He is still an ass thou!

he has a point, black people can jus be so iggnorant sometimes…..if he likes white girls, then so be it….why get all offended by that….i dont get it………..some people preffere spanish………some people peffere white…..who gives a fuck…..my man is white and he treats me right…….thats all that matters when u gota good man doin right by you

true point #2 but the man is still an ass.

Nice bod… LOL.

He is still a cute a$$hole & full of sh$t….

all i have to say is…i was a strong black woman before and i am still a strong black woman now that I am married to a strong black man. that’s his opinion…I am not made but the stereotypes don’t apply to me. yes i was conditioned to be strong and yes i learned it from my mom and grandmother. and he has a point that, sometimes it does take a woman awhile to totally “let go” after she has been independent for so long…i experienced that personallly. it’s not fair for him to say that Oprah is a “bad example” because she “made it” without a man because he doesn’t even know her story obviously. to me, he lucked up and made a point or two but the rest of his statements are outlandish. personally i am not offended though.

I agree with his intentions but, you are always gonna run into people who are upset with your comments when you generalize so much. He should have reworded what he said because those characteristics he talked about does not apply to ALL Black women or ALL White women.

If ya’ll read that whole ALLHIPHOP interview, he talked about how his parents have been married for 40 years, and how most Black women and men grow up in a 1 parent household, blah blah blah… Hey Polow: I’m a black woman, I grew up with both my parents (who have been married over 30 years now), I’m educated and I can honestly say that THE WAY YOU SAID WHAT YOU SAID WAS IGNORANT. You have a point, don’t get me wrong, you just need to work on how you get that point across, because you offended a lot of Black women.

back peddling….back peddling……..damage control……………damage control………

LMAO @ #8, you is SO right!!!!!!!!!!!

we are not mad that he is the king or prince of white girls he can have as many as he wants we’re mad because he stereotyped all black women in to one category which was completely wrong of him to say

I have to leave another comment. He can’t say Women was taught such and such. That is wrong maybe most maybe some but women makes me believe he is speaking about all Black women. I was raised to be strong when it comes to accomplishing my goals. My man will always be my King. He is my protector and provider. I respect my man to the up most. I will never shout out that I am independant. I need my man… and that doesn’t make me less than a woman…….(maybe I jumped of the subject a little something but that is just my thought right now)

@8
I agree. He is now twisting his previous statement around and then trying to blame the responders for “interpreting it wrong”. Whatever, man.

Good post # 6

LOL @ # 8

He stressed that “Black” Women are raised differently.

Well: FYI, the same Black Momma that is raising her Black Daughter,

Is the SAME Black Momma, that’s raising her “BLACK SON!”

So, I guess that the Black SON is raised “Differently TOO.”

If that’s your claim to your 15 minutes of Fame:

Take it, and ride it all the way to the Bank.

But when we start talking about Serious Relationship and Marriages,

all Kids must leave the room.

i.e., their NOT equipped to handle adult conversation.

GROW UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Stop talking & THINKING like a Stupid: MALE PROSTITUTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

F him!!!!!!!

Point is: black women are so adamant about keeping the ‘black’ but so quick to cut men down. The trend isn’t happening with strength now just because…

Jeez, is he still talking?

CL thinks if they post a pic of him showing of his bod, all the females here will forget his previous statement. LOL!

I don’t get it.Black women are not just the only ones on the earth that do that.Maybe people need to get out more.

This is a grown man who has an opinion. As an adult, you need to be respondsible for the things that comes out of your mouth. For the very things that comes out of our mouths, we’re the first ones to hear. I don’t agree with what he said. And that’s cool. I have that option. My only problem is, I feel like he’s justitying his opinion. And for what. He’s a grown man. If he wants to feel the way he feels then he needs to man up and do it and not give a flying flip what anyone has said about his statements. Those are his feelings and his thoughts. No explanation was needed. Period!

I don’t even dig dude’s raps nor his production but I must admit he was on point when he made that statement.The reason we are leaving sistas for white girls is because they know how to treat a nigga.

And these days snow bunnies are coming equipped with phat asses too.

Chea!

Is he serious about Oprah?!?! Somebody don told this fool wrong! A women does not need a man to be successful nor a good role model… If anything she is an even better role model, because she has gotten as far as she has on her own.

I don’t think anyone cares about him prefering white women (at least I don’t) The fact is he doesn’t have to put black women down to pacify his ego. It’s his lost. He will be running back to a black women when his ass wants some greens and cornbread!

Good points #6 I don’t care who he likes as long as he keeps his mouth shut.

#21 you are ignorant… your name says it all

He looks gay. I think he’s gay. That’s my opinion and I have every right to it. He’s gay.

F*&% that he LOOk good.

He needs to shut the hell up.. How can u pick a Role Model on the fact that they have a man? He sounded 4 wayz from stupid when he spoke on Oprah… All that other stuff was just rambling.. And just like some of u Black men are getting “other” women who know how to “treat you right”, black women would rather be alone than deal with some of your dl, lying, cheating ways..

HELL I may as well say it since we are pumping up stereotypes here! Not all black women are like that, just like not all black MEN are like that.. I rest.

He made a few good points but did we really need to hear anything he had to say? The boy did his thing though. He got people who didn’t even know he existed talking about him. lol. Nice job.

And for the record Polow, Men date Women, Boys date Girls. I guess the fact that you “date girls you like” speaks volumes for where you are on that chain.

“n!ggas and b!tches got mad”. How classy.

He claims that him dating white women was a stage he went through, we he still must be going through that stage because every video he is in he is posted up on some white girls. Tired. Just tired.

Why is this gentleman still relevant?

This motherfucker needs to get his ass kicked for real! “Black women need to get their shit together?” Is he serious? Has he taken a look at all the sorry Black men we have to encounter? Especially being from the ATL, he should know better than that! He is a poor example of what a man is, whether he dates Black or White women.

I wish he STFU he is SO damn ignorant please stick to being a producer sir!

I wanna know how he figures that black women are brought up to not trust their men? That isn’t true@ all! I myself was brought up to let man be a man and that’s by taking care of home and doing what it is that a man is suppose BUT because we have SOME men who aren’t about shit WE as black women have to do what we have to do to survive I myself don’t need a man to take care of me because I was brought up in a single household where my mother taught my sisters and I to be independent BUT we never were brought up in a way that we aren’t able to trust men

If you know you are a good guy and you give me no reason to think you are lying and you are being real then I have no reason to think you aren’t being honest what’s a relationship without trust anyway?

it’s kind’ve like he’s saying that Black Women don’t have the right to be strong and independent or something and that’s dumb we’ve faught TOO hard to be where we are and we are STILL fighting why would ANY man want a weak ass women? The best thing about a relationship is that both of the partners are strong and they both carry the weight and know their positions they a team!

Polow u need a tall glass of STFU!!

I could care less if a black man chooses to date white women or any other race outside of their own. I take issue with his statements because here we go again with black women being cut down and told that they’re not good enough. This man has the nerve to criticize Oprah(who could buy his ass 10 times over) and say that she’s not a role model? Then if a little poor black girl from the South who became a billionaire is not someone to admire, then who is? My white male co-worker reads Concrete Loop and he almost fell out of his chair laughing because he wants to find one of these submissive white women that Polow is talking about because he says that he’s not married to one and he wasn’t raised by one either.

Okay this guy just needs to shut up, he’s making matters worse for him.
And why Oprah has to be put in his business, Oprah is a successful black woman who is doing her best to help many people around the world….what does she have to do with his ignorant statements? He’s tryna make a point but it’s not showing…
Polow, go and put something in your mouth and stay in the studio and keep on making music with our of your recycled tracks, you still ignorant

This piece of nigga trash is just a closet UNCLE TOM. If a white woman made him a house slave, he’d gladly do that.

Oh, and he needs to lay the fuck off Oprah. Oprah Winfrey is a wonderful human being, who’s contributed more to society in 10 years than he will in his whole lifetime. Polow Da DUD, you make a billion and then talk. Keep your silicone breasted blonde bimbo Pamela Anderson looking hoes to yourself. Decent women wouldn’t go near you with a 10 ft pole!

NEXT.

#21, you need a slap in the mouth too! You are probably one of the sorry asses I was referring to earlier, I can tell by your name. ANyway, this guy needs extra publicity too, so let him take it as far as he can until his ass falls off. He just got popular, cause the motherfucker been out for like ten years! ANother thing, White women are so eager to please because they don’t have anything else to do! Black women work, go to school, take care of children by themselves, while white women are always the victim and the damsel in distress, so they are bored…

And what does he mean by black women need to get their shit together? He as a black man needs to get his shit together

“Ladies and gentlemen agreed, n****s and b******s got mad.”

Somebody has told Polow wrong…we really don’t give a damn about him dating white girls, I mean do whatever makes you happy. What people didn’t like is the generalization of him stereotyping all Black women period…he is just so damn disrespectful.

Futhermore, his statements full of putdowns, contridictions, not to mention curse words just show how ignorant and brainwashed he truly is. As I have stated before I feel sad for the brother…I don’t know if he has had his heartbroken intensly by a few Black women or what happened during his childhood but those statements are filled with self-hate and resentment.

Polow I hope you get it together…your statements didn’t do anything but show how lost you really are. The worst thing is he doesn’t even know how he played himself…sweetie just stop talking and seek some therapy, its obvious you need it.

Shut the Phuck up already! He’s simply one ignorant muthaphucka!!! The negative comes not from liking white women…it’s comes from his comparison of white women verses black women. Date every white woman in the world, but don’t make a statement about me and fellow black women such as…”White women are raised to respect and serve their men. Black women are taught to question [their men]. Black women look at submission as being weak. White women look at submission as being a woman. And anyone who has a problem with this statement is ignorant. Just look at the divine order: it goes God, man, woman, child.”

…No Muthaphucka, your the IGNORANT one!!!
WTF…When did questioning a man become disrespecting him? Black women are raised to question NO GOOD men…to respect and serve the ones who respect and serve them back. I’m a black woman and I don’t view being submissive to a man as being “weak”. I’m just not open to being submissive to a WEAK man!
One thing’s for sure…black women have always been the strong, independent type…taking care of family, friends, and men. They don’t need you but rather choose to be with you!!!

This idiot keeps on talking. Digging himself in a bigger hole.

I DON’T CONSIDER HIM A REAL BLACK MAN ANYWAY. THE WHITE WOMEN CAN HAVE HIM!! LOL!!

FOR COMMENT #2 STFU…HE SHOULDNT BE DOWN TALKING BLK WOMEN IN THE FIRST PLACE….SOOO U NEED TO FALL BACC…DUMB ASS
BUT ANYWAYZ FUCC DAT NICCA ::::::SELL OUT:::::

WHY CAN’T HE GET THAT IT IS NOT HIS OPINION IT IS THE FACE THAT HE PLACE ALL BLACK WOMEN IN THE SAME CATEGORY!!!!!!! WHAT HAPPEN TO THE WORD “SOME”????? ONCE HE GET THAT PEOPLE WON’T BE MAD AT HIM. DUM DE DUM DUM

I REALLY DON’T CONSIDER HIM A REAL BLACK MAN. SISTA’S AREN’T REALLY FEELIN HIS PATHETIC/LAME ASS ANYWAYS AND HE KNOWS IT!! LOL!!

Oh enough from this Lame already. As far as I’m concerned…the white girls can have him.

N 4 COMMENT # 21 …..SIT YA DUMB ASS DOWN….::::::::SELL OUT:::;:::::…..

YEAH AND 1 MORE THING 2 SAY ….SISTAS DONT WANT HIS FAKE ASS ANYWAYZ…HE COULD HAVE THEM WHT BITCHES/HOES….THEY WILL TAKE HIS LAME ASS

He should just keep it mute because the more he speaks, the more what he says is all over the place, and the more ignorant he sounds. Black women need to get themselves together in the first place? Where does he clarify this comment? And why is he making such a huge generalization? I could careless if he’s the King/Prince of All White Girls…but when he brings black women into the mix just because he’s an idiot, does not help him clear up the stupid ass generalizations he made a few days ago…And OH LORD @ his Oprah comments…Who cares if Oprah doesn’t have a man? If he knew the history of Oprah’s life and situations that occurred when she was younger, he would know why she doesn’t…A woman doesn’t NEED a man to be successful…He’s incompetent as all hell…Please help this man someone

Sad to say the man does have a point. Especially his comments about Oprah…

he fine as hell, i’ll give him that. but he all f*cked up in the head! no sense in trying to back track now mf!

How does Polow think some black women got that way?

Why didn’t AllHipHop.com ask him that?

He is right about Oprah though. But i don’t think (or rather i don’t know ) any black women who look @ Oprah as a model for relationship success.

His initial statements were to get people talking. His follow up comments serve the same purpose. He even sent out a MySpace bulletin for “feedback,” but I doubt that he really cares. I will say he succeeded.

You know I get the point he is making and I am blk, who cares. My boyfriend is white and you should see how much hell I get because of it and people thinking I am selling out my own race.

ALL I CAN SAY IS, HE’S ENTITLED TO HIS OPINIONS, WHETHER THEY ARE IGNORANT, STUPID, OR JUST HIS PREFERENCE. I HOPE HE’S NOT CHANGING HIS WORD B/C OF THE UNEXPECTED BACKLASH HE’S RECEIVING. I HOPE HIS RESPONSE IS REAL B/C HE IS A FINE MUTHAFUCKA AND I HATE TO SEE ONE BUILT LIKE HIM STRICTLY PREFER VANILLA ICECREAM!!!

If black man does not like black women…Negroes like this Always has to come up with some bullshit excuse to WHY….this is the same Buck dancing droopy faced Negro who bragged about the fellatio techniques of white women…

Note: To the Young Quincy Jones: LEAVE BLACK WOMEN THE FUCK ALONE..
Everybody thinks it’s o.k to diss black women for amusement and I see some of you 17th Century Negros are cosigning in this bullshit…this punk is NOT a sociologist he makes some shitty disposable music that NO ONE will this to passed the month it was released…

YES HE IS RIGHT ABOUT ONE THINK BLACK AND WHITE WOMEN ARE NOT ALIKE… HE”S A HISTORY LESSON ON on the topic of Black women are not submissive like white women

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I wish someone would have told us our “role” when we were on the slave plantation doing the same work as our men…..or during Jim Crow when many of us had to work as maids and then come home and be treated like a man getting our heads bashed in. I wish someone had told us when we were getting bitten by dogs during the CRM..I wish someone use would have told us when black women were being lynching and whipped just like black men…I wish someone would have told Harriet Tubman to be “submissive” and it was a man’s job to tell her when she could free her people..

See he have this “thing” about what black women should be doing, but if they are going to be “roles” then he has to meet his. Yes, I find that people who use “traditional” roles interesting because black folks have NEVER had a “traditional” man –woman role ever in this country. The independence of black women was never like white women, we did not need to fight for the right to work, we always worked and for over 300 years without pay. So how are black women going to have traditional roles when we don’t have a “traditional” history? We did not have stay home mamas in MY neighborhood, they ALL worked. So yes explain “traditional roles” and who or what model are you using for these roles? It sounds to me that you have willing adopted the European American model as if African American and White American woman have the SAME Gender history..Which WE DON”T, NEVER HAVE, NEVER WILL…I am so disappointed & embarrassed by some of the black women on this site…SMH

Most of were taught “a close mouth don’t get fed”. Black women don’t want to dominate black men, at the same time we don’t want to be dominated either, I don’t see anything wrong with that……there are NO other group of people who have the potential to demonstrate who it truly means to be even yoked and you set us back…Well know I understand why sexism in the black community goes unchecked….one reason is that some black women don’t even know they are sexist too.

Had to comment again, if you read CLOSELY in the full interview, he actually praises black women by saying that they have the power to change how some men act. For example, he said if women stopped dating drug dealers, then no man would sell drugs. If they were not attracted to material things, then men would not engage in illegal activity to achieve these material things to impress the women. Not ALL black women are guilty of this, but SOME are.

at #21 you dumb as hell. how bout yall leaving sistas for white girls cause sistas aint having your bullshit anymore. i mean, where else you gonna go? and talk about they know how to take care of yall…pa-lease! when you learn how to treat us and come at us like you got some d@mn sense then we’ll glady take care of you! you gotta earn that though son.

SOME Black women do need to get their shit together just like SOME Black men need to get their shit together. If any female on this board believes that all Black women got it going on simply because they’re “sistahs,” they’re sadly mistaken.

After reading the entire interview I’ve concluded that Polow is confused like a lot of Black men. He wants Black women to be the backbone and solve the problems facing th Black family but he doesn’t put any of the responsibility on the man for helping to create the problem in the first place. No accountability. This is so typical of his generation. Always blame someone else for your shortcomings and lash out at those around you for enabling you. But he’s only saying what a lot of Black men are feeling. Brothers want women to be accountable for their screw-ups because they can’t do for themselves. “I can’t get a job, girl. Why you let me sit on this couch all day?” lol. How about everybody just take responsibility for their own actions?

I don’t get that his mother is Black because he never mentions it. He only mentions how she was born in Japan. So that alone tells me that he can’t provide any real perspective of being raised by a Black woman — only a Black man. Secondly, if his father is Black, and his mother is Japanese, that explains a lot about his mentality also. Having lived in Japan I understand that culture all too well. A lot of Black men who prefer a more submissive and subservient woman will go after someone who’s raised traditionally in that culture. This is probably where he gets his ideas from. A Japanese mother raising a Black boy is totally different scenario than a Black woman raising a Black boy. I’m actually suprised that he’s even speaking on the subject of Black women considering that fact alone. I guess he believes the “drop of Black blood” theory allows him room to talk. lol

How can such a handsome man be so ignorant!!!!! LOL

who cares what he prefers. even if he did date strictly black women, he would still be with the ones that looked mixed or very light-skinned and people would still talk. see when someone like Usher marries/dates an ‘average’ looking women, people diss him and her, but then when you get a man like this dude who basically prefers white women we diss him also. the bottom line is that he has to live with that choice, he has to wake up next to her. the only think I don’t like about him are his comments about black women. there are black women out there who are independent and strong, but will be glad to have a man that takes charge and be the head of the household. the problem is that most men want to be head of the household, but not treat the women in their lives with respect. no women should let a dude come in and take over if he is not respecting her and the relationship. and women are usually on the defense because of past experiences, they just don’t want it to happen again and again so they have their guard up. but if you get a man that treats you right and takes care of business, then a women will gladly let him be the head of the household. I have heard so many times from older women that where the man messes up in their relationship is not with the cheating, but when he neglects his priorities at home.

All I can say is that not every brother treats women well. SO, If he wants to date white women, let him. SIstahs don’t need the kind of stress and drama that he’s probably bringing to the table with is need to have the woman he’s dealing with be subserviant to him. I say, do you Palow — and — stay the hellllllll away from me!!

… the problem is that most men want to be head of the household, but not treat the women in their lives with respect. no women should let a dude come in and take over if he is not respecting her and the relationship. and women are usually on the defense because of past experiences, they just don’t want it to happen again and again so they have their guard up. but if you get a man that treats you right and takes care of business, then a women will gladly let him be the head of the household.
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Spit that knowledge girl! True words right there. Read and heed.

why wuld he say that in tha first place?? he shuld’ve known that lil phrase wuld cause sum controversy!!! i mean..u gotta have sum common sense polow!!!

And what has Polow the dumb ass done to help the black community? Not a damned thing!

i think he needs to just shut the fu** up. who cares. he is just putting his foot in his mouth. Just stop talking about your personal life and make music.

I HATE TO SAY IT BUT I AGREE WITH HIM…..I WHITE WOMAN CAN HAVE YOUR SORRY ASS, I DIGRESS, THE OPRAH COMMENT, AGREE, THE STRONG WOMEN RUNNING THE HOUSEHOLD AND HAVING DIFFICULTY RELINQUISHING(sp?) POWER TO THE MAN OF THE HOUSE, AGREE

AND THE LOW BLOW ABOUT QUINCY JONES, AGREE

HE HAS JAIL MUSCLES AND IS REMOTELY ATTRACTIVE AND INTIRELY AN ASS! HOWEVER, HE’S NOT IGNORANT SO I’LL GIVE HIM THAT!

It’s fools like this that remind me over and over again that black men in Hip Hop think so little of us. As a matter a fact they hate us, they attack us and they see us as no better than a piece of trash on the street.

Black woman, please start talking with your pocket books. Stop buying music produced by fools like this and created in an industry that puts white woman on a pedestal and black woman in the gutter. Stop buying your own degradation. Because trust, none of these Negros are thinking about you!

And Polwow, trust an believe a woman who has built her own media empire is much more of an inspiration to me that some chick who’s only accomplishment in life is knowing how to “keep her man”. Did it ever occur to you that she’s single because to many men don’t have the CONFIDENCE to handle a successful woman.

Brother, please go buy some self esteem!!!

STOP trying to use Black Women to make you Famous.

That’s an OLD trick Honey……….

We will NOT, be used BY YOU: Stand on your Own Works!

You can “SELL” this, this all day long:

“WE STILL AIN’T BUYING IT!”

But that’s “HOW” you get the “White Girls:”

Feeding them that line about us!!

>>>>>>>> WHITE GIRLS:

TAKE A LINE FROM “HUSTLE & FLOW”

STOP LETTING ******* PLAY WITH YOU HEAD!

Your NO BETTER: Your “JUST” being used for his purpose!!!!!!!!!

********************** JUST SAY NO ***************

Divide & Conquer: Oldest Trick in The Book!!!!!!!

UPGRADE!

*A WHITE WOMAN CAN HAVE YOUR SORRY ASS

He is quite the ass… Oprah (bad role model)? Oprah is teaching these young ladies to have something of their own, instead of waiting on a man to provide for them. Depending completely on anyone other than God, can leave a chick barefoot and homeless. He obviously hasn’ seen the product society is putting out there black and white. I grew up with my father and he taught me the same things those mothers and grandmothers taught their daughters. We were taught to be strong and independent to hold these families together and stick it out when our men fall short. There is no shame in being strong ang independent, having a companion is just a Bonus. He really needs to get his mind right. That woman that puts all the responsibility in his hands will surely tire hiim out.

I WISH PEOPLE WOULD NOT ATTACK “POLOW THE DON” AND LISTEN TO HIM, IT IS THE ANGST AND FELING OF MANY YOUNG BLACK MISGUIDED MEN IN AMERICA. THEY FEEL THAT WOMEN ARE TOO ASSERTIVE TOO AGRESIVE AND HAVE TOO MUCH “I AM A STRONG BLACK WOMAN” MENTALITY.

YES BLACK WOMEN ARE STRONG AND ASSERTIVE, BUT WHAT HE IS SAYING IS THAT AS STONG AND CONFIDENT WHITE WOMEN ARE: THEY DO NOT ASSERT THEMSELVES CUSS THEIR MAN OUT IN PUBLIC AND HAVE AN “IN YOUR FACE ATTITUDE” LIKE BLACK WOMEN. (SOME SLIGHT GENERALISATIONS, BUT YOU GET MY POINT) SOME BALC WOMEN ARE TOO INDEPENDENT! JUST LOOK AT THE RESPONSES ON THIS BLOG THE VENOM AND THE EMOTIONS RATHER THAN “TOWN HALL” LIKE DISCUSSION.

I ALSO KNOW AND APPRECIATE WHY BLACK WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT BECAUSE THEY HAVE BEEN OBJECTIFIED IN OUR SOCIETY, PULLED DOWN, AND SHITTED ON FOR WAAAAAY TO LONG, BY BOTH BLACK AND WHITE MEN.

ALL BLACK WOMEN HAVE TO DO IS REMEMBER THIS LINE:

“IF YOU DO NOT STAND FOR SOMETHING YOU WILL FALL FOR ANYTHING.”

1)STOP GIVING DEAD BEAT NICCAS CHANCES
2)YOU CATCH HIM IN A LIE, DUMP HIM
3)HOLD YOUR MAN TO HIGHER STANDARDS
4)FUCK BEEN CALLED A GOLDDIGGER, YOU WANT A MAN THAT IS SECURE THEN DO YOU
5)STOP HAVING A CHILDREN EITHER A) OUT OF WEDLOCK (CHANCES ARE HE WON’T STAY AROUND IF HE HAS NOT MADE THE RIGHT COMMITTMENTS) B) HANGING ON T O A NICCA WHO IS NEVER AROUND AT HOLIDAYS AND VACTION PERIODS IS JUST STUPID.
6)LISTEN TO YOUR WOMAN’S INTUITION.

AND FINALLY IF YOU SUSPECT ANYTHING: DOWNLOW, CHEATER, LIAR OR SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT, MOVE ON,

STOP COMPROMISING

MEN ONLY DO TO WOMEN WHAT THEY RE ALLOWED TO GET AWAY WITH.

A MAJORITY OF WOMEN IN THIS POST ANNOT POSSIBLY BE IN FULFILLING COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS AND ARE YOUNG, BECAUSE THIS SHIT WOULD NOT APPLY.

A MAN WHO TREATS HIS WOMAN WELL AND RESPECTFULLY HAS IT MADE

I WISH PEOPLE WOULD NOT ATTACK “POLOW THE DON” AND LISTEN TO HIM, IT IS THE ANGST AND FELING OF MANY YOUNG BLACK MISGUIDED MEN IN AMERICA. THEY FEEL THAT WOMEN ARE TOO ASSERTIVE TOO AGRESIVE AND HAVE TOO MUCH “I AM A STRONG BLACK WOMAN” MENTALITY.

YES BLACK WOMEN ARE STRONG AND ASSERTIVE, BUT WHAT HE IS SAYING IS THAT AS STONG AND CONFIDENT WHITE WOMEN ARE: THEY DO NOT ASSERT THEMSELVES CUSS THEIR MAN OUT IN PUBLIC AND HAVE AN “IN YOUR FACE ATTITUDE” LIKE BLACK WOMEN. (SOME SLIGHT GENERALISATIONS, BUT YOU GET MY POINT) SOME BALC WOMEN ARE TOO INDEPENDENT! JUST LOOK AT THE RESPONSES ON THIS BLOG THE VENOM AND THE EMOTIONS RATHER THAN “TOWN HALL” LIKE DISCUSSION.

I ALSO KNOW AND APPRECIATE WHY BLACK WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT BECAUSE THEY HAVE BEEN OBJECTIFIED IN OUR SOCIETY, PULLED DOWN, AND SHITTED ON FOR WAAAAAY TO LONG, BY BOTH BLACK AND WHITE MEN.

ALL BLACK WOMEN HAVE TO DO IS REMEMBER THIS LINE:

“IF YOU DO NOT STAND FOR SOMETHING YOU WILL FALL FOR ANYTHING.”

1)STOP GIVING DEAD BEAT NICCAS CHANCES
2)YOU CATCH HIM IN A LIE, DUMP HIM
3)HOLD YOUR MAN TO HIGHER STANDARDS
4)FUCK BEEN CALLED A GOLDDIGGER, YOU WANT A MAN THAT IS SECURE THEN DO YOU
5)STOP HAVING A CHILDREN EITHER A) OUT OF WEDLOCK (CHANCES ARE HE WON’T STAY AROUND IF HE HAS NOT MADE THE RIGHT COMMITTMENTS) B) HANGING ON T O A NICCA WHO IS NEVER AROUND AT HOLIDAYS AND VACTION PERIODS IS JUST STUPID.
6)LISTEN TO YOUR WOMAN’S INTUITION.

AND FINALLY IF YOU SUSPECT ANYTHING: DOWNLOW, CHEATER, LIAR OR SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT, MOVE ON,

STOP COMPROMISING

MEN ONLY DO TO WOMEN WHAT THEY RE ALLOWED TO GET AWAY WITH.

A MAJORITY OF WOMEN IN THIS POST ANNOT POSSIBLY BE IN FULFILLING COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS AND ARE YOUNG, BECAUSE THIS SHIT WOULD NOT APPLY.

A MAN WHO TREATS HIS WOMAN WELL AND RESPECTFULLY HAS IT MADE

Bottom line is this unattractive, typical-looking idiot made a blanket statement. A generalization, if you will. Unless he has dated every black woman and every white woman in America and knows their background extensively, he can not make statements like the ones he made. He’s a moron, straight and to the point. Maybe he surrounded himself with submissive white women and ghetto black women; that’s HIS problem. Maybe if he was intelligent himself, he would attract such.

I don’t have a problem with interracial dating, do what makes you happy. But don’t gas up one race and put down the other (ESPECIALLY if you’re BLACK and the race you’re putting on a pedestal is WHITE. Come on now!).

But for him to make statement like that… it’s like if I got robbed by a black man, wouldn’t it be ridiculous and unfair to assume that all black men rob and all white men have great jobs, were raised better and wouldn’t rob me if the moment presented itself?

Yeah, whatever dude.

Thank the Lord I’m married to an intelligent, educated black man!

I agree with #12.

BTW he looks like a dragon.

Sad to say but he has a point in some things… im not agreeing with everything he said.

And to me, it doesnt really matter: black, white, asian, spanish..? I always thought peoples’ personalities count.
He shouldnt make those statements so easily tho, cause some people get really upset. lol… but props 4 expressing his mind.

i mean why belittle a whole race of people in the first place? Everyone is different and he cant sit up here and say ALL black women are like this, because its just not true. I mean for every comment that he make about black women, I can say the exact same thing if not WORSE about black men and go on to explain why I date white men only.

POLOW DEALS WITH WHITE WOMEN BECAUSE HE HAS ISSUES WITH HIS MAMA AND ALSO HE’S WEAK SO HE CANT HANDLE A STRONG WOMAN…..ALSO HE IS A VICTIM OF………THE SLAVE MENTALITY!

who is this loser?

Im a black guy and I think what this POLOW dude has said is total rubbish. to be honest, this guy is very weak and the reason why he goes for white girls (not all but the majority) is because they are EASY, that is why they are submissive. i live in east london and you should say the way white girls chase black boys i mean when they see them they get so excited and start trembling. but black girls are strong and although dey question a lott ndd not easyy..isnt dt a gd fingg…once u kno ure gurl aint easy dt meens u cn trustt here without a doubt cos u kno shell stay loyal to u. but dnt get me wrong i aint dissin white girls, im just layin dwn da facts for da majority of them. on da otha hand der r sum white galss dt hav bin raised rightt..ndd sum white gurlss who hang abwt wid blk gurls so the mentality ov blk urls rubb off one on dem…..dnt get it twisted doee der r summ veriii slutty easy blk gurls aswell. that is PERIOD. I pray to God that this POLOW dude sees sense, whether its a white or black girl, i hope he finds a girl that is STRONG.

AS FOR THE OPRAH COMMENT:

OPRAH IS NOT MARRIED:

BUT HER TARGET DEMOGRAPHIC COMPRISES OF MANY MARIED WOMEN

OPRAH HAS NOT KIDS:

BUT SHE HAS A LOT OF SHOWS ABOUT THE PROTECTION OF KIDS AND HER ACADEMY IS GREAT, BUT SHE DOESN’T HAVE THAT TRUE “MATERNAL” NATURE.

OPRAH IS INDEED AN OXYMORON IN AMERICA AND HAS EMPOWERED WOMEN WAAAAAY BEYOND A HAPPY MEDIUM. SHE HAS A “FUCK MEN I CAN DO IT ALL BY MYSELF” MENTALITY AND THAT IS NOT A NICE ENVIORNMENT FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP TO FLOURISH,

MANY PEOPLE THINK STEDMAN IS EITHER GAY OR LIVING OF HER EARNINGS EVEN THOUGH HE IS A SUCCESSFUL BLACK MAN IN IS OWN RIGHT……

HOW SHOLD HE FEEL AS A MAN, THAT IS NOT RIGHT, HE IS THE HEAD OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP POINT BLANK, I BET OPRAH HOLDS HIM TO SOME HIGH STANDARDS WHILE A LOT OF PEOPLE JUST “FOLLOW” HER.

DON’T FOLLOW OPRAH’S EXAMPLE WOMEN, YEAH SHE IS BLACK RICH AND SUCCESSFUL, BUT YOU CAN BE TOO JUST BY FOLLOWING THE BIBLE AND READING TD JAKES!

He sorta has a point. It was his execution & delivery that made him out to be an ass. Don’t get me wrong, he’s STILL an ass…just an ass with a somewhat valid point.

All that body & good looks…wasted on an idiot.

His statements in this interview are just as ignorant, if not even more. He says that black women are brought up not to trust their men. I DISAGREE because if you look at it, alot of black women are raising their children as single moms and dad is not around. The distrust most likely comes from a kid being raised and dad was never around, not because the black woman needs to “get it together”. What about the absentee father? He needs to stop pointing the blame on black woman, it just shows how lost he really is.

He says the Oprah is a bad example because she’s the most powerful black woman in the world and has no man. And that reason alone makes her a bad role model. Well, mr. Polow, if you think thats whats makes you a great role model–having a man by your side–instead of the millions of people she’s helped and lives she’s touched, all her philantrophy not to mention all the obstacles shes over come, then YOUR not the proper role model–not Oprah!

We as black women arent raised to question our black men. We are BORN strong. It comes from our ancestors, being Queens in Africa, then stripped of our royalty and brought over to pick cotton and get whipped, belittled and raped–and still hold it down for the family. We have the blood and preserverance of Sojourner Truth, Harriet Tubman, Rosa Parks and Coretta Scott King running thru our veins. So submissive is the last thing you need to be worrying about.

My opinion here, but I think he just doesn’t want to deal with the black woman’s strength. He wants to deal with a race which he thinks will just succumb to him and his every need then dont question him when he wants to dip into another chick. The white women he has dealt with had to have been like that..and thats just probally because he’s in the music industry–or a luke warm celeb or whatever. But Polow, sorry to have to tell you, but strong women come in every color. Youve probally just been messing with the white “suburb girl” who likes to fuck black men, but never in a million years will bring your ass home to daddy.

Like i said before, polow, go sit your dumb ass down somewhere.

Do they make toilets big enough to flush ass wipes this size?

He is an asshole!
but i’d still do him. lol

and that’s nothing new
about oprah.
she’s hypocrisy at its finest.

@Ms. Mallato and Ms Mac…are you having deja vu like me?

I like the New Picture!
Luggage: Get the Hell OUT!

Although, the newness is that I do get the Traditional Japan family culture that wasn’t part of the other post. Doesn’t mean that he isn’t a tactless idiot/igorant just that I see his words from a different view point.

@ noeatingheretonight, the loop is nothing but Dejavu!! lol

So what was the point of changing the pic CL? Did you think it was distracting otherwise intelligent young women (and some gay men?) lol

OPRAH IS NOT A ROLE MODEL?

THIS BITCH IS ON CRACK-

I GUESS THE GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENT FOR BLACK WOMEN IS TO LAND A DAMN MAN????????

GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nobody should be saying that they have a problem with him dating white women. The issue is slamming black woman. Maybe PowLow should study some real history and find out why Black woman have to be so strong. That goes all the way back to slavery not just my grandmother and her mother. And it’s also the reason why so many black men can only make it in life shuckin’ and jivin’ for the white man (ie this idiot). Ladies, I love my Black brothers but maybe black women should look to other races because unfortunately, most black men are like PowLow; still stuck in that slave mentality of destroying any kind of black pride that we have left. Let PowLow do his thing. Trust me, if you met him in the street you would throw him back.

I read the whole article — his initial comments posted earlier this week. All in all, he is speaking truth.

I see little room for argument, especially if you pay attention to the ‘context’ rather than ’specific’ names or words..

I read the full interview and now I am just lost!! Am I missing something? Aren’t we all adults? Shouldn’t you know how to handle your own responsiblities? Spshh.. I don’t care he just pissed me off when he talked about my girl Oprah (who is one of the FEW positive black women role models we have besides the Williams sisters). Everyone else is shaking there @$$ on television and writing books about sleeping with celebrities. lol

@Ms Mac–lmao…that’s a good request.

I’m glad I never found him attractive. My question is why is it ok for us to raise our sons to be strong men,but we cant raise our daughters to be just as strong. Women like men,have to work just as hard in the world to be taken seriously. We not just good to look at and baby makers.

whoops..I meant question–not request. dang. I was thinking question too don’t know how request got typed instead.

Polow tha Don is disgusting..there is no other way to say it! I do not care if his mother was on welfare and used the money to buy her boyfriend clothes instead of him, HE has a MOTHER, Aunts, his trifling a$$ may have a daughter(whether she is mixed is the question). When that slave master wrote that letter to his colleagues about how to keep slaves in their place, his words are still being heard today. Prime example Polow the Don. I wish he could be transported to the time when Black was Beautiful, Afro’s rained free and the Black Panther party was full and strong. They would kick his A$$, SINCERELY KICK HIS A$$. Every time someone saw him they would kick his ass, until he truly understood the ramifications of his words. If you do not have anything good to say, do not say anything at ALL!

What happen to our community? It hurts and it is disgusting. When MTV banned Janet Jackson, we as the Black community should have Banned them, they did not even play our music for a long time. BET is no longer BET, more like VIACOM( none of them are black) …What happened. I know we have issues but the reality is if your momma is Black, you are too..so respect her! The future of a community can be seen in how they treat their woman!

From this point on POLOW will be called Uncle A$$, I WILL NOT SUPPORT ANY PROJECT HE IS ON, and I will urge my network to do the same..and it is very large.! I urge you Black America to respect other cultures for their beauty and uniqueness, but remember to value your own! Remember and NEVER FORGET KATRINA, NEVER FORGET because THAT IS WHAT AMERICA THINKS OF YOU! YOU set the trends, You are the epitome of COOL and this is why you get the negative looks from others. DO NOT ASSIMILATE, be AFRICAN AMERICAN and continue to be you…BE PROUD, but Humble. I had students who choose to not support an album, and you know what happened the album flopped.

Unc A. will rule the day he made those statements, when he is front of the White judge, pleading his case…what will he say to him when he ask “So you are the KING of the White GIRLS.” This guy has a seriously problem with himself to generalize Black women..and he is NOT A MAN, NOT A N*(^&^ but a SLAVE! So let him continue to be good to his MASTER and when HE IS KATRINA”D, we must turn our heads and let hime realize what he has done. Support each other Black women, because no one else will..WE ARE ALL WE HAVE LEFT….GOD/ALLAH/ BUDDA CAN SEE YOU THROUGH… Find you and continue to evolve into your BEAUTY. Clearly WE ARE THE S^$# because if we were not everyone would not mimic our existence.

@ 81 I concur

All i have to say is that he has a point to how the structure of the Black family has been broken up and yes we as black women have had to be strong and endure the burden of the household while our men are in jail, dead, or running the street. But to generalize all black women as such is wrong. If our instinct is not to trust a black man then be real and up front and maybe you can earn that just.

Who cares who he dates or beds. Real recognizes real in all instances and when he meets a real woman, no matter the color, he’ll enjoy that foot in his mouth.

Please… this is nothing new…im sure there’s plenty of guys who feel like Polow just dont have the balls to say it…true thats his opinion and he’s entitled to say whateva he wants but if a dude feel that he wants to be with a women just cuz she lets you run shit…that makes u a pussy….if ur afraid of a strong women…ur pussy…point blank period…he and any man who thinks that way is ignorant…cuz when something happens to their asses and they can no longer run shit like they’re use too whose gonna hold them down and take care of things???? not ms. snow bunny….and #72 u are accurate in what you say however i am in a committed 5 yr relationship…and im young…and one of the many reasons why my man is with me is for the simple fact that im a strong successful young woman who can handle shit in my man’s absence….

@ noeatingheretonight.. It does feel like Deja vu…. LOL
I better be becareful…..:O)~

@noeatingheretonight & Dimples Delight …. Good Morning

Also, given his lack of tact and ability to articulate himself, I believe his comments on Oprah are easily taken out of context.

Clearly, Oprah is a tremendous role model. However, Oprah is NOT the ‘ideal’ role model for how a modern women (Black, White, et al) should be positioned from the standpoint of family and relationships.

Dude really isn’t skilled in the art of discourse.

GOOD MORNING MALLATO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GOOD MORNING NOEATINGHERETONIGHT!!!!!!!!!!! HOW YA’LL DOING THIS MORNING???

Why does anyone care what this idiot said, let him have vanilla, be an OJ or Kobe, then sit in a jury and ask Black women to save your sorry a$$. Polow who, you are even so ignorant as to try and make your pen name sound Italian–what is black about that, I am tired of hankerchief wearing house negros spending time denegrating themselves. Can someone pull the plug, the one has spoken.

And yes my parent have a marriage of 35 years, I plan to marry a AFRICAN man, mind body and spirit and raise BLACK MINDED children, so POLOW go get yours b/c I am getting MINE.

AND DUMB ASS OPRAH HAS A MAN who is secure enough being a MAN that he doesnt have to try and check her like you check those snow bunnies.

@Dimples Delight…. trying not to get started…. I am glad someone else started the debate today…LOL

Just wondering… does he speak correct English? From the ignorant statements he’s made, i would bet that he is an illiterate, ebonics speaking negro that was rejected by black girls and black teenage young women while he was growing up.( Never having a childhood girlfriend) Now he harbors a resentment for black women because they never wanted him in his past and has turned to white women only to be blinded by the fact that MAYBE most of those white women are only USING HIM FOR HIS MONEY!…. so back to my question… is he illiterate?

Oprah is not a good “role model” when it comes to the Family Arrangement…

@Mallato…LOL!!! Right!!!

It all breaks down to yes this is a celebrity blog and such but common sense is commen sense and it ain’t alway about fashion and stuff. Sometimes you actually have a conversation and people voices real opinions instead “he still cute” or whatever.

If you want to know why black women & white women ain’t the same READ….

AIN’T I A WOMAN?

by Sojourner Truth

Delivered 1851 at the Women’s Convention in Akron, Ohio

Well, children, where there is so much racket there must be something out of kilter. I think that ‘twixt the negroes of the South and the women at the North, all talking about rights, the white men will be in a fix pretty soon. But what’s all this here talking about?
That man over there says that women need to be helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches, and to have the best place everywhere. Nobody ever helps me into carriages, or over mud-puddles, or gives me any best place! And ain’t I a woman? Look at me! Look at my arm! I have ploughed and planted, and gathered into barns, and no man could head me! And ain’t I a woman? I could work as much and eat as much as a man - when I could get it - and bear the lash as well! And ain’t I a woman? I have borne thirteen children, and seen most all sold off to slavery, and when I cried out with my mother’s grief, none but Jesus heard me! And ain’t I a woman?

Then they talk about this thing in the head; what’s this they call it? [member of audience whispers, "intellect"] That’s it, honey. What’s that got to do with women’s rights or negroes’ rights? If my cup won’t hold but a pint, and yours holds a quart, wouldn’t you be mean not to let me have my little half measure full?

Then that little man in black there, he says women can’t have as much rights as men, ’cause Christ wasn’t a woman! Where did your Christ come from? Where did your Christ come from? From God and a woman! Man had nothing to do with Him.

If the first woman God ever made was strong enough to turn the world upside down all alone, these women together ought to be able to turn it back , and get it right side up again! And now they is asking to do it, the men better let them.

Obliged to you for hearing me, and now old Sojourner ain’t got nothing more to say.

He’s so ignorant, I can’t even get it all out. HAVE ALL THE WHITE WOMEN YOU WANT….PLEASE!

@Mallato…hahaha. I know. I’ve going to stay out of this one just getting into the mix to say hi to you and Ms Mac. Good Morning to you, I hope you have a smooth day and don’t have to deal with any craziness at work.

See, I’m never ever going to post a picture up on here of myself, too many people on from work which means that they could be working for the same company as me. Don’t want them to know how often I’m on this site…hahaha.

whatever. next

Honestly, I am more upset that he has generalized African-American women making us look bad and glorifying the caucasian women. Okay, if he wants to date women of another race, that’s cool, but don’t make one race look bad and the other look bad. That is truly sad. He may be handsome and have a body to die for, but he’s still very ignorant and should have chose his words more correctly.

@Dimples Delight … some people forget that we all have opinions….. And we can’t force them on others…

I’m sure that Oprah feels the same way about YOU:

Powlow or Whatver your name is.

She don’t want yo Broke Ass!!!!

Oh, I’m sorry:

She don’t know yo Broke Ass either!!!!!1

Why is it that YOU know Oprah, but she don’t know YOU????

You just keep Proving OUR Point:

Stop trying to Hustle Up!!

Oprah ain’t gone let you Pimp her Either!!!!

Hi Dimples..girl you should just point people to the other post..hahaha. I think we had a lot of fun and interesting conversations there. And although you and Mallato took it a different way, we all still agreed on the meat of the subject.

@108
You have really touched on something with that comment you made because most people that date outside their race do it because of personal issues that they have within themselves. Some black woman out there probably told him what she really thinks about him, his personally and his intellect and he couldn’t deal with it. Probably called her out her name and turned the corner and there was some ditzy yt broad there to make him feel strong (yt women don’t get offended i’m not generalizing).

This man truly truly is what i would describe as an ignorant, pompous a**! His comments about black and white women were offensive to both! On one hand black women are sitting there thinking, since when were we “raised” to be challenging and white women sitting there thinking “subservient”? In all honesty i feel that he is threatened by the 21st century woman who is independant and does for her own, that is what i call true sexiness, holind her own gorund in her own playing field, governing her life by her own rules! This is not the nineteen hundreds where womens roles wre to be subservient! He needs to take his head out of the dark ages! I believe if he had simply said that he prefered white women over black women as his personal preference, some people would still have thought that he may be turning his back on his own, but generally people would have agreed that, ‘ok, its what he prefers’, he just began to dig himself into his own grave and theres no coming back from this one! He better just watch out before people start to boycott his music and leave him out and dry! I wouldnt be surprised if there was more to this story… women beaters are usually threatened by powerful women as well!

@noeatingheretonight… It’s always crazy at work …Most of the time i just read but some topics I post a comment or two… I was not expecting what happened the other day man…. I did not know there was so many people against Religion..LOL

I am not going to put a pic of me up either…. but i do have one on classmates. I likewise don’t need people to know how often I am on this site either…. LOL
It’s entertaining though. Sometimes out of hand….

@noeatingheretonight… It’s always crazy at work …Most of the time I just read but some topics I post a comment or two… I was not expecting what took place the other day man…. I did not know there was so many people against Religion..LOL

I am not going to put a pic of me up either…. but I do have one on classmates. I likewise don’t need people to know how often I am on this site either…. LOL
It’s entertaining though. Sometimes out of hand….

what a pussy first you say one thang then you change up da story…….. thats the power of a black woman mofo next time you decide to put us down think first ….. bitch ass nigga = polhoe lololol

Dimples, since you aren’t generalizing I’m not going to jump on you about #119.:-)

I will say that you don’t need to have personal issues to date outside of your race, I’m married outside of my race and I’ve got no issues with myself- I’ve never seen race is a barrier for me. As long as he meant my basics; smart, driven, doesn’t walk funny, that kind of stuff.

@111 My FIST IS IN THE AIR, I FEEL YOU.

That negro-polow- needs to read. He is indicative of most people his age who share the benefits of the struggles before him but CLEARLY lacks the knowledge and respect for all those BLACK WOMEN and MEN who got him where he is.

I would love 1 hour with him so we can visit the black wax musuem in Baltimore MD. So we can go through the musuem especially the basement where they have the lynching room, I would like him to see what Black people went through so he can openly date snow bunnies and disrespect black women.

Where is his mother, I hope she read that article then whooped his A$$.

I guess his asshole has an opinion too.

Please don’t ask him any more complicated questions - all that backtracking I could not keep up.

@Dimples Delight not sure I agree 100% with that statement but you are still my girl!!!

Yall should read the entire interview. This is an entertainment site and of course they’re gonna point out the negative parts and edit out the parts that make sense. Dude does have a point, and if you read the whole interview you’ll see that he’s not generalizing the entire population of black women as many of you have stated.

As a black women, I don’t want any man who doesn’t want or respect me. My strength is not a weakness…it’s who we are. Deal with it, live with it, love it and embrace it.

Otherwise,…keep it moving. For every one who doesn’ t want a sister, there is another brother who does.If you like it, I love it.

@noeatingheretonight

I’m not saying that some of us can’t date outside or race because we have found someone and wanted to be with that person (remember in my last post i said that i’ve dated white men) what i said was for a man to have a loathing of his race, paricularly black women, and to try to exclude that race when dating; 9 times out of 10 he has some personal issue occure within his life to denounce his race. Something like if a girl grows up and sees her mother being beating time and time again by a black man; she might choose to date other races out of fear of what she saw while growing up.

You are the ONLY 1,

who saw shit the rest of us didn’t see!

Maybe you should RE-Read It,

this time:

with Your “EYES OPEN”

Are you BLIND?

I’m sorry, but these men cannot have their cake and eat it, too. WTF does “submissive” mean to men? For too many men, it means that they want a woman who will let them hang in the streets with their boys and sleep around while the woman stays her ass at home cooking and cleaning, and when he comes home there are no questions. Women have to work to help pay bills, and men STILL expect us to come home and play the housewife role, while they chill after work.

A ***REAL*** man does not have to tell his woman what to do to feel like a man. Black men’s egos are just too fragile. They don’t feel respected by white people, and they come home and take that shit out on their women. I don’t think most black women have a problem taking care of a good man who takes care of them, *BUT* it is a two-way street. No grown person wants a man treating them like they are one of their kids, and too many men mistake being “head-of-household” for acting like someone’s daddy. Telling you when you can go and when you can’t. Where you can go and where you can’t. I’m sorry, but that’s some slavery-type B.S.

I can’t respect that.

@Mallato

I can appreciate that….; -)

How are we suppose to grow as a race when we have men who are pulling us down and uplifting other races. Instead of down grading black women he should have encourage black men and women to do something positive to help the our race to grow. Instead he puts us down and informs us that white people are better. I think he wants to be white, He makes it seem as if hes so great, but the way he spoke during that interview made him sound dumb as hell. Black women wouldn’t want him anyway he is just to weak to handle a strong black woman.

Who is Palow the Don?

I am a black women. My strength is not my weakness. I do not not want or desire any man who is intimidated by my strength or ability to take care of myself. My sole purpose is not to take care of you…..I’m not sitting around waiting on someone to decide I am worthy….I am married to a wonderful, successful black man who admires my strength.. And WE take care of each other.

Sistas, don’t change who you are to get a man who isn’t intelligent or strong enough to embrace who you are…As for dating the white women or being the King of White girls….If you like it, I love it.

My life continues to move one and prosper without you.

he’s a grown ass man with cornrows. his opinions don’t mean shit.

Mad…lol dude nobody got mad…no one needs to give someone as ignorent that much energy. Well at least I didnt, I was just upset at the fact that he compared white and black women, when he could of have just left it alone by sayin that he just prefers to date white women, but also love all women. And left his ignorent criticism to himself, somethings dont necessary have to be said. And what he needs to understand is, there is no comparision, And what I mean by that is this, women are women. Black or white, that matter of the fact is any and everyone are raised differently…I know he hard of the classic sayin “Dont judge a book by its cover.” Or maybe he hasn’t, the way he talks wisdom doesnt seem to be apart of his intellect. -Real talk.

LMAO@Oprah doesn’t have a man…he’s so damn stupid.

I just lost 2 minutes of my life reading this bullshyt…

He’s 100 % right, i’ve been sayin this, you black women need to realize why brothers are leaving u . once in a while just shut the fuck, and to ur woman duties

@Mallato- I think it’s extremist thinking that deters people, they don’t realize that religion no matter what kind is about Hope and Love NOT Vengence, not that God can’t be vengeful but you pray for God to guide you and bless you not for God to hurt for you. I’ve never had a problem with people who aren’t Christian because I believe that there’s only 1 heaven and 1 God, just because you may call him something else doesn’t mean he’s not my God. Best line from the Bible brought to light by some very smart people is that “God is no respecter of persons but of faith”

Let me stop before I get called out for being off topic.

#118 I see some people have passed on what you said but I just cant let that go lol. You may be speaking from YOUR own experience but in my world, people date outside there race because they dont see another race as being inferior or any better than their own. I dont think Im better than a white person or an asian or a hispanic person or whatever, nor am I inferior to them. My girlfriend is black and asian and if she was just asian she would still be my girl because we have love, chemistry, and a respect for one another. This is what makes a relationship, not a match of skin color.

Speak on it, truth. I have been married ELEVEN YEARS to a wonderful brotha who treats me like a QUEEN. I respect him and he respects me. He DOES NOT tell me when, where and how to do what I do, but if something might negatively affect him I do discuss it with him out of RESPECT, and he does the same for me. Marriage is a partnership. When one person is trying to dictate to the other, the person on the bottom is problem unhappy. But a man who is so concerned about making sure he is dominant doesn’t give a damn about how happy the woman is. He is only concerned about his own ego.

That was aimed at #119 my bad

Oprah is a good role model…whether she has children or is married or not…so the fact that she has done so much for black ppl and all women isnt taken into consideration b/c she’s not married or w/ kids…do u know Oprah had a rough childhood and when she was 14 she got pregnant and lost the baby??? Maybe after that whole ordeal she doesent want kids or cant have any…and she has a man whom she’s been w/ for over 25yrs and has been stated to say she doesnt believe u need to be married to have a successful committed relationship…from what im gathering some ppl sound like they believe as a woman its right for u to be married w/ kids and if your not then somethings wrong

If he is this ignorant I am happy that he is not canoodling with the black woman.

OOOH… I hate to be typical “mad black woman”, but a white girl can have him because who needs that ignorant @$$ n!gga tryna father my babies!
Real talk… Oprah is a bad role model because she didn’t wait on an intelligent & educated brother such as yourself to marry her?!
B!tch, please. Your views are at least 60 years old.. funny thing is, this ignorant manchild would have been cained for dating a white girl 60 years ago. Times change, and that change has been slow but good for African Americans. Get an education, or in front of the school bus at least, and stop trying to hold us back.

Dimples- I see what you mean like some people go after father figures because they’ve never had a father.

Tavon it’s all good. Since your girl is part Asian you are forgiven..hahaha. (everyone else, that was just being funny, don’t be jumping on me.)

Honestly, he should’ve left his first comments alone because these comments are worse, IMHO.

first of all i would like to say freedom of speech is guaranteed by the constitution, hopefully we all know that and secondly polow has the right to expression his opinions about whoever he wants and how he wants, now you can either be offended and let the venom out like most of you here do or actually make a logical analysis od the situation
when it comes to dating, or problematic societal issues affecting the black community i think at some point we all have responsibility in it, are we forgetting that as humans we have preferences? i know too many women who wouldnt date a short man..if the short man takes offend what will be your response? polow has a preference and you either take it or leave it
i dont know his history with black women, but i think he just expressed his opinions in a sincere way and in this world of hypocrisy, i`m afraid we dont have too mnay people like him, black women they got it going..well ! why the venom? if you`re not concerned why taking offense?if you`re in fufilled relationship why taking offense? or do you got it going just because you`re a black woman? smh..

REALLY HE IS THE WORST…YES BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN RAISED TO BE INDEPENDENT AND BE STRONG AND IF YOUR INTIMIDATED BY THAT THEN YO ARE THE PROBLEM AND NEED TO STEP YOUR GAME UP AS A STRONG BLACK MAN…WE AS A PEOPLE DON’T HAVE TIME TO BE WEAK AND TIMID LIKE WOMEN IN OTHER RACES. WE ALWAYS HAVE TO BE ON OUR GRINDS FROM THE BUMS ON THE CORNER TRYING TO GET UP EARLY TO GET THE CANS TO GET A REFUND TO THE CORP. EXEC. IF YOU AS A BLACK MAN ARE AFRAID OF A STRONG BLACK WOMAN THEN YOU NEED TO BE WITH SOMEONE OF NON-BLACK RACE BECAUSE WE DON’T NEED THE EXTRA BAGGAGE SLOWING US DOWN WHEN WE OUT HERE TRYING TO PROVIDE FOR OUR FAMILIES WHEN SO MANY OF YOU BLACK MEN HAVE PACKED YOU BAGS AND LEFT YOUR FAMILIES INSTEAD OF WORKING THINGS OUT AND STEPPING UP TO THE PLATE TO BE THE MAN THAT IS NEEDED TO PROVIDE FOR YOUR FAMILY…MOMMA ALWAYS SAID IF YOU NEVER OPEN YOUR MOUTH NO ONE WILL EVER KNOW HOW IGNORANT YOU ARE.

@noeatingheretonight… I have never had a problem with people who are not Christians. If you notice I did not attack anyone personally… Jesus talked to everyone…. Okay let us quit before we are told to stay on the topic… Have the most wonderful day!!!!!

As adults we are indeed intitled to our own opinions. I guess he feels the way he does b/c of his experiences just like we do as black woman. To all the ladies I know how hard it is out there dealing with these boys that expect to be respected and treated like a man. The truth of the matter is as black people in general I feel like we are taught from birth to be strong and make a way when there is no way……A lot of us are very opinionated b/c of this factor. We are very independent and anything or person we see as a threat we tend to attack. This is why there is so much discrimination withthin our own race whether it is b/c of gender or shades of skin. Anyway I think someone earlier commented and said that if this does not apply to you then dont get mad. Some of it does apply to me b/c I am very strong and independent and so is my Husband. So in areas we do clash but, I feel that the thing that holds us together is that we understand that we are struggling for the same thing. An opportunity in this world due to the fact that we are a minority and a better life for our child than the one that we had; and most of all we have geniune love.
Overall comments like Polows does not uplift us b/c he does not mention any solution just the issue at hand. It seems as though he has alot of hate in him towards black women for whatever reason. The part that I honestly found offensive was not all the negative things he said about black woman but, when he offended Oprah. If anything she is the epitome of a black role model. I wonder if he would have said that if she was a black man. In conclusion that’s all. Peace.

Black Women are too ghetto and loud,lol shaqueena ,Boonisha wtf kinda name is that,son.there’s nothing like good black pussy though, but beside that ican live without the head bobbing, finger waving, weave smelling.and loud talking. white women don’t carry all that bullshit garbage.

Palow Da Don just upgraded his ignorance . . and again, I thank each and every black woman who has not and will not date him . . .as he has said “he’s into “girls” anyway. . .he looks like he needs a hot shower and a shave!

@Mallato..and that’s why even though I don’t know you personally, I respect you and your opinions. You’ve never attacked people or try to make them feel like they don’t know as much as you. Words are powerful, you really don’t have much more than your words.

Just because he read the Willie Lynch letter doesn’t make him educated. Calling himself the King of White Girls, IF he was educated, IF he knew his HISTORY why is the hell would you label yourself as this? His comments about white women were offensive and his comments about black women were offensive. Now he tries to clean it up with a lot of words that equals a lot of bull. The only thing that makes sense is when he says black women have power. He doesn’t really talk about the accountability of the black man. I think that he and some black men take this view that they are strong and educated and they justify this into why they conquer white women. Does he really love the skin that he is in?

He has a right to feel how he does.. and others have a right to feel the way they do. I feel its never a bad thing when somebody speaks on their ‘preferences’. I’m glad he was honest.. I wish more people were. I don’t want any man who doesn’t want me or any other black woman. Go head Boo boo.. Weak minded men.. who need tons of ego stroking were never my thing. I don’t see him as being a loss at all. Poof pow be gone weak negro!!

And umm Oprah has a man.. she choose not to marry him but that have been together for over 17 years.. how is that a bad thing????

lmao @ NOEATINGHERETONIGHT and PHILLYDON

a white woman can have his teenage mutant ninja turtle looking ass. let that bitch walk two steps behind him. he’s just weak and cannot handle a black woman. i’m not mad at all. i date white men and they are not moved by my strength at all. as a matter of fact they admire it. to each it’s own.

@Phillydon140

To tell you the truth some of us black women DON’T CARE if were “loosing”
black men because alot of them aren’t worth keeping. I’m married myself, so I’m straight, but what most women here are repeatedly saying is that we DON’T LIKE people telling us what the F*** we should do and how we should act when they aren’t living OUR lives.

If someone was to say: “You know what? That white man over there really has himself together-he’s got a good job, responsible etc…BUT, I guess Phiilydon was RAISED different. He really needs to get himself together.”

You would take it just like the BW here are taking this idiot’s comment-as a personal attack-and rightfully so.

I can’t help but laugh at his ass. Apart of me wants his ass to be joking or wants his excuse to be that he’s mentally disabled. I can’t see how a “smart” talented brother could be so stupid. No matter how he tries to clean it up, it’s desrespectful, bias and racist. He’s still making it seem as if white women are better. He knows what he’s doing because if he really didn’t feel anything was wrong with his statement, he wouldn’t have addressed it AGAIN and AGAIN. Leave it alone Polow So Bum. He’s so cocky. I was reading another interview about him addressing the same thing and he was like “i was popular in high school…all the white girls loved me” I’m like this dude has some issues. Then he went on to say he was so fine that he was picked for a video. The “Shorty Swing My Way” video. Remember he had the curl in his head? lmao…yea..u were so “fine” with your straignt from D Block body! In the fine words of Riley from “The Boondocks”…”whatever nigga” He makes me sick to my stomach. I really think the negative heat he’s getting is really gonna mess up his career and it should. He’s a lame with repetitive beats….NEXT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@phillydon

I just want to say that you could respond to the situation with a little more respect. I am from Philly to son….and on the real you are not reppin our state actin ignorant…you give us a bad name for real. I grew up from the same place as you and my brother is married to a beautiful black woman. Obviously you date a lot of ghetto chicken heads. You are in Philly and there are alot of sophisticated sisters there. You should up your game….

@144

I feel you and respect your words. Like I said before, I have dated outside my race because there has been something in that person that appealed to me. I am married now to a black man, but if i was ever dating the same rules apply. My only issue with dating outside a race is the intentional exclusion of your own race. I have read his entire article and it’s all over the place. To me, he makes it sound like black women have these issues, it’s our fault, men don’t know how to be men, but yet in still he puts us on the shelf and plays with a new toy.

Okay so he says he’s shining the light on the problems within the black family, namely black women…so the lights been shined…what he gone do about the situation….nothing…

I think that a lot of these Black Men need to remember that they were raised by Black Women:

because: their daddys were off doing what their doing

Whoring Around!

Then “Black Men” are the first ones to say:

WHY are you mad?

Do you have a Brain?

Oh forgot:

Some of you, ONLY KNOW, how to use your:

LITTLE Head, not the big one…………….

We have the right to defend ourselves against “UNWARRANTED CRITICISM” #150

Forgot Again:

Some of you want to Tell us, we don’t have the right to do that too..

Get REAL!

He still sounds very stupid…in fact…I’m pretty sure he is stupid. How can anyone be so ignorant? He should just keep his mouth shut.

1) Nobody is mad b/c he may or may not like white girls. Shit…as far as I’m concerned; take him, your doing all black women a favor. He has a problem with black women b/c he can’t handle them.

2) Oprah?…please she could shit on him…he shouldn’t even let her name pass out his mouth. Oprah doesn’t tolerate shit, that’s why she doesn’t have a man.

3) What the hell is wrong with being “strong”? He must be controlling.

Nobody cares if he loves white women or not it’s a problem with him calling people ignorant for not having the same views as him & generalizing all black women.

@noeatingheretonight.. Thank you I appreciate that very much. I definitely try to live by the golen rule “Treat Others The Way You Want To Be Treated”

Yes the tongue is a powerful little member… It can tear you down or build you up!!!

@Tavon–don’t put me together with Phillydon..that was just an ignorant comment that he must have made to get attention.

@Phillydon. . if you think that there isn’t a bad apple in every bunch then you are sadly in denial . .and if you think every white woman is a princess then you definitely need to see a doctor for your delusion . . .I am sure you’ve heard of trailer park trash (white women) who do the head poppin, finger snapping and sleeping who sleeps with her father, uncle and brothers and then reproduce.

If you are finding that the women you’re entertaining don’t meet your standards, then perhaps you’re shopping in the wrong place. . there is a world of black women in corporate america that are educated and holding there own . . woops wait they wouldn’t be interested in you, they’d be dating a “White Man” that has a career, not just a JOB.

In other news: Today on “The definition of Irony:

IDIOTS who say, “anyone who doesn’t agree with me is an IDIOT”

Polow is the one that’s misguided. I have been following this story since Monday and I not seen any comments about black women being mad because of his nick name “King of White Girls”.. No one cares, it seems he is trying to cover up his previous comments but because his ignorance overcomes him, it sounds like a bunch of rubbish.

We can go on and on with if he has a point or not but the fact remains he has no proof that all black women needs to get their stuff together. We can’t be mad at the poor soul because he is ignorant to realty meaning: he really doesn’t know reality and that people emotions and their character has no color, maybe if he had better role models they would show him to see pass color and to know the difference from his encounters or surroundings with “black women” than all the women he does not know and will never meet!!! Because truly we can never categories people by race or nationality. He needs to understand just because he’s encountered all race of women he can never be a judge on the way “black women” behaves because he is only a small grain of rice in this world we can only leave the judging up to god!

Based on his words if I don’t agree I’m a bitch, Well let me give him a lesson: ni**ga’s can’t disagree because their consider dumb and ignorant so they would not know how to disagree. a bitch is considered a female dog so unless he can understand dog language he would not know if they are disagreeing. Not to smart for a drop out from Moore House College… And last but not least let me give my opinion about him noticed I’m addressing him not all “black men ” because I can only speak on my encounters with him…. He’s has no points in my book because a real man would not try and pull another man down while he’s drowning. What did Quince Jones have to do with his actions, Quince could have had a million white women he has always had class and did not have to justify his preference by putting down another race. Maybe if he do some more research on Quince and follow his lead as a Man in this industry he just may be as successful as Quince, but from the looks of things NOT!

he is such an ignorant asshole. you know what? instead of attacking rappers, people should focus on people like him as the reason why black women can’t get the respect they deserve. damn. not every woman is the same, for black or white or anything else. for him to make a generalization like that and not even think twice after people are obviously offended..not a good look. i’ve lost respect for him.

@ Mogul,

No one is saying he can’t express his opinion. He can and he did, but it is also OUR right to express our opinion about his opinion. If you don’t want to hear what people have to say about you, then keep your opinions to yourself. Why is it OK for him to say how he feels, but all of a sudden the subject of his opinion (black women) can’t respond?

I happen to think he is very misguided. My brother and my father are BOTH dominant figures, and let me tell you, they BOTH dog their women out. My brother stays in the streets with his boys and his hoes, and will not let his girlfriend of 10+ years do anything (and they have four, beautiful kids together). She works and comes home and takes care of the kids. When he finally decides to come home, he makes her cook for him. When she questions him, it’s a big fight. He feels he can do whatever he wants and control her. Unfortunately, I think this is what black men think of when they think of being head of household. You got a lot of men playing house (not taking full responsibility) and still trying to act like young boys in the streets with no responsibilities at home.

It’s wrong, and black women have a right to have an opinion about a subject that affects us and our children. This dude has the ability to affect other young minds, so we should be vocal about what he is saying.

I think I’m more pissed that he generalized Black women just straight dogging us when there some good ones out there, see he wants someone submissive cause he want to do whatever the hell he want. White women should be mad as hell of what he said. That just to show you that Black women are strong and take no shit from no one, but we do want a strong Black man in our lives too. I totally disagree when says “Women have been taught to not trust us. Women have run the household for so long, they’ve been taught to be independent. So when a man comes in and tries to run the household, they are kind of fighting for that spot, so to speak. There’s gonna be a little resistance before a woman just let’s it all go because they’ve seen their mothers be strong, and grandmothers be so strong, and they taught them to be the same way.” I was never raised like that,my man know his duties and I know mine. But I have to realize that things are different verses in Japan where his mother was raised. There the women are raised to live, eat, and breathe their husbands, so he did not have the same upbringing like us, so the closet he’ll get is a white women that will allow him to do it. But if he didn’t have the status he has now, the only white submissive women he would attract is the trashy/fat ones. Black women are seeking black men in their lives whether she is independent or not, but the problem is that some black men aren’t willing to go there. He shouldn’t put all the blame on us. It goes both ways.

He tried to rectify himself and dug an even deeper grave…………y would u say white girls should be offended about him saying he is the king of white girls, obviously ur either treating them as ur queens or putting them up on a way higher pedestal than other woman or both. But hes right about one thing, everyone has a right to there own opinion even a&&holes have one, including himself.

he’s a bullshitter.

Who hurt this fool? Clearly, a Black woman put a hurting on him because he sounds like a first-rate IDIOT! I say, any White woman who wants this loser should have him. If he can’t appreciate the beauty, brillance and resiliance of Black women…then we don’t need him! A Black man like this clown, disgraces the race…so White women- he’s all yours! We’re better off without him!

I wonder how he feels about the BLACK WOMAN who birth his stupdi ass!

@163 i don”t live in the hood in Philly, i live in chestnut Hill u know, but i’ve also lived in Harlem , and in north philly . and most of the bitches is the same.obviously i don’t like trailer park white girlz, i like cheerleading type lol

I honestly think that Polow should stay out of this type of controversy and stick to making music…. On the other hand after rereading it a few times, Polow does have a point… and even most of the people that feel opposed to “his opinions” still agree somewhere that he has a point. I don’t think he was really trying to pull the race card nor was he trying to put one race above the other. He just happens to like different races when it comes to his women. He does say he now just looks from within. AND PLEASE REMEMBER THIS WASNT A NAME HE GAVE HIMSELF.

The reason he probably says black women need to get it together is because of things like “Flavor of Love”, video girls, callin each other bythces…and all that nonsense… Monique even said black women need to do better and nobody is comin at her… Its a problem “beyond” Polow….

Now I do have to disagree that Oprah is a bad role model because I don’t think a woman should need a man financially or for happiness. YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF AND DO FOR YOURSELF BEFORE U CAN LOVE OR DO FOR ANOTHER…Of course, all women do not fit the characteristics Polow describes, and i’m sure he did not mean “all”, so if u know that’s not u, don’t get offended. But I’m sure there is a majority, like black men graduating high school, getting out the streets, and doing something with their lives. Sure, it may seem a lot make it but its so many more that perish and become unsuccessful.

Got dayum it #132 DarealWifey, Preach that ish sister! That is the EXACT way I feel. Nothing wrong with being submissive. But the niccas these days take it to a WHOLE NOTHER LEVEL! I co-sign with you 1000%. You spoke the real.

“What I was saying was factual though. Ladies and gentlemen agreed, n****s and b******s got mad.”

As far as Polow, I never was a fan of his and I will never be. Cute? I think not. He is a pompous a$$! Some men don’t understand the simple fact that to get respect, you gotta give it also. And I don’t care for Oprah but he is so out of pocket for that statement. So I guess Oprah ain’t $hit because she don’t have a man? So to be the most powerful black woman you have to have a man? If you don’t then you’re not powerful and not a role model? GTFOH with that bull$hit. Nicca Oprah needs to have you on her show as a guest and tear that a$$ out the frame for that statement. You are more ignorant than I thought you were. I hope all the black female fans you had don’t put another penny in your ragedy a$$ pocket.

@Phillydon.

I’m done with the conversation

Not all black women wear weave, snap our neck, roll our eyes and all that nonsense.

Some of us have jobs, support our family and don’t have time for the ignorance. Not every women has come from ghetto but i can get there real quick if the situation arises.

If all you see is “ghetto” black women then you need to change the spots you visit, the channels you watching and the neighborhood you in. And just because a women lives in the projects or ghetto doesn’t mean she can’t handle herself like a woman.

He got some points (whole interview) but he also dont know his facts. Black women are least likely to get married than any other race and also the divorce rate is high in this country black and white so WTF? And another thing I go to school (accountant) and I think that I’m going to be sucessful by myself. And yall know why its because I cant find a decent brother to acheive my goal with so yes I’m independent. I’m not settling for less anymore and if thats what it takes then so be it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I still mad that he sterotype all black women its like we are the whippin boy for everyone to diss and dog!!! Personally I’m sick of it btw this and the Glamour post this shit has to stop. Damn!!

Good Morning Everyone

I do agree with certain things he said..my only problem with what he said is the way he said everything he said…and the fact that he stereotyped black women! GRANTED much of it does pretain to most black women…it doesnt pretain to all. I went through a phase where i only dated white girls. My momma was going crazy. But i just refused to try to break down that barrier black women have up. As i grew up though, i realized that was just how strong they were. My mother is one of the strongest women i have ever met. And shes strong without coming off as ghetto or fighting with my father. Shes just strong. She holds the family together. And does it without ever raising her voice.

As for Oprah. Now i totally disagree with that. A black woman does not need a black man to be successful or make it or whatever he was trying to do to pretain to Oprah. And Oprah does have a man what is he talking about. Her and Stedman have been together FOREVER! She just wont marry him, which i dont blame him, b/c she doesnt want to share her money. Which is completely understandable.

Now that i know where his head is , im happy that he would rather date white women. And for me this is a big step because i am very pro-black and i come from a family who taught me that black is beautiful. I do not agree with black men dating outside of their race. I always feel like there has to be a black woman somewhere in the world that they could be very happy and compatible with. It upsets me very much to think that some black men equate strong and independent with not being able to trust. That is just plain ignorance. I have been happily married to a strong black man for five years. I think that black love is a beautiful thing. I salute black men that do not take the easy way out and that only date within their own race. It is the only way to keep black love alive. As you can see i am very passionate about this topic. But im done preaching.

Peace and Blessings

he was right to a certain extent, i dont know if its a race issue but people dont follow that order anymore. man, woman, child. some people are into old school values and some arent. to each his own. why are people attacked because they have an opinion? respect it

@phillydon

All I am saying is that you are generalizing. I grew up in Mount Airy and I am definitely not ghetto. My Husband is from NY. So you know that both of us can turn it on or off. All I am saying is that not all black woman are Shaneeqa’s o.k. You are intelligent and I know you already know that though. You have a preference obviously and there is nothing wrong with that. I think that we all do as human beings whether we want to admit it or not. Anyway one love to u. Peace

@ Amen Amen at 180!!!

You dont need no man to be sucessful thats weak minded talk right there!!! He stupid as hell for saying that shit…like no one was gonna pay attention. *tsk*

Phillydon
I’m not a ghetto black girl..shit…black and white people told me that I’m too white.
( which burns me up inside) So you are basically acting the same way as the so called “prince”.

What are ya’ll talking about Oprah doesn’t have a man? She is with Stedman and has been with him for YEARS. He’s damn near her husband.She talks about him on the show and references the little day to day situations they go through. He’s not trying to be in the spotlight and has no problem letting Oprah shine.

SHIT FOR BRAINS SAID “He’s 100 % right, i’ve been sayin this, you black women need to realize why brothers are leaving u . once in a while just shut the fuck, and to ur woman duties”

Lord Jesus help me…… I am really at a loss for words. Let me be the first to say all you ungrateful color struck house negroes who have a problem with black women please feel free to leave. Run, dont walk. Dont let the door hit ya and we will even help your ass pack. A black man who cant handle a black woman is a bitch anyway. Yes, I said it. YOU ARE A BITCH! Sorry punk asses. Dont blame black women for you being less than. I dont care who you are, dont ever fix your face to say “black women” any damn thing. Do not speak for me, and do not speak about me.
And this is not about his preference. I dont care who you date just please save the tired excuses. You are just giving “other” ppl shit to talk about. If I hear one more white girl say some shit about what her slave ass husband said about “ALL BLACK WOMEN” you will be reading about my ass in the paper.

Lets all be real with the changing dynamics in the black community so many of our young people are becomeing confused on what is real and what is just portrayed to us by Television and stereotypes. No not all black women sit around with attitudes trying to bust down black men but dont think for one second diffrent enviormental factors dont make a diffrence. In the black community we have a high rate of single mothers which does lead women to take on an attitude of Independance because they have too. Waiting on some dude to come and place food on the table is not an option. Though they have to take on personal responsibilty for the Men you date. Too many women out there claim that they want a “thug” there representation of a strong brother which is perpetuated by televison. Reality is that thugs get in to illegeal things and go to jail. Which leads to women being left alone with multiple kids and a chip on there shoulder. Men they want to lead but to lead you have to be worth following. The truth is brothers need to step up all together. Black women also need to learn to regonize a good brother. When yall find one dont bring the old mentalilty associated to a lesser man into this new relationship

PUT IS ASS ON MUTE!!!

PUT IS ASS ON MUTE!!!

@184

I respect your beliefs and the love between two black people is a beautiful thing but I, myself believe that people should date and marry whomever they feel a connection to. Just my opinion.

@181Dimples

It’s no use trying to convince people like Phillydon. He has his mind made up. He could come across positive black females on a daily basis BUT because he has already decided to lump us into one catagory, he will never see a bw as no more than a bitch. He has issues.

i stop listening to this fag when he made the dumbass comment about oprah…please stop talking go on with making your weakass tracks…

#184 preach it sista, PREACH!

#81
I totaly disagree. So what Oprah is not married and does not have any kids. Being married with children is not how everyone’s life should be. If its her decision to be single thats perfectly fine. Just because she does not have a husband does not mean that she has a “Fu** men” attitude. If she can do it alone, so be it. No one says that about men who are unmarried. A single man gets all the credit and is seen as being “sucessful” while a single woman is seen as being “anti-men”. TD Jakes is not the holy grail either.

@phillydon omg go suck a dick ..the only ghetto trash is your self..obviously you were not man enough to handle a queen like the black women..

@186 sweetheart i could not have said it better ..

He was right on point about Oprah . I believe Steadman is a robot to be honest .lol

it shows that polow is talking out of his ass coz oprah HAS got a man

Ppl have asked, why is it

offense if a black man says

he dates black women? (such as #2.

keyana, and others)

AND THE ANSWER IS:

b/c black women have

been the “dirty-self boosting

ego-stepping stools” since

like 4ever!!! and for us to hear

that our own men-supporters-

brothers-cousins- and friends

“DONT WANT US” hurts us

profoundly b/c indeed we are

strong and independent at times,

we are also women who need black

men to love us & be there for us

cuz I know yall dont think a white

man cud do for us like yall can, rite?

^^^ jus sumthin to think about^^^

@AHSatar, thanks!

I see you are going to school for accountant. Well let me be the first to say, from one accountant to another , you are in a great field! I love what I do and wouldn’t dare think of going into another field. NE Way, I applaud you on your statement “And yall know why its because I cant find a decent brother to acheive my goal with so yes I’m independent. I’m not settling for less anymore and if thats what it takes then so be it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”. You are a very smart woman. BTW, love your avatar!

@ 184 cosign

Sounds like damage control for saying something stupid.

You know, ya’ll should just stop posting messages about Polow Da Don… Don’t even give this fool that much love!!! Every time I hear anything come out that mans mouth it just sounds ignorant!!! He needs to stick to his day job… Stop taking interviews and keep making beats… don’t even talk about the beats just make THEM!!! He was better off staying behind the scenes.

I don’t have an issue with interracial dating what so ever… That’s his preference; however I do find it disrespectful to put down other races. And they say racism don’t exist anymore…. HA! Yeah right… That goes to show you racism still exist. You know what cracks me up… Why does it always have to be WHITE & BLACK… like there aren’t any Latin women or Asian women, etc…? What’s his REASON for not dating them?

PLEASE STOP POSTING ABOUT POLOW DA DON… this might be a publicity stunt!!! Given him attention he wasn’t getting… getting him girls “White” girls he wasn’t getting that he want!!! He’s a moron.

Wow that was the most ridiculous response ever. It shows how conceited he is, cause he’s just ASSUMING that people care if he prefers white women. No one cares who you date , you’re just a producer!!!! It’s the fact that he made all these assumptions about white and black women and about men running things!!! God how self-absorbed can he be??? No one cares about you Polow….no one even knows who you are, except for people who read these blogs. Ask any joe off the street…they only know Timbaland and Neptunes and maybe a couple others.

i cosign wid ya #205 he isn’t worth the breath from my black body!!!!!!!!!!lol

Okay he did make some good points, but what he doesn’t realize is that a black woman isn’t willing to give up her house hold if it isn’t worth it. And Im only judging from my situation I haven’t found a man worty of my trust or being head of my house hold. The Guyes in my genaration are something else they want the life style they see in the video but they don’t want to put in work! I feel like he’s addressing the woman when in fact I think its the man. A woman will work with a man if he is worth working for real men are not being raised these days.

I give up my household to no one. We support our family. We maintain the household. Marriage is about unity and working together. Letting someone have more right over anything gives them power. What and who gives anyone the right to be superior? How is a man superior to a woman? Can someone answer that?

Black men who behave like Uncle Toms probably think that the slave trade still exists. They complain about black women not catering to them, but GUESS WHAT??!! These niggas cater to their pale ass ghost white women!

Maybe they should remember that saying: “THE DARKER THE BERRY, THE SWEETER THE JUICE.”

Us blacks remain BLACK whatever the weather, whereas whites change color when they’re sick, or if the weather changes.

Yes, people we all know he’s as ignorant as they come but he does make an excellent point about Oprah. Like he said, she’s a very bad example for women, IN GENERAL. Money doesn’t equal success. A drug dealer can have millions but does that make him an ideal model for society. It’s the black women who have come up with ridiculous notion of, “I’m soooo independent. Honey, I don’t need a man”. Do you ever see white women going around saying they don’t need a man? HELL TO THE NAW. In order to have a flourishing community, we need each other i.e WOMEN, CHILDREN, ELDERS, and MEN!!!! I thought, it took a village to raise a child. Oprah doesn’t embrace men (hmmm, wonder why). They need the same opportunities she’s giving those girls in Africa, probably even more so. Believe it or not, we need men as much as they need us. By neglecting black men, we are setting ourselves up for failure. We are cultivating a generation of societal rejects and men of questionable sexuality (how you derrrrnnn!!!).

As for his comments about him being the “king of white girls”, I don’t care. I’m just saddened by his generalization of black women. I wonder if he holds his mother and grandmother in the same regard. Instead of saying what he said, it would have been preferable, if he summed it up as white women being his preference.

Why is he still talking?

@ 211 damn so on point !!

Polow is crazy. I feel that he is another black man trying to put blame on everything that is wrong with black men on black woman. I still can’t believe the comment about black women needing to get their shit together. I live in Atlanta(where he is from)
and all day all I see are black boys hanging out downtown and not attending school. The problem with black boys are that they have no real role models. And yes I see alot of girls with children but those be the same girls who are in nursing school trying to provide for their chidren. Statistics will show that more black women are in school than men. Most Black men have failed us(women and our community).And since we are on the topic of being real white men believe that there are alot of white woman who are hoes and golddiggers the only difference is that they dont air them out like brothas do us. Polow you need to get it together!

I wouldnt give a damn if he perferred emus! I aint fuckin em’

@211

Having a spouse doesn’t mean success either. Success is shown by how hard you work for something and Oprah had to break down a lot of doors to get where she is at. Not only was she black and a woman she was also overweight. No one needs to discredit her and say that she is not a good role model.

this is really sad. that you guys wasted web space to paste yet another post on this guy!

who cares who he wants to date or who he prefers at the end of the day his just a black male producer who ppl hardly know.

i know this is harsh but cant we talk about something more interesting !!!

Doesn’t this scrub realise that Oprah could buy his azz out about a thousand times??!! Hes wrong and is messing with the wrong woman. She made it on her OWN and even though she ain’t married to Steadman, they’ve been together long enough to be man and wife. Oprah is a great role model to anyone. She was brought up in extreme poverty, but with years of hard work and determination, she has become one of the most powerful and revered figures in world media. People like Polow purport negative stereotypes of black women, making them lose self-esteem. It’s his kind of comments that destroy black women, and don’t encourage them to make something of themselves, and only get left shaking their asses for all those degrading videos.

Polow Da DUD needs to take these words back cuz I don’t see him contributing anything in charity or uplifting communities like Oprah. How much money did he pledge for the victims of Hurricaine Katrina? How many black students has he put through college? How many schools has he built for poor children in Africa?

Yeah, you can answer those in a second. This ghetto trash needs to be thrown into the gutter and left there. His attitude is what gives the media even more reason to look down on black females. Oprah doesn’t stand for the shit he stereotypes. He’s just feels threatened and very inadequate to see black women like Oprah rise above his narrow-minded definition of what the black woman should embody.

PEACE x

@211

Also white women have their white men who stay at home and now how to be fathers and husbands

POLOW has the nerve to belittle all of oprahs acoomplishements because she doesnt “have a man” POLOW is a wanna be according to people I have spoken to in ATL. HE didnt finish at MOREHOUSE!!! and he basically sucked enough knee caps to get where he is. I am not mad that he dates white women People love who they love. I just find his views on women disturbing and pray he doesnt influnce any other young man that man see him as a role model.
TAJ THE PHOTOGRPAHER very impressive btw (random thought)
And to rebut his statements..there are plenty of black women willing to let you walk all over them so thats a lie. Please dont use that as a lame excuse of why you choose to have superficial relationships white women. YOU OBVIOUSLY dont respect them either.

seems like KERI HILSON was almost the ONLY black girl in that RICH BOY video. lol… She has to work with this jerk? sad. We need some women producers!!

Even if Oprah isn’t a family woman herself, she still has appeal to ALL demographics.

What about Michelle Obama (Barack’s wife)??!! She’s a STRONG, INTELLIGENT AND WELL-SPOKEN African American woman–yet she knows how to look after her family. She keeps the drama out of their loves and is doing a lot of good for her man’s presidential campagin.

I read on his previous interview, were “he is not like any other producers that he has his on talent and sometimes surprise his self”. he did not want to be categories, however he is categorizing black women and generalizing comments towards black women. We can say all his beats sounds like an offspring of Jazze Pha or some other down south producers and how quickly he would try to advise otherwise.

I think Polow really thought his statment would’ve went over black women heads, that we were to busy questioning are men and fighting against being submissive to comprehend his statements. Know call me stupid but it seems to me that the same black women that was floored by his statements had some baring on him trying to pull a wool over our eyes now. I’m happy for concreteloop because I’m willing to bet our comments on his previous statement had the prince explaining LOL…… Go figure black women that need to get it together sure got him together! However, he is so ignorant he still mad an ass of his self.

Okay hold up Philly Don…I am born adn raised from Philly…WE DO NOT SAY SON ! If you would have said Jawn, or Yadamean you would have been more believable….all my former students could tell you that..That is NEW YORK slang(not offense to my NEW York friends)! You know Damn well you are not from North Philly unless you are 15 and as a former social worker…Section 8 does go to Chestnut Hill but you are probably in the them high rises lying.

Contrary to popular belief, North Philly and Harlem are going through the same thing Gentrification. That lousy RACIST university is building around it, harassing the residents and now we have a bunch of majority white college students having wild parties, doing drugs, and getting their a$$es beat for disrespecting someone’s grandparents.

I am all of my friends grew up all over the this city, and if you are a Man(obviously not) WORTH YOUR SALT these statements would not come out your mouth, because like Unc. A$$ you would get your A$$ beat !.

Do some research on North Philly before you start disrespecting my and thousands of upstanding Black Americans that I thank for some of the best experiences in my life. They taught us very well, and if you are ever in trouble there are about 22 different families in a 12 block radius who DO NOT STAND THERE..they will help you, they will look out for your children, they will feed your children and support them during prom and graduation.

Let us not forget those in Logan Valley, Germantown, West Philly South Philly, Southwest, Yeadon, Sharon Hill, and the other sections…U R definitely not from this City…Read A Book and know when to shut your mouth when grown folk are talking”.!

He saying that now cause he realized he messed up.

How is he going to tell women to get their “ISH” together? Didnt he say in the previous interview that the divine order was MAN , WOMEN, CHILD, ? So if the black man had thier stuff in order likely the order would fall in place. Hes not MARRIED!! so who is he to lecture on women needing a man? HE obviously doesnt really understand family order….WHERE IS HIS FATHER…..the man has obviously sewn some bad seeds. Hence the break down of the order of things!

Once I realized how ugly he really was in that picture, I did’t even bother to read the article. whateva

To part 1. : AllHipHop.com: So do you stand by your statements? QUite frankly no women should date him. And don’t recall linking his dumb ass statements about the black family and all black women to him being king of the white girls….he can be the king of what he wantd. That’s not where it went wrong LMFAO…..his whole damn statement was wrong. He was wrong WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG in the 1st place to even attempt comparing black women to white women like it’s so easy to do or that we (both groups) are so general and so the same that he can do that or think he can try. None of what he said was factual….his warped, twisted self pulled it from the place his doody comes out of. He’s sounding real smart right now.

To pt. 2: He’s attacking black women…..BS BS BS BS BS. AGAIN the generalizing is so infuriating…….black women didn’t do this to themselves. Black men that are like him….men that are like him regardless of race that down and demean us as a whole for the most did this to us while there are some black women out there who no doubt reinforced these feelings. He said he’s not going to say we did it to ourselves but he did and that is damn well what he’s thinking. He could’ve used any race or ethnic group he damn well please and his spew would’ve came out the same way…..putting ALL black women out there negatively. Why would white women well most be mad at him saying he was the king of black women? TAUTOLOGY…..wow……tautology at its best…….bravo (not really) Mr. Polow. White women are not the same race as he or black women…..SHUT THE HELL UP……if you’re going to try to respond and stand by your comments of pure idiocy then you should’ve taken the time to think of what you’d say or gotten some help so you don’t sound even more STUPID…..stupid.

I do not care if a white man gave him the title….GOOD FOR YOU which by him saying that I guess makes it all the better…..like I said he can be the king of what he wants and how much of a waste of life he is since he doesn’t mind the nickname he was given I’m sure most white women probably don’t want him now. Many black women, black men hell EVERYONE that doesn’t have their shit together needs to get it together but your dumb a– is not part of the solution by having the nerve to tell ALL OF US (black women) that we need to step OUR game up……..save that for the white women why don’t you?

Pt. 3: He says women I’m guessing he’s still referring to black women have not been taught to trust us……he acts like he’s live in households with all of us seeing and knowing how we’ve been raised generation to generation….damn. I’ve been taught to trust people gradually and only if I have good reason….I don’t care what genitalia you have in your pants. Every household is different……some women run the home and some don’t. Independence is not wrong but it sounds to me like he think so. I know women of different cultures, ethnicity and race who’ve been taught to be independent period because it’s part of growing up and a handful who are taught it’s better to sit home son wth is he saying? I’ll run my house with my man or husband or w/e but I’m not used to anyone running me be they female or a man. MY grandmother was raised strong and taught to be so and so has my mother and myself but not just because we are women and as black women we have to but it’s part of becoming an adult and being self-reliant. I challenge anyone male or female if I HAVE TO and there is nothing wrong with that at all…..I’ve yet to meet a man to say they want a woman who poses no challenge or stimulation or with no backbone.

Oprah has a man….or did….she was with Steadman. Now he’s going into other territory….that has to do with ego…..she’s so successful so that’s why she doesn’t have a man (in his mind)? GTFOH. The signal he wants sent is you can be successful but not as much as your man or TOO successful you can’t get one…..that’s not saying much about men out there who are afraid of how successful a woman is. That’s not saying the most powerful woman in America don’t need a man……DAMNIT if his generalizations, perceptions and interpretation of things SUCK SUCK SUCK.

I just feel like he has a bad case of self hatred. That’s all I have to say about it. I love being black so my first instinct is to be with a black man. We all have our preference but for him to call other people ignorant is the pot calling the kettle black.

14. Hell yeah……I have a brother…..I’ll come back to this….I have class.

This is all about:

PowLOW 4 PowLOW…..

NOT BLACK WOMEN, AND NOT WHITE WOMEN!

Usually I just read and do not comment but I had to when whoever mentioned Flavor of Love being a reflection of Black women. Please!!!!!!! Go head with that because if someone is going to judge a whole race of women off of one TV show then they are ignorant themselves. And umm last time I checked most girls on GIRLS GONE WILD are white and video girls come in all races and many of them are starting not to be majority of Black girls but a variety of mixtures. Every race has their bad apples. But when I watch girls gone wild I do not say dag white girls are this or that because it is stupid to judge a whole race off of a couple of girls you saw on TV. Just a lesson for people who do stuff like that.

Anyway to any man date who you want to but do not bring me down in the process. Your choice is your choice do not try to make me at fault for what you choose. I respect every race and couple. Love is Love no matter the color.

He’s still disrespecting black women by continually saying we are screwed up. And that coment about Oprah he sound a little jealous if you ask me because his paper isn’t as long as O’s. He such an idiot O does have a man Stedman and just because their not married doesn’t mean she doesn’t have a man. I just wana know is he married since he knows so damn much about running a relationship. He need someone to control his mouth so so much shyt won’t fly out at any random time.

polow is the best. look at the bitterness of you women across this board. thats why most of you dont have a man . you want to wear the pants and do a bunch of cursing and fussing all the time. we dont want to hear that shit. cook me a bacon sandwich and clean up this nasty ass house. i can see why the brotha want a white girl . i love black women but you have to admitt yall got some shitty ass attitudes and most of the time you dont know what the hell you want . dont be upset at polow for speaking his mind maybe you wil do betta now that you know how some of us feel . its a shame we have to publically humiliate you for you to see whats real

@tam i cosign a million times over…some of these people sound stupid ..marriage does make a sucessful women

All you men have so much to say about what we do wrong but what about the shyt that makes us go off on you, and the way you all act we should switch up on you and date outside. But honestly I don’t think color really matters because A MAN IS A MAN white, black, blue or green they all think they are Gods gift to the world any way.

Marriage makes a woman sucessful??? How

Marriage makes a successful women…… so are you saying O isn’t succesful?

THE MORE THIS IGNORANT BASTARD OPENS HIS MOUTH, THE MORE UNINTELLIGENT B.S COMES OUT. I FEEL SORRY FOR THE WOMAN WHO RAISED HIM, OBVIOUSLY SHE MISSED SOMETHING. HE HAS NO RESPECT FOR BLACK WOMEN REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE SAYS. AND HE CANNOT SPEAK FOR WHAT WE, AS A WHOLE OF BLACK WOMEN, HAVE BEEN TAUGHT. FIRST OF ALL TO FEEL JUSTIFIED IN MAKING THE COMMENT “NIGGAS” AND “BITCHES” GOT MAD? SOMEONE SHOULD SLAP HIM RIGHT IN HIS MOUTH. ANYONE WITH SENSE COULD CARE LESS WHO HE DATES. ITS HIS LACK OF RESPECT FOR THE RACE HE CALLS HIS OWN THAT IS THE PROBLEM. FURTHER MORE, WHAT A WAY TO CONTRADICT ONE’S SELF BY SAYING WE’VE BEEN USED TO RUNNING A HOUSEHOLD, AND BEING SINGLE PARENTS, YET YOU GET ANGRY THAT WE SO CALLED “DONT TRUST BLACK MEN”? IF THE ENTIRETY OF THAT STATEMENT WERE TRUE, YOU NEED TO ASK YOURSELF THE QUESTION, WHY IS IT THAT WE ARE RAISING CHILDREN ALONE? WHY IS IT THAT WE ARE SINGLE HANDEDLY RUNNING A HOUSEHOLD? HE WHO KNOWS NOTHING, AND HAS NO INTELLIGENCE, SHOULD KEEP HIS IGNORANT MOUTH SHUT, AND STICK TO MAKING BEATS. APPARENTLY KNOWEDGE AND WISDOM IS NOT HIS BEST ATTRIBUTE. AND PERSONALLY, WHILE EVERYONE KEEPS TALKING ABOUT HOW CUTE HE IS, BULL SQUASH. THATS ANOTHER PART OF THE PROBLEM WITH US. WHEN DO WE LOOK AT HOW IGNORANT A PERSON IS, AND CAN STILL SEE SUPPOSED GOOD LOOKS IN THEM. HE IS A SIMPLE MINDED IGNORANT FOOL. SIMPLE AS THAT.

I feel so ashame because we’re from the same city (Atlanta) and we went to the same high school (B.E. Mays). Like others have already mentioned, I don’t care if he likes white women, its nothing wrong with them at all. But to stereotype all black women the way he did still bothers me a little bit. But to be honest, I’m really not offend my his comment cuz I know it doesn’t apply to me. And truth be told, I don’t really think that his intentions was to categorize all black women that way, I just think thats the way it came out (yall know how it is when he get the talkin’ without thinking first). I have no problem with being submissive to my man as long as he does what he’s suppose to do and treat me like a lady. I’ll do whatever he wants to me do without a question asked (with some exceptions, lol!!!)

HE IS IGNORANT! HE MENTIONED THAT BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN RUNNING THE HOUSEHOLD FOR SO LONG THAT THEY (WE) HAVE A PROBLEM GIVING UP THAT SPOT. THAT IS TRUE, WE DO RUN THE HOME AND ARE THE HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD. EVERYTHING HE MENTIONED ALL GOES BACK TO MEN BEING THE CAUSE OF THE DESTRUCTION OF BLACK AMERICA. MAYBE HE SHOULD ASK HIMSELF WHY BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN RUNNING THE HOUSE HOLD WHEN IT IS SUPPOSE TO BE THE MAN’S JOB. WE HAVE BEEN HOLDING DOWN NOT ONLY OUR MEN BUT OUR ENTIRE FAMILY. MOST BLACK MEN HAVE NOT DONE THEIR PART. MOST BLACK MEN DON’T WANT TO GET AN EDUCATION, JOB, OR WANT TO DO ANYTHING OTHER THEN SLEEP WITH AS MANY WOMEN AS THEY CAN WHILE THEY PRODUCE NUMEROUS CHILDERN BY DIFFENENT WOMEN AND NOT TAKE CARE OF NONE OF THEM. BECAUSE MOST BLACK MEN WON’T AND DON’T STEP UP, US BLACK WOMEN ARE FORCED TO!! NOW THAT WE HAVE TAKEN ON THIS ROLE (BECAUSE MOST BLACK MEN ARE TOO LAZY), IGNORANT MEN LIKE THE ONE WHO MADE THAT STATEMENT WANT TO RIDUCULE US INSTEAD OF PRAISING US FOR SAVING THEIR ASS AND THEIR CHILDREN. WHITE WOMEN CAN KEEP HIM! INSTEAD OF UPLIFTING HIS OWN WOMEN, ALL HE CAN DO IS PUT THEM DOWN AFTER ALL WE HAVE DONE. I HOPE THAT MAN (I MEAN POOR EXCUSE FOR A BLACK MAN) CAN NOT REPRODUCE. WE DON’T NEED ANY OF HIS IGNORANT OFFSPINGS RUNNING AROUND BELITTLING THE BEAUTIFUL, STRONG BLACK WOMEN OF THE WORLD. WHERE WOULD HE BE IF IT WASN’T FOR HIS MOTHER, WHOM I’M SURE IS A STRONG BLACK WOMEN? MOST WHITE WOMEN ARE SUBMISSIVE BECAUSE MOST WHITE MEN DO WHAT THEY HAVE TO DO AS MEN. ALL THE WHITE WOMEN HAVE TO DO IS RAISE THE CHILDREN AND PAMPER THEIR MEN. I WISH I HAD THAT LUXURY. US BLACK WOMEN ARE RAISED TO BE THE PROVIDER DUE TO THE LACK OF REAL BLACK MEN. I WISH THERE WERE MORE BLACK MEN DOING THEIR THING LIKE MANY WHITE MEN. I WOULD LOVE TO JUST PLAY THE WOMAN ROLE ISTEAD OF BOTH ROLES AS SO MANY US BLACK WOMEN HAVE TO DO. AND THE WORST THING IS, WE STICK BY THE BLACK MAN THROUGH EVERYTHING. THROUGH HIM TRYING TO FIND HIMSELF, NOT BEING MOTIVATED, NOT HAVING A JOB OR SETTLING FOR THE WORST JOB BECUASE HE’S TOO LAZY TO GET EDUCATED TO PUT HIMSELF IN A GOOD POSITION TO GET A CAREER TO SUPPORT HIS FAMILY. AS SOON AS THEY FINALLY GET THEIR CRAP TOGETHER THEN AND ONLY THEN IS THE BLACK WOMEN NOT GOOD ENOUGH. AFTER STICKING BY THEM THROUGH THE TOUGHEST TIMES AND SUPPORTING THEM, WHEN THEY BECOME SUCCESSFUL, MOST BLACK MEN HAVE ALL THESE NEGATIVE THINGS TO SAY ABOUT US. THAT MAN NEEDS TO REALLY GET A CLUE. AND BY THE WAY, DOES THE SO CALLED” PRINCE OF WHITE WOMEN” THINK THAT THESE WHITE WOMEN OR THEIR FAMILIES WOULD ACCEPT HIS BLACK ASS OR GIVE HIM THE TIME OF DAY IF HE DIDN’T HAVE MONEY. ALL THEY SEE IS DOLLAR SIGNS THAT’S WHY HE GETS THESE WOMEN. IN THEIR EYES HE’LL ALWAYS BE A N*******!!!!

I like the fact that the man didn’t back down. He made his statements and he stood by them. Good for him. Just scanning through the 200 plus posts, most of these ladies that are so irate cannot refute even one iota of what the man said. The same chicks that were talking about how good Rihanna looks with the kid from Transformers are lathering saliva all over their keyboards now like a rabid Michael Vick pitbull, lmao.

Let me just address this nosense about the “independent black woman”. There is no such thing. The black man and the black woman are as far from independent as two entities can be. In America, we’ve become independent from each other, but that’s about it, lol. Independence is when you have your own land, you’re ruled by your own, and your money has your picture on it. There are no independent people in the world other than the banking “elite”, and even they depend on the counsel of Satan. The black woman has been empowered by the white man with the sole intent of separating her from the black man and it has worked. This is what the brother is alluding to indirectly when he mentions Oprah. She has been set up as an IDOL to devalue the traditional family structure and give the black woman someone materialistic to aspire to. There will never be, as long as America exists, a black man as powerful and as visible as Oprah. She is too valuable.

The brother has excellent perceptual abilities. He’s almost there in my opinion. The only thing that he needs is to be taught the Bible the right way so that he can structuralize what he sees and knows to be true. That will bring more authority to his words.

#242
What do you say about the man who is unmarired and sucessful?

FURTHER MORE, IF YOU CAN DATE A PERSON AND SEE WHAT IS INSIDE OF THEM, REGARDLESS OF WHAT COLOR THEY ARE, THEN THATS BEAUTIFUL. BUT TO CAST ASIDE, OR DEGRADE YOUR OWN RACE OF WOMEN, REGARDLESS OF WHAT COLOR YOU ARE, IS THE MOST IGNORANT CRAP IVE EVER HEARD OF. ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE BLACK. AND PERSONALLY, ANY WOMAN WITH SELF RESPECT WOULDNT WANT YOU ANYWAY BECAUSE IT JUST PROVES THAT YOU HAVE INSECURITIES. POINT BLANK.

He needs to stop talking, seriously now. I’m not even gonna put up a front, I’m really offended by what he said. He says he doesn’t have a problem with black girls but obviously he does because he’s saying a lot of negative stuff about us. He’s classifying us as all the same when we’re not. He’s ignorant. He’s tryna sugar-coat everything by saying “I don’t date woman by their shade or color”…total bullshit. He’s putting us down by comparing us to white girls which is ridiculous & shameful. He is very insecure about being black, obviously. And the only black person he praises is Quincy Jones because he loves white women too. This man needs to sit his ass down & shut the f*** up. & on the reals, white women would get mad if a white man said that he’s “The King of Black girls” because they wanna be better than us, and basically Polow Da Don is saying that white women are better than black women when it comes down to it. He’s disrespectful, ignorant, and a disgrace to the black race. He calls black women idiots when he’s the idiot. He’s insecure & not strong enough for us so really and truly, it’s his loss, not ours, cause we don’t wanna weak man anyway. Done.

@destructionoftheblackwoman

Thank you so much! Finally somone other than an ignorant a$$ reppin for us.
Earlier when responding to “Phillydon” I did use the word “son”.
My Husband is from Upstate NY and our dialect definitely rubs off on one another. Smile.Anyway I grew up on Forrest Ave near Mount Airy. I remember as a little girl attending AB Day elementary school. The one thing of substance that I remember from that school was to be proud of being black. We eagerly celebrated each Kwanzaa and were taught to be active in performance arts.Anyway growing up in Philly we were exposed to horrible things. You know that. Such as drugs, gun shoots, violence etc. But it is amazing how all of these horrible things seemed so obsolete b/c beauty still remained in our city.In Philly we do stick by one another….your neighbors problem became your problem if necessary and we would fight for each other at the drop of a hat…. anyway what I am trying to say is that obviously “Phillydon” prefers white woman. That is his choice but, growing up in a city where you were proud to be black, it is uncommon….We pride ourselves in Neosoul, jazz, (some of us muslims), and rich history etc. I am a product of being bi-racial but, at the end of the day I am black and Spanish. I would never say that I prefer one race over another. I feel like that is a harse statement to make. To belittle black woman is not part of the solution but, the problem. We could sit here and make generalizations all day but, what is the solution. In conclusion I love my “BLACK” man and I would not change anything about him b/c that is what makes him unique. To all my black woman do not even get offended by clowns like Polow da don or Phillydon.. There is a man (whatever race) that will appreciate our strength and look pass the atttitude b/c beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It is so amazing how a black woman can love pass a black mans faults but, our attitude and our names are a turnoff to a black man; so much so that they insult and degrade us and make excuses for why they date outside of race. Peace

i respect people’s opinions, but one’s opinion does not have to dog an entire people to make their point. If I like white men, I wouldn’t say, “I like white men because black men are gang bangers”. That isn’t an accurate portrait of all black men so my judgment would be bias and limiting to my race. He needs to get it together. He probably can’t handle a black woman. We are raised to be strong, so that’s what we are, strength. Anyhow, when people mature, their mindset matures, their actions, responses and their opinions mature, it sounds like he has not matured. He may need a new circle of friends. He’s a producer, so he is probably surrounded by black women who don’t give a damn that he’s a producer, they’re not going to bow down and white women who worship the ground he walks on because he’s a producer, so they stay bowed down (who knows), but he sounds ignorant.

watever…he prob. dont get kno play from black women anyway…hes really wastin his time…

@243

When you say, the man, are you talking about a successful black man? The most important thing is exposure, not so much riches. It’s through exposure that the doctrines that the powers that be want to get adopted, get adopted. This is why so many of these “hip hop stars” get so heavily publicized but have no money. Yet they’re always talking about money. They’re being used. That’s why I stressed Oprah’s visibility. Oprah is the most VISIBLE black person on planet earth and it is purposeful. A black man will never be that VISIBLE, unless he’s some sort of athlete or entertainer, but never for an effect that he may have intellectually or societally. The Bible tells us, “Can two walk together unless they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3). When you watch Oprah’s show, her audience is overwhelmingly caucasian which tells you that this is her target audience. There’s nothing that an affluent black person can tell me if they cater to caucasians. Too much duality. That’s like trusting a dirty cop, or any cop, lol. If a good black man is rich though, it’s good that he marries a good black woman and builds up his family in the stable home that his money can provide. The Lord has to be with them though because money is not enough. Many lifers have come from good homes.

we heard you the first time. now please shut the fuck up.

everyone has their own opinion. i read his interview and he made valid points. some things i don’t agree with because EVERYONE doesn’t fit into those catergories or generalizations. i know a young, black female and when i am in a monogamous relationship, i am submissive to my man. i love to make a man feel like a man and i love when a man makes me feel like a woman… as far as everything else he does a valid point.

Polow, like many black men is afraid of other black men. It is ironic that despite the fact that he was raised by both parents and despite the fact that he admires his parents relationship, he is still unable to see that a man should lead his community and be responsible for his actions—->lead not rely on a woman to make him.

Black men in America are socialized to view women as the saviours of the race.Polow says black males don’t have fathers so they don’t know how to be men, yet he expects the women to teach them how. Notice that he quickly left that male issue and just plodded on to “women need to do this, women need to do that”

That it is WOMAN that should stop dating a drug dealer so that black men finally realise that drug dealing is wrong and harmful to his people.

That it is WOMAN that must stop being attracted to material things so that black men finally realise that killing another black man in order to steal his sneakers is wrong and sin.

It is WOMAN who needs to change man’s behaviour.

In essence he passes on what a lot of black men are taught–That they as a gender cannot be capable of leading their communities or making adult good judgement on their own. I think this comes about because, unfortunately, black males growing up do not get a chance to bond without the added pressures of racism, fear etc.

Look this guy is a total and complete azz. They way he comments about black women, let’s me know he has gotta caught up! Without that strong black woman, (he’s mother) he wouldn’t be jack! With his clueless butt!
2. Secondly on Oprah, she has a man, she was treated so badly by black her entire life, so he serves his purpose!
So, I think it the opposite, black men need to step up their game! Have some pride in yoursevles damn! If you like white, asian, mexican, okay, but don’t say we aren’t anything because of your likes and dislikes, bump that!

@234, shouldn’t you be picking cotton in the fields, for your white mistress??!! LOL.

Uncle Tom’s feel NEUTERED when they’re confronted by something out of their control. They date submissive women to make them feel like men.

The majority of white women ARE NOT submissive and dutiful anyway, and if you think that you’re fooling yourself.

Respect between a man and woman must be MUTUAL. It is a TWO-WAY STREET. No divine order bullshit. Grow some fucking balls.

Lmao @234 Wow …

He has a point & I do believe him when he says his quotes were taken out of context. Art imitates life, & all I see when am looking at movies and videos & listening to r&b is black women complaining about black men, being dogs and misogynists, and usually when a black woman and man is in a relationship, black women just like to show their asses all the time, for some reason they seem to think this is strength, but little do they know that it is a turn off for most brothers. Now having said that, I am a black man & i am involved with a black woman, and she has her moments where she acts like I mentioned above, however I am not particularly interested in seeing any females of another race, but I see that it is only the relationship between black men & black women that seems to be in a state of DISRESPECTFULLNES towards each other and everybody knows this, I mean look at some of the comments left by the black females on this site. Thees so-called sistas are a TURN OFF even if they look good in their clothes. I say in their clothes because usually when they take off their clothes you see the stretch marks and other things that also a TURN OFF.

LOL this guys is silly. White women, by all means…he’s on the house!

i’m just not going to care if I ever have another relationship with a black man again, it’s just to confusing and depressing. I don’t get it and maybe I never will, but I am not going to spend my life wondering what am i doing wrong. I do everything I have’t to do to get my bill paid. I don’t use men, I don’t lead men on. It’s hard enough fitting in at work with white people, trying to keep my identity in tact. This is far to much for me to comprehend. I am scared of dating alot of black men, because they seem angry about something, sometimes they seem like they want to hurt you because they been hurt.

# 249
How does building schools and helping hurricane victims equate to siding with whites? And even if she did, siding with a particular race is not equivalent to trusting cops. If I side with women, does this automatically mean that I dislike or distrust men? Absolutely not. Catering to whites does not mean that she does not side with blacks. While I do agree with the necessity of the family structure, I disagree with your implication that the man is the sole provider and the woman is the sidebar.

I have questions : What’s wrong with being submissive? Why do some of you think you are losing some part of yourself if you are submissive to your mate ?

2ate to comment but nway

I AGREE WITH THIS DUDE

EVERY HUMAN BEING HAVE THEIR OPINION AND TO SOME IT`S A FACT SO IF IT AIN`T A FACT TO YOU WHY BOTHER JUS TAKE IT AS AN OPONION

LIVE WITH IT BLACK MATHAFUCKERS
am black and i`ll never date a black girl cos they are raised Different

Lmao @ 256 Wow.. Damn, what’s really going on ?

White women aren’t the ultimate dutiful wives anyway.

ASIAN WOMEN AND INDIAN WOMEN show a lot more respect and care for their husbands AND his family. It’s in their culture!! As tradtional as it sounds, Polow Da Don is living in a glasshouse if he thinks that white women act like that. He should try going out with an Asian or Indian girl and see the difference.

It’s also a class thing. MIDDLE CLASS families are generally more close knite and a stable unit. This can be BLACK or WHITE middle classes.

I mean, look at the lower class white women on Jerry Springer–Are you telling me that those women are more obedient than lower class black women??!!

@ 252, this is exactly what I said above. I’m suprised no one else caught onto that statement he was making. If he was able to articulate his thoughts a little better he could have really sparked some intelligent debate because what he said has some validity to it. But sadly, he doesn’t realize that he is just as misled as he is claiming the rest of us to be. He’s not offering any solutions to what he claims is a problem with Black on Black relationshhips. Instead, he does what most cowards do — talk shit and run.

You know it’s a new day when the ills of the world can be blamed on the Black woman. And this really is all Oprah’s fault. lol. But seriously, don’t people see the dichotomy? Black women are supposed to be strong, uplifting and loyal but they’re also supposed to submit to men who aren’t strong, uplifting or loyal.

He really needs to stop speaking about black women as if we are all the same. We’re not. Everything he is saying doesn’t apply to every black women.

I DISAGREE WITH HIS APPROACH, BUT HE IS BASICALLY SAYING THAT IF WHAT HE IS SAYING APPLIES TO YOU WORK ON IT, IF IT DON’T BE PROUD THAT IT DOES NOT AND CONTINUE TO BE POSITIVE.

SOME OF WHAT HE IS SAYING IS SO TRUE,BECAUSE WE HAVE A LOT OF DIRTY LAUNDRY IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY THAT NEED TO BE EXPOSED AND CLEANED. THE ONLY WAY THAT WE CAN BRING ON CHANGE, IS IF WE RAISE EYEBROWS AND COME UP WITH SOLUTIONS TO THE PROBLEM. THERE ARE TOO MANY PEOPLE IN OUR INNER CITIES WHO ARE BEING KILLED OVER NONSENSE. SO MANY PEOPLE RATHER HANDLE THEIR SITUATIONS WITH A BULLET INSTEAD OF WITH THEIR MINDS.

I DO NOT AGREE WITH HIS WHOLE ASSESSMENT OF THINGS, AND HE DOES SEEM A LITTLE HYPOCRITICAL AT TIMES, BUT EVERYONE HAS TWO SIDES TO THEM, AND IT TAKES YEARS OF MATURING AND KNOWLEDGE TO ONLY EMBRACE ONE SET OF VIEWS.

Submission is fine as long as it goes both ways. My husband and I work together and negotiate. No decision is made unless we both agree. We make each other happy. I have a problem with one partner being submissive and the other one domineering. Relationships should not involve servant and master

I dont need to go into a whole spill on his comments i will just say this…..The black men who cant find a good, strong black woman who is willing to be submissive should start looking internally at themselves. Ms_Mack and Stacy H had it right. The black man and woman in this country are only a few generations out of slavery and it still effects us in every single way we live today. There will never be unity between black men and women until we both realize that we are one. Man coming first, then wife then child is not a fact, its a belief. There is no proof the bible is the end all and be all and not eveybody believes in religion but that DOES not mean you are not spiritual and dont beleive in a creator or higher power, so people who use the bible, koran or whatever as thier back up can basically go somewhere else with that. All life is born into this world through the woman, so until the black woman raises herself up and realizes she is a Queen and is GOD and until the Black man realizes he will Never reach his highest destiny until he learns to hold the black woman to highest level of respect and spiritualness, we will always be at Odds. Black men today do not want to take heed to anything the black woman who has herself together has to say or offer. We are strong and we know when someone is trying to lead us into Bullshyt, Dead Prez said “follwing real shyt will get you kilt, but following bullshyt will get you kilt for sure”. Not just any man can come into my life because he is black and take advantage of my submissive nature. You have to a Man, not a boy who thinks hes a man cause hes of age and can screw whatever he wants or because he has money. Men are made and not born. The universe is trying to show the black man that he needs to take his rightful place and reclaim his black woman. There is alot of bullshyt out here and true knowlege and wisdom is not hard to come by. People are smart and they can talk that shyt with the best of them but i can see straight through Mr. Polow the Don. If he really did his history and had his facts together he would know that back in the day, not to long ago, when either of his great grandmothers or great great grandmothers and grandfathers(if they were black) were slaves, THERE WHITE WOMEN WERENT STANDING UP RALLYING FOR THE BLACK MEN AND WOMEN NOT TO BE ENSLAVED AND KILLED, THEY WERE BEING SUBMISSIVE AS MR POLOW WOULD LIKE TO THINK AND LETTING THIER HUSBANDS HANG BLACK N*GGAS(YES POLOW IS A NIGGA, NOT A MAN OR A GENTLEMEN) LIKE HIMI ON A TREE AND LETTING THIER HUSBANDS PH*CK HIS BLACK FEMALE RELATIVES WHO WERE FORCED TO BE SUBMISSVE TO THEIR RACE. So before he goes saying shyt publically when he has been blessed with the ability to reach so many people shows just how phucked up our race is and WHY black women probrably will NEVER deal with these screwed up black men like him. Its nothing short of Sad.

@234

Brother, you need to stop man, lmao! That’s not going to solve a damn thing.

@256

I notice that some black and hispanic women try to advertise themselves in the way that you alluded to with the half-covered ass and all that. All American women do that though and those styles were started by the white woman. It’s just more noticeable with the black and hispanic woman because they have the best shape. My favorite is the skirt that shows half they ass that they spend the whole day pulling down. Or even better, the low riders with no draws that they spend all day pulling up, lol. If they dressed appropriately, all those costume adjustments wouldn’t be necessary. There is no doubt that the lack of respect between the black woman and man is like no other. Both parties refuse to acknowledge their proper place so they will both have their spirits broken, that’s all.

#256 come on now your being petty by even mentioning stretch marks because if a sistah does have them it comes from her having a black mans baby. Yall act like you have so much to offer as if you don’t have any flaws.

@ Judah … Hello… I agree with most of what you are saying …

@254

Divine order bullshit? Lmao. I would love to see some of these ladies on here that act and honestly believe that they’re strong engage that man in a debate. I would give it 45 seconds before you realize that you’re not on his level. You’ll then proceed to prove him right by calling him a ‘bitch ass nigga” or a ‘coward nigga” or whatever other idiocy comes out of your mouths after those two sticks in your skulls create that spark that you mistake for an actual thought.

If this idiot wants to be ” The King/Prince of White Women”, let his ignorant behind do so. Most likely there aren’t too may educated black women that would want him anyway. And, yes black women are raised to be strong and independent but that is only because our mothers, grandmothers, etc., didn’t want us to be dissapointed and dependent on a man (be him black, white or purple) because most of time they do disappoint and leave you high and dry. So if we weren’t the strong persons that we are today, then who would be raising our childern? Also, “Polow The Don” or should I say “Polow the Idiot” probably was raised by his mother alone and that is why he is successful today. But please let him go, we as black women don’t need his butt.

Cosign #226

@242 -

What BIBLE are you Reading?

And, What Type of “TRANSLATING” Are you Doing????????

No White man has “Empowered” the Black Woman.

We raise you, and Breast Feed you, and then:

You look in our FACES, and tell us

HOW MUCH: you hate us!

And PLEASE: “The BIBLE”

If you are reading it:
First it says HONOR your Father & your Mother.
(Not put them down, after they raised you).

Secondly: Any man who does NOT provide for HIS FAMILY:

has denied the Faith and is Worse, than an Infidel…….

God made WO-Man (Eve) as a: HELPmeet for Man (Adam)…….

It says that a Man is to “CLEAVE” to His Wife.

He is to hold onto her!

And to take fast hold of her instruction:

let her not go: Keep her:

For she is thy life!

Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee.

Love her & she shall keep thee!

Exalt her, and she shall promote thee, bringing the honor:

WHEN THOU DOST EMBRACE HER!!!!!!!!1

5/23: hE SHALL DIE WITHOUT INSTRUCTION:

AND IN THE GREATNESS OF HIS FOLLY HE SHALL GO ASTRAY!!!!!

Proverbs 1/20 & 4/6

No One has Pushed Black Men Away:

THEY HAVE *************RAN************ AWAY!

********SO WHEN A MAN —–LIVES——

ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE:

hE SEEKS FIRST ****WISDOM*** (A WIFE):

and THEN:

All things are ADDED unto him.

But seek first wisdom! And in all they getting:

Get an UNDERSTANDING:

So that: IN YOUR VERY OWN WORDS:

YOU CAN LEARN: the Bible the right way so that he can structuralize what he sees and knows to be true. That will bring more authority to his words.

I will give A**wipe some credibility in regards to black women not knowing have to shed their strength and exchange for being vulnrerable. This is true, if anyone understands the effects of Willie Lynch and how it effects generations and generations even still today, then you have to agree with A**wipe just a little bit. However…….Men like A**wipe, aka “King Of The A**wipes”, has needed those very same ’strong’ women for his very existence and presence in music. Chances are the longevity and survival of his families very legacy was paved on a black womans back and her innate ability to be ’strong’ to ensure the dignity of herself and her people. Infact it was a black woman who fed him when he couldn’t feed himself, clothed him when he was running around naked, educated him so he wouldn’t sound like the imbicile/ idiot he sounds like right now….it was probably a black woman who gave him those good looks and blew his ego up, talk’n bout ‘Look at that pretty hair!!’, it was probably a black woman right? When you was sick, who took care of you? A black woman….that’s who. You got your name from a black woman, and inspite of her shortcomings, you use your fame and voice to tear her down, rather than build her up. You could have used your mouthpiece to point out the beauty and your appreciation for women period, but no, you want to play Bill Riley…you want to educate folk. Here’s a reality check, you ain’t telling us nothing new, it’s already been said….do us a favor, offer some solutions because you really care, cause you sound real A**wipe-ish right now. What black women need right now is for our men to start acting like men that care about out community….we need men that are willing to step up and protect us and be an example of dignity. We need men who will be patient with us and be loving towards us, because we are victims of Willie Lynch, we are victims of our stolen past…….

Hello Mallato. I know that you agree with me. You respect the Lord’s Word and that forces unity (Psa 133:1, Eph 4:13). These confused negroes don’t grasp that. Your only hangup with me is how I speak about the other races, lol.

Sorry for the spelling errors in #276….that A**wipe had me typing fast!

You all are making valid points - home boi is back peddling - - and true he can have his preference - - I prefer a man with a vision and believes in my vision and believes in LOVING and SUPPORTING me. And little does he know that there are ALL TYPES of WOMEN who are strong and aren’t totally submissive — so he’s stereotyping women period - black and white. And when he referenced black women as that - does that mean he’s talking about his MOMMA too???

I forgot to add…Polow the Don is the King of deeze nuts. Go back to philly or somewhere and build something for the black men and women, get the hood straight, stop drugs from coming into the community. Then call yourself the king. I bet he doesnt have the ability to do ANY of that. If he called some of these REAL white people up who are running shyt and said look, i dont want these drugs coming in here or i want jobs for these black men and women, or i want the Jena situation in Lousiana taken care of, theyll probrably ask him who the hell is he, and the answer would be nobody. He isnt the king of anything but his own fantasy world he’s living in that im sure everybody around him is making him think is real. I hope he gets his mind right cause right now he is a straight KOON up there in BLACKFACE doing just what them white girls he like so much and theyre men want him to do. He might be the “prince of white girls” but them white men is the “king of POLOW THE KOON” cause im sure whoever is backing him, financing him, calling the shots and singing the checks DONT LOOK LIKE HIM, they look like that chick he’s calling himself the prince of and im sorry, NO MATTER HOW LIGHT HE IS OR HOW GOOD HIS HAIR IS HE WILL NEVER BE WHITE, O EXCUSE ME SCRATCH THAT, BEING BLACK OR WHITE ISNT A COLOR ITS A MENTALITY, i see where his mind is 4sure.

@ Tammy I agree with you what is wrong with being submissive people take that word way out of context. Alot of woman display how much attitude they really have by getting upset when they hear the word Submissive. It’s not a negative thing to be submissive. The man is the head of household….. He respects you and you respect him.

He’s an arrogant country ass fool who thinks just because he went to college he knows it all. Honestly I think someone at home chin checked his ass about this, so he felt the need to give an explaination to clarify his ignorance for all to see once more. He just likes to hear himself speak and as a matter of fact I’m going to just tune him out and stop responding to this foolishness because we are helping to contribute to his ego.

Goddamnn…280+ posts already???

Do some of yall be waiting for a new post with your fingers on the keyboards?

@ Judah … You hit the nail on the head….LOL ..
I love that scripture (Psalm 133:1) 133 Look! How good and how pleasant it is For brothers to dwell together in unity!

(Ephesians 4:13)  until we all attain to the oneness in the faith and in the accurate knowledge of the Son of God, to a full-grown man, to the measure of stature that belongs to the fullness of the Christ. . .

Judah you have to love everyone….LOL

LOL @Kmniles! I know I do! (when I’m not busy at work that is)

@ Tammy, good question. I can’t remember which # it was but someone made a statement about submitting above that I co-signed to 100%.

There is nothing wrong with submission but women have to be careful who they submit to. And there is a viable fear that Black women have about submitting to today’s Black man. Let me get Judah-fied for a minute. lol.

I am in no way professing to be an Bible expert but I know what I know and the Bible says “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.”

Having quoted that, I really believe that the standard (from Biblical standpoint) has not been met or isn’t being met, mostly by the men who say they need a woman to “be in her place.” From a woman’s perspective, how can a man lead when he allows himself to be led the wrong way? How can he carry my house when his own house — before I have even entered it — wasn’t intact? If a man says he wants a good Christian woman, is he himself being a good Christian? If a man claims to love and respect God, is he being respectful of God by disrepecting women, God’s creation? What examples does he set for a woman to follow if he looks to be taken seriously? These are all questions that a REAL woman who is serious about committing and submitting to a REAL man SHOULD ask herself before she even goes there.

Black men can blame a lot of things on society: the white man, slavery, etc… and rightfully so. But at what point do Black men stop talking and start doing? I can’t stand to be around brothers who are always claiming that the white man is holding them down, yet they never try to get up! This is the plight that women face with submission. You cannot allow someone to teach you, lead you, protect you, provide for you, sustain you and carry you when they can’t and haven’t even done it for themselves or someone else.

Personally, I’ve been fortunate enough to know men (platonic or otherwise) that I would submit to 100 times over. And this all goes to the company I keep. If a woman truly wants a good man, she has to quit picking from a barrel of losers. She also has to have a real conversation with herself about whether or not she is capable of handling a REAL man.

ms_mac

You’re right. He does mislead in what he says. I feel it is out of fear. Fear of how other black men will/would react if he painted a picture where he demanded they AS THE MALES, do something about the situation. Its just easier to kick the black woman. And by the way, it is not a given that black males would not rise to the occassion. It is very possible that he and other black men could start something. But that FEAR means that he wouldn’t dare even go there. Oh no–its us black womens fault. I’m just surprised that a man coming from a two household family, with supposed good parents will still look to the woman to save the community.

Oprah should build other schools–all black male boarding schools in the US. With GOOD, WISE black teachers 3/4 of the male. Black males don’t bond. And they still hunger for it–that is why some of them find solace in gangs. But this gang bonding is not real,safe,growth inducing or productive. I bet Oprah would face a media backlash of incredible proportions if she tried this though.

AS I SAID IN MY POST #263-

BROTHAS ARE LYING TO THEMSELVES IF THEY BELIEVE THAT WHITE WOMEN ARE OBEDIENT AND SERVE THEIR HUSBANDS LIKE THEY ARE KINGS.

1.) LOOK AT THE CULTURES IN ASIAN AND INDIAN MARRIAGES. ASIAN AND INDIAN WOMEN, IN A TRADTIONAL UPBRINGING, ARE LOYAL AND RESPECTFUL TO THEIR HUSBANDS AND HIS FAMILY!! SHE CHERISHES HER HUSBAND’S FAMILY. ALTHOUGH TIMES ARE CHANGING FOR THEM, THEY DON’T FACE THE SAME KIND OF MARITAL PROBLEMS YOU’RE FAMILIAR WITH IN THE WEST! POLOW DA DON SHOULD DATE AN INDIAN GIRL OR ASIAN GIRL AND SEE THE DIFFERENCE. HE WILL SEE WHO THE REALLY DUTIFUL WOMAN IS.

2.) THERE IS ALSO A DISPARITY BETWEEN MIDDLE CLASS FAMILIES AND LOWER CLASS COUPLES. MIDDLE CLASS FAMILIES, WHITE OR BLACK, ARE GENERALLY MORE UNITED AND COHESIVE AND DON’T BREAK DOWN AS QUICKLY. BLACK OR WHITE LOWER CLASS FAMILIES FACE JUST AS MUCH PROBLEMS.

I AM WILLING TO ACCEPT THAT SOME BLACK FEMALES HAVE ISSUES. HOWEVER, DO NOT DARE AND SAY THAT WHITE WOMEN ARE THE ABSOLUTE SOLUTION TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS. THEY CAN (NOT DEFINITELY) BE JUST AS PROBLEMATIC.

LEARN SOMETHING BY POSSIBLY DATING INDIAN GIRLS OR ASIAN GIRLS, AND YOU WILL BE EATING YOUR WORDS ABOUT HOW WHITE WOMEN ARE OBEDIENT, ETC!

Polow the Clown needs to sit hit ass down somewhere…trying to justify his lust for non-sista’s. Pleaz!!! Real black men everywhere need to call this fake ass wanna be knowledge kicking nigga out, for saying that dumb shit in the first place about sista’s when he doesn’t have the credibility to speak on the shit in the first place. How is he, on one hand going to demand sista’s get their shit together and then on the other hand actively seek out non-sista’s as a personal preference. Nigga pleaz!!! Get your shit together first before you go calling out sista’s. What do you expect from Sista’s anyway Polow the clown…when you are telling the sista’s to their face you prefer non-sista’s at times just because. Get the fuck outta here wit that bullshit. I got a suggestion for you Polow—try dating sista’s exclusively before you start kicking your bullshit knowledge on how to save the black race. Get your own shit together nigga. I got mine together, you fake ass nigga!!!!!!!!

No man is head of my household. What gives a man the right to be head of it? What, aside from what the bible says, is the justification. Remember…the bible is written by a man. It is supposed to be biased.

285 Foxxy

I’m sitting here like I need to set my alarm clock. When I see that many posts I just throw my hands up in the air like damn…I gotta read all these? LOL.

Submission to a black man means a black man wants to have another women when he feels like it, stay out all night, don’t take you out unless you beg him to, use your money to do what he wants to do.

@290.. The Bible was written through inspriation by means of God’s Holy Spirit..

(2 Timothy 3:16-17)  All Scripture is inspired of God and beneficial for teaching, for reproving, for setting things straight, for disciplining in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be fully competent, completely equipped for every good work.

LOL…. FYI

Allegedly…..What is the justification of men being superior?

Pardon my typo “Inspiration “

Gotta add some more to this horrific display of ignorance……As a female consumer who buys alot of music, I will never ever purchase another CD, no matter the artist, if Polow the ‘A**wipe’ is involved. I personally don’t care how many artists and CD’s that might effect, or how much I might like that artist, this madness has got to stop. I will ‘bootleg’ a CD that Polow has touched, I just won’t buy it. Period. I believe in supporting the institution of music, but will not support the producers and artists that sh*t on us as women and expect us to buy their product with our hard earned money from being ’strong’. I will bootleg the h*ll out of Polow the ‘A**wipe’ and anyone who feartures him as a producer on their project and/or song. As we all know you can find this information right on the web before you even buy it…..plus it helps to know the types of artists that Polow the ‘A**wipe’ works with typically. As of right now, I have made a promise to myself based on this whole fiasco, I will nolonger support those in music that feel the need to throw around ‘N*ggas’ and ‘B**ches’ …..never mind the fact that he tried to say Ladies and Gentlemen in the same sentence. Don’t matter, if Don Imus can get it, so can Polow…….He so busy looking at other folk as N*ggas and B**ches , he don’t realize that the rest of the WORLD sees ALL OF US that way, there is no distinction, if you are black than you are a N*gga or a B**ch, that’s what they see over in Germany. Why??? Because that’s what we call ourselves and each other, then we get mad when other people call use that….then we sound even more ignorant trying to rationalize why we can do it, buth THEY cannot. But I digress…Polow will never see another dime, and I work in music, and in dance, and I will make it my business to see that my colleagues and clients follow suit in not supporting this idiot. Oh, and let me add, this idiot had the nerve to mention Quincy Jones…Quincy Jones can READ music notes, can PLAY a plethora of instruments, can COMPOSE music, can LEAD an orchestra, can PRODUCE all types of music:Jazz, Hip Hop, Pop, International, R&B, and Classical. Further more, Quincy Jones was wise enough not to keep his personal life private, including his preference in women. Everyone knew he prefered white women, but he didn’t go putting that on blast, or rubbing it in the faces of his black audience. Quincy spent more time perfecting himself publically as a musician, composer and producer. A**wipe could learn alot from Quincy, but quite frankly they don’t make’em like that no more, Polow will be just another producer with a big a** mouth from Atlanta. You’ve been exposed!!!

@288–don’t be so quick to think along your line of thinking, women around the world are no longer content to stand behind a man and be the passive one accepting anything kicked their way as long as the marriage is intact- as someone had said the Americanized or Western thinking of Women Power has spread, which is a good thing on many levels

As for submission, most ladies will gladly submit to a MAN who IS a MAN…meaning taking care of them, being faithful, loyal,honest,caring,love, all the words associated with love and commitment to your spouse and family. And as others have said submission does not mean walking behind the man with your head bow ready to be his footstool, it means to LET him take the lead, ALLOW him to feel like he is the king of his house. GUIDE him. BUT received that submission attitude from ANY woman, that MAN must first know his role as the MAN of the house..

ok thanks all I’m going to say- I said plenty in the other Polow post.

#296

I’m with you on that!

@ 294 …The Bible does not use the word “Superior” GOD is superior … Not a man..
LOL

NINI you are right, i think the first thing black people need to do is PUT DOWN THE BIBLE, KORAN or whatever else and start looking into thier history before christianity and islam. There is no shortage of black churches, bibles or scripture quoting yet things are getting WORSE for blacks and the world for that matter not better. The longer we clutch to the MAN MADE BIBLE and believe whats in there instead of going inside and finding your innerself and communicating with your higher power and using the bible as a reference if you choose, not an end all be all, we will always be lost and confused. Spirituality has been around since THE ORIGINAL BLACK MAN AND WOMAN populated this earth, THERE IS NOTHING THE BIBLE can tell you about your creator and yourself that you cant find out by tapping into your OWN SOUL by meditation, cleansing your system of this poison food, drugs and chemicals and the constant quest for knowlege and wisdom. It AMAZES me how the very BLACK PEOPLE who were forced into CHRISTIANITY except it the most and refuse to go back beyond the 2,000 years THEY SAY we are in to find out the truth. PEOPLE HAVE BEEN IN TOUCH WITH THIER CREATOR FOR MORE THAN 6,000 YEARS BEFORE THE BIBLE WAS EVEN A THOUGHT! STOP believing what anybody and everybody tells you for the fear of not getting into heaven because you didnt accept JEZUS. Religion will KEEP you trapped, SPIRITUALITY will set you free.

@ 286 - On POINT!!!!

You all are talking of women being submissive and a man leading the house. No one has explained the justification of why this should be so? And #297…I will not gladly submit. I do partnerships, not monarchies

@noeatingheretonight…. I concur… How is your day coming along????
People are so confused about the submissive word …

MALLATO:

I can tell you i caught the spirit of the Lord and write anything and pass it on as Gospel. Really.

Anonymity. I completely agree!

I agree with Polow.
Generally speaking, black women are wack.
Most aren’t educated. Most are ghetto with misbehaved children. Most don’t even take the time to read. Therefore they cannot speak very well. Most act like they know everything when clearly they don’t…so loud and so quick to intimidate, but will never humbled. A very unkempt group of people. And most have the nerve to hate Oprah and C. Rice for rising above their common standards. I would be ashamed if I them.
And to make matters worse, most blame it all on white people saying slavery kept them down. SO pathetic are their excuses when they don’t even care to educate themselves and improve their families. Such a waist.

keyana that’s the point polow wants the woman to do right by him not the other way around, which is fine but relationships should be 50/50. But, might I ask who polow is talking about? He puts all of black america into this one category, and there are some black males that are sitting up here agreeing when he’s clearly calling you ignorant. He’s Some of you might really want to go read willie lynch before you rush and agree with him. Black women are apart of a cycle that he doesn’t like, well guess what that is his opinion it’s not a fact. Us as black women could give a damn about the king of white girls title prince or whatever he’s calling himself these days women stick up for women since he wants to take the color out. If black women shit ain’t together then it’s because we got big black bastards always slapping us down. To me it starts with the mother and father which in the end he already told us about his. (laughs) When I think of Oprah I don’t see single. I see rich, strong and caring. Before I think about her being single. What he was saying was not factual it was opinionated don’t let a fool, fool you. He needs attention. Last but not least most black women weren’t taught to not trust men they were taught to not trust anyone (just kidding)!!! We are actually just not taking any chances on a bullshit ass man. Life’s already fucked up ass it is, to depend on a sorry as man (what some find out late) is actually what makes us stupid (and) If you are not sorry it doesn’t apply to you. This is exactly what Willie Lynch wanted for us to think the White way is the RIght way. But in reality what they aren’t telling you that there is no colored way. There are ways but no Colored ways.GOt him thinking he has the right talk about anyone. The FOOL in mean FrEAK just wants ATTENtion. SO don’t pay attention to the dumb ass who says that it’s not about color when he puts black females all out there. If he wasn’t wrong the first time why did he reply. IDIOT!!!!!!

“Black males don’t bond. And they still hunger for it–that is why some of them find solace in gangs.

Damn, you hit the nail on the head with that statement!!!
I’ve said that for so long. Men today fail to realize that they need each other to teach each other. Yes, they are bonding, just the wrong way. Today’s version of bonding is dapping each other when a young sister walks by with her ass hanging out instead of admonishing her, throwing dollar bills in unison at the strip clubs, co-signing that this one is a bitch and a hoe because she’s not trying to holla, acting like it’s cool for ya boy to have five baby mommas … all that and then some.

A lot of these Black boys have no one to teach them right from wrong so if someone has never taught the right way to do something, how can they teach someone else the right way? Polow is confused because he believes that it was a woman’s responsibility to teach a boy how to be a man. NEVER GONNA HAPPEN. So it all goes back to what I was saying initially.

This is not about it being the Black woman’s fault. Women have certainly contributed to the problem but the problem didn’t start with a Black woman. I think what it all boils down to is that when the Black man started leaving the home, started creating multiple homes and started losing respect for the home, it all went to pot. You can’t have a solid structure without a solid foundation. Black men alongside the Black women have to become the foundation again or this will never change.

@NINI (290) Because the Bible tell us so… If the Man is a good head of the household what is wrong with that???

Exiting……………………….

@here’s the deal

I must inquire…are you a black man?

# 306….and black men are what???? You CANNOT generalize. Of the entire population, most of the women on welfare are white. Black women are more likely to graduate with advanced degrees. Black men are more likely to be unemployed and unemployable. Get your facts straight. And please dont take this as male bashing. I am talking liklihood, not generalizations.

@ 296 -

Mr Jones, has been Nothing but as Asset to the Music Industry.
I really can’t remember reading ANYWHERE where Mr. Jones stepped all over Black Women, to justify himself as a Producer or Anything Else.

I really don’t think,

that he would Appreciate you Smearing his Good Name,

with your: I haven’t Done anything that will go Down in History:

but, RUN MY MOUTH!

So Please: don’t try to PIMP he either, to justify your ignorance (lack of knwoledge).

Out of ALL that Mr. Jones has Accomplished: if that’s the “Best Reason” that

you can find to look up to him as a Role Model:

That’s a Shame, because you Could be STRIVING FOR, so much more!

Here’s the deal

Polow was hating on oprah you smart ass!!!!!!! How about that for the smart and above thou african american male not you (polow) the one you’re obviously defending

@ 296 - Forgot to SAY: I agree!!!!!!!!!!

Please do exit…Whats right with men being the head of the household. If I pay the bills and make sure everyone in my house is cared for, why in the world would I say that a man is the head of OUR house? Its completely illogical

Why are you guys tripping over poster 306 comment? That fool could barely string that half -ass paragraph together! Oh please , the wow factor tactics are getting old honey.

Mallato I agree with you . I love your POV

Thanks Ms_mac I agree 100 % . I feel the same way . I just see a lot of sisters saying submission equate being a doormat . I feel if you are in a healthy relationship and all is well , why not submitt?

@275

Who dis? My old buddy bi-polar/Louise? Lol, why you keep bothering me for? This is getting ridiculous, lmao. People harass me and then when they get cut, they accuse me of making everything biblical.

First off sis, you SERIOUSLY need to be instructed in the Word of the Lord. I’m reading that Bible that you’re obviously not. You are a feminist and feminism and the Word of the Lord don’t mix. That’s why you’ve confounded yourself.

In Prov 5:23 it’s referring to the mindset that one gets when they engage in an interracial relationship, something that you believe in if I remember correctly. Read it for yourself please, from Prov 5:15-23. That’s why it says, “he shall die without instruction….and he shall go astray”, because these women of the other races make these black men soft and have them worshipping their gods and their culture (Deut 7:1-5, Joshua 23:11-13, Esther 10:2-4, Neh 13:23-27, I Kings 11:1-11, etc.). Stop it sis, you don’t know what you’re talking about.

The Bible does not say take fast hold of “her” instruction. Stop lying on the Bible. As a matter of fact it tells the woman that she is not supposed to teach (Numbers 27:16,17, Prov 8:4, I Cor 14:34,35, ITim 2:11-15, etc.). Stop trying to “usurp authority”, lol.

Now in regards to the black woman being empowered by the caucasian man, that one question shows that you love this world which the scripture tells you that you shouldn’t (I John 2:15). The Bible speaks expressly that the women would be recognized as the leaders in our community in the last days and that it would be indicative of how destroyed we are (Isa 3:12). Don’t beef with me, take it up with the Most High. It also tells us that the women would put their spirit into these jobs and corporate America (Jer 31:22). That’s why it says, “…a NEW thing in the earth, a woman shall compass a man.” The reason why you and many other sisters praise the white man is because the scriptures tell us that you woud worship him because he has the power (Isa 32:9-12, Ezek 16:25, Jer 4:30,31, Hos 2:5-8). Unfortunately for many black women, when all hell breaks loose in these last days in the streets of America, you will have your spirits broken because you’ve invested so much in this society (Mic 7:10).

You need to be taught sis, and stop acting so damn proud (Prov 16:18).

oh no he didn’t. the white girls can have this ignorant mofo

He can try to rectify his sad situation until the cows clown dance……you were high on yourself when you made those comments,.what happened huh?…you no longer want to stand by your convictions?..NO….know why? Because now you see black women could give less than a slow comfortable screw if you were feeling us or not..now you wanna instant replay?…Don’t come with that… “I love ALL women” now…Punk!……..Ya feel white women is what you need to make you feel whole…KING?..(rolls eyes)..Well do you!….culture respecting black women were offended by what you stated, and we have acknowledged that!..I will forever celebrate the REAL black man and notice him for who HE is!….In my book?. You only get 1 time to make a good 1st impression….you told us how you felt the first go round…if that wasn’t how you felt in your heart…you would have NEVER said it….# 8 called it….you tryin to save record sales…..black $ goes a long way huh?…… yep, that’s what I heard.

@Mallato-I’m dodging a request- why should I do it when the person who should do is never avail..hmmmm? hahaha.

And I don’t get it either, it’s cool for Beyonce to sing about catering to you…but you can’t see that, that’s what submission is. Man works a full time job, does all the necessarily house chores that you have ASKED of him (I may ask him to do it but essentially I’m telling him), ask YOU for PERMISSION to go play poker on a Friday night- if I say NO I want you home- it’s sorry man not tonight-he doesn’t call me out because he did it one time and I told him not to do that again, helps with the Kids-homework and bedtime stories, makes sure that all of YOUR needs are met-use your imagination, won’t make any plans WITHOUT FIRST consulting YOU -family trips, trips with other couples or a night with other couple, WON”T buy any big items without FIRST ASKING YOU. We talk through it and decide TOGETHER. So on Sunday morning he likes to have grits nice and creamy, bacon, sausage, ham, OK- I will get up in the morning and cook it for him or he likes fried ham sandwiches for lunch so some mornings I get up and fry him some ham and pack his lunch for him- some may call it submission others may call it catering to him, but I will do it because not only because I know that he likes it but because HE makes me HAPPY, just like he’ll cut a slice of chocolate cake ,warm it for a sec in the microwave and put a scoop of ice cream on it for me because he knows that I like it and I make him HAPPY. When are we’re in a public, I let him take the lead- I support him. In all of this the key word is you - ALLOW- him to take the lead.

Oh I work too, I’m not about the whole housewife bit that’s why he helps with the chores.

We’re not perfect, we fight too, but we work it out because we respect and love each other.

I know a rambled a bit but I’m trying to give examples.

* I forgot to stress that He’s handling his responsibilities to me and home.

ok I’m really going to stop now because I’m going through deja vu again…

LMAO @ the Judah STANS! Here you are, on another post licking every inch of his crack! Your tongue isn’t tired yet?

This post is directed to Mut (Mullato) and that Egg roll girl (NoEating…)

No offense though.

I am so tired of listening to people who do not have any sense . Can you just put post up of people that actually matter or even have something relevant to say. I am soooo tired of ignorance running rampant just because you got a few extra duckets to your name. Can Polow keep his damn mouth shut - HE is making himself and our community look completely ignorant and playing into stereotypes. Just SHUT UP and produce and stay behind the scenes where you should stay and neva, eva, eva, eva come back out again!

ms_mac said:
“You can’t have a solid structure without a solid foundation.Black men alongside the Black women have to become the foundation again or this will never change.”

And i agree 100%

Quoting you:

*****You are a feminist (YOU)

- WRONG, I’m NOT! Very Submissive: My Husbands A GREAT MAN!!!!!

*****Feminism and the Word of the Lord don’t mix. (YOU)

-WRONG, The Lord, mixes with Nothing: He is the Same! Yesterday, Today & Tomorrow: FOREVER!

******That’s why you’ve confounded yourself. (YOU)

-WRONG, I not confounded, confused, NOR Double Minded (lukewarm).

******In Prov 5:23 it’s referring to the mindset that one gets when they engage in an interracial relationship, something that you believe in if I remember correctly. Read it for yourself please, from Prov 5:15-23. That’s why it says, “he shall die without instruction….and he shall go astray”, because these women of the other races make these black men soft and have them worshipping their gods and their culture (Deut 7:1-5, Joshua 23:11-13, Esther 10:2-4, Neh 13:23-27, I Kings 11:1-11, etc.).

-WRONG, Definitely don’t Know where this Translation came From.
Is this YOUR Interpretation? IThis is the FIRST Time, I’ve ever seen this version.
Did you get that from 1 of the 135 Biblical Translations on Biblegateway?

*****Stop it sis, you don’t know what you’re talking about.

-WRONG, take a look at Bob Yandian - Proverbs

*****The Bible does not say take fast hold of “her” instruction. Stop lying on the Bible. As a matter of fact it tells the woman that she is not supposed to teach (Numbers 27:16,17, Prov 8:4, I Cor 14:34,35, ITim 2:11-15, etc.). Stop trying to “usurp authority”, lol.

- WRONG AGAIN: It says HUSBAND, HUSBAND & NOT to SPEAK in Church.
She is to ask her HUSBAND. NOT her Boyfriend —OR— any ole man on A POST.

*****Stop lying on the Bible
WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!
We can Never lie on the Bible. We can ONLY Lie on Ourselves…

*****Don’t beef with me
WRONG, I am that woman who can Simply Say what she Means.
I do not have to BEEF to Prove my Point.

*****Now in regards to the black woman being empowered by the caucasian man, that one question shows that you love this world which the scripture tells you that you shouldn’t (I John 2:15). The Bible speaks expressly that the women would be recognized as the leaders in our community in the last days and that it would be indicative of how destroyed we are (Isa 3:12). Don’t beef with me, take it up with the Most High. It also tells us that the women would put their spirit into these jobs and corporate America (Jer 31:22). That’s why it says, “…a NEW thing in the earth, a woman shall compass a man.” The reason why you and many other sisters praise the white man is because the scriptures tell us that you woud worship him because he has the power (Isa 32:9-12, Ezek 16:25, Jer 4:30,31, Hos 2:5-8). Unfortunately for many black women, when all hell breaks loose in these last days in the streets of America, you will have your spirits broken because you’ve invested so much in this society (Mic 7:10).

-WRONG, please cite some References Please.
That is if you want to Prove your Point & NOT Just Talk. I’m SORRY: Beef!

Surely you Don’t Expect for me to Take you at Your Word…..
That’s Part of The Problem…
Men Want to Be BELIEVED without Question..

Maybe, I hope that’s not an Issue/Beef:
Because I would like some Sufficient Evidence, Despite just YOUR WORD. Is IT?

JUST SO THAT YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I DO

***RESPECT YOU*** AS A MAN:

TEACH ME!

I AM WILLING TO LEARN, AND LISTEN:

BUT PLEASE: GIVE ME SOMETHING TO BELIEVE:

OTHER THAN YOUR MERE WORDS!!!!!!

@324 - Ass kisser- you really don’t know do you?…DON’T EVER call me a JUDAH STAN…EVER…YOU have mistaken. He and I are on opposite sides of the fence, shit we’re on different worlds. You’re right, I’m the egg-roll girl and he hates ever race but Blacks so you need to correct yourself. I’m no bigot.

I don’t know if you did it on purpose but that’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard today.

oh wow i see that it is really goings on on here, huh?

okay i’m not tryin to funny or anything but this is the second day that we have had hard hitting conversation regarding a “real” topic. We need to be opening our own chat room and discussing this stuff because our discussion was cut very short on yesterday at 303 and here we are at almost 350…

I’m sure Polow is seceretly checking out concreteloop, looking at our comments. LOL.

@324 - actually come to think of it, he hates all non-black races AND blacks who don’t agree with him. hahahaha..ok I need to get back to work. it’s too busy today to get into a CL discussion.

@ 306-
I never thought the word “most” was a generalization. But if you think it is, it just proves my theory that black people don’t read. (Assuming that you are black and how angry you are at my post). And as far as black men, they are no better. The most I see are either Thugs or flairing gay men who twirl around everywhere. So pathetic.

@310
It shouldn’t matter what race I am. But I guess in today’s world, it does. Anyway I’m an Asian woman (who loves CL, by the way), 24-years-old, NYU grad and in Columbia University for my MBA. No kids, no sexual abuse. The list goes on. Question, If I were black, would my statements make a difference? Would I be more “real”?

@315-
You’re probably black. Plus, my comments go so far past what Polow said and into a world you obviously know nothing about. Believe me, I am not alone in thinking this. So please, don’t be so quick to yell and strike fear into people. Try ti listen, learn, and change.

http://www.studiesinthewo...d.org/submissive_wife.htm
THE SUBMISSIVE WIFE, MODEL WOMAN AND MODERN WOMAN

This seems to be the place where some controversy enters. Submit? What does that mean? According to Webster’s Dictionary to submit means “to present or refer to others for decision, consideration, etc. To yield to the action, control power, etc. of another or others, give in; also, to subject or allow to be subjected to treatment, analysis, etc. of some sort: often used reflexively. To be submissive is having or showing a tendency to submit without resistance; docile; yielding.”

Does that mean that we wives are to sit in the corner and never say a word? That we can’t make any major decisions in my marriage? That we had become a second-class citizen? That is not the way women of today are encouraged or taught, at home, school or in the workplace, to act. This is the day and age of Women’s Rights. Women can do and make decisions as well as anyone else can. So why is it that in one of the most important areas of life, women have been directed to be submissive? And why do “modern women” and the secular world make such a fuss over the use of the word “submit?” The issue may or may not be life or death, but the importance of maintaining a healthy and happy marriage may be at stake.

Certainly we see many examples in the Bible of women that were influential with their husbands and others, such as Sarah, Rachel, Deborah, and Esther to name a few. As indicated in Jamieson, Faussset & Brown’s, Commentary on the Whole Bible, (Zondervan, 1961) in the Book of Proverbs, we are supplied with a proverbial wisdom commended by the seal of divine inspiration. God has condescended to become our teacher on the practical affairs belonging to all the relations of life. He has adapted His instruction to the plain and unlettered, and presented, in this striking and impressive method, the great principles of duty to Him and to our fellow men. To the prime motive of all right conduct and the fear of God, are added all lawful and subordinate incentives, such as honor, interest, love, fear, and natural affection. In Proverbs 31:10-31, we find a very clear description given of the “model woman.” Let’s look at that.

Prov 31 (NKJV) {10} Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth far above rubies. {11} The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. {12} She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. {13} She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. {14} She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar. {15} She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants. {16} She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. {17} She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms. {18} She perceives that her merchandise good, And her lamp does not go out by night. {19} She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle. {20} She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy. {21} She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household clothed with scarlet. {22} She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing fine linen and purple. {23} Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land. {24} She makes linen garments and sells , And supplies sashes for the merchants. {25} Strength and honor her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come. {26} She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue the law of kindness. {27} She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. {28} Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband , and he praises her: {29} “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.” {30} Charm deceitful and beauty passing, But a woman fears the LORD, she shall be praised. {31} Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates.

This certainly doesn’t sound like a woman who sat in the corner and said or did nothing. In fact, no matter what the time, this woman would be considered highly successful. The key here seems to be her ability to not only be an ideal wife and mother, but also a successful business woman. This would be a worthy example to anyone.

Let’s look at this Scripture more closely. Who can find a “virtuous” wife? What is “virtuous?” According to Webster’s Dictionary it is “having, or characterized by, moral virtue; righteous. Chaste, said of a woman.” The Companion Bible, (Kregel, 1990) describes it as coming from the Hebrew word “hayil” which means strong in all moral qualities. The English use of this word limits it to one kind of excellence. The meaning of the Hebrew is wider. In these verses, we see a wife who is virtuous, industrious, domesticated, generous, strong, honorable, wise and godly. She displays all these qualities as she performs tasks associated with being a wife, mother, manager of her household and staff, seamstress, cook, landowner, farmer, merchant, and community leader. She not only gives attention to her own family and household staff but also provides for the poor. From her husband’s perspective, she has strong moral qualities, is priceless, trustworthy, and an asset. In any time or circumstances this person would be considered an over-achiever.

Many women today are involved in the many of the same activities. All be it, times have changed and we have many modern conveniences and technology to assist in these activities. However, there is still a substantial commitment of time and effort required.

So how could it be that the biblical “model woman” looks so much like the modern woman? Maybe it’s because a “modern” woman is a woman who reflects the times in which she lives. She is a person having ideas, beliefs and standards of her times. So while the model woman was modern for her time, in today’s world this same woman would be considered modern in ideas with some very high beliefs and moral standards. Isn’t it strange, that the model woman defined so many centuries ago is still a representative figure for today’s world. So look at the scripture again and tell me if the moral qualities described are a bad thing. As a Christian they would seem to be right on target.

i agree w/ him…people call me an asshole cause i speak the truth ALOT!!! but the fact of the matter is, is that people don’t wanna hear he truth, they just wanna hear what will make them feel good or the generic bullshit they’ve been taught. ya’ll gotta realize that the truth is never pleasant.

NEVER!!!

1. I should have felt the door to see if it was hot on the other side before I just plunged into this post, damn the flames are high this afternoon!

2. Polow is not even worth commenting on.

Me as a black women will invest in my family and maybe charity. Other than that the white people do most of the investing so i gather they will have all of the problems on that end

LMAO, what’s with all the exclamation points, sis. Like I said, many of you sisters are exactly what Polow Da Don said you are and that’s why you’re so angry. Now you challenged me to a scriptural debate, I gave you the scriptures and all you could say is “WRONG!” as if you have the faintest idea what you’re talking about. Now if I’m wrong you’re supposed to cite scriptures to prove that I’m wrong (Isa 8:20, I Pet 4:11, etc.) You can’t because you don’t know anything (Prov 9:13). Who the hell is Bob Yandian? Lol, you too funny. When you say, “please cite references”, what you really mean is, “are there any books that the white man wrote that corroborate your breakdown of the scriptures…”. You can’t go to not one of those scriptures that I cited and disprove me. You’re shocked that I could actually back up what I say.

What “translation” are you talking about. I’m talking about the King James 1611, lol. Like I said, read the biblical verses I quoted and they all teach against interracial marriage. There is no other way to “interpret” it. In regards to a woman teaching in I Tim 2:11-15 it says, “I suffer not a woman to teach.”. Interpret that how you want. Please once again, if I’m just talking then it behooves you to disprove my citations or provide some of your own in retort. This is why biblical debates are so long-winded, because you have people that don’t understand what they’re reading or just forsake scriptures or whole books of the Bible that don’t fit into their doctrine. Go ask Bob Yandian, lmao.

SO WHERE’S THE PROBLEM AND WHAT DO WE DO?

One must prepare for marriage by giving it serious forethought. Marriage should not be a spur-of-the-moment act. You need to ask yourself at least two things, (1) What can I give (contribute) and (2) Am I willing to commit myself fully to making this a successful relationship?

One of the problems today seems to lie in the fact that we have placed a negative connotation on the word “submissive.” We associate the word with relationships that are dominant, dictatorial, servile, and many other negative terms. This then coupled with a woman’s past training to be responsible and self-reliant begins to cause problems.

So a second key may then be in how we communicate and interact with each other. Do we have two people who feel that their “status or pride” is being threatened to assume the roles that they have been given? Is there a need on the part of either of both of the team to exercise some actions that firmly establish their role in this relationship? Does the husband feel a need to exercise control to demonstrate his position? Does the wife respond with acts of resistance or rebellion to assert an “equal” position in the partnership? Do we give more respect and consideration to those outside our marriage than we do to our own spouse? Are we making an effort to maintain the relationship that God described?

Any good leader or successful person knows that one of the key elements to success is communications. And communications has two aspects; one is speaking and the other is listening. Major companies today spend millions of dollars for advice of matters involving finance, law, technology and other matters. Why would a husband not want to take a marriage, that is worth much more than any major corporation, and “rule” without advice and counsel? By the same token, why would a wife not want to be a “helpmate” to achieve a successful partnership?

A successful leader also knows that you cannot operate without regard for your co-workers or followers. Leaders must delegate some of the tasks and responsibilities to achieve the objectives. When objectives are met then reward and/or praise are the order of the day. We all feel better when someone takes the time to recognize our efforts. That goes for our efforts relative to our marriages as well as those in other venues. Also with the giving of authority to perform tasks and responsibilities there is accountability. I for one worked for many years before I was married. I had a very responsible position in my field of work and had authority over several thousand employees and major financial matters. I also made all of my own decisions for many years as a single woman. But despite a successful career everyone is responsible to someone. There was always someone to whom I was accountable.

We all know that ultimately we are accountable to God. But think about your life today, inside or outside the home, and you will find more times than not that you are answerable to someone for many of the things that you do. If we are accountable to strangers, why then is it a problem to be answerable to your “partner?” This is the person that you have proclaimed to love and trust. If we have time to take counsel from others in the workplace and outside the home, why not then from our spouses?

Here then is another key issue, what is “trust.” You will note in Proverbs 31:11, that “the heart of her husband safely trusts her.” What is trust? According to Webster’s Dictionary , trust is “a firm belief or confidence in the honesty, integrity, reliability, justice, etc. of another person or thing; faith; reliance.” The Hebrew word is butach (Strong’s H982). Meaning to trust, to confide, to place hope and confidence in any one. There is much in a marriage that involves trust. Think about it. The husband in Proverbs who safely trusted “will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” In response, “her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” To trust means that you have yielded to someone. But who better and more worthy than your husband? And husbands, a little praise now and again would not hurt.

When we married, we entered into a “contract.” That contract was an agreement between two people detailing the obligations and terms of the union. While all the specific terms of that contract are not written on a sheet of paper, it is legal and binding, both in the eyes of the civil law and God’s law. Most of us stood before our family and friends and promised that we would act in a certain manner and treat the other person in a certain manner. Among many of the things that were promised, most of us promised to “honor and cherish.” Do we understand what that means?

To “cherish” means to hold dear, feel or show love for, to take good care of, protect. Sounds like the direction in Colossians 3:19, for husbands to love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. Also Ephesians 5:25-33, husbands are admonished to “love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her” and ” husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies, he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.”

Likewise, to “honor” means “high regard or great respect, given, received or enjoyed. High rank or position, distinction, dignity.” Is this not what is called for in the Scriptures that indicate that “the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the Church”(Eph 5:23), that “wives submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord” (Col 3:18), and “just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything” (Eph 5:24)?

Maybe it is time to get back to the answers we have to the two questions that we needed to consider before we entered into marriage. If we were truthful in our answers, we have committed ourselves to making this union work. We made a covenant and to that end we must be a person of our word. In this modern age, it is easy to get out of many commitments simply by saying, “I’ve changed my mind,” or “I just don’t feel that way about you any more.” Words are often cheap.

Would you like Christ to “change His mind” or “just not feel that way about you any more?”

CONCLUSION

It seems that we have come full circle. We have walked through God’s creation of the husband and wife relationship and his designation of the hierarchy of that union. We have touched upon the possible hurdle that must be cleared by the “modern woman” in clearly understanding what the submissive role of the wife entails. We have looked at the stigmatism associated with the designation of the wife’s role as submissive. We have looked at the description of the “model woman” given in Proverbs 31 and concluded that it closely is aligned to the attributes that most “modern woman” of today would subscribe to. We have looked at a couple of key elements to achieving success in any endeavor. And we have looked at two promises that were a part of the verbal marriage contract that we entered into on the day we were married that could help us in being comfortable and satisfied in the submissive wife role.

So what can we conclude? First, is that there probably isn’t any opposing positions between a submissive wife and a modern woman. That the fuss raised by the secular world is more flap than substance. Second, that the proverbial wisdom, provided through the inspiration of God, relative to the “model woman” is as applicable today as it was at the time it was written. That the joint effort of both the husband and the wife to operate a successful partnership has many subordinate incentives.

And finally, it is very easy when we enter marriage to see only a smooth road and the bright side of every thing. There is nothing wrong with that. But we need to enter marriage with a commitment that we are going to put all our efforts into making the union what God intended it to be. We must put our trust in each other and give this partnership the required effort; remembering that this relationship was modeled after Christ’s relationship with the Church.

For in the end we must be prepared to stand in front of God and be held accountable for our efforts toward conducting our marriages in the manner HE prescribed.

Me as a black women will invest in my family and maybe charity. Other than that the white people do most of the investing so i gather they will have all of the problems on that end

Boycott

“Fallen” (Zone 4 remix) also known as (Polow da Don mix) by Mýa (featuring Chingy)
“Back in the Mud” (Zone 4 remix) also known as (Urban mix) by Bubba Sparxxx (featuring Sean Paul of YoungBloodz, Pastor Troy & Rich Boy)

“Party Starter” by Will Smith 1
“Pimpin’ All Over the World” by Ludacris (featuring Bobby Valentino) 1
“Break a Nigga Off” by Snoop Dogg, Gangsta Boo, Lil’ Fate & Rich Boy
“DJ Play a Love Song” by Jamie Foxx (featuring Twista) 1
“Superstar” by Keyshia Cole

“Baby Bend Over” by Field Mob
“London Bridge” by Fergie 1
“Buttons” by the Pussycat Dolls 1
“Glamorous” by Fergie (featuring Ludacris) 1
“Throw Some D’s” by Rich Boy (featuring Polow da Don) (co-production) 1
“Runaway Love” by Ludacris (featuring Mary J. Blige) 1
“Promise” by Ciara 1
“Bang It Up” by Ciara
“Blindfold Me” by Kelis featuring Nas 1
“Shake It” by Mýa
“Tears” by Lil Fizz (featuring Bobby Valentino)
“Where I’m From” by Young Argo (featuring Bow Wow)
“Lock Down” by Young Argo (featuring C-Bo)
“Let’s Be Real” by Jibbs (featuring J. Valentine)
“Bring It Back” by Jibbs
“Straight Jack” by Chilli (featuring Missy Elliott)

“Get Up” (remix) by Ciara
“Promise” (Go and Get Your Tickets mix) by Ciara & R. Kelly
“Like This” by Kelly Rowland (featuring Eve) 1
“Get Buck” by Young Buck 1
“StreetLove” by Lloyd
“Role Models” by Rich Boy (featuring David Banner and Attitude)
“Crying Out for Me” by Mario
“Boy Looka Here” by Rich Boy 1
“Good Things” by Rich Boy (featuring Polow da Don & Keri Hilson) 1
“Touch That Ass” by Rich Boy
“On the Regular” by Rich Boy
“Lost Girls” by Rich Boy (featuring Keri Hilson & Rock City) (co-production)
“Ghetto Rich” by Rich Boy (featuring John Legend)
“Let’s Get This Paper”/”Balla Life” [hidden track] by Rich Boy
“Assurance” by Bone Thugs-N-Harmony (iTunes bonus track)
“Next” by Gia Farrell
“Hot Sauce” by Stat Quo
“Ringtone” by R. Kelly
“Real Playa Like” by Fabolous (featuring Lloyd)
“Whatever U Like” by Nicole Scherzinger (featuring T.I.) 1
“When I See U” (remix) by Fantasia (featuring Polow da Don & Young Jeezy) 1
“Fantasy ” by Eve (featuring Robin Thicke)
“Breathe ” by Big P
“I Like Love” by R. Kelly
“Back in Da Club” by Janet Jackson
i15 - Lost In Love feat. Polow Da Don
Hot Rod - Bump My Shit 1

Me as a black women will invest in my family and maybe charity. Other than that the white people do most of the investing so i gather they will have all of the problems on that end

Boycott

“Fallen” (Zone 4 remix) also known as (Polow da Don mix) by Mýa (featuring Chingy)
“Back in the Mud” (Zone 4 remix) also known as (Urban mix) by Bubba Sparxxx (featuring Sean Paul of YoungBloodz, Pastor Troy & Rich Boy)

“Party Starter” by Will Smith 1
“Pimpin’ All Over the World” by Ludacris (featuring Bobby Valentino) 1
“Break a Nigga Off” by Snoop Dogg, Gangsta Boo, Lil’ Fate & Rich Boy
“DJ Play a Love Song” by Jamie Foxx (featuring Twista) 1
“Superstar” by Keyshia Cole

“Baby Bend Over” by Field Mob
“London Bridge” by Fergie 1
“Buttons” by the Pussycat Dolls 1
“Glamorous” by Fergie (featuring Ludacris) 1
“Throw Some D’s” by Rich Boy (featuring Polow da Don) (co-production) 1
“Runaway Love” by Ludacris (featuring Mary J. Blige) 1
“Promise” by Ciara 1
“Bang It Up” by Ciara
“Blindfold Me” by Kelis featuring Nas 1
“Shake It” by Mýa
“Tears” by Lil Fizz (featuring Bobby Valentino)
“Where I’m From” by Young Argo (featuring Bow Wow)
“Lock Down” by Young Argo (featuring C-Bo)
“Let’s Be Real” by Jibbs (featuring J. Valentine)
“Bring It Back” by Jibbs
“Straight Jack” by Chilli (featuring Missy Elliott)

“Get Up” (remix) by Ciara
“Promise” (Go and Get Your Tickets mix) by Ciara & R. Kelly
“Like This” by Kelly Rowland (featuring Eve) 1
“Get Buck” by Young Buck 1
“StreetLove” by Lloyd
“Role Models” by Rich Boy (featuring David Banner and Attitude)
“Crying Out for Me” by Mario
“Boy Looka Here” by Rich Boy 1
“Good Things” by Rich Boy (featuring Polow da Don & Keri Hilson) 1
“Touch That Ass” by Rich Boy
“On the Regular” by Rich Boy
“Lost Girls” by Rich Boy (featuring Keri Hilson & Rock City) (co-production)
“Ghetto Rich” by Rich Boy (featuring John Legend)
“Let’s Get This Paper”/”Balla Life” [hidden track] by Rich Boy
“Assurance” by Bone Thugs-N-Harmony (iTunes bonus track)
“Next” by Gia Farrell
“Hot Sauce” by Stat Quo
“Ringtone” by R. Kelly
“Real Playa Like” by Fabolous (featuring Lloyd)
“Whatever U Like” by Nicole Scherzinger (featuring T.I.) 1
“When I See U” (remix) by Fantasia (featuring Polow da Don & Young Jeezy) 1
“Fantasy ” by Eve (featuring Robin Thicke)
“Breathe ” by Big P
“I Like Love” by R. Kelly
“Back in Da Club” by Janet Jackson
i15 - Lost In Love feat. Polow Da Don
Hot Rod - Bump My Shit 1

the man generates a very good point, a point that is shared by many men, and no they aren’t all “ignorant”. On the contrary, they’re actually men repeatedly scorned by women of their own race so through trial and error you do in some ways become an expert within your own right through your own experiences and encounters. Polow’s opinions are based around that and should be respected for that reason. Whether one fully agrees with him is something different entirely, but the logic behind a number of his statements cannot be argued with. Is Oprah a problem, in some ways as she’s done so much in an effort to uplift black women that i think she’s forgotten her brothers need help as well. As far as Polow’s take on her, he presents an interesting argument that i fully agree with as she delivers a powerful blow to the black family by not having one, and the message that delivers may seem trivial to some, but it may cause more harm than good in the long run. Black society as a whole has issues, one of those issues being the constant finger pointing which this whole issue seems to stem from, “black women do this and dats y black men are this way” which is retorted with “if black men did this , then we black women wouldn’t have to be some way”. Neither sides wants to grip the reigns of black society’s destiny TOGETHER, they both want to be totally in control and that’s what’s left us careening out of control. Polow’s not ignorant, just not properly equipped to fully speak on the issue, but he has a sense of what he’s talking about as do many of the folks who have posted here, but there is no one answer to our problems, but a collective one. One that we wont draw to until we become a COLLECTIVE again and stop focusing on being so independent and learn the value of being INTERDEPENDENT. Tearing down this one black brother for having an opinion doesn’t help matters, but only fuels just what he’s saying and fans the fire’s underneath the asses of every enraged black woman bothered by his statements. Polow opened his mouth and his foot went in, but i’m glad he opened his mouth if discussion can begin on where thoughts like his stem from and why he isn’t the only one who thinks that way.

and to #296, is one man really worth the hundreds who might ALSO suffer at the hands of your attempt to wound his pockets, pockets already lined with paper. N*ggas and B*tches exist in this world, always have and always will, and the problems they present should not be ignore anymore than their existence should be, and i think that’s where he was going when he made that statement. Stop being so blind in an effort to do damage to an institution you supposedly “love”, and open your eyes to what their undertones are trying to express.

…Polow is a beast in his own right and i support his music and his attempts at examining black society, no matter how failed…at least the brothers trying

THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP AS DESIGNED BY GOD

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”

“Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good. . . . ” Genesis 1:27 and 31 (NKJV)

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing. And obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22 (NKJV)

So the foundation was set for what has become one of the most lasting relationships known to man. The relationship of a man and woman, in marriage, was provided for by God almost from the beginning. We read in:

Genesis 2:18 and 24 (NKJV) And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” and then in verse {24} Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh;

God established marriage as a partnership (joined to become one flesh), but he created woman as a “helper.” So what is a partnership? Webster’s New World Dictionary, Third College Edition, (Prentice Hall, 1994) defines it as “the state of being a partner; participation. The relationship of partners; joint interest, association.” Two key words are “participation” and “joint interest.” The word “helper” is from the Hebrew “ezer” (Strong’s H5828) meaning to aid or help.

From this you can see that God never intended for a person to be cut off from a fulfilling relationship. According to the Scriptures the essence of marriage is togetherness or being “yoked” together (Mat. 19:5-6), working in unison. It allows for a spouse to complement, not compete with or suppress, the other.

This mutually dependent relationship is exemplified in the phrase “one flesh.”

Let’s move on further into this relationship when God speaks to Eve:

Gen 3:16 (NKJV) To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”

The word “rule” comes from the Hebrew word “mashal” (Strong’s H4910) which means (have, make to have) dominion, governor, rule, have power.

We can see this hierarchy reiterated in the New Testament.

1 Cor 11:3-10 (NKJV) But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman man, and the head of Christ God.

Ephesians 5: {22} Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord, {23} For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the Church; and He is the Savior of the body.

Colossians 3: {18} Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. {19} Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.

In Paul’s letter to the Ephesians, which has been theorized as originally intended to be a circular letter to the Asian churches, direction is given to both husbands and wives regarding their roles in this partnership.

Eph 5:23-24 (NKJV) For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. {24} Therefore, just as the Church is subject to Christ, so the wives to their own husbands in everything.

As in any organization, whether large or small, there is a need for a leader. In this case, that role has been clearly assigned to the husband.

To “rule over you” is not a license to operate like a dictatorship. In fact, this is clearly addressed in:

Eph 5:25-33 (NKJV) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, {26} that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, {27} that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. {28} So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. {29} For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord the church. {30} For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. {31} “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” {32} This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. {33} Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife that she respects husband.

1 Pet 3:7-12 (NKJV) {7} Husbands, likewise, dwell with with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. {8} Finally, all of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, tenderhearted, courteous; {9} not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing. {10} For “He who would love life And see good days, Let him refrain his tongue from evil, And his lips from speaking deceit. {11} Let him turn away from evil and do good; Let him seek peace and pursue it. {12} For the eyes of the LORD on the righteous, And His ears to their prayers; But the face of the LORD against those who do evil.”

To the wives, this statement:

1 Pet 3:1-6 (NKJV) {1} Wives, likewise, submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, {2} when they observe your chaste conduct by fear. {3} Do not let your adornment be outward; arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on apparel; {4} rather the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. {5} For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, {6} as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.

So what we have established so far is that (1) a marriage is a joining of two people as “one flesh” (partnership), (2) the husband being assigned the role as “head of the wife”(Eph 5:23), (3) the wife being directed to “submit” to her husband, and (4) both the husband and wife are directed to love one another, as Christ loves his church. Any problem so far? Sounds pretty clear.

And MOST is a generalization if your assumption is not true. As for your “theory” that black people do not read, clearly you do not know what “theory” means. “Theory” means that it is backed by peer reviewed research. Got that, NYU graduate

@324

Thank you brother/sis. They couldn’t ignore me if they wanted to. I give all credit to the Most High.

Black women aren’t scorned by black men?

PEOPLE ARE FUCKING HILARIOUS LET ME GET THIS STRAIGHT OPRAH IS NOT A ROLE MODEL BECAUSE SHE IS SUCCESSFUL AND NOT MARRIED-OKAY?

BLACK WOMEN ARE TOO STRONG AND DON’T KNOW HOW TO BE SUBMISSIVE-OKAY?

ACCORDING TO POLOW (WHATEVA HIS NAME IS) MANY MEN PREFER OTHER RACES OF WOMEN IN SPITE OF BLACK WOMEN-OKAY?

SO TELL ME THIS-IF IT’S A KNOWN FACT THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE PREDOMINANTLY THE HEAD OF THEIR HOUSEHOLD-MEANING THEY PAYING THE BILLS ALL BY THEIR DAMN SELVES W/O THE HELP OF A MAN

WOULDN’T IT BE WISE TO EDUCATE ONE SELF AND STRIVE TO BE SUCCESSFUL-SO THAT YOU WOULD INCREASE YOUR EARNING POTENTIAL?

AND SINCE WE ARE STRONG AND BLACK MEN DON’T LIKE US ANY DAMN WAY WHY WOULD WE BYPASS SUCCESS IN OUR CAREER FOR THE VERY SLIM CHANCE OF POSSIBLY GETTING MARRIED? REMEMBER STATISTICS SHOW THAT WE ARE LESS LIKELY TO GET MARRIED ANY WAYS

SO AT BEST BLACK WOMEN’S BEST BET IS TO LIVE THEIR LIVES AS THEY SEE FIT-THE POSSIBILITY OF FINDING A BLACK MAN TO SHARE YOUR LIFE IWITH MORE SO EVEN MARRY (BECAUSE THEY DON’T WANT OUR ASSES ANYWAYS) ARE VERY SLIM TO BEGIN WITH

I WOULD RATHER BE OPRAH ANY DAY-WHY IS IT PRESUMED THAT EVERY WOMAN EVEN WANTS TO BE MARRIED? BUT OF COURSE ACCORDING TO THIS NEGRO THAT SHOULD BE OUR ONLY ASPIRATION-

THERE IS NO PLEASING SOME BLACK MEN-IT’S OKAY FOR US TO BE STRONG WHEN YOUR SERVING TIME IN JAIL AND YOU NEED COMMENSARY, IT’S OKAY TO BE STRONG WHEN YOU DECIDE TO LEAVE AND WE HAVE TO PLAY MOMMY AND DADDY, AND IT’S OKAY TO BE STRONG AND PAY ALL THE BILLS WHEN THE “WHITE” MAN REFUSES TO GIVE YOU A JOB

THIS IS THE EXACT REASON WHY BLACK WOMEN RESIST BEING SUBMISSIVE BECAUSE IT’S USUALLY SOME SELF-SERVING NEGROE THAT WANTS A PASSIVE NON-QUESTIONING WOMAN-THAT HE CAN MANIPULATE AND USE UNTIL HE MOVES ON TO SOME WHITE WOMAN WITH MORE MONEY-WHO’LL NOT ONLY NOT QUESTION HIM BUT FUND HIS ASK LIKE THE BLACK NEGROE COLLEGE FUND WHILE HE’S RUNNING UP AND DOWN THE ROAD HOEING AT HER EXPENSE-

@ Spencer

LMAO at your silly-ass boycott list. Gimme a damn break….

@Bailey

Your anger is coming out sis, lol.

Wow, some of you a validating his veiws .

350! Dats all i wanted ta say:D

Okay Judah.

I would like to Debate, and learn something New from you if that’s possible.

But, I don’t want to Beef!

KJV 1611 - I do not see ANYTHING, about what YOU are saying.

The 1611 Version is OUT of Print, and has been since 1619, when all the previous four versions of the Bible were: CONFORMED to the version of 1611 or the Authorized Version.

If books written by White people being Cited as References, bothers you:
Use Additional references, from Scholars of African Descent. That’s Fine!

But what your saying/writing does not match up with the Comparable 1611 Version.

If you want me to learn something New, you must be willing to TEACH ME.

For Believing without Due Dilligence is “Blissful Ignorance.”

Please continue to Post. I’ll be back, & will respond: I promise.

MY MOMMA QUESTIONED MY DADDY-AND THEIR STILL MARRIED AND HAVE BEEN FOR 45 YEARS

HELL I’M GLAD SHE DID-OR THERE WOULD BE TIMES THE BILLS WOULDN’T GET PAID OR FOOD WOULDN’T BE ON THE TABLE OR THE RGE AND BILLS WOUDN’T GET PAID-NOT BECAUSE HE DIDN’T MAKE THE MONEY-BUT BECAUSE HE WOULD THROW IT AWAY BEING IRRESPONSIBLE HANGING OUT WITH THE FELLAS ON FRIDAY AND PARTYING-

HE FELT AS THOUGH HE WORKED HARD ALL WEEK SO WHY COULDN’T HE ENJOY HIMSELF?

WELL MAMMA QUESTIONED HIM BECAUSE HANGING OUT WITH THE FELLAS ON A REGULAR BASIS WAS QUITE COSTLY AND IN ORDER TO HAVE WHAT THEY HAVE A HOUSE THEY OWN AND IS PAID FOR AND THREE CHILDREN THEY PUT THROUGH COLLEGE-WOULDN’T HAVE BEEN ACHIEVED IF SHE HADN’T CHALLENGED HIM

IN FACT HIS HARD WORK AND HER KNOWLEDGE IS THE KEY TO THEIR LONG LASTING MARRIAGE-IF ANYTHING A STRONG WOMAN MAKES AN EVEN STRONGER MAN

JUST THINK IF SHE HAD NOT QUESTIONED HIM AND ALLOWED HIM TO CONTINUE TO BE FRIVOLOUS WITH HIS SPENDING WHERE WOULD OUR FAMILY BE?

AND YES HER QUESTIONING AT TIMES WAS LOUD AND SHE WAS VERY ADAMANT ABOUT IT-HELL WHEN YOU TALKING TO SOMEBODY WHO IS OBVIOUSLY HELL BENT ON DOING THINGS HIS WAY BECAUSE HE’S THE MAN-THAT”S THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN GET THEM TO UNDERSTAND AND THAT’S BY RAISING SOME HELL

THIS PUNK ASS NIGGA LITTLE FEELINGS GET HURT WHEN A WOMAN CHALLENGES HIM AND RAISES HER VOICE-

HOW MANY OF YOUR MOTHERS RAISED HELL WITH YOU TO GET UP AND GO TO SCHOOL? OR TO GET BETTER GRADES? OR TO NOT HANG OUT IN THE STREETS?

STOP BUYING INTO THIS BULLSHIT THAT WE HAVE TO CHANGE EVERYTHING ABOUT OURSELVES IN ORDER TO BE LOVED OR ACCEPTED BY WHITEY? OR THOSE WHO WANT TO BE WHITEY!

Who cares they can have that nigga!!

Tammy,
Why are you even on this blog? You pretend to be black but we all know yo ass is a dumb snow bunny. You are not wanted here you durrrrty racist bimbo.

@333,

Let’s talk about most, well we can’t talk about it because me and you are not even a grain of rice in the world. You can only speak about your experience with black people. When you say most you are speaking for more than half of the black people in this world what facts do you have to prove you have encountered more than half of the black people in this world?

Your generalization comment does not prove black people can not read: If you were to use your MBA, you would know she read your comments, however she did not comprehend them “Big Difference”…. now just because I have my deference’s with you should I now label most Asian women as being pointless???

To me it doesn’t make a difference what nationality you are, you are entitled to you opinion. However, you are speaking on a whole other world you know nothing about, because once again you don’t know most black people…. So your comments are a bit trivial.

@JUDAH

OH REALLY!

I GUESS I SHOULD BE CONCERNED IF A BLACK MEN VIEWS ME AS ANGRY HUH?

GUESS WHAT I REALLY DON’T CARE-AND YOU DIDN’T NOTICE MY OTHER POST HUH-

I GUESS I’M REALLY IRRATE-NOT REALLY GOING ON VACA-ENJOY YOUR HOLIDAY AND WEEKEND I SURELY WILL!

I don’t mind being passive in fact i am, but i don’t take it kindly to being judged as a black women he put us all in the bunch. He’s not serious in his attempts to find a nice african american female. He couldn’t be serious about his search becuase i know alot of good ones some being famous. He’s a producer/rapper who takes females for granted. Of course he’s going to run into hood rats. If you ask me it’s just a problem he’s going to have to deal with on his own. Tell me how many good females do you think Polow would run into considering his profession? I guess he can demand more because of his celebrity, but who want’s to give it to him? He’s probably just been dissed and can’t handle it. So his words really don’t apply to him maybe someone without as much luck as him, but not him.

F*** OUTTA HERE…..OH SO ANYBODY WHO DISAGREE WITH HIS IGNORANT A** IS SUPPOSED TO BE A “N**** AND A B****” NOW.LORD HELP HIM.HE’D BE DISAPPOINTED 2 KNOW THAT EVEN WHITE CHICKS DISAGREED WITH HIS UGLY A**.TRULY A B**** N*****:0

#2 It’s not about who he likes who cares, you don’t have to put your people down to defend who you prefer.

check out @ 108… they have a point. he is just an insecure brother with past issues in life and obviously too stupid to know when to keep his mouth shut… and at this rate…..he wont go far….whites will view him as a “ignorant loud mouth controversial “ni&&#r” and just cut him loose….. People ,,,let him continue hang himself…… just look at how they did OJ !!!! THEY WILL SOON TIRE OF HIM!!! (smile)

Yawnnnnnn @ 355 .. Im not giving out autographs today . Please stop following me around from post to post. You want to see my picture that bad ? Lmao .. My mother & father are “blacks” so I sure as hell want to know what I am If Im not ??

@362 Tammy… LOL

@Mallato

We can have a discussion about the other races but that will have to come at another time sis. The scriptures are very clear.

Hoe please! You don’t have to lie to kick it. Oh wait a minute. Yes you do!

@365 Why are you always e-stalking me ? Why do you always make TAMMY the topic of discussion ? Always a damn idiot roaming around this blog.

…he says he dates all kind of GIRLS…maybe that’s the problem…Cuz I damn sure can’t see any WOMEN falling for this guy…he needs to grow the hell up. AND his career is basically destroyed/

BTW…N’s & B’s — childish!

i couldn’t care less about his color preferences, but i think that his main malfunction is that he’s a misogynist.

he clearly has his stereotypes in his hands as he generalizes ALL women. he thinks that all black women are bullheaded, he thinks white women are slaves for him, and all this.

he doesn’t need a black woman, he doesn’t need a white woman, he doesn’t need a latina woman, he doesn’t need an asian woman, he doesn’t need ANY woman. it shouldn’t be another race war. this is just one fool who needs to shut the hell up while he’s still behind.

and most of all..I STILL don’t know who this fool is.

@Bailey

Sis, straight up, you got spirits on you. You sound ridiculous. You can’t bring all that angry black female, Queen Latifah, Sista Souljah, two steps from being a lesbian because I hate black men tough-talk nonsense to a real cat (Ecc 7:26-28). Stop the madnes and respect the statutes put forth by the Lord like you claim you do.

Lawwwd Polo is ignant ass… yes ignant.. not even classy enough to get the correct spelling word “ignorant”.

Fanaticism

Wow! I’m just enjoying reading the various points being made. very interesting - INDEED.. Side Bar - Polow Da Don can say and think however he feels about this whole issue. Doesn’t rock my boat one way or the other b/c that’s HIS opinion.. “His Truths” do not apply to me and my life, lol…so - whatever..

CTFU @ that fooliewang ass Asian hoe who calls herself knowing shit about black women. This means you post #306. Have a cup of Ramen noodles and sit the fuck down!!! Why you mad? Cuz nobody want yo flat ass, pug nose, squinty ass eyes, BEEYOTCH? Bitches like you kill me. Always throwing some educational shit up but then can’t write a proper fucking sentence. Such a waist? Naw, bitch. You’re such a waste. Bamboo-eatin hoe bag!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ONE MORE THING… Quit posing near LV and Dolce shit… yeah money makes life great but your really showing your ignorance surrounding your whole life around it!!! if you have wealth and know you always will your smarter about yours, no need to be like look at me ” I can buy LV”. Those that have never had finer things and are afraid they’ll lose it, floss it around everywhere like polo in this picture. Get class, Nigga!!

368 posts? Why are we giving this fool all this attention?

LMAO @ the fact that Kmniles didn’t even bother commenting. Probably still trying to read all these dayum posts. Girl, do like I do. Only read posts from people you know that’s been commenting on here for a while and skim the rest.

And WTH happened to the chat room. Lizz, Ne, Lovely, DDS, Bashy, Candi…somebody holla back at me and let me know what the deal is.

I LOVE ME SOME WHITE BITCHEZ!! ALL Y’ALL KNECK ROLLIN ATTITUDE HAVIN BLACK BITCHEZ CAN SUCK DAVID BANNER’S AND AL SHARPTON’S DICK!! WHITE BITCHEZ RULE!

He’s just running black men and women down to “fit in” and be accepted by the WHITE entertainment industry…. people dont worry about it!! They dont want him… his rhymes are weak anyway! Whites dont want to hear that a black man is CALLING HIMSELF the “prince or king” of any gender of their race…. he doesnt realize that he is essentially degrading white women also!….. He’s stuck his foot in his mouth and it’s too late.!!! Just sit back and watch people.

@ Foxxy, I think Kmniles is a guy but other than that, yeah, you’re probably right. He’s probably still reading. lol. CL bloggers on a roll today! Good advice about skimming though. That’s the same thing I do. lol

@ MS MAC … Thanks. have the most wonderful evening!!!!!!

That’s the whole point……..

“I’m the ‘King of the White Girls,’” proclaims the 28-year-old producer who now goes by Polow Da Don. “My boys would give me junk about it, but [the white girls’] head game is on a different level.”

and up yours Juda

Yeah side with this ass

Theres nothing wrong with dating outside of your race, if thats what you prefer ….but dont use that as grounds to denegrate black women. Obviously by his statements he has some underlying issue with black women! And theres nothing wrong with strong , su ccesful , independant blackwomen doing there thang, you dont need a man to complete your world! Basically he just sounds very ignorant, uneducated mess that some black men use to validate there own self worth. he should stick to producing records!

Is he a studied sociologist? Thought he dropped out freshmen year? That means he only studied freshmen orientation and maybe English 101, if he was lucky to get in. So people are getting worked up over a dude with braids, who could never match Oprah’s money in a lifetime?

The white women and the black men who feel the same way he does need to be the ones to support his career. He’s not that talented and he’s obviously not that smart.

He’s nothing special except in his own mind which tells him that what he thinks is so important that he needs to state it in public.

Let the King of the White Girls let the white girls pay his bills. As for me any time I see ‘Polow Da Don’ attached to any project my money will stay in my pockets.

Dumb kneegrow.

Cosign with #10. Thats all.

Who gives a damn bout who he’s screwing? Stick with the music and relax with that white girl bull ish!

boycotting? WOW its not that serious. because someone says something you dont agree with? well, thats what black people do. im a strong black woman, and i have no problem being submissive to my man, he is my king and he takes care of my castle. he treats me like a queen, i am a soft beautiful woman that is very secure. i like polow’s music, and im still going to listen to it.

#2…you’re an idiot, just like this Fool.

First of all SOME black men can claim that black women don’t treat them right….you have to EARN that u damned black monkey and it is not just given. If those stupid a*s white hoes want to bow down on demand, then they ARE better suited for the job. If niggas would f-ing get a job and keep it for more than two weeks, stop having illegitimate babies all over the place, and make the distinction between a REAL black woman and a ghetto chicken head, then maybe we would treat yall better…most of you simple negroes don’t deserve to be treated better than the shi* on the bottom of my shoe….you get what you give, so how the f**k do u LOVE THAT!!! Get a clue niggas and maybe you can get a REAL back queen..until then RUN ( don’t walk ) to the white hoes!!

White Girls! White Girls! Please take this Fool out of our dating pool for good….marry him!

For one, I’m mad some of you bitches in here are approvin’ this nigga’s comments.
For two, I don’t remember anybody being mad he dated the snow bunnies. I could have swore they objected to his stereotypical and narrow-minded ass views.
For three, shut that nigga up.

“Back then they didn’t want me ( BLACK GIRLS) , now I’m hot they all on me(WHITE GIRLS”….

Befo’ I came up in the game these hoes didn’t show no love
They see me in the club and used to treat me like a scrub
They wouldn’t holla cause my dollars wasn’t swoll enough
I bet they change they mind when them 80 4’s come rollin up
Then know that I got it made, I’m a motherfuckin baller
She would want a nigga now but I ain’t got no time to call her
I’ma stall her like she stalled me, now she tryin to call me
B*&^% I’m a dog yo’ whole a&& like you dogged me!!!!

Im bitter because i didnt get love from my sista’s when i didnt have nothing!

Oh wow…How did I miss this? Palow Da Don sure does like talking out of his ass.

Anyway, I tried posting this in the last discussion, but it didn’t work out. So I’ll try posting it here, because it’s still pretty relevant.

Staying out of established squabbles already present in this thread, I have to say that I really don’t think the biblical “Women should submit to their husbands” thing really applies anymore. At the risk of sounding anti-Christian, we just have to look at the differences between the times in which those phrases and edicts were coined, and now.

Think about it: back in the day (and I suppose I should say waaaay back in the day), when it was commonly believed, practiced, and taught that woman should submit to their husbands, it was also the social norm and expectation that women–married women, specifically–didn’t work. As a married woman, your job was to mind the home, and take care of the children. It was the job of the husband to go out into the world and provide, financially, for his family.

The ‘submitting to your husbands’ thing was never meant to be considered proverbial enslavement for the woman/wife. On the contrary, while the husband was away it was the wife who controlled the home, the meals, the source of the man’s comfort and refuge from the world. And a good wife would make sure that the home was kept in proper order for her husband. Naturally, this afforded the wife a level of power. However, that level of power did not override that of the husband’s. Ideas could be discussed and argued, a good husband would listen to and consider the desires and concerns of his wife, but ultimately the final say belonged to the husband, because while the wife controlled the home, the husband *owned* the home. He was in control of the money, and thus his house and everything in it. And, in most cases, he was even legally responsible for his house. In reality, it was a symbiotic relationship that worked as long as you had two willing people: A man who wanted a family, and a woman who wanted a man to provide for her and a family to take care of.

However, fast forward today, and things aren’t so much the same. Social norms and expectations of the woman have changed. While in those times it was the norm that women didn’t “work”, nowadays it is the social norm and expectation that women do work, married or not. Most women are no longer satisfied with the prospect of the being the housewives for husbands. Most women want, and go out and get, an education, a trade, a career–whether because they need to or they just want to. Most women today, and not just black women but admittedly a lot of black women, are thinking of themselves, and for themselves. And not of a man who’ll do all the providing for them.

This change has been something a lot easier for women to grasp than men, as evidenced her by Palow Da Don. In an environment like this, a man cannot be the proverbial “kind of the castle”. To do so would be to strike unbalance in his family unit. Before, when the woman did not work, her job was the home, and the man controlled the income, and thus the home, and in that fact his claim to the role as “king” and final decision maker was already established. However, in the situation more commonly faced nowadays where the man is NOT the sole breadwinner, but shares that responsibility with his wife and thus all the successes and woes of being a person of income, his role as “king”, his claim to being the ultimate decider is NOT established. His title is not earned, and thus is must be shared with his wife. And, to keep the balance in the family units, all other duties to the home must be shared, likewise, or else undue burden would be placed on the wife. Too many men these days get with working women, and expect to be able to come home from the 9-5 and kick off their shoes and relax, while his woman comes home from HER 9-5 and cleans the house, takes care of the kids, and gets dinner on the table. In a home with two breadwinners, those chores must be shared. As well as the decision-making. The man can no longer say “this is how it’s going to be” if he does not have the leverage to back up his claim.

And this is how a lot of men these days make THEMSELVES feel emasculated, because there are trapped in an old mindset. They feel that, simply because they are men, they are entitled to being undisputed King of their households–without realizing what about their masculinity afforded them that right in the first place. So a lot of these men get with working women–intelligent, career-driven women who are about their business–and try to enforce an old-fashioned mindset on a scenario that is, in itself, not that old-fashioned. A lot of these men come into their relationships with these working women automatically expecting to take a dominant role instead of an *equal partnership* and try to say “this is how it’s going to be”. And, when the women whom, knowing she works just as hard as her man, responds with “I think not! You’re not the only one working 9 to 5 up in this bitch” and demands that their relationship be EQUAL, a lot of men can’t handle that, because of that old-mindset they have not had to shake since it was instilled in them as children. So they claim that the woman, who is only asserting her rightful place as equal breadwinner, is questioning him or trying to emasculate him when, in reality, he emasculated himself.

So, in this sense, the “Women, submit to your husbands” frame of mind does not work. And this is something men like, Palow Da Don does not understand. Men have never had to right to be “king of the castle” from the simple fact that they are men. It has always been a right that a man has had to EARN by being the provider. If a man wants a woman that will submit to him, the choice is a simple one: Get a woman who doesn’t work, who’ll need to depend on you financially. Then you’ll get to be king of the castle and have your dominance established. But don’t, as Palow Da Don tried to claim men have the “right” to do, come into a woman’s house and try to establish dominance over that woman’s house when you have NOT earned it. And do not get with working woman, and expect them to submit to you as king and decision maker. A lot of them won’t, and they don’t have to. And it has nothing to do with “questioning” you.

@381

Be nice, lol

@ 387 what kind of name is that?? You may be strong and black but you certaintly are Ghetto! i bet your mother is so proud of you…. way to represent your people.

@Judah .. I am looking forward to it…. Brother Judah I am sure it will be interesting..

HOW CAN A GAY PERSON SPEAK ON THE MARRIAGE STRUCTURE.

“Back then they didn’t want me ( BLACK GIRLS) , now I’m hot they all on me(WHITE GIRLS”….

Befo’ I came up in the game these hoes didn’t show no love
They see me in the club and used to treat me like a scrub
They wouldn’t holla cause my dollars wasn’t swoll enough
I bet they change they mind when them 80 4’s come rollin up
Then know that I got it made, I’m a motherfuckin baller
She would want a nigga now but I ain’t got no time to call her
I’ma stall her like she stalled me, now she tryin to call me
B*&^% I’m a dog yo’ whole a&& like you dogged me!!!!

Im bitter because i didnt get love from my sista’s when i didnt have nothing!

#347 Bailey: LOVE IT MAN!!!! speak on it..I couldn’t have said it better —only I could give a F*CK about some broke off, low self esteem couch monkey thinks of me ( girl, the opinion I low life niggas like that mean NADA to me )…..let the white hoes inherit that problem!! and another thing that is funny to me is how hypocritcal these tired ass niggas are when they have the BALLS to charge a black woman up that dates white men…I say Black women do that thang (date all out of your race)just like these niggas are doing and watch how well (some of )their uneducated asses take when the white man is enjoying our nubian honey…don’t hate niggas!!!

I was just a skinny bird chested, big nosed kid growing up in the hood and i couldnt get a girl… but watch out now!!!

Lets try and take the critisizm for what it’s worth. A lot of black women are stereotyped for having bad attitudes, because alot of them really do have bad attitudes. We are angry. And its stopped us from being seen as beautifully as other women. I will agree that white women come across more attractive than black women to black men, or mixed women over black women because they didnt have to go through half the bullshit we went through.
I do think, as black women, we can be strong, but not so overly strong that we drive good black men away.

Why didnt you black women want me? why did you reject me? You hurt me so bad! i felt as though i wasnt good enough!…… well…… I dont want YOU now! Go white girls….

“HOW CAN A GAY PERSON SPEAK ON THE MARRIAGE STRUCTURE.”

1) Because I was born into a household with two, married parents.

2) Because when it comes down to it a marriage is no different than any other partnership: And the they key to a healthy, sustained partnership has always been communication and balance: ebb and flow, give and take. And that is something that can be universally understood by anyone with a mature mind to understand those those things.

3) If all we needed to be the proper authority on marriage is marriage itself, I’d argue that there’d be no such thing as divorce.

4) You should be more focused on other things: like actually reading and considering ideas before dismissing them, and realizing that typing in all caps and playing lax on proper punctuation does not make people pay more attention to you or infer anything positive of your intelligence or the ideas thereof.

Payback is a BI*&^ !… Black women make me sick….. look who’s laughing now!…. im not insecure anymore!! because i have money and white girls like me!! YIPPEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!

#402 U are gay….you probably deserved to get treated crazy ….hell u sound like a real bitch right now…I would have put ur gay ass on the stroll to make me some money seeing that you sound like you have a d*mn p***** too! lame ….please RUUUUNNNN to the white girls…and you are right: You’re NOT good enough for a black queen, so keep it moving no self esteem having porch monkey!

#404 yup spoken like a true porch monkey..now go fetch me some cotton BOY! lol dumb ass nigga…..

@#353. BAILEY

I’m a black man married to a sista with three daughters and that post hit home with me. I always try to keep it real with myself, first and foremost and I ain’t gonna even sit up and say I agree with some of the shit Polow the Clown is saying just because it would benefit me as a black man to do so and have my wife be “submissive”. Mainly because I wouldn’t want the next ignorant nigga to try to pull that shit on one of my daughters. The example you provided of your mom and dad, reminded me a lot of my situation, as well as, my parents. I’ve been with my wife for 15years and my mom and dad (both black…) have also been together for over 40years and in both cases, me and my dad sometimes needed the strong wives to snap us back into the reality of taking care of home first when it came to hanging out with the fellas too much. Therefore, the shit Polow the Clown is saying is just plain ignorant. Especially given the fact, that fake ass nigga prefers non-black women over Sistas anyway. So, truthfully, that nigga has no credibility in the first place to even speak on Sista’s and their role of helping to rebuild black families and relationships.

And another thing…I can’t believe there are so many soft ass niggas on this site that agree with this nigga. What the fuck has happened to sooooo many niggas now-a-days? Me and my wife talk about it all the time…about how niggas have gotten so soft. First argument a nigga has with a Sista questioning him about something (he more than likely is guilty of…keeping it real), the nigga is running off to go get a white woman. Then, to add fuel to the fire…not putting the white woman thru half the shit he did when he was with the sista. SMH

Black men, let’s be for real and get our shit together and consistently keep it together, so we can at least say we’ve done our part to help out our sistas.

Even though i have issues with black men also…. PITTBOI you make a good point!

Truth is…. i hate being black..i wish i were white….. now… WHEEEW! its off of my chest!

#404 and who are u paying back? awww did the little jigaboo get his monkey feelings hurt by some black chick? u are simply playing yourself OJ the 3rd ( after OJ and Kobe )…don’t try to come back home later down the road after you have been accused of raping a white ho and arrested or they have had a kid by you and taken half or ur sh*t…but you know what? There should be no pleasure gotten from seeing a black person fall, but when that ish is self-induced…shooo i feel like LMAO!!!!!

@ 406…. You must be either fat, ulgy, uneducated, jobless or a combination of all 4… one thing you are is Angry…. How many baby daddies do you have… You let your bloodpressure shoot up because of a blog……………. Ghetto girl…….relax…. you are fitting into the stereotype! you are attacking everyone on this site…… Relax SHUMQUEESHA ALIZE JACKSON! IM SURE THAT IS SIMILAR TO YOUR REAL NAME!!

@397

LMAO, because that’s what they do. Cause confusion at all costs and then when they get rebuked they cry and say, “I just wannna live my life and be left alone. It’s my choice…”. All that the man wrote is nonsense because, like Satan, he goes off the premise that people should respect the ways of man over the ways of God (Prov 16:25). This is why I say and I say and I say again, that homosexuality has a mentality that goes with it. They are not satisfied unless they’ve destroyed the heterosexual man and his relationship with the woman. Not satisfied. The scriptures tell us that everything that was written was written for us to reflect on today and teach our children (Psa 102:18, Joel 1:2,3, Rom 15:4)

#407 Spoken like a TRUE king…awready!!!! Your wife is VERY blessed to have a strong black man like you. My brother is the same way with his BEAUTIFUL BLACK WIFE!!!

PLEASE SCHOOL THESE SELL OUT NIGGAS!!!

For real though, how are u gonna dog out the very person that brought u into this world and wiped your MONKEY ass ( the monkeys are only the ones that have that f-ing slave mentality ) when you couldn’t? Sure wasn’t Becky Lynn that did that! It was a BLACK WOMAN!!!!

@ 409……lets not forget that you are STUPID!!! i HOPE YOU DONT ACTUALLY THINK THAT I AM THE REAL POLOW DA DON……… YEAH…. YOU DO!!!! DUMB A&& H@E!!!! everyone is laughing at you…. fool!!!!!!!!! get a life …..jiggaboo

Personally, I believe that anyone who takes it upon themselves to make generalized statements about an entire group of people, is ignorant. Yea, I know some black women that fit into that image but I know a hell of a lot more who don’t. And I also find it a little funny that a man raised by a Japanese woman is speaking so matter of factly about how black women raise their children… I read the interview yesterday and the more I think about it, the more I think he’s using this to boost his notoriety. Let’s be real, he’s not on a Timbaland or Neptunes level as far a production goes. So he’s gotta get his name out there somehow. To be honest, I couldn’t have picked him out of a line-up two days ago. Now he’s the talk of the industry. I think he’s a loser but his little plan worked. He’s got people talking.

Hey ur royal gayness : NO ONE thought that u were REAL shit! don’t flatter urself nigga. are u a cracker or something because yo ass is about to get checked? U spade, I am college educated with TWO degrees and I have a job that I have been on for 4 years in the technology industry. I have no kids you dumb fuck ..so maybe the next time you step in the street bitch you better look BOTH ways because your stupid ass just got mowed down!!!! oh and another thing faggot I weigh 117 and 5 foot 2 and I could beat your gay ass into submission….U are MY bitch!! How u love it!!!!!? WTF black woman would want a dirty, sell out ass bitch nigga like you anyway? Go change that tampon bitch..I see some blood on your panties! Now what?!

Judah, put your money where your mouth is. Plain and simple. If I’m so wrong, prove it. You can say my post is nonsense–but all you have to rely on is that same old bullshit “he just wants to see the heterosexual man down” ploy. I see right through you. I’m not trying to circumvent the ways of God with the ways of man. Because the ways of man would ALSO have all women believe they should submit to their husbands, idiot.

Frankly, I don’t really care what you have to say. If a man wants to be king of his castle, he should earn it, period. I don’t see how you can argue that without looking like a fool, yourself. How can you argue that a man should be the king of his castle without doing what it is a king should?

If a man wants to follow an old-fashioned mindset where he is dominant in his relationship, he needs to find an old fashioned woman. It isn’t hard. I have female friends in COLLEGE, getting their DEGREES, who say that when they graduate and are ready for families they want to be housewives with a husband to take care of them. There are plenty of woman who want to live that way, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But too often men try to turn career-driven women into obedient housewives or housewife-like (because a lot of these men STILL want their wives to work), and then point and bitch about women being difficult when it doesn’t work out.

And can u stop copying my shit ( jigaboo) …u are gayer than I ever imagined

Let them white women have his a$$!

@#412 Yeah Brotha. I’m trying to school these sellout ass niggas. Talking that bullshit about wanting a sista that’s submissive. For black folk…tha