Congratulations. They seem like a nice couple.

he’s not going to marry her

LOL @ #2. I, too, wondered why the long engagement. Anyway, Congrats to them.

Hell Yea #2, but she’s set for life now, is this another Kim Porter, talking about having this career, few glimpses of it, but all they are doing is getting knocked up??

Boo. Why can’t anybody get married first then have the baby?

Congrats to them they probably get married after # 3 I wanna be like kim porter when I grow.

Very true #6!!!

Still I wish them the best.

LALA SEEMS TO HAVE HIM SPRUNG, NEVER REALLY WAS A BIG FAN OF HERS BUT CONGRATS TO THEM BOTH. I THINK THAT HE WILL MARRY HER.

Children are such a blessing!

Good for them. Hope they do get married.

Just lovely!

I don’t think they’ll get married either, if he hasn’t done it yet, why would a baby close the deal?

Lol@ they plan to wed after the baby’s born. Well, times are certainly different. As long as that baby is loved and cared for that’s all that matters in the long run. Cute couple, too…

Im at school right now, I heard about that story. Its too soon for the announcement. Why can’t they wait till she gives birth.
Lala my girl tho, you sure she ain’t pregnant wit my baby tho?lol Seriously she looks good, I thought I was gonna wife her before Carmelo Anthony. Word is that Carmelo is a Pot Head, blazin in shit. He was on some show(AMW MAYBE).

Naw, they aint gone get married. Seems like they got too many issues. One minute she rockin the ring and the next minute she aint got the ring on….

But like Ne’ said…children are a blessing so Congrats to them.

Quote said:
“This will be the first child for both. The couple, engaged since Christmas Day 2004, plan to wed after the baby’s birth”.

Interesting.
* I promised to behave myself today, so I’l leave that quote alone……..

he aint gonna wife her.why would the baby change it.just some bullshit excuse

They ain’t hardly gettin’ married. Ol’ Boy is only 22. I hope they have a healthy baby though…

I’m glad to see all my ppls comin back to CL! I haven’t heard yall comments in a minute! I wanna hear from all the OG’s(includin me) that was here a while ago from
(BashyBoo,Ne’,,Caff,Meatloaf,Asbury,GGBOO,Bill,etc. Yall comments was hilarious. Still trippin off som.LMAO

I think they make a lovely couple. Well I guess Congratulations is in order. So Congrats on the expected child and the engagement.

Hi Bill!

lol @ 2

well what if they accidentally got preggers (condom broke, she forgot pill) wutever the case
and she didnt want to get married preggers…alot of women dont
so they decide to wait until after she has the baby
is this not possible?

Bless this family.

They are doing it kinda, “bass ackwards”.

They don’t know whether to scratch their watch or wind their butt!

Career
Marriage
Family

Simple!

#2 U SAID WHAT I DIDNT WANT TO TYPE! BUT THIS IS A LOVELY STORY I HOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR THEM, I JUST HAVE AN ISSUE WITH OLDER WOMEN/YOUNGER MEN, SINCE WE ARE 7YEARS OLDER THAN OUR AGE AND MEN ARE 7YRS YOUNGER.

I THINK IT’S TACKY TO MARRY AFTER YOU HAVE KIDS OR BEING A PREGNANT BRIDE OR HAVING YOUR DAMN KIDS IN THE WEDDING, CALL ME OLD SCHOOL I GUESS . I KNOW THIS COMMENT WILL SPARK A DEBATE BUT IT IS MY OPINION SO BRING IT ON!

BUT ANYWAY IM NOT SAYING LALA ISNT A LOVELY WOMAN I JUST CANT TAKE HER AND HER NASAL TALKIN AND SHE ALWAYS LOOK LIKE SOMTHING AROUND HER STINKS…LINDA LIKE MC LYTE TALKIN THROUGH THE NOSE AND SHIT…

SHOUT OUT TO DINO !!
IM JUST HAPPY THINGS “SEEM” TO BE BACK IN ORDER ON THIS SITE. ILL KEEP ON PRAYING, MUAH TO BILL HE HAS SOOOO MANY FANS!! LOL SHAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

congrats to them…

Hey Dino, Nix, Bashboy, Foxxy380, EVERYBODY !!

I missed you too !!!

Love ya like a Play cousin !!

La la will forever remain a “wifey” instead of a wife. Once you start poppin babies you can forget about walking down the aisle.

I feel u #4

#4 Tracey said: “…she’s set for life now!”

Don’t count the chickens before the eggs hatch!

#28 lol….”wifey” “wifette” or “wifish” “wifelike”
hehe! “wiffle” “wife-aide”

i love melo and la la together. much luck to the pregnancy and i hope they have a healthy baby.

@ #5: That is a very good question. People are so backwards today, and no one seems to care. Just as long as these baby mamas get the check, they could care less what kind of foundation the child has.

Oh and one more thing. 27? She looks more like 37.

What’s up Bill, BashyBoo and all of CL! That’s a shame how excited we get when the site is back up. LOL!!! I don’t know how CL did it but I thought I would never be a junkie! LMAO! What did they do to me?

One baby by an NBA player won’t “set you for life” as some have said. There are toooo many guys in the league who have kids by women they don’t intend to marry.

Besides Lala’s rep was the one speaking of their “plan to wed after the baby’s born”. It’s just a plan, I didn’t see a date. They obviously been “planning” something for the past 2, almost 3 years.

I wonder if that is an old pic, cause he doesn’t look like a proud papa-to-be to me.

This is pitiful…LaLa’s grown ass should’ve been on birth control…she knows better than that. How dumb.
Amen #24…and for the record…LaLa really isn’t cute.

Something else ladies….take note..this is big shit I’m about to tell you…..When a man really wants to marry a woman, he doesn’t take 3 years to actually marry her after he’s proposed. He’s stringing you along, so you won’t nag.

Mello and LaLa sitting in a tree
f-u-c-k-i-n-g
First comes the baby
Then maybe it’s the marriage….

CA I SEE U GO BOY

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This is pitiful…LaLa’s grown ass should’ve been on birth control…she knows better than that. How dumb.
Amen #24…and for the record…LaLa really isn’t cute.

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Nichole said:
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Something else ladies….take note..this is big shit I’m about to tell you…..When a man really wants to marry a woman, he doesn’t take 3 years to actually marry her after he’s proposed. He’s stringing you along, so you won’t nag.

Bill Said:
PREACH Nicole !!
This is ridiculous…

A Man KNOWS IMMEDIATLY if he wants to get married or not, but will usually take from 4-8 months to close the deal
** Brother’s REALLT need to do a background check on women to make certain they ain’t hooking up with a gold digger, a go go dancer or a former man..

***Brother’s also need to take “wifey to be” to the doctor RIGHT AWAY to get a AIDS Test…

A Dear DEAR friend of mine just passed away..
She had been living with AIDS for over 20 years, and she just died last week..

Her Husband was a substance abuser, and everyone on the block knew it, but she was young & dumb and wouldn’t take anyone’s advice…
Anyways, He died immediatly, and now she’s dead 20 years after the fact…

Anyways, Back on Point:
It takes about 4-8 months for a brother to put the ring on a women’s finger, and walk down the aisle..
IF it takes longer than a year for a guy to pop the question, HE’s NOT GOING TO MARRY YOU.

Sorry to break it down like that,
But that’s just how it is…

Peace

Melo ain’t tryin’ to marry Lala, but Lala and baby are set for life. Lala you done good girl, LOL

I agree with #24 LaLa is too damn old for Melo.I mean tying this young man down with a baby(I know it takes two to tango)but she need to get somebody her own age

Man Im just plain disgusted!!!

Talkin bout they gonna get married after the baby born!!!!!

WHAT THA F***(YALL KNOW THE REST)!!!

If everyone on this site is so morally superior and doesn’t believe in having kids before marriage, than who are all the unwed mothers running around here?
I am so not disturbed by a brother making a million dollars plus on a guaranteed contract (guaranteed if he has a career-ending injury or is dead for that matter) having a baby out of wedlock. At least Carmelo can afford it. LaLa is on the MTV payroll so a sistah has a job and career. Kim Porter has no discernible source of income that I’ve ever heard of aside from child support. So they can’t be compared.
As long as the two of them are in sync about how to raise the child and spend the quality time needed to raise it when or if they get married is nobody’s business but theirs. Now these teenagers with no jobs living up in mama’s house still trying to go to a Chris Brown concert, those kids the ones I’m worried about.

IMO anyone who waits longer than a year to get married these days is someone with sense
i even condone living with a person before you actually get married

isnt marriage supposed to be till death do us part?
well thats a long ass time
unless people marrying these days are in it for a good 5 or 10 years and then its quits (which seems to be the case anyways) dont you think you should really get to know someone 2 or 3 years before making the committment to be with them FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE
because then if thats not the case…why is the divorce rate so high?

# 40 I disagree with a man popping the question after a year. I feel it takes a little longer than a year to really get to know someone. I would look at a man like he has truly lost his mind if he is trying to propose at a years time. In my opinion that is just entirely to early.

#43..You are ghetto as hell for that comment, but you are funny as hell. LOL @ Chris Brown concert.
*Dying on the floor*

OK BILL!! Damn, you are TOO much! Dead on right as usual though…I have always said that if a man waits over a year to ask you to marry him, he isn’t gonna ask…He doesn’t want you like that. I”ve also always thought, and you confirmed it, that men know immediately if they want to get down with you like that. Just like women know.
LOL @ Gold digger, go go dancer, or a former man…I love the way you just threw the former man comment in there.
Listen to Bill!! Get tested and use rubbers…ALWAYS!

Bill, that is so sad about your friend. Was she depressed these past 20 years?

further more if a guy asked me to marry him after 4 - 8 months i would be scared
like what are you desperate
need a green card or something

LOL

Nix, living together guarantees you nothing except, you probably won’t get married, and you’ll have fucked each other’s brains out if and when you do get married…#45….You obviously haven’t been in love because if you had, you’d know that a year is a lot of time to know if he’s marriage material. There is no guarantee you know a man if you kick it with him for 2,3,4,5 years.

He said the guy knows if he wants to marry you within 4-8 months…he didn’t say the guy was asking Nix.

uh #49
bill knows how i do
i was joking around with him on that

ok nichole
and have u ever thought maybe some people WANT to just live together?
fall back hun
not everyone read the princess diaries at age 8

Nix,
Here is the reason why it should NOT take a man 4-8 months to marry you

The reason why I put the 4-8 month equation in there is this:
If I want to marry you, then I’m attracted to you !!

I want to enjoy the fruits & juice of your nectar…

You know what I’m saying..
I’ll want to make love to you…
Now for months I’m walking around all hot & bothered, and your teasing me, flirting with me, and I realize that the ONLY way I’m going to “get it” is to MARRY YOU !!

See ladies..It’s THAT simple.
This is the way GOD intended it to be !!!

So…Along THOSE lines it should not take a man longer than 4-8 months to make up his mind to get married..No LONGER than a year
** This will ONY WORK If the lady isn’t giving up the goodies…
Now if she gives him the goodies BEFORE they are married, he WILL WAIT, and test the waters, to see if there is something better out there…
BELIEVE THAT !!!

Nix, My friend (who died of AIDS) was NOT depressed.
In fact she was a very famous AIDS activist, wrote several books on the topic of Living with AIDS, and she set up a support group for Women living with the AIDS Virus.
Do a Goggle search on Caroly Jenkins Pineda if you are interested in her, her support group and her Life’s Legacy..
Carolyn’s Home Going Service was Last Friday.
May Her Soul now rest in Peace.
She’s in Heaven With Jesus now !!!

and i never said it guranteed anything
please dont mis quote me if you’re gonna comment on my post

i said in MY OPINION
living together before getting married is something i would condone

#43 Kim Porter is an event planner along with two other women known as “3 Brown Girls” so she aint just some baby mama and yes you can compare her to LaLa.

Its a trip how folks making babies errrrwhere but nobody wants to commit to marriage

Just a bit ass backwards wouldnt you agree?

ok Bil i see you and will comment later when i reach home

but for the record I always respect you as an inteliigent thinker

Thanks Nix..And I respect you also !!

My Trinidadian Sister from Brooklyn !!

We’re going to have to double date one evening….

Whatever Nix…LOL Go ahead and live together…what for though?? I personally am not cooking and cleaning up for/after some Negro who isn’t going to marry me. Sorry.
Did I say I was quoting you??? Hell no…I was just TELLING you that it didn’t guarantee anything. Actually I was directing that guarantee comment to everyone, not just you. Never read the Princess Diaries either…might be worth the read if it emphasizes to girls that they shouldn’t live with a man.

#54…..Having a job doesn’t mean Kim Porter isn’t ordinary…she’s an event planner…so what? You can be anything you want when your baby daddy has $300 million. Having money means nothing when you kid comes to you and asks why Daddy didn’t love you enough to marry you.

*your kid*

Nicole,

Thank you for your comments.
I appreciate you.

* Listen Nix is a real cool person.
She’s has her point of view, and I always respect her, and vice versa…
We don’t always agree with each other, but we ALWAYS respect one another…

Nicole
My friend (who died of AIDS) was NOT depressed.
In fact she was a very famous AIDS activist, wrote several books on the topic of Living with AIDS, and she set up a support group for Women living with the AIDS Virus.
Do a Goggle search on CAROLYN JENKINS-PINEDA if you are interested in her, her support group and her Life’s Legacy..

Carolyn’s Home Going Service was Last Friday @ True Servant Church in Hamilton New Jersey.

May Her Soul now rest in Peace.
She’s in Heaven With Jesus now !!!

Thanks.

# 48- A year is too early STILL in My opinion and I am not saying in 2-7 years you will truly and really know EVERYTHING about your man because you never will know everything but a year is just TOO EARLY.

I mean gimmie a break a year??? Are you kidding me. Get real

LOL @ A YEAR, now that’s some funny mess right there

Lady J,

can I ask you a hypothetical question.

How long did it take for your parents to get married ??

MY Parent’s got married within two months of meeting (mother was a Virgin, when she married my father), and my parent’s marrige laste over 50 years, until he passed away…

If YOU feel that getting married before a year is to early, then that’s on you…

I belive in Love at First sight.

And basically in my OWN experiences, I found that A MAN KNOWS RIGHT AWAY, whether your the one or not..

I got married 5 months to the day after meeting my wife, and we have been going strong for 20 years now…

But that’s my opinion…
Your may be differant, and I respect that.

OK Lady J..I appreciate your opinion..I just disagree that a year is too early for him to propose. I know many people it’s worked out for, including myself. I also know people who had the same viewpoint as you and they waited over a year. They aren’t still married, or never got married. My only point was that usually, what you know in two years, you already knew at one year…you just decided to wait.

Bill, tell me about this Love at First site thing because I”ve never heard that being true. Is it?

#57 When I was stating what Kim Porter does I was not saying she is above average I was addressing the fact that she has a career as well and make note she is a celebrity event planner . I was saying that to address #43.

Dont get it twisted to me me she just another braod that done struck it rich too! LOLOL!!

Wateva, i dont even like Carmello

She did strike it rich, didn’t she? lol REAL rich..I just wish Puff would learn to close his mouth when he isn’t talking.

Point blank- It should not take 10 years( being sarcastic) to propose to someone, but a year is not HARDLY enough time either.

True colors are coming out in a years time and a year is just the beginning up a relationship to me.

A year is rushing, all you are doing by proposing ina years time is hurrying up the seperation or divorce papers. Take your time.

I have one friend who was proposed to in a years time and is now wanting to give the ring back and see what else the world has to offer, WHY? because his true colors started coming out and she realized that more time is needed and she feels as though she rushed into things. We all advised her to wait a little longer but she was blinded by the bling bling. And ya know what, he is not feeling her as much as he did either.

Nicole,

The MINUTE (The SECOND) I laid Eyes on my Wife I KNEW she was the one for me.

God created a Help Mate for EVERYONE.

When Man was created, God took a rib out of man and created WOMAN.

Modern Man spends his eternity (or his younger years) looking for his missing rib.

God gives us a “Sixth Sense” (Actually a DISCERMENT) when we meet our mates for life..

It’s really that simple.
A Man KNOWS who is going to be his wife, because God will cause the man to fall in Love with her IMMEDIATLY.

That’s why I say that this waiting to get married is ridiculous.
If God placed my HelpMate for LIFE in fron t of me, and God TOLD me that this is the women that I’m going to marry, WHY WOULD I wait more than a year to marry her ???

Now You SHOULD wait 4-8 months, maybe a year because you’ll have to do the following
- Get PRE MARITIAL COUNSELING !!
- Get AIDS Test
- DO A Complete background Check - Criminal History as well as a Credit Check.
- Look for a House
- BUY the House before getting married (so you have somewhere nice to move after the honeymoon).
- Plan the Marrige Ceremony, PAY for the Ceremony & the RINGS BEFOREHAND (don’t use your credit cards).

Nicole, If you need more advice, I’m going to set up my own Website & Blog !!
jkd

# 61 And I am very happy for you and your wife.

My parents wanted to get engaged after a year but my grandmother advised my mother to wait another year and she did. My father is a jerk still till this day and they were divorced after 3 yeras of marriage.

She told me she married a man that she thought she knew but his jacka$$ ways came out later.

YAWN !!!

I also donot believe in Love at first sight, No disrespect Bill but I believe that it is a bunch a bull.

Everyone may have their own definitions of love but “love at first sight” is not happening with me. You don’t even know me, how could you love me?? What is it that you could possibly “love” about me at first sight besides my appearance or what I am wearing???? is what I would ask a man

I guarantee you that true colors come out MUCH earlier than a year…within a few weeks, or months, you know if that N**** is crazy or not….You can pretty much tell what kind of person he is by his friends and family also, who you will obviously know within a years time. After reading YOUR story, I can see why you’d feel the way you do though. My only point was that you can end up filing papers no matter when you marry someone. You can give them 5 years before you marry and you may divorce.

Do that Bill! I”d love to see your Web site.

congrats to them. i wish they would’ve gotten married too because they have been engaged far too long.

I DON’T THINK THERE GONE TO GET MARRIED EITHER

And Bill before I leave for the record, I respect your opinion as well.

My intent is not to offend or come off as being harsh to anyone but I do not apologize for being opinionated either.

how is LaLa related to Luda again.

Ladies, ladies, ladies!

That’s his girl, and the whole world knows it! Dude ain’t got no other kids and I ain’t heard about him getting caught up with no other chicks, man, give a young man a break! Shit, he could have tried to pull a Ray Caruth, but instead we find a young cat making a public announcement with his fiancé letting the world know she’s having his baby.

What? You guy’s think she forced him into proposing? Well, maybe she influenced him!? I received that ultimatum, and I proposed, and then I got married, about… 3, 4… 5 yrs. Later! The point I’m trying to make is, I loved my girl (Now my wife) and I felt that a piece of paper wasn’t gonna make me love her anymore than I already did.

After we were married, I thought, there… we’ve done it, we’re married, mama don’t have to worry about if I’m gonna be around tomorrow, or the day after that, or the day after that, its official! Shiiit! Mama had even more questions; she got more questions than Alex Trebek… Where you been? Where you going? With who? How much is our check? You pickin the kids up right?

Wooooo! Man, on second thought, run Melo! Run ni**a! lol!

I’m just kidding, they’ll get married, watch.

*in whispering voice* run Melo, run.

ok bill ill hold u to the double date thing…lol

ok i see where these posts are heading…”alicia keys waits a year anyone’…lol
so im not really trying to go down this route again

i will say to NICHOLE
if ur cooking and cleaning after a man that wont marry you then YOUR BAD because that man should be helping you cook and clean in the first place ring or not lol
and why would you have to wait for a man to ask you to marry him? so sick of hearing that shyt
why cant you ask HIS ass?
is there some sought of ignant ass law that requires a man to ask a woman but a woman cant ask a man?
THE BEST WAY TO SEE IF A MAN WANTS TO MARRY YOUR ASS IS TO ASK HIM

WELL! We all had to see this one coming. I would have waited until we were MARRIED had I been LALA. Right now there is still that potential to be “JUST” a “BABY MOMMA”.

CONGRATULATIONS to them both.

Congrats to them, but WHEN ARE THEY GETTING MARRIED?

Bill, you always keep it real and I like that, you have spoken the truth.

Bill,

very sad on Carolyn I’m sorry to hear…

did she ever marry her fiance? because from what i read she was still engaged to him while pregnant …and then he died

and i completely understand where you’re coming from with the whole wait till you’re married thing
however is this why most cheat then?
because they couldnt get a chance to test the waters before they married and after they married and had some they said eh this wasnt as good as i thought it would be, let me see what else is out there?
real talk…

what if she got pregnant but accident which yes, is stupid, but yes, happens
and none of them wanted to get rid of the child obviously
and he’s gotta go to training camp/preseason/season in a second and by the time he’ll be back she dont wanna get married very pregnant
maybe, they just wanna wait?
i think they actually love each otha because i’m a young girl and GENERALLY most guys at that age can’t even be with a chick for a year
they seem happy
i hope it works out

Bill, isnt it still possible to know when you meet someone that they will be your spouse, but not exactly right away for various reasons? Just because you know whos “the one” dosent mean you have to speed race down the aisle. Meeting and getting married in a year works very well for some, but not soo much for other couples. Theres always a natural flow to the relationship before marriage and this may take longer for some couples than others.

CARMELO IS YOUNG & SEXY AND LALA IS BUSTED..WHAT WAS HE THINKING!! HE COULD HAVE CHOOSEN ANY CHICK IN THE WORLD BUT I GUESS HE’S SPRUNG IN LOVE & DUM. I HOPE THEY HAVE A HEALTHY SEED….

I disagree with Bill (no offense), but I guess people here look forward to “deep comments” and don’t beg to differ just because you’re older maybe? I don’t know, but I’m not that type of person to go with the flow.

Anyway, who really cares if they get married or not. Nobody’s perfect and just as a child doesn’t guarantee anything, a marriage doesn’t either. People get divorced all the time and some still are unfaithful. To judge someone just because they’re not married is crazy. I don’t care for these two at all but conrats to them. :/

There is nothing sexy about that brotha to me, but Lala is cool and I wish them the best of luck.

Damn and she just lost all that weight!…she just started to get fine

i am sorry but i need for them to get married. they been engaged for too damn long. and now they want to wait til after the baby is born. that does not sound promising. GET MARRIED ALREADY!

this comment may offend some of you, but truly i mean no disrespect. you’d think that @ 27 this chic would know better than to get pregnant from this man right now. if she did it to lock in a marriage; I guess you don’t really come to your good sense until you’re 30. having a damn near 3 year engagement is a strong example to what black women will tolerate, when the brother got a little lute. yall know good and damn well if this boy was your regular blue collar, grave yard shift working brotha…LaLa’s azz would have been gone and some of us too..LOLOL!! This man aint gon marry her, he’s too young!! He’s got his whole life ahead of him, and a lot of things to see and do. Look at him!!! . I know his mama can’t stand LaLa’s azz…hell he just got in the NBA and the next thing you hear he engaged to her…some of these chics don’t waste no time and you wonder why people call you “gold diggers”..DUH!!! Engaged for 3 years, putting up with crap, postponed the wedding, now you pregnant…I pray that the baby is healthy, otherwise your plan would have FAILED!! If the man really loves you and is ready to get married, you don’t have to change wedding dates, you don’t have to change plans, hell half of the time you don’t have to do nothing but put on the dress and walk down the aisle…but you damn sure won’t be engaged for no 3 years. That’s crazy!! When will women learn, that having a baby does not keep a man and it won’t guarantee marriage…that’s why we got so many divorces right now. people getting married for the wrong reason., out of obligation..PLEASE, you better make sure the person you’re thinking about marrying is someone you can see yourself with 40 years from now, rich or poor, sick or healthy…those are the marriages that last, the one’s built on true love; not lust, image,security,and good looks because all of that will be tested and fade away after a while! All in all, I pray that they have a beautiful, healthy baby. Children make your life complete, regardless.

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I disagree with Bill (no offense), but I guess people here look forward to “deep comments” and don’t beg to differ just because you’re older maybe? I don’t know, but I’m not that type of person to go with the flow.

Anyway, who really cares if they get married or not. Nobody’s perfect and just as a child doesn’t guarantee anything, a marriage doesn’t either. People get divorced all the time and some still are unfaithful. To judge someone just because they’re not married is crazy. I don’t care for these two at all but conrats to them. :/

Bill Said:
Okay. That’s cool.
What work for ME, may not work for you….
It’s okay to disagree…

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Bill,

very sad on Carolyn I’m sorry to hear…

Did she ever marry her fiancé? Because from what I read she was still engaged to him while pregnant …and then he died

and i completely understand where you’re coming from with the whole wait till you’re married thing
however is this why most cheat then?
because they couldnt get a chance to test the waters before they married and after they married and had some they said eh this wasnt as good as i thought it would be, let me see what else is out there?
real talk…

Bill Said:
Nix…I only knew Carolyn for 3 years, so I was only repeating the story the way that it was told to me..

Regarding testing the waters: Well, I believe that if you meet & marry your “Soul Mate” you won’t have a “desire” to “Test the Waters”.

So many people married the wrong person for the wrong reasons. But that another topic for another time..

It occurred to me that the reason why I feel so strongly about the institution of Marriage is because of how I was raised, and the examples that we placed in front of me.

My parents well married for 50+ years.

I have been married for over 20 years. Although my mate & I were separated for some time, we are now back together again, working things out.

In My 20 years of marriage I have never cheated, nor has my wife.

My wife is an extremely jealous person, and I do have a lot of female friends. She couldn’t handle that, and THAT’S what led to our separation. It was simply a matter of trust

Everyone in my family has had successful marriages, so as a result, I believe in the institution of marriage.

I don’t think that it’s “normal” to cheat on ones spouse. That’s just very extraordinary to me, to do that.

That’s MY opinion, and others may feel differently, of course.

I think it’s important to remember that there are all types of people in the world, and we are all programmed, by the pathways that we have traveled, and the examples placed before us.

So, if one doesn’t believe that one can have a successful marriage, or that their spouse will cheat, that is an unfortunate speculation.

The Devil IS a liar!!

You CAN be happy, successful, and have a spouse that loves you and cherishes you, till death do you part.

Well. That’s MY revelation.
You’re welcome to your own

good morning bill

let me start by saying i believe in the institution of marriage as well…otherwise I honestly wouldn’t be married
but i do think most people today rush into it without fully understanding the commitment they are getting themselves into or understanding what it takes to make a marriage work…because it really is a full time job to keep a marriage moving, I know this because I have been with my husband for over 10 years even though we just made it “official” 2 years ago
so to those of you who think if you live with someone they will never marry and that whole buying the cow when you get the milk for free kind of non-sense…things only apply to your life as you let it
and most importantly every situation and every person is different
I wouldn’t have done it any differently if given the chance again because I don’t believe into rushing into anything else I do in my life why should marriage be any different
You may not like where im going with this but even if you find the love of your life your marriage might not work, there are different things that go into a marriage like enjoying each others company, having great sex, respect, simple things such as caring etc…love alone will not make a marriage flourish…you can love someone to death but that does not mean they are right for you
I love my husband but because he has the other attributes that I AM looking for it makes my marriage work all the more better….and I had to take my time to make certain that he had MOST of I wanted in a LIFE LONG mate (not everything because you are never going to find that…no one is perfect) but he had most of the qualities I was looking for

Nix,

Thanks for Sharing….

No Debate here, dear…

It’s all about respect, commitment & communication

Back on subject though, hopefully lala and melo can be great parents whether they legalize their commitment or not
Because plenty people marry before having kids and their kids are no better off than the kids who parents didn’t marry

If they do marry I don’t think they will be together long
To me she seems like the repeat fiancé type
I remember when she got engaged one new years eve on mtv
Whatever happened to that engagement? I see her as being all about having a ring on…
But that’s just my opinion

….futhermore,If you feel that your rushing, then slow it down a notch.

no need in feeling pressured or stressed

my point is this: If your ready to get married, then get married…There’s really no need to “try her out for a test ride”, or “Let me wait 2-3 years, so I can see if they will change up, or maybe I can find something better”

Either your “Soul Mate” is YOUR “Soul Mate” or not.
There should really be no guessing in THIS area of your life..

If one has to Think twice, then do so…
But quite possibly, if one has doubts, then maybe that isn’t the thing for you to do…

I guess, when it comes down to it,
I’m blessed & Highly favored to have met my Wife at the exact point/time/minute in my life when I did…
Maybe I’m assuming that EVERYONE should be as Blessed as I was..
Maybe I’m assuming that everyone utilizesthe same principal (the Bible) that I do…

Live YOUR life, according to the way you were raised, and the paths that you have taken…
I’ll continue to live mine to the best of MY abilities

I didnt know she was that much older than him…

He isnt going to marry her, he is only 22..

The baby will probably be adorable…

thats just it though not everyone adheres to the same principals as you and not everyone is blessed to meet someone like that and in such a way
and i think in understanding people thats the first thing you have to realize is that not everyone holds your beliefs and i for one can appreciate those differences…i have friends from every walk of life every age etc…and they each have something to teach me
even if the lesson is to not do what they are doing HEHE
and i can definitely respect your opinions and learn from them to boot but it doesnt mean i have to follow them

also Bill its not really how people are raised sometimes…i come from a strict catholic background, went to catholic school, sunday school the whole 9 yards had the “right” way to do things instilled in me from day one
but as i got older and learned to form my own opinions and beliefs and not that of others i realized i felt better about my self and my direction was more clearly defined because whether good or bad only i know whats good for me…its one of the perks to being an adult LOL i dont have to follow society rules to be deemed morally sound although i wont deviate to the point of getting arrested either lol

nix,

yes dear….
* One of the important things that I’ve learned from being married is saying “yes dear” will get you off the hook from a lot of trouble..
lol..

I also learned that a man should always let the women get in the last word.

That leads her to think that she won the argument/debate !

so..Yes dear, your right dear !

lmao
touche

It really doesn’t matter how long it takes for them to get married. I think they should take all the time they need. Why would they rush to get married, spend a million plus on the wedding, then get divorced two months later? That’s nonsense.

My husband and I had 2 children and were together for five years before we were married. We’ve been together 12 years and still going strong.

My point is, if they’re rock solid already…marriage won’t make or break them.

Everyone thinks differently. Period point blank. People could argue all day to make their point, and at the end of the day, no matter what was said, they will usually leave the conversation believing the same things that they walked into it with. That being said, just leave Melo and LaLa alone. Do I believe they’ll get married? Probably not. It really does not take that long to get married in reality. The only way I can see it taking that long is if you’re trying to pay for everything yourself, and you don’t exactly covet the disposable income that is required to plan a wedding. I know. I just got married in June after graduating college in May, and my husband and I paid for a few things ourselves. Being young (22 and 21 respectively) it wasn’t easy, but all the stress was worth it. Now considering Carmelo’s income and LaLa’s employer, I would think that it’s pretty much safe to say that they have all the money they need to make this wedding happen. Most likely, they just don’t want to get married. Besides, whenever you do see them together, he’s not exactly glowing from being in love if you catch my drift. You can always spot a lovers’ glow, and he (and sometimes she too) does not possess it. If they get married, good for them. If they don’t get married because they know that it’s not the right thing to do for them or their child, then great for them for sparing that child the pain of watching his/her parents go through a divore, which no doubt would be messy with the size of that estate. Whatever the outcome, I wish them all the best, and I hope that they have a happy and healthy child. Children are your life’s greatest fruits, and if you truly love them, you’ll never consider them a mistake…maybe a surprise, but never a mistake. I know because I found out two days ago that I’m 7 weeks pregnant. Clearly that was not how my husband and I planned for our first year of marriage to go, but we’re still rolling with it and are so happy to be blessed with the opportunity to help God create a miracle. So, congrats to them! I hope whatever happens, they and their baby are healthy and much loved.

my thing is a lot of people on here are saying why should they rush to get married then why did they rush to have a baby?that is a huge responsibility to parent a child together.there’s a chance they wont be able to stand each other by the time the child is 5.then here go the baby momma/daddy drama that the baby is in the middle of.i wanna know how a person is good enough to have a baby with but not marry.look at nas/carmen drama look at supahead/kool g drama they dont even get along and got a child together and there are millions of everyday people going through that same drama cause i know quite a few.my point is if u should wait to get married you should damn sure wait to have a baby because then another person is affected by whatever your relationship turns out to be.
also to the people who think she just hit the jack pot.since when did a baby become a commodity.have a baby get a check.then she just a high class welfare momma the amount is different but the concept is still the same.have a baby get a check.and no one knows whats going to happen with his career.he could be injured,get suspended(ron artest), and i believe the check is only good for the duration of the contract (3-7) years.and also the check dont make the child feel better, just the momma cause if money made kids feel good why are there so many messed up rich kids.and everybody dont get kims deal either because there is a nba player from my state who got a girl pregnant in high school made the nba got engaged to another girl the baby momma got mad filed for child suport he had been giving her 2500 a month withou being on child support took it to court and the judge reduced it she ended up getting less than what he was giving her.

You know, I love me some Melo and I’m not a big LaLa fan but I have to side with them after reading these posts. Why is LaLa all of a sudden a Kim Porter? She has a job, not making more than Melo, but I’m sure hosting shows on MTV earns her a decent pay. HE said that she was there for him when he was going through some of the roughest times early in his career when they were still friends and HE knew that she was the one. He is a young man. He shouldn’t be getting married at 22 because he’ll likely divorce before he’s 25 if he does. LaLa hopefully is playing this right. When you are dating a younger man you have to give them time to mature. You can’t rush them into anything (like Cameron tries Justin). If she wants to be with him then she has to suffer the consequences of dating someone that much younger than her. I think however long they wait until they decide the time is right is the right move.

I guess I’m new school because I think that 1 or even 2 years is too soon to marry someone. Another thing is that people put too much into a marriage license. It’s a piece of paper. I don’t care how much I’m clowned for saying this but a piece of paper shouldn’t determine who’s relationship is strongest. A married couple could be miserable while a domestic couple could be going strong and hard. Why does being married make a couple who isn’t any less valid. I think that’s bullcrap.

Dang, yall are making me defend LaLa and she irritates the heck out of me. I truly hope this wasn’t a “I’ll get pregnant so he’ll have to marry me” move on her part. Sad if it is but I’ll be positive and hope it was just either planned or a innocent boo boo. Good Luck to them.

Backwards, isn’t it? Have a kid then marriage? They can still get married and birth the kid. Pregnant brides are cute! lol. times are different, and I’m only 23. Whatever

Umm…why couldn’t they get married BEFORE the baby? Hmmmm, sounds to me like even if LaLa loses her job, she still made sure she’s going to have a steady paycheck.

As far as folks having long engagements..that’s all a matter of opinion. Different strokes for different folks and just because a 3 year wait works for some people, doesn’t mean it works for others. You’d be surprised at how many couples “prepare” for marriage and still end up divorced within 3-5 years.

So I guess she is moving on to plan B, I mean if you couldn’t get the 22 year old to marry you after 2 years then I guess the baby card must be pulled….lol That boy is a baby still I want to see if they really get married.

I’m a big Melo fan, and don’t care much for LaLa. The whole situation just seems like a big set-up from the relationship, to the engagement, && now the pregnancy. I am 20 && feel she is just too old for him and to have him tied down at 22 is crazy but as a lot of people have said she’s now “set” for life IF she really is pregnant.

****EXCLUSIVE****

September 19. When MTV VJ LaLa Vazquez and NBA star Carmelo Anthony got engaged nearly two years ago, most people were skeptical. With Carmelo only nineteen at the time, it was hard to believe that he was ready to make that kind of commitment. Now that LaLa has announced that she’s pregnant, it would appear that the couple is finally headed down the aisle. But MediaTakeOut.com spoke to a friend of Carmelo’s who says that Carmelo has no intentions of marrying the MTV beauty.

In an exclusive interview, Carmelo’s pal described the up-and-down relationship that the baller has with LaLa. According to the friend, Carmelo and LaLa constantly fight over other women. The pal tells, “most women who deal with [NBA] players accept that there’s going to be [groupies], but LaLa isn’t like that.” Our source went on, “she can’t just play her position … it’s probably because she’s older so she feels she can control him.”

Carmelo’s pal then turned to LaLa’s announced pregnancy. In a stunning revelation, the ballplayer’s buddy told MediaTakeOut.com that LaLa may be faking the pregnancy. The friend explained, “I saw LaLa the other day and she didn’t look pregnant to me … I think she might be saying that [she's pregnant] just so that they can get married.” The hoopster’s pal does concede, however, that a pregnancy wouldn’t be all bad for Carmelo. The pal tells, “LaLa is a good person so I think she would make a good baby’s mother … I just don’t think that [Carmelo] should marry her.”

And the friend’s story appears to be backed up by a number of photographs that MediaTakeOut.com has obtained. In the first photograph, which was taken when LaLa was supposedly four months pregnant, she looks slimmer than ever. A closeup of the same photo shows that LaLa is wearing the engagement ring on her middle finger - a telltale sign of a trouble. In the third picture, taken just a few days ago, the ring is noticeably missing from LaLa’s finger altogether.

Developing…

http://www.mediatakeout.c...lusives/LaLa_Carmelo.html

that baby is gonna be cuteeee

LOL Hillarious on some real. LaLa and Melo expecting their fist child??? Okay, I find this hard to believe but I highly doubted this was planned. I mean come on now. Anyone who is smart will know this wasn’t planned. If Melo really wanted a baby by her or wanted to have a family with her….HE WOULD HAVE MARRIED HER LONG AGO. AM I lying???? Nope!!! Any otha brotha would have agreed. LaLa trynna trap Melo. She didn’t take her birth control pills or she manipulated his mind and got him good in bed. He was either drunk or sleeping and she jump on top of him. She acting like she because she is havin a baby by him that is gonna stop him from leaving her and not wanting to marry her. LaLa is a trip. If Melo was some dude who was in college and playing college basketball and not som NBA player making millions. SHE WOULDN’T GIVE HIM THE TIME OR DAY. She wouldn’t even have gotten his name tattooed her arm or wrist or wherever she got his name tattoo at on her body. She think she the Queen B. Because she is living large..because she with Melo and getting all that attention. Because she sho ass hell wasn’t braggin about how she was with Sugar J and she sho ass hell didn’t get his name tattooed on her body. LOL she a trip. I betcha she a hood right trynna run everything..from his house his friends his family and his life. I’m a female…I know how us females think. We will do some crazy things to keep a guy by our side….We are very good in manipulated a man’s head and making him believe alot of things and then getting him trapped. Alani “LaLa” Vasquez ain’t foolin nobody. And sooner or later Melo will see it. But he the dumb ass trynna get with a woman like her. He should have gotten with a chick around his age. And someone cuter. Cuz the only thing pretty about LaLa is her eyes. Other than that she looks like one big bug ready to be squashed. And Carmelo losin his touch too cuz he hasn’t been lookin too cute himself lately. He looks like he hasn’t been lifting weights or been running or anything. He’s been look quite messy himself. No Lie. I’ve been saying this every since I was watching him on ESPN “Real TRaining Camp”. Lawd Have Mercy…..no reason for him to be running around lookin a hot mess like that.

Honestly, not even on no hating shit because I do love carmelo’s fine ass, but I don’t think he ever had any intentions on getting her knocked up or marrying her because first of all he is 22 and she is 27! Also because if he wanted to marry her he would have done so, instead of them being “engaged” for two years! I think he just wants to have fun with the relationship but she might be putting a little bit of extra pressue on him…now certainly a baby is not gonna help the situation because at the end of the day if he decides he’s done, she’ll just be a baby mama…smh

What happened to marriage then kids??

I would hate to hear her shrill ass voice in the delivery room

What the hell was she thinking hes a 22 year old boy who is just starting his career, shes a 27 yr old women who needs a much mmature man. the only thing he thinking about is sex, and not about marriage. But I’m very happy for them…….i wanna see how the baby will come out to look ;p CONGRATS!!!

ok ok ok…….lala….isz a bitch…..i dun like dat hoe…….she likes to suk dik………..all da time….i hate her…….if i had a choice of her nd osama….i wuld pik osama …..FAT HOE…UGLIE SKUNT…..FUK YU BASTARD….SKUNT BRAIN……ANGEL WILL KILL YOU….I BET…..SHE HAS AN ARMY……SHE IS AN CAT…..SHE KAN WHOOP YURR CARMLEO LUVIN AZZ N E DAY…..SLUT…..FAGET AZZ PRICK……DONT REPLY…I’LL SEE YU IN HELL…….FUKEN SKUNT BRAIN…….PISS FACE

Come on,Carmelo is a much smarter 22 year old than people think,He hasn’t married her yet.I agree,Melo needs someone his age or someone on his level.She is too old for him and she is using this baby for income because soon her ass will be too old to DJ or host anything.Right now she looks too old and she knows the competition is heating and it won’t be long before she’ll be thrown off TRL for a PYT(pretty young thang).So she had to start on her next project before time nears end;(a baby)! In five years Melo might want his next child he’ll be 27 and she’s 32 come on Melo it’s cheaper to pay child support than child support and alimony!Plus she looks like she should be a grandmother than a mother.I know Melo’s mother has schooled him better she looks like she has lot’s of knowledge and like me don’t want anyone messing over her son.Send her on now and take care of your son Melo;the world knows about her and I have not heard a good thing about her.He needs to find him someone the media has never heard of.

LaLa is doing good cuz she got a fine man.But he’s 22 and she’s 27.And how iz he gon concentrate when he gotta play ball and be a father to his child.Anyways Carmelo is too fine!!!
Best of Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

carmelo is fine and lala is ok depending on what day it is and da color of her eyes.i don’t think they will get married becuz like yall said he is to young for lala. Lala needs a man not a boy im not saying that melo is a boy like that ,but to lala he is. thats like me going with a 3rd grader and im in the 7th grade duh i no to her he has those dumb times and lala just looks at him like duh.and anyway what happen to getting married first.people is getting this backwards anywho yall say fly

holla

carmelo is fine and lala looks ok depending on what day it is.anywho i think lala is to old for melo she needs a man and not a boy not that melo is a boy like that but i know some times melo has those moments when he acts all retarded and lala might get mad or something.well thats lala’s promblem and she is going to have to deal with that.lala 27 melo 22 please that will neva work yall say fly

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Im happy they are having baby but they really should have waited. I knew form day 1 I was marrying my fiance and we have been together for only 11 months total. he wants to marry me right away but currently he is on a deployment so it wont happen yet but best believe April 08 its going down. Also 37 is right 2-3 yrs on a engagement is playing I will but just wait…basically milking the cow

I Really Love carmello and i wish the best for him and lala vasquez