@298 MIZZHAZELI’S WHO SAID:

“I find it sort of funny that black women shun black men in the entertainment industry that date white women, however, the black women that date white men don’t feel any negative drawbacks from it i.e. Halle Berry and Kerry Washington….actually, they seem to be extremely successful.”

My response:

Notice how short your list is: Halle Berry, Kerry Washington. Not a long list at all. Please, don’t try to compare these isolated relationships to the HUGE NUMBER of black male athletes/entertainers, dating non-black women! And the issue isn’t that black males are dating outside their race, however, it’s the RATE that this is being done that makes it non-coincidental, and shows there’s an issue where successful entertainers and atheletes are INTENTIONALLY selecting any other woman but black women, and it’s not cause there’s a shortage of beautiful, gorgeous, smart, witty, intelligent women available. This shit is not a result of “oh, i just happened to meet someone else other than a black woman and fell in love.” Bullshit…and to that i just say there are issues in the black race that black men refuse to admit to.

And you also made another point. The relationships of these two women who are dating and married to white men is having no effect on their careers. I believe the same with black males in entertainment or the sports world; their careers too aren’t affected either. Therefore, Taye has no damn leg to stand on with that premise. Obviously, he has other issues with his talent and his acting abilities, and the fact that his series’ keep getting cancelled has nothing to do with the lack of support in the black community.

Plain and simple… Taye Diggs has lost his groove with Stella. After he lost the accent, I lost interest. After I saw him in “Malibu’s Most Wanted”, I was completely convinced that I was over him. As a black woman, I don’t think that black women have as much as a problem with black successful men dating white women. I think the disdain is from dating trashy, “You could have done better my brotha” white women. I could care less who someone loves, but I hate the light casted upon black women. I hate that black men (especially celebrities) who point fingers at sisters. In the end, everyone needs to learn to love themselves…and who they are with.

I do not support any black male celebrity that dates or marry “other” women. If a white celebrity dates someone black they hide it because they are aware there white fans would not approve. Considering the centuries of black women beneath the rest of the world, it hurts when our wealthy black males get involve with other women because it reinforces what we have been constantly made to believe.

That we are not good enough. That the only way someone considers us worthy is if they cant get any better and once they can all we see is there back.

Don’t even get me started on Kanye West and his if your not perfect “I’m going to leave you for a white girl” or his Evil Kinivel rip off video where he dress acclaimed black actresses as skanks while Pamela Anderson who is best known for her Playboy and Tommy Lee porn video is dressed in Gucci and is the object of status, affection and addoration.

This topic is a obviously a vehicle for some black women to express their disgust at being unable to control black men, lol. No disrespect to the black women ranting about famous black men with white women but when you examine the percentage of famous black men with white women it pales in comparison to the percentage of famous black women with white men, not only in the present day but in the history of American entertainment. For every Taye Diggs, there are 40 Denzels. On the flip side, for every Angela Bassett, there are 10 Halle Berrys, lol. I know “she had to crossover because those niggas don’t know how to treat a righteous black queen godmother empress…”. Lol. How many times do you see a famous black woman with a no name black man on her arm on the red carpet? Maybe they couldn’t find anyone “on her level” before the awards were given out, lol. I guess it’s selctive analysis on the part of certain sister, lol. That shows that the frustration is not with black men dating white women, it’s with all that money being spent on a white woman by RICH black men, lol. Some black women view famous black men (and black men in general) as commodities or trophies and their worth is quantified by their bank account.

The white man has thrown off the ordinances by teaching black women that they’re superior to black men and he did it on purpose because he knew what the result would be, confusion. That’s why Sanaa Lathan made that idiotic remark on Oprah about black men “not keeping up with the sisters”, lol. Let’s face it, black women are choosing their own men and they’re resentful that the relationships don’t work so they have to blame someone. Of course there’s going to be contention when a woman believes that she’s superior to a man. Then the black man (recognizing that the white man has empowered black women over him), like a buffoon, tries to cater to being the type of man that he thinks women want him to be. The only place he usually ends up at as a result is prison, lookin’ stupid, lol. That’s also why many black women are in favor of homosexuality because it represents weak men and it makes them feel empowered. It all fits together if we black men would get our minds right and start analyzing shit the way that it needs to be analyzed. That’s the only way that people will respect black men, when they see that we know what they’re trying to do.

@ JScene #301:

Umm…The point I was making obviously flew over your head.

The point I was making was a general point. Some black women do not support black actors that date and/or marry white women. Fact! Black celebrity women dating white men do not feel the effect of their “dating preferences”. Fact! No matter how small the number. And you are wrong in your OPINION about entertainers not feeling the effects. Just ask Wesley Snipes. As far as the sports world is concerned, your point is moot at best simply because these guys receive majority of their money from MEN that go to their games and buy their sneakers and jerseys, not woment. Women make up an extremely small contribution to the salary of athletes. I never said that Taye has a leg to stand on because I personally cannot think of anything he’s done that has surpassed medicocre since ‘How Stella Got Her Groove Back’. So, he truly doesn’t deserve recognition anyway, whether he was dating Chelsea Clinton or Alek Wek.

I completely agree that black men dating other races far outweighs the number of black women dating outside of their race, but that had nothing to do with my point. Black women feel that they should be loyal to black men…even if they aren’t loyal to them.

I really don’t think that was the cause of his show to fail. Race is such an easy target in situations like this, and we as Americans have become so comfortable falling back on that excuse for the wrong reasons. Let’s deal in pure fact and #’s. To have a successful anything show, album,etc. you have to have more than an African American audience.Think about it how many African Americans actually stay at home or plan to watch a certain program on t.v.? Exactly, espeacially women, they’re too busy working, feeding the kids, etc. doing what they have to do. Also, think about it do you actually think “Hollywood” thinks about the African American woman as a demographic concern when planning a show? Hell NO!!!! Hispanic maybe(because while you were sleeping they are now the largest and most powerful minority) and they have twice the disposible income,i.e. commercials , marketing, plugs,etc. The truth is, and don’t be mad when I say this, but you know it’s true. A succesful African American male is a threatning and unfamiliar image in America. That’s not negative or racist, I’m 1/2 Jewish 1/2 French African ,so I hold no issue with either side,but America is very comfortable with Black Comediens(Will Smith), Martin Lawrence, Chris Rock, or that sassy street smart thug good guy(Samuel Jackson),etc. Poor Mr. Bill Cosby tried with all his might to change this image,but he wasn’t supported by the community enough and we became comfortable with the same old same, and now here we are 20 years later still in sitcoms rolling our necks, making people laugh, on 106&Park flossing platinum jewlery and whips, and not stressing the importance of education,politics, and family(which by the way is the key to success in the Hispanic family, they stick together, go to church,and vote!)

Correct me if i’m wrong, but wasn’t it a BLACK WOMAN who put his black ass on the map anyway in the movie “HOW STELLA GOT HER GROOVE BACK”

Maybe Taye Diggs’ so-called “problem” with black women stems from the fact that they see his marrying a white woman as “rejection”. Why isn’t he entitled to marry whomever he happens to love? What is this crap?

And as far as TV shows “sucking” goes, “Joey”, the spinoff series from “Friends”, was the worst effing show I’ve ever seen on television. The character, Joey Tribbiani, is an annoying, sexist, idiot. Who’s great idea was it to take the least likeable character from Friends and give him a show???

Back to Taye, the worst racist part of all of this is the fact that they are blaming black women for the show going off the air. Did any white women watch the show (or white men), for that matter? What is this crap? White people are responsible for watching shows with white lead actors and black people are responsible for watching shows with black lead actors??? I watch what I effing want to watch, regardless of color! Don’t dictate to me what I should be watching because of my color!!!

64@hateeveryoneequally said:
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AFRICAN AMERICAN MEN DO NOT EXCLUSIVELY PREFER AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN ANY LONGER…THAT’S NOT SECRET!!!! PART OF THIS HAS TO BE CONTEXTUALIZED IN A MUCH BROADER SOCIO-POLITICAL FRAMEWORK, BUT THE OTHER SIGNIFICANT FACTOR IS THE FACT THAT SO MANY AFRICAN AMERICAN HOUSEHOLDS ARE SINGLE-FAMILY. IF WE ALL ACCEPT THAT THIS HAS SOME IMPACT ON THE PSYCHOLOGY OF THE CHILD/CHIDREN RAISED IN SUCH CIRCUMSTANCES THAN WE SHOULD BE WILLING TO LOOK AT THE DEGREE TO WHICH MALE CHILDREN BLAME THEIR AFRICAN AMERICAN MOTHERS FOR THEIR FATHER ABANDONMENT. THIS IS NOT TO EXCLUDE SELF-HATRED THAT IS ALL TOO PREVELANT IN AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITIES. THE IMAGES ON A DAILY BASIS, WHICH DEPICTS AFRICAN AMERICANS AS CRIMINAL, LAWLESS, AND OVERSEXED MAKES ME SO PROUD THAT I AM NOT BLACK…WHAT FASCINATES ME ABOUT MANY AFRICAN AMERICANS IS THAT SINCE THERE ARE NO BLATANT FORMS OF DISCRIMINATION YOU CONTINUE TO MISS THE MORE SUBTLE WAYS THAT THE VIOLENT AND REPRESSIVE STATE CONTINUES TO CONDITION YOU TO HATE YOURSELVES…DAMN!!!!!!!!!!

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AngelEyes said:

Um sweatheart, I really want to address this post.
Darling, we all know that Black men don’t only prefer White women. The Black man has long lusted after White women since the begining of time. Simply put, during slavery, they were tempted by the slave owners wife and some even went so far as to service herself with her slaves. The Black man has always wanted her because it was forbidden.

Just the same as the slave owner desired after the females and fathered children behind his wifes back.

It is simply human nature to desire something that is denied to you. We have seen this all over the world in every culture.
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Now for this part of your statement:
PART OF THIS HAS TO BE CONTEXTUALIZED IN A MUCH BROADER SOCIO-POLITICAL FRAMEWORK, BUT THE OTHER SIGNIFICANT FACTOR IS THE FACT THAT SO MANY AFRICAN AMERICAN HOUSEHOLDS ARE SINGLE-FAMILY. IF WE ALL ACCEPT THAT THIS HAS SOME IMPACT ON THE PSYCHOLOGY OF THE CHILD/CHIDREN RAISED IN SUCH CIRCUMSTANCES THAN WE SHOULD BE WILLING TO LOOK AT THE DEGREE TO WHICH MALE CHILDREN BLAME THEIR AFRICAN AMERICAN MOTHERS FOR THEIR FATHER ABANDONMENT.

AngelEyes said:
In the “Broader socio-political framework” you need to look at the fact that since the time of slvery the “Black family structure has been ripped apart”.
It was not too long ago that many Black women had to leave their homes and work in a White woman’s home to survive. The Black man has been the most disrespected person on the face of this earth not to his fault. The world has chosen to disrespect the Black man which has left many of them with no alternatives.

Now, you mentioned that many households are single parent and if I am reading you correctly that many male children “Blame their African American mothers” for their abandonment.

Sweetie, I think you have not interviewed enough Black men because if you truly understood what has happened to the Black community you will see that many successful as well as poor Black men have their mothers to thank for their upbringing.

Darling, I think it is in extremely poor taste that you would say that Black women are blamed for the problems that Black men face. On the contrary, Black women have been in many ways the backbone of the family because “due to the White man’s burden”, he has been stripped of his manhood.

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Now for this part of your comment:

THIS IS NOT TO EXCLUDE SELF-HATRED THAT IS ALL TOO PREVELANT IN AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITIES. THE IMAGES ON A DAILY BASIS, WHICH DEPICTS AFRICAN AMERICANS AS CRIMINAL, LAWLESS, AND OVERSEXED MAKES ME SO PROUD THAT I AM NOT BLACK…WHAT FASCINATES ME ABOUT MANY AFRICAN AMERICANS IS THAT SINCE THERE ARE NO BLATANT FORMS OF DISCRIMINATION YOU CONTINUE TO MISS THE MORE SUBTLE WAYS THAT THE VIOLENT AND REPRESSIVE STATE CONTINUES TO CONDITION YOU TO HATE YOURSELVES…DAMN!!!!!!!!!!

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From AngelEyes:
Sweetie, the self hate was something put into Black men and women’s heads to make them feel inferior to the White man. Black Americans came from a once PROUD African culture but were sadly ripped from that culture. The images you and I see on a daily basis is the result of a group of people that do not have the opportunities that are many times afforded to others. If you say what you said about Black people being criminals, lawless, oversexed, etc., then why are you so aggressively defenind the Black man.

You say and I qoute “MAKES ME SO PROUD THAT I AM NOT BLACK”. Honey if you care so much about Black men and what they prefer then why would you make such a hateful statement when it is obvious that you are one of the many White women who feel you need to defend Black men because they have prefered you over a Black women.

To make such a statement is just flat out RACIST.

Do you like a Black man? Have you had sex with a Black man? Do you lust after his large member?
Do you want a biracial baby with him? Have you ever had any thoughts along these lines in your young life?

If you have, then HOW ON EARTH CAN YOU MAKE A STATEMENT LIKE THAT and believe that you are a fair and just person.

You are my dear, in no way in any position to point out the short commings of the Black woman when you have never walked a day in her shoes.

On the contrary my dear, many Black people don’t hate themselves but if they do you have to look at the social and economic reasons why.

Also, if I’m not mistaken, many and I do mean MAAANNNY White women hate themselves. Eating disorders, Drugs, SEX, Addiction to plastic surgery,
Pumping their lips up, Adding fat to their cheeks,
Adding fat to their butt, Sticking their foreheads with needles to erase the wrinkles which are inevitable. Obsessed about their weight, always trying to go Blond, screwing their way to the top.
Oh, and don’t forget the 18 year old girls wanting Breast Implants for graduation and their superficial parents willing to give it to them.

You my dear, please examine more closely your issues before you try to sum up one group of people based on your own personal experience.

You are entitled to your openion but your post came accross as very arogant and downright disrespectful to many of us Black men and women.

And don’t get it twisted. I have several White relatives in my family but they choose to have inteligence and understanding and compassion for Black people. They don’t sit back and try to love on Black people and then spew out ignorance against others.

And honey, it is not as simple as “thats what Black men prefer”. Last time I checked there are more White women Black men in the porn industry and is steadily growing. Now who looks oversexed?

Black men that have left their homes because of many reasons and the Black woman had to hold it down so please show a little more respect. People are responsible for their own actions and don’t think for one minute that just because a Black man is with a White woman that he is somehow better off with her.

If you are a jerk with a Black woman then you are a jerk with a White woman.

When more Black women start dating more White men then we will see how the White women will react.

It goes both ways honey.

Angeleyes, THANK YOU!!! You said EVERYTHING I wanted to say, but was too angry to write. Very well put and on point!!!

You are welcome.

That was for you and all CL sisters and for and White chicks that want to for once stop playing saint “Duh we know whats wrong with Black people.” They need to shut up and listen for once.

She needs to grow up a little more and see the world.
She needs to gain more knowledge, then we can talk.
Until then, talk to the HAND!

I am for all people getting along but I’m not for flat out ignorance. PERIOD.

Take care sweetheart.

Well girl, you spoke it like a champ! Like you said, we know what’s up with us, the problem is, they don’t know what’s wrong with them. They need to focus on their issues (as stated in your message) and there are many of them.

You take care too, Angeleyes!

Well I have always loved Taye Diggs. True I may have been a little shocked to see such a fine brother with a white woman, but not to the point of me saying oh hes with her? then fuck him. Its really not that serious in my opinion. I didnt watch day break cuz the shit looked stupid, I mean it was different, but not something i would personally be interested in. I do think its messed up though, that he is starting to blame black women for his failure. Lets Get Real Taye! We are not the cause, your choices of wack ass projects are.

@305 MIZZHAZELI’S

this is what you wrote:

“I find it sort of funny that black women shun black men in the entertainment industry that date white women, however, the black women that date white men don’t feel any negative drawbacks from it i.e. Halle Berry and Kerry Washington….actually, they seem to be extremely successful.”

then i responded and you then wrote:

“The point I was making was a general point. Some black women do not support black actors that date and/or marry white women. Fact! Black celebrity women dating white men do not feel the effect of their “dating preferences”. Fact! No matter how small the number. And you are wrong in your OPINION about entertainers not feeling the effects. Just ask Wesley Snipes. As far as the sports world is concerned, your point is moot at best simply because these guys receive majority of their money from MEN that go to their games and buy their sneakers and jerseys, not woment. Women make up an extremely small contribution to the salary of athletes. I never said that Taye has a leg to stand on because I personally cannot think of anything he’s done that has surpassed medicocre since ‘How Stella Got Her Groove Back’. So, he truly doesn’t deserve recognition anyway, whether he was dating Chelsea Clinton or Alek Wek.

I completely agree that black men dating other races far outweighs the number of black women dating outside of their race, but that had nothing to do with my point. Black women feel that they should be loyal to black men…even if they aren’t loyal to them.”

MY FINAL RESPONSE:

Quite frankly you talk stupid! If you didn’t understand what i said, then i can’t help you. You tried to make a point highlighting two black female celebrities who are either married or dating a white male. And i simply said those two ISOLATED relationships don’t compare to the many black male celebrities dating non-black women, not to include the huge number of every day black men, dating white women. MY POINT, was there’s a issue within the black race cause too many successful black male celebrities are CHOOSING to date outside their race. THATS THE ISSUE AND THAT’S THE POINT!!!!! Not that people date outside their race, black male or black female! And how do you know halle and kerry aren’t receiving reprocussions from their interracial relationships! And also, tell me how Wesley’s CAREER has been affected by his choosing to date non-black women?! As far as i could see, he’s been constantly working, and if he’s slowing down, it’s because he’s pigeon-holed himself in the these super action hero types and his ass is aging and directors are choosing to go younger. But that got nothing to do with his personal choice of who he dates. Yeah, some black women did go “ah hah” when he got in tax trouble, but still, nothing to do with his damn career. So what the hell are you talkin about. As far as i can see, no black male celebrity has suffered because they choose to date someone other than black. Taye is just using this shit as an excuse.

Some things you said made, sense, but most of it didn’t. Quite frankly, you sound like one of them men who makes excuses for this type of shit…and i know you didn’t have the nerve to talk about loyalty, and how black women want black men to be loyal, yet black women aren’t loyal to them - WHAT MOTHERFUCKIN WORLD ARE YOU LIVIN IN AND WHAT COLOR IS THE SKY IN IT! Cause at last check, black women have been far more loyal to black men, and black men are quicker to date outside their race than black women. Black women are just now starting to say “fuck yaw, if it’s good for you, i can do it too.”

If you choose to post, please make some damn sense!

I watched the show and I just couldn’t get into it. I’m not concerned about who he’s married to. Whatever makes you happy. But the show was kinda wack.
I did enjoy the other show he was in as the single parent with the daughter. That was pretty good.

@angeleyes

get em angeleyes

you are a force to be wreckened with, you know your history and stay abreast on current issues facing black america today-that’s what I’m talking about

Your all about people getting along, but you won’t stand for the bullshit. I’d love to see you in action in the workforce.

Your an asset to CL, you actually have an opinion, and can back it up with intellect and knowledge. I may not always agree with everything you say-but I respect it. Witnessing a battle of the minds is my kind of entertainment.

for me taye diggs is an okay actor with an okay frame…

HOW STELLA GOT HER GROOVE BACK,

He stunk…what a bad accent from the beginning I felt that way. not convincing.

BEST MAN,

love the story line but really did anyone think he was going knock nia back out ? ol

BROWN SUGA,

another great story line but I really didn’t take his
character serious…he just doesn’t do it for me with his acting..

THE WOOD

I loved the young guy over taye diggs. the young guy who played in “fresh” please…he can act.

I personally like the acting chops of

Jeffrey Wright***
Isiah Washington
Forest Whitaker
Will Smith
Terance Howard (oh isn’t his wife white)

So as far as his movies before marring his college love…not I..never really felt him but I dig anyone legally placing their mark.

He just makes silly comments at times…
If you put fuel on a smoking flame there will be fire.

Everytime a black person fails they throw out the race card. NO THE SHOW JUST SUCKS!!!!! We don’t care about Taye Diggs like that frankly I didn’t even know that he was married! STYOP IT TAY TAY IT AIN”T LOOKIN GOOD

AngelEyes, girl you are the bomb. You have definetely spoke for me on this issue. Get em girl.

Would I prefer to see Taye with a sister? Yes, I would…I must be honest. However, he gets a pass because I doubt seriously that sisters were checking for him when he was attending dance classes and performing on Broadway in Rent. Please, lets be real. How many Black women are open minded enough to take a “dancer” seriously? Most would complain that he was broke and borderline gay! Y’all know I’m telling the truth!

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because these women continue to thrive successfully in an industry that is ultimately controlled by the audience, unlike sports.

technical difficulities…I’ll try again…lol

…..because these women continue to thrive successfully in an industry that is ultimately controlled by the audience, unlike sports. I know you may get confused on that last statement, so I will break that down for you too. ~Men don’t stop watching the Dallas Cowboys, even if they don’t like Terell Owens. However, someone will decide not to see a movie such as Dreamgirls because they don’t like Beyonce.~

So, if you choose to post again, please brush up on your reading skills, sweetie.

Better yet, take up a Debate class so that you can learn how to get your point across without resulting to child-like antics such as name calling.

I read the entire article…TayTay…as he’s so lovingly refered to…..did not blame black women….but he lets his mouth get him in trouble….the writer wanted a controversial spin and idiot didn’t see it coming….he got punked.
So leave Scott aka Scotty aka Scottaye aka Taye aka Tay Tay alone….let him wallow in self pity, self hate…he’ll be alright and making another career killer in no time.

TRESOME…I think we have a misunderstanding. I’m sorry if my post suggests that you implied the threats to Taye and his wife were made by black women because that is not what I meant. I simply gave an opinion.

Oh, fuck Taye Diggs although I do enjoy Daybreak. I work in the Broadway community and during his run in Chicago, Taye totally ignored the black female cast members but went out of his way to accomodate and grin for all any and everything that was white.

He is one of the producers of Daybreak and managed to not have one black woman in the cast - well, that’s not totally true. The woman who plays his sister would be considered black - you gotta look twice though and you’d never ever cast her as his sister.
I’m sure that casting a woman who looked more him was OUT OF THE QUESTION.

Taye is running from a couple of things - and one of them is Africa.

Blackwomen in general want to call the shoots and blackmen are not program to responded to that …… Black women are doing everything in there power to redefine their role and in turn trying to force men to change and become submissive . It ain’t happening and until sistas realize you can’t make everything what you want it to be …. this shit is going to persist . JUDAH#304 keep spitting the real !!!!!!

PLEEEEEEEEAASSSSSSSSSSSSEE!

read the article before you jump to conclusions!

Taye diggs doesn’t blame black women for the cancellation of his show! his show was still on during the time of this article

Stop looking for excuses to hate on Diggs!

Angela, i m surprised you have let the level of discussion get so skewered…do the right thing and inform your readers. if you were really objective you would question the agenda of the interviewer who comes across as very bias, or perhaps you have your own motives too?!?!

Whatz up Baily @316
and MissChoklate2006 @319

You guys know what I’m sayin. It is very easy for a White person to come on here and say some bull because they can’t say it to our faces.

I would venture to say that this young woman and any others outside the Black race to come and sit and converse with someone Black regarding issues facing the Black community.

It is all too easy for certain people to say things behind their computers especially concerning race issues because they can’t look people in the eye and say what they feel.

I have some white friends and I feel that if I can’t tell them what the real deal is about things then they can’t hang with me. My white friends have to come correct because I’m not about to say things to appease them. And, I don’t trash my own people.
I have to be real with them and myself. If they don’t like it they can go jump over a cliff. I am not affraid of them because to live in fear is to not live at all.

Everyone has problems but we are all connected in some form or fashion.
What she and others like her fail to realize and acknowledge is that what her ancestors did was commit a crime against humanity and thus creating a snowball effect that still lingers today. They like to say that there are “no blatant” discriminations but she is totally disillusioned if she can’t see that blatant or not, racism still exist for many Black people. Why when 2 black people go to get a job the fairer person is prefered over the darker one. Or when a Black couple goes to buy a house and the owners decide that they want a White couple to buy their house. Why do they care. Money is money. Once they sell the house, its not theirs anymore so who cares.

It is subtle but racism is racism. Simple.

This young woman that came on here saying HATEEVERYONE..and all the other things really needs to live a little more and learn. She is obviously hanging around other Black people that bad mouth their own people. I am up for interacial dating and marriage as long as the people involved don’t piss on others. Anyone Black that marries someone White needs to realize that they are still Black when they look in the mirror and vice versa.

I say, if you are going to be around Black people be around PROUD BLACK PEOPLE and not the sorry weak minded ones. Birds of a feather flock together.

She obviously has been listening to too many Black men that say they “only date white women” because Black women have attitudes”.

And you see where she commented about Black women doing all sorts of things to erase their heritage.
You see I had to check her about the things that White women do everyday!

LOVE DOES NOT KNOW COLOR AND I THINK IT IS A SHAME THAT WE FOCUS SO MUCH ON THIS RATHER THAN FINDING REAL HAPPYNESS IF YOU LOVE WHO YOU WIT AND THEY LOVE YOU FORGET EVERY BODY ELSE BUT I CAN TELL YOU THIS BLACK MEN DO TRIP WHEN WE (IM A BLACK WOMEN) DATE OUTSIDE OUR RACE IT IS THE WEIRDEST THING MY STEP DADS NEPHEWS THEY ARE BROTHERS BOTH HAVE CHILDREN WITH WHITE WOMEN AND ONE IS EVEN MARRIED TO HIS BABY MAMA AND YOU KNOW THEIR SISTER STARTED DATED A GUY SHE HIDE HIM FOR MONTHS COME TO FIND OUT HE WAS WHITE IT JUST WAS A MESS HER MOM WAS GONA THROW HER OUT AND EVERYTHING CONFUSSED THE HELL OUT OF ME CAUSE SHE ALWAYS LET HER SONS AND THEY HONEYS COME STAY WITH HER WHENEVER THEY WANT TOLD OLE BOY HE NEED TO GO BACK AND PLAY IN THE SNOW SOME OF THE THINGS THEY SAID TO HIM CONFUSED ME A BIT DONT UNDERSTAND DO WE SIT AND WAIT FOR THE BLACK MR RIGHT OR ARE WE LOOKING FOR MR RIGHT PERIOD MY MOM CANT STAND WHITE PEOPLE AND I TELL HER ALL THE TIME IF GOD SEND HIM TO ME AND HE LOVES RESPECTS TREATS ME LIKE I NEED AND WANT TO BE TREATED WELL GUESS WHAT I AINT LIVING MY LIFE TO MAKE NOBODY HAPPY BUT GOD AND MYSELF AND HE IS EASIER TO PLEASE THAN MYSELF SO DO YOU PEOPLE LIFE IS WAY TOO SHORT

I don’t mind dating outside of your race but when you deny dating inside your race totally you won’t get the respect of the black community. When that rumor spread about him not dating black women that is when he lost black support. Sorry Taye we can Digg you dating white women but putting down black women is not a good look. If this is at all true. But no matter what your movies will never take off again. Too bad. So sad.

HI5 to blkdds I agree with everything you say wholeheartedly!

It has already been said that nobody is losing any sleep over who Taye dates. If the white girl pleases you it pleases me. His attitude indicates that he has issues with black women and with that said I hope like hell he stays as far away from them as possible because we dont need another sista out here being torn apart by a man with issues that he hasnt dealt with…

A good thing though is that men like him and Wesley Snipes puts it on the table and you KNOW exactly how they feel and if you are still dumb enough to put yourself out there well….you probably deserve what you get. Its not hard to tell when a black man has issues with black women. And its not as uncommon as many may think. I tell men that its important to be mindful of the relationships you have with your daughters because whether we realize it or not it has an impact on the relationships we seek for ourselves. I guess the same could be said for women with sons.

What ever happened to good old fashion, calm submission, ladies?

1. TD was loved by black women for a long time. This is why they kept recasting him in ‘young-black-love’ movies. Now all of a sudden is a talentless, corny, arrogant, closet-homosexual? C’mon, ladies (and a couple gentlemen).

2. The hatred and vile energy on this post directed ‘towards’ this brother is rooted in shame, embarrassment, frustration, and ENVY.

3. His appropriate response to the inappropriate question about his wife’s race from the interviewer is to be commended. Such questions — whether spoken or unspoken — must get exhausting.

4. TD did NOT blame black women for the loss of his show. He addressed a hypothetical question, before his show was cancelled (PLEASE re-read and note the date of the interview).

5. His wife is very attractive — by any reasonable standard. The insults regarding her looks are not to be believed.

6. The fact that TD found SOMEONE to love and marry him is tremendous. Love is almost impossible to find on this planet (most of you can attest to this). I strongly recommend that we all find it when and where we can. Most marriages end in divorce. His has not! We should all be so disciplined, committed, and supportive if we get the opportunity.

7. TD presents a ‘positive black male’ image in the media. He is positive, articulate, loyal to his wife (assume until otherwise), smooth, and highly intelligent. We can probably all agree that it is much better look than the Jay-Z (rapper / drug-dealer makes Wall Street) and P-Diddy (unwed father of multiple children and insatiable philanderer) storylines.

8. We should wish any positive brother who gets a shot in Hollywood all the best in the world — scripts, promotion, exposure, etc. WE need it.

9. It is a FACT that a person can love and respect their own ‘race’ and love and marry a HUMAN BEING from another ‘race’.

332@Meatloaf said:
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What ever happened to good old fashion, calm submission, ladies?

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AngelEyes said:

You can find them at webslaves.com lol

Or http://www.fetbot.com - fetish bondage lol

Or http://www.submissivematch.com lol

Meatloaf you kill me. LMAO

This is a joke because all TD’s got 2 do is make a good ol’ soul movie about how he luvs his beautiful BLACK WOMAN and yall will be saying he’s the best thing since AFROS>>>LOL!~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Taye Diggs has always been an average actor. I do agree with him though. He’s an artist. Who cares if his wife is white? When I watch TV or any flick, I’m only interested in good product. And why is his personal life important? I dig Will Smith, but I could care less about his wife. I’m not saying I don’t like Jada; I just don’t care about her when I’m watching and enjoying “Training Day”. I watched “Day Break” and I actually dug it. I’m sorry to see it go off the air.

OOps. I did all that cursing and didn’t even read the disclaimer. SORRY!

#334

I am hating on TAYE DIGGS because he hated on me!!

Taye was casted on those BLACK LOVE movies for a reason, because he was perceived as HOT!

I never ever thought he was HOT, and now that I know he has a complex and really has issues with black females, Taye DICKS is definitely on my SHYTE LIST!!

I also thought he wasn’t a good actor. His name belongs no where near Will Smith’s..

The names of good actors (Black males):

DENZEL
TERRENCE - White wife (who cares)
WILL
CHIWETEL EJIOFOR
VING RHAMES
MOS DEF
ANDRE BENJAMIN
DJIMON HOUNSOU
FOREST WHITAKER
SAMUEL L. JACKSON
DEREK LUKE - He has a non black wife (never cared)
jaime fox
eddie murphy and the list goes on..

Yeah Blame sistas for every darn thing. Geez Taye if sistas had that kind of power dont ya think there’d be more shows in R+TV with sistas in them. Geez

ANGELEYES:

I AM QUITE AWARE OF THE DEGREE TO WHICH AFRICAN SLAVES WERE RAPED BY THEIR WHITE SLAVEOWNERS. THE HISTORICAL TRAJECTORY OF SLAVERY TRANSLATED INTO THE SYSTEMATIC RAPE OF BOTH BOND WOMEN BUT ALWAYS BONDMEN (A SMALL HISTORICAL FACT THAT MOST HISTORIANS FAIL TO ACKNOWLEDGE). AS W.E.B DUBOIS, THE SYSTEMATIC RAPE PRODUCED SOME 350,000 “MULATTOS.” IF WE LOOK AT MUCH OF THE LITERATURE CONCERNING SLAVERY, IT DISCUSSES THE WAYS IN WHICH WHITE WOMEN UTILIZED THEIR POWER OVER BONDMEN TO ALSO RAPE THEM. YES, WHITE WOMEN ALSO RAPED THEIR AFRICAN MALE AS WELL AS FEMALE SLAVES (FOR THIS REFERENCE LOOK AT SOJOURNER’S TRUTH AUTOBIOGRAPHY—SHE DISCUSSES BEING MOLESTED BY HER WHITE FEMALE OWNER). RAPE IS POWER, NOT LUST AND FOR THAT IT IS DIFFICULT TO ACCEPT ANY ARGUMENT THAT BLACK MEN “HAVE LUSTED AFTER WHITE WOMEN FROM THE BEGINNING OF TIME.” NOT ONLY IS YOUR ARGUMENT DISCURSIVELY FLAWED, BUT IT DOES NOT ACCOUNT FOR THE WAY IN WHICH RAPE WAS USED AS A WEAPON, WHICH SHOULD TRANSLATE INTO BLACK MEN FEELING A SENSE OF HATRED TOWARD WHITE WOMEN AS A LOT OF BLACK WOMEN FEEL TOWARD WHITE MEN. SAID DIFFERENTLY, AFRICAN SLAVES BOTH MALE AND FEMALE WERE SUBJECTED TO SEXUAL ABUSE THAT SHOULD TRANSLATE INTO A DISCUSSION OF THE POWER DYNAMIC, BUT INSTEAD GETS CONTEXTUALIZED IN A FRAMEWORK WHEREBY AFRICAN AMERICANS EXCUSE THEIR MEN’S LUST FOR WHITE WOMEN. YOUR ARGUMENT ALSO DOES NOT ACCOUNT FOR AGENCY WITHIN AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITIES. IF BLACK MEN DISPROPORTIONATELY CHOOSE TO DATE AND SLEEP WITH WOMEN OUTSIDE OF THEIR RACE, IT IS SYSTEMIC AS YOUR ARGUMENT SUGGESTS, BUT IT ALSO A CHOICE; A FACTOR THAT AFRICAN AMERICANS REFUSE TO EMBRACE. SO, THUS IN MY ARGUMENT I WAS SIMPLY SUGGESTING THAT THE ROOT OF THIS PROBLEM BE EXPLORED.

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Now for this part of your statement:
PART OF THIS HAS TO BE CONTEXTUALIZED IN A MUCH BROADER SOCIO-POLITICAL FRAMEWORK, BUT THE OTHER SIGNIFICANT FACTOR IS THE FACT THAT SO MANY AFRICAN AMERICAN HOUSEHOLDS ARE SINGLE-FAMILY. IF WE ALL ACCEPT THAT THIS HAS SOME IMPACT ON THE PSYCHOLOGY OF THE CHILD/CHIDREN RAISED IN SUCH CIRCUMSTANCES THAN WE SHOULD BE WILLING TO LOOK AT THE DEGREE TO WHICH MALE CHILDREN BLAME THEIR AFRICAN AMERICAN MOTHERS FOR THEIR FATHER ABANDONMENT.

AngelEyes said:
In the “Broader socio-political framework” you need to look at the fact that since the time of slvery the “Black family structure has been ripped apart”.
It was not too long ago that many Black women had to leave their homes and work in a White woman’s home to survive. The Black man has been the most disrespected person on the face of this earth not to his fault. The world has chosen to disrespect the Black man which has left many of them with no alternatives.

ALTHOUGH THE INSTITUTION OF SLAVERY BROKE UP AFRICAN FAMILY STRUCTURES, FOLLOWING RECONSTRUCTION NEWLY FREE SLAVES SET OUT TO LOCATE DISPLACED FAMILY MEMBERS. MOREOVER, AFRICAN AMERICANS IMMEDIATELY MARRIED IN ORDER TO ESTABLISH FAMILY TIES THAT WERE DENIED THEM UNDER THE BRUTAL INSTITUTION OF SLAVERY. IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO ARGUE ABOUT THE INSTITUTION, WHEN AFRICAN AMERICANS CONCENTRATED MOST OF THEIR EFFORTS POST-RECONSTRUCTION TO GAIN SOME SINCE OF RESPECTABILITY AND NORMALCY IN THEIR FAMILY LIVES. THE BLACK FAMILY DID NOT BEGIN TO BREAK DOWN UNTIL THE EARLY 1970s. IF YOU LOOK AT THE STATISTICS, THE AFRICAN AMERICAN FAMILY DID NOT BEGIN TO BREAK DOWN UNTIL THEN. PLEASE DO NOT ARGUE POVERTY, BECAUSE AFRICAN AMERICANS HAVE MORE WEALTH TODAY THAN ANY OTHER GENERATION, YET THEIR FAMILY STRUCTURES DO NOT EVEN BEGIN TO MEASURE UP TO WHAT YOUR ANCESTORS FOUGHT HARD TO ESTABLISH.

Now, you mentioned that many households are single parent and if I am reading you correctly that many male children “Blame their African American mothers” for their abandonment.

Sweetie, I think you have not interviewed enough Black men because if you truly understood what has happened to the Black community you will see that many successful as well as poor Black men have their mothers to thank for their upbringing.

Darling, I think it is in extremely poor taste that you would say that Black women are blamed for the problems that Black men face. On the contrary, Black women have been in many ways the backbone of the family because “due to the White man’s burden”, he has been stripped of his manhood.

IF YOU WOULD HAVE READ MY POST CAREFULLY YOU WOULD HAVE NOTICED THAT I WAS SIMPLY THEORIZING AS TO WHY THERE IS SO MUCH SELF HATE WHEN BLACK WOMEN ARE THE BACKBONE OF AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITIES. IT GOES WITHOUT SAYING THAT SOMEONE SHOULD APPRECIATE THE PERSON WHO HAS CONTRIBUTED GREATLY TO THEIR WONDERFUL UPBRINGING, HOWEVER, THIS IS NOT THE CASE IN AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITIES. AGAIN, NO OTHER RACE—I DON’T CARE WHAT YOU SAY-GETS IN MAINSTREAM MEDIA AND DISRESPECTS THEIR WOMEN THE WAY AFRICAN AMERICAN DO. WHY IS THAT? THIS THE QUESTION THAT SHOULD BE ANSWERED. I AM VERY FOND OF MANY AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN FREEDOM FIGHTERS, SUCH AS IDA B. WELLS, SOJOURNER TRUTH, HARRIET TUBMAN AND MARY CHURCH TERELL, JUST TO NAME A FEW. AS STATED SO BRILLIANTLY BY ANN JULIA COOPER “IT IS UNTIL THE BLACK WOMEN ENTERS THAT THE ENTIRE RACE WILL PROGRESS.” IF YOU KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT HER, SHE STRUGGLED TO ADVANCE THE AFRICAN RACE IN UNITED STATES, BUT BLACK MEN WERE ALL TOO RELUCTANT TO SUPPORT HER EFFORTS. HER SOCIO-POLITICAL CONDITION IN THE EARLY 1900s PARALLELS THAT OF AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN TODAY AND UNTIL AFRICAN AMERICANS FACE UP TO THE FACT THAT THEY STAND IN THE WAY OF THEIR OWN PROGRESS VIS-À-VIS SELF HATRED AND THE LIKE, PROGRESS IS UNLIKELY TO COME.

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Now for this part of your comment:

THIS IS NOT TO EXCLUDE SELF-HATRED THAT IS ALL TOO PREVELANT IN AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITIES. THE IMAGES ON A DAILY BASIS, WHICH DEPICTS AFRICAN AMERICANS AS CRIMINAL, LAWLESS, AND OVERSEXED MAKES ME SO PROUD THAT I AM NOT BLACK…WHAT FASCINATES ME ABOUT MANY AFRICAN AMERICANS IS THAT SINCE THERE ARE NO BLATANT FORMS OF DISCRIMINATION YOU CONTINUE TO MISS THE MORE SUBTLE WAYS THAT THE VIOLENT AND REPRESSIVE STATE CONTINUES TO CONDITION YOU TO HATE YOURSELVES…DAMN!!!!!!!!!!

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From AngelEyes:
Sweetie, the self hate was something put into Black men and women’s heads to make them feel inferior to the White man. Black Americans came from a once PROUD African culture but were sadly ripped from that culture. The images you and I see on a daily basis is the result of a group of people that do not have the opportunities that are many times afforded to others. If you say what you said about Black people being criminals, lawless, oversexed, etc., then why are you so aggressively defenind the Black man.

I AM AWARE OF HOW INTERNAL COLONIALSM TRANSLATES INTO DEGRADING IMAGES, WHICH VILIFY AFRICAN AMERICANS, BUT TO POINT TO THE QUESTION WITHOUT A STRATEGIC PLAN ON HOW TO COMBAT IT IS WHAT PLAGUES AFRICAN AMERICANS. WHERE ARE THE PROTESTS; WIDESPREAD BOYCOTTS? YOU ALL HAVE BECOME FAR TOO COMFORTABLE IN THE SUPERFICIAL STATE OF FREEDOM, BECAUSE THE CHAINS ARE NOT SO DISTANT. THE PSYCHOLOGICAL DAMAGE ASSOCIATED WITH NOT ONLY BONDAGE, BUT ALSO SEGREGATION THROUGH JIM/JANE CROW LAWS COUPLED WITH WIDESPRED VIOLENCE BY THE WHITE DOMINANT SYSTEM HAS DAMAGED THE PSYCHOSIS OF AFRICAN AMERICANS THAT IT IS PROBABLY UNMEASURABLE, HOWEVER HISTORICAL AFRICAN AMERICAN HEROES WOULD NEVER TAKE THIS LAYING DOWN AND THIS IS WHY MY CRITICISM TOWARD AFRICAN AMERICANS STAND—YOU’RE FAR TOO COMFORTABLE WITH KILLING EACH OTHER THAT YOU REFUSE TO ACTUALLY FIGHT AGAINST THE VERY SYSTEM THAT HAS CREATED YOUR CONDITIONS. THIS MY DEAR IS WHY I SAY I AM HAPPY THAT I AM NOT BLACK; BECAUSE I COULD NOT IMAGINE BEING PART OF A GROUP OF PEOPLE THAT FAIL TO FIGHT THEIR OPPRESSION ON A DAILY BASIS. YOUR ANCESTORS WHO DIED IN THE BOTTOM OF THE SLAVE SHIPS AND ON PLANTATIONS MUST BE TURNING OVER IN THEIR GRAVES, BECAUSE PEOPLE IN YOUR COMMUNITY HAVE SIMPLY GIVEN UP THE STRUGGLE. SINCE THE LINES HAVE CLEARLY BEEN DRAWN, IT IS NOT WONDER WHY A BLACK MAN CAN GET SHOT AT 50 TIMES AND THERE IS NO WIDESPREAD MARCH. WHERE IS THE MARCH TO STOP THE VIOLENCE THAT BLACK PEOPLE INFLICT ON EACH OTHER?

You say and I qoute “MAKES ME SO PROUD THAT I AM NOT BLACK”. Honey if you care so much about Black men and what they prefer then why would you make such a hateful statement when it is obvious that you are one of the many White women who feel you need to defend Black men because they have prefered you over a Black women.

To make such a statement is just flat out RACIST.

Do you like a Black man? Have you had sex with a Black man? Do you lust after his large member?
Do you want a biracial baby with him? Have you ever had any thoughts along these lines in your young life?

If you have, then HOW ON EARTH CAN YOU MAKE A STATEMENT LIKE THAT and believe that you are a fair and just person.

A BLACK MAN WAS SHOT AT 50 TIMES, SO PLEASE KEEP YOUR STATEMENT OF “FAIR AND JUST.” THE WORLD IS CRUEL AND ONLY THROUGH VIOLENCE WILL CHANGE HAPPEN. I DON’T KNOW IF YOU KNOW THIS, BUT EUROPEANS WERE RIOTING AND FIGHTING OVER BREAD, BEFORE THE EXPLORATION AND EVENTUAL RAPING OF AFRICA. VIOLENCE AND OUTRIGHT WIDESPREAD GLOBAL MOVEMENT TO DISMANTLE SYSTEMS OF OPPRESSION WILL LEAD TO CHANGE—NOT PEACEFUL DEMONSTRATIONS OR EVEN EMAIL DIALOGUE.

You are my dear, in no way in any position to point out the short commings of the Black woman when you have never walked a day in her shoes.

On the contrary my dear, many Black people don’t hate themselves but if they do you have to look at the social and economic reasons why.

Also, if I’m not mistaken, many and I do mean MAAANNNY White women hate themselves. Eating disorders, Drugs, SEX, Addiction to plastic surgery,
Pumping their lips up, Adding fat to their cheeks,
Adding fat to their butt, Sticking their foreheads with needles to erase the wrinkles which are inevitable. Obsessed about their weight, always trying to go Blond, screwing their way to the top.
Oh, and don’t forget the 18 year old girls wanting Breast Implants for graduation and their superficial parents willing to give it to them.

THIS PROBLEM CUTS ACROSS RACIAL LINES—BLACK WOMEN HATE THEMSELVES LIKE EVERYONE—I THOUGHT I MADE THAT CLEAR IN MY POST—EVERYONE HATES THEMSELVES AND WANT IN SOME WAY TO LOOK LIKE THE NEXT PERSON—

You my dear, please examine more closely your issues before you try to sum up one group of people based on your own personal experience.

You are entitled to your openion but your post came accross as very arogant and downright disrespectful to many of us Black men and women.

And don’t get it twisted. I have several White relatives in my family but they choose to have inteligence and understanding and compassion for Black people. They don’t sit back and try to love on Black people and then spew out ignorance against others.

And honey, it is not as simple as “thats what Black men prefer”. Last time I checked there are more White women Black men in the porn industry and is steadily growing. Now who looks oversexed?

Black men that have left their homes because of many reasons and the Black woman had to hold it down so please show a little more respect. People are responsible for their own actions and don’t think for one minute that just because a Black man is with a White woman that he is somehow better off with her.

If you are a jerk with a Black woman then you are a jerk with a White woman.

When more Black women start dating more White men then we will see how the White women will react.

It goes both ways honey.

THE REST OF YOUR POST WAS A BIT UNINTELLIGBLE. BUT LET ME SAY THIS AFRICAN AMERICANS ARE FAR TOO CONCERNED WITH HOW WHITE PEOPLE VIEW THEM AND HOW THEY FEEL TOWARD THEM. WHO CARES ABOUT COMPASSION AS YOU PUT IT? HOW HAS THAT GOTTEN BLACK PEOPLE ANYWHERE? STOP WITH YOUR HIGHER MORAL AUTHORITY AND GET OUT THERE AND FIGHT FOR EQUALITY, BECAUSE IF YOU EXPECT WHITE PEOPLE TO WILLINGLY GIVE IT UP YOU’RE SADLY MISTAKEN. THE ISSUE THAT I HAVE CONVERSATIONS SUCH AS THIS ONE IS THAT UNDERNEATH CRITICAL RESPONSES TO WHAT I’M SAYING IS THE NEED FOR SOMEONE TO RESPECT YOU. GET IT ONCE AND FOR ALL, WHITE PEOPLE DON’T CARE AND CAN CARE LESS ABOUT YOU, EVEN IF THEY SLEEP WITH YOU. TAKE BACK YOUR HUMANITY WITH FORCE AND THEN YOU WILL GET SOME RESPECT…

I DON’T GIVE A RATS ASS ABOUT WHAT WHITE PEOPLE THINK ABOUT ME. MY ROOM WALLS ARE FILLED WITH ACCOMPLISHMENTS AND DEGREES THAT I’M REALLY PROUD OF.

Aaah folks, I think the joke may be on many of you! I don’t believe #64/hateeveryoneequally (…”MAKES ME SO PROUD THAT I AM NOT BLACK…”)is actually some ‘white or non-black’. Something doesn’t sound right. Very likely just another brother or sister venting and trying to provoke. So, efforts to sincerely enlighten or engage #64 are probably a waste of your time (and blog space). Just a guess…

I’ve never heard of that show. I’m a black woman and I don’t care what race is wife is. Taye Diggs is just not an interesting actor…period. The only things I’ve seen him in that interested me had more to do with the other characters than him.

GOOD GRIEF PEOPLE!! y’all need to read before you comment. 300+ comments and only 3 or so of y’all actually read the article. ignorant. i’m no taye diggs fan but that quote was totally taken out of context. you need to read the entire article and the questions posed to him before you bash taye. the “journalist” is the one who makes sweeping generalizations about black women. i never cared for taye and i was one of those black women who had no desire to watch a black man romancing a white woman on my tv screen. so i did not watch either of his shows (although he was good on will&grace). but i have no problem with whom he chose to marry. actually, i initially thought indina menzel was fugly until i saw her in wicked on broadway. she is the bomb for real and i can see why anyone would be attracted her - she’s not classicly pretty but she is truly magnetic. in any event, taye is getting a bum rap on this post. READING IS FUNDAMENTAL! READ THE ARTICLE. i agree with what taye says and he is not blaming black women for the show’s failure.

FINAL RESPONSE FROM #64—I AM NOT AFRICAN AMERICAN. WHAT’S PAINFULLY OBVIOUS IS THAT NONE OF YOU ARE WILLING TO ENGAGE THE BROADER ISSUES THAT PLAGUE YOUR COMMUNITIES (HIGHER RATES OF INCARCERATION, UNEMPLOYMENT, ENVIRONMENTAL DEGRADATION, HIV/AIDS, AND HIGH SCHOOL DROP OUT. I RECALL DURING THE 1980S AFRICAN AMERICAN LEADERS CRITICALLY ENGAGED THE ISSUE OF BLACK MEN BECOMING “ENDANGERED SPECIES.” I THINK THIS NEEDS TO BE REVISED TO DISCUSS THE ENTIRE AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITY.

#346,

Your mother is calling you..

Diggy is right. Black people always quick to accuse someone of racism, when you all are racist to the core. A black man has to be with a black woman, but she can bed hop with whoever has the biggest dollar sign flashing over his head. Knowing your momma’s told you to go for yours and get a man that’s got paper. Why can’t a black man do the same thing? go for a woman of refinement and class, who just might come from money or at least a nice upper middle class family. He can then concentrate on his career and making himself a success and not worry about pulling her family up from the depths of despair. He should be able to date whomever he likes and I love his take on not caring about what anyone thinks b/c when you start to worry about others you pretty much sign your fate. You are doomed. This stuff is crazy and out of hand. let’s find some real battles to fight and leave the BS alone.

I don’t understand why these dumb men on this site keeps saying that black woman were on his tip before we found out his wife was white. I never thought he was attractive. He too black and ugly!

Hateeveryoneequally, Angeleyes already told you what the whole issue was about. Why must you continue to go over the same issues plaguing African-Americans. Does rehashing the same thing make you feel superior? It’s always good to point out everyone else’s issues instead of looking in the mirror and working out your own issues (we all have them). Anyway, whatever.

Since you are not AA, don’t worry about it. I suggest you study the issues going on in your own community instead, unless you think people like you are perfect.

I could care less about Taye Diggs or anyone else of his ilk.

damn yall can go on all DAY

@hateeveryoneequally

You have no idea what people are doing to fight issues within the black community- so don’t come on this blog acting all high and mighty like if we followed your instruction we could solve all of our problems.

It’s quite peculiar that you would suggest that violence is the course of action we should take to gain the respect of white people and regain “freedom”.

You must be smoking crack-seriously how is violence going to solve anything? Are you suggesting that I risk leaving my children parentless, losing my job that pays my bills with no assistance from the government, and start a fight with a random white person or no let’s really do it big-a government institution such as the police? Sounds like a suicide mission to me, your attempts to motivate, provoke, or arouse black people on this site are amusing.

In regards to your comment “I’m glad I’m not black” for you not to be black you sure know alot about black people and the current issues we face. Why?????Go live your carefree, problemless, happy non-black life and stop concerning yourself with issues that have nothing to do with you-right?

The issues black america faces today could soon be your problem tomorrow, do you think that these white women who date black men aren’t going to have black children or has “mixed” became an official race.
Last I checked according to our government these children are black, this child could very well be one of your family members. When he or she encounters racism I guess your response will be “I’m glad I’m not black” or go fight “whitey” for your respect.

There are no significant numbers that support that black men are dating white women more than they date black women. This is just another attempt to keep black men and women at each other throats, and as long as we feed into the hype it keeps us from communicating and working together on issues that affect our communities.

The fact of the matter is blacks are gaining financial power, are succesfully pursuing and obtaining college degrees, and are becoming their own bosses by starting their own businesses and depending less and less on white america.

The truth of the matter is magnifying and focusing on issues that black communities are currently facing is an attempt to discredit our many accomplishments. Whites still want to be viewed as the superior race and that is why this article has sparked so many responses-blacks are being spoon fed this bullshit everyday to make us believe that we are a lost cause.

Take your bullshit over to another blog-sweetie the most violent man alive is white-and our leader President Bush. This man is responsible for thousands of deaths but for some reason the media doesn’t see it this way. I know who I am and where I come from, do you?-I come from a family of working people, I’m educated and I am quite active in my community to fight the many issues all americans are facing(whites included), HIV and AIDS, violence, teen-age pregnancy, high school dropouts etc. This is not just a black problem it’s all of our problem. And people in my community black, white, etc. are involved and working together to resolve these issues.

Why is your non-black ass even commenting on this issue and why would you even be on this site to begin with? I would be interested in knowing if you know your own race’s history as well as you do blacks-probably not seeing that white isn’t a race to begin with.

Wsup w/people typing King James bibles and ish up in here?!..Forget that cornball Taye Diggs and his receeding ass hairline..He hasn’t been hot since “Stella Got Her Groove back”..

When are ppl gonna realize that color does matter in 2006 and has ALWAYS mattered? Racism never went away, just hid in the cut. Too much bad history in this country, to ever make things right. I just read an article in the paper that stated “Many White Americans ARE racist”, so why should I be accepting of a race that doesn’t and will never accept me? We Black ppl need to start focusing on empowering ourselves and our race instead of running to white folks for love or anything, because what i’ve noticed about white folks time and time again is that they will turn on you in a heartbeat if they had to.

I read the article. The point is that he’s indirectly blaming his lack of success on race when it has to do with his bad show.

Not everything has to do with race. Terrence Howard has found mainstream success and he has a white ex-wife. I think he’s a good actor, though I think he got popular acclaim for the wrong movie (his role in Crash was much deeper and relevent today, and frankly, I hate the idea of glamorizing pimping and movies that make it seem like all black people are wannabe rappers). I support Sidney Poitier. In spite of his overwhelming guilt, most black people support(ed) OJ.

The odd thing is that in his show on UPN (I caught a show after it was cancelled) was really good and one of his better works. The cast and his love interests were pretty much all white from what I gathered. That didn’t bother me though it probably didn’t get mainstream success.

TD belongs on Broadway. He is probably a great stage actor, but not so great on TV or movies.

Also, for those who claim that black women wouldn’t want him anyway, that’s a lie because I’m sure there are plenty of black women who dance as well who would appreicate being with a man like him who gets their work. I’m personally not into dating people who seek the limelight (models, musicians, actors, dancers, etc). I don’t want to be with a person who seeks constant validation and this is speaking from my very bad experience with an aspiring singer. That ish is NOT for me.

@# hateeveryoneequally, you said,”I AM NOT AFRICAN AMERICAN. WHAT’S PAINFULLY OBVIOUS IS THAT NONE OF YOU ARE WILLING TO ENGAGE THE BROADER ISSUES THAT PLAGUE YOUR COMMUNITIES.” WHAT!!!! If you are not African American, how can you speak on what is going on in OUR communities. Have you thought about what is going on in YOUR communities. We could go on all day about the teenage terrorists(Columbine and other schools anyone?), crackheads, potheads, unsurmountable numbers of pedophiles and sexual predators running a muck in your community, or the alarming rate of suicide and overt racism that plague your communities. Let me find a blog and rant on your communities issues.

haterz again, if he found love in that chic its ok by me, why are all of you black hos so hurt when men chose white over black? you need to check your loud ass mouths and asses b4 you go on hate ride, you will never appreciate anything you fools ever? hating …hating…all the time,,,fck all u who hate…just shows why you are hated in return,..am black and i love all women who love other people in return….shiiiiiiiiiiit….go diggs even if they hate you, u will never be poor,lazy or ugly as them,plus you got brains they can beat all of them haterz

Lah, apparently you can’t read. MOST of the posters on this message board said they didn’t CARE about Taye Diggs and who he was married to so stop being so damn defensive! The purpose of this blog is for people to express THEIR opinions and you don’t have to like them.

# 345 HATEEVERYONEEQUALLY

seek psychiatric help. What you have is a DISORDER called personality disorder and you are using PROJECTION as a coping mechanism. This person isn’t black nor white, he’s probably African. someone whose studied African american socioeconomics for so long, has admired americans for so long, no he’s here and he’s been discriminated against for being associated with black america.

I think that people who have so much criticism against other people has a PROBLEM with THEMselves.

I didn’t watch Taye Diggs’ show because I was disinterested. I think that racism is SO toxic, the topic of interracial dating is such an easy way for ANGRY people to vent using an easy medium such as ONLINE MESSAGE BOARDS- when, if He (#64, originally- was a white person) would NEVER say these things nor debate with a BLACK MAN in person, he would never do such a thing.

Love yourself

All y’all hoes were truly on his tip .y’all just salty cuz he don’t like y’all lol.black celebrities dat outside of the race because b4 they were ‘’somebody” y’all wouldn’t give them the time of day. i don’t wanna hear that ”isstas hold it down bullshit”y’all ain’t shit but money hungry whores.

Cosign with Bailey and others that made their point.

HATEEVERYONE…What is your connection with Black people? You still did not answer my question?

HATEEVERYONE you are obviously filled with hate, confusion, and prejudice.

If not, you would not continue your comments and look at your own life and community. Or better yet go out and help someone who is African American and stop finger pointing.

BY THE WAY HONEY. I BET YOU A MILLION DOLLARS THAT I KNOW MORE ABOUT BLACK PEOPLE THAN YOU DO.

YOU ARE GLAD THAT YOU ARE NOT BLACK?
WELL YOU HAVE A WHOLE LIST OF THINGS YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF BEING WHITE. AND I LISTED SOME OF THEM FOR YOU BELOW.

AND I GOT NEWS FOR YOU. YOU AND I HAD NO CHOICE IN THE MATTER JUST THE SAME AS AFRICANS HAD NO CHOICE IN BEING DRAGGED TO SLAVE SHIPS.

Look at what history and white poeple have done all over the world.
APARTHEID IN SOUTH AFRICA.
COLONIZATION IN NORTH AFRICA AND THE MIDDLE EAST.
HOLOCAUST.
GENOCIDE OF NATIVE AMERICANS, WHICH THEY STILL HAVE NOT BEEN PROPERLY COMPENSATED FOR.
DESTRUCTION OF CIVILIZATIONS. ETC.

Look at the many crimes that your people are commiting everyday against their own people.
CHILD PORNOGRAPHY
INCEST
PEDOPHILIA
SERIAL KILLERS
CORPORATE CRIME
AND THE LIST GOES ON AND ON.

Darling, for everything you point out about the Black community we can counter what you say. Everything has a consequence and what has happened to many Black people is partially a consequence to what people in your heritage has done.

YOU JUST DON’T WANT TO ACCEPT IT. YOU AND MOST WHITE AMERICANS ARE NOT SORRY THAT SLAVERY HAPPENED AND PROBABLY WILL NEVER ADMIT THAT IS WAS A CRIME AGAINST HUMANITY JUST LIKE MANY OF THE THINGS THAT OUR GOVERNMENT HAS DONE TO PEOPLE IN OTHER COUNTRIES.

To enslave a group of people and called them animals and to lynch them without a tear is one of the worst things that White people have done.

Honey, I could care less what White people think.

I don’t need their approval. And I come from a long line of successful, educated, talented, and beautiful people, both Black and White. I put myself through college all on my own will and continue to do the things I want to do. White people have no effect on my life whatsoever and neither do you.

HATEEVERYONE….You are racist plain and simple.

You try to sound like you are defening Black people and their problems but on the other hand you say White people don’t care about Blacks.

YOU ARE NOT FOOLING ANYONE. GET YOUR RACIST ASS OFF THIS BLOG AND GO JOIN THE COWARDLY KKK.

Keep quoting Black people from the past because after all it is their words and not yours.

341 HATEEVERYONE..said;

THE REST OF YOUR POST WAS A BIT UNINTELLIGBLE. BUT LET ME SAY THIS AFRICAN AMERICANS ARE FAR TOO CONCERNED WITH HOW WHITE PEOPLE VIEW THEM AND HOW THEY FEEL TOWARD THEM. WHO CARES ABOUT COMPASSION AS YOU PUT IT? HOW HAS THAT GOTTEN BLACK PEOPLE ANYWHERE? STOP WITH YOUR HIGHER MORAL AUTHORITY AND GET OUT THERE AND FIGHT FOR EQUALITY, BECAUSE IF YOU EXPECT WHITE PEOPLE TO WILLINGLY GIVE IT UP YOU’RE SADLY MISTAKEN. THE ISSUE THAT I HAVE CONVERSATIONS SUCH AS THIS ONE IS THAT UNDERNEATH CRITICAL RESPONSES TO WHAT I’M SAYING IS THE NEED FOR SOMEONE TO RESPECT YOU. GET IT ONCE AND FOR ALL, WHITE PEOPLE DON’T CARE AND CAN CARE LESS ABOUT YOU, EVEN IF THEY SLEEP WITH YOU. TAKE BACK YOUR HUMANITY WITH FORCE AND THEN YOU WILL GET SOME RESPECT…

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AgelEyes said;

That entire statement alone is very racist.

Tell that to Taye Diggs and the many interracial relationships out there.

Need I say more about HATEEVERYONE.

This is the racist mentality at its finest.

Equality won’t happen until White “RACIST” people acknowlege their part in the struggle. But to acknowlege it means to be held responsible. And there in lies the problem.

Peace to all people who stand for equality, freedom, justice, understanding, COMPASSION, and Interracial love and Black on Black love.

White women have always had their way with niggas like Taye, Seal, Ice T, Lou Rawls, Flip Wilson, Prince and Sidney Portia’. Take away take away their success and money…most white women wouldn’t give these fools a second look! So, if you gonna buy a woman, you may as well buy the one you prefer!

Conversly, most white men only go after black women who are rich or they have caucasian features like Halle and Mimi!

They can have Taye!

Taye isn’t a good actor to me. i didn’t like him in any movies/shows not just the ones he was in with nonblack women. and that sounds really ignorant to blame blackwomen for your show sucking and we don’t give a damn who you sleep with at night. He seems to have a big chip on his shoulder,which i’ve noticed a lot of darker skinned black men with white women seem to have.

F*ck that bum-ass n*gga. Take your L like a man. How does such a small population of women cancel a show? ABC’s a major network, so White viewers not checking for his show caused this cancellation.

Who cares who Taye Diggs is dating… He is not that serious… I wouldn’t have watched the show is the woman was black, purple, yellow or green… How the hell can you have a series about a person living the same day over and over again…. How boring… Not my thing…

AngelEyes & Bailey speak the truth! Im Black & Im Proud!!

I don’t get it when some on this site say some of the black women on here are hating because they don’t find Taye Diggs atrractive ,all of a sudden. I don’t think hes ugly but don’t find him atrractive and not because of his skin tone or his wife. Those who call him black names have self hate issues themselves.

I myself date white men,but don’t think all black men are unatrractive.

Taye has to relize that people probably didn’t like the show. Hes one of those black guys who are insecure because of what some say about how some black women are totally against him being married to women of another race and are boycotting him.Its ignorant for him to think that way. Its funny how some black women still try to date black guys(some even more)who say they don’t date black girls because of whatever and then below themselve to that level.

Whats wrong with a good white man?

I agree with you #21.

His movies are ok but he doesnt make them, its the actresses that he stars with.

WOW. To be so arrogant about your acting skills and business decisions to blame your TV show’s bad ratings on how Black Women feel about you being marred to a White women (Please).

I’m Dominican (Black Latina) and I felt your show was not as good as the commericals made it out to be. Am I supposed to blindly support the show just because your a main character? I mean…..your fine and cute but the show was not great to say da least.

Admit defeat and move on Brother. We have to the next show. Stop making excuses. Halle Berry admitted Cat Woman su_ked so why can’t you agree to the say thing.

Now the Movie entitled “Deja Vu” was HOT / Caliente. Learn from Denzel instead of just hating.

Yall a bunch of haters. F$#K All YALL!

How u gonna h8 on a man coz of his personal life. Thats just ignorance.

Bailey,

Thank you, there is not much more to say to someone who titles themself as “hateseveryone”. Now if she were wise she would back out of this, now.

@SillyDon

Your language and attitude is just as bad as the people you’re call degrading names. Why can’t you understand that everyone doesn’t think the way you do? Just because everyone didn’t like his show doesn’t mean people hate him all of a sudden because his wife isn’t black.What kind of egotistical thinking is that ? Thats Not right. How would you like it if some blk women started calling blk men jail birds criminals ect?

Taye Diggs a dam corn ball who really cares who he’s with. I stop looking at his ass after the movie “How Stella Got her groove back anyways. Boy brother really sounds upset about what people had to say about him dang.

For his ass to blame black women for the cancellation of his show was dumb. See he has issues himself and instead of dealing with them, he tries to blame up sorry jerk!