Diddy and his girlfriend Kim Porter are covering the new issue of Essence Magazine, in the article Diddy talks candidly about his relationship with Kim and why he is not ready to marry her.
People.com has an exclusive snippet of the article:
“I know she deserves to get married,” Diddy, 37, tells Essence magazine in its December issue, “but I’m just not ready.”
He explains, “It’s not a reflection on how much I love Kim. It’s that I’m just learning how to be a good boyfriend. When I’m finished with this step, I’ll move on to the next.
When he and Porter first met in the nineties, “She kind of made me nervous,” Combs says. “She wasn’t like a New York girl. She was Bohemian, mixed with Georgia-peach hospitality. I got the idea she’d like doing stuff like walking barefoot in the grass. I didn’t think I could get her to like me.”
He was also intimidated by her reserve. “She was smooth, you know, like ice. She’s cool and collected and thinks before she speaks. You meet a lot of young ladies, and they just don’t do that. Kim was never pressed; she was always in control.”
KIM ON DIDDY’S RELATIONSHIP WITH J.LO
That relationship wasn’t real. The world just saw the bright lights and the camera. But I knew what was really going on. He was still in love with me.She adds, “People just believed everything they saw in print, and they were talking to me like I was really crushed. But I had just had a baby. I couldn’t be somewhere in a corner heartbroken. I have kids. I’m a grown woman.”
(Shout out to Liz from Black Voices & Samantha for the e-mails)
I’ll bet…prolly doesn’t wanna add alimony to that fat-ass child support she’s raking in.
She has no morals and shows no example to her children. She needs a Madea in her life! golddigga!!
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOO IM TOO MAD I WAS BREAKING MY ASS AT WORK TYRING TO EMAIL THIS STORY TO YOU ANGEL LA YOU TOO MUCH
UM SO TO THE POST AT HAND UM ARE YA SURPRISED??? HE AINT NEVER EVER EVER EVER GONNA MARRY HER…
wow..I hope he had the “conversation” with her BEFORE they decided to print that….
It’s Confirmed: Diddy is a Asshole.
MF is 37 Years old talking bout he ain’t ready to get married…
I can’t stand Stupid MF’s…
All them damm kids…
He wasn’t saying “I’m not ready” when he shooting all that sperm up in her…
This is Why Black WOMAN HATE BLACK MEN..Stupid ass Baby’s Daddy Drama !!!
That Stupid MF need to be paying 37,000 a month in child support for that dumb comment !!
1. he ain’t ready to marry her cause he’s not done fucking cassie yet.
2. if she was like no other chick, why did you break up in the first place?
3. kim, what the hell do you know about his relationship with jlo? what makes you think yours is real to begin with? yeah it wasn’t that real but i’m sure he wasn’t thinking bout u while calling out her name either.
NEXT!!!!!!
Aww…lovely article…I understand both of their points of view, but being that this is what it is, there are going to be numerous a ppl who think that they can sit behind a computer screen and TELL them how they should feel and what they should do….
Hopefully, there will be an equal amount that take this article and sit back and LISTEN to what they have to see about their relationship; whether or not they buy into what is being said.
**Is this the first time Kim is speaking out?
That Bitch is KRAZY!!!!!!! Shes in Denial!!!!
Diddy was in LOVE with J-LO and even today would leave her ass if J-LO took him back.
At least she got a lock on the money, which is about the only thing she can lock down.
3. kim, what the hell do you know about his relationship with jlo?
hahaha!!! she knew nothing about it! Just like she didn’t know about this article he did in Essence!! and she is posing like, yeah, I got him and he’s mine. and he is looking “how you doin” !!!!!!!!!!!!
Poor poor misguided souls…..all I can do is shake my head …Kim why would he buy the cow when the milk and offspring are free?
Women, let this be a lesson to you: If have to know that you are a whole human, and if not work towards that end. If you wrap yourself up in another human being, they can dictate who you are to you.
Kim proved this behavior by downplaying the JLo relationship. JLo wasn’t about to let Diddie’s pseudo-thuggish ways disrupt her career.
Way too many women allow men to keep them hanging on. Put your foot down, and if the relationship is for you, it’ll happen, if not, roll on out.
We as human beings have an amazing capacity to overcome pain.
LOL…AIN’T THAT IT.
PUFF NEED TO SIT HIS NON RAPPIN AZZ DOWN SOMEWHERES, HOW MANY KIDZ KIM GOTTA POP OUT FOR HIM TO BE “READY”?
I don’t know why anyone should be surprised by that comment.
Of course Kim Porter isn’t concerned. Just like Wendy Williams said, she is the baby mama of the daggone century. Her greatest talent is lying on her back and having babies for famous men. She struck out the first time with Al B. Sure, but she landed the Jackpot with Diddy. She doesn’t have to be concerned about him not marrying her, because she will be swimming in the money for years to come.
I bet his shady ass would have married J-HO
Diddy is wrong for this ya’ll.
He gonna have 3 kids by Kim, he know damn well he needs to marry her.
If he’s worried about her getting half, he shouldn’t be b/c even w/ child sipprt Kimmy girl is set fo life.
wow. i doubt the marriage will EVER occur. Kim, stop making excuses for your sorry ass man. face the truth. he isn’t ever gonna marry you. how ain’t you ready at 37 years old, with mad kids and so much money? what is he waiting for?
I guess in his mind the marriage will be a distraction to his career…he wont be able to fck cassie no more LOL
I DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG WITH THEM TWO…I JUST CANT PUT MY FINGER ON IT BUT SUMTHING AINT…EITHER HE STILL IN LOVE WIT JALO OR SUMBODY ELSE CAUSE THEY BEEN AT IT FOR THR LONGEST…AND WHAT DOES SHE DO ALL DAY LAY AROUND HIS BIG HOUSE CAUSE SHE SEEM TO BE DONG NOTHING TO ME WELL MAYBE ITS JUST ME ..ITS NOT MY RELATIONSHIP….THANK GOD
nice pic… why do you say she don’t have morals? there are a lot of people who are together for years without getting married. they seem happy. And its better for him to be honest and say he’s not ready then get pressured into it and it not last and he becomes classified as a trifling negro!
I can’t stand his ass, first he publicly dumps her for J.Ho impregnate her again and have the nerves to say “he” is not ready. She seems like a sweet person, but too bad she’s letting him walk all over her over & over again.
Kim is fucking delusional….she sounds crazy as hell..If he were in love with you, he would’ve been with your ass instead of knocking you up and leaving! She’s only allowing him to do this because he’s rich.
Diddy…Hmmmm…You’re not ready to get married, but you are ready to make three babies?? Retarded ass.
Bill…
(1) A man can only get away with what a Woman LETS him get away with
(2) @ your sperm comment: Were u saying that u WERE ready when you shot ur sperm out back in ur single Kappa days? lol —even if u use a condom, everytime that u lie down with someone and have sex (or stand up–lol) u run the risk of bringing a life into this world and damaging ur own (condoms do break, several ppl are living proof of this)
(3) Why is he an asshole? Would it be better for him to just marry her knowing full well that he cannot be the family man that she wants him to be???? She even says that herself in the extended interview at People.
(4) Im pretty sure that her not having a ring on her finger pretty much confirms all of the “conversation” that she needs to have with him. lol
B all the way—-
Anyone with two eyes and brain can fig. that Diddy and J.lo had a Pimp/Hoe relationship. He gave her street cred and she gave him a cute “exotic” face and body to put on his arm….and two #1 hit singles w/ “I need a girl, pt 1 & 2. LOL
***NOTE: I put LOL at the end of some comments—that cancels all hostility—just like NO HOMO cancels everything….lol
I am fully aware that a blog is somewhere to post your own opinions BUT what the hell is the point of having an opinion if no one has a counter? Then everything in life would be FACT. Peace & Love—My class is about 2 start in a half hour!
I AGREE HIS ASS WAS DEAD UP ON MARRYING THAT BITCH J-LO, BUT CAN’T MARRY THE WOMAN WHO GAVE HIM BEAUTIFUL KIDS, NOT ALONG 2 TWINS THAT’S ON THE WAY! IF A MIX CHICK OR A WHITE BITCH WANTED HIS HAND IN MARRIAGE HE WOULD HAVE BEEN DEAD UP ON THAT SHIT. HE IS A DISGRACE TO MANHOOD AND BLACK PEOPLE!
#17—-COSIGN!!!!!!!!!!
@14….child support ain’t as big as the money that he’d be paying if he married and then divorced her ass. that would put a bigger dent in his pocket and you better believe that he’s thought this all the way through. with jlo, he would have married cause she had a own money, what else does kim have besides his babies? NOTHING!
I JUST GET SO FRUSTRATED WHEN IT COME TO THIS DAMN FOOL. YOU ARE 37 YEARS OLD. YOU ARE NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER. JLO DONT WANT YOUR ASS BACK. SO STOP PLAYING GAMES AND JUST MARRY HER. DAMN WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU WAITING FOR. SHE IS A FOOL TOO. SHE IS BLINDED BY ALL THAT DAMN MONEY TO REALIZED HE IS JUST STRINGING HER ASS AROUND. COME ON YALL BEEN TOGETHER FOR ATLEAST 10 YEARS ON AND OFF. NOW THAT YOU ARE BACK ON WHAT THE HELL IS THE PROBLEM. YOU ARE STILL TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO BE A GOOD BOYFRIEND AFTER ALL THESE DAMN YEARS. MMMMAAAAAAAANNNNNNNN GIVE ME A DAMN BREAK.
He’ll be ready to move on to the next step when they capture Bin Laden. I’m waiting for that headline to occur…It would read…
“Diddy ready to marry Kim’s ignorant ass since Bin Laden’s capture”
Neither one of them are stupid. He got himself a chick to father his kids and let him do whatever the hell he wants and come back to her when he pleases and she got someone to take care of her kids for the rest of her life, her kids lives, her kids kids lives etc. etc.
The only thing she said that was crazy was that he did not love J Lo. Whatever?!?!? If Jenny from the block had not dropped him like a bad habit he never would have gotten back with Kim. I mean this fool made a video with a chick in there that looked just like Jenny! Talking about “I need a girl”. That chick did not look anything like Kim! He would drop Kim again if he thought he had a slight chance of getting with Ms. Lopez again. Ha!
AND P. SHITTY AINT’ NOTIHNG FINE, I THINK SHE WITH HIM FOR SERCURITY REASONS! OR JUST TO MAKE HIM LOOK GOOD! I SAY BAIL HONEY!
Okay I have a question for the men out there since we are on the topic of “men not being ready.” My friend is caught up in this guy who, after 6 years of knowing each other/dating off and on, refuses to become involved in a relationship with her (not marriage, just the girlfriend/boyfriend type thing). She says he just needs time, I say she needs to leave him the hell alone. When guys say they “aren’t ready” does that really men that they haven’t yet found “the one.” I didn’t want a relationship when I met my current boyfriend, but he was just something that I couldn’t pass up. I WAS NOT “ready” but I became “ready” once I met him and we started going out. Does the same apply to men? Is the whole “not ready” thing just an excuse because the man hasn’t found the right girl, yet still doesn’t want to let go of the girl who’s been down for him all this time?
YEah Diddy’s complex is that HE CAN ONLY COMMIT TO HIMSELF!
Umm…I believe Diddy said that the reason why he and J. Ho didnt last is because he wouldn’t marry her…so he knew they wouldnt be able to make it b/c she wanted a hubby and he wasnt budging,. to sum it up.
And look wat the heifer did after him…
(1) She fucked her back-stage dancer (who was in a relationship) and got him to marry her ass
And several marriages later, she has this sickly looking dude who brings down her image…and she prob will be rid of him before 2007 is even here good enuff.
She is a whore for a husband and that is sick…her idea of marriage is perverse. Say what you want…it is.
“I’m not ready” means I’m not finished fucking these other chicks…when I’m done, then I’ll marry you.
oh diddy just proved me he ain’t dumb dat’s all
dude gonnamarry her nt hen what’s next? 2 years later,she files for divorce n child support….how many kids again?? with all da money diddy’s makin…
haha dude just ain’t stupid..
rich man can’t get married…it’s a sad country:D
Well said #4 these to fukkas make me sick…Layin up havin babies and shit but dont want to get married.
What kind of fukkin example are they settin for the kids…
Puffy(that Diddy shit is wack)need to sit is old ass down somewhere… The only reason he “chillin” with Kim is because he see Jay and Bey runnin arond together and the mothafukka tryin to compete with his bitch ass…
I agree they both win. Kim knows what she’s doing and she’s just getting what she deserves. This is the life you have when your a goldigger. Now Puffy is 37 and talking about he just learned how to be a boyfriend? A boyfriend? What the hell! Your a grown man there is no boyfriend! He has more excuses than a little bit! If she was white or mixed they would be married. We all know Puffy don’t care too much for black women. And Kim the wrong thing to do is to speak on a previous relationship that your man had. No woman can do that because you weren’t in the relatonship and you don’t know what he told her. He’s still in love with J-lo now which is why he can’t get it together. I can’t believe they agreed to put their ignorance in a magazine and then grace the cover with this foolishness. Shame on them.
#31 and DUDES! Let’s not forget that he is a switch hitter.
He need to go ahead and marry her cause in Hollywood/Hip hop world relationships don’t last anyway so it’ll be part of the trend they have going on. And wasn’t there a story few months back about a woman in ATL supposedly had a baby for him and they were awaiting paternity tests
It’s amazing to me that black female magazines give so much attention to women in relationships with famous men. Who the fuck cares about what goes on with them? I’m just trying to get my groove on with the hot nigga I work with. Both Essence and Vibe Vixen have articles on women who are in (or were) relationships with famous men. Why are those women so interesting to us….especially those with no discernible careers of their own? There are a lot more interesting women out here than those who lucked up on a rich man. I think we need to look at that before we look at what goes on in their relationship which NONE of us really know anyway.
#20..Your point is not valid…Birth control works!! Condoms fail very small percentages of the time. Bottom line, Bill is right.
haha. If I was 37 something had millions, I wouldn’t marry neither. He could be like most niggas -marry women and cheat anyway. at least he aint putting God in it…lol
gotta respect honesty.
plus she getting paid REGARDLESS so who cares ?
Note to Kim:
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”
If Diddy isn’t ready to be a “family man” then why in the hell does Kim keep getting knocked up?? She’s dumb as hell, and so are you.
Why get married when these stars cant stay together and what money is that hoe bringing to the table? nothing. and why not use her if she lets him
btw, Diddy look DUMB as HELL on that cover. Like one of Jerry’s Kids.
put them shades back on, without em ur swag is GONE.
NO. 4 you sound like a bitch ! That’s why women hate men …. no red blooded male would say no shit like that . He’s hesitant because we’ve as men have seen relationships end . Sometime our fault,sometimes females(thou no women will admit).Women get compensate when relationships don’t work . Alimony,child support,liquidation and division of assets ! Rich man marry broke women . Get divorce ! She rich now ! Rich women marry broke man . Paltry settlement ….. and he’s ostracized for it . I got a question . WHY SHOULD HE MARRY HER ! Don’t say because of the kids . Bottom line in 2006 ….. marriage is more beneficial to women !
Sean Puffy Combs is a player and a murderer! There are three things that usually bring a man down: 1. substance abuse, 2. women, or 3. money! Looks like women will be Diddy’s downfall! He’s got plenty of money and he doesn’t appear to abuse drugs or alcohol!
Kim will wake up one day to her senses and just like Delilah did Samson, she will destroy the source of his greatness while he sleeps! Every day Delilah teased and begged Samson to tell her the secret of his tremendous strength until he finally gave in.
His comments show his immaturity like Snoop boarding the plane on a three-wheeled tricycle concealing a collapsible baton in his pocket! Ignant!
One thing about it, when Humpty-Dumpty fell from the wall, all the Kings horses and men couldn’t put him back together like Clive is trying to do with Whitney!
on Tuesday, November 7, 2006 @ 4:48 pm
jazmin said:
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Okay I have a question for the men out there since we are on the topic of “men not being ready.” My friend is caught up in this guy who, after 6 years of knowing each other/dating off and on, refuses to become involved in a relationship with her (not marriage, just the girlfriend/boyfriend type thing). She says he just needs time, I say she needs to leave him the hell alone. When guys say they “aren’t ready” does that really men that they haven’t yet found “the one.” I didn’t want a relationship when I met my current boyfriend, but he was just something that I couldn’t pass up. I WAS NOT “ready” but I became “ready” once I met him and we started going out. Does the same apply to men? Is the whole “not ready” thing just an excuse because the man hasn’t found the right girl, yet still doesn’t want to let go of the girl who’s been down for him all this time?
Bill Said:
Women are afraid to move on…
Men are afraid to settle down….
Sometimes a Man needs a PUSH in the right direction.
If your girlfriend has a guy friend that she is cool with, she needs for him to act as a “beard” and take her out, thus making boyfriend # 1 Jealous…
Once a man sees that another man desires his wife/girlfriend, he usually comes around….
I hope that helps.
“Diddy says he isn’t ready to Marry Kim”…DUH! lol
Ok do you really see Kim as a Bohemian, mixed with Georgia-peach hospitality. I got the idea she’d like doing stuff like walking barefoot in the grass
yeah right%)
and Diddy looks goofy ass hell on that cover lmao
on Tuesday, November 7, 2006 @ 5:11 pm
Kandi said:
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#20..Your point is not valid…Birth control works!! Condoms fail very small percentages of the time. Bottom line, Bill is right.
Bill Said:
Thank You
Ms. NewNubianEmpress makes a POINT out of attempting to have a counter point to MY OPINION everyday..whatever..
I don’t have the time to argue with everyone..
Let People think or feel whatever….
It’s a Blog, Disagree with me if you like..Who really cares….
What cracks me up is the people who get all emotional, and start in with the name calling and the profanity toward me…
Is that REALLY Nescessary ???
Do MY comments piss you off that much ???
Whatever…I won’t lose sleep over it..
Peace
yo,if she ever wakes up and leaves him…he will be old and alone…
@31 exactly!!!
on Tuesday, November 7, 2006 @ 4:49 pm
mika29 said:
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“I’m not ready” means I’m not finished fucking these other chicks…when I’m done, then I’ll marry you.
Bill Said:
Mika’s Right !!!
That what “I’m not Ready” means……
…..Cassie must give the BOMB Blowjobs !!!
bitch please.
Mika, I love it when you talk dirty!
WOW…I can’t imagine staying with a man for 10 years who is “JUST learning HOW to be a good boyfriend”
it’s taking you THAT LONG??? and I’m STILL HAVING YOUR BABIES, while you’re STILL LEARNING how to be a good boyfriend???
We, as women, put up with alot.
I guarantee you, that she’d have been LONG GONE if dude was a “regular Joe” making $30,000/year…
Kim can talk that stuff about how JLo and Diddy’s relationship “wasn’t real” all she wants to…
I just saw an interview Diddy did LAST WEEK and he said that he DID love JLo when they were together…
He said that what he & Jlo had was nowhere near as strong, but he DID ADMIT THAT HE LOVED HER…
I don’t know if Kim realized it or not, but her JLo comment makes it seem like she WAS and STILL IS a little bitter about it…
I’m NOT saying that she IS bitter, but that comment makes it seem like it…
I DO give Diddy props for AT LEAST ADMITTING that he REALIZES that she “deserves to get married”
CASSIE = SIDELINE HOE
Kim needs to sit down and shut up. J.Lo was with your man for 2 years……….that’s REAL. You have no career and see a big as_ child support check when you see Diddy so of course you will be waiting of his greasy as_ to return to yours arms for 2 year…..that’s REAL. Your pregnant from a man that REFUSES to marry you….that’s real.
#40, you better speak the truth!!!!!!!
I’m writing that down and adding it to my ‘mental rolodex’!!!
with YOUR PERMISSION of course…LOL