Damn that nigga looks pretty as hell on the cover!!!! I have that issue myself but damn he looks even prettier on the computer! Why are black women still getting mad over black guys talking to white women. That goes to show when they go over the fence to the other side they don’t treat the white woman any better. All the drunk late nights out cheatin with other women. Some men don’t give a damn! But I still keep hope alive damnit there has to be one out there with good sense lol

first of all, there’s something creepy about the guy. something about him seems slimy.

second, it seems as thoough he’s trying to say that ALL black women don’t give him the time off day. it sounds as though he only discussed 2 and they’re both celebrities. i have one option for him, why doesn’t he open his horizons and:
1. try to talk to more than 2 black women
2.try to talk to the average black woman? what, does a black woman have to be a celebrity to be good enough to be on his arm? he sure had no problem MARRYING an average white woman. besides i don’t blame halle or gabrielle for rejecting him, because knowing him he probably approached them in a skeevy way.

T HOWARD CAN DATE A FRIED CHICKEN IF HE WANT TO. WHO CARES. BUT SO FAR AS BLACK AND WHITE SHIT BEING IN THE PAST. YOU NEED TO STEP INTO THE LIGHT. BECAUSE IT MAYBE IN THE DARK BUT IT WILL ALWAYS BE THE PAST PRESENT AND FUTURE. LIFE STILL GOES ON. JUST DON’T GO TO SLEEP ON IT. YOU MAY NOT WAKE UP. LOL.

UM #75 WTF???? NOW ANGEL LA YOU NEED TO DELETE THAT POST! ALL LONG AND SHIT AND ITS NOT EVEN POSTED ON THE CORRECT TOPIC OMGGG

#102 SIGH I LOVE YOU CAFF!!! AND I KNOW YOU LOVE ME TOO…

“THERES A NATURAL MYSTIC BLOWING THROUGH THE AIR” BLOW NATURAL MYSTIC GIRL BLOW!!!

Hi Bashyboo–You’ve been scarce around these parts, girl?

terrance i’m with you baby. i like it all too. i’ll be damned to be with someone just because of what other people might think. *singin* it’s my life… don’t you forget!

he lives two houses away from me in philly, his brother looks exactly like him and he’s really down to earth.

dating outside your race isn’t self hatred….if that person excludes black women completely then you can make a case for that…..terrence howard doesn’t seem to fit that mold…….self hatred is wearing dog hair weaves so you can look like you have hair down your back…..or destroying your hair to straighten it (perm)……killing your own kind…..no one talks about the self hatred inherent in rap…..check yourselves……

OK, I love Essence and Terrance Howard, BUT….give another black actor the cover….Howard just had one last year! Give one to Hill Harper or Michael Ealy……Hill is out there changing the world..can a brother get the cover??? That’s my only problem with Essence.

Ok, I love Essence and Terrance Howard,BUT….give another black actor a cover! Howard just had one last year! Do a cover on Hill Harper or Michael Ealy…Hill is out there changing the world and helping our folks. Can a brother get a damn cover?

A very handsome and talented actor and musician.

Sorry Folks! I thought my first post didn’t go.

Preach Robeson !!!!

Self hatred is ALSO using Skin Bleach !

* I’m confused….Did Terrance Howard say that he DOESN’t Like Black Women ???

It seems LIKE he does (Like black woman)…
It SEEMS like a Person’s skin color doesn’t matter to Him….

#49…That was a dumb post….a woman in the industry can use your ass just like a normal woman could. In fact, the relationship may work out better if you both aren’t entertainers.

#26…your using my screensaver…pretty isn’t it.

Why would he try to get his wife back together with her high school sweetheart? I don’t get it.

He’s a great actor anyways.

Great point #70..suspiciously quiet they are…..
If two white women turned these brothers down, it would be no big deal….they’d go off and find two more white women to screw. I’m tired of black men and their excuses for prefering the women who would’ve got them hanged 60 years ago.

I agree Bill! I”ve never heard Terrance say he didn’t like black women.

natural mystic said:
——————————————————————————–

I often wonder WHAT PERCENTAGE of BLACK men have the same mentality as Terence/Kobe/Taye/Quincy/Tiki/Tiger and the rest. What percentage?? .
..and isn’t funny that our “black men” can come on and gossip about everything else from New York’s enormous tits to Toccara’s snaggle-tooth mama, but when it comes down to defending us, they pretend their tongues are cut out.
F*cking pathetic.

Bill Said:

Natural Mystic.
I don’t know if that comment was directed at ME
* are you mad at me ??? Why, What did I do ???.
BUT if it IS, then here we go (Again):
We (You & I) have had this conversation MANY times.
Your married to a Caucasian Man, Right.
Cool..Love is where you find it.

I’m Married to a BLACK woman..I’ve been married for twenty years….

When I was single, I didn’t have the desire to date or marry a caucasian woman, because that’s not what I was atracted to.

I always like woman that resembled Monica Calhoun or Nia Peoples !!!

My wife is unique. I’m in love with my wife.
I don’t have eyes for any other woman.
I can honestly say that I’m not attracted to anyone else but her.
I don’t desire to be with anyone else.
So, for that reason, other people’s affairs really don’t concern me.

I don’t gossip. I drop the occasional joke, word of wisdom, etc, etc.

But you won’t find me wondering about why Black Man dates a white woman or vice versa.

I honestly could care less…

It’s not my concern, nor is it any of my business

I could care less about who is attracted to who.

The ONLY thing I’m concerned with is My Wife & Kids.

What you do in YOUR house is YOUR business.

I’m silent on this issue, because I have NOTHING to add to the discussion.

I’m a married Heterosexual Man,
Why would I care about Terrance Howard and who he dates

Why would that concern me ???

Man, I’m to busy living my life…

* If I repeated myself, or misspelled some words please forgive me…I’m real busy here @ work, and we are having a major snowstorm her in NJ..I’m trying to assemble the children for an early dismissal.

Peace

@ robeson

I’m pretty sure your rockin a dashiki and an afro-yeah right.

It’s so important for women to live their lives based on their own values and standards; because if you take into account what some black men say they want vs what they actually choose you would be completely lost.

How many of you brothers are putting natural fro, cornbraid wearing, completely clothed sisters in your videos? NONE

No you are not the artist and you specifically didn’t choose these women, but there never seems to be a lack of videos that display typically light-skinned, long hair women, that some but ugly dude like “rich boy” is wining, dining, and chasing with his 50k car with rims to match, and his gold chains, and other perceived riches all in the attempt to validate his manhood. Dark skinned women are usually portrayed as sexual temptress, the down-low chick, or the booty popping master. Hell I aint seen a women rock a short natural cut in a video in years!

I’m certain your mom, sisters, or aunts don’t perm their hair or wear hair extensions-because they hate themselves-it’s so funny how men make statements like these and fail to realize that the are not only insulting their own race but the very woman that gave him life.

Black men and women have serious communication issues that continues to divide us as a people, we lack compassion and understanding for one anothers struggle to survive in today’s society. We tend to throw jabs at one another and point the finger when it comes to resolving the issues in our communites-we are all at fault.

The real issue isn’t who terrance howard is married to, but more so- why do black men and women harbor so much hate towards one another and have such a lack of respect for each other in general?

Love and marry whoever you want, it is your right-I know good and damn well aint no black women walking up to you and questioning why you are with a white woman. As if yall gave a damn or would reconsider your decision of dating a white women based on how we felt-hell if that’s the case I have a laundry lists of concerns that I would like to address with black men like crime, absent-fathers, and child support dodgers-shit white women wouldn’t even make the list.

if you truly are content with your reasons for being with a white women you wouldn’t feel the need to justify your actions with insults to black women.

WHEN YOU JUSTIFY-YOU ARE COVERING UP A LIE!

Dig deeper - this is all so fake and superficial.

He made comments that would get attention and get people to talk about him… just like we’re doing.

Really what grown man considers one phone call to someone as trying to “date” them. And he probably didn’t call anyway - “his people, called her people”

He just pulled those two names out of the air during the interview expecting it to generate some buzz…. and it did.

@ Bill 168– Whoever said I was “mad” at you?
MAD–that’s such a beastly word, Bill.
Certainly you aren’t the only Black male on CL who posted comments on Toccara and New York.
I can’t help but think you are singleing me out here.
My post was not directed solely to you, but thanks for responding.

Well said, Bailey!

I think Terrence will date ANY woman he finds attractive. I don’t think he hates black women (not like Taye Diggs, that punk bitch).

His opinion is that black women get angry about seeing him with a white woman. Which he decides to express in a magazine targeted primarily to BLACK WOMEN.

Halle Berry probably would share that same opinion when it came to black men and thier attitude about her dating a white man but the difference is that you will not see her talking about it to a magazine like Smooth. As a matter of fact you won’t hear her speak on it at all.

If your in the public eye, you should be careful about how talk about things in interviews.

And if you have to make excuses and blame other people about why your in a relationship then the relationship wasn’t that strong to began with.

I don’t hate him though…I think there might be other things goin’ on with him as far as personal life is concerned.

OMG!!!! Here we go with this if you straiten your hair and wear weave you have self hatred issues… What so many of the men fail to realize is that white, latin, and even asian women rock weaves just as much as black women… It’s just not as obvious that they are wearing them… Most entertainers, black white or whatever, wear weaves or straiten their hair, and I bet that doesn’t keep you from lusting after them!!!

I myself have never worn a weave but I do relax (perm) my hair and I in know way hate myself, nor do I wish to be something I am not… What the hell is wrong with a black woman wanting to have strait hair, hell a lot of curly headed white girls straiten their hair all the time but when they do it they are simply changing their style…

I am so tired of black men judging black women with this double standard… How many men do you see with posters of Eryka Badu on their wall or India Arie, or even Jill Scott??? All of these women are absolutely beautiful but I sure never hear men talking about how fine they think they are…

Damn, we black women are damned if we don’t and damned if we do… Men preach that they want a natural woman yet rarely have a natural woman on their arm!!!

Damn how many times do the women on this site have to state this… If you want to date white women, latin, asian whatever, do you… We don’t care we support you, but stop puting us down in the process…

Thank you Bailey!!! Keep speaking the truth girl!!!

Thank you, Txsupercutie!

Bill post #168 is bullshit. you are a self righteous little man and your positions change with the wind. yes you say you are married, but a not long ago you were openly lusting after a whole bunch of women on this board. you got called out and you calmed down.
you talked about “busting a nut” on some chick’s face.

whenever it’s conveninet you remind yourself that you’re an educator, and work with kids, i guess that’s to try and show us you’re older, but have a desperate need to relate. a married man with 5 children shouldn’t have so much time on his hands.

you don’t gossip, that’s all you do, you just try to cover it in some long ass post that you cut and paste.

c’mon now, man up. you are exactly what these sistas are talking about, if you going to do it, do it. but be a man with yours.

The bottom line is, race mixing is the future and nobody can stop it. Blacks wanted equal rights and respect, well this stuff comes with it. The money and power that Terence/Kobe/Taye/Quincy/Tiki and Tiger have is attractive to ALL colors and races. The Hispanics are next, and when given the same opportunities and power as everybody else then THEY will be having the same conversation.

Damn I have came back to this post and some of my sistas are definitely NOT letting the bullshyt slide this time…lol!!! I know thats right!!!

Bailey and Natural Mystic- you ladies are most definitely telling it like it is…and I LOVE it!!!

Thanks for the compliment Bailey…it means alot coming from an intelligent woman such as yourself

and white women don’t wear weave!?you brothers are fooooooooled!you should see how many white women now and days get a weave in the salon.shooo you don’t have to get up and go to the salon to see that turn it to the STYLE network, E, and MTV.Its not just a black woman thing its a WOMAN thing.

some of y’all take shit too far & too seriously!!!all this shit bout white chicks vs black chicks & black chicks being insecure is just too much nonsense. most black women actually don’t give a shit who terrence goes out with. and they don’t straighten their hair to look white/because their insecure but just because that’s a hair style & it happens to look nice and is fashionable in this day & age. stop making an issue out of nothing. and to all those who have been bashing me (i’ve lost count) i am NOT a self hater or insecure. i use bleach because my skin is different shades of brown & bleach helps me to have a nice smooth complexion NOT that i use it to make me white. that’s all i was saying at my post (number 15). why some of y’all gotta take that shit and start attacking me!you don’t know me and you ain’t got no right to disrespect me or attack me like that. i ain’t gonna get emotional about it but seriously read over ur comments-some of y’all just hateful

wow @ Lashonda!!!!!there was me thinking maybe u were joking at post15 but now u come on here trying to defend ur use of bleach!!!????DANG!!u need the Lord in ur life for real because u are not only a self-hater but you so deep in denial you can’t even see past ur foolishness. Hydroquinone is harmful to the skin-STOP USING THAT SHIT MAMA

He’s a donkey and that’s too much make-up on his face with his man-purse carrying ass.

Alright Natural Mystic….I’m just trying to keep up with you sistah souljah

Such Magnificence…..I call it like I see it, I don’t have a problem with giving another woman her props

TXSUPERCUTIE thanks-we all aint taking no shorts today up in here. And your hair is fiyaah!

It’s an official TKO………..CL ladies have won this round!

Be eazy on bill he’s a veteran on this site–I haven’t always agreed with his opinions but the man is an intellectual & typically breaks it down. It’s quite obvious he is a dedicated father and husband-flirting, if your comments are true, aint cheating.

Leave the man alone, don’t hold him to standards you can’t meet, how many of us are the same person with the same thoughts and ideas from day to day!

I bet if you go back to previous posts on here I’ve probably contradicted myself a time or two.

I’m pretty sure bill will have a response of his own and doesn’t need any help from me-

I’ll sit back and wait………….

These message boards are entertaining because you really get to the crux of the matter. When you deal with people in person it’s so much of a facade and a mirage. That’s why I laugh when I hear or read people talk about “hate” and how evil “hate” is. Hate is in all and through all. It’s just a matter of whether or not you acknowledge your hate. It could be hate from truth or hate from opinion, but it’s hate nonetheless. All you have to do is read these “honest” opinions and it’s obvious that one cannot escape the “hate”, and to me that’s beautiful. In this society “hate” is codeword for honesty. Be honest with me as a black man (or any person for that matter) so that I know where I stand and I can defend myself and what I know to be true.

At the end of the day be consistent with what you stand for and what you claim to believe in so that you don’t mock yourself, lol. I don’t understand the “direspect for the black woman” rants and then when Halle with her man bouquets are being thrown in the air. “Let’s talk about ‘Amerikkka’ as I stroll with my white man”, lmao. Keep in mind, I don’t give a fuck if you wanna ride a white rhinoceros. Do you. This is the time for all that. I deal with the Most High to the best of my ability so that’s all I’m concerned with. Instead of surveying black men as to why they go with the white woman or other women in general, ask yourselves why it’s 2007 and black women still obsess over skin tone. Let’s keep in mind that in the ’80’s black women were only dealing with the light-skinned brothers and the dark-skinned cats just chilled until they came back. They didn’t throw some wild tantrum. It’s just the black woman’s frustration about the shortage of black men and their inability to control or manipulate that small percentage, really. That’s probably the black man’s fault too right? How about the war in Iraq and global warming? Let’s blame that on the nigger also.

I believe that the black woman has achieved or is on her way to achieving everything that she has lusted after in this society and she’s still not happy because she cannot figure out what her role is. You want to make more money but you want the man to be the provider. You want a “strong black man”, lmao, but ya’ll want to call the shots. You want to get married but you think being a wife is demeaning. You want all the jobs and yet you complain about black male unemployment. That’s why when the sisters do cross over to the white man, they feel this great relief. “Now I’m free to be subservient without anyone questioning my subservience”. There’s no, “You lettin’ that NIGGER tell you what to do…”. No single entity in the world disrespects the black woman anywhere near as much as she disrespects herself.

All that being said, it is the black man’s fault. We know that the black man’s shortcomings get played out on the nightly news consistently and they have to be addressed, but it is what it is. If we’re going to communicate on a topic like this, let’s establish that the black woman is not above reproach so enough with all the “a black woman gave you life” stuff, lol. That mentality is reflective of the black woman’s erroneous belief that there are no good black fathers as shown so well in Spike Lee’s brilliant “She Hate Me” film where the black man has been relegated to a sperm donor for a limitless line of (mostly black) lesbians that hate black men.

ok, ok, everyone. First things first. Not defending the girl - Ms. #15 - for the bleach and hydroquinone, but everyone that useses that is not necessarily on some Michael Jackson type stuff - and before you all get started, I love the man, so that was not an attack on him. I have scarring (really dark marks) on my face from an allergic reaction and hydroquinone was PRESCRIBED to me along with a bleaching cream. So, #21 if the stuff has really been banned I think I need some legal help, because you are correct it is damaging to the skin, it actually made my situation worse.

Second - Bill, I am agreeing with you 110% I couldn’t have said it better, the truth is the truth

and for everyone that keeps bringing up this black, white stuff, we really need to quit - it is still alive because we keep it alive. I pray that you guys are not teaching your children some of the behavior being displayed on these boards. Quit hating on people when they are able to look past color and find TRUE love. The truth is all nationalities of men cheat, not just black, all nationalities of women have attitude issues and may be money hungry, not just black. Now, ill admit those that date out outside of their race for other reason, deserve everything they get.

Now, getting to the post at hand before this message gets deleted I like this cover. I thought those were his real eyes, did someone say something about contacts?

whenever i see a black man w/ a white woman i question whether or not i would date him. if not i keep it moving. my mom was talking about tiger woods’ wife and i asked her if she’d date him. of course she said no, but then i wondered if his wife would date him if he wasn’t a famous golf player and rich, probably not.

he made a great point “You know, the fact is, we are human beings.” it seems to me he was with this woman because he was in love with her, not something that a BLACK WOMEN OR ANY OTHER KIND OF WOMEN DID TO HIM…those who date interacially date the person your with because you want to be with them AND MAKE SURE ITS FOR A GOOD REASON, an example of a wrong reason :”Black women nag and have attitudes thats why i only date white yellow blue women” or “All black men cheat and are undereduated” thats just not true, maybe you have a nack for picking and/or attracting that kind of partner example. THE ONE THING I HATE IS A PERSON blaming other folks for what YOU choose to do.

he made a great point “You know, the fact is, we are human beings.” it seems to me he was with this woman because he was in love with her, not something that a BLACK WOMEN OR ANY OTHER KIND OF WOMEN DID TO HIM…those who date interacially date the person your with because you want to be with them AND MAKE SURE ITS FOR A GOOD REASON, an example of a wrong reason :”Black women nag and have attitudes thats why i only date white yellow blue women” or “All black men cheat and are undereduated” thats just not true, maybe you have a nack for picking and/or attracting that kind of partner. THE ONE THING I HATE IS A PERSON blaming other folks for what YOU choose to do.

last time i checked wearing a weave didn’t make my ass get small, my voice get high pitched and whiny or magically turn my skin from brown to white. get over the weaves brothas. changing your hair doesn’t make you a sell out or fool people into thinking i’m something i’m not. even if my hair was down to my ass naturally i would still look like a black woman.

btw… i make a lot of cash on the side hooking my friends up with weaves and most of them are white. (clutch the pearls!)

Bailey & Referee,
Thank You !!!!
I appreciate your kind words…

I’m feeling him on the whole race issue. Let it go. My husband of 12 years, (yeah I was married at 19-would not recomment it), is asian and everyone thinks that I only find asian guys attractive. That is b.s. I find all men attractive and just love my asian husband

He is a good actor, but he personality is not attractive.

@15 (lashawnda).. i hope that was some type of joke right?…”face bleach gives me that nice look” HUH? smh in disgust

this doesn’t really look like him…
he kinda looks younger…
maybe its cuz he actually looks like a regular person and not the bad guy!!!

Thank you Bailey and Txsupercutie. Speak the truth.

In short. F@#!!~ Terrance, Taye etc. They can date whomever they please. I would rather that the self-haters not marry black women and further destroy our gene pool with children who will also hate themselves.

This man just stated that he cheated on his wife. He has substance abuse issues, and has not been successful at getting attention from women that he desires. He sounds like a good candidate for therapy. My question to the sisters is: “why in the #@!~!@# do or should we care that he dates a white woman? As though we need to have a man (obviously in need of therapy) cheating on us, and messing up our children.

I don’t get upset over who anyone dates. And trust me, I’m pretty over the top with my “pro-blackness”. I have had men tell me “I usually prefer white women or light-skinned women, or whatever kind that you aren’t BUT I’m so attracted to you…..”

My answer: “Of course you are sweetheart.”

I can say that because I am convinced that I am the creme de la creme. Chocolate skin, thick frame, nappy locs and all. I AM CONVINCED. So they are convinced.

Sisters please Stop waiting for sick people to affirm your beauty. They can only see you through sick eyes.

Stop waiting for sick men to make you feel worthy. They don’t love or feel worthy THEMSELVES. They CANT affirm you.

I hate to quote Katt Williams again–because it is sad when the comedians are making more sense than the thinkers, but he was right, its called SELF ESTEEM. As in ESTEEM OF YOURSELF. When you get to a point in your life where you finally realize that nobody outside of yourself DEFINES YOU, you will be freed of getting angry that men, like Terrance, don’t affirm your beauty.

I’m married to a black man. We have 4 black sons. I have a black father (RIP) and 4 black brothers. I absolutely ADORE black men. But I tolerate bs and emotional abuse from no person. If you want to stop dealing with brothers who make you feel angry, bad, and unworthy…stop walking around being angry, feeling bad, and thinking you are unworthy.

Its always love.

Nefertari

I TRIED TO CALL HIM HE DIDNT CALL ME BACK! NO I AM JUST PLAYING! I STILL LOVE YOU BOO! AND GET OVER YOUR WIFE HON! YOU BE ALRIGHT!

196. Nefertari said:

….I can say that because I am convinced that I am the creme de la creme. Chocolate skin, thick frame, nappy locs and all. I AM CONVINCED. So they are convinced.

Sisters please Stop waiting for sick people to affirm your beauty. They can only see you through sick eyes.

Stop waiting for sick men to make you feel worthy. They don’t love or feel worthy THEMSELVES. They CANT affirm you.

I hate to quote Katt Williams again–because it is sad when the comedians are making more sense than the thinkers, but he was right, its called SELF ESTEEM. As in ESTEEM OF YOURSELF. When you get to a point in your life where you finally realize that nobody outside of yourself DEFINES YOU, you will be freed of getting angry that men, like Terrance, don’t affirm your beauty.

I’m married to a black man. We have 4 black sons. I have a black father (RIP) and 4 black brothers. I absolutely ADORE black men. But I tolerate bs and emotional abuse from no person. If you want to stop dealing with brothers who make you feel angry, bad, and unworthy…stop walking around being angry, feeling bad, and thinking you are unworthy.

Its always love.

___________________

Nefertari -

So beautifully stated!

His eyes make him look like a cat. Nice though. As far as the white women go..who really cares?? He’s part white himself. Can’t really get mad at that.

Terrance has the right to love anyone he wants to but to say if he had gotten a black sister pregnant, he wouldn’t have married her, makes me wonder if he’s really black or talking smack

Terr..is crazy as F*cK …please, please date white women …sistahs have enough to deal with.

Damn Eva looks cute…my bad I mean Terrance! LMFAO

Don’t really care who he’s screwing black white or polka dot. I’m still not convinced he isn’t playing for the other team.

Who cares? He’s still fine and at least he didn’t sterotype black women like Wesley Snipes.

wow, nuthin’s changed.

Him and Eva could be twins!

that man is just fine. hey terrence if it helps im mixed and of legal age {smilez} lol

but for real - at least he REALISES and ADMITS that he needs to grow and makes no hesitation in admitting he wants his wife. he ain’t out there talking bout how ‘cool’ it is to be a player - he’s remorseful, a little late though which is usually the case.

why are ppl still going on about being with someone outside your race? I don’t think God sees any difference in the color of our skin; what He sees is our hearts and intentions. this is just an issue that ppl of all color need to get over. we all bleed the same color and we all turn to dust when we die.

@184 JUDAH

Were black women polled nationally or did terrance run into a handful of black women who stated they had a problem with it? Basically, I don’t give a fuck about someone who doesn’t give a fuck about me, if a black man acts as if he doesn’t have no love for me -fuck him. Plain & Simple.

Just like you stated in your post, it seems to me that black men are tired of being blamed for problems black women have, I’ll speak for black women we are tired of the same shit as well.

The same arguments you made against black women can definitely be flipped back on black men….

Hell you can’t expect for us as women to go out and earn the money, raise the children-that so many of you seem to leave behind when it’s convenient, be mom and dad, help with homework, attend school functions, and pay all the damn bills to easily turn over control to a man-who may or may not be there especially when times get rough, oh and typically that’s when they tend to go MIA-when shit gets rough.

Hell to be the head of a household, you have to act like it. For several decades black women have been forced to be. And to clue you in on a little something, something, we as black women would not have a problem with “submitting” to a black man and stop being so controlling -if we could trust that he would properly make decisions that would benefit the entire family as a whole.

Trust me the biggest fallacy in the world is the myth of the black “superwoman”-we would love to hand of the reigns or share them if there was someone to share them with.

Statistics don’t lie black men are in prison, are absent fathers,and are murdering one another at astronomical rates.

We could go back and forth about this issue all day but think about this black women-specifically mothers are very present within the black community, are they perfect? hell no, but at least they’re present. It would be beneficial if black men and woman could make a collective effort to communicate in a positive manner to set an example for our children and end the ever growing gap between black men and woman and the lack of “black families”.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, some of you black men date white women because it’s easier and less problems. White women typically don’t have to deal with discrimination, poverty, MIA baby daddies, being raised in single-parent households, crime etc. as much as black women do. Less drama, less attitude right? I should guess so, if you aint been through much of nothing what would you have an attitude about?

black men who date white women and then degrade black women are doing themselves a disservice, we’re the first to welcome your white wive’s into our families, help them raise their children-shall I say teach them how to braid, cook the food you like, and how to put up with your ass.

So when I say “a black woman gave you life” What I meant is that we are not just someone to think of as potential mates, we are your mother, sisters, aunts, cousins, etc. And may want to be very careful not to offend us. Although you marry white, you still have to come back home to us.

oops left out you-

And you may want to be very careful not to offend us. Although you marry white, you still have to come back home to us.

Bailey, I got ya back on that one.
Judah only appears to bash strong women, gays and anyone else who doesn’t agree with twisted thoughts.

I have no more words Bailey basically summed it all up,soak in the truth because it is what it is.

I LIKE THE PART WHEN HE SAYS, “SHE SO HAPPENS TO BE WHITE.” I MEAN DID HE REALLY WAKE UP ONE MORNING AND LOOKED AT HIS WIFE AND SAID, “WOW, I DIDN’T KNOW YOU WERE WHITE UNTIL NOW.” I MEAN BROTHERS BE REAL IF YOU LIKE WHITE WOMEN, LIKE WHITE WOMEN, AND BE REAL ABOUT IT. DOWN TEAR DOWN SISTAS OR MAKE A DEMEANING REMARK ABOUT SISTAS TO JUSTIFY YOUR REASON OR TASTE FOR BECKY SUES. AND JUDAH, STFU!

i dont like his covor shot. it looks to airbrush. terrance is very attractive, but for you lady’s out there, if u didnt know terrance is a PLAYER. and he can run a game on most woman. hes sexy and confident. you know of that type of brotha that can talk your pantys off. no matter how hard you try to resist, you just cant. thats the type of brother terrance is. and i think his reputation follows him. he seems like once he hits it, he do u so good, that u cant get enough. he seem like the type of brotha. that will break your heart. i think thats why halle and gabrielle want touch him. cause they know he have them whipped. and have other woman too. and doesnt date black woman because he know we’re not putting up with his shit. the white girl put up with his shit for 13 years. a black woman is not gonna put up with too much of anything. its just part of who we are. and you got to respect that!!!

Terrence always looks nice.He always be looking like he can’t get mad.He seems mellow.I did’nt get that magizine yet.I’m gonna buy me a copy.Cuz those topics seems interesting.Thax Tianna. Everyone who said bad things about him dating a white woman or will start mess needs to sit they @$$ down. Ya’ll getting all worked up over skin tones.It’s just skin color.If her personality is excellent and she makes him happy why not go for it? To me that’s racist. What’s so bad about white and black folks dating? Terrence is not selling out. Ya’ll acting like it’s slavery time or something.Act like you know!

I just seen him and his brother in the jet book and for a minute I thought his brother was Prince.

THOSE ARE NOT CONTACTS BOO GET IT STRAIGHT! HE’S JUST A BEAUTIFUL MAN GO TH!

The man is GAY — can’t you see!!!!!

TERRENCE SHOULD HAVE TOLD QUINCY WHERE TO GO WHEN HE BEGGED HIM TO BE FRIENDS WITH A SNAKE. HOW STUPID THAT BOTH OF THESE MEN DO NOTHING FOR GOOD CHRISTIAN BLACK AMERICAN WOMEN WHO ARE THEIR MOTHERS, SISTERS, AND COUSINS, YET THEY PET AN EVIL JAMAICAN VOODOO WOMAN AND LEAVE THEMSELVES OPEN TO EVIL BY CAVORTING WITH HER. HE’S GOING TO END UP LIKE EDDIE. THAT’S HOW I GOT LURED IN. THEY PRETEND TO ONLY WANT FRIENDSHIP AND THE NEXT THING YOU KNOW THEY’VE CONNED THEMSELVES INTO YOUR BED.

YOU CAN TAKE A WOMAN OUT OF VOODOOLAND BUT YOU CAN’T TAKE THE VOODOO OUT OF THE WOMAN.

I agree with numbers 24, 27, 30, 38, 58 in saying that Terrence Howard got some sugar in his tank. I wouldn’t be surprised if he was on the downlow, bisexual or gay. Others I see on that list that fit one of those descriptions are: Kanye West, Usher, P-Diddy, Quincy Jones, Pharell, Jermaine Dupri, the majority of the Wayan brothers, John Legend, American Idol panelist Randy, American Idol contestant Sanjiyah, Clay Aikens…to name a few. Can anyone think of anyone else?

To each their own. I’m just saying you don’t have to lie or be deceitful about it. Everyone asks “why Halle Berry couldn’t keep her men when she’s the most beautiful woman in the world, it must be something she’s not doing right.” Truth be told, Halle Berry’s ex-hubbies are probably on the downlow and that’s why they couldn’t stay committed and faithful to her. That’s usually the way it is. Eric Bennett tried to hide behind a “sexual addiction”. Yeah, he had a sexual addiction alright, but I bet my right pinky nail it wasn’t exclusively to women or Halle would have caught him with at least one or two of them.

There’s a reason why they are called “downlow” men and it’s because they are good at keeping it on the Q.T., the quiet tip which is sooo wrong. Admit who you are and stand by it, that is if you believe who you are or what you are doing is right. Let that woman or individual decide whether or not they want to continue to share their life and valuable time with you once you “come out”. You never know, that person may just decide to stick with you regardless of your sexual persona, need or preference. If it’s the sex you’re after with men, there ARE women out here that are willing to reverse the roll in the bedroom and “do” you. You’d be surprised. If she isn’t agreeable with that, then she isn’t for you. Just be honest is all I’m saying because deceit isn’t going to get you anywhere.

That’s my thought on it and I’m sticking with it! :-}

Thank you number 218 “the man is gay—can’t you see!” And the majority of you all that are saying how “fine and sexy” he is probably wouldn’t have any issue with role reversing. I say this because it’s obvious that Terrence is on the downlow and you females are still lusting after him. See, Terrence–just keep it real because there are plenty of women that are still willing to “do” you.

Case in point—P Diddy’s girl, Kim, Kanye and Usher’s girls. Now those women know just like we know that those guys are closet queens but do you think they care? Hell no! And I’ll spell it out for you M.O.N.E.Y talks S.H.I.T. walks. Those women are willing to put up with these men’s philandering because they are “bought” to say the least. When you come from nothing and all of a sudden someone with a little something-something gives you the time of day, you’d be surprised what you are willing to put up with. Kim has her own home doesn’t have to worry about where her next meal is going to come from, has collateral which is her children by Diddy and get’s hefty child support and an allowance. She’s not going anywhere!

Until women start examining themselves and looking at their selfworth, they will continue to subject themselves to being used as “kept” women.

Number 209 you hit the nail on the head when you said: “Hell you can’t expect for us as women to go out and earn the money, raise the children-that so many of you seem to leave behind when it’s convenient, be mom and dad, help with homework, attend school functions, and pay all the damn bills to easily turn over control to a man-who may or may not be there especially when times get rough, oh and typically that’s when they tend to go MIA-when shit gets rough. Hell to be the head of a household, you have to act like it. For several decades black women have been forced to be. And to clue you in on a little something, something, we as black women would not have a problem with “submitting” to a black man and stop being so controlling -if we could trust that he would properly make decisions that would benefit the entire family as a whole.”

We do it all and don’t get the proper respect that we deserve. Instead we get bashed by our own Black brothers, the SAME brothers that we’ve support throught history yet refuse to give us the time of day and hate on us when we find love with a non-Black man.

That’s my story and I’m sticking with it! :->

Wow…PRIDE, was an excellent movie, Mr. T Howard has definitely grown, my question to him is, is he the light or can he see the light, either one, he is out of the tunnel and is now swimming in the ocean, and have so much more success ahead of him. I most admit that hustle and flow had left a bitterness in my mouth, and seeing him after the movie of hustle and flow he was fighting with himself and was un aware, but seeing him after Pride,his eyes dont lie, I definately see a man, he has grown tremendously and will continue growing, There is so many message is PRIDE, of Love,compassion, Ego, jeliously, discipline, courage and strength, all of which Mr. Howard has possess,It will be a wonderful thing if most men will search within, he has found something that no one can take away, he has found being, “the I am”, some people cannot relate because they know themselves, but only the wise will understand. I think that he is doing the best thing by waiting and growing some more, for then God will give him the woman he truly deserve, and for then he will find the best. To hear a man have so much love and respect for his wife, after what they have been through is respect and any woman that have a problem with him loving the mother of his kids is ignorant and jelious and have issues themselves, who want to be with a man that dont have Love for his past relationships. Love is Love, true loves heales humanity, a nation, the moment he let go of is wife is when he found true love, its not jeliously , pride, ignorance, its acceptance, he found the love that the majority of humanity will never get, because they live in the physical world, Terrance understands the physical world, but his true essence comes from within, and only the wise can see…

One Love..One Heart, from a black woman in LA.

I kinda-sorta met Terrance Howard several years ago in Philly. He was JUST about to blow-up in his career when I saw him. It was at a Friendly’s Restaurant in Philly and he brought with him 3 of the whitest kids I’ve ever seen on a black man. Anyway, his name escaped me for a moment because I was just excited that it was him, cause he’s a wonderful actor. So, I calmed my exitement and politely approached him and said “excuse me, I know you’re probably busy, but aren’t you…” then..he cut me off, rolled his eyes and said “NO!! I’m NOT!” I didn’t even get a chance to finish my dang sentence. Then he was rude and beligerant as HELL to the staff at the Restaurant — only there for 3 minutes and he had an attitude that he wasn’t being served fast enough. I was so surprised with how he acted, I sounded like Flava Flav and said to myself: “Wowwww….” So…I give him props for being a talented and gifted actor…but two thumbs go way down for his asshole nature. By the way, he was already married to this white woman before he blew up. He was on a Philly radio station saying that he was married with 3 kids (hence the comment “the whitest kids I’ve ever saw on a black man….”) –peace

Spremilimone asks-
Why all the hate mail? Most of us are not what we were 10 years ago. I did some pretty ugly things myself. I am ashamed when I look back. Thank God we don’t have to admit to our past behaviour publicly.

I don’t care who he’s dating. He’s not even attractive to me. I’m not in the least attracted to that man. That must of been how Halle and Gabbrielle felt about him. He’s no Denzel Washington. Essence really needs to find more interesting men. I’m really bored of his story. He’s a cheat and I’m not interested in hearing about him anylonger.