Have her and Ruben been doing the forbidden dance? If so is that how he lost all that weight?

Angel.la keep them coming. I love this pic. Ask her if Jamie’s breath stank at the BET awards.

Asbury, you know I ain’t asking that. LMAO.

Angel
Can’t we all just..get along?

lol @ “ask if jamies breath stank” when she clearly slobbed all over him :watches him wipe his mouth on youtube: Anywho, I like the first pic. Props to getting an interview.

Looks like some of yall missed that post when I posted up her new promo shots..

http://concreteloop.com/2.../new-fantasia-promo-shots

Ask where does she see her career in 10 years

What legend would she like to collaborate

Would she like her daughter to have a career in the industry?

Since she did a bio-pic, would she like to pursue more acting roles? If so, what genre?

What’s was her reaction to the Jamie Foxx kiss? Was she nervous?

Would she have made it in the business had it not been for American Idol? Does she still watch the show?

Keep the great interviews coming, Angel la!

How big is Jamie’s dick.

I know she knows

I mean, I really don’t know what you will be asking….cuz we already know everything we want to know about her….

Well, when is she coming out with another fly single…I guess that’s a bit more toned down than my first inquiry…..

Just ask her…be like…so, is Jamie holding the golden ticket?

Ask her how she keeps her voice together when she’s singing all the time. Does she not speak (as much) between engagements as I’ve read that some artists do to keep from wearing their voices out between engagements/performances.

I love that haircolor on her.
Go Tasia!

ask her if she has any other business ventures or if she is considering any such as a clothing line (u know they all do).

Ask her how her relationship is with her father since the movie on Lifetime? I think he wanted to sue the woman that co wrote the book with Tasia?

Also ask her if Ruben got sweaty balls.

Ask of all the American Idol season’s who would her ideal male and female duet be with?

@8 LMAO!!! i agree girl!! i liked to know too.

#12,
EWWWW!!!!!
Why don’t you drink to that question.

(bad taste in my mouth just thinking about Ruben’s balls…)

AAAH! ew

Does she feel she will be criticized for rockin the hairdo that has become Kelis signature look now?

Kelis is not the originator of the short spiked cut.
I remember Toni had it in the Another Sad Love Song video, and she looked fierce.

Asbury, they’re so sweaty they’re stuck to his leg.

#8 hell yeah she knows..so does
Meagan Good
Carmen Elektra
Kim Kashardian (probably)
oh yeah and Kanye.

Has anyone ever compared her vocal range to Stephanie Mills’?

Keep doing your thing angel-la….

As far as the fantasia interview can you ask her what direction she has taken this album in…..who has she worked with?

DOES SHE KEEP IN TOUCH WITH ANY OF THE CONTESTANTS FROM HER SEAON ON AMERICAN IDOL?

HOW DID SHE FEEL WHEN A BOOTED CONTESTANT ON HER SEASON GOT CASTED FOR A ROLE IN ONE OF THE YEAR’S MOST HIGHLY ANTICIPATED MOVIES?

DOES SHE FEEL SHE’S FINALLY JUST “FANTASIA” AS OPPOSED TO BEING CALLED “AMERICAN IDOL’S FANTASIA?”

WHO WOULD BE APART OF HER DREAM TOUR ROSTER?

Would she like to play Dorothy in a stage revival of “The Wiz”?

What? Kanye?

lol

Kanye is not gay.

lol….stickin to his leg though? You guys are NASTY!

I like the first pic better, she looks very cute in it and that would make a good album cover.

Ask her what will be her first single?

Why wasn’t Baby Mama released as a single?

Will she record a Gospel album in the future?

Are her lips as soft as they look?

Which past idols does she still talk to, if any?

What does she think about all the Oscar talk for Jennifer Hudson and Dreamgirls?

Ask her to rank the idol winners in order from best to worse.

Where her and Jamie Foxx ever dating?

Hey Angel big propts to you on your interviews. Keep up the good work.

Questions for Fantasia
1). How does she feel about the legal action brought on by her father against the publisher of her book, and how is their relationship as a result of his actions?

2). Her 1st album was well received but how does she top her last project?

3). I know your a single mom but how do you keep from producing songs that constantly deal with you being a single mom?

Ask her how this album is going to be different from her debut.

I love that shot of her. Her skin is amazing. She should bring her head down just a tad bit though.

What is her reation to her daddys interview that he did with Busta Brown down here in G’boro? He indicated that she was “lost” and isn’t listening to anyone that loves her.

I also want to know who does her hair.

@ 23 I LIKE THAT RANKING QUESTION.

Ask her, how many songs she has on the new album, and will her booklet have the lyrics in it? Also ask her what will she be doing on the day of the release, and ask her what is the official release date of tha album, because they keep on switching it up from the 5th to the 12th. Also ask her do she have a myspace page herself, and will she post anything to her fans, on her official myspace page?

ASK HER:

What’s good with that Missy Elliott “She’s a bitch” music video, Seal, album cover!!

What’s her approach this time around to get more albums off the shelves??

Why is she not around so often, like not media blitzing it??

I HAVE TO KNOW lol, thanks Angel!

Ask her if she’s dating anyone. If so is it a celebrity? How will this album be different from the first album. Is she cool with Kelly Clarkson, Reuben or any of the other American Idols, does she talk to any of them on a regular basis?
And Angel La, good job on getting all of these interviews, keep ‘em coming. I’d like to see one with Will Demps, New Edition, and Ciara. See what you can do! And if you interview Will Demps, I need to be on 3-way!

1. How is this album different from her first album.

2. Who are some of the people she has worked with on her second album? Who does she enjoy the most?

3. What are her long term plans in the entertainment industry? More plans to act?

4. Who hasn’t she worked with that she would like to?(artist, producer, etc)

Is the child’s father active in her life?

Is she dating? A celeb?

How does she feel abour her daughter’s father having a myspace page with a million pics of her daughter, but he wouldn’t claim her until after idol?

Why did she stop dating the football player?

How does she like being with violator management?

CL is doing big things…Well for now my only question is:

Did you get to hang out with Ludacris at the music festival in the Turks and Caicos back in August, if so, what do you think about him?

Also, would you be willing to visit the islands again in the near future?

=)

Ohh, 2 more! Ask her has she finished recording, and is the album done yet?

My ones!

If she Got plans to cross the seas , on her next album;

If her next album is going to be Worldwide;

If she is planing to do a dance video?

;D

Angel La. could you please ask Fanny what she really thought of AI season 5, and if she thought that Elliott Yamin was good? Check the link to see who Im referring to. http://www.yaminions.com/...aclos_ilymtyek_100806.mp3

lmao @ #8

Ask her what will he 1st single be?

Aske her what will her second single be?

Ask her does she visit her fan sites: http://www.fan-tasia.net and http://www.fantasiabarrinofan.com regularly?

Ask her if Dwayne Wade will really be in her new music video for “Hood Boy”?

1. Is everything relly cool between her and Keyisha Cole now.

2. Did she here about the Young buck mix tape and what he implied about her.

3. Did her and Jamie ever hook up.

1) Since she pretty much “walked” into the business, and many other celebrities struggled for years to become successful (some have worked the majority of their lives and don’t have the name recognition that she has) how do other celebs treat her, is she treated like a stepchild, or is everyone pretty much welcoming? (and ask for names if she says SOME people don’t treat her well - I told you bout backin down Angel! LOL

2) This is her second album in as much as three years, she’s going to school to get her GED and has found success beyond her wildest dreams - where would she be if she hadn’t won American Idol?

3) Was she offended that with a voice like hers, the competition came down to her and Diana Degarmo?

4) What does she think gave her the edge over Letoya London and Jennifer Hudson? And does she agree that the reason they were voted off is because the black vote was split 3 ways, whereas when she was alone, she pretty much had the whole black vote on lock?

5) Does it bother her that people refer to her as ghetto?

6) Is she dating and if so, is he in the industry? If not, what type of guy is she attracted to?

7) Besides staying in school, what would she change about her life if she had a chance to do it all over again?

How has her life changed other than the monetary aspect?

9) How does she deal with fame and people expecting her to be “on” all the time? Does it bother her that she can’t run to the grocery store without makeup on anymore without people having something to say about it?

10) Does she still have her old friends, or did THEY change when SHE made it?

5)

Does her broke ass baby daddy Brandel beg her for money now that she is rich? If so, does she tell him to kiss her ass and burn in hell?

Cuz thats what I would tell his ass!

Good questions #4.

How about:

1) Will she be touring soon?

2) Is she still under contract with the AI production company?

3) Any more acting roles in the future?

What is her relationship with Baby Boy Da Prince the rapper she meet in New Orleans and is he still her man..

Does she have any tours line up yet with the new cd coming out

HTOWN SAID:
And if you interview Will Demps, I need to be on 3-way!

OKAY. WILL DEMPS IS ONE FINE MOFO. OH MY TOO FINE!

ANYWAY LET ME COOL DOWN A BIT AND GET BACK TO THE TOPIC.
I LIKE PIC.

WELL THAT’S ALL I CAN SAY RIGHT NOW… I AM STILL THINKING ABOUT WILL DEMPS!

THANKS ALOT HTOWN!!! (LOL)

WHAT WENT ON BETWEEN HER AND KEISHA COLE?
WHAT DID YOUNG BUCK SAY ABOUT HER?
WHERE HAVE I BEEN…..DAMN

ASK HER…

1. How did it feel being asked to sing on “Endow Me” with all of those great singers?

2. Will she ever do a gospel album with her family again?

3. What advice does she give her brother Ricco Barrino about the music business?

4. Did you have more creative input on this album than the first and if so who were your influences/what’s the direction of this album?

5. Who are some of the writers/producers you worked with and did you write/co-write any of the new material?

6. **Who does her hair?

7. Who does she think is bringing “REAL” RnB and Soul back (male and female)?

Well since tasia seems to be down to earf, lets talk real talk. How does she feel about Jennifer Hudson? Did she really audition for dreamgirls too? Is she bitter about losing the part to her? Did she feel like Jennifer was competition back in AI? Does this ignite/reignite some competitive spirit between the two.

Polo Montana said:

Why wasn’t Babymama released as a single?

I don’t know where you live but they sure played the hell outta that song in NC and SC. No video for it though I don’t think but it was definitely in heavy rotation.

I live in New Jersey and Babymama is/was never played here.

WAS THAT KISS FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY?
AND
WHAT WAS THAT CLIVE DAVIS PERFORMACE WITH JAMIE?

Ask her if she ever worked in the furniture business when she lived in High Point?

ask:

- female r&b singers these days rely heavily on their image, do u feel pressured to conform to industry standards of beauty?

- will the b&w picture that is currently on amazon be your album cover? if so, who was the photographer and why was this particular shot chosen?

- why did u decide to move over to Violator management?

- how much control do u have in the direction of your music?

- who are the producers on the this cd & what is your favorite song from the new album & did u have a hand in any of the writing?

- will u tour this year & who would u like to be on tour with?

- what was it like to work with legends like Patti Labelle, Chaka Khan and Aretha Franklin & did they give u any personal or business advice?

- do you feel you were fairly represented on American Idol?

- who’s on your iPod right now?

I’m in Jersey as well; I remember Babymamma on the radio. It was quite brief though. I didn’t really care for it. The song had a good message, but it wasn’t goog enough for her voice.

Angel.La how are you getting these numbers? I want to dig in the trash that you’re digging in. J/K I’m really happy for you.

I also want to know who does Fantasia’s hair… and I don’t like the rumored cover. It’s okay for the inside.

2nd pic is hot, but she looks like that guy from Janet Jackson’s LOVE WILL NEVER DO WITHOUT YOU video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzadkp3fyxg

Angela, ask her what her baby daddy do for a living and did they get back together after she won AI?

What do you say to people who say that you scream more than sing?

I am excited that Fantasia will be interviewed.

If you can please ask if she plans to do any more acting in the near future? She did well in her movie.

When will her tour begin?

Please let her know that as a fan I am really proud of her and pray that God will continue to bless her and her career. Thank you for this opportunity.

By the way…I love the picture. Very high fashion and she looks beautiful.

Is she still with the guy who supported her while on American Idol?

Ask her how does it feel like to have a mouth that can swollow a whole person? lol j/k i like her.

1. What are your expectations on your new album second time around? And what advice would you give young women right now in the type of position you were in recently? (reading disability, single motherhood, being in the music industry, etc.)

2. Have you felt you grown since Free Yourself?

3. What do you feel you would do differently this time, what things can you take from all of it?

Thank U Angel!

Ask Fantasia will she make a video on I feel beautiful and when I see you. I heard I feel beautiful
and it is beautiful. Ask Fantasia will she tour
with Jamie Foxx because he said he would. And ask
her will Aretha and her do a video on their duet and
will it be to the motion picture Bobby. And ask her will she and Mary J ever hook up and do a song together. Ask her would she like to she see her movie
get nominated for a emmy.

whats up Fantasia I am a big fan of yours and I have a big cursh on you. My question is what do you look for in a guy?

Hi fantasia. I am reppin NC hard and I am so proud to see someone with as much talent as you doing good in the industry. Your first album was Awesome. On your up and coming album will you be featuring anyone and if so who? Keep dropping those hits and keep putting NC on the map.

What gave you inspiration for this album?
What is the difference between you now and you on your 1st album?

I have 1 Question for her?

What was it like transforming from American Idol to dealing with the Music Industry to the small screen? What makes you keep on going?

Hey Tasia!! My question is you did so well On Coko’s Gospel album with Lil Mo and Faith is a Gospel Album in your future?

LOL @ 53 what the hell

how was it reoording that Endow me song with all those great singers?

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Who would she like to work with that she has not work with yet?

Who would she like to tour with?

Does she visit High Point often?

My question is with so much that went on after your win from American Idol, Have you ran across friends/family that have changed since you won. How do they treat you and there expectations of you?

How much growth do you think you have done with this album?

Is there anything you have learned so far from the business that you will never forget ?

#1 asbury u a fool lol!!! im dying off that haha

anyway u know a nigga got a list of q’s:

1. how is her daughter? who takes care of her when mommy’s out on toure/promoing?

2. do u talk to your parents?

3. how is your relationship w/ your parents?

4. was it painfull to make “life is not a fairytale”?

5. why are the majority of american idol winners from the south?

6. do u visit any blogs?

7. do you think your literacy revaltion was taken out of context sometimes?

8. what’s in your ipod right now?

9. are you planning on doing any more acting?

10. where is your favorite vacation spot?

11. are you planning on writing a cookbook/ starting a clothing line, children’s books?

12. will you be co-hosting any programs to promo your album?

13. what is your favorite fashion trend right now?

14. do you plan to write any music for your next album?

15. did you write any on this album?

16. were u happy w/ the final product of “life is not a fairy tale”

17. in a recent tv interview ruben said you are like his sister, is it true that u all are really close?

18. do you plan on doing any musicals on broadway?

19. how important is it for you to control your image/ message as apposed to hiring people to do it for you?

20. are you happy @ j-records?

21. when can we get avideo for your first single?

I thought her movie was great. ask her was she proud of the outcome of her movie and what message was she trying to send.

What can we expect from her new album?

Did she have any collaboration on this album?

Ask her who decides what singles to release next because I felt like she should have released got me waiting or this is me on her first album.

cause those songs hit real close to home for me.

Who were some of the producer that she work with and what was it like working with them.

does she have her all of her album singles picked out?

what is her favorite dish to cook/eat?

what do you look for in a man?

#47 please take that pic down, u got my azz over here doing sit-ups covering myself in baby oil, doing pull ups lol (we do got the same thighs though haha) actually my abs are kind of getting there lol

Two questions:
1. Will you ever post a response on your myspace? and if not will you have someone update it regularly with upcoming appearances and news events?

2. How are you doing with completing your GED? Will you have a big celebration when you do? I think you should!

to all those asking the nasty questions:

get a life… immediately, your ignorance is nauciating

—–

Why is your album being pushed back so much?

Will you headline a tour in 2007?

#75 are u gonna get a life?

fantasia is a grown ass woman, she can spend more in a day than u will ever see in your life

she can do whatever she wants, she’s made a hit cd, and is coming out w/ another, what are you doing? typing on a computer?? great job!!

Ask Fantasia if she is going to work with Whitney Houston on Whitney’s comeback CD since they are both on J Records and Clive loves to pair up the old school with the new school

THAT 2ND PIC SCARED THE SHIT OUTTA ME

PLEASE! PLEASE! PLEASE! This question has been on my mind ever since I seen her tearing up the stage on BET’s Celebration of Gospel.

Ask her please if she will ever bless us with a full gospel album & if so how soon will it be before we can expect it from her?

What is going on with her and her father as far as the conflict and lawsuit is concerned?

How has her childhood affected how she parents?

Does she find it hard to manage the business side of her career?

Fantasia do you feel that the material on your first album was good at capturing who you are, and how will your new album be different from your first one?

I really didn’t like her first album too much but I still think she has a great voice…

Ask her, Would she recommend American Idol to upcoming R&B artists or suggest they get discovered another way.

WHY YOU FELT LIKE YOU HAD TO FOLLOW THE TREND OF TALKING BOUT WANTING A NEGRO FROM THE HOOD?

Was she nervous when she hd to go into the studio with Aretha Franklin and record a song?

Has she decided on a name for her sophomore album yet?

What made her decide to fire her managers at 19Management and did Missy Elliot influence her decision to go with Violator Management.

Aretha Franklin and Patti Labelle seems to view her as a sort of heir to the throne and she is sometimes called the Princess of Soul, does she feel any pressure to live up to the hype?

0kay here’s what I w0uld like to kn0w. . . Most of the time when you get your first record deal, your record label makes most of the album choices, was it like that for her and does she have more control over this album? Also is she doing any writing for this album? and Keep up the g0od w0rk WHEN I SEE YOU IS FIRE! 0 YEA C0NGRATZ! ANGEL AND DA CL STAFF ~YA.BOY.PB

One m0re question ask her do she feel she have any c0mpetion because I don’t think so also wat is fantasia listenin too?

I want to know did Fantasia mother leave her husband, when her daughter made it big. I was told that they are not together anymore, that when Fantasia made it big her mother left her husband. The same thing happened with Toni Braxton’s parents, and they were preachers and such. After Toni made it, her mother left her husband and you would see her out at all the parties.

It is always said that money and fame changes people in both a negative and a positive way…..

Ask her has success changed her personality in anyway.

Oh and about the Baby Mama song….

I’m from Texas and they played the MESS out that song, I thought it was the 1st single off the last album.

I wanna ask Brazilian Beauty if she’s a model…if so, where can I see some more of her work?

Ask her what does she think of people comparing her to Aretha Franklin & Mary J. Blige? And would she ever like to work with either?

ask if Jamie Foxx was trying to tap and if his hair is real

ask her what was it like to slob on jamie’s Bob?

i would like to know if she has or will consider a duet with cousin k-ci.

#88
That’s not true about Toni’s parents. Her dad was a cheating dog and the family found out about it which caused BIG problems in the family. Toni’s sister was on the NBC show Crossing Over or whatever it’s called healing from the pain from it all.

Ask Fantasia, ” Who would she like to work with in the future? Duet wise or producer. And would she like to act. Her story on Life Time was good.

Also ask Fantasia does she still come back to NC often. Fantaisa you were born to sing, your perfomance on American Idol when you won is one of the best I’ve ever seen. Keep doing what you do and don’t let the negativity get to you. Be yourself thats what we(FANS) Love about you!!

just tell her that we love her and we wish her the best.

asbury said:
#88 Toni’s sister was on the NBC show Crossing Over or whatever it’s called healing from the pain from it all.

Starting Over.

Will there be any other duets on the new album?

Does she know just how talented she is as a performer and singer?

ask her how was it working with her man on his new cd “Across the Water” and what is the song about that they recorded together

Two more question…

Are there plans to market your CD outside of the US?

There are fans in London and other places that have followed you through your Idol journey and want to see you perform there. Any plans for a tour outside the US?

I would like Fantasia to know that (I) admire for her just for being her.

Plus,it doesn’t hurt that fact she from N.C.;like me!**(I was raised in N.C.,too. KINSTON,N.C.- to be exact).

Does she miss having the southern-style Bar-B-Q(”Eastern Carolina style”)NOT the other stuff,that most people are familiar with! Because when I say I want some Bar-B-Q here in Ohio; people always think I’m talking about ribs…..*anybody know what I’m talking about? With some cornbread and coleslaw or maybe hush puppies…Damn! I miss home.

First, Angel LA, I want to let FanTasia know that other Tasians and I love her, all her music, which includes the collaborations, and LINAFT (book and TV movie), too. (And, I wish that there could have been more than 2 videos. There should have been ones for Baby Mama, This Is Me, It’s All Good, Good Lovin’, and Don’t Act Right.) And, we hope Tasia never changes, continues to inspire and be generous to others. (Stay true to yourself by staying strong, focused and grounded by faith, family, and true friends.) And, we wish her a long and industrious musical/entertainment career. Here are a few questions for Tasia:

1. When you collaborated w/your American Idol (Aretha Franklin) and other music legends (like Patti Labelle, etc.), did you ask them for any advice and/or did they volunteer any advice? If so, are you going to follow their advice?

2. As you have grown musically and spiritually, when you feel something is right or wrong, do you go w/your womanly instinct/gut feeling or not? Or do you still second quess yourself?

3. Are you getting stronger or weaker? Do you find yourself being easily influenced by your peers and trends?

4. When you feel confident and comfortable w/technology, will you start doing blog entries and acknowledging Tasians and non-Tasians on your official myspace page?

5. Have you thought about starting your non-profit, charitable foundation (private or public) to help others? Or, for the foreseeable future, are you just going to continue to volunteer your time and donate money to those existing charities that interest you ?

Hey Angela,

Can you ask Tasia, Now that Zion is in school does it make it more difficult for her to spend time with Zion?

When she first won Idol she said it was hard for her to leave Zion and work. Has she adjusted to being away from Zion while she is traveling across the country working?

Thanks!

#34 Cupid

What is his myspace address?
“How does she feel abour her daughter’s father having a myspace page with a million pics of her daughter, but he wouldn’t claim her until after idol?”

I ask her what happened betwwen her a the football player Michael Clayton of the Tampa Bay Bucs. For a while she was always down in Florida with him holding hands, in the club, all up in church, just everywhere. Then he gets married and she is dating a rapper. What the hell happened?

Yes I am begin nosey but damn I wanna know.

Hello again, I forgot another one. Ask her has she decided on a name for the new album yet, and is she finished recording it. Also, how many songs do she have on it?

First of all, congratulate her on the success. Tell her that I truly enjoyed her book. I could relate to the self esteem issues and I was glad she broke down the hood rat mentality that she had as a young teenager.

My questions:

Since you have had some very negative experiences with Black males, would ever consider dating outside your race esp. a white male? If so, which white male celebrity is your fantasy?

How has your self esteem been affected by being in an industry that traditionally doesn’t not recognized your type of beauty? Have you been pressured to lose weight? Get plastic surgery, wear long weave, etc?

What activities or methods are you using to ensure that your daughter doesn’t have to battle the same self esteem issues that you had growing up? What are doing to ensure that the actions of her father will not affect her for years to come?

Thanks, Angel.

She is one of the best live performers out there. Ask if her and J Records have any plans to do a live cd or DVD in the near future.

TAISA I’M YOUR NUMBER 1 FAN, AND WHEN ARE YOU GOING ON TOUR, AND PLEASE COME TO FORT LAUDERDALE OR MIAMI, AND WHAT IS THE CRAZIES THING A FAN HAS DONE TO MEET YOU.

That photo is the most feirce i’ve ever seen her it looks great.

I would like to see an interview from Lil’ Fizz and/or J-Boog. Just want to know what solo life is like though thier eyes. Raz-B too if you can.

Hey Fantasia can you swim if so how good are you?

Tasia is beautiful, strong, and talented. I’m happy for her. I met her in the mall I work at and she was so sweet. She is a genuine person and I wish her the best of luck. She is helping us get out of the stereotypical beauty that poeple of color in our Contry have casted for women. I just started growing my hair out last year and I was always compared to her. I didn’t see it but I got it alot. My hair was hally berry pixie short. Much love Fantasia.

any plans for a video for ENDOW ME?

how is your relationship now with your father?

how come you don’t blog and keep your fans up to date about whats going on?

are you going to be at lincoln center on 10/30/06 the date is listed on your guitarist myspace page?

I love all the pictures expect the unexpected from Tasia she is known to take risk thats what I like about her.

Ask her why CL is running so slow this morning?

Fantasia , I really want to see you perform in the UK we watched you on Idol here and since then there’s been no coverage though I’ve continued to follow your career very closely . Please say you are doing some UK dates I want to show you the sights and also let the UK see what a real performer looks like

i like the first picture… but i would like some insight on why the other picture was chosen for the cd cover instead…

hey did the interview happen?

What happened to the Christianity thing? Did it go out the door? Not that i’m at all judgeing but i just really wanna know