DRAMA WITH BUSTA RHYMES & HIS LESBIAN BABY MAMA
Monday, June 26, 2006
Written By: HASANI GITTENS for NYPOST (online edition)
Hip-hop wild man Busta Rhymes had a 10-year roller-coaster romance with a high-school sweet heart. They had three beautiful children together. He repeatedly proposed marriage to her.
Then she turned gay.
The two have just ended one of the nastiest four-year custody battles in hip-hop history - rife with allegations she had lesbian sex in front of their children, that she does drugs in the house and that she’s an absentee mom.
But Rhymes’ ex-girlfriend Joanne Wood says she believes he doesn’t hate her because she’s a bad mother - he simply can’t stand the fact that she’s chosen a woman over him.
“His ego is definitely hurt,” she told The Post in an exclusive interview. “If he’s being emotional, then let him just be emotional - that’s like the bitch in him. If you want to be emotional, I don’t have a problem with that,” but “he’s wearing his emotions on his sleeve.”
Rhymes has been talking trash about his former girlfriend while promoting his new album, “The Big Bang,” which exploded to the No. 1 spot on Billboard. He’s called her names from dangerous to crazy to gold digger to other unmentionables.
In her first newspaper interview, Wood said she wanted to set the record straight. “He can learn a lot from the ‘man-bitch lesbians,’ ” she said, referring to a phrase he’s used lately to describe her.
But Wood, 32, who lives in Baldwin, L.I., with a lover, says they weren’t always at each other’s throats. They once were sweethearts at Uniondale HS.
They were madly in love despite their differences. Rhymes, born Trevor Smith, was a rough rapper wannabe from Jamaica via Brooklyn. She was a demure girl with middle-class parents.
MORE ON THEIR RELATIONSHIP
“Did I cheat on him? Hey. . . .” she said, grinning a little as she trailed off.
But to clarify, she added, “I wasn’t cheating on him with a woman. If anyone wants to know. I wasn’t at all.”
And also for the record she wants to world to know that Rhymes did not “turn her off men.”
“A relationship is a relationship. It happens. I have nothing negative to say as far as our relationship, whether it was good or bad, sexually, or not. That had nothing to do with me doing what I did [becoming a lesbian]. It’s not like I spitefully did it.
“He had a problem with everything,” she laughed. “He’s a Taurus - he’s a real arrogant person, he has a problem with everything.”
In the same breath, however, she defends her former love.
“But on the other hand, he’s soft-hearted - he’s a softy, at times, when we’re together. I don’t know what happened.”
Over the past four years, they have been in a bitter custody battle over their three sons, T’Ziah, 13, T’Khi, 6, and Trillian, 5. She said what Rhymes has been saying about her “pretty much makes me out to be a crazy person. He said what he had to say and that’s fine. I don’t have any problem with that.
“But my kids can read, they can see the negativity that he’s saying about me. He needs to focus on his music and hope that his album goes double platinum or whatever, because you know at this point in his career if you don’t make it now, that’s it.”
Rhymes won custody of the couple’s children in December when Judge Burton Joseph in Nassau County Family Court decided he was a more fit parent than Wood. No abuse or negligence is cited, but there are more than a few references to her “lover” and “lifestyle,” and she and her lawyer thinks she’s been the victim of prejudice.
The court decision notes that on one occasion, one of the kids walked in on her and her female lover having sex in the bedroom, but she and her lawyer point out, “Where else should they have sex?”
Another section points out that she and her lover may one day get married.
“It seems that this judge was dwelling on the fact that it was a woman with a woman, and that’s what came out of this, and it seems to be very unique,” said her lawyer, Rick Savitt, who did not represent her in this latest Family Court case.
“If you find the mother’s unfit, that’s one thing, but they never found any of that. But to take the custody away, give it to the father and say, ‘Dad, go move to L.A., Grandma, you take the kids.’ The people I’ve spoken to say they’ve never seen that before.”
Wood currently has visitation rights twice a week and every other weekend to see her kids, who now live with Rhymes’ mother in New York while he tours.
She is gathering the funds, and the strength, for an appeal of the custody decision.
“Honestly, the kids are the one that got hurt through this entire ordeal,” she sighed.
“As you get older and you have kids, they change your life, and honestly, I thought that they would have changed Trevor’s life, but it didn’t.
“He’s a great father, when it comes to sitting down, talking to the kids. And we can agree on certain things, but I have to say, this fighting me because your ego is hurt, you’re not hurting me, he’s hurting the kids. They know exactly what’s going on, which bothers me. But I can say they’re happy, we spend good times together. I know they don’t see their father as much as he claims he does.”
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76.
sosoreal
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
LMAO @ #17!
@20: Me neither! I;m seeing too many gay,bi,try females out there. What the fuck is going on? These men are dumb as hell for liking bi women cause they’ll be gay and won’t fuck with men anymore.
77.
msego
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
idk what to say other than thats a lot of information and quite embarassing
78.
Nefer
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
This is too much information and embarrasing. They both need to shut up and stop airing their dirty laundry for the public to hear. He should also have respect for the woman if for nothing else the fact that she is the mother of his children.
79.
ghostposta
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
I can’t help but to think this was all brought to light to boost the sales of his CD, especially since this story vaguely resembles certain aspects of the plot from that ‘I Luv My Chic’ video. Ya know…’with Busa Bus and Gabrielle(my wife) fighting’. It kind of goes along with the theme. That PR machine is a beast. Any publicity is good publicity. Feel sorry for the kids though…to have to go through such turmoil in the publics eye.
80.
FUCK BUSTA
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
YES FOR LIFETOTHEFULLEST I DO HAVE PERSONAL INSITE ON HIS LIFE AND I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT’S GOING ON IN THE SITUATION SO BEFORE YOU SPEAK MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET TO KNOW THESE ARTIST ON A PERSONAL LEVEL THEN YOU CAN SPEAK ABOUT WHAT I KNOW. AND NO THE COURT CAN’T MAKE YOU SEE YOUR CHILD BUT DAMN FOR A NIGGA ALWAYS TALKING ALL THAT FAMILY BULLSHIT HE BE TALKING BOUT SOUNDS KINDA CRAZY THAT HE REALLY DON’T PRACTICE WHAT HE PREACHES. THE ONLY REASON HE DOESN’T SEE HIS CHILD FROM NC BECAUSE THE MOM IS WHITE AND HE AIN’T TRYIN TO LET NIGGAS KNOW THAT HE HAVE A MIX CHILD BECAUSE OF HIS “FAMILY VALUES” AND RELIGION AND ETC, ETC, ETC…ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS THAT THERE IS 3 SIDES TO EVERY STORY BUT BEST BELIEVE WHEN BABYMOMMA SAYS HE AIN’T AROUND IT TRUE. AND YES HE CAN BE A GOOD FATHER BUT DO GOOD FATHERS LOVE THEIR KIDS UNCONDITIONALLY OR CAN THEY CHOOSE TO LOVE SOME AND NOT OTHERS. BUSTA NEEDS TO KEEP HIS DICK IN HIS PANTS AND STOP MAKING ALL THESE BABIES SO HE CAN STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT HOW MUCH CHILD SUPPORT HE DOES AND DOESN’T NOT HAVE TO PAY. HE IS FOR REAL FUCKING UP HIS KIDS BUT HE’S AN IDIOT AND CARE NOT TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT HE’S DOING THAT. THAT’S WHY WE HAVE SO MANY FUCKED UP KIDS MOMMA’S TRYING TO RAISE 40 ARCES AND A MULE AND FATHERS ARE ROLLING STONES. GROW UP BLACK MEN AND TAKE YOUR FAMILIES BACK UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE WE ARE LOSING OUR CHILDREN EVERYDAY.
81.
Ana
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
Um plasir, that’s bulls***. I dont care if it’s 3:00 in the morning and your kids were sound asleep you are supposed to lock your door before you do you business. Furthermore, kids should not have to grow up seeing their parents having premarital sex especially with the same sex. It only takes two seconds to lock the door and that can save a lot of time later on explaining to your child what they saw you doing.
82.
bill
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
“Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.” Romans 1:27 NKJV
83.
Gela
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
Wow, FUCK BUSTA & life2fullest,
Both of your posts were very well stated, & inspiring… I can appreciate & respect that a lot.
It was the truth & that’s what’s real…. I like that!
**Claps**
84.
M E RENEGADE
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
I ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT HE WAS MARRIED TO HER. THIS IS NEWS TO MY EARS AND I USUALLY KNOW EVERYTHING. WELL ALMOST EVERYTHING…
85.
Gela
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
**opens drawer, gets a pen & takes notes in a notebook**
This information is very intriguing about BUSTA, I never would have known… For real…
F*%^& BUSTA gave me a new light at seeing Busta… That’s wrong of him, and he lost a lot with me…..
86.
Mikki
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
@ 55 doinitwell
Please dont tell me His HYpe Man was Spiff Star!!!
OOh Lawd Please dont tell me that !!!
87.
Something Fierce
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
I WOULDN’T want my child to be raised by gay parents either BUT Busta isn’t much of a FATHER anyway…
So HE’s an idiot for using that info to get custody of his kids… WAS SHE a bad mother because getting caught having sex by the kids IS more common than people are letting on!!!
I HOPE that the kids grow up to be stable adults because the ADULTS in this case are Very Unstable with their actions and behavior !!!
88.
steve
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
THIS IS CLEARLY NOT OUR BUSINESS.
89.
alongway2go
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
Busta made it our business when he went on the radio and interviews airing his business. Some brothers needs to learn how to keep their mouth shut if they don’t like other peoples comments.Whateva the problem is between Busta and his baby momma is real screwed up but he has 5 kids that are paying the price for his stupidity. Busta grow up?
90.
Tony
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
That’s a damn shame.
91.
msego
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
i feel sorry for those kids, but this is just nasty, i’m not on anybody’s side.
92.
Shina
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
I agree with # 67
93.
Cublktigress
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
@ 18..yea we Taurus are some stubborn beings but sometimes it works to our advantage.
That’s a messed up situation! No matter what the drama is, the truth of the matter is at the end of the day, they are both the parents of those kids and they should at least try to create an environment surrounding them that is not as chaotic and emotionally damaging.
As for him having other kids around that he doesn’t see, if this is true, then that’s even more messed up. Especially for the children involved, it creates emotional damage which can’t be repaired. Not to mention future relationship issues.
94.
no, thank you
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
For all you ignorant folks saying you wouldn’t want a (presumably) straight child raised by gay parents, where you think all us (supposedly sick, fucked up, whatever you’re claiming) gay folks came from? Your straight households! The only thing traumatizing for a child about accidentally witnessing probably a few seconds of adult sex is adults over-reacting to the situation.
95.
Cmeez
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
Busta needs Jesus cuz whatever religeon is currently affiliated with (5%????) is not cuttin it.
96.
Cmeez
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
As far as gays coming from heterosexual households…hey once you are grown you can make your own decisions but as a child you need to grow up in a normal (heterosexual)household. Period, point blank. If you have a problem with that you need to take that up with God. He made the rules, not me, homeboys & girlz!
97.
lea
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
ive heard it all right now especially lickn carpet never heard that b 4 lololololoo thats to funn-e but back to the matter at hand busta is right nhe out here tryna make ends meet and she disrespecting the children what you do in yo bed room is yo bissness like i sed b 4 JESUS made adam and eve not adam and steve who da hell want 2 moms or 2 dads black children aint used to dat folk need to stay in da closet and keep da key just my opinion
98.
SheRoc
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
@Tyrone Biggums- You really are a Tyrone Biggums aren’t you? If you want to know what crazy white folk are up to, go to a WHITE GOSSIP WEBSITE. In case you had noticed this is a BLACK ORIENTETED WEBSITE, dumbass.
99.
SheRoc
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
hadn’t
100.
SheRoc
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
BTW, heard Busta was on the DL, long before I ever heard of Superhead.
101.
Gela
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
That’s true too, Steve.
Co-signing to your post #88
102.
CHITOWN FINEST
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
If they both new better they’ll do better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
103.
kindanice
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
Busta Ex said:
“But my kids can read, they can see the negativity that he’s saying about me”—-Yeah. They can read what u say 2. So putting more of your fams business Up in the post is not good for the kids and u barely touching Busta.
The court: They are dead wrong. Where is the court now while Busta azz on tour. The kids lost big time.
kind.
104.
Activist Mamma
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
I cosign with #19 Hero….Why do Black folks continue to give their children names like that? It’s not creative, it’s DUMB!!!! Do you know embarassing it is for a school aged child to have their name CONSTANTLY mispronounced? My best friend went thru this all thru school. Most teachers didn’t even bother to learn the correct pronuncation and just gave her a nickname. She was always so hurt by that. Everyone else got to be called by their name, why not her? But as a child, what do you do? She felt powerless. PLEASE Black folks, think about the names you give to your children. It can be ethnic and that is your right but if you’re going to do that, for goodness sake, please let it mean something. Don’t just make ish up!!
I feel so sorry for these children. Their parents putting all their business out in the street like that is a dayum shame because in the end, the kids are going to be the ones to suffer. So what she’s gay? Hey Busta, newsflash for ya: SHE’S ALWAYS BEEN GAY! I think that Busta, along with many others in our community are still very homophobic. Many homosexuals are afraid of being alienated by their loved ones for being gay so they keep quiet and try live a lie. We all know that it shouldn’t matter if someone is gay or not but we all know that in most cases, unfortunately, it DOES matter.
105.
jaime del rio
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
wuh she does in her BEDROOM has nothing to do with him. if she was having sex in front of the kids then thats something totally dif. wuh some of u all fail to realize is that busta is jamaican. jamaica is one of the most homophobic countries/group of peopel out there. ive herd story of people being beaten to death for blowing a kiss @ another dude. as long as u take care of ur kids and do nothing wrong to them or near them then it’s ok
106.
kindanice
Tuesday, June 27, 2006 /
I know this is not a laughing matter but:
@#80
“THAT’S WHY WE HAVE SO MANY ‘UCKED UP KIDS MOMMA’S TRYING TO RAISE 40 ARCES AND A MULE AND FATHERS ARE ROLLING STONES.”
LMAO—U are so wrong for that, yet so right.
kind.
107.
ashleigh
Thursday, June 29, 2006 /
BUSTA’S BABY MOMMA IS A CARPET MUNCHER!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
DAMN BUSTA BUST…I GUESS SHE DIDN’T WANT THEM CRABS THAT U HAD AT 12
THATS A DAMN SHAME. A CARPET MUNCHER AND INFRONT OF THE KIDS OH WOW…THATS REALLI A DAMN SHAME
108.
dee
Thursday, June 29, 2006 /
Homophobia is everywhere ! It has absloutely nothing to do with him being Jamaican. Damn !
109.
dago
Thursday, June 29, 2006 /
I HEARD BUSTA WAS GAY A LONG TIME AGO.
110.
BaddLil'Mama
Saturday, July 1, 2006 /
#27 U STUPID!!!!@#$ If you are really in love with someone you are not going to want to see them chompin’ on nobodys coochie…..(Period) And I think she was unfit (gay or not) if her kids were seeing her have sex! Thats not good, but him taking the kids and giving them to his mother is not good either….
111.
Middlefinger
Saturday, July 1, 2006 /
Whatever…whatever. Kids shouldn’t have to grow up witnessing their mother in some perverted shit. At least they have some degree of stability and normalcy w/their grandparents.
112.
TELITLIKEITIZ
Sunday, July 2, 2006 /
@ 68 FUCK BUSTA- understood, I too am a victim of a financially well off deadbeat father BUT…I didn’t need therapy and neither should his kids whom have never seen him. What makes them different from any other kid that don’t have a daddy? Child support hell yeah, therapy-NOT EVEN (sounds more like a pity stunt for more money). If they are in therapy, its not just because daddy isn’t there. And lets not NEGATE the responsibility of these women who have been screwing since age 9 then get preggo as soon as they get 5 minutes with a dude with some change and have these keep-a-nigga-babies(AKA GROUPIES & WHORES). Instead of therapy, they need to explain that mommie was a hoe and didn’t even know daddy’s last name when she slept with him without a jimmy so that is why all we get is 1 call a year and a check. The moms need to accept it for what it is and raise their daughters to be well-respected individuals in a society that has evolved into a majority of single parent families.
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