Ok I got to say something Which I normally dont i just read all this stupid shit and laugh…….BUT THAT WHAT HE SAID RIGHT THERE?…..thats the most non-HUMBLE…..thing i have ever freakin heard……..White women spanish women black women BLAH!……nobody wants somebody they dont get along with…..but that whole…….Look At the divine order? MAN woman CHILD?…..man FUCK THE DIVINE ORDER…….cause i know it doesnt include a nigga jumpin around like a chicken on the screen….sayin ‘EVERY FREAK SHOULD HAVE A PICTURE OF MY DICK ON THEY WALL”……..NOt A HAter I love my man Powlo NOw…..but dude that was boguuusssss….for u speak of the divine order make sure your a man of divine dignity and honor…..not a ghetto savage punk.

This statement really bothers me. Not because he wants to date white girls, because IMO that’s just a given in the Hip Hop Community. What bothers me about this statement is that he perpetuates this attitude that all black woman have chips on their shoulders and are angry and argumentative. This just doesn’t apply to relationships, this also applies to work situations as well. When a black woman challenges someone in the work enviornment, no matter how polite and respectful she does it, she is almost always viewed as being “sassy” or “having an attitude problem”. This idea that black woman don’t have a right to defend themselves, in a soceity that does nothing but present obstacle after obstacle for them, is so ridiculous and I hate the fact that our own people buy into it.

Black woman aren’t angry, we’re self-relient. We’ve had to be for generations and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. We live in a culture that emasculates the black male, making it more difficult for him to protect, provide for and defend his woman and his family. Even in the most perfect marraige between a black couple, the black man always has the added pressure of racism - the third partner in the relationship. Whether it comes in the form of a glass ceiling at work, a humiliating unwarrented traffic stop & search or mortagage application turned down because of redlining, black men in our society are constantly emasculated and thus black woman have always had to take on more aggressive roles to keep their families together, while of course dealing with their OWN discrimination.

As a result of this, we have a culture where black men are taught to look towards thug behavior, materialism, mysogony and “taking the white man’s woman” as a means for proving their manhood and black woman are taught to define themselves by the sum of their parts and be “ride or die bitches” to appeal to men. The black woman who don’t suscribe to that type of behavior are just strong minded individuals who are focused on handling their businesses and following the strong examples set by the woman who came before them. This is why so many black woman are out performing black men in careers and education. We have come to realize that, even if you are around with the outside pressures of being black in the type of world we live in it’s going to take TWO of us working side by side to make things happen. It sad that some black men can’t see why black woman are so strong. And it’s sad, that some black men don’t see that as an attribute, because it is. Every battle black people have won in this country happened because black woman and men worked together side by side. Somehow we forgot that. It’s like we’ve come to hate each other. Trust me, it will eventually be our down fall and I’m sorry hip hop only fuels this battle of the sexes.

If anyone should be insulted by that statement it’s white woman. I think, being assertive is an asset. However it disturbs that there are so many men out her who aren’t confident enough to handle an assertive woman and who are inteligent enough to know what an asset having a strong woman by your side truely is.

Black women and other women are raised to be strong. Women that come from single family homes, like, single mother and absent fathers. The young girl will see that she does not need to depend on a man to do things for her. Since she witnessed her mother, a sinlge mother, act as the Mother and Father. Men that have grew up in a single family home espescially black men that only had a mothe in the house should know that his mother did not need a man to take care or do for her. This is passes on and on. Agreeing with #44 Black men should stick around and help raise their children especially sons, so they can grow up and learn how to take care of himself and his woman. Some men want women to baby them like their mothers did. It’s not going to happen. Just because you may bring home a bigger check does not mean that your girl or wife has to submit to you. Try treating her sometimes, take her out to dinner, tell her you appreciate her, instead of trying to keep this tough guy gansta role. It’s not cute. I don’t care what race he date, but I hope his momma or his caretaker hears what he says. If he has sister then they should drill his ass, because Polow makes it seem as him his mother did not raise his sister right. They are Black women right? He needs to get it together.

I THINK THAT HE IS SO FINE, AND SO TALENTED. HE SPEAKS HIS MIND, BUT HE DOES NOT COME OF AS IGNORANT. NOW, I DO DISAGREE WITH HIS WHOLE ASSESSMENT OF BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. NOT EVERY BLACK WOMAN OR EVERY PERSON FOR THAT MATTER WAS RAISED WITH THE SAME VALUES, DUH, BUT HEY.

NOW HERE IS WHAT I AGREE WITH: BECAUSE OF RACISM, DISCRIMINATION, DISRESPECT, AND SINGLE PARENT HOMES, A LOT(NOT ALL) OF BLACK WOMEN HAVE THIS DEFENSE WALL OVER THEM,AND SOME WOMEN EVEN BECOME IRATE WITH BLACK MEN TO THE POINT THAT THEY BECOME STRAIGHT BI****HS. THERE IS ALWAYS THAT ONE FRIEND THAT HATES MEN. SHE WILL GET AN ATTITUDE IF YOU SAY SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT MEN.

YOU KNOW WHAT ENOUGH OF THE SUGAR COATING, I AM GOING TO JUST COME OUT AND SAY THIS. THERE ARE SO MANY(not all) WOMEN OUT THERE WHO ARE LIKE TRINA, BOOTZ, AND THE OMAROSA CHARACTER. A MAN WILL NOT MARRY A BITCH-PARDON MY FRENCH, IF HE MARRIES HER, HE WILL DIVORCE HER or WANT TO DIVORCE HER. A MAN LIKES A WOMAN WHO IS STRONG ENOUGH TO HOLD HER OWN, BUT VULNERABLE ENOUGH TO LET HIM BE A KING-NOT A DICTATOR, A KING. A LOT OF US SAY THAT MOST BLACK MEN(NOT ALL) NEEDS TO STEP IT UP, TRUE, BUT US AS WOMEN, WE NEED TO CLEAN UP OURSELVES BEFORE WE CAN CALL SOMEONE ELSE DIRTY.

SISTAS, WE ALREADY HAVE A SHORTAGE OF BLACK MEN, DO NOT LET THESE WHITE WOMEN SCOOP UP ALL OF THE LITTLE BIT WE DO HAVE. IN OUR COMMUNITY A LOT OF US ARE COLOR STRUCK AND A LOT OF US ACT LIKE BITCHES WHEN IT COMES TO CERTAIN THINGS. WE GOT TO DO BETTER.

I BETCHA WON’T BE TALKIN THAT MESS WHEN A WHITE WOMAN CALL THE POLICE ON YOUR ASS…..YOU’LL BE HOLLA FOR A STRONG BLACK WOMAN THEN!

im James number 286 not 299.just same name. because i completely disagree with what he said.

Pretty much everyone has said what needs to be said, but I will say this; not since O.J. and Taye Diggs have we as black woman dodged a bullet so big. Im actually glad that he said what he said cuz now we dont have to even waste our time. Once again the white girls get the damaged goods (whipes brow and breathes a sigh of relief).

I don’t see what the big fuss is over this guy. So….if he has to make himself feel better by being a control freak….it’s “his girl’s” choice to “allow” him to treat her as unequal. It’s not a fair and uniform statement that black women are raised to “question” their man. We’re your queen, your right hand, your stregnth and if you were not so insecure, you would not feel “threatened” or “inferior” when “inquiring minds want to know”. When we know what you know, or a portion of it…we got your back. When you’re secretive, it gives reason to mistrust. Don’ you get it? Do you not realize that we are eager to learn and there is no such thing as a dumb question? You feel better if you keep women “dumied down” to sooth your ego? PDon you are a waste of a decent body….and the face is beyond the “roughneck” I usually think is so sexy…which you obviously don’t have the looks to sustain you in the industry not to mention the brain. YOU will not see my $$.

If we all boycott anything he has to do with in the industry, he would be HIS-STORY……..
NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF A WOMAN -NO MATTER THE RACE……..

THATS A MUTHA FUCKIN LIE I AM WHITE AND I AIN’T SERVING NOBOD’YS ASS AND IF i FEEL THE NEED TO QUESTION MY MAN YOU BETTER BELIEVE I WILL QUESTION HIS ASS THATS IS SO DISRESPECTFUL TO BLACK WOMEN AND WHITE WOMEN I HOPE HIS MOMA AIN’T RAISE HIS ASS TO BE LIKE THAT IF SO SHE NEED TO BE SLAPPED FOR THAT ONE WE GOT ENOUGH SORRY ASS MEN IN THE WORLD AND SHE HAD THE NERVE TO ADD ANOTHER

AS A BLACK MAN, I AM DISGUSTED.

These blackmen are really getting on my nerves, comparing us to white women, …have them then,… aint no one beggin for u because, when someone gets with u, u dont know how to treat em right, makes me what to change the game up on they a** sometimes.

Some Black women do be having some nasty attitudes sometimes. When was the last time a black women at the DMV smiled at you and said have a nice day. I can kind of see what Polow da don is talking about!

The three rules to keeping a man are 1. ask very few questions in other words DO NOT NAGG 2. please be able to cook and serve the food 3. We all know what three is, Shawna of DTP can tell you what that is! *bonus tip - always have your own money on reserve because oneday he may get tired of taking care of your ass or a white girl may come along and steal your shine. Now these rules only apply if you have a real hard working strong man. P.S. I am not gonna serve no broke ass man cause Benjamin Franklin will not allow that!!! White women be on money just like black women do. white women just have a different approach..

For those of you women with sneaky broke bitch boys!! well then an attitude should be in full effect at all times because I know his sorry ass be gettin on your nerves, always broke can’t even buy you a cold damn soda!!

Young women out there Please do not let No man move in with you if he is not gonna help with the rent! I know the dick is good, but money is better!! goodbye

The Thought for the day is where in the hell are D.L. Hughleys eyebrows?

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies of this board. I am not mad at his comments, actually I’m glad he let everyone know who he is. I’m happy he expressed his feelings and kept it real. Now am I going to change to make him happy? NO. Any man that expresses women as an inferior race is insecure. Any man that has to put down others (especially his own race) to boost his own ego has issues in his own personal life. I would never want to be with someone who do not desire to be with me, its just a waist of time. So thank you Polow.

I have seen from my experience where a black woman deals with a lot of the nonsense from black man. Black man would cheat on his black woman and black man would lie to his black woman. The black woman kept dealing with it for 9 yrs. She even had his child. Eventually, the black woman got tired of the nonsense and confronted him at his job and found him sleeping with another woman. She realized that it was time for her go her own way. She is now happy, dating outside her race.
So she opened up her mind and realized she should not limit herself to just the “black man”. Find someone who loves you and respect you.

God chose a woman to birth his only Son, not a Man…so that says plenty about women. They are God’s most perfect creation–and it was Adam, the first man, who was blamed for the fall of mankind, not Eve…as he was to remain without sin, and knew better as he was first–It’s in the Bible.

Strangely, this assertion is backed by scientific evidence, according to scientists who cracked the DNA Code (”The Human Genenome” as it is called) most genetic flaws in mankind…overwhelmingly come from the male of the species, not from females. Could this be scientific evidence of the curse of Original Sin???

It is certainly something to think about!!!

And this is from the voice of a guy…me!!!

HE”S GAAAY!!!!! he blows big time…..nexxtt!!!

NEXTT!!!!!!!! i dont like him anymore!! Dirty bastared

next…

I’m straight on that….they can have him.

What the high hell .this fool has lost his mind that’s the biggest load of crap I’ve ever heard in my life. I rather Imus call me a nappy headed ho then the shi8 that just came outta his mouth .bet 100,000 that it was a black woman that had his stinking ass back when he was nothing. Only a pussy ass black man would some say shi8 like that. black women roll with the punches and back a broke man a white woman will haul ass on him if he lost all his funds.

Polow u need to sit down somewhere lookin like Jim Jones twin brotha in that

pic u look real crusty and dirty no real educated successful strong black

women would want your ignorant ass any way, so stay with ya white women u r

doing us all a favor. u r a prime example of an uneducated looser!

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i actually feel if all those women did start dating white men that black men wouldnt care,,,
and black women have been dating white men for awhile..
its not just since halle and serena,,,

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and on that note i wish people didnt give so much energy into what he said i too think its ignorent but most people prob 95 percent on the post dont agree so why does one mans opinion matter most,,
polow seems kinda whatever to me anyway…but
the issues that get the most posts on this site is “black men with white women” kim kardashians fake ass or anything doing with beyonce and its kind of sad,,,
people need to spend more time focusing on positive things,,,,
let go of the hate
as people we cant change the world and the world aint going to change for none of us.

How do you categorize a whole race like that.Does he not realize that his mother is a Black woman 2.Thats so disrespectful on sooo many levels.Im glad to see it offended some white women too.Hes just really determined on not making any tracks for anybody else.Like a Black or even a White woman is gonna want something coming from a dickhead like that!REJECT.By next year,we will have 4gotten his name!Im glad us Black women and White women and some Black men or standing up to this rude comment and not just dismissing it like we usually do!

It’s not about bossing around but there has to be a final authority that makes decisions in any organization including the family. A wise man will listen to his woman take her opinons under consideration. But if a man is honorable and strong he should be the one to make final decisions and a woman should trust him and respect that. I NEVER DATED A WHITE WOMAN. But my experience with sistas is that as long as you give them what they want it’s a happy relationship but the minute you say NO all hell breaks loose until they get what they want.

For the record he never finished college; he dropped out after one year. Bad idea…

Polow, You STUPID ASS!!!!!

Hmmm…sounds like someone’s insecure with his manhood

Here’s the deal…date who you wanna date, it’s a free world for black men AND women to date whomever we want to…but don’t criticize me for your insecurities.

Question: Why does he need a woman to make him feel like a man? I feel like a woman all by myself…I don’t need someone else to validate me. I’m very girly and I love men, but I’ll be damned if I start shrinking down and hiding my God given intelligence just to make someone else feel less insecure about themselves.

And sounds like from his statements that no matter how many white women he dates, he’s still gonna be insecure about his manhood. So go on with ya bad self brotha…I actually want Polow to NOT date black women because we don’t need week brothas like him anyway! Have fun!

POLOW KEEP DOIN YA THING PLAYA U RIGHT THESE BLACK WOMEN R CRAZY!!!!!

polow has low self esteem.. a sister prolly told him about himself and a white women consoled him like a bitch…. so now he thinks he is all dat lololol….. wrong brother it is wat it is…… some men dont want to here the truth about themselves so they blame everyone for thier prollums = polow lil punk he is wat i call a bitch ass nigga lolololooo cry baby always whinning about ery thang lololololo

He’s trippin, I don’t know what kind of black women he has dealt with for him to come up with that conclusion, obviously he has never been with a real, classy black woman. It’s a shame, your mother is black, your sister is black, cousins…etc…..so you are dissing them too!

not trying to diss any other race, but there is nothing like a BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMEN!! believe that!!

Don’t Knock the brotha for speakin the truth, black women always think their the shit,he’s right. white women are not has egotistical, and just cuz he black, what rule that says he has to give a fuck about black women, we are ”individuals”. black women are always calling brothas out for dating white women, its a reason why brothers in high positions date outside of the race, black women need self evaluation

I agree with most of these comment so im not going to say much he sounds really ignorant though

Was he sleeping when he wrote that?? He Quoted : White women are raised differently. White women are raised to respect and serve their men. Black women are taught to question [their men]. what??? I’m black and I think that I’m respectful, educated and well manered………….. I don’t know what he is talking about. And all races you will find good wives, moms, etc……..

MEN , U CAN’T LIVE WIT THEM N U CAN’T LIVE WITOUT THEM!!

#333 I respect your opinion but I disagree with the part where you said black women think they are the shit! that’s NOT true and if ANY women thinks she is “The shit” good for her i admire a strong secure woman who knows her worth SOME men probably can’t handle that

and i want to know the “reason” men in higher places date outside their race?
it’s probably just as ignorant as polow da dons reason

What is this guy thinkin, anyway for a guy who has no hard feelings toward black women he sure said enough. Im so sick of this crap, Love who u love and be with whom makes u happy but don’t use a cop-out as an excuse to cover up your ignorance.

Philly do don,

You’re wrong, he called his self out. It would not matter either way if his preference is white women. What seems to be the problem is when black men like to compare races (i.e. black and white women). When this should just be based on a individual. Polow is acting as if he’s the spokes person for women and their culture. Men like him try to use these allegations as a cover up on how they really feel, he doesn’t feel he’s accomplished anything unless he has a white women at his beck and call. They truly feel they are hurting “The Man” (white men) when they are seen with their white women….

THIS NI99A IS WEAK, HE JUST MAD THAT MOST BLACK WOMEN ARE STRONG AND HE IS INTIMITADED BY THAT. WE DON’T MAKE A MAN LIKE HIM FEEL NEEDED, SO HE CAN GO SETTLE FOR LESS AND HAVE HIS WHITE WOMAN, OLD DUMB AZZ, BITTER NI99A! AND UR STATEMENT IS A LIE AND IT CAN GO BACK TO THE PITS OF HELL WHERE IT CAME FROM! I WAS RAISED TO FOLLOW MY HUSBAND AND LAST I CHECKED WIVES ARE SUPPOSED TO SUBMIT THEMSELVES TO THEIR HUSBANDS! NOT BOYFRIENDS, GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE AND STICK THAT POLOW CANE UP UR AZZ CHEAP TRICK!

I fully understand why many black women will be mad at this. Now I am married and have been for 6 years with the same black woman. And we have three children so I can speak from experience, because my wife and I have noticed a change in society.

Many black women have so much BS to deal with, like non-committed men, abuse from all sides wether, music videos objectifying them and no one rally uplifting them unless it is in the pages of Essence and Vibe vixen. But their white counterparts are celebrated in American society a lot more. So it is understandable if Black women will not tolerate the bullshit thrown at them, become more independent and make their own moves. And that means leaving the men behnd to twiddle their thumbs.

The problem that comes with that as a by-product, are that many women are more assertive and determine their own way in life with such passion they do not let a man be a man, and take control especially if they have not had that love from their father or past boyfriends. Most men do not know to open car dorrs, walk on the out side of the sidewalk, or just asume the bill on the first date. (they grew up on rap, braging, and hanging with similiar guys who were rised by their mother’s in efectively because the father was not around). So there becomes a huge disconnect. Most white women demand this type of treatment and get it. They “act” docile and “act” very interested in careers, and will let a guy “feel” like he is an ALPHA male and stroke his ego. Many black women voice their displeasures in public and with an “in your face” mentality with their man because they won’t tolerate Bullshit, they no longer stick to dealing with issues behind closed doors. And I fully understand where they come from but maybe showing the world how assertive powerful and independent you are is not the way to create a healthy enviornment for a relationship. You can be powerful without wearing it on your sleeves. In closing as an example, Jada Pinkett is a spitefire and a very assertive female, but look how she acts in publc with Will, (who by the way is not like Tupac her ex boyfriend) she gives him the lead, the headship. it is pure biblical principles.

Many women will listen to everything a preacher tells them to do and will ignore cuss out and argue with their husband. A man is the head of his household and relationship. Well a well rounded and decent responsible man. And if you don’t have one of those do not settle. But as for Polow the don he jut wanted subserviant woman w would suck fuck like and he could do whatever to without the backlash. with black women you hve to STEP YOUR GAME UP

Yeah But,

Well put.

His ignorance is not even worth a comment

#248 Wishin’ I was a white gal right about now

Please seek proffessional help, if indeed you are not a white girl using that stupid login. You are so wrong, I get asked out by white guys all the time, but I choose not to date them. Why would you desire to date anyone who don’t want to date you? You need to be happy with what God have blessed you with and love yourself and what you need will come.

I agree that his generalizations are a bit over done…but i can bet 90% of the girls that are all “oh hell no, im no nobody’s slave!” are black…it may be a stereotype or w/e, but whether or not we would like to admit it or not…stereotypes tend to have some truth in them, whether it be a little or a lot.

Also, i think that many women in general have skewed view of what submissive means, and automatically think that to submit to you’re man, or serve you’re man means that u have to wipe his ass for him and say how high when he says jump.

I think submission is more of a trust and love where you’re actions are for the purpose of making you’re man happy, rather than for the purpose of training him, or getting him to make YOU happy. That’s the difference. Submissive women take pleasure in putting a smile on their man’s face, and see it as them doing a good job as a woman or wife. While a non-submissive woman thinks their man should be doing that for them.

I personally feel that the best relationships exist when both the man and woman are submissive to each other and put aside their personal desires for the purpose of making they’re significant other happy. That is TRUE love. When you are willing to sacrifice you’re pride and arrogance to make someone happy other than yourself.

I was going to stay away from this post because I know it bring up some tension…
But…
I don’t get it.Being submissive is like being a servant so I need to be a servant now,wtf?I know a lot of white woman who wouldn’t tolerate what some black men willing to put through a white woman if the case was being submissive.Phillydon, I hope you explore the world because that was ignorant as hell. From experience, a friend of mine who happens to be white is submissive to my brother’s friend (who’s black), and it so dumb.If a woman is willing to buy her man a computer,laptop, a 360,recording studio and others for her man or to keep her man treating her like a dog gets a “HELL NO!” from me.True story.But not all white woman are like that.There is those types of woman in all races,colors.But I’m past the color issue.Put that white girl in the video or whatever she doing and she is no slut, let a woman of a color do it she get called names.World is coming to an abrupt end where our own people are so against each other, and I thought it was some white counterparts but damn it’s our own damn black people.Oh well, I’m not looking at you I’m looking past you.

He should have learned a lesson from Taye Diggs, Wesley Snipes, and all of the other celebrity figures who continue to slap us in the face, they haven’t learned yet! Gotdamn Shame!!!!!

Also…as a rebuttal to the “dog” comments….

being submissive makes you like a dog right?…is your dog a slave? doesn’t every1 love dogs? don’t dog’s make the best companions?…If men and women would submit to each other and let go of their pride there would be no problems.

julieisadime,

That is so true!

lol @ 148 yeah I know all about Huggie Lo-Down lol.

word @ 159 except I could never be done with black men or dating them….can’t do it because I’ve had good and bad black men so yeah lol.

@ YEAH BUT

THANK YOU-YOUR OPINION SPEAKS VOLUME

I AGREE THAT BLACK WOMEN DON’T NECESSARILY HAVE TO WEAR THEIR STRENGTH ON THEIR SLEEVES-YOU ACTUALLY UNDERSTAND WHY BLACK WOMEN ARE THEY WAY THEY ARE AND WHERE THE PERCEIVED “ATTITUDE” COMES FROM-

IT’S A DEFENSE MECHANISM-IF YOU HAVE NOBODY LOOKING OUT FOR YOU BUT YOU-(MOST BLACK WOMEN ARE SINGLE AND THE HEAD OF THEIR HOUSEHOLDS ) THEN YOU HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE BUT TO BE ASSERTIVE AND SOMETIMES AGGRESSIVE TO MAKE SURE THAT NOBODY TAKES ADVANTAGE OF YOU AND TO GET WHAT IS RIGHTFULLY YOURS-

IT WAS HARD FOR ME TO MAKE THE SAME ADJUSTMENT WHEN MY HUSBAND CAME ALONG-HE EARNED MY TRUST BY SHOWING ME THAT HE WAS THERE FOR THE LONG HAUL AND I DIDN’T HAVE TO BE THE HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD ANYMORE THAT HE WAS CAPABLE, COMPETENT, AND WILLING TO DO IT-AND THAT HE HAD NO INTENTION OF ABUSING MY TRUST

NOW THAT’S CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM-THAT I ACTUALLY CAN HEAR AND APPLY

AND THE FACT THAT YOU ARE A MARRIED BLACK MAN TO A BLACK WOMAN MAKES YOUR VIEWS THAT MORE VALID-GIVE ADVICE, POINT OUT FLAWS, BUT DON’T ATTACK OR DEGRADE LIKE OH BOY AND MANY OTHER MEN ON THIS SITE-

BLACK WOMEN RARELY ABANDON BLACK MEN AS A WHOLE WE ADMIT THAT WE AS BLACK WOMEN HAVE ISSUES BUT CONDEMNING OR ABANDONING US IS NOT THE ANSWER-WE ARE SICK OF SOCIETY BUT SPECIFICALLY OUR OWN BLACK MEN USING THE MEDIA AS A PLATFORM TO SLANDER BLACK WOMEN-

IF WE LISTENED TO MEN LIKE THIS AND ALL OF THE NEGATIVE STEREOTYPES PERPETUATED IN THE MEDIA ABOUT BLACK WOMEN-ONE WOULD THINK THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE DOOMED AND SHOULD GIVE UP ALTOGETHER-

IF WE ARE SO UNWORTHY AND INSIGNIFICANT WHY PAY US SO MUCH ATTENTION? WHY EXPLAIN WHY YOU DATE OUTSIDE YOUR RACE TO US?

AMERICA IS OBSESSED WITH BLACK WOMEN DESPITE ALL OF THE OBSTACLES WE FACE IN LIFE WE PERSEVERE-IT’S HUMAN NATURE TO CRITICIZE WHAT YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND AND ENVY WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE-

THIS SHIT FEEDS MY EGO-TRUST ME AINT NOBODY WASTING THEIR TIME, ATTENTION, AND MONEY ON A GROUP OF PEOPLE WHO ARE TRULY INSIGNIFICANT!

Shana203 — no I am not joking. My post isn’t disgusting. It’s truth! I am in CENTRAL CONNECTICUT and every time I step out the door I see black man, white chick — some even with babies. The black man loves pushing that stroller around with the mixed child in it. Ask him to push his black child around, he’s like “I ain’t got time for that shit …” Up at the track, I see so many black guys running with their white wives and girlfriends. I catch some of the black men staring at me at the track, but that’s all it is staring — as if to say, if I wasn’t so smitten with black, I’d probably give you a chance.

Also, Mocha — fun as in more easy going. White girls are worried about their hair all the time and all that silly stuff. Some of them just come outside with just flip flops and raggedy jeans and still look hot! They hardly have to try!

I meant: white girls AREN’T worried ’bout their hair all the time

also — i meant: “If I wasn’t so smitten with white …”

Ah, you can tell I am pissed. All the errors I’m making …

@ Judah: One you don’t know if this site wouldn’t be in as much of an uproar……I personally would be just as mad….I dislike ignorant self-hating blacks whether they be women or men….I love dating black men. He pretty much thinks white women know better but since black women are apparently differently aka not as well we aren’t as submissive and/or inferior or w/e. Something went wrong in his childhood or adult life to make the comments he did. When people usually want a women as submissive they don’t want someone as strong as them in any way. He sure didn’t say he wanted an equal. Black men need to lose that need of ownership on “their women”. Polow didn’t choose his words incorrectly are you serious?! I think he chose his words to come out just like thjey did. American people and thanks for another generalization are not poor readers ….. not all of us….. and there is a such thing as reading in between the lines. Submissiveness can be in the same boat as servitude….whose supposed to submit…..the person under the authority of course.

How do you know if most and I’d like to know where you got most of the young black women of this generation are so disconnected from the previous…… what I personally see and live is further from the truth. To give many black women much more credit than you will I think they’ll speak on racism when it comes out of anyone’s mouth and not just with a rich black man picks up a non-black woman.

MOE: I guess I dare to be different being one of the few non-religious folks on here. For a few reasons I do have a problem with the divine order. But the divine order can be to one’s perception of it also. That doesn’t seem to smart to me where if the man makes the final decision on everything pretty much and if it works out then great but if it goes to sugar honey iced tea then darnit shame on him? What?! lol nah that doesn’t apply to any of the women I know, nor myself and I probably won’t meet any like that.

And NO black and white girls are NOT raised the same race aside. Race aside there are black women, white women raised to disrespect everyone and not just men and there are those raised to act with women like you prefer but there are plenty of white and black women out there who think a lot like me and some who don’t.

There are black women out there who have had it rough and be the backbone of the family because they had to but don’t run around with a scowl and the world on their backs. You can be good to your man without worrying you have to be submissive or passive or w/e. I’ve yet to meet a man who wanted a woman he could walk over or posed no challenge to him or couldn’t stimulate him besides in his pants. I’m a treat others as you want to be treated so be good to me and I’ll be good to you.

@ 313 I haven’t been to DMV in 2 yrs. but whenever I went people were always smiling and laughing as far as the ones who work there. So yeah I dunno how you can connect that with Polow’s statement -_o. And hell you can ask a person ONE question and you’re BOTHERING THEM so yeah next that. And well I like cooking but it shouldn’t just be your job because well most men I’ve dated loved cooking more than i do. Number 3 I agree with except you don’t need to be a freak in the sheets or keep yourself looking good or make sure you keep your own bank account up out of fear I think just do it because you’re a grown a– woman. lol

NATURAL MYSTIQUE (#213)
Said it perfectly!

Safe 2 Say Polow, touched a nerve. But good dialouge is always good.

Maybe this is a regional issue????

Because I’m from California, and inter-racial dating is as common as apple pie!
I’ve seen inter-racial dating in my family and in my neighborhood since the the 70’s.

But when I moved to the Atlanta a.k.a Black Hollywood, it’s not as common, and me and all my boy’s get the wrap that “we only like white women” which is code for asians, latinas, and south east asian women. But I’ve dated women from all races and they all have their own issues.

@315

“God chose a woman to birth his only Son, not a man….”. I would hope so, lmao. That could hurt. On planet earth, the woman gives birth to the children (Gen 3:16, I Tim 3:15). I don’t know what kind of weak, male feminist pimp talk you’re trying to use but please do not involve the Word of the Lord in your madness, lol. The only perfect creation was Christ, not man or woman (Ecc 7:20, John 17:23). A man or woman only touches perfection when they follow the statutes to the best of their ability (Psa 19:7, Mark 19:21, etc.). The Bible states that the woman was in transgression, not the man (Gen 3:12,13, I Tim 2:13-15). Like you said, Adam was not supposed to listen to Eve and that is why the Lord rebuked him, but the Lord has always called on the men (Num 27:16,17, Prov 8:4, I Tim 2:11,12) and a real man of the Lord understands that he must teach his woman (Eph 5:22-26, I Cor 14:33,34, I Pet 3:1, etc.).

@322

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. You fleshed out the truth beautifully. Thank you. Many of these black women have been big concubines in the entertainment industry from the very beginning up to now (Ezek 16:25, Hos 2:5, Amos 7:17). It is irrefutable. I was just naming black women off the top of the dome but you brought it home. This nonsense that the black man gets rich and runs off with the white woman while the black woman gets rich and stays faithful is mythology.

@356

Point taken. Thank you for being articulate. There are many black women that speak on racial issues, on this site also, when it doesn’t just regard black male/white female interracial relationships. It’s just that I notice the most passion when they feel like they “lost another one”, lol. I still think that the most powerful thing that the man said was concerning the “divine order”. That’s very important because those are ordinances that cannot be thrown off. For you or any other woman to ask why a man asks for divine order means that they are against divine order. There is no wisdom, opinion, or belief system that can come against the protocols laid out by the Lord (Prov 21:30, II Cor 13:8). The people that fight against it do so in vain. The man does not necessarily have to have grown up in a household with a weak female figure or a denigrating father figure to speak about divine order, lol. That shows me that when people speak of God’s laws they will be deemed as crazy or mentally underdeveloped (Acts 26:24,25, I Cor 4:10, etc.).

is this dude serious….? WHATEVER!!!! HE CAN KEEP HIS WHITE GIRL……..:)

very ignorant

Reality’s a bitch , and i heard that she bites.

@Judah
I’m sure I got the point of his statement fully. The fact that he was asked about white girls by whomever was interviewing him already shows the attitude that society has about the issue at hand. He didn’t mentioned anything about Hispanic, Philipino etc… girls ONLY white girls and black girls.

I wonder if he is throwing African, Brazilian, and Aborigine women into his description of how black women are raised. These are black women too with different backgrounds . Therefore, his arguement is flawed especially if he’s never dated these other women of color.

I think you may be trying to validate him statement but as you can see the majority here thinks he should’ve just said I PREFER WHITE GIRLS and left it at that.

with a comment like that he needs to stay w/white girls. He’s just basically saying he can’t deal w/ sista that don’t take no s@it, he can get away with whatever w/a snow bunny but a black women will bust fool head open w/all that playing. So yeah, as fine as he is, stay w/the pink toes cause a sista like me ain’t having it.

He does have some valid points. Overall in the US black women do tend to be less feminine than other women.

@364

DEEP!

WOW! I’m so amazed and disappionted at the minds of are fellow brotha’s in 2007. This situation is serious. I am a African American women and it is my birth right to be strong. God has taken me from your rib, the bone that surround your heart not the bone from your tail. Which means What? I walk behind NO MAN. I walk beside him! I am everything you are and nothing you are not! So for you to go outside your self and find what you think is easier tells me you can’t hang with your own strenght. Which is me a African women. So the real question is, who is really weak? And my botha I have to say it will be you! Sista’s don’t let ignorance steal your joy for we are beautiful and every off brand on this earth envy what we have, and we need to heal as a people for slavery still lives in are own community! PEACE

Come on woman….

First I’d like to say that Polow’s words were a bit crazy. I believe its just to get more attention, but weed out the dumb ass words and look at the overall view….

(Most) Black woman think that being “a strong black woman” has to be all about taking no sh*t, and having a powerful attitude. Why does strong have to be about having attitudes??? Why can’t strong represent a “strong belief” in good values, a strong belief in commitments in a relationship. I have 6 sisters (all black). And needless to say, the belief being strong is like “EVE” or “LIL KIM.” Maybe my moms didn’t do her job all that well, and I know she’ll kick my butt for me saying this. But its true. Black woman….Sistas… come on. What’s so bad about be submissive?? The definition of this is being “patient, and docile”. Its not like the word “surrender”. No man wants a woman to surrender herself.

I’m a black man (military). I’ve been stationed all over the states, and have met many black woman from everywhere a lot rich, and some middle class, all of them were raised by both successful parents. Sorry to say all my encounters with black woman haven’t been so pleasant. I recall one time, I was dating a black woman from Utah (out of all places). I worked 24 hours straight, came home tired and hungry. I asked her “baby do you mind bringing me the sandwich I made earlier from the frig and bring me a glass of water please, I can’t move to save my own life”. She told me “well you aren’t dead yet, so you can do it yourself.”!! That was the last straw for me!

Now I’m stationed out in Europe, and still even see a difference from white girls and black girls. I read a statement from one black woman on here saying that “black woman have to be strong, because they don’t have resources or some crap like that.” White European woman don’t have any money to save their life… They use Euro dollars, which is way stronger than American dollars, and they all are broke! They have it harder than any black woman in the states can ever have!!! To them being submissive is how they were raised. Being submissive, and stupid is one thing, but just submissive is another. What man does want a submissive woman.. I want to marry a submissive woman, for many reasons. Submission, and kindness are hand in hand to me. I don’t want a non-submissive person raising my child! If my baby is crying I don’t want some chic getting an attitude or something, nurture my child be submissive to him!…….. So I’m going to up the ante and say I’ll only take European white woman… I’m not shutting sistas out, and it will take a great sista to bring me back. But truthfully I don’t want to take the risk. I’m very submissive myself and I’ve been played before and all that, but that’s my nature. I was born and raised in Brooklyn NY in a project home, so I had it rough believe me. But I’m still the way I am with no regrets.

I understand the misconception of being submissive is doing everything your man says! Bullshit! Being submissive is picking and choosing battles, choosing how you say things rather than what you say, and making sure the person you love or like is ok as much as possible. What the f*ck is wrong with that????

You black woman on this site just getting hyper right on the jump. Just read what that brotha gotta say and look deeper or even in the mirror. Black woman have been dogging black men out for the longest. We can just sit back and get hyper, but some of us just see what we can do better. I didn’t read a single statement on here from any black woman… Why? I’ll tell you why, because its easier to hyper and it fits your so called “strong black woman attitude” Bullshit…!

Anyway I can go on an on, but I’m about to hop on a plane to Rome. Ladies holla at me, and I’ll gladly go into more detail for you.

Big ups Polow, but stupid way to speak your mind dawg.

Hi BIG BROCKNESS,

I do understand your point and believe me you have some good ones from your stand point… however why is it when a black man on this site wants to agree with “Polow” they have to emphasize I’m a “Black” man, I have “Black” sisters. To me it should not matter what race you are if you have a valid point you have a valid point.

These black women you may have come across may not have been submissive but have you ever heard opposite attracts. Because you are submissive we always tend to choose people that are totally opposite of us, so the women that you choose to deal with is from your own decisions. It really does not matter if you are in the military or not you have not encountered all black women and all European white women to make these allegations.. as I stated before I have friends from many races and some can be labeled as submissive and some can be labeled as having very little tolerance. If we as people stop trying to segregate races by their behavior the world would be a better place.

And to say your mother may not have raised you sisters correctly, well I guess she raised you and you seem to be intelligent. Your mother could have been the Virgin Mary whatever path your sisters take when they become of age is their own decisions and should have no baring on your mother… We do have different teachings from Europe whoever who you are as a person has nothing to do with color. Also, when you have already made up in your mind this race of women is this way and this race of women is that way, you go into a relationship with a negative attitude so no matter what that person does you will only see what you want to see.

A lot of this is judging books by the cover. For example: some of my acquaintances have seen a group of people and because they spoke and act a certain way they judged them as being from the hood, ghetto, low income housing.. and when I told them I was from that same area they were in shock! I did not get upset, it should not bother you when people are ignorant to certain things because they just don’t know and if we start educating each other and stop bashing races we too can have our mind open to allot of things. This is why I love this site I get to meet people and see their side of things and everyone is entitled to their opinion, it may come across as different however we are saying the same thing.

FLY CHIC,

I’m feeling that. Your right 110%. I’ll definetly take a page out of your book on this one… Its easy to judge a book by its cover, and I’m some what guilty of that. I appreciate you seeing my view on this, and also to point out my misguided view. I know there is always a few roses in a field of weeds. I just haven’t came across that one rose yet. You need to preach some words to a lot of these negative sistas out here, and put “knuckle head” like me in there place.. You truley are a FLY CHIC

Big Brockness

He should simply say he likes white women. Originally that king of the white girls” business was about “white girls mad head game”. Then it changed to this nonsense about black women not being submissive. Sounds like he already got checked for the first dumb comment and tried to go another route. We all know how easy it is to blame black women. I haven’t heard any of these “artist” defend black women yet. They will defend themselves though. Fools like Polow will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.

DAMNNIT POLOW I WAS STARTING TO LIKE U

I am a female of mixed race. I think what Polow meant to say was “White women respect money.” Black women question everything, not just thier man. Things or even people tend to come and go out of black women lives since childhood.