Check out John Legend’s new video for his next single “PDA (We Just Don’t Care)” off his latest album. Its a nice romantic song with a romantic video…this one is for the lovers.
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I really love John Legend, and I like this song. But I am disappointed and distracted by the fact that he couldn’t find a beautiful black woman to cast as the leading lady in this video.Perhaps I wouldn’t feel that way if I didn’t see a constant reminder that black woman are just not “in” anymore, every time I watch a music video.Diddy’s video “Last night” also has a latina as the leading lady.
What gives anyone the right to judge who someone prefers to admire, love or marry?
The most INSECURE Black women shoot off at the mouth the most when a brother is with anyone who doesn’t look like them!
By the way, to the brothers out there— don’t let these women control and manipulate you.
Don’t let anyone limit your thinking, experiences and choices based on race! Don’t ask someone — see what it’s like for yourself. Get a passport see the world!
Who wants to be with someone out of obligation or duty to their race?
If your with White you’re dead wrong.
If she’s lighter skinned you’re full of “self-hatred”.
If she’s slim you hate fat women.
Guess what, sisters? It ain’t all about you! And now
Black men are expanding their view of the world and the choices and possibilities available to us.
If all the other races were pursuing Black women for relationships, you sisters wouldn’t care who we were with anyway. Why don’t you go overseas if your that desperate to find a man!
i love his music i want his cd ilove that music video it feel like you want dance
Blair,
Black women aren’t complaining about black men “dating” multicultural. if you read objectively rather than with indignant emotion you’d see the complaint is about being discriminatorily and disporportinately in media by black male artist. yes black men date across color lines, but not in proportion to what media portrays. Black women date across color lines as well. But you don’t see that plastered on every popular television show, movie or other media outlet available.
hollywood is consciously fading out “obviously” black women. why do you think india arie, jill scott and a mirade of other female, apparently black artists aren’t popularized to the point of going multiplatinum. hollywood doesn’t feel that’s what’s attractive. Mainly because black women have never been showcased in media outside of menial, demeaning, matriarichal and comedic roles. Black men are having their hayday in the sun as the epitome of american beauty.
And in the process their adding in abedding in both fading our images from media and degrading what images are present and left. that’s the issue. not who you day….
who you want to date a bald monkey sweetie knock yourself out. But we’re not going to sit back and not defend ourselves against this type of discrimination. Black men aren’t interested in speaking out for us. multiple cultures of “other” women are reaping the benefits by being elevated in the eyes of men the world over as the epitome of beauty and so they don’t understand our complaints.
it has nothing to do with insecurity and everything to do with human dignity, and the right to be seen and heard and viewed a viable, marketable image in this country just like every other culture of female. not all of us are booty shaking, ghetto talking, money grubbers…
so please don’t confuse the issue. we have a right to speak out and will continue to do so regardless of who does or does not like it. if you’re catching disrespect from sisters for the women you date take it out on those ignorant females meddling in your relationships rather than snapping off here. we’ve got a right to sound off to.
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BLAIR,
Black women aren’t complaining about black men “dating” multiculturally. if you read objectively rather than with indignant emotion you’d see the complaint is about being discriminatorily and disporportinately projected in media by black male artists. yes black men date across color lines, but not in proportion to what media portrays. Fact of the matter is black people still marry one another 95% of the time. Most of these same artists trip over themselves to get to “fine” black women, and fine isn’t always high yellow with european features. So why not portray reality in media unless there’s some disparity against it. Black women date across color lines as well. But you don’t see that plastered on every popular television show, movie or other media outlet available. 10% of the black male population marries interracially, 5-6% of the black female population marries interracially. probably a good 95% of images of black women in media are with black men while a good 90% of images of black men are with non-black men. That alone shows a discrepancy issue. and that’s statistics.
hollywood is consciously fading out “obviously” black women. why do you think india arie, jill scott and a mirade of other female, apparently “black” female actresses and artists aren’t popularized to the point of going multiplatinum and being “thee” it girls of hollywood. hollywood doesn’t feel that’s what’s attractive. Mainly because black women have never been showcased in media outside of menial, demeaning, matriarichal and comedic roles, and for awhile neither were black men. But today black men are having their hayday in the sun as the epitome of american beauty.
And in the process their aiding and abedding in both fading our images from media and degrading what images are present and left. that’s the issue. not who you date. As a culture with a common struggle i would think, if nothing else, brothers would feel a dedication to pulling their sisters up and into the limelight with them. In the 90s Cube, and many black directors made it their business to promote us by their sides. If nothing else, why can’t we see a proportinal number of films and vids with sisters along side a man of another culture. Subconsciously you and these mutlple cultures of women know its deeper than love and marriage, its blatant, sexist, racism. but since its not directly affecting you as a black male you take no issue with it and buy into the media hype that we’re all angry, loud mouth, self-centered females insecure and who can’t get men. judging from the pics posted it doesn’t look to me like the women here commenting would have a problem pulling a man. The issue is discrimination and the perception of self-hatred black men are portraying by consciously fading black women out of roles alongside them.
if you want to date a bald monkey sweetie knock yourself out. But we’re not going to sit back and not defend ourselves against this type of discrimination. Black men aren’t interested in speaking out for us. Multiple cultures of “other” women are reaping the benefits by being elevated in the eyes of men the world over as the epitome of beauty and so they don’t understand our complaints.
It has nothing to do with insecurity and everything to do with human dignity, and the right to be seen and heard and viewed as a viable, marketable image in this country just like every other culture of female. Not all of us are booty shaking, ebonic speaking, money hungary, morbidly obese, comedic, matriarichal figures as evidenced by the plethora of black female skin showcased in rap videos. We can’t be that played out and unattractive cause if we were black artists wouldn’t be casting sisters enmass. Its not like there’s not a good number of white, asian and hispanic women fighting for those roles in those videos.
Like one poster said, its bias and it needs to be addressed. So please don’t confuse the issue. we have a right to speak out and will continue to do so regardless of who does or does not like it. if you’re catching disrespect from sisters for the women you date take it out on those ignorant females meddling in your relationships rather than snapping off here ad inadvertent women who’ve nothing to do with your woes. We’ve got a right to sound off about our frustrations just as you do.
Further,
It is not unnatural or insecure for black women to take issue with our media demise or speak out concerning it. Our offended sensibilites and our responses are no more a result of extraordinary self loathing than would be any woman of any other culture.
Truth be told hispanic, asian and white women who date w/in their culture are as possesive and would be as outraged if it were them in the position of black women.
Women generally want to see reflections of themselves in media and be promoted as the epitome of beauty in the eyes of the men of that culture. The difference between us and them is that the men of those cultures still love, respect and desire them while ours are happy to strive in doing away with us for some perception of upgrading.
Absent positive images of black women in films and in music videos, in fashion magazines that are mainstream, as well as the media perpetuation of the classical whore transferred into video ho has a impacting negative effect on self-image. Just like being placed in positions of inferiority had on black children in the study supplementing the case of Brown vs. Board of Education and just like the perpetuation of lighter skinned over darker skinned males had on the black male baby booming generation.
Its not about WHO you date. Its about us fighting to maintain a representation of our presence in media limelight. Its about being wounded by the indifference of black males to reach down to us from their postions on top of fame and fight the fight with us.
White male and hispanic artists understand the importance of this and that’s why they promote white and hispanic (respectively) females in their vids. You’ll never see a video with Justin and Janet jackson of Julio Eglesis (sp’ing) and Lucy Lui.
Its only in hip/hop- r&b that artists, mostly male, feel this need to be politically correct, and at the expense of killing the image of the beautiful, intellectual, desirable black female love interest. Black male artists who consistently showcase and support us are faded of the scene for the hoards of black artists willing to compromise for their moment in the sunlight.
Since black men feel no akin connection to us to desire to support us, we have to go it alone. That means speaking out rather than sitting back silently for fear of being label angry, insecure, jealous, etc…its about preservation…so get it straight.
Just like it isn’t all about us, it ain’t all about the black male and his ego. When your moment of fad fame runs out and you all get shuffled to the bottom of the pile by disinterested hollywood whose grown tired of you all as their boy toys of choice, you’ll understand…but dang, at least you all got your moment in the spotlight. We get shuffled to the back of the bus while you all sit on the front of the train of multucultural love and presence.
i think the girl in the video with john legend is a filipina… she looks like a girl from the philippines named juliana palermo. i swear to God she really looks like juliana palermo…
This song is a nice video.
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By judging this video, we’re living in a time when black men just don’t want black women anymore, and it shows by today’s RnB videos. Even light-skinned “obviously” black women and mixed black women are getting the short end of the stick, and white, Asian, and Latina women are taking their place. Lately, most black male artists’ music videos have non-black women as love interests now. I rarely see black women of ANY shade. We’re living in a time when the media is completely, slowly but surely fading out black women, even the lighter ones. Back in the day, even though most black female love interests are light-skinned, at least they were black, and it was a little more brown-skinned women in a positive light in music videos back then than now. Society hates black women PERIOD!! Light skin can only take a black woman but so far, but compare to white, Asian, and Latina women, even light-skinned sisters are at the bottom. Not only the music videos where black women are faded, but also in everything that involves urban culture. They (black men) are replacing black women with non-black women. Even though dark-skinned black women always have it harder, light-skinned black women are starting to feel the same way their darker counterparts are feeling as far as reject. Black men don’t want us anymore, and it’s obvious how they treat their mother, grandmother, and every female family member, how they call us ugly but call the non-black women (even the ugly ones) dimepieces. People want to be in denial, but that’s the main reason why its’ more single black women of ALL shades than single non-black women. Simply it’s because compare to non-black women, we are considered the ugliest women in this country. REAL TALK!!!
I totally fell in love with this song ever since I’ve listened to it for the very first time. The video matches perfectly to the song and John Legend’s soothing, angelic voice. Also his leading lady in the video is really beautiful.
@ Nicole Little
It’s funny you say that Black women are considered the ugliest in the country compared to non-Black women, when non-Black women are tanning, and pumping their lips up, getting implants, getting silicone in their butts—something that comes natural to women of African descent. If anything some of these BLACK MEN thing that we’re the ugliest in the country. I have seen more white men and African natives appreciate natural Black women here in American, than African-American men. And it is sad.
It is a self-esteem issue. To have a woman with Europeanesque features, for Black men, on their arms is a symbol of status to them. In their minds, they believe that to have her on their arm means that they are good enough to even attract the “exotic” or “extra-ordinary” woman beside the usual Black chick. It’s is a sickness that has been plaguing our community for decades.
Did you also know that that stupid King Magazine took a poll on the best girls to put in their magazine and they chose “Blasian girls”? How ignorant is that?
2 things. 1 Brazil has the most black people or persons of african descent out side of Africa.(yes more than the US) But of couse you wouldn’t know that unless you’ve been there or seen some documentaries.
2. The light vs dark is much bigger. It will come down to people claiming to be just black or black and something else. This will be an actual option that will be tracked by the US. So what does that mean? if you claim black and asian you go into the two or more bucket. if you claim black and hispanic, you go into the hispanic bucket. so what you will end up with is an increase in an multiethnic bucket, and the hispanic bucket, while the asian , black, and indian buckets will decrease.
This ties directly into federal funding for programs and scholarships. do the math, an end to affirmitive action and EEO legislation.
So if you are light or dark but you are black, say it loud”i’m black and I’m proud!”
Nicole Little, SmartDude, Twisted, and Ladonna I just wanted to say I love you guys so much right now. All of you hit the nail right on the head, and you did not sugarcoat anything. It felt amazing actually reading from intelligent people on here. You four really give me hope and I want to say thank you for that. And SmartDude, I’M BLACK AND I’M PROUD!