Vibe: What is your response to the new video that Mary is doing with 50 cent?
K-Ci: That’s crazy. After all this time she’s making a video about me
and her? I haven’t seen the video. But I’ve heard about it. It’s supposed to be about a time in our life when we were supposed to get married. I never said I was going to marry her.
Vibe: So you two were never engaged to jump the broom? Did you ever give her a ring?
K-Ci: Yes I gave her a ring, not because I wanted to marry her. I gave her a ring after she came off tour and she kept hinting around that she wanted a ring. I never agreed to marry Mary J. We never talked about starting a family or anything like that. We were not as serious as people thought.
Vibe: So, she thought that the two of you were getting married?
K-Ci: Right. That was all in her head. I was young and living my life. I didn’t want to be anybody’s husband. I was young and living wild. I was celebrating everyday and partying and hooking up with different women. I wasn’t ready to settle down with anybody. Mary knew that. She knew I cared about her but she also knew that I wasn’t going to be tied down to her. She accepted that and continued to call me and come around me even at times I didn’t want her around me. I would tell Mary over and over to go and find a man that is ready to settle down and play hubby.
Vibe: You had to have loved her at one point or another. You guys sang together, did shows together. There had to be something.
K-Ci: There was something. It wasn’t what Mary wanted everybody to think. She wanted the world to think that we were living a fairytale and all of a sudden I ended it. We cared about each other, but I wasn’t in love with here. The feelings were never mutual. We would do shows together and afterwards I wanted to hang out with the guys and party and talk to fans. Mary would go crazy. She would come up to my hotel and bang on the door, screaming and hollering at the top of her lungs until I came out. She would come up to me at parties and disrespect my company. I had to be careful because if she saw me with a woman she would try to start fights and put on a big show. It was crazy.
Vibe: Why do you think she was acting like this? There had to be reason. Do you think she was mislead to believe that you wanted to be with her?
K-Ci: I don’t understand how, because I told her all the time that I didn’t want to be in a relationship with her. That still didn’t stop her from calling and paging me and showing up at the studio drunk. There were so many episodes. She was constantly embarrassing herself.
Vibe: Do you think the sex made her fall in love.
K-Ci: *laughs* I thinks so, but no woman should let sex control them and make them feel things for someone. If the feelings are not there, you have to let go and move on and work on building yourself. You can’t let good sex control your mind and control your emotions. A lot of men would have loved to be with her, but she was into me instead of being into Mary J. Blige. She turned down a lot of guys because she thought they only wanted her for her money and fame. She would cry about this all the time.
Vibe: Were you ever attracted to her. She is a beautiful women. Very stunning.
K-Ci: I was attracted to her because she had so much ambition. She would be in the studio for 12 hours a day. She was determined to live her dream. That’s what I was attracted to. Her determination and her drive is what motivated me.
Vibe: What about the physical? When you first saw Mary, what was your first thought?
K-Ci: She seemed very nice. Very down to earth. I wasn’t attracted to her the first time we met.
Vibe: How did the two of you start dating? There had to be some kind of attraction between you and Mary. What was It? How did the two of you make a match?
K-Ci: We saw each other at Uptown records several times before we exchanged numbers. I wasn’t trying to get involved at the time. When we recorded a song for her debut album What’s the 411, we had a lot of chemistry. We slept together. She enjoyed it. We began hanging out at the studio. We became friends. We would talk a lot. She was very opened about everything. I respected her for that. She was honest. She would tell me the truth about myself. That’s what made me want to embrace her as a friend.
Vibe: She was a good friend, so how did everything fall downhill?
K-Ci: Mary had a lot of problems. She came from Yonkers New York. She was from a broken family and she still had to carry those issues on her back. She had low self-esteem. She was very insecure. That’s the part of Mary I didn’t like. She was a determined woman and she was serious about her career, but she had no self love. She would always say how much she hated her big feet. She would complain about the scares on her face she got from fighting girls around her neighborhood in Yonkers. She wanted me to make her feel pretty. I couldn’t. She was just a woman to me. I didn’t see her the way people look at Halle Berry, Robin Givens or Vanessa Williams. She was just a regular woman. That was fine with me, but it wasn’t fine with Mary. She didn’t feel good about herself. Even with the clothes, the hairstyles and the jewelry, she didn’t feel worthy.
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