reformed thugs with wells that spring eternal..but they really need to stop acting like we’re the enemy. The bad part is that our sexiest, most charismatic, talented men - our cream of the crop happen to be the ones that turned to the streets, so we get the results of that %$## and everything that comes with it.

Subtract the obvious bull***, and I’d take Young Buck, Bun B or B.G. over Brad Pitt any day, but given their current stance on things, I’d be the one losing.
This black women dating white men thing is not rare at all. The tripped out thing is that the get the baddest one they can find and the men are usually well off themselves and nice looking. But Black women’s reasons for doing it is far different than our counterparts. It’s a need to be treated like a woman.

i’m married to white man. i married him because he proved that he was in it for the long haul. he’s stuck by me through thick and thin. he’s loving & generous. he’s everything i want in a man. his race played no part in anything.

i get dirty looks from other black guys. sometimes if i’m up to it i will speak up when i get those looks. how dare you judge me for finding someone that excepts all my flaws. where were you when i wasn’t attached? funny, i get the looks now but i never got approached when i was single.

love who you want to love and if you have a problem with who someone is loving (white, black, gay, straight, trans, bi..etc) then maybe you need to find some love of your own.

They’re not my type but I always say, Never Say Never. We all have our own little definition of our perfect man, but at the end of the day he’s more than his skin color, like india arie said, you are “the soul that lives within”. Most of the sistas I know that dated white dudes ended up being MARRIED to them. Keyword : MARRIED!!!

—”Plus, a powerful, strong, business minded black woman and white man is the United States worse nightmare. (Oprah + Bill Gates= US Gov’t takedown)”

I have to diasgree with you Ethipian Princess,a nd I REALLY don’t know where the fascination is coming from. But I definately think that history shows that at the top of his game a strong, business minded and powerful black man is America’s worst nightmare…thus the constant fight to undermine their success in society.

never in my life… all the one’s I know are nerds and geeks and corny as hell!

Bad jokes, small dicks, too much hair.. I dunno they’re just not hot to me… except unless they’re David Beckham or Brad Pitt.. then I could stand it.

Plus who wants to spend an entire relationship fighting over wether to listen to Biggie or Green Day? Who needs THAT shit? hell no.. I just don’t see it working… ( for me )

Color And Class Are False Discinctions… But Love Is Not…

@any’lldo

why are you comparing growing up around black folks with growinng up in the jungle or being raised by wolves? just a question. i myself would have used a less provocative analogy

@dParker2.0
I acknowledge that my fear is ludicrous. I myself said that it was stupid and petty, but it’s still their, just like racism is still their despite its stupidity. Most things based on fear are stupid and crazy, but it doesn’t stop them from existing. That’s just the reality…

Distinctions*

a white man who want a black woman must be :
A. Big M-t–r F–k-r of the world
OR
B. A great man/supa hero ( coz he can see that all that shyt his parents told him about white power isnt true)

Dont dream to much, usually its A.

Plus who wants to spend an entire relationship fighting over wether to listen to Biggie or Green Day? Who needs THAT shit? hell no.. I just don’t see it working… ( for me )- BabyG

prejudice right there. my husband doesn’t listen to green day. he listens to very little rock to begin with. a lot of his favourite rappers are from the south.

Why assume that all black people listen to rap and all whites listen to Green Day? Come on, that just ignorant. I listen to everything. Biggie, Green Day, Duran Duran, Beyonce, Roy Ayers, etc…

I have never dated outside of my race… Thankfully I’ve found unconditional love… But I would date a person from a different ethnicity. I don’t think it would really matter as long as it was true love. Some people date outside of their race because they have these bad experiences with their own race, and some do it just to do it.. Oh its the in thing right now, all the african american women are dating white men, why can’t I do it… So, it really shouldn’t matter of what color he is as long as he loves you.

i’m lost. why is sanaa lathan’s pic up there? is she the poster child/black woman for oprah’s show who is dating a white man? someone please advise.

And while we’re on the subject of race, don’t forget that new Ice Cube show starts tomorrow, Black.White on FX. If so many of us got riled up to post something, maybe there’s educational value in watching that show. At the very least, it might show how surprisingly similar black and white people can be.

b’klyn, I think Sanaa’s pic is up there because she’s the star of the movie they’re discussing.

@ Original Sindee

I was young and marriage was not on my mind, wasn’t on his either I don’t think. I didn’t get married until years later and we had just both moved on.

PS, my child has two dark skinned parents but is light skinned. It’s just like that when you come from our gene pool.

i’m currently seeing someone thats white…we go back though… and he’s the only white guy that has caught my attention the way he has….

BabyG if you think only White men have small dicks–I know a few dark and very FINE brothers that are quite lacking in that department.That MYTH has got to STOP!

I should elaborate, although I loooved the white boy, I did trip at times. You go out and catch people looking at you funny, and it kind of messes with your head. My own family (extended) even tripped on me a little. But, everyone has to do what is right for them. We were together for three years and I have to rank him, top of the list for the men in my life, top of the list for lovers too. Just saying that some white men have a lot to offer, some are idiots and the same goes for black men. Don’t be so quick to say no, you could be missing something good. Yet I HATE it when a brother will only date a woman because she is white, I don’t think you should exclude anyone just because of race. If your mama is black, what’s so wrong with a black woman?

Plus who wants to spend an entire relationship fighting over wether to listen to Biggie or Green Day? Who needs THAT shit? hell no.. I just don’t see it working… ( for me )- BabyG

I am black and I listen to both?
And in all relationships you dont have to have the exact same tastes in everything. Actually the relationship would be boring. I like a guy who can introduce me to differnt things and vice versa

And while we’re on the subject of race, don’t forget that new Ice Cube show starts tomorrow, Black.White on FX. If so many of us got riled up to post something, maybe there’s educational value in watching that show. At the very least, it might show how surprisingly similar black and white people can be.

POSTED BY: rastalove

Does anyone know if any Canadian stations have picked up this show. I dont believe we have the FX channel here. Show looks really interesting

HEY LADIES open your minds or your hearts here’s a statistic:

In 2004, the percentage of never-married black women 16 and older was 42.3 percent compared with 22.7 percent of white women, according to the Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies in Washington, D.C.

http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/06053/658848.stm

I haven’t dated a white guy before, but have been hit on by many. I’m too used to the touch and kiss of a handsome CHOCOLATE (not CARAMEL OR WHITE CHOCOLATE) black man. It’s probably the only thing that’ll ever get me goin’. Sorry!

I don’t know. Maybe I should date a white guy, though, cuz lately negroes been gettin’ on my nerves. LOL

I’m surprised no one mentioned the movie Alfie, where Nia Long and Jude Law did the dam thang!!! I never thought I could date a white man until I saw Jude Law give it to Nia WHOA!!!!!!!!!

HEY LADIES open your minds or your hearts here’s a statistic:

In 2004, the percentage of never-married black women 16 and older was 42.3 percent compared with 22.7 percent of white women, according to the Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies in Washington, D.C.

Damn…stats dont lie!
I think the problem of absentee fathers in our communities affect how young black men and women view and engage in their own relationships.
If you didnt have healthy male rolemodels how do you learn how to treat a lady or how you as a lady should be treated

I’ve always felt that if a person has control over something (attitude…etc) then I’ll make a judgement, but if it’s something they are born with, who am I to judge them or not give them an equal chance?

Is James Blunts wife black?
That is such a BEAUTIFUL song.

I’m also not willing to be caught up in some experiment either. White guys like to do that just to say “Yeah, I’ve been with a black girl before. They’re good in bed. Just don’t bring ‘em home.”

I’m really not interested in the Paul Wall types either just because of demeanor purposes. I’m sure he’s a cool guy, but no. Not for me. I just don’t want someone who I have to give a black history lesson to, you know, the corny and out of touch type.

I might as well. The brothas (especially those in the public eye) don’t seem to want us. So, why should I limit myself?

POSTED BY: SlimKim | March 7, 2006 02:41 PM

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Your Statement Sums it Up For Me……

“I’m surprised no one mentioned the movie Alfie, where Nia Long and Jude Law did the dam thang!!! I never thought I could date a white man until I saw Jude Law give it to Nia WHOA!!!!!!!!!

POSTED BY: *ANONYMOUS_POSTER* | March 7, 2006 05:06 PM ”

I think the reason no one has mentioned the Nia Long-Jude Law thing is because we are not talking about black women and white men doing the do. We are talking about them DATING each other. In other words, it’s no secret that blacks and whites’ll get down behind closed doors, but not too many will walk down the street holding hands for all to see.
One radio personality in my town said strait out on the air, “yeah, i’ve never dated a white girl, but that doesn’t mean that i’ve never had sex with one.” and lots of men AND woman of all races have said and done things along those lines.

I have to admit Im curious especially after those post regarding the white man’s oral fixation lol…but I have ALWAYS had LOTS of white men hit on me considering the fact that stereotypically I would be most appealing to brothas (BIG behind, big hips & smaller in the waist)physically I have never been sexually attracted to white men, sure I know some are good looking but for me personally I like my men like my coffee, strong & Black & would NEVA EVA consider dating a white man UNTIL… I started a new job and when I got to my office in walked this tall, dark haired , smokey eyed, sexy movie star looking white man and I was speechless I could not believe that this man, this sexy creature that I wanted to straddle right there on my desk was white! I was very confused by my feelings then it hit me that we can not control how we feel and as much as I adore “black Love” we cannot control our destiny although I can say I have found my “King” I married the most beautiful, caring black MAN who loves and respect me and our family. I mean you REALLY cannot control who you are attracted to but ladies just keep an open mind and DONT GIVE UP ON THE BROTHAS there are plenty great ones out there but just be willing to open your heart to whoevers willing to take good care of it…

i have dated white guys before…i’m just looking for someone who loves me for me and treats me with respect…that can come in any shade….

well said @Original Sindee your right this goes beyond just the physical, it’s about having a REAL relationship thanx for the insight

Hell no i won’t date a white guy…I will date anyone from any other race but not white…i can not relate to a white guy. I prefer people with brown skin. Thats only because white people don’t understand oppression or other issue that people of color have to go through…

@she’s clever |

Yes you are definately right. That use to be the US Gov’t worst nightmare a rich powerful business minded black man; unfortunately the majority of them have gave into the US Gov’t set-up of black community destruction. Investing into the Cadillac dealership, sneakers, gold teeth, strip clubs, video games, and the pimp game; how can one be taking serious with riduculous goals like that.

i think it’s hard in america because of our history. it’s much easier in other parts of the world but things will change with time…

It’s just the new what’s-in-the-spotlight-thing like before we had white women-black men, black men-(non-black appearing) hispanic women, and white men-asian women.
I’ve never *dated* any white guys, but I have “hooked up” with them as well as with white skinned hispanic, iraqi, arab ppl so to me it’s the face and not the race (for casual shit). I have not yet met a white guy good for me to date due to compatibility issues beyond the bedroom. Sheeeit, thinking about it a lot of black dudes aren’t good for me to date as well. I’m picky about who I like period and it takes a special kinda person to attract me more than sexually.
P.S. I was thinking of how some white guys seem to look, but don’t touch and was reminded of something this gay white man said to me: when his mom gave him the sex talk she told him there are 2 ppl he should never bring to the house 1- a black woman 2- a man. Hmm I wonder how many white guys got that same talk.
@ Gracie
“Most of the men that are caught in online scams for sexual predaters crimes are White professional/highly educated men”
I think that’s because they have to use furtive ways to meet adolescents due to their prestige. I don’t think that group is any more inclined than, for example, blue collar minority men to have sex with young teens. It’s just the way they go about it. Those white men use the ‘net and in my personal experience those other men use the streets!

I am a black man who is tired of Black women and thier fucking hipocrasy! If you want to fuck a limp dick white boy…go ahead! But don’t come crying to me bitch, when he wont take your black ass home to meet his parents!

I’m feeling a little betrayed by all your confessions.

Here is the list of Black women who date white men:

lala (2)
Desmon
taco
artgyrl
lamorenaekobe
Lisa
C. Hollis
Anonymosus.Poster (several)
JK
Ke Ke
Bobby.Pins
Veronica
Penny Woods
Alexis
Essence
e-ka
Gracie
Angela
Leslie
takeitoutside.BITCH
boyer
Ethipoian Princess
lemure
dee dee
rachel
pepper
monica
LOVELY
Mssnay
Shannon
J-MAMI

A player once said: “dating is all about the chase. And, usually when a person has marginal game, they take the path of least resistance!”

Here’s a shout out to all my Beautiful Black Sistas who know the deal!

special k
T bean
Observer
illdva
im not her
Euricka
bee
mia
Julia_Claudine_Deveraux
Silvia ?
thetruth
MissTee2U
Sharonda
crazichick
Sindee
Nai
Shonquayshah

Thanks for keeping it real ya’ll. When we get to the finish line, I want to hand in hand with a Beautiful Black women.

great posts people…i continue to learn as i go along…love this forum among others on the site…

Where is the betrayal? It’s all in your head. If a black person PURPOSELY DID NOT date blacks…now that’s more of a betrayal I feel!

Headcount, I see you counted me amongst the list of women who’ve taken “the path of least resistance.” The first line in my damn post was that I’ve never dated a white man. Read please.

And muchlove, you shouted out crazichick as a black woman who was keeping it real. She’s white. Again, read.

I am a black man who is tired of Black women and thier fucking hipocrasy! If you want to fuck a limp dick white boy…go ahead! But don’t come crying to me bitch, when he wont take your black ass home to meet his parents!

1- Who are you calling a hypocrite exactly?
2- Yes, ppl can fuck whatever kind of dick they want. What do limp dicks have to do with dating white men anyway?
3- I hope no one will go crying to someone who is LOW enough to call them a bitch. How are you making yourself look by calling black women that? Even more reason for them to continue dating interracially…cuz of black men like you!

I’m engaged to one and we live together. It’s all good. We’re happy.

I am not going to allow myself to be held hostage emotionally simply because I’m black. Contrary to popular opinion, not all blacks think alike. Nor do all of us eat fried chicken.

Date whoever the heck you want, who cares? I don’t.

A player once said: “dating is all about the chase. And, usually when a person has marginal game, they take the path of least resistance!”

POSTED BY: headcount

I dont deal with PLAYERS …so I dont care what a player has to say about dating.
Dating is not a game but real life, real people and real feelings and emotions.
I am to old to play games!

BTW how do you treat your black girlfriends and when one of your boys is disrespectful to a black queen do you continue to be his friend or do you diss his game point blank.

Umm….I think all of us better think about doing it cuz these brothas are GONE! Or maybe I am just speaking for the West Coast…

I’ve dated men of all races, but currently married to a white man. When its just him and me, I don’t see race, I see my soul mate, my best friend, and my lover. Yes, we do get funky stares from time to time, but that’s their problem, not ours.

I am a white male and I bring my black girlfriend home to meet my family. And its not a problem. My mother cant wait to have grandkids.
NOT all white families are racist. And I get no complaints about my dick.
Send your girlfriend over my way and i guarantee you she wont be coming home.

I love my boyfriend and he’s white. He has full lips, he holding it down, down there, and he comes correct and understands situations affecting the black race. he realize what he’s walking in to, and gives black dudes a look right back if they stare. most of all he’s GOOD to me and I would get with a man regardless of race, if he was good lucking, brought something to the table and was good to me, he just happened to fit the bill.

its becoming more accepted, regardless of what people think. and i dont care what anyone has to say, or the looks they give, cause if they cant see how much he loves me, then they are simply blind.

love sees no color.

@ Monique I feel you girl I live in the LA area and all my single sistas pretty much dont have a choice but to date another race cause out West the brothas give sistas no love when my husband and I go out to certain spots we feel out of place as the ONLY black couple and then they have the nerve to look at us like what are you two doing together! COME ON MY WEST COAST BROTHAS COME BACK HOME!

“Umm….I think all of us better think about doing it cuz these brothas are GONE! Or maybe I am just speaking for the West Coast…”

Monique,
I am from L.A. and live there too. I think it has a lot to do with the whole Hollywood thing. I lived in Atlanta for 7 years and had no problem meeting educated black men. I can’t wait to get back down South to see those corn feed men - white and black!

I take that back we dont feel out of place we actually feel proud blessed to have created a union that has become very rare: A beautiful black Queen and a handsome Black King honoring, respecting and loving each other!(yes we do look good together lol)

nope, love brothas would NEVA do it.

This is to headcount who feels betrayed…SO WHAT! When black men date these broke ass ugly ass trailer trash looking white girls, I say nothing and move on. And to The Answer, whatever, you are probably to 1st to bang 1 of the afore mentioned hoes. I date ANY man who is interested, a man is a man. There are bad apples in all races and we need to wake up and realize that. I have met his family and if they have anything bad to say about me, it is behind closed doors.

@ mizphattycakez

I love when I see black couples in L.A. Thank God I have an example in my parents. They been married 42 years. They could care less who I marry as long as they’re not on drugs, have any children, have a job, etc…

@ mizphattycakez

I love when I see black couples in L.A. Thank God I have an example in my parents. They have been married 42 years. They could care less who I marry as long as they’re not on drugs, been in jail, have any children, etc…

Gordon Parks died!

@muchlove

I don’t know how I feel about you putting me on your list of girls who “know the deal” and are “keeping it real”. I actually said that I WOULD date a white guy, but that I have some concerns when it comes to us creating a family i.e. having children. But I don’t know what the Lord has planned for me. The man I’m meant to be with could very well be a white man, and if that’s the case, I won’t let that stop us from having a wonderful happy life together.

However, if it’s just me and my man, we can handle all the stares and racist comments because we are grown and we made a conscious decision to be together knowing full well what the consequences would be. However, I don’t like the idea of people’s ignorance casting a shadow over my children or the time that I spend with them. I think that when it comes to race and racism, nobody has a harder time than mixed children, because they get it from both sides and have a hard time knowing who to go to for comfort.

My sisters, who are light skinned and look mixed (well I guess they are, but our father is not white just a fair-skinned black man), have had ignorance thrown at them from both sides, like darker skinned blacks saying that they’re not really black and can’t relate to the black experience, and they have had the white boys flirting with them, but not asking them out because they couldn’t bring them home to their white mama’s, or the white boys wanting to ask them out but having their mama’s discourage them from doing it in subtle ways instead of coming right out and saying that they don’t want them dating a black girl (even if she is light-skinned).

Also, my Dad who is very light-skinned and has been mistaken for white by black AND white people (as in, white people using the ‘n’ word around him not realizing that he was black) had a whole lot of problems growing up when it came to his black identity (and a lot of it, if not most of it, came from darker-skinned black people).

So, I’m not just talking out if my @$$ when I say that I have concerns about having mixed children looking white. It’s not just about me, and people mistaking me for their nanny or baby-sitter. That’s just the tip of the iceburg. I may get some hate thrown at me for being black, but I’ve always been able to find a comfortable place with other black people. but if your mixed and are getting the hate from both sides, i know for a fact that that’s harder than anything i’ve ever gone through.

UMMM…hell to the NAW!!

The first three guys I ever dated were white and my boyfriend right now is Asian. Korean to be exact. I don’t care either way. As long as he treats me how I ought to be treated, his skin color makes me no never mind.

I’ve always said the only way I would date a white man is if the world ran out of brothas to date…well I think the time has come cuz there seems to be a shortage of available black men. Women of all races are snatching them all up, not leaving a drop behind.

I can only say:
back in my early 30s, (39 now), this guy used to come to my job. He owned his own rig company, and they would deliver shipments. Very wealthy. Kept asking a afro’d sista out, called me all the time. I finally gave in for “dinner”.
LAWD- he kept saying his mom wanted to meet me, he told his whole family about me etc. I couldn’t stand it. Especially coming from a daishiki-wearing, huge-afro-goateed-power-to-the-people FATHER; I felt like he was putting me on the auction block ready to show my teeth.

Yeah I would..George Clooney says he’ll never get married. So at least I can dream, can’t I??

t, you’re dillusional. it aint nobody else’s fault you can’t get a man (i’m playing)
but seriously. I’m pro swirl. I think it’s a shame that interracial dating is such a hot issue. I think more people ought to try it. Become close to someone who is from a different background than you. Learn a new language. experience a new country. learn to cook a new kind of food. Get into a new kind of music, and learn the dance that accompanies it. I’m tired of segregation. I’m tired of racism. Hell, I’m tired of race. I find beauty in ALL kinds of people. Be more open minded.

I have entertained the idea but quickly dismissed it. I am approached by white men quite often. I have gone to dinner with a white man before. Just to “see” how it is. Black men were openely and blatantly rude. I heard comments like “what a waste” and “damn sistah!”. The black chics were like “You go!”. But I could not get into a relationship with a white man. Atleast today on 03/07/06 I am saying that. I am not one to hop on a fad so I don’t think it becoming vogue will persuade me either. It is something about it that makes me think of being owned my “massah” and you guys I know that all white men/people in general are not like that.

But I have a burning desire for a puerto rican man. Man I miss NY! The closest I have come to a PR in South Carolina is a tall Mexican. I am black (mom)/Dominican (dad) and my family has always been open to dating any race/color/religion. It is just a mental thing for me. But everything ain’t for everybody, ya know?

C Hollins- I don’t sleep with white trailer trash women or any women for that matter. I did not knock anyone for dating whites. I am not sure where this attitude is coming from other than your inability to read properly. So re-read and respond accordingly. Thank you.

Apologies to you the answer. I saw SoDamnYouAll’s comment thinking it was yours. I am sorry. I didn’t mean to offend you b/c you actually had an educated post. Again, I apologize.

I’ve lost a lot of respect for Black men over the past few years. They’re either homosexual, bisexual, on the DL, HIV positive, dating White girls, wanksters, all for show, or stuck on player mode. Its starting to sicken me how Black men are destroying their own race by their TRENDY choices and behaviors. I used to be pro Black, but nowadays I’m open to whomever will keep me healthy and happy.

i don’t know, if i dated a white guy he’d probably be that “white mike” that grew up in the neighborhood and hung with all the black folks,

i prefer dark skinned guys and since whit eguys are well white, i just don’t find myself attracted to too many of them, it’s not about them being white

I’m black and never been tied down to my own race. In school, I was cool with anyone who was cool with me, whether it be skater or gangster. I didn’t start officially dating until college and its all been black men. To be specific, I’ve been with haitian, jamaican, st vincent, bahamas, puerto rican/black mixed and they’ve all fit that typical “player” mode although they acted as though they weren’t like that at all. Now my current boyfriend is spanish (venezuela/colombia mixed) and we are mad cool with eachother. And just like he says when we first started dating a year ago “I don’t care what people think! I’m your man and you’re my girl” that’s all that matters anyways.

I’ve never dated a white guy but if I had the chance I wouldn’t just up and say no. Everyone is human.

im a black gay guy and i can say that being gay that all white guys are caught up in the image that pornography presents: that a black man is the big dick fucker who will leave you senseless. but out in the real world you dont speak no evil.
how covers do you see in the store- ‘big black poles, tight white holes’ it is a fantasy of whites for blacks as sexual objects and that doesn’t sit right with me.

chatting, most white guys show their ignoranc by asking about how big a blk guy’s COCK (?) is, immediate turn off, and i have yet to find a white guy who was finer and made my asshole wink like a man of color be he pr latin or black as night.

bottom line- i think the interracial couples love attention and a re caught up in their own ‘oh my god, look at us, we are taboo’ more than actual genuine turn ons. sorry- it’s true.

you don’t see asians mixing like that. they are smart.

for those that disagree just swallow thea lump in your throat and keep telling yoruself its because you see no color. im sure coretta and martin are still in heir same position.

its sad.

i gave up even acknowledging white guys’ advances for they are only sexual and i now see the beauty of the black men that give me props.

@ headcount –i’m way too old to play games or to date for the sake of the chase. your playa mantra is tired and indicative of why black women chose to date outside our race. i guess you thought you put the dissenters in our place, but really you just crystallized why many black women don’t mess with black men. so thank you for your “poignant” quotation, but i don’t subscribe to childish ramblings.

@ muchlove - i find it odd that the women who don’t date outside the race are regarded as “beautiful black sistas,” as if to suggest that black women who date outside our race are less beautiful, less black or any less of a “sista.” instead of marginalizing black women who have made the decision to be happy despite (your) prejudiced views, you should applaud them for having the strength of character to look beyond preconceived notions of race and see a person as a person and not as a color. i sure am glad dr. martin luther king, jr. didn’t make such a distinction in his “i have a dream” speech.

sistas, accept love where you find it. this idea what we have to carry on the race is warped maternalism and bondage. i think it’s absolutely ludicrous to expect black women to wait around and risk a life of unhappiness and loneliness waiting for her elusive black knight to rescue her from despair. likewise, i think it’s unfair for black men to suggest that black women should accept the mediocrity that the vast majority of black men are trying to peddle. we should expect nothing less than excellence from our man. i for one will not accept any less merely because the man is black. to do so would be obtuse and completely sad.

dont be ignorant…. Race is one of the stupidest concepts ever devised… it was concieved to divide us… RACE is the thing that made people look at BLACKS as less than human..and for anybody to continually support it is uttery ridiculous. Dogs crossbreed with no problem what so ever, so why are humans so hesitant? We’re all God’s children so WHAT THE PROBLEM IS? what if you came across the love of your life and you decide not to be with them because theyre not black? anybody who says otherwise is a complete fool.

I would date a guy of probably any ethnicity. If you have that chemistry then you can’t put the ethnicity/race factor between the two- you could pass up a soul mate like that.

Or not, just saying.

Race-mixing in Britain is similar to the US in the sense that it is nothing new yet at the same time a dichotomy of opinion exists in terms of what people think. on the whole, I have found that Black British women tend to be more ‘loyal’ to their Black male counterparts who just seem to continuously chase white skirts yet at the same time feeling jealous when Black women look beyond the colour barrier. Black men will always be my first rate choice, regardless of what is in ‘vogue’

Tee–where do u live that you don’t see Asians mixing??Especially the Asians who grew up in America. I have a White friend who is married to an Asian man and also a White male friend married to an Asian woman. I am Black and dating an Asian. Everyone has their prefernece so if you r happy with Black men I am happy for you.

Well said, Rachel!! I have several girlfriends who are educated and attractive who whenever we bring up dating White men don’t even want to approach the subject. These are the same women who deal with the “playa” type of brothers with baby mama drama and other women on the side. Not saying that White men wouldn’t bring drama as well but why limit yourself as if that’s the best you can do just to say you got a Black man?

Geez, my boyfriend is white. Its no big deal, people make too much out of thingss

I am Black/Brazilian and I like guys of all races. We come in all colors, and the guy i’m with now is puertorican, but he’s black too. I prefer afro-latinos because we share the same color, and cultural background.I don’t really have alot in common with most black american guys.Definitey don’t limit yourself to one race.

Well said, Rachel!! I have several girlfriends who are educated and attractive who whenever we bring up dating White men don’t even want to approach the subject. These are the same women who deal with the “playa” type of brothers with baby mama drama and other women on the side. Not saying that White men wouldn’t bring drama as well but why limit yourself as if that’s the best you can do just to say you got a Black man?

Well said questioneverything : I cosign. I was one of those women. Ages 18 -21, I was well beyond my years in distinction, attractive, brigh-eyed and ambitious, with an innocent heart and chained to those out-dated notions, of the healing power of black love and loyalty therefore the love-of-my life was one of those very men with those very same issues. Charismatic, charming, hints of pure genius and cultured. He also loved the streets and the allure of the hustle and all that came with it. I thought he just needed a little fixing. He was really beautiful on the inside right? The only thing fixed was me, and not for the better. I grew to hate to hear the word baby-mama, and anyone who was one. My outlook, my optimism were dampered. Self-esteem hit rock bottom, and I even began to question my value…not for once thinking that it might just be something wrong wih him if he had someone like me and sacrificed it too have yelling, cussing, fighting daily, not to mention the silly games, broken windows and public embarrasments. When I did finally end it, realizing the dire mistake I had made, it was no better for how I felt abpout myslef, b/c at that point I was completely SHOOK, that the honor-roll princess, the girl who usually got it right, had been so wrong. I was over him LONG before I was over the fact that I had chosen him. He made a complete mockery of something very beautiful, b/c he didn’t know what to do with it. The very light he loved about me, he nearly single-handedly extinguished…and then asked me why I didn’t smile anymore? I have gone on a tangent. But my story is more common than not. Some of the strongest, most beautiful and good-hearted black women have been brought to new lows in the name of loving some of these very black men who they assume deserve it. Yes, I realize someone can only bring you down if you let them, and if you’re REALLY strong you’ll get back up. But many women take that road not realizing that it’s not a necessary for the pilgrimage. That supporting our men doesn’t mean letting go of our needs. We as black women, some, many, don’t realize that we don’t have to sacrifice nearly as much as we think, and we don’t have to feel guilty for not doing so. I WISH when my mother was telling me to not bring a white boy home unless he’s Donald Trump had also shared this with me.

Side Note: Every Black woman and man on this site should read Joan Morgan’s : ‘When Chicknheads Come Home to Roost’ if you haven’t already. All my non-chickens, don’t let the title deter you.

Hey Muchlove, whats with the question mark behind my name? I love Black men all the way, honey. No mistaking it…

CALICHICK IS NOT BLACK! SHE SAID SHE WAS WHITE ON THE 36 MAFIA FORUM!!! CALICHICK, I DON’T APPRECIATE YOU LYIN’ LIKE THIS. WHAT, YOU CAN’T EVEN BE REAL ON A KEYBOARD????

CRAZICHICK, YOU’RE A FUCKING IMPOSTER ASS BITCH THAT NEEDS TO HAUL ASSSSS!!!!!!!

OH, I JUST READ ONE OF YOUR POSTS. OKAY. YOU BETTER KEEP IT REAL…

@ Muchlove & Headcount I believe you are the same person.

But if not pls watch that “Black family/White family” reality show that will air on FX tonight at 10p.m. Not sure if your west coast or east just check your local cable listing.

P.S. GROW UP!

THERE IS NO SUBSTATUTE FOR LOVE AND HAPPYNESS.THE PROBLEM IS WHEN I HERE SOME BLACK FOLKS SAY I ONLY DATE WHITE GIRLS OR MEN.IF YOU CONNECT WITH SOMEONE THAN FINE,BUT DONT SELLOUT.ME MYSELF IT WOULD BE HARD FOR ME TO EXPLAN WHAT I GO THROUGH EVERYDAY AS A BLACK MALE TO WW B/C I THINK SHE WOULD BE INPARTIAL AND NOT REALY UNDERSTAND ME OR US OR THE STRUGGLE!IT TAKES A STRONG PERSON TO DATE OUTSIDE THEIR RACE B/C OF THE DIRTY LOOKS AND THE WISPERS.BUT QUIT FRANKLY THEIR IS A SHORTAGE OF BLACK MEN WHERE IN JAIL,GAY OR DEAD.IT’S LIKE 8 TO 1 WHERE IM FROM. SAD

“and i have yet to find a white guy who was finer and made my asshole wink like a man of color be he pr latin or black as night.”

ok interesting visual…lawdy

@ head count - Would not the path of least resistance be to date a black guy. Or, are you saying that it’s more of a struggle to date a black person than any other ethnicity? I just thought your choice of quotes was interesting.

Anyways, the guy that I’ve known that’s been the nicest to me and treated me the best, with such politeness, has been a guy friend of mine who is Filipino and white. He has the most awesome personality of anyone I’ve met. Sure, we’re from different ethnic backgrounds, but we have a lot in common. Moreso than either of the 2 black guys that I’ve dated in the past. (I’ve only dated 2 people). I say this to back up why I think that it’s personality, upbringing, and socioeconomic status that do play a big role in compatibility.

I agree that there are a lot of things that culturally, black people share because of a common experience with racism and discrimination, but in 2006, that’s really know excuse. The only person that’s going to hold you back is yourself.

Also, I recall poster who mentioned that the place that she met white guys was class or work. I think that has a lot do to with who you meet. Because if you really want to date someone who is truly compatible, you may be likely to meet that person in class or in the workplace. So, if you’re in a field that’s predominantly filled with white, or any other non-black people, than you’re more likely to meet someone non-black to date, because though your race isn’t the common factor, your interests are.

Oh give me a break. I don’t need to prove myself to nobody over the internet. Take your detective skills somewhere else…like to Aruba.

no, you go. They like to snatch your kind up out there and leave ya fa dead!!!!!!!

Bitch, you don’t wanna battle. Take your ass on somewhere else!!!!!!!!!

I think every women should date outside there race at least once. I have dated a lot of men outside my race. I am married to someone outside my race. I think it is a great thing.

this is ridiculous… seeing people that are against interracial dating… you’re supporting the segregation of cultures.

Headcount your comments are ridiculous! I said I have dated white men and while I don’t think I could marry one, I don’t rule out marrying someone of a different race. Why is that sad? I refuse to wait for happiness based on someone else’s hangups. And I certainly didn’t bash Black men to defend my cecision to be openminded. I’m sorry, but I’ve seen Black men who date white women rip Black women to shreds defending their choice. I haven’t seen many Black women do that here. It doesn’t like anyone is specifically choosing white men here. We are just choosing to explore all the possiblities.

That’s where you should direct your vitriol.

I agree that racism exists in this world, but don’t perputuate it with your ignorance. Why do I get the feeling that you are one of those secret “white girl” loving guys that give Black Women out with “others” the hypocritical stink eye?

@mybiz + calichick

y’all really need to cut that sh– out. what are y’all even fightin’ about…please…go be petty some place else…

I think every women should date outside there race at least once. I have dated a lot of men outside my race. I am married to someone outside my race. I think it is a great thing.

@Original Sindee ….Please…Mind ya business!!! Thank you. That’s how you get extra shit started.

@SadDamnYouAll,,

I suggest you p you MEDS

I’m married to a white man and we’re very happy as are both of our families. Saying you’re not willing to date outside of your race is about as open-minded as not willing to date someone from another city! You probably think someone from LA couldn’t possibly have anything in common w/ someone from Detroit? To those that find it difficult to get past the color of a white mans penis or his preferred music choice; does that also mean you couldn’t date a black man that is a bit less endowed and likes country music every now and then? In healthy relationships you teach and learn the truth instead of living in the shadows of these ridiculous stereotypes.

@I am a black man who is tired of Black women and thier fucking hipocrasy! If you want to fuck a limp dick white boy…go ahead! But don’t come crying to me bitch, when he wont take your black ass home to meet his parents!

All I can say is, Up you Meds, baby, Up you Meds

@SadDamnYouAll

All I can say is, Up your Meds, baby, Up your Meds

In forums like this people tend to use overuse hyperbole. Lots of people are saying, “Yeah I date white men because black men don’t do such and such. . .” That is wrong as well. I can’t stand to hear this kind of talk; it’s just as bad as hearing a black guy say “I don’t date black women because they have bad attitudes”. My point is, don’t generalize. All black men aren’t disrespectful and immature; the ones YOU dealt with were.

Although I have dated a white guy and would do it again without hesitation, my current boyfriend is black and he absolutely treats me like a queen. I’m talking dinners, trips, foot massages, back rubs; he even loves to wash my hair!!! There ARE good black men out there, of course. BUT, as I said before, you should keep your mind open because, otherwise, life (and love) could pass you by.

I can’t believe what I’m seeing!! Black women giving up!! You use to be the backbone to the black family! Fight the POLR - path of least resistance. Hang in there Mary J. and Whitney!! We know it ain’t been easy! To all you sellouts, please knock off that “white oral sex” talk, because you can’t get past his pink penis…which it is actually purple! I guess no game leads to no shame…so here’s the updated list of “the 70 forgotten black women who black men rejected”:

lala (2)
Desmon
taco
artgyrl
lamorenaekobe
Lisa
C. Hollis
Anonymosus.Poster (several)
JK
Ke Ke
Bobby.Pins
Veronica
Penny Woods
Alexis
Essence
e-ka
Gracie
Angela
Leslie
takeitoutside.BITCH
boyer
Ethipoian Princess
lemure
dee dee
rachel
pepper
monica
LOVELY
Mssnay
Shannon
J-MAMI
private dancer
calichick
lafemmenikita
Javier ;(
kimmie
RockMusicDiva
im not her
thandi
rastalove
ginger
any’lldo
SlimKim - POLR
she’s clever
missmee
dmac
dee dee again
EM kow
Confussed08
letinian
sure
inaccessible
Monique
Evie E.
mizphattycake
Original Sindee (at your request)
Miss Diva
t
untitleeme
wo
CoCoBunny
Yellie
Setsunna
BlueNotes
Bombshell
Free
questioneverything
Bella
Menina21
she’s not clever

How many white men and black women do you see still together over the age of 60? Not many, because a stange phenomenon occurs around age 50…! It’s like being an “obese elder”…the two conditions can’t exist for long!

“updatedlist”, seriously, get a job and work on keeping your non-interacial relationship together instead of harping on people that are ok with choice they’ve made.

Hang in there sistas! You are the center of our strength. I’ll adorn you with strawberries and champane. Rose peddles and hot oils! I’ll be by your side!

special k
T bean
Observer
illdva
im not her
Euricka
bee
mia
Julia_Claudine_Deveraux
Silvia ?
thetruth
MissTee2U
Sharonda
crazichick
Nai
Shonquayshah
ANAYA
questioneverthing
babyG
mybiz ?
True
Oneblacklilly
Shonuffsista
MzMeMuch
the answer
Bristol

Much love to all of you…cause you know about the chase and you rise to the occasion.

Rachel, you took the words right outta my mouth. I can’t believe he came up in here talking about “the chase.” I’m a grown woman! Why should I be playing games? I don’t think that’s indicative of black men per se, but I think he didn’t make his case any stronger by saying that.

updatedlist—better question, “How many couples–regardless of race, 50 or 60 years old are still together and happy?” Forget the race part. How many women are still putting up with their man’s B.S. 40-50 yrs later and vice versa? It’s about being happy and this is a Whole new generation so in 40-50 years you WILL see interracial couples who have been in it for the long haul. We as women DON’T have to settle for whatever comes our way just to say we have a MAN in our lives. I will continue to choose men who respect me –regardless of color.

Likes to wash your hair, he’s metro or maybe even down low. I like all the other things you mentioned but keep your eyes open girl!

@shoutoutlist

before anyone has a coronary that i’m on your list, i should be taken off as i am a white woman not a black woman.

thank you.

I’m talking dinners, trips, foot massages, back rubs; he even loves to wash my hair!!!

Now we are talking! Does he have a brother?

Just watched Oprah…thought it was a great show.
I loved what O and Sanee said it is about opening your possibilites to love and be loved

“you don’t see asians mixing like that. they are smart.”

I agree with Free. Where the hell do you live? Not only do I see numerous white/asian relationships, I just said that I’m black and my boyfriend is Asian. You must not get out alot.

And go ahead and put me on your little “list.” I don’t give a damn. While you’re busy hanging your head and scrolling through threads to put people on a damn list, I’m happy with my relationship and the choice I’ve made.

You can take your list and shove it up your rightous ass.

hmmmmmmm…dating out of my race….I really am against other people pointing fingers and continually making false accusations of one race or another, therefore I think it is just out of plain ignorance that we as a people should disc anyone one else for dating someone out of our race. We ALL are mixed in some way or another. there is not one pure breed amongest us. I wholeheartly agree with the aforementioned statements of dating, loving and marry someone for themselves. If you find love in another person and v/v, embrace that person and the love they give with all of your heart. This life only goes around once. don’t get stuck on stupid and miss out on the love train because of a color issue.

I’ve dated one white guy before and he treated me better than any black one i had been with.I thought it was funny when we went out and black guys were giving me dirty looks, cause these were the same ones who had white girls on their arms! I don’t have a problem with black guys dating white girls, but there excuses sound like cop-outs. They usually say its because we have attitude problems and are golddiggers etc… black guys don’t have to put us down to justify why they date white girls. I dated that white guy because he treated me well, he was cute and we had alot in common. It had nothing do do with any negative feelings toward black guys. Open your minds, and date outside your race at least once.

@updatelist PLEASE READ THE ENTIRE POST BEFORE COMMENTING!!!! I’ve been HAPPILY married (8yrs) to one of the most beautiful, intellegent, respectful BLACK MEN I have EVER KNOWN which I stated in one of my post, I have NEVER dated a white man but have been propositioned by many and have NEVER been rejected by NO MAN and as for the strawberries,champagne and rose petals keep yours, hon I have a BEAUTIFUL BLACK man who does ALL those thing for me and MORE!

^^^^^That’s Me MIZPHATTYCAKEZ^^^^^^

RACHEL for President!!!!

Oh so now we used to be the back bone of the black family? I thought we were bitches and hoes and golddiggers. I’m laughing my ass of at them brothers calling sistas dating outside their race sellouts when black men been doing it for sooo damn long and looking down on us acting like we’ve never been good enough cause too ghetto too golddiggish too this too that. Now they’re scared. Yall should have seen how black men reacted when my best friend, one of the most beautiful black woman I’ve ever seen walking on this Earth I swear to God, told her male friends and family members her new love is white. They’re pissed, her male relatives are pissed, her male friends are mad at her. This girl is gorgeous, a Gabrielle Union type of sista. MAN yall should see that crap. All these men are losing their heads, even her (black) ex-man who cheated on her, lied to her, and had A BLONDE SEXUAL GIRL (ala Pamela Anderson) AS HIS PC WALLPAPER. Go figure.

80% of successful black men in hollywood marry white. FASCINATED with white women especially blondes. Calling us bitches and hoes in every song, making songs about us being golddiggers. MORE POWER TO US SISTAS DOING OUR THING WITH NON-BLACK fellas. WE ARE the #1 MOST EDUCATED AND POWERFUL WOMEN of minorites OF THIS COUNTRY. Yall took us for granted. I want to see more and more sistas explore their options, we’re beautiful, smart and successful. The most scorned women in the world apparently, but secretly the most envied by women and desired by men. BLACK WOMEN DO YOUR THANG!!!!

“Don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you got til it’s gone?” - Janet Jackson.

comment@Updatedlist

I sooooooo wish I actually gave a phuck about you adding me to your “sellout” list.

As far as being rejected by black men…
If they’re anything like you, please tell me, what am I missing?

Ok,Ok, wait. Let me tell YOU what I’d be missing:

not a muthaphuking thing, shit, nil, nada, etc.

My man caters to me as I do to him in return.

Jealous?

That’s amazing! 70 do’s and only 26 don’ts! That’s not Vouge…that’s epidemic! I knew as soon as Corretta and Rosa passed, ya’ll were gone start showing your true colors!

Meathead, I mean Meatloaf, please explain yourself?

i have and i would again. love is love and i don’t feel loyalty to any particular race.

@ updated list

Why am I on your list twice??
You’re an idiot and the poster BOY for Black WOMEN who date other races of MEN.
And sweetie, for the record, I was neither REJECTED NOR FORGOTTEN, just taken for granted b/c he was too shallow to see what was real and what makes a woman a woman. I still get calls this day from exes, and glances of regret when they see me out. The only one who’s FOOL enough to still try is the one knows he had my love and never should have let it go. It’s been over 6 years, and I still get a few phone call or letter every year.
But you, on the other hand, are obviously a LONELY ONE if you have time to count ALL the black women on this site who wouldn’t want you… here’s a thought…go find one who will and a CLUE while you’re at it!

DEAR BLACKKK WOMEN WHO DATE WHITE BOYS:

You are the same DUMB bitches who want a THUG and then once he has stuck your ass with a bunch of dumb-ass, bastard kids (who you will one day visit in jail) you wanna run and find a nigga with some class and a good job. When that shit doesn’t work out…and the nigga finds out how domineering you are, you wanna run game on a pussy hungry white boy. But guess what he don’t give a shit about your black ass! HE JUST WANTS SOME BLACK PUSSY. So go ahead give it to him. I could give a fuck less. Try to be more like Lauryn Hill or Erika Badu!

???

Some chicken posted a list for me to view of people who posted comments in support of interracial dating. Well I got a list for YOU bitch:

Try to be like these beautiful african queens:

Erika Badu
Jill Scott
Jean Grae
Betty Shabazz
Lauryn Hill
My Great Grandmother: (Who with a 12 gauge shot-gun…stared down a group of wealthy white planters intending to whip my great grandfather for insolence)
Harriet Tubman
The african women on slave ships who would rather throw themselves to hungry sharks than birth children into a life of neverending bondage.

Erykah Badu or Lauryn Hill???

excuse me but that’s EXACTLY who we,re trying NOT to be like. Of course if you mean, highly intelligent and cultured most of us on tis site are. But WHA? lET’S SIZE UP EXACTLY WHAT THIS IS YOU’RE ASKING OF US FOR A SECOND…
Lauryn Hill went completely buggy - str8 woodstock, lost herself and never came back, fans are still waiting for her return from the dark side.
She has 4 kids, and I don’ think she’s married yet, but I do know that 1 or more of them is by a married man.
Erykah Badu was REELING after her experience with Dre’, and her exact words were “Dre shook me up”. She’s gone from one relationship with common to of ALL things the DOC who she recently had kid number 2 by. ??? (GROSS) Which makes baby No. 2 and Wedding ZERO. And for as beautiful as these two sisters are and could be, I’ll pass. Those notions are the very reasons why they haven’t fully reached their essence.

But YOU sound a bit jaded. Besides, even if I dated exclusively black men, WHO would want you, regardless of race when you pout and throw tantrums like a 6-year-old, when you hear things you disagree with in what is supposed to be an intelligent ADULT discourse. On top of that referring to woman as bitches??? You’re a loser, and for that reason, I think this will be my second and LAST reply to you. I had to get this one out. The suggestion was too ridiculous to let pass.

No thank you.

i personally think it depends on the area you’re in. if i was still in maryland/dc area where i grew up, i wouldn’t think twice about dating a white man. but since i’ve moved to new york, the selection of white men here is quite different from those in maryland/dc area. with MY personal experience, in new york, being with a black woman is like a statement or fulfilling a fantasy. the ones i’ve encountered while being here at least. but then again, new york (long island area specifically) is a LOT more seperated than maryland/dc is. i’ve met more people in NY (of ALL RACES) whose parents are dead against interracial relationships. where i gew up, parents had opinions but didn’t force them on their children as i’ve seen here. it’s just different…

70 black women said they would date a white man.

26 black women said they would not date a white man.

That’s a pretty darn high percentage. Two out three, 60%! What web site am I on? There must be a lot of posers out there who think they know black entertainment. I hope you all end up like Dorothy Danridge!

@ Shoutout list (with clearly too much time on your hands):

Angel La’s question was about honesty. I have NEVER dated a white man EVER. I came close. That’s honest. Now where in any of my posts have you read that I gave up on a black man.

Do you want to read bull shyt. Fight the power nonesense or do you want to read posts based in candor and honesty.

Get off your high horse—and spend that time counting which side people are on with actually getting some perspective and some type of ability to appreciate diverse thoughts within our community.

@SadDamnYouAll
Psycho man I’m sensing a lot of pent up hostility…don’t let me turn on the 11:00 news and see your face plastered all over it. I smell a angry-black man heading for a very lonley life. Tell me who in their right mind would want someone as angry as your black behind in their life…relax…PROZAC could be the answer.

@updatedlist

wow… you need some sunlight and a life

70 black women said they would date a white man.

26 black women said they would not date a white man.

That’s a pretty darn high percentage. Two out three, 60%! What web site am I on? There must be a lot of posers out there who think they know black entertainment. I hope you all end up like Dorothy Danridge!

@Meatloaf
First of all, you’re on ConcreteLoop.com not RejectTheBlackManForever.com. The question (one of many on this site) was ‘Would you date a White Guy’..? Many answered ‘yes’..some answered ‘no. Women of all races/nationalites have been told to ’shut up, move on and get over it’ when the men dated outside the race but then they saw the man’s true nature when the women did it.

As far as ending up like Dorothy Dandridge it might be better than ending up like Nicole Simpson, Lacey Peterson or Natalie Halloway. But that’s besides the point. I applaud Mary J. Blige, Whitney Houston, Betty Shabazz, Ruby Dee, Pauletta Washington (Denzel’s wife) for standing by their men. And, by the way, Coretta Scott King and Rosa Parks fought for the equal rights for ALL people…RECOGNIIIIIZE!!

I agree with you. It’s our turn now. Now they know how it feels. I can’t believe they made those statements about losing another sistah and feeling abandoned when they have been doing this for decades and if it was legal probably centuries. They just want us to sit there and wait and be ready when they get ready. Not no more.

have and will always. i think the biggest obstacle is my family’s input. my mother would ask why i went out and ‘got a white and my father would call him a craka a@@ craka. i haven’t told them about the one i’m currently dating… and i think it is more because i want to make them proud… they are ole school southern blacks who would be nothing more than offended at my so called ‘treason’. love is love… i don’t care what color is comes in… just as long as it comes. i love all men, no matter what color. as long as he isn’t a criminal or some weird mess, we can get it popping. luckily, the tide is turning for black woman (specifically professional black women). the USA will be gray by 2100 so what difference does it all make?

I would certainly date Ace Young from American Idol. That man is fine as hell!!!!!!!

You sure are right, girl! I agree.

@untitleme

just because somebody dates outside of their race doesn’t mean they dont know anything about their culture. I date outside of my race and I know for a fact I know more about Black History than you do. I LOVE black women. Yall are on the top of my list.. but that doesn’t mean I got to cross off all other races of my list.

Check, chances are you listen to at least one rap artist that has women half ass naked dancing in their videos, or if they call a woman a bitch in their song. You listening to such a song on the radio, or downloading or buying an album that the artist puts out is giving the artist revenue. So in turn you are supporting the exploitation and demeaning of Women.

But if a Black Man dates outside of his race, because he loves women so much that he cant limit himself, then he did something wrong.

How many “thugs” beat, cheat, abuse, and do wrong by their women?

I haven’t heard a word about those young brothas who call themselves “pimps” and play women left and right.. Matter of fact black women tend to draw themselves towards those kind of guys. And the good brothas are left hanging… If black women are goin for the thugs then theres less chance a good brotha will nab one.. so he has to start goin outside of his race to get a good woman.And many of The good brothas that have black women are underappreciated… the brothas that work 3 jobs to try and support their family…black women start treatin there men like shit.. cheatin, havin 6 different baby daddys and shit. Women dont Realize how hard it is to be a black man in the world.

And on top of that black women are becoming more permiscuous than ever!!

So ask yourself what in the hell black women are doin wrong to cause brothas to go outside of their race.

I think black women are getting fed up with how some black men treat us and have decided to resort to alternative options.

Brothers have gotten very arrogant over the years and are so quick to act disrespectful.

Most white men have more money and don’t have multiple baby mamas and know how to appreciate a good woman. Hey sisters you should get one too! It less drama!!!!

Hellz mothaf*ckin yeah i would date a white dude. Black dudez datin white women now w/out a backward glance at they sistaz.. sh*t gotta do what u gotta do…

Hellz mothaf*ckin yeah i would date a white dude. Black dudez datin white women now w/out a backward glance at they sistaz.. sh*t gotta do what u gotta do…

I would certainly date Ace Young from American Idol. That man is fine as hell!!!!!!!

POSTED BY: Michelle | March 8, 2006 09:21 PM

I hear ya girl. He is sexy and he can sing.

DEAR BLACKKK WOMEN WHO DATE WHITE BOYS:

You are the same DUMB bitches who want a THUG and then once he has stuck your ass with a bunch of dumb-ass, bastard kids (who you will one day visit in jail) you wanna run and find a nigga with some class and a good job. When that shit doesn’t work out…and the nigga finds out how domineering you are, you wanna run game on a pussy hungry white boy. But guess what he don’t give a shit about your black ass! HE JUST WANTS SOME BLACK PUSSY. So go ahead give it to him. I could give a fuck less. Try to be more like Lauryn Hill or Erika Badu!

POSTED BY: SadDamnYouAll | March 8, 2006 06:13 PM
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You call us dumb bitches and you wonder why we’re giving white men a chance? I’ve never dated nor desired dating a thug, never dated someone who had baby mama drama and none of that shit. So if one day I date a white man, it won’t be an act of desperation, but an act of LOVE. We’re waking up now because :

- TOO MANY successful black men call us bitches (like you do) or think we are bitches and golddiggers, are fascinated by white women and marry them, not giving us THE TIME OF THE DAY. Now yall wanna cry?
- black women understand now that they’re worth BETTER than to stay with a wack negro (jailbird, thug, whatever fucking black loser) OUT OF LOYALTY, love has no color, so fuck that ‘loyalty’ shit cause yall broke the rule A LONG TIME AGO! If sistas find a good black men, that’s cool, if he’s white or asian or hispanic SO BE IT! And by the way, every black bastard kid is the kid of a DEADBEAT black father. So stop blaming us for it, it takes TWO to procreate, yall partly to blame too.
- black women are MORE EDUCATED now, study HARDER and are starting to make more money than black men now. White men understand the majority of us are not bitches and hoes but realize we’re BEAUTY AND POWER now.
- you said white men just want that black pussy. well I guess Puffy is white then. Dude was singing songs to Lopez for her to come back but never married his black woman Kim Porter, mother of his child and even beats her. Kim deserves a better man, I hope that one day she wakes up too and explored ALL OF HER OPTIONS. They just want the pussy? True story : THE MAJORITY of my girlfriend’s husbands are WHITE. These white men MARRIED the girls. My friends have dated both black AND white men (not strictly white, no discrimination) and should never apologize for choosing real love rather than race.
- MASSIVE interracial dating is something BLACK MEN STARTED FIRST. Now you’re getting a taste of your own medicine. Black women don’t OWE black men SHIT.

So if I had to choose between a white dude who would treat me like the queen I am and a black dude like you who’d call me a BITCH, I would run to that white man WITH THE QUICKNESS and NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR IT!

ALL I CAN SAY IS DAMN!!! SHE COVERED EVERYTHING I WANTED TO SAY.

ANONYMOUS_POSTER* | March 9, 2006 08:14 AM

Girl, you really broke it down. Bravo!

ANONYMOUS POSTER, I have to applaud your post. Well said and so true!!!

*ANONYMOUS_POSTER* | March 9, 2006 08:14 AM

AMEN!

Amen ^^^^

Well i’m married to a white guy and i love him. I use to say i’ll never date white guys. But my husband came correct with his game and won me over. He treats me like the queen i am he is good to me. So what i’m saying it’s not about looks, or color it’s about how you are together how they respect you and care for you. I can truly say i’m glad i married a white guy. And don’t get me wrong i still love and respect my black man and always will.

You women are on the verge of taking the greatest stepback in the history of Black Americans. You’re reasons for selling out are weak:
Can’t find a good black man!
Black men have been doing thit for years!
It’s all about my choices!
White men give good oral!
He helps me with the bills!
We make more money, now!
Black men are in jail!
Supply and demand!

Listen how you sound…!

And then, you act like you’re going into shock when someone calls you a bitch. Hell, if it barks like a dawg and walks like a dawn…there’s a fifty percent chance that it’s a bitch!

Here’s what you fail to understand. The history of segregation has taken a heavy toll on the black family…and no one has been effected more than the black man. Have you ever heard that black men are the last hired and first fired.

You bitches know many brothers who couldn’t afford college and get high paying jobs. While black women were always welcomed into the offices, because you are not and were not a threat. And, when a brother gets a scholorship and goes off to college you come running like gold diggers.

Now, if you’re not a bitch, I’m not talking to you! Only to the true bitches! And, I’m amazed at how you don’t mind being called a bitch when it suits your purposes. But, at soon as you decide to do some crazy $#IT, like sucking on a purple jimmie, you justify it by saying, you were just tired and fed up at being called a bitch.

There is no massive interracial dating. Just a few of you silly bitches who subscribe to Concreteloop. In the true sense of dating, white men don’t want yo black azz! Go to Atlanta and you’ll see how strong sisters play the dating game and keep it real. Study the chase…I don’t care how grown you are.

Yeah, I said it, it’s a game until someone commits to marrying you…it’s just a game of chase. Like it or not. First, you say you want committment and then you realize that you’re not happy. Now, your happiness is everything. What about the damn vows you took?

You can change the game all you want, but don’t cry to me when the change turns against you. And, stop trying to compare the black experience with O.J., Gabrielle and Puffy! Who are they?

If you did watch Black and White last you’d know that white men have no clue about the way you think. They have not been very interested! And, Ace Young is gayer than a French Horn! At the end of the day, you’ll hear drama from whites as well as blacks. White men aren’t perfect!

Ya’ll need Jesus!

Headcounter for Player of the year!

Just ask Janet and Mariah, they’ll tell you about the white men!

Yes and I do I look at it like this life is too short for limitations. Why should I limit myself to only black men? To please other people? I love being black and everything that comes with the label but at the end of the day when I go home I prefer right now any way to be with my white boyfriend. I dont alter my behavior with him I’m still me I dont”actwhite” and he doesnt”actblack” now that just pisses me off just be yourself

I don’t think I would. I aint racist amd no I don’t see nothing wrong wit it, im just sayin I wouldn’t!

Headcounter……So you’re dissing black women who consider dating non-black men in the same breath that you use to refer to women as bitches. Hmmmmmm……that makes a lot of sense. Who wants to be with someone who refers to women as bitches?

Perhaps for you, its a chase or a game. But some people take life a little bit more seriously than that.

And as for that ignorant ass white man on “Black & White” he’s just one person. Even his daughter had more sense than his ass.

Headcounter, you are obviously just hear to stir up shit. However, I must ask youmr. angry? Do you have the same invective for the Black men that worship white women? Do you go to boards about that and yell just as loud? Because there are way more Black men dating white women EXCLUSIVELY! No one here is dating white only, it seems that Black women are more openminded. Every single Black man I know is with a white woman, hey do you, but they ONLY date white women. I’m not bitter, because my dance card is definitely full. As for you saying Black women are hoes, um sorry, white women have that on lock as far as I can see.

And how are women standing up for themselves being bitches? Good lord, can we just move past the standing behind a man at all costs to self esteem and personal growth? I’m sorry but love IS conditional. If you choose to spend your life with someone they should honor and respect you! I’d be over the moon to marry a beautiful black man, but praising Whitney for staying with Bobby - a man who more than likely cheats, has a drug problem, constant and a million other kids is sick! I hate this stay with someone no matter mentality. If a man doesn’t respect me he doesn’t keep me, that’s it! I’ll stand by my man against the slings and arrows of the world, but I sure as hell won’t let him throw them my way. No matter what color he is. If only we all could find a Black man like Isiah Washington - married to a gorgeous, bald, REAL black woman who he treats with respect. But we all can’t, does that mean we should deny ourselves and wait forever?

@Headcase a.k.a Headcounter:
I’ve looked back and read through most of the post, but I just can’t seem to find where any of us “Black Bitches” said that white men were perfect. Please let me know…
And after you find that, can you please re-read your own post and realize that… you didn’t make one educated comment… it’s all nonsense and has basically nothing to do with interracial dating, you ignorant azz.

Listen to how YOU sound:
*What does “black men being the last hired and first fired” have to do with the fact that I married a White man?
*Why are the Black women that choose to date/marry White men to blame for the fact that so many Black brothas can’t afford college but still get good jobs?
*And I can’t for the life of me, think of a time that being called a Bitch, has EVER suit my purpose, what purpose are you talking about? (And I thought you all decided white guys had pink jimmies, did I miss the post where they turned purple?)
*And for statistic purposes, 70% of the silly bitches on this site seemed to have found plenty of White men that DO in fact want their asses, their children and want to spend the rest of their lives with black WOMEN. My white boy does anyway, well the price he paid to exchanges vows with me lead me to believe so…
And all that other stuff you went off about a commitment and happiness, you are so twisted. You really just sound like an angry butch lesbian that no man would want, you idiot.

@Bluenotes. I’m sorry, I just gotta say something. You claim that black women are becoming more “permiscuous” now. (I think you meant to say “promiscuous.”) But anyway, I seriously doubt that black women are any looser than the non-black women you’ve dated. I went to a predominantly white university and I’ve never seen a more promiscuous group of women than white college women. Period. (And I’m sure they’re not the only white women who are loose as hell.) Not saying the sistas were angels, but we damn sure wasn’t getting down like them white girls were.

In addition, I don’t know where folks get this idea that black women are so in love with thugs and pimps. I’m not and I know a lot of sistas who aren’t.

POSTED BY: *ANONYMOUS_POSTER* | March 9, 2006 01:19 PM

Loved it! Good post.

In addition, I don’t know where folks get this idea that black women are so in love with thugs and pimps. I’m not and I know a lot of sistas who aren’t.

POSTED BY: Shannon | March 9, 2006 01:21 PM

I think this notion is primarily perpetuated by images in the media. I’m with you: I’m definitely not into thrus or pimps…

sorry..I meant thugs…

to all the pseudo-intellectual black men who have posted expressing animosity toward their black sisters who date white or non-black men:

fyi – man was created to be the backbone of the family (black or otherwise), not woman. it’s unfortunate that slavery changed the structure of the black family and forced black women into a position we were not created to occupy. for black men to now suggest that black women should continue to be the backbone of the black family at risk of our own happiness is selfish. not one black man has articulated how my dating a white man is destructive to our race. if you choose to do so, please refrain from calling me out my name because I refuse to entertain misguided arguments masked by hate and profanity, as the ability to type the word “bitch” or “hoe” does not give your argument merit.

i’ve heard the diatribe about how hard it is for a black man in america. honestly, that “argument” is tired and nothing more than an excuse to be mediocre, if not a failure. news flash: it’s hard to be a black woman in america as well, but somehow, we’ve risen to the challenge. we have matriculated through school at a higher rate than you, have risen to the top of our respective fields and are some of the most prominent faces in america (black or otherwise). and through it all, we still have the strength to cook, clean, and raise our children. children complain about their circumstances; men change their circumstances. when black men wake up and step into the destiny God created for them, we can have a serious discourse on repairing our black family. if you don’t agree, you can continue to stew in your own juices, but you’re really not hurting anyone but yourself. and please, if you respond, don’t use the go-to black clichés; unless a white man physically has a gun to your head, there is no real reason why you can’t achieve.

contrary to popular (mis)belief, there are many non-blacks in the world who are neither racist nor maliciously prejudice (because we all have preconceived notions regarding race). the black men who suggest that a white man would only want to be with his black sister for “black pussy” are ignorant. black women, in general, have been mistreated by white and black men. while we really can’t expect white men to protect and respect us, you would think that our black men would think more of us being that we raised you. instead, you refer to us as bitches and hoes. i hope you can see why your mock paternalism in the face of years of disrespect and misuse is galling. if black men want to isolate the problem with the black family and want to find a REAL solution, start by looking in the mirror. i’m neither impressed nor persuaded by your smoke and mirror show; black women dating white men did not and will not lead to the demise of the black family. again, stop shirking responsibility for your role in the demise of our family. while it’s true that white men separated our family during slavery, what are you doing to bring our family back together and build it up? i mean, aside for calling your sisters bitches and hoes…

check this: you have already taken the biggest step back in the history of black americans by espousing ideas that are clearly separatist. in the long run, how are you personally affected by my choice to date a white man? if you can articulate a reason that does not have to do with the “fate of our race,” i would be very surprised.

finally, how can you speak of black women needing Jesus after calling us out our names? do you think that’s what Jesus would do? seriously, why even bring Him into the conversation if you’re preceding argument is hateful and ignorant. and don’t try to rationalize the use of the word; there’s no good reason to disrespect a woman in this way.

i have dated my fair share of non-blacks, however, my current boyfriend is BLACK. he’s not my boyfriend because he’s black: he’s my boyfriend because he’s respectful and treats me like his equal. and he would be my KING if he were white, yellow or otherwise.

@Zadie

Thank you.

What’s new about black women sleeping with white men? They did that all during slavery. The first interracial date was between a white man and a black women…only then, she was his property. Nothing new! Black men didn’t start this stuff! Just like they didn’t start the “bitch” word! Women us it much more…and men would use it much less if you would keep your damn mouths shut and bring me a beer!

I have a question for you black women who dated or considered chasing a white men…how many of you are also BI-SEXUAL? Not one of you? Too ashame to admit it, huh? I’m waiting!!!

The point is this…you’re just freakie and need it from wherever!

Your wrong Zadie…man was created to be the HEAD of the family!

@meatloaf

we are not talking about black women f–king white men. we are talking about DATING white men: dinner, flowers, meeting the parents, the whole works. nothing “freakie” there. and since we are talking about “love” and not “sex”, then of course women, black or white, will “get it from wherever”. there is nothing perverted about dating outside your race. real love doesn’t have a race. that’s why i’m not understanding all this “black love” sh–. love is love people. you better learn…

@ Meatloaf
I’m not, never had and would never consider homosexuality; which is completely beside the point, the topic is interacial dating. Just like all the rest of your VERY ignorant views and comments, you’re completely twisted. With that being said: please keep to the topic at hand and continue confirming your lack of respect to anyone with an openmind and colorblind eyes.

what i meant to say was that this forum was based on the question at to if black women would date outside their race. seeing as how this so called “phenonmenon” is not as common as you guys dating outside the race. i for one don’t really believe in race, i prefer black men, but wouldn’t think twice of dating someone who was not black.

I’ve dated plenty of women outside my race. Two of my former long-term girlfriends, both of whom I still care for deeply, were White. My most recent ex, a great woman (it just didn’t work out; long-distance thing) was part-Japanese and part-Latino.

Now I’ve been dating a sista for the last year and it’s been fantastic as well. For me, it’s never been an issue of color, but about who I met who fit me at that moment in my life. I was dating sistas when I met my previous exes and it just happened to have clicked with them. I met the current woman in my life when I was dating a White girl. There’s a connection between her and I and it’s carried us through.

The reality is love and sex don’t have any color; it’s not about race or ethnicity, but about finding someone with whom you gan grow emotionally, perience all the pleasures of this lifetime, build a family and carry each other through during the tough times. Besides being Black only means you have at least one African-American parent. One drop and you’re in.

@ Headcounter

“And, when a brother gets a scholorship and goes off to college you come running like gold diggers.”
—- Ahahahah, no you got it twisted, first of all black women are getting so much more power that yall don’t feel man enough when you make less money than she does. So we’re blamed if we date a man less rich than us by our own less rich man, blamed and called golddiggers if he happens to be successful and educated and makes more money than us. Fuck that, fuck yall. Black women are more hard working, we are WOMEN which means discriminated against, and BLACK which means discriminated against TWICE. When a brother gets a scolarship he runs after white women because HE STEREOTYPES HIS SISTERS CALLING US GOLDDIGGERS EXACTLY LIKE YOU DID, AND THEN ITS THESE LAME FUCKERS LIKE YOU WHO CALL US BITCHES WHEN WE REFUSE TO DISCRIMINATE WHEN IT COMES TO DATING. Look what happened to Kobe Bryant. He had his highschool sweetheart, an educated sister, Joceline, that his whole family had ADOPTED and everyone thought they’d get married. Who does he marry? A GOLDDIGGING HISPANIC. WHO does he cheat on her with a CRAZY BLONDE BITCH. Yeah NIGGA, and then yall spitting your venom on US SISTAS CALLING US GOLDDIGGERS. It was WHITE WOMEN who started the GOLDDIGGING activity, while WE BLACK WOMEN had to FEED THEIR WHITE KIDS + YALLS BLACK ASSES!!! We don’t need anyone’s money. We get MORE EDUCATION THAN ANY OTHER WOMEN OF ANY OTHER MINORITY because we gotta struggle as WOMEN + as BLACKS so we have that RAGE, STRENGTH and MOTIVATION in our veins.

“You women are on the verge of taking the greatest stepback in the history of Black Americans.”
—- The VAST MAJORITY of black/white couples are BLACK MEN and WHITE WOMEN. Extremely rarely do we see yall with an asian or indian girl. No she gotta be WHITE. WE SISTAS, never said we would date WHITE EXCLUSIVELY like most self-hating bruhs do. We said we wouldn’t DISCRIMINATE. If my KING, the man who treats me like the QUEEN I am and that I’ll treat like the KING he is, is WHITE SO BE IT!!! Again FUCK THAT LOYALTY RULE THAT YALL BROKE TOO LONG AGO!!! If I find a white man who’ll cater to me, give me what I need as a human, if we can have a quality relationship, I’ll DATE HIM, ALLOW MYSELF TO BE HAPPY no matter WHAT IT TAKES, and I’ll NEVER apologize for my choice. Life is too fucking short for letting real love passing me by. We’ve been CARRYING BLACK MEN, FEEDING THEM, RAISING THEM SOMETIMES BY OURSELVES WORKING 3 JOBS TO FEED THEM, STANDING BY THEIR SELFISH ASSES IN THE NAME OF LOYALTY EVEN WHEN NON-BLACKS WOULD HOLLA AT US, them motherfuckers WANNA DATE EXCLUSIVELY THEIR “WHITE GODDESSES” once they’re successful DISSING US like WESLEY SNIPES, DISSING US ON THE RADIO ALL THE TIME FOR THE WHOLE WORLD TO HEAR forgetting WHO FUCKING GAVE THEM BIRTH. And yall wanna act like we owe yall something? LMAO! I’d date ANY good man, no matter the color of his skin, black, white, asian, hispanic, I don’t GIVE A SHIT. I’m WORTH real love and being treating right.

And and just in the beginning of your post you said :
“and then, you act like you’re going into shock when someone calls you a bitch. Hell, if it barks like a dawg and walks like a dawn…there’s a fifty percent chance that it’s a bitch!”
— well don’t be shocked when I call you a bitch, BITCH, cause BITCHES do BITCH and you sure are BITCHING rightnow.

wow…… how come nearly everybody in here defines interracial dating as a black man/woman with a white man/woman.

what about latins, asians, native americans?

i know for a fact that latinas have everything to offer that a black woman has!

what the hell does it matter?!?

why do black people continually set themselves apart from everybody else and then ask for equality?

ANSWER THIS.

If im looking for an honest, caring, loving woman with a good sense of humor and I come across a woman that has all those qualities and she just happens to not be black… am i to pass her up? just because the color of her skin?

Speaking of which. our predecessors fought for injustice against ALL people. Klansmen and Biggits hated us because THE COLOR OF OUR SKIN.. Black Men were hung AND PERSECUTED for even looking at white women.. and these Klansmen were looked at as dispicable.

But now all these Black Women in here are discriminating against women because THE COLOR OF THEIR SKIN. and you’re PERSECUTING black men for having interest in other races. SHIT SOUNDS AWFUL FAMILIAR!!!!

YOU WOMEN AINT NOTHIN BUT SOME NEW AGE KLANSMEN!!! HATING ON PEOPLE!! HATERS!!!!!!!

I’ve dated plenty of women outside my race. Two of my former long-term girlfriends, both of whom I still care for deeply, were White. My most recent ex, a great woman (it just didn’t work out; long-distance thing) was part-Japanese and part-Latino.

Now I’ve been dating a sista for the last year and it’s been fantastic as well. For me, it’s never been an issue of color, but about who I met who fit me at that moment in my life. I was dating sistas when I met my previous exes and it just happened to have clicked with them. I met the current woman in my life when I was dating a White girl. There’s a connection between her and I and it’s carried us through.

The reality is love and sex don’t have any color; it’s not about race or ethnicity, but about finding someone with whom you gan grow emotionally, perience all the pleasures of this lifetime, build a family and carry each other through during the tough times. Besides being Black only means you have at least one African-American parent. One drop and you’re in.

and you’re PERSECUTING black men for having interest in other races. SHIT SOUNDS AWFUL FAMILIAR!!!!

^^^ excuse me???? Have you read all that Headcounter and all these other haing BLACK MEN SAID before calling us the new klansmen? we said EXACTLY what you said about iterracial dating (that we wouldn’t let a good man pass up because he’s white) except that we’re black women, and most of these black men here are mad AT US FOR HAVING INTEREST IN OTHER RACES. wtf are you talking about?? we are the ones being persecuted in this very topic, call Headcounter and his friends the new klansmen, not us.

@Bluenotes

The question was directed toward SISTAHS dating WHITE men. The question did not specify an other races.

As a sistah, in response to you dating women of other races:

Get it how you live, baby! It’s not that serious! We as adults are going to do as we please anyway…

As I do now.

Whoo! That was some interesting reading! And I’m glad to see that I made Headcounters little list, cuz he left me off the first one.

What can I say that Anon_Poster and Zadie haven’t already (beautifully and eloquently) said? They pretty much carried you, Headcase. Ouch.

My question to Headcase, Meatloaf, whatever other name this ass is posting under:

Why do you feel that the fact that there are 8 eligible black women for every 1 eligible black man (by eligible I mean not dead, in prison or gay, so you see I’m being very generous) is not reason enough to date outside our race? Clearly, if you have even the most elementary understanding of mathematics, you see that every black woman will not be able to marry a black man. So what of that? Should we just take one for the team and be lonely our entire lives?

(Before you answer, let me just guess that you are going to propose that we share men. Heads up: that idea is unrealistic, unhealthy and illegal)

BTW, no I am not bi-sexual.

ginger…you’re lamp is growing dim. You should keep it trimmed and burning. Nature intends for the ratio to be that way. More women! Do you remember The Parable of the Ten Virgins? You would be one of the five foolish ones. No game! Never prepared because you feel out numbered 8 to 1! Who’s to say that you couldn’t be the one. Yes, you sound like a “down low” sister! Go buy some oil and get back in the game.

And to you Zadie…yes, I believe Jesus will call a snake…a snake. The Bible gives the true meaning of a hoe and a hoe’munger! So, what’s your point, besides the limited background? “Now, get thee behind me serpent!”

I just saw Samuel Jackson and his beautiful black wife on the cover of this months Ebony magazine. Twenty-five years of good old fashion black love!

And, ya’ll need to cool it on that dating versus sex thing! Let’s make this clear: If you’re not interested in bumpin uglys, go to Oprah! This discussion is about the chase and the kill!!!

i am not taking a step back, i’m taking a step FORWARD.

guess what, in about 3000 years the human race will be mixed, there will be no preservation of one single race. i am mixed already and its not cause my mom or dad, my mother’s great-grandfather was a red-haired man from Ireland, my grandmother’s father was full-blooded Cherokee indian, my father’s great-great grandfather was a tribeman in the Congo.

Folks, let’s face facts…times are CHANGING.

I was born liking all KINDS of men, and I have a great father who was not only a strong black male role model, but a good man. He loves my mother unconditionally, provides for my sister and I and has always reminded me to be a strong black woman.

He doesn’t care about my white boyfriend - he wants me to have a good man and be well protected, which I am. I didn’t want a good WHITE man, I wanted a man.

Just before i met my BF, i was dating a man I thought was the ultimate in good black man material. he was a fit firefighter, lived in a nice neighborhood, drove a nice car, all that shit
i thought we were a match, i’m fit, pretty, educated, employed, etc…i cooked for him, he bought me dinner, we made out, then he never called me again and would only talk to me at the gym where we met. i will never know what happened, but all signs pointed to his attraction to me, but he was not willing to commit to anything more.

i’ve dated thugs, wiggers, project pats, mexicans, ex-cons, a french dude, a cop, a Sony CEO, addicts, nerds, geeks, etc…etc…etc…

I finally found someone who treats me like a human being, and a queen, who makes loves to me like he wants it and he not just busting a nut, who’s supported me through it all and doesn’t judge my past, i took a chance on him and its made me happier than i’ve ever been in life.

i answer and honor one black man and that’s my father. if its good enough for him, then i dont have to prove JACK SHIT to no body else. I’m so tired of hearing brothas talk about what WE’RE doing when you still have shit like BET Uncut on the air objectifying women and what not.

i can give a fuck about what any black man has to say or observe about me and my white bf.

as the great jigga says “Nigga respect the game, that should be it What you eat don’t make me shit - where’s the love? Where’s the love”?

cultured people understand women’s desire to explore and find LOVE, i can guarantee i had dreams of a beautiful black family and they were constantly dashed by men who treated me as if I was unworthy. now i see family. and that’s what we will have.

Black men are the most beautiful men in this world! Don’t get me wrong there are some lovely white men but I grew up watching the Cosby show and always wanted to have my own Rudy one day. I can only create this with a black man. I’m so on my way, I’m marrying a lovely, intelligent, tall, dark and handsome nubian prince on July 2nd 2006. I love you black men, keep you head up and be strong.

and re: ginger and the approach from white guys. my boyfriend approached me at a bar after he said he’d been staring at me all night. when he saw (or overheard) that i was leaving, he says he mustered up all the courage he could to say hi and offer his card. he was VERY shy and very nervous and after I sort of showed interest, his eyes lit up and tho I wasn’t convinced then, I walked away and he kneed me in the butt.i looked back TOTALLY thinking it was a black dude passing by who did it, and it was this shy nerdy little white boy smiling a coyly. he tells me now, he wasn’t ever gonna forget me had we never met again. and the only reason he kneed me was because he had to do something to get my attention so i’d at least be interested in talking to him.

that’s great anon, do for you. go head and have that Rudy you so desire.

This discussion is about the chase and the kill!!!

POSTED BY: Headcounter | March 9, 2006 05:39 PM

Or is it Headcase…
Ladies the man is obviously not sane.
He is obviously not stable

I’m on the Rejected Black female list? LMAO for real. My comment was made based on the fact that I’m disturbed with what’s going on within Black culture and media. Although I support dating within your own sex group or outside of your race, I do miss the historical essence of Black love and the PROUD Black man PROUD to be with a Black woman. There are a lot of ignorant and insecure men on this forum, especially those referring to a female as a Black Bitch. Do you have more of an extended vocabulary than curse words? Unfortunately, race will always matter. If it didn’t, there wouldn’t be 280+ posts on this race relation discussion. Race will always be a heated discussion becuz it is socially constructed. There are 1000’s of races and ethnic mixtures. There’s no right or wrong to anyones opinion. What’s true to you, is what’s true in your heart. As long as you follow your heart in life and love, you shouldn’t go wrong. Always remember, this race relation discussion is only an issue becuz we are making it an issue.

All I date is white men…..They really know how to treat sistas.

Just curious, it would be intersting to know…what part of the country/ies do these ladies who are open minded to date white/non-black, live. Maybe location, location, location, like real estate, affects all of our opportunities and choices………

lala (2)
Desmon
taco
artgyrl
lamorenaekobe
Lisa
C. Hollis
Anonymosus.Poster (several)
JK
Ke Ke
Bobby.Pins
Veronica
Penny Woods
Alexis
Essence
e-ka
Gracie
Angela
Leslie
takeitoutside.BITCH
boyer
Ethipoian Princess
lemure
dee dee
rachel
pepper
monica
LOVELY
Mssnay
Shannon
J-MAMI
private dancer
calichick
lafemmenikita
Javier ;(
kimmie
RockMusicDiva
im not her
thandi
rastalove
ginger
any’lldo
SlimKim - POLR
she’s clever
missmee
dmac
dee dee again
EM kow
Confussed08
letinian
sure
inaccessible
Monique
Evie E.
mizphattycake
Original Sindee (at your request)
Miss Diva
t
untitleeme
wo
CoCoBunny
Yellie
Setsunna
BlueNotes
Bombshell
Free
questioneverything
Bella
Menina21
she’s not clever

I love all men! BLk men sometimes lame and Wht Men are lame sometimes. Men are men Please!!!! It doesnt matter what color you are! Men will treat you bad!!!!! Some white men have big cock as well as Blk men! Some blk men have little cock as well as whit men!!! Let me ask this people! IS GOD going to judge you because of your color?????? GOD will judge for your SIN! Shit!!!! its the same in the bedroom and when lights is out. Whatever float your boat. Do you paid my taxes? HELL NO! SO I CAN DATE WHO I WANT TO DATE!!!!!!

Okay CocoBunny…White bitches! Asian bitches! Gay bitches! Male bitches! Now, does that make you feel equal. The strong words (bitch and hoe) only serve to interupt some of the sellout pride.

Words can’t change who you are, but if you’re like kow, who said she’s been with thugs, wiggers, project pats, mexicans, ex-cons, a french dude, a cop, a Sony CEO, addicts, nerds, geeks, etc…etc…etc…, well then, I smell a bitch and a hoe! No wonder she can’t keep a man! That mixed background has her all screwed up!

Again, wineing and dineing a grown azz woman for the purpose of friendship is straight up goldigging. If he’s not trying to get none and she’s not ever gonna give him any, what’s the point in dating? That $#IT gets old!

kow…I’ll bet some cave woman said the same thing 3000 years ago that you’re saying now! White people will make sure that the pot doesn’t melt all that chocolate. There has been preservation of race for thousands of years already and the decendants of HAM are still as obvious as they were when Moses died.

Speaking of caveman $#IT, kow, you need to stay out of them bars. Sound like a real D-spot where the men knee the women in the azz to start the chase. What will I get if I come there and lick the back of your neck or piss on your chair leg?

CoCoBunny…either piss or get off the pot. I hope your man will talk to you about your vacillating azz. I bet he comes home and get drunk every night to keep from hearing you! Now, what hurt more, the word “bitch” or the truth?

Experiencing a new race or culture doesn’t mean you are giving up on your race or dispise your people. It just means you embrace the option of choice and freedom. Who would be so ignorant to claim that Black women started interracial relations during slavery? Black women were RAPED and held beyond their will by White men while Black men were sent to jail and hung for DELIBERATE eyeing and romancing of White women. Know your history.

@headcounter – point of clarification, nowhere in the Bible did Jesus or any other person refer to another as a “hoe” as the word is commonly used in popular culture, or define the word hoe as you so state. i only point that out to show YOUR limited knowledge of the Bible, because really, it’s irrelevant to the present dialogue. now, if you want to argue this point, please point me to the specific passage in the Bible. further, if you’re going to quote the Bible, the correct quotation is “get thee behind me, satan” or “get behind me, satan.” i will say it is ironic–although i know you did not mean it to be such since i highly doubt that you have the mental capacity to truly understand irony–that you would attempt to quote a passage from the Bible that ends “…You are a stumbling block to me, you do not have in mind the things of God….” this verse sums up your posts to this forum. many people have posted divergent views without being overtly nasty or hateful. it’s sad that instead of trying to have an honest discourse about this topic, you have resorted to using hate to support your argument (hopefully, you can pick up on my sarcasm).

and really, the fact that you read my entire post and could not find my point is indicative of your ignorance, not mine. further, that you would pick such a minute point and attempt to point out my ignorance is laughable. you did not answer any of my questions. likewise, you did not answer the other individuals who challenged your idiotic ramblings. so again, if you want to respond to me, please make sure your response is actually responsive to my post. calling me a lesbian, a bitch, a hoe or a serpent does nothing for your argument. regurgitating the same old sorry nonsense only shows how small minded and ill-equipped you are to actually debate the topic in a sensible, coherent manner. i would say i expected more, but really, i knew if you responded to me at all your response would be poorly argued and irrelevant.

“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned as a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.” I Corinthians 13:11 (since you want to quote the Bible)

@Headcounter

I am from Louisiana and currently live in ATLANTA where there are LOTS of Sistas dating WHITE MEN so I don’t know where u get this “Atlanta sista keep it real” stuff. Yeah, we keep it real we know there is more out there than the playas, baby daddies and down low brothas(which Atlanta HAS a LOT OF). Are you married to a sista? Are you taking care of multiple children??? Are you in a COMITTED relationship?? “The history of segregation has taken a heavy toll on the black family” NEGATIVE!! …Instead of continually trying to BRING us down why don’t you reach out in the community to our young brothers and sisters where it COUNTS!!

preach sista zadie, preach…

I think that hit the nail on the head…some of the men in our community have not grown up

my little girl’s daddy is white

SomeBalance.

I’m a hoe, you’re a hoe.

I said DATED not slept, fucked, sucked, licked, kissed or 69′d, you are UNEDUCATED and obnoxious.

I dont give a damn about your forgotten black men list, forget me then! Keep on forgetting me, and leave me off your christmas list and don’t invite me over for sunday dinner and keep on…GET OVER IT.

and my mixed background doesn’t have me messed up, I know who I am, a black woman. Free to do whatever I want. Thank you very much.

And i was born and raised in the very liberal, very melting pot of San Francisco, California.

So blah blah blah blah, yap, yap, yap, what do YOU bring to the table, cause my man makes over $100k a year and so do I doing what we love, we ain’t hardly worried about it. Look, act, tsk, roll your eyes till they fall out the back of your head, DONT CARE DONT CARE DONT CARE.

I dont even get MAD, i am not tryna be no Erykah Badu OR Lauryn Hill cause both their STRONG BLACK BROTHAS left them for non BLACK WOMEN.

I’ll do my Raj laugh then I’m out.

And its WINING and DINING.

less time on internet, more time in a classroom.

757Dyme and LoveWhiteMen. I agree with you guys. I don’t think that’s the issue is about skin color, its about a mans appreciation of a woman and Black women are getting left behind in that appreciation.
Sombalance: I’m 27. I know why people use curse words. Bitch and Hoe give a stronger emphasis to what you’re trying to say. I never claim to be offended by any of those words becuz I know my worth. Neither bitch or your truth hurts because your just speaking from your ass and not an intellectual mind. Everything you said was childish. Next time come strong with a valid point.

here here!

black women are not seen as objects of beauty by some (alot of their) own men. not to mention there are few leading black actresses, and look, I can take or leave Halle, and we could go on and on.

coco - i agree with you, no one here is selling out and giving up on the black man. i just met a man who happens to be white that loves me. for who i am. not for sweet black p**sy, not cause he’s trying to be down, we just love seeing each other and making each other happy.

i had a black boyfriend who resented my job, resented my car, resented my lifestyle, resented ME for resenting his shitty nasty living situation, his inability to keep a job, he didn’t and wouldn’t get a car, needed me to pick him up and take him everywhere, skipped OUT on my birthday dinner cause he didn’t like my friends and made me buy him clothes when i bought a watch cause he felt left out.

granted i was young and dumb, but DAT NIGGA WAS WRONG and its that ATTITUDE that STILL EXISTS TO THIS DAY I DONT LIKE TRIFLING MEN WHETHER YOU ARE YELLOW, GREEN, ORANGE, BLACK OR WHITE.

sorry for yelling

KOW
a/k/a Member of the Forgotten

“Person with closed mind should keep mouth in same condition.”

zadie…I do get your sarcasm, which means you got mine too. So, stop pretending to be in denial and talking that “ironic” bull. You caught every drift. Satan was a serpent! A snake! Served!!

And, the bible does talk about hoes and hoe-mungers! And yes, your inner thighs reek of saliva! Served!!

KoKo Bunny…we’re trying to have at least a Junior High School level discussion here…will you please get some help from mommy! At least now you’re admitting that black men weren’t the first to start this $#IT! You know very little history and I’m beginning to think you really are a bitch!

kow…Don’t be raising yo damn voice at me! I’ll come through this computer and knee you in the azz! Nevermind, because that would make you fall in love with me! Served!!

And, what makes you think, kow that yo black stank-stank is sweet? Remember, you’ve been with a lot of men, girlfriend…so there’s no telling what’s lodged up there! Oh, I mean “dated” lots of men! Right! No hoe kow! What a pretty name! You’re still young and dumb! Served!!

Here’s your scenario kow…white women gets tired of white men with small jimmies, so white women turns to black men with big jimmie, leaving white men out in the cold until along comes a black women in need of spare change willing to let him resume oral pleasure. I bet this works for you! Served!!

questioneverything…the sisters in Atlanta who date white men are all listed on the sellout list. Those bitches can’t come out of the house at night. Still being used by Massah! They sure don’t attend church with Eddie Long. Served!!

“my little girl’s daddy is white” Hahahahahaha! Anon, will you please get fixed! You’re a baby-mamma-drama in training! Served!!

lala…”gold diggers with bad credit should keep leaking condoms!” Bill Gates wouldn’t have yo black azz!! Served!!

What happened to ginger’s dumb out-numbered azz? Foolish virgin! Served!!

^ I like that. Are you listening Headcase?

BTW, as I suspected, you didn’t answer my question intelligently. You overreligious types always use GOD as a cop-out to any question that requires more critical-thinking ability than you have. Shows how much actual respect you have for Him, doesn’t it?

So it was meant be that way, huh? I’m sure women of other ethnicities outnumber their men, but the ratio isn’t SO lopsided that for every happy marriage, 7 women (and 0 men) must resign themselves to being lonely. Can’t you see that that simply isn’t fair? I guarantee if it was the other way around (7 men going lonely for every happy marriage), you’re position would be completely reversed. And, while we’re on the subjuect, someone asked you if you spewed as much vitriolic venom for black men who date outside their race. I noticed you’ve conveniently avoided the question. Don’t be a coward; expose your hypocrisy for the world to see.

People we ARE all MIXED–check your grandparents! I went out(briefly) with a doctor I work with. He grew up in an all White neighborhood, went to all White schools, went to Harvard, played Cricket and his favorite band is RADIOHEAD?? But guess what–HE IS BLACK and besides our brown skin, WE HAD NOTHING IN COMON! So people who preach about similar culture being Black need to recognize that WE were not all brought up sharing the similar experiences, listening to Al Green at the family reunion!

People we ARE all MIXED–check your grandparents! I went out(briefly) with a doctor I work with. He grew up in an all White neighborhood, went to all White schools, went to Harvard, played Cricket and his favorite band is RADIOHEAD?? But guess what–HE IS BLACK and besides our brown skin, WE HAD NOTHING IN COMMON! So people who preach about similar culture being Black need to recognize that WE were not all brought up sharing the similar experiences, listening to Al Green at the family reunion!

@BitchesServed–what a nice name for you! I hope your mamma and em is proud for calling her sistas–BITCHES!!
What do u call all the BLACK MEN who are trying to play multiple women, on the DL, spreading HIV in our communities, NOT taking care of their children??? Did “Massa” use them as well?
I think you can leave Eddie Long out of this–he has enough controversy going on at his church as it is!!

Bitchesserved:

Damn, did you miss me or what? Too bad, I already have a man. Besides, I value intelligence in my men and you’ve made it more than clear that you have NONE. So, no thanks.

Oh, and boo, please don’t get excited because the “I like that” was NOT directed at you and your idiotic ramblings. I was referring to lala’s quotation. You need to take that under advisement.

DAMN!!! And they say “being bitter and catty” are females traits? lmao!!! this only the consequence of black men’s discrimination AGAINST their own women (aka dating white only), some of them don’t discriminate but MOST black men with white women do because they stereotype and degrade their own women (and mothers in the process). they start dating them once they’re successful cause white women are considered the ULTIMATE symbol of success.

there are LESS men than women in the world, and to top it off, LESS black men for black women since most of them gave up on us a long time ago for the blonde haired blue eyed Becky. black men don’t MARRY black women anymore so what are we supposed to do? stay single for the rest of our lives? stay by thugs side no matter what and how many times he goes in and out of jail? not gonna happen. i don’t discriminate anymore, doesn’t mean i’m giving up on black men, but if a white man can make me happy and fullfil my every need then i’ll love him unconditionally.

btw, there’s this white dude i know who’s getting fresh with me , i’ma give him a chance cause he’s really nice and patient the old fashion way. fuck dat!

yes i would, aint nuttin wrong wit whitw men
its still a man, they have feelings. y not
plus, when ur in love it doesn;t matter what the race is

Ginger…Lions were created to dish it out…not to take it! And, I ought to pimp slap you for asking, “Can’t you see that that simply isn’t fair?” What isn’t fair is you women who have no game! You’ll try anything? Even dumb $#IT, like bi! You’re enigmatic! The foolish virgins even asked the others to sell them some of their oil! Come on Ginger…wise up, honey! I don’t want to lose you, and you know you met your match! Served!!

questioneverything…I don’t know where to begin with you…can you at least explain your point about the Harvard dude? And, yo black as might be mixed, but guess what? You still 8%! So, you agree with Bill Cosby that black men are on crack and in jail! Eddie Long is a Lion! Served!! You crazy women created that monster! I was talking about the church…congregation…in Atlanta…Black folks! Served!!

Anon…you probably can’t get a man, because you need a makeover or you have no game. Which is it! Most of the womeno on the sellout list have said things that let me know what they’re troubles are. No skills! No game! No chase! Served!!!

Ya’ll don’t know what you’re doing! “Getting fresh with me”!!! Hahahahahaha! Anon, does “old fashion” mean he spends old fashion money on you? You’z a Trick!

And, you asked me to stop using the B word, so I’ll just say…Served!!

ljjmami…get a puppy!

Ladies, I think everyone needs to stop engaging this guy. I believe he’s just trolling for a flame war. Nothing you say will convince him because he’s not willing to engage in a rational discussion. I believe he just wants to spew his deep seated hatred towards black women. I don’t know what his mother or some trick did to him, but don’t allow him to use you to vent his on self loathing rage.

He’s spent far too much time on here. This heat is coming from something deep. Gay maybe? Sounds like he’s an undercover and trying to fight it. He’s probably jealous that we can openly date men period…

to add to my comment: all this yelling and arguing and hostility, he’s throwing better tantrums than any woman on here ever could…something’s not right about that

Shut-up lemure…I have no deep seated hatred towards black women…only the ones who sellout and tricks who sleep around with, how did you say, “a fair share of the rainbow including more than a few white men. Plenty actually,…” Trick! Trick! Trick! You a trick, lemure! Face it! You might not like tiny white lips, but you sure don’t mind having your tiny lips salivated on! Are you bi or ashame to admit it? Served!!

And she’s not clever…why you worried about how I spend my time? I’m not jealous, I’m pissed at you sellouts. When a strange foreigner inters the pride, it’s the lions responsibility to run him off and shut the tricks down. Ya’ll don’t know any better! But, maybe just maybe, I can’t help some other young sister who’s considering ya’lls mess! Don’t do it, because brothers don’t like that $#IT! Served!!

You like that tantrum?

bitches served…

what are you even talking about. that whole diatribe
(do you know what that means? look it up.) was hilarious.

you got my scenario down pat, thank you for telling me about me…ok, here’s your scenario…

black man with small penis, irritated that black women don’t even want his AZZZZZZZ goes online to join debate, what with all his free time mostly spent jacking off and fingering his AZZ hole…spits close minded opinion (of course MY BROTHA to EACH his own) and chastises (look it up!) women ( a subject in which he’s quite limited) for making the best choice for them. he also spends most of his time, trying to figure out how to pull a Copperfield (Wiki that) so they won’t focus on the size of his miniscule (too hard?) tiny, penis. It doesn’t bother me that you call me a hoe, or a bitch, or whatever.

And when you do come through the computer — and let me know when they’ll make that possible — I’ma be right here to shank yo’ ass.

Study up.

You make me laugh.

KOW

I have and will date several different races. I mean if the look good they look good…No matter what race they are. My longest realtionship was with a white. My second longeat was with a black man….I personally think there is much of a difference betwwen the races…There good Men and Dogs in all races.

There’s nothing wrong with a healthy debate if you have some facts or statistics to back up your point. But most of the males in here that keep on commenting are just arguing nonsense. They can’t seem to answer any real question that me and questioneverything has posted about the dying breed of Black men due to HIV, AIDS, The DL, prison, and drugs, which is a realistic reason why some Black women are keeping their options open. And if you’re waiting for a “chaise” with all these statistics, then let a non Black female take our place and become the highest rising rates of HIV. Unless any of you men can say something intelligent and not just go down a list and insult a female, then I’ve said my peace.

“And, I ought to pimp slap you for asking,”

…Damn I knew it….I had a feeling Headcase was a pimp…
he just sounds like that foolish ‘pastor pimp’ who posted on the 3 6 Mafia/Oscar thread. There was a refernce to his website. Pimping and Jesus in the same sentence? And you say we need Jesus? LOL

He mentions bitches and hoes and, slap you, and the GAME to often…just like to typical pimp.

Walks like a duck, quacks like a duck….

Just some evidence why I know he is a pimp…
Take a look at his woman hating, PIMP terminology…..

..Trick! Trick! Trick! You a trick,
..and shut the tricks down.
..You’zaTrick
..Lions were created to dish it out…not to take it! And, I ought to pimp slap you for asking,
..you women who have no game!
..No skills! No game! No chase!
..Those bitches can’t come out of the house at night.
..I smell a bitch and a hoe!
..it’s just a game of chase.

Your retorts indicate a lack of reasoning ability. All you do is hurl insults and curse the last refuge of the truly ignorant.

So very angry, yep, someone did you wrong. Sorry dude, as for the other insults you hurled my way, I know and have respect for myself.

And if you think all dating equals f**king, maybe you’re the hoe because you definitely have the low self esteem that hoes do.

I also notice you’ve responded to my last post, but STILL haven’t responded to my questions about whether you have the same anger towards Black MEN who date white women.

I’m starting to find this all highly comical!

I guess we have our answer ladies.

lemure…I did answer your question, “lions were created to dish it out, not to take it! You just so slow, I hate talking to yo azzz! No game! Served!!

Shut up lala…you’re losing it! Walks like a lesbo, laps like a lesbo… You just need to find you a good black man, fix his plate and give him his big piece of chicken, because you will never be able to fit the pieces. And, stop studying my flow…Nioggah! You don’t like the words bitch and hoe, so out of respect for you, I called you a trick! Served!!

KooKooBunny…I don’t know where you live, but in my city there are plenty of healthy, hardworking, straight, drugfree brothers. Many are married and many more looking for black women who keep it real. Not gold diggers or psychos! Served!!

nikkis21, I don’t think you meant what you said! Please repost or I will assume that you meant to say, “there is NOT much of a difference betwwen the races”. If so, I disagree with you and suggest that you seek help with the chase! Served!!

And kow…kow, kow, kow! You a nasty little trick! But, I’m starting to like you, because sound a little freaky! Or, in your case a big freak! Knees to the azz! Fingers in the azz! Sleeping with many men…don’t lie, you know you have! How did you get this way, Boo?

You must have been raised by wolves. I’m glad tricking don’t bother you, because honey, you and lemure are the queens on this page. No wonder you can’t keep a man! We can sense all the baggage!

Here’s the game…we don’t fall in love with the tricks! That’s against the rules! I’ll bet we’ll hear more about Jamie and Megan, if she’s not giving off trick vibes. I predict that Mr. Unpredictable will marry her, if she’s not tricked out! kow, you need a black man to match all that juice in your flow…! Tell the truth! Served!!

“Here’s the game…we don’t fall in love with the tricks! That’s against the rules! ”

Yup the rules in your pimp handbook….

“And, stop studying my flow…”
You just mad because I called you out. LOL. Truth hurts dont it. Your criminal pimp ass knows that your behaviour is exactly where the problem lies in our community.
You are not part of the solution but part of problem.

Look at his writing style in the other thread, truth dont lie

You’zaTrick

You would bring up a DL brotha like Jamie–He doin’t want what Megan got!!

You’zaTrick

You would bring up a DL brotha like Jamie–He doin’t want what Megan got!!

You’zaTrick

You would bring up a DL brotha like Jamie–He doin’t want what Megan got!!

Here is this fools other thread from 3 6 Mafia/Oscar win.

Listen to his women hating, running in circles going no where dialogue, pimp promoting (check the website he listed) rant and his hatred towards black women.
Sounds to familar eh?……..

“Ah, Yes, It really IS hard out here for a PIMP.

Here it is, something MORE for you to hate.
http://www.pimphop.com
Time really IS money, so Ill make this breif.

Blah Blah Blah,
Now for the TRUTH.
People, especially BLACK WOMEN tend to have such a BIG PROBLEM with Black Men and the word PIMP, calling it Negative.

BUT>>>>>
Bet you WILL see them all line up to see
Tyler Perry Dress up like a Woman, oh how they LOVE THAT shit.Also love Martin Lawrence playin BIG MOMMA.Also Love Terry Mcmillian, when she told her story about How STELLA GOT HER GROOVE BACK, only to realize the TRUE FACT, that her lover was a D.L. brother.

So, I suggest you look just a LIL more closer to what it is yall righteous black sisters are REALLY tryin to say.Besides, in the movie”It WAS JUST A MOVIE” he,TERRANCE HOWARD had a WHITE GIRL out there gettin it, and THATS what they nominated for an OSCAR.

Maybe they CAN nominate Kanye for the next oscar, because even HE had to put it in a Video bout how yall be sassin talkin Bout’WHEN HE GET ON HE GONE LEAVE YO ASS FOR A WHITE GIRL” wonder why??

To the sistas Congratulatin the 3 6 Mafia.
Its some sistas BEHIND the scenes that made the happin and got PAID from them rappin.Insider Info.

O yeah, almost forgot about the Good Lord Jesus Christ.
Its only ONE KINDA MAN I KNOW, that would tell a woman that “THOU ART LOOSED” thats definately what yall need, to be LOOSED.

S2thaP
Keepin it P
till
3003

POSTED BY: S2thaP | March 6, 2006 05:43 PM ”

Did you like being served in jail…
LOL

You’zaTrick

You would bring up a DL brotha like Jamie–He doin’t want what Megan got!!

You are the highlight of my day! This is certainly the most entertaining language I’ve ever seen!

Thanks for giving us a crash course in the language of misogynistpigs. Keep a man? Lions dish it out? So its okay for Black men to go the white way but not a Black woman? Ah the hypocrisy, you look for the speck in your neighbor’s eye but not the log in your own.

ROTFLMAO

It takes a really weak man to be so threatened by having a woman as his true and equal partner.

Yes, I’m tired of talking to you as well, your ignorance and ghetto pimp vocabulary gives me a headache.

Good night ladies! Have a lovely weekend.

You’zaTrick

You would bring up a DL brotha like Jamie–He doin’t want what Megan got!!

You’zaTrick

You would bring up a DL brotha like Jamie–He doin’t want what Megan got!!

Headcounter/You’zatrick (that’s exactly what YOU are)/BitchesServed :

Insults is the language for IDIOTS. Please quit perpetuating the stereotype that black men can’t speak decently and have a conversation with a minimum of respect and intelligence. You’re calling women here bitches when you’re the one bitching about something you can’t change anyway. YES I’ll date any man that can make me happy INCLUDING white men. Get over it! It ain’t our fault your girl left your BITTER ASS for a white man.

lala…you crazy as hell! I didn’t write that stuff. I hope you didn’t waste a lot of time cutNpaste. You’re the kind of psycho trick who sit outside a nioggas apartment waiting for clues. I don’t even know who 3-6 is, other than when the name appeared on this site after the Oscars. I told you to get off my flow cause you appearently went back on this blog to find my post…but none of that stuff you just posted.

Only Angel La can go back and verify that I didn’t write that $#IT, and I wish she would! You’re a witch on a hunt. A VooDoo woman without any black magic. A trick! A wounded black female! As soon as you’re ready, I’ll start telling what you can do to overcome your misery! Cause, you one silly woman! But, you have to already know that. Served!!

You’zaTrick

You would bring up a DL brotha like Jamie–He doin’t want what Megan got!!

Anon…”any man that can make me happy”! Hahahaha! What about “any man that can make you shut the hell up?”

And, what about the insults of 70 tricks coming on this black entertainment site admitting that they screw white men? I’m the one insulted…Trick!!! Now, don’t get me started on you! And, yes I can change it…kow and lemure are already having second thoughts. Served!!

He keeps saying I can’t KEEP a man when I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year. All that hate, just bottled up, unloading over a computer…

Your jabs and pokes are wack and weary.

And if you are worried about protecting your pride,
guess what, you don’t OWN any of us…I am not property, so who’s the massa’ now?

And yes, go talk to KANYE about PAM. He gon’ go head and put the biggest HOE in the industry in his VIDEO. his VIDEO! I don’t even want to talk about that….I could give a damn if the heffa is white, lets talk about her having an STD, and a sex tape. Ewwwwwwwwwwww………

You’re the one who’s raised by wolves, cause all you’ve done on here is hunt, target and ATTACK.
You don’t have an intelligence (i’m using that in the right context too, boo — really trying to learn you since you ain’t go no sense) to back up your statements and the only reason I like engaging with you, is of the reminder why black women are trying something new, cause of a black men like you.

This is healthy debate, opinions offered and accepted, but you need to see the glass, half-full and half-empty, like your comments, more like half-full of shit, half-empty of intelligence.

Big dummy.

I’m glad you think I’m a freak, and a hoe, boy if you only knew who you were playing with.

anon 5:42, thanks for injection some non crazy

And one4 blah blah, 2nd thoughts? Shoot, I’ll go out with Norwegian right now just to spite you! I just said I don’t know if I’ll marry a white man, but that’s my personal decision based on my experiences, but I applaud those that found a man that suits them. Hell if I met a bunch of black men like you, I wouldn’t marry one either! Fortunately I haven’t, praise the Lord.

That dude is EXACTLY the type of imbecile I wouldn’t give the time of the day.

You’zaTrick
I know you don’t know where to begin with me, with your lack of intelligence–you WOULDN’T stand a CHANCE!! If you read my post I said ALL OF US ARE MIXED–that means ur crazy ass a well. There is NO pure race. The post about the man from Harvard was to prove that just because he was Black, educated and in my field-did NOT make us a match. We only shared the same skin color!Nothing in common! I live in Atlanta and I know very well who Eddie Long is and I definitely will leave that subject alone

Sounds like the same guy to me, too many similarities in the way they think. And if its not, oh no there are 2 ASSHOLES like this in the world. Help us.

Sounds like the same guy to me, too many similarities in the way they think. And if its not, oh no there are 2 ASSHOLES like this in the world. Help us.

I don’t have a problem with black women dating outside their race, but do it for the right reasons. Not because you are feed up with the black male. Date someone of a different race because you are attracted to them and they make you happy. I only think it’s bad when a black women will only date white men.

@Blkmanhere

Your comment was intelligent, coherent and without hate-Thank you.

Can I get your number? (Just kidding:)

But really-thanks

I totally agree with your comments.
I too have a problem with people who exclusively date outside of their race

blkmanhere–thank you, you sound like an intelligent educated person.

I dont date exclusively, I’ll give anybody the time of day if they show interest, but its up to me to decide if I want to take it further - vice versa.

That’s why You’za Trick//He’zignant is so caught up!
He wants to be the superior being, he’s clearly trippin.

I’ve said it before, I love my man and he never stops showing me how much he loves me, and black white puerto rican or asian, It wouldnt matter as long as they stayed consistant and true.

The best relationship of my life is with a woman that happens to be a woman of color. I’m certainly glad that she wanted this white boy.

Well happy, loving interracial relationships…
Thank goodness some people have open minds

@ blkmanhere : thank you my brother for your INTELLIGENT post, that’s exactly what I think about interracial relationships whether it’s a black man with a non-black woman or a black woman with a non-black man. date whoever you want to, but don’t degrade and stereotype your OWN race to explain your choice. The only reason should be LOVE.

id said way earlier that im open to dating anyone. just wanted to comment about that whole “black men get me better thing”. for me thats a yes and no. obviously theyres going to be come cultural/historical stuff that were just on the same page about. but what about a black guy who grew up wealthy as hell, or a bryant gumbel type, a republican, a muslim, or someone into the ghetto asthetic? none of that i can relate to- it might be ok for dating, but for marriage, those differences might become problematic. no single other person is going to completely get me, but my personality is composed of so many experiences, beliefs and interests, that someone can feel and few, and not a few of the others, so that race does or does not have to be one of those things we have in common. did that make sense, lol? but i understand that i grew up with a family strong in our culture/history but open to others, not prejudiced towards interratial relationships and often living in very multicultural environment; i also have interests that aren’t traditionally associated with black people (mostly the kinds of sports and music im into). because not everyones like that and for other reasons people choose not to date outside their race and i respect that choice.

the one predjudice i will admit to however is that i DONT want to have biracial/mulitracial kids because i feel like when a lot of black people are doing positive things in society you look closer and theyre not fully black. our society is stagnant if not in decline and i want to raise the kinds of BLACK men and women i wish i saw more often!

what a shame to read this

When i think that afro-american are ours models !! damn !!!

you need to disrepect black men to justify your choice ? so I think it’s because you maybe have a racial stereotypes in your head and a complexe to white men tha’s you see like a GOD

sad thing. Slavery did good job on some of them

Read french author frantz fanon ” black mask,white mask ” and i see many many mayotte capecia’ daughter

but did you know something but fifty cent ?

lol

i get out of here

^ didn’t nobody STEREOTYPE black men here. we said we wouldn’t discriminate, not that we would date WHITE exclusively.

quote :
ALL OUR BLACK MEN SEEM TO LOVE THE WHITE WOMEN AND THE UGLY ONES AT THAT. SO WHY CANT A BLACK WOMAN LOVE A WHITE MAN. SHIT THE BLK MEN GET MONEY AND GET WHITE. SO ANYWAY I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A NEGRO-WHITE BOY.AND A LOT OF NIGGAS AROUND MY WAY WAS HATIN ESP WHEN I WAS CARRYING HIS BABY. HA

POSTED BY: LOVELY | March 7, 2006 12:05 PM

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tell me why lovely take black men as reference to do something that she désires to do ?

date a white men because black men do ? what that mf bulls*** ? You do something in reaction from another ?

If black men become gay, black woman will becomme too ? lmao

You are all hypocrits ! in fact white is your fixation as say a french reference from west indies : Frantz Fanon. that men destroy all your hypocrisy with his book and I’m mad to see that what he use to talk still exist !

When I think that we in france take you as reference ! what a shame

never see a minority like black community sharing their live with old, rich, fat or bald white men only for for ” lactification ”

let me joke

Be honest and say : I prefer white men but stop using stupid pretexts.

Black people ( man and woman )make me sick with this inferiority complex;

Why white people don’t pass their time to blame themsels as do Wesley Snipes ? Why ?

I suppose that a white man who read this pathetic topic should be very very very pride to see how the so-called black people still in mental slavery. He can chasing anyone of this modern ” mayotte Capecia ”

10 or 15% of america population but one obsession : white white white !!! exogamy is a religion ! white white white !!!!

“If white men threat me good ” : wf ?

some of Black people are closed in inferiority complex, poverty, gang, prison but what black people think about ? dating white men !! their turn they back to ours problems and become totaly
( mentaly ) white. Arrogant like them, individualist, think only to them f*** face.

stop to take fake and ridiculous alibi and be honest : you prefer to have a date with a man who are THE reference of the world. Reference of beauty, intelligence. that’s all !!

and white men and white women know about that

^ that was just ONE poster, and that’s the only negative thing you REMEMBER? how about the vast majority who just talked about “no discrimination, black, white, asian, love is what matters”??? i don’t “prefer” white men, i prefer what looks like me in other words black men. but if the love of my life happens to be white am I supposed to refuse that real love? does that mean in was my “preference”? please! you don’t choose love, love chooses you.

Talk about hypocrisy. Wesley Snipes was the one shitting on black women FIRST. Black rappers started shitting on us FIRST. The VAST MAJORITY of black/white couples are black men + white women. yall started that shit. Ask Tiger Woods, Sydney Poitier, Taye Diggs, Cuba Goodring Junior, Christian Karembeu and Thierry Henry (yeah I know some french sportsmen), Quincy Jones, and the list goes on. you already know!

@blackman in france

If you take America as a reference or as models, then you should have had a black newscaster on your version of the evening news years ago and not as recently as France just announced. Is France arrogant?

Black women here were asked ‘would you date a white guy’..not ‘do you prefer a white guy’.

I say again: women of all races/nationalites are told to ’shut up, move on and get over it’ when the men are with different races but the men do not like it when the women do the same.

It’s funny how BLACK MEN started blaming US SISTAS to explain why they date out of their race, but when one sista does it we’re ALL hypocrits?? most of us said we don’t discriminate, most of us didn’t even blame yall but we ALL are hypocrits? why ain’t you calling the black brothers who been blaming us for too damn long hypocrits to begin with? ain’t that some hypocritical selective memory shit? if that aint the pot calling the kettle black.

i thought “black man in france” wrote ‘i get out of here’ in his first post?! practice what you preach.

*** Yes I have & I would again if the looks, $ and personality are in check. Hell Yes. ***

A: black man in France-

J’ai deux questionne pour toi:

1. Le réalité et toi, vous ne vous entendez pas, nést-ce pas?

2. On t’a bercé trop près du mur?

Vous semblez ignorant et rude. S’il te plaît, tais-toi!!!

Merci beaucoup.

afemmenikita

tu parles français ? très bien je vais pouvoir mieux m’exprimer

il semble que les noirs us sont des references pour nous les français grace a ce que vous avez fait : ebony, betv, votre dynamisme etc… Or l’on voit que vous avez exactement la même mentalité d’aliénés que nous les blacks de france

je trouve consternant les post que je lis ici.

la manière que vous avez de ne pas assumez vos envies de blancs et d’aller vous cacher derrière l’excuse bidon des ” hommes qui font pareils ” est une totale hypocrisie

Black woman is the first to run after white man during slavery and after. remember this.

there is a lot of female with dignity who was raped but also bit*** named “creole” like in new orleans who was just stupid and materialist woman.

so stop to say nonsense. you never put your feet on school or what ? damn

certainely are you stupid kids of 14 or 18 but it’s sad

en résumé : ne me traite pas d’ignorant quand les seuls arguments stupides que tu sors sont de savoir si j’ai été bercé trop près du lit. je suis bien plus cultivé que toi, pauvre americaine stupide ,matérialiste et complexée

I repeat that Black men who live in the hood and run away from black woman when they become billionnaires in dating exclusively white woman are sell out too

same treatment : inferiority complex

when your get rich you want a big car, a big house in BH and a white girl ? You have a problem

YOU HAVE A BIG PROBLEM

i hope you are no representative of Black amerika : white diggers and nothing else

quote :
It’s funny how BLACK MEN started blaming US SISTAS to explain why they date out of their race, but when one sista does it we’re ALL hypocrits?? most of us said we don’t discriminate, most of us didn’t even blame yall but we ALL are hypocrits? why ain’t you calling the black brothers who been blaming us for too damn long hypocrits to begin with? ain’t that some hypocritical selective memory shit? if that aint the pot calling the kettle black.

POSTED BY: *ANONYMOUS_POSTER* | March 11, 2006 03:43 PM

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my reaction is about what I read here an this is black women who talk

did u read the title ? would you date a white guy

Why is it wrong to date a WHITE guy?

I not gonna be one of the 42.4%. Sistas can be that if they want to, but count me out. lol!
POSTED BY: *ANONYMOUS_POSTER* | December 1, 2005 06:39 PM

I agree with this sista

Hey does anyone know of any interracial dating websites. It seems I am missing out.
I need to broden my horizons

Hey VINCE tell me about yourself

“I’m white and I’m glad there’s dark kinned ladies who actually will not limit themselves in relationships.

POSTED BY: Vince | March 7, 2006 05:08 AM “

who are you ? why do you stay anonymous ?

Are you black ? If you are, I think your question is a joke. Cause if you don’t know what is the problem in the black communities around the western world, sorry but I’m not gonna lose my time with you. read books about it.

Are you white ? so you if you are, I should think that you’re just a racism exploitor - not a racist but a racism exploitor.

You exploit the complexe of black people to consolidate your supremacy and your mental and sexual exploitation on dark and brown peoples of the world, to consolidate too your arrogance and your smallness.

wanna know why we, as a victim of your racism, we know what is the reality of racism : self-hatred, inferiority complex, shame, alienation etc…

Why, when so-called “non racist” white men, talk about racism they don’t see this parameter ? cause it arrange you. oyeahh you love stupid black people who see you as GOD itself.

Why when black people of so-called ” new generation ” are just complexed and fell inferior of white men you call them “model of black and white unity ” ?

Black and white unity it’s to become a stupid white digger and a hypocrite like all these girls who throw bs saying that ” black do too ” ?

we can not be intelligent and worthy ? We can not respect our dignity and be open too ? be Open it’s to be a sell out ?

Always give a head ? always act like this stupid girls here, some loosers who reinforce racial stereotypes on us to your eyes ?

And you laugh ? You feel great and large ? and you talk me about ” why is wrong to date a white male ” when I’m talk about other shit ?

Can I know how old are you all ? 12, 16 or 18 ?

Virgil

Virgil,

Dont you have a lot racial tensions in France at the moment?
I wonder why? Too many closed minds.
BTW I am black, female, 30’s
And luv a man with a French accent lol

I’m currently dating an Asian man. Being a black woman, would you still lump me in with all those other black woman who you claim, are sellouts for dating their “slave master” and all the other bullshit I’ve heard spouted in this post?

quote :
I’m currently dating an Asian man. Being a black woman, would you still lump me in with all those other black woman who you claim, are sellouts for dating their “slave master”

damn !!!!
You need some glasses or maybe a brain to understand what you read ? maybe You can’t read ?

why u talk me about asian people and connect them with slavery master ? you can’t understand the concept of self-hatred ? Self-hatred it’s not specially about others people but about you. It’a about them who scorn they brovas and sistas

shit ! Ok ! My english it’s too bad lol cause it’s not my first language ( martinique creole ) but …

I’m talking about black people who forgive their communitiy because when they become riches they devalue them brovas and sista : not enough prestigious for me

you understand that or not ???

about wesley snipes :

“This is not the first time Snipes has put his foot in his mouth when discussing race in public. He once implied that he was no longer interested in dating black women because they were too much work. He is currently is involved with Korean painter Nikki Park, the mother of his two youngest children.” (http://www.usaweekend.com/02_issues/020317/020317snipes.html)

what it’s dis ????

and dis

http://findarticles.com/p...077/is_n1_v53/ai_20013891

can u explain me why many many of black women and black men date out of they own community and race ( we don’t use this world in martinique)? There is a sociologic explanation or not ???

You can answer without do all dis ridiculous ways ???

Some black beg whitness like loosers : “please gimme some light!!”

it’s not true ? I’m a liar ??? Al Reynolds too this writer of ” do black women hate black man ? ” ? so we are all liars ?

Is there the same problem with the white people ?
how do you call this, is not whigga ?

Now: how do you call the black man and woman who exclusively date, cherish, and are obsess by white white white white and white only ?

Well in my opinion it’s a wonderful thing that black women are finally breaking away from the ”black men only’’syndrome. Black Men are finally feeling what we have felt for years. Like Alicia Keyes says”what goes around comes around…it’s called karma! I could care less how many Black Men don’t like seeing me with a White or Latino guy…they deserve it. And for all you jealous…pathetic..insecure Black male fools posting shit about Black Women…screw you and i hope when you come home from work your wifey has a muscular blonde white dude in your bed.

Well in my opinion it’s a wonderful thing that black women are finally breaking away from the ”black men only’’syndrome. Black Men are finally feeling what we have felt for years. Like Alicia Keyes says”what goes around comes around…it’s called karma! I could care less how many Black Men don’t like seeing me with a White or Latino guy…they deserve it. And for all you jealous…pathetic..insecure Black male fools posting shit about Black Women…screw you and i hope when you come home from work your wifey has a muscular blonde white dude in your bed.

I wasn’t going to post anything at all but after the last bitter & ignorant post by it’s-about_time I had to say something!

Date or love whomever you want to but alot of the posts on this board are indicative of how we as a people feel about each other.

In closing it’s really, really sad but I’m thankful for the POSITIVE BLACK WOMEN & POISTIVE BLACK MEN that have raised me AND that are still in my life! Love them REAL sistas’ too!!!

Peace.

“Wesley says he realizes that there are Black women still who get an attitude about Black men with Asian, White or Hispanic women. “I know we’ve all been hurt, and we’re all very wounded,” he says, addressing Black women. “We have to acknowledge that, both male and female, in the Black experience. We’re a wounded people. And we want to possess and we want to own. We don’t want to compromise. We feel like we’ve compromised enough. But in any relationship you have to compromise. There’s no way around it.”

WE’RE a WOUNDED PEOPLE…
now aint that the truth!!!!!!1

Slaveship, the only ignorant one id you commin up in here with that positive Black Man and Woman horsehitt, the only reason some of you are in here is because you see Black Women willing to hang with a White dude and you’re nervous. black Men started the ir marrying and dating so go find you a White woman and leave the sisters to the White dudes or Latinos they treat us way better than any of you are capable of. Just leave us alone.

No need to do that my sista ’cause you’re obviously already THERE anyway so I wouldn’t even step that way to you from the RIP! Good luck!

I have and I would again. It’s so hard to find a good person who you mesh well with. It’s even harder if you limit yourself to people of your skin color. Yes, those relationships have their set of additional issues, but I’d rather be with the right guy regardless of race than just be with a Black guy because he is one of the five Black people in my area.
This brings me to another point: if you have two single friends who happen to have the same skin color, don’t set them up just because their skin colors are in the same general range. Same goes for gay people. Funny thing is being set up with a somewhat closeted gay Black guy.

I would totally date a white man or a man of any race, period. To me it doesn’t matter what color a person’s skin is. It’s all about the person. To me a cute guy is a cute guy regardless of race.To be honest most of the men that I am attracted to aren’t black(though there are some). I love white guys. I think mostly it’s all in the approach and the presentation. Many of the black men that approach me don’t know how to talk to a woman, simple as that.I don’t think that we as African Americans should be bound by race even if everybody else is, because then we haven’t come as far as we’d like to believe. My thing is: God is not judging everybody by their skin color, so if he doesn’t care why should we? But I suppose everybody has their preference.

I would totally date a white man or a man of any race, period. To me it doesn’t matter what color a person’s skin is. It’s all about the person. To me a cute guy is a cute guy regardless of race.To be honest most of the men that I am attracted to aren’t black(though there are some). I love white guys. I think mostly it’s all in the approach and the presentation. Many of the black men that approach me don’t know how to talk to a woman, simple as that.I don’t think that we as African Americans should be bound by race even if everybody else is, because then we haven’t come as far as we’d like to believe. My thing is: God is not judging everybody by their skin color, so if he doesn’t care why should we? But I suppose everybody has their preference.

I would not look for a white guy to fall in love with but I guess if it happened naturally, so be it. But there is nothing like a Fine Black Man who has his shit together. I think if more of our black men had their shit together, they would be more attractive. But there are some out there sisters, don’t let a FEW bad apples spoil the BUNCH.!!!

my reaction is about what I read here an this is black women who talk

did u read the title ? would you date a white guy

POSTED BY: blackman in france | March 11, 2006 05:50 PM

^^^ @BLACK MAN IN FRANCE/VIRGIL, Your reaction is about a MINORITY of posts that stereotype black men, You blame “all black women” for stereotyping black men when ALL OF US DON’T!!!! You stereotype US AS WELL saying we “ALL” stereotype you. All black women DON’T HATE black men. SOME (minority here) black women stereotype black men but they’re not representative of ALL THE SISTERS, cause most black women DONT stereotype black men. And I don’t either.

YES, I did READ the TITLE. I’m NOT AGAINST black men dating out of their race as long as the only reason is LOVE, and not BLACK WOMEN BASHING. So, TO ANSWER THE QUESTION : I WOULD date a man who would love me and treat me right and that I would love and treat right too, no MATTER HIS RACE, just because I don’t discriminate doesn’t mean I HATE MY PEOPLE. If that good man is BLACK that’s GREAT, IF HE’S WHITE then AM I SUPPOSED TO REFUSE REAL LOVE??? All whites aren’t racist, some whites HELPED the cause of Black People. Why would I want to discriminate and segregate when BLACK PEOPLE BEEN FIGHTING ALL THESE HUNDRED YEARS AGAINST DISCRIMINATION AND SEGREGATION??? WAS MARTIN LUTHER KING A SELLOUT FOR DREAMING OF A WORLD WHERE BLACKS AND WHITES WOULD BE UNITED??? Is it a CRIME to fall in love with a man who happens to be WHITE?? If that’s how you think you’re nothing but a black version of the KKK.

Like I said, DATE WHO YOU WANT if LOVE is the reason. Don’t date someone because you hate YOUR OWN PEOPLE. WHAT MAKES YOU A SELLOUT is not the fact that you date out of your race, it’s IF you do it EXCLUSIVELY BECAUSE YOU STEREOTYPE AND HATE A BLACK WOMAN/BLACK MAN. That’s self-hate. Dave Chappelle is a black man who is pro-black and married an Asian woman, I love the man because he never dissed black women to “explain” this. He’s in love and his soulmate happens to be asian, period, point blank. He doesn’t hate and degrade his people THEREFORE he’s NOT a sell-out. PERIOD!

If I date a white guy out of LOVE then I’m NOT A SELL-OUT because I HAVE NO HATE TOWARDS BLACK MEN, I DON’t STEREOTYPE BLACK MEN, I’LL ALWAYS LOVE BLACK MEN, I love my dad, my brothers, my male cousins too ad so on. But at the end of the day YOU DONT CHOOSE LOVE, LOVE CHOOSES YOU, LOVE IS MORE THAN THE COLOR OF YOUR SKIN, it’s a CONNECTION BETWEEN TWO SOULS. And if the love of my life IS WHITE, I don’t CARE! I’m in love WITH SOMEONE’S HEART AND SOUL and NOT THEIR SKIN, RACE DOESN’T MEAN SHIT!!! IF (I said IF, I don’t know if you do, but IFFFF) YOU GIVE SO MUCH IMPORTANCE TO RACE, AGAIN, you’re nothing the BLACK VERSION OF THE KKK!!! And that makes you A RACIST!

Lets repeat this statistic…..

In 2004, the percentage of never-married black women 16 and older was 42.3 percent compared with 22.7 percent of white women, according to the Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies in Washington, D.C.

LADIES do you want to be one of the 42.3% ????
If not broden your horizons

anonymous said :
” YES, I did READ the TITLE. I’m NOT AGAINST black men dating out of their race as long as the only reason is LOVE, and not BLACK WOMEN BASHING ”

as long as the only reason is love ? that’s what u wrote. and if it’s not, you have the right to say what’is wrong or not ? You accept this critics or no ?

When a black man as wesley say ” no black woman ! out of question ” how do you traduce it ?

If a white men say ” what ? a black girl ? never ” u will be the first to cry and blame a racist comment

what ????? when a black men say this you shut you mouth cause you don’t give a f..sh*t about black man but when is a white man you do a belly dancing and vociferate ???

and you tell me u don’t have any problem, you don’t have any complexes ? i don’t thnik so

so that’s what i try to explain to you in vain. but maybe you are in a polically correcteness country with no democracy, no freedom to speech etc…In france we have to right to question ourself on this kind of problem.

but if u do in us you are a black KKK member ? lmao

” If I date a white guy out of LOVE then I’m NOT A SELL-OUT because I HAVE NO HATE TOWARDS BLACK MEN, I DON’t STEREOTYPE BLACK MEN, I’LL ALWAYS LOVE BLACK MEN, I love my dad, my brothers, my male cousins too ad so on. But at the end of the day YOU DONT CHOOSE LOVE, LOVE CHOOSES YOU, LOVE IS MORE THAN THE COLOR OF YOUR SKIN, it’s a CONNECTION BETWEEN TWO SOULS. And if the love of my life IS WHITE, I don’t CARE! I’m in love WITH SOMEONE’S HEART AND SOUL and NOT THEIR SKIN, RACE DOESN’T MEAN SHIT!!! IF (I said IF, I don’t know if you do, but IFFFF) YOU GIVE SO MUCH IMPORTANCE TO RACE, AGAIN, you’re nothing the BLACK VERSION OF THE KKK!!! And that makes you A RACIST! ”

I told you : need a brain !

I never say ” you’re a sell out cause u date a white man ”

I said ” you a sellout if you start to blame black people and tell shit to justify the fact that you prefer to be accepted in a white world.”

you have to assumate this. get off me with BS like ” black men first dating white and latino chicks “. i don’t give a damn

you don’t understand that ? You want an explanation in french ?

I’m talking about self-hatred but you are so obsess of whiteness that the only thing you see in my comment is ” no white dating ”

lol

btw when black women tell shit on black men. When black men tell shit on black woman it’s because there is a big problem. And u know that. but u prefer to deviate it on “black KKK” and ” IFFFF” or on ” love is not a color ”

so this time i really get out of there

—-
When a black man as wesley say ” no black woman ! out of question ” how do you traduce it ?
—-

^^^ WELL like I said if they DEGRADE THEIR OWN RACE LIKE WESLEY SNIPES THEY ARE SELLOUTS MEN AND WOMEN. BUT IF THE ONLY REASON IS LOVE THEY ARE NOT!!!! YOu’re blaming EVERY BLACK WOMEN for a FEW OF THEM WHO INSULT BLACK MEN!!! You didn’t say “SOME black women” you said “black women wrote” as if ALL OF US WROTE THAT BLACK MEN AINT SHIT, when MOST BLACK WOMEN HERE NEVER DOWNED BLACK MEN!!!! YOU’RE THE ONE WHO NEEDS A FUCKING BRAIN!!!!

~~~~ My beef with you is that you blame all black women HERE for what a FEW said, cause that’s all you wanna read and see. ~~~~

well said anon. a few sisters hate on black men and generalize, and “virgil” is generalizing talking about we all talk shit on black men, he’s doing the same bullshit as these few hating black women : generalization. you can’t point the finger at them for generalizing, if you’re generalizing yourself too.

It’s so interesting how we RUSH to take up for white people (who don’t need it by the way) and put each other DOWN!!! Are your really serious?!

MASSA’ HAS TAUGHT US WELL I THINK!!!

PEACE.

Just to play the “devil’s advocate”, notice that these so called NEGRO CHAT BOARDS never ask the reverse question of the brothas!!! Afraid of what you might hear huh?!

^ that’s because we’ve been hearing the answers for over 50 years. we’ve been seeing this scenario in movies for over 20 years. that shit been overexposed by the media for over 20 years too. the white man/black woman thing being so exposed is something new to the community, and it’s bout time sisters really talk about how they feel about it because interracial dating is much more taboo for black women.

I would never date a black man and i am black. Black men are to lazy, stupid and got to many dam bastard kids.

Just to play the “devil’s advocate”, notice that these so called NEGRO CHAT BOARDS never ask the reverse question of the brothas!!! Afraid of what you might hear huh?!

Uh, hello Slaveship, but Im willing to bet that most of the black women here have been raised by black men and IF NOT then we have at least black men for brothers, uncles, cousins..etc and they may have dated, flirted, chased, desired and even married outside the race. We know the answer when the question is reversed.

And really, dude, A NEGRO CHAT BOARD?? I suppose if someone says something you wanna hear or agree with then it’ll be a BLACK CHAT BOARD, right?

I would never date a black man and i am black. Black men are to lazy, stupid and got to many dam bastard kids.

POSTED BY: divaherself | March 12, 2006 06:39 PM
^^^^^Idiot

“Person with closed mind should keep mouth in same condition.”

POSTED BY: lala | March 10, 2006 04:53 AM

Black men have too much baggage and too many issues. there are too many fine non- black men to be worried with them, most are in jail anyway.Some Black women need to wake up and see that messing with Black men only leads to problems. I can predict the future and say that my children will be biracial because there’s no way I would even consider being with a Black man in this lifetime.

Black men have too much baggage and too many issues. there are too many fine non- black men to be worried with them, most are in jail anyway.Some Black women need to wake up and see that messing with Black men only leads to problems. I can predict the future and say that my children will be biracial because there’s no way I would even consider being with a Black man in this lifetime.

“And really, dude, A NEGRO CHAT BOARD?? I suppose if someone says something you wanna hear or agree with then it’ll be a BLACK CHAT BOARD, right?”

Maybe so. After RESPECT is earned then it will be given BUT just reading the last 2 or 3 posts I see there are some NEGROES that still have a long, long way to go…lol!

Enjoy the ride!

Black Men aren’t handling Black Women crossing over very well are they? Oh well…that’s life!

Black Men aren’t handling Black Women crossing over very well are they? Oh well…that’s life!

Well..I hear Essence Atkins is dating a White guy too..looks like all the sisters are snatching up these vanilla fellas. But the ultimate one is Ms Halle Berry…that White guy is super fine! I think Halle started a trend..nothing like a chocolate/ vanilla swirl!

Well..I hear Essence Atkins is dating a White guy too..looks like all the sisters are snatching up these vanilla fellas. But the ultimate one is Ms Halle Berry…that White guy is super fine! I think Halle started a trend..nothing like a chocolate/ vanilla swirl!

Ladies I totally agree!

I could careless what color a man is, as long as he’s ambitious and educated. White men are very respectful, attractive and powerful, this is why the VAST majority of Women in general who do date interracially go for them.

I am pleased to see so many blk women opening up ..ladies don’t believe the hype about white sleeping with blk women but not marrying them…The majority of my blk female acquaintances who are unwed and raising fatherless kids, were with blk men.

..One of ladies has already begun schooling her daughter -full black (who is 3 years old..I sh*t you not) about “the dangers of dating black men”

If I honestly compare the quality of the relationships that I have encountered…the black women who have chosen the white route had a FAR more successful lasting, happier union-this is Also why my sister has started dating white men

..and I’ll be joining her too

Hey Lisa, you can get a mortgage with a black man too, my credit is good!

POSTED BY: james | March 7, 2006 06:08 AM

LOL

^5 Jasmine! You do speak the truth!

^5 Jasmine! You do speak the truth!

“damn !!!!
You need some glasses or maybe a brain to understand what you read ? maybe You can’t read ?

why u talk me about asian people and connect them with slavery master ? you can’t understand the concept of self-hatred ? Self-hatred it’s not specially about others people but about you. It’a about them who scorn they brovas and sistas”

First of all, I wasn’t personally addressing just you. I was talking to whomever has been in here spouting off bullshit about “Black women who date outside their race are sell-out.” “I feel betrayed.” “You’re dating your slavemaster.”

Secondly, I wasn’t connecting Asian peple with slave masters. That’s exactly my point. If black women who date white men are sell-outs, are dating their “slave masters” and have self-hatred, then what does that make me since I’m dating an Asian man? Am I the same? That’s what I’m asking.

Not that I give a shit about anyone’s opinion of me and who I choose to date…but much of this post (not all) seems to only be addressing the white man/black woman relationships.

And yes, you are very hard to understand so that’s probably why we’re misunderstanding each other.

And just to clarify something for you. I don’t have a “self hatred” issue. I’m mixed (black/native american) and I call myself black. I wake up every day PROUD of being what I am: Young, gifted and black. I also have nothing against dating black men. I choose whom to date based on their intelligence, honesty, how they approach me, for instance…and to be truthful, I have NOT ONCE been approached by a black man with anything other than, “Hey baby…come here.” “Hey, you here me talkin to you?” “Hey, I’m tryin to holla at you.” “hey sexy, shake that ass for me.”

I don’t like being approached that way. It’s disrespectful to me and I won’t give ANY MAN who approaches me that way, the time of day..whether they be black, white, orange, purple or candy apple red.

I’m not saying all black men are like this, because I know they aren’t, but I have yet to meet one who isn’t. My boyfriend right now is smart, honest, respectful, funny, sweet,we have alot in common and most importantly..he treats me the way I ought to be treated and nothing less. I’m not dating him for money, wealth, status or any of that other bullshit that has been said. We’re both theatre actors, college students and broke (just like the majority of most college students)so if I’m “using him” for anything, it must not be for much, other than the fact that I love him.

This NEGRO CHAT BOARD is full of SELLOUTS I see! It’s amusing to say the least…lol!

To all of the “I’m in love with a WHITE GUY” freaks, do your black male relatives fall under the same catagory as ALL the other black males in your life?! Just a question.

blackman in france & slaveship…THANK YOU! I don’t post on the weekends, but ya’ll represented the brothers well against the 70 unfortunate on this site who admitted that they sell out to white men for money.

I’ll bet most of the 70 are light skinned like the parkay floor at the Garden. White men usually don’t date darkies! Just the cream of the chrop!

These sisters can’t find a black man…so they get a white man! Can’t get a white man…date a woman! Can’t date a woman…buy battery powred! Can’t afford batteries…use your hand! Hate using your hand…lean against the spin cycle! Don’t own a washer………….find a black man! It’s a victious cycle!

Now, I want all you “sellouts” to take a hard look in his blue eyes and think about what Rosa and Martin felt when they were cuffed and jailed…for being black!

kow…start using you’re name, Boo! I had a dream that you, lala and I had a real nasty threesome!

blkmanhere…you’re not invited! Go to Oprah! Don’t give in blackman! Stand up and fight! Women like lala, lemure, she’s not clever and kow will have you doing the dishes and washing greens! They’re gonna do what they want, but we don’t have to like it!!! Let em know!

No problem bro! Eventhough these boards are dominated by “sistas”, we gotta speak up for the strong bros/strong black folks sometimes! I mean dayum…it’s too much hatin’ with our folks and all along “CHUCK & BECKY” are still on top of us…BELIEVE DAT!

WAKE UP BLACK FOLKS!

don’t even bring up rosa or mlk. done and over with, remember he preached equality. youzatrick, use a book.

“well against the 70″

…..time to do a recount that number has jumped
significantly lol

“what Rosa and Martin felt when they were cuffed and jailed…for being black!”

…..dont dishonour the names and legacy of these people who fought for EQUALITY and not the control and domination you are spewing

“Can’t get a white man…date a woman!”

…..Ok so you hate homosexuals and interracial relationships. homophobe, dont you know that Rosa Parks protested FOR GAY RIGHTS. LOL. What do you think about that! Like another poster said USE A BOOK, idiot

“will have you doing the dishes and washing greens! ”
……what is wrong with a man who helps around the house. You misogynist

And keep on fantazing about some of these balck women because that is the closest you will get to them

Youza Trick, nice to see you lump all black women toegther, when you have the nerve to get pissed at women who lump all black men together.

I see you went ahead with the “sellout to white men for money” defense when half, if not all, of the black women here said that money wasn’t any part of us dating outside our race.

Either that, or you did see it and you choose to ignore it just to make a bullshit point.

Oh well. It makes no nevermind to me. I don’t want your ass anyway, or any man like you, and you’ve just proved why.

You’za Trick ………You’zaFOOL

slaveship:

Wake up? Who are you talking to? We black women are only TOO aware of our situation; that is why some of us are choosing to exercise other options.

It’s the brothas who need to wake up. Black women have remained faithful to them throughout and in return, what did we get? The highest rate of new HIV cases and the lowest percentage of marriage. Do you not see a problem there?

Go ahead and band up with your little buddy there; maybe you can help him develop his arguments. Because neither of you is addressing the underlying issue here which is this: Looking only at the numbers, every black woman cannot get married to a black men. And this is only based on numbers; not considering how many eligible black men either never want to get married OR have a problem with sistas.

So now what’s up?

Youzatrick: I guess I don’t need to tell you that, once again, you didn’t answer my question. But please, go ahead and “pimp slap” me; afterwards, you’ll be picking your teeth up off the floor. Perhaps it’s been awhile since you’ve been with a black woman, but surely you know that we don’t play that shit.

Oh, and that BULLSHIT that you posted about the being “the lion” tells me all I need to know your mental state. Get help.

Love knows no color. I don’t go looking outside my race but whomever treats me right gets my heart and that’s real.

questioneverything, that was absolutely beautiful.

“It’s the brothas who need to wake up. Black women have remained faithful to them throughout and in return, what did we get? The highest rate of new HIV cases and the lowest percentage of marriage. Do you not see a problem there? ”

I noticed none of them have addressed the REAL issue. The truth hurts

Hey Ginger granted your points are well taken but I haven’t seen alot of respect & love from many sistas on this board either to the black men that are decent or trying to do the right thing so WTF is up wit’ that?! All the love to the white folks & none to your own who are trying out here just like you? How’s is that part of a people trying to better themselves as a whole?!

The sad part about it is believe it or not black women aren’t perfect either & the HIV rate is NOT all the fault of black men! To even think that you must be sick!

Also, I noticed that no one answered MY question about black male relatives at all!

“but I haven’t seen alot of respect & love from many sistas on this board either to the black men that are decent or trying to do the right thing”

But maybe these black women have not encountered a decent black guy. That has not been there experience. Dont personalize it. If you are decent it is not personal

I’ve never dated outside of my race before but I have been approached on numerous occassions only to turn men down on the basis that their skin wasn’t black. Alot of my thinking came from the fact that I had this “obligation” to be with a black man.

But now I’m at a point in my life where I’m so ready for love that I wouldn’t dare pass up the opportunity even if the man turns out to be white, asian, latino etc.

All the petty reasons people listed of why they wouldn’t date a white man (or any man who isn’t black) are just well…petty. Besides bottom line, you want someone who’s into you for the long haul and these crazy myths and stereotypes about penis size, the shade of someones skin or musical taste (NEWSFLASH! Not every white man listens to Green Day and not every black person is feeling Biggie) is not a measurement of someone’s committment, maturity or affections.

Get a grip people! I know I had to!!

Ya’ll need to cool it on that equality biz! Until yo azz can get out here and fix the damn car…we ain’t equal. Thank a man that you don’t have to wash them dam clothes at the river and cook them greens over a hot fired pot.

Have my babies and learn to keep quiet in the church! I’m gone love you and let you go shopping at Christmas! Hell, I’ll even get you something on you’re birthday…especially you kow, you little freaky Boo!

slaveship…you are too kind to these alpha females. They know they’re wrong for this $#|T! especially lala, taco, sindee, t and lemure. This is a black entertainment site and they come on here rubbing their purple-jimmie filth in our black faces.

After all the blood, sweat and tears we’ve shed for they black azzess. I be damned if I lose even one of them without a fight. Even if I have say things to damage their alter-egos, I will, to keep them safe at home. We still need ya’ll black azzes!

Oh, I forgot to tell you about Ginger…she’s a big one! She poisons the minds of people like: Veronica, Penny Woods, Alexis, Essence, e-ka, Gracie, Angela, Leslie, takeitoutside.BITCH, boyer and Ethipoian Princess…all good women who just want to get a steady flow of milk and honey without all the drama. They have good jobs, homes and cars. They just need a strong black roster who’s willing to stand on the post and cock-a-doodle-do er’ now and then.

Ginger, why is it that one black man has made you hate all black men? If the black ranks are so AIDS ridden and infected, what makes you think the white boys gonna bite yo azz?

The problem with these women is, they have no skills. A pack of educated women who couldn’t hold a candle for five minutes against someone like HOOPZ. Spent all that time in those books and now they’re looking for endorsement to go buck wild with Opie and I’m not having it.

I can tell they’re not use to being covered by a strong black alpha man! State college mentalities!

So, don’t let up on them, slaveship! You take one third and I’ll take a third and the blackman in france will take the other third…but just remember kow and lala are mine!!! MyFreakyBoos!

Please take Ginger!!!

MissDiva…you create a intriging challenge for me…I’m interested in hearing more of what you have to say, but be prepared for a pimp slap if you disrespect my house or come too shallow!

And, I refuse to dignify anymore of you ANONYMOUS_POSTERS with responses!

purple-jimmie….

You’zatrick…boy you have a fascination with white mens dicks.
BTW how do you know what a WHITE mans dick looks like??????
paying toooooooo much attention in the bathroom stalls
HOW YOU DOIN?

“Can’t get a white man…date a woman!”

…..Ok so you hate homosexuals and interracial relationships. homophobe, dont you know that Rosa Parks protested FOR GAY RIGHTS. LOL. What do you think about that! Like another poster said USE A BOOK, idiot

Cant you see he is a blasted fool.
Just an ignorant black angry fool

Have my babies and learn to keep quiet in the church! I’m gone love you and let you go shopping at Christmas! Hell, I’ll even get you something on you’re birthday…

LOL!!!

Can you please tell us the name of the church you are a member of so we can stay far away.
It must be the church of the deranged
Lord help him!

First of all, Sanaa Looked AMAZING on Oprah. I love her look so much, wish it was more embraced as the standard of beauty in our culture instead of the blonde weave madness.
However, I wish they had interjected a couple points in that stereotype filled half hour..1) the REASON Black women dating white men got its own show. I dont think a lot of people get the divide Black women have in dating interracially in this country. And no Im not talking about weave.
2) To interject in all the weave argument that not all Black women wear them. After a while I was like, why are they acting like thats de rigeur? Ive never had one, neither has many people I know.

Now if I found a white man that I was in love with I would date him, but it’s harder. I think society makes it harder for Black women to date outside of our race than our Brothers. We’ve never been seen in this country in the full spectrum we really are, especially by the images some of our own people choose to put out there.

But so many Black dudes are dating outside their race that you almost have to open yourself to that because the chances of you finding a Black guy who a) wants you & not a Puerto Rican chic b) is comaptable with you c) has all the criteria you’re looking for is slim.

“blackman in france & slaveship…THANK YOU! I don’t post on the weekends, but ya’ll represented the brothers”

serving your weekend jail time, criminal

If he loved me, and I loved him, hell yes I would date,marry,fuck a white man. I would fuck any man, who loved me for me and not what my skin color was. And plus us sistas need to get back out there, all these black men be marrying white girls, why can we do the same?

HELL TO THE MUTHAFUCKIN’ NOOOOO!!!!

ANONYMOUS_POSTER…you’re an anonymous HATER 4 real…lol! I see what you’re about with that last comment!

Peace.

Slaveship……
Release your mind from bondage, you are still enslaved

To all of the “I’m in love with a WHITE GUY” freaks, do your black male relatives fall under the same catagory as ALL the other black males in your life?! Just a question.

@Slaveship
No, cuz we’re not DATING our relatives (I hope not anyway) and they’re looking out for our best interests so I’m glad you asked that…just so happens I was in love with my cousins best friend (a brutha)years ago. My cousin and his 2 best friends were the biggest playas on the high school; hittin on every kind of chicks of all colors in sight. But my cousin pulled me aside at a football game one time and told me point blank “SO AND SO IS MY BOY, BUT IF I EVVVER CATCH YOU WITH OR HEAR THAT YOU WERE WITH HIM I’LL KILL YOU!! AND I’LL TELL YOUR MOM AND DAD AND THEY’LL KILL YOU TOO”..!!

Now, that scared me but it didn’t turn me off to Black men OR send me running to white men because my cousin would dogg out his white friends too. And just between you all here and me…I tried to get with SO AND SO behind my cousins back, but he said “Uh uh…your cousin’s gonna kill me”..!! I like my life”..!! LOL!!

My dad’s on his 4th marriage(to a sister); he’s the last person that needs to lecture me on who to get with.

Miss Diva: I also have nothing against dating black men. I choose whom to date based on their intelligence, honesty, how they approach me, for instance…and to be truthful, I have NOT ONCE been approached by a black man with anything other than, “Hey baby…come here.” “Hey, you here me talkin to you?” “Hey, I’m tryin to holla at you.” “hey sexy, shake that ass for me.”

I don’t like being approached that way. It’s disrespectful to me and I won’t give ANY MAN who approaches me that way, the time of day..whether they be black, white, orange, purple or candy apple red.

Vanessa: PREACH!

Ginger: Wake up? Who are you talking to? We black women are only TOO aware of our situation; that is why some of us are choosing to exercise other options.

It’s the brothas who need to wake up. Black women have remained faithful to them throughout and in return, what did we get? The highest rate of new HIV cases and the lowest percentage of marriage. Do you not see a problem there?

Vanessa: Well….

ANONYMOUS POSTER: “It’s the brothas who need to wake up. Black women have remained faithful to them throughout and in return, what did we get? The highest rate of new HIV cases and the lowest percentage of marriage. Do you not see a problem there? ”

I noticed none of them have addressed the REAL issue. The truth hurts

Vanessa: AMEN and AMEN!!

Miss Diva: I also have nothing against dating black men. I choose whom to date based on their intelligence, honesty, how they approach me, for instance…and to be truthful, I have NOT ONCE been approached by a black man with anything other than, “Hey baby…come here.” “Hey, you here me talkin to you?” “Hey, I’m tryin to holla at you.” “hey sexy, shake that ass for me.”

I don’t like being approached that way. It’s disrespectful to me and I won’t give ANY MAN who approaches me that way, the time of day..whether they be black, white, orange, purple or candy apple red.

Vanessa: PREACH!

Ginger: Wake up? Who are you talking to? We black women are only TOO aware of our situation; that is why some of us are choosing to exercise other options.

It’s the brothas who need to wake up. Black women have remained faithful to them throughout and in return, what did we get? The highest rate of new HIV cases and the lowest percentage of marriage. Do you not see a problem there?

Vanessa: Well….

ANONYMOUS POSTER: “It’s the brothas who need to wake up. Black women have remained faithful to them throughout and in return, what did we get? The highest rate of new HIV cases and the lowest percentage of marriage. Do you not see a problem there? ”

I noticed none of them have addressed the REAL issue. The truth hurts

Vanessa: AMEN and AMEN!!

“You’zatrick…boy you have a fascination with white mens dicks.
BTW how do you know what a WHITE mans dick looks like??????
paying toooooooo much attention in the bathroom stalls
HOW YOU DOIN?”

Well I’m sure you know all about them huh?! And always remember that BLACK MEN are the only carries of STD’s…right?! So, YOU should be safe!

Peace.

“It’s the brothas who need to wake up. Black women have remained faithful to them throughout and in return, what did we get? The highest rate of new HIV cases and the lowest percentage of marriage. Do you not see a problem there? ”

THAT SHIT NEEDED TO BE SAID, AMEN AND AMEN AND AMEN!!!!!!!

Yes I do since I am married to a white man. He is sensual lover with a beautiful and big &*^%!
But not as well as Youzatrick…he has even seen the purple ones, those are a rarity. He must have checked out a lot of white guys cocks.

yea i would. but its just a trip how black dudes walk around wit a white gurl and nobody got no problems but if a black gurl show up to the club wit a white boy, its all rong and sh*t. that happened to my gurl and it mad me sick. but yea if he waz lookin right and if he could treat me better than some of these lame ass niiggas i’ve been wit, i would wanna go with him

ANONYMOUS_POSTER…if you already have your “Chuckie Boy” and you’re happy then why are you up here trashing black men?! Did MASSA’ tell you to do that too?!

get -ya -$…I wonder if any of your black ex’s would say the same about you?! Probably not since you’re a PERFECT catch…lol!

Correction: the previous post was done proudly by me!!!

Hahahahaha! slaveship, you are too smooth! You’re very good at shutting these tricks down! And, that trick done went and married her Massa!!! I bet her looks like hell! Flat pink azz, little purple jimmie, ashy black nuts, red pointed noses and neck!

I bet she tells him to turn off the lights when he comes out of the shower, so she doesn’t have to see his little pink azz!

Probably does ‘Trick>>>lol! The way she comes on the board HATIN’ on brothas & stuff! She’s got problems 4 real!

one thing bm have shown to the world is how jealous and insecure they are when it comes to black women and non black men. black men want the world to think they are ladies men and have all the women but they go crazy when they see black women with non black men..they really crumble like cookies.

one thing bm have shown to the world is how jealous and insecure they are when it comes to black women and non black men. black men want the world to think they are ladies men and have all the women but they go crazy when they see black women with non black men..they really crumble like cookies.

I’m crumblng all around you right now ’cause I believe that you’re WHITE!!!

“Reggae’s most transcendent and iconic figure, Bob Marley was the first Jamaican artist to achieve international superstardom, in the process introducing the music of his native island nation to the far-flung corners of the globe. Marley’s music gave voice to the day-to-day struggles of the Jamaican experience, vividly capturing not only the plight of the country’s impoverished and oppressed but also the devout spirituality that remains their source of strength. His songs of faith, devotion, and revolution created a legacy that continues to live on not only through the music of his extended family but also through generations of artists the world over touched by his genius.
Bob was born to a WHITE FATHER and a BLACK MOTHER, in wedlock!!!!!!”

Thank God this BLACK woman was openminded to love marry and reproduce with this white man. Or Bob Marley, THE GENIUS, would never have been born!!!!!!!!!!

So slaveship and headcount and black man in France….and any other fool who is so brave…..now let me hear you disrespect BOB MARLEYs mother with the shit you have been spewing from your nasty little insecure mouths about black women who date and marry WHITE MEN.
And watch every JAMAICAN, including myself
….will cut yu bloodclot, ya lickle pussies

jealous and insecure…

AMEN! That sums it up
…. if they raised their own self esteem and self worth the actions of TOTAL strangers would not have such a hurtful affect on them.
But because they obviously have no INDIVIDUAL IDENTITY they take a black woman marrying a white man as a PERSONAL attack and sign of hatred towards them personally.

They should be spending their time in therapy and school

slaveship..if u need me to be white to help you accept the inevitable…that’s fine. it’s funny when bm can’t address an issue they have to start making silly accusations. you have to tell yourself anything rather than deal with the fact that black women are looking past you and moving on with men in other races. I think the worst part for you is that you brought it all on yourselves by your actions toward us.

I doubt anyone is even gonna scroll down to this lol, but whateva.

I was completely against dating white guys until recently. I always said I would date anything and everything else except white guys…but I recently met one of the sweetest guys in the world, who happened to be white. So I let it go, the prejudice that is.

I’m not sure how or why I don’t care anymore, but I don’t. I guess that just shows how amazing love is, all your “specifications” seem to fly out the window if the right person comes into your life. Sorry that sounded sooo corny haha, but I actually believe that.

Obviously SOME of you must have been dealing with some real nut cases in your relationships in order to have so much hatred in you! Get a real life ’cause there are millions of strong black women that STILL love & marry their own!

If you are with a white man then fine…be blessed for it! But don’t hate me or MY KIND because some bro screwed up your life AND your head…lol!

I always stand strong & love my sistas no matter what the MASSA says or does!!! Peace.

So I let it go, the prejudice that is.

I’m not sure how or why I don’t care anymore, but I don’t. I guess that just shows how amazing love is, all your “specifications” seem to fly out the window if the right person comes into your life.

BEAUTIFUL!
“SO I LET IT GO” and by letting go of hate and prejudice you let in LOVE.
not corny at all

Yes, thats what the Bible says about true love.

Well first off, I’m a black male living in the South, I mingle with many different races due to my job. Now I NEVER take things personal, but many of the white guys I know say that they have never found not ONE of my black sisters attractive…that’s bs! I prefer black women, but dang I love women period. If a woman is hot (whether white, black, whatever) she’s just hot. However, there is and never will be any woman like a black woman, I haven’t met my wife yet, but I want a good black woman and a strong black family. Any white man that has the chance to date a black woman but doesn’t for inferior thinking is a fool and for those that say black women are not attractive in their eyes are liars. If that was the case, we wouldn’t have all these different shades of black and brown courtesy of our WHITE SLAVE MASTERS.

lol yall r 2 funny!!!! i jus put that up there to c wo would get mad the most and it looks like all yall r haterz!!! no i would neva date 1 b/c i already have a brotha treatin me rite!!! get ya $!!!

i am happily married to a black women, and have been for 12 years. personally i love black women they are the most beautiful cretures God has ever made. we’ve had our share of hard times
and no i aint rich, i don’t have good credit,
and i’m not a movie star. when u decide to grow up and become men and women you’ll see.i do see a lot of racial injustice in the world and i live in tn. but, it’s more seg. in the north esp. in the cities.a lot of black women not the little 18-25-yr old girls will tell you how lazy, cheatin,no dick havin self-centered,stupid-ass black boys are’nt worth the fuckin time of day. so go ahead and get ur ass beat live in poverty and keep his sorry-ass up.

I got to much loyalty to Black men to date outside my race. I would behind closed doors but you will never catch me dating a white man in public.

My guy is white, and we are kewl. I honestly dont understand what the big deal is???

Oh yeah a brotha has not done one thing to me. I don’t allow Black male/female bashing (PERIOD)

I have to say some people need to stop asking brothas/sista why they date outside of their race. Isnt it obvuious, that’s the man/woman they love and want to be with.

Take your energy and knowledge and focus on strengthening our commmunites, providing strong positive examples for our little ones, stressing the value of marriage before children, just plan striving to be great, knowing when to be kewl (there a time n place for it)

Geez stop hating on eating other, you can’t make him/her stop loving him/her. Focus on things that will make our community stronger.

Dont let all the Hell our ancestors went through be in vain?

Get your a$$ and vote, become active and in your communities more than anything with ya kids. People do yall see all the things the Presidents does and gets away with? See while a Some black people waste time complaining about whose doing who those crooks could be doing anything.

Keep your eyes open

Think about it

In the 1800’s, Imagine if you went to a white person and said,”Blacks will be free, voting, educated,good jobs.” That person would think you were nuts. Yet here we are!!!!!!!!!!!!

We are so strong, survivors HOLD YOUR DAMN HEAD UP AND ACT LIKE IT. Read the papers, keep your eyes on the crooks, yall Im telling ya.

Keep your eyes open to the REAL problems

My guy is white, and we are kewl. I honestly dont understand what the big deal is???

Oh yeah a brotha has not done one thing to me. I don’t allow Black male/female bashing (PERIOD)

I have to say some people need to stop asking brothas/sista why they date outside of their race. Isnt it obvuious, that’s the man/woman they love and want to be with.

Take your energy and knowledge and focus on strengthening our commmunites, providing strong positive examples for our little ones, stressing the value of marriage before children, just plan striving to be great, knowing when to be kewl (there a time n place for it)

Geez stop hating on eating other, you can’t make him/her stop loving him/her. Focus on things that will make our community stronger.

Dont let all the Hell our ancestors went through be in vain?

Get your a$$ and vote, become active and in your communities more than anything with ya kids. People do yall see all the things the Presidents does and gets away with? See while a Some black people waste time complaining about whose doing who those crooks could be doing anything.

Keep your eyes open

Think about it

In the 1800’s, Imagine if you went to a white person and said,”Blacks will be free, voting, educated,good jobs.” That person would think you were nuts. Yet here we are!!!!!!!!!!!!

We are so strong, survivors HOLD YOUR DAMN HEAD UP AND ACT LIKE IT. Read the papers, keep your eyes on the crooks, yall Im telling ya.

Keep your eyes open to the REAL problems

ust curious, it would be intersting to know…what part of the country/ies do these ladies who are open minded to date white/non-black, live. Maybe location, location, location, like real estate, affects all of our opportunities and choices……… by *ANONYMOUS_POSTER*

I come from South Africa, and I live in Germany.

slaveship:

I know it’s long, but you should really go back and read the entire thread before attempting to comment.

I don’t have any kind of “hate” for black men; my BOYFRIEND (and probable future husband) is black, as are my brothers and my dad (obviously). I (and some others) have chastised people coming in here talking that “Black men ain’t shit” mess.

It’s my love for my sistas that prompts me to say what I say. I don’t see any reason under the sun for a black woman to resign herself to a life of loneliness or relationships with dead-beats just because she thinks she should only date black men. There are good black men out there of course; I’m in love with one ‘em. But (I repeat) elementary arithmetic will tell you that every black women cannot get married to a black men. What do YOU suggest they do?

As far as your little friend goes, I won’t even dignify. But maybe you should let him know that he’s part of the PROBLEM.

There’s nothing wrong with dating outside our race as long as he doing us right. As a black woman i have dated a white man and it was ok, don’t get me wrong i love a strong black man but sometimes u get tired of the bulls**t and want someone who is going to do u like u want to be done. If u ask me i would say try every race of men until u find that one that treats u like the queen u r. If he just happens to be white then so be it.

“MissDiva…you create a intriging challenge for me…I’m interested in hearing more of what you have to say, but be prepared for a pimp slap if you disrespect my house or come too shallow!”

I create a challenge for you? Please explain. Whatever, to your pimp slap shit.

Thank you vanessa.

To whomever asked, I live in Dayton, Ohio.

I live in Toronto, Canada

Scooby or whoever you are, first of all please check your S-P-E-L-L-I-N-G before you post okay?!

Secondly, you nullified your own statement by DISRESPECTING THE LORD when you use HIS NAME in one sentence & then procede to CURSE/PUT DOWN your fellow man in the following ones! Not cool at all my friend, not cool at all!!!

Yes I have and would again. It’s not about skin colour, it’s about being,valued,respected and honoured as a black woman.

yes i would date a white man

i have before….they’re diffrent in their approach but race is not an issue with me.

“the one predjudice i will admit to however is that i DONT want to have biracial/mulitracial kids because i feel like when a lot of black people are doing positive things in society you look closer and theyre not fully black. our society is stagnant if not in decline and i want to raise the kinds of BLACK men and women i wish i saw more often!”

This is a sad statement because someone looks a certain way doesn’t say that much about his or her genes. Thirty-percent of all “white” Americans have African ancestry. Moreover, the average African-American regardless of skin tone has 20 to 30% European DNA.

However, I do agree that there should be more portraits of African-Americans of darker complexion who succeed in life as doctor, lawyers, scientists, politicians, or entertainers. That would be a positive influence on ALL people.

PS Oprah did this episode in response to the movie; which is free advertising. “Something New” is a nice story; however, I was disappointed that they made some of the African-Americans in the movie acceptable racists who reacted negatively to interracial dating. How likely is this to really happen in 2006? No one in my family cares about the race of any family member’s lover. We were taught that love and respect are more important.

^ As LONG as this thread is (458 posts!!), I think the concept is still very controversial to some people.

I sincerely hope that some of you caught the season ending episode of “The Boondocks” last night! If not then please catch it on a rerun! You just might learn something…if you’re NOT careful that is…lol.

Peace.

I would…but its just never happened (opportunity). i’m open to almost anything.

Well…it’s hard.
I have dated white in the past and got all sorts of stares from the brothers (the “what is she doing with him?” stare). And like “i’m not her”, he was Banana Republic white. We had the same ups and downs as my relationships with brothers and I would now say that I would date anyone who treats me well and respects who I am.

I WOULD DATE A WHITE GUY…I FIND SOME OF THEM MORE ATTRACTIVE THAN BLACK GUYS….IF I HAD TO CHOOSE BETWEEN A SEXY WHITE GUY WITH A NICE PERSONALITY AND A SEXY BLACK GUY WITH A SNOBBISH PERSONALITY I WOULD CHOOSE THE WHITE GUY.

I am a white guy, currently dating and completely in love with a black girl. I really can’t find any reason why we shouldn’t be together. I really can’t believe this would even be an issue to some people, this was our parents problem, our generation should be the one to have learned that it doesn’t matter what color you are, but who you are on the inside.

The same goes for all the generalizing of black guys going on in this post, saying “black guys aint shit”. It is not a product of their color of skin, white guys can be scum just as much as asian guys and so on. There is alot of white trash out there as well, and from my experience, some of the black guys I know are the type of guys I would let my little sister date.They’re Just good people.

I’m normally NOT into white ladies but I would maybe even consider dating one before I would date alot of the “BLACK MALE HATING SELLOUTS” on this board! And that’s a shame!

Aha!!! There it is!

You would date a white girl before you would date us “sellouts”, yet we’re sellouts because we date white men? Talk about hypocrisy. I was waiting for someone to spout some shit like this.

That’s the exact reason why I’m not interested in black guys like you. And you wonder why some of us don’t want to date people like you.

Aha my a%$…yeah like I said, with all the black male hating sellouts up here…believe it! Wouldn’t even want to.

The black women in my life are nobody’s fools but they don’t hate either!

Like I said, hypocrisy at it’s finest.

So with somebody white or what?

it depends its all about personality and character

Hey Drew, loved reading your comments,very well stated.

Actually, no. I’m with someone Asian.