KIM PORTER…JUMP OFF OF THE HIP HOP COMMUNITY!! May she forever reign!

THE BABIES ARE SO CUTE-AND THAT IS A NICE CANDID SHOT OF THE FAMILY!

GOOD LUCK TO KIM PORTER SOUNDS TO ME THAT SHE JUST WAS FED UP AND USUALLY THAT’S WHA T IT TAKES FOR U TO LEAVE-AND NOT A MINUTE SOONER DESPITE WHAT EVERYONE ELSE MAY SAY

To #71…Yeah fine ass Morris Chestnut, Shemar Moore, and Bill Belamy, and DL Hugley …EXACTLY…that’s why I didn’t rush to see that one!

I actually caught it on DVD, I try to support black movies. it was aight.

Kim is no victim. She is smug as hell now coz she knows the children will bring the $$. She would not have left him had the adorable twins not arrived.

Kim wants to be a celeb–a REAL celeb in her own right. This is why she now happily agrees with Diddy that he is not ready for marriage blah blah blah because her friendship with him ensures that he can open big doors for her–parties,movie maybe,bigger buzz in the celeb blog world etc–the whole celeb thing.

She also knows that she will never make it (bigger?) if black women see her as a stupid gold digger whose stupid azz man wanted to marry j-lo and her stupid azz stayed for 10 yrs only for the stupid azz man to tell the world that he didn’t want to marry her stupid azz.

Thats why she’s doing the whole ‘i’m a strong wrise woman who knows he is not ready even if he ONLY loved me and now we are friends… and i packed up all ma shit coz i’m a strong black woman who refused to keep taking it….blah blah blah” routine like black women are supposed to hi-5 her.

Maybe one day they’ll get back together. They both suck.

essence is killing me with this kim porter saga…i really don’t feel sorry for her at all….most baby mamas with four kids are scraping for a living…she’s fine! why are they giving this so much attention…well probably cause folks are eating it up…again…why?? you can’t relate to this chick even if you’re a single baby momma….unless your baby daddy is a multimillionaire! she has nothing in common with the everyday woman please believe…

I’ll give her props for leaving him AGAIN, but the fact that she’s always first in line to tell the media all of their business is not cute. Especially when she has a track record for being the one who has to eat her words. Yeah she boasts about leaving him and “taking a stand for herself” in the newspapers, but then she’s all on his arm and back with him in Essence’s next issue. Which is fine, its her own life, but stop including the public…especially when you havent been stong enough to hold it down in the past. Not a good look, but may God have his way…

I have a couple of qestions for the ladies;

#1: Do you have a man?

#2: Is he cheating?

#3: Are you sure?

The reason why I ask is because I don’t know a faithful man. It’s sad, but I don’t. Nor do I know of any relationships (post 1980) that do not experience infidelity. Even people, whom I don’t know that well {meaning not my friends or in my crowd} appear to be hiding something behind their “perfect marriages”.

I say this just to bring light to the fact that women who BELIEVE that a man will commit to you….FOREVER and never want to or even experience another {or man} may be truly fooling themselves.

With the alternatives being either to remain single, or enter a relationship with the hopes of minimizing these action in dreams to establish something meaningful.

I had co-workers say stuff like “My man don’t cheat.” I just respond that he has yet to get caught. But I’m really curious, beacuse a lot of the women on here truly believe there are faithful men out there like Santa Clause. Now if you believe you have to one, you do Boo Boo. I don’t want you to go out there and slash your man’s tires over my opinion. I personally don’t believe they exist. And if there are some, there won’t be enough of them for all of you, so what are you chosing to do?

Just a question, PLEASE DON’T direct your anger and resentment to me.

These two make beautiful kids together. That’s it. Puffy is nothing but a man-whore. All of that shit he did to Kim (i.e. leaving her for Jennifer Lopez, Superhead and all the other whores at the time) all she still took him back. Like R. Kelly’s song said..”When A Woman’s Fed Up”. There’s only but so much any human being can take.

Whats your point Kim, and Essence why should we care. Women get paid off of their wombs everydamn day. Same game, different name!

@83 - That message was right on point to those of us old enough to know the real deal in marriage and relationships.

Personally, I think it’s real easy for people to talk about what they would do if they were Kim, but I think most of the folks who say they would leave are lying to themselves just based on the money factor. Puffy may not be good husband material, but he sure as hell seems like a great Dad, taking in a kid that’s NOT his to raise as his own. I don’t know about you guys, but I don’t know too many men raising aonther mans kid’s as their own. As for whether or not this is a good reason to stay in the relationship, I think it depends on the relationship. Young black boys desperatly need a black MAN in the house, even if he is a jack ass. And if you don’t buy into that, then maybe you can buy into the fact 90% of the black men in prison weren’t raised around or by their Dads. Hell, that alone if reason enough to try to work it out as far as I’m concerned.

Donuts, I read your comment hastily (working…) but I’d like to say there’s a difference… Kim does NOT believe Puffy to be faithful…I think it’s sorta the fact that he cheats UNREPENTANTLY and not even that he cheats, that gets people so mad about the situation. It’s something implicit about the way he’s gone about things… and that makes her look seriously lame. I see what you’re saying though… I tend to believe women rationalize a lot when it comes to men… I don’t like doing the woman/man generalizations, though (because, inevitably men are perceived the stronger, rightfully authoritative figure)…

LMAOOOOO @ DDS. Girl, you crazy!!l!

@Such Magnificence, say that $hit again!! Co-sgin.

*meant co-sign

@#3. First of all, Kim Porter had (and may still have) a sucessfull career as a model, and owns her own business as a promoter with 2 of her friends from college. So she didn’t make a “career” out of baby momma-dom. I don’t agree with her staying with him, even when he was with J-Lo. I think that she believed that if she just stuck by him, he would eventually come around and realize that “damn, this woman really loves me”.. but i’m glad she got tired of subjecting herself to humiliation after humiliation and left.

Thanks Justice66!

I just so happen to be doing just that (raising another’s child as my own).

It’s amazes me to see post after post of “he was ceating” and “she’s stupid for not leaving”, it’s crazy. We have to be real and if not here, where we’re connected with one another through the real life experiences of others, then where? We should try to understand the other.

I heard (or read, cant remember) Puffy say he’s not getting married because he doesn’t believe in his heart man was meant to be with one woman. I know alot of mean who believe that as well. The fact that society has conditioned us into believing that marriage (to one woman) is what is acceptable and if you fall out of that then you’re defected. Many of the heros of the BIBLE, that I see referred to so much on here, had multiple wives (Solomon, Abraham, hell Jacob was married to three sisters). But these notions are quickly dismissed with the modern womans thinking? Who changed that? And to whose benefit? Woman was made to be a helpmate to a man. I didn’t say it GOD did (it is not good for man to be alone, I will make him a helpmate).

Now although I can understand the beauty of being in a relationship with one person, it aint for everyone. Women, have been conditions through TV, society and other women to believe there are men out there waiting and WILLING to commit to them and they shouldn’t settle for less. When most men I know go kicking and screaming down those aisles. Women ask yourself, “Do you really BELIEVE your man ONLY wants to be with you?” Even if he doesn’t act, if he thinks of another woman, dreams or even lust after another then the answer is clear. He doesn’t.

@SUCH MAGNIFICENCe

You said all i’ve to say lol ! Poor Kim !

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She has taught her son its okay to treat women with disregard and her daughters to stay with a man especially if he has money…it doesn’t matter how he treats you and disrespects his family.

#83 DoNuts and DingDongs

Love your screen name by the way. I know what you mean, sometimes I ask a question and get cussed out till Sunday. You are surely right. I do believe that there are faithful men but not enough to go around. I would never comment on what a man is doing or will not do. This is the reason why people should stay single until they feel that they can commit to someone. My sister said it best, marriage is not about love, that oohy gooy feeling will fade with time, you have to ask yourself, are you willing to be committed to this person. Then you have to put your trust in God.

I co-sign with number 3. But I must admit them girls are beautiful. Look at them chubby jaws. Im tearing up….All babies are beautiful to me.

@92 - Or maybe Kim is teaching her sons to not fear taking on another man’s responsibilities and to not lie to your partner about being ready for marriage when you clearly are not. Maybe she’s teaching her daughter’s that when you have children it’s your DUTY to be committed to keeping the family together for the kids sake.

There’s always 2 ways of looking at any situation. But as I’ve said before, there may be faithful men around (i don’t personally believe it), but they don’t make over 6 figures. Women don’t generally go after men who can’t give em’ bling.

@ Donuts, another great post!

Everyone always blames the woman…..Juanita Bynuam, Shaunie, Kim…the list goes on. Like Maya Angelou said, ” Everybody and his brother thinks they can walk a mile in a Black woman’s a$$.”

We give birth, we raise families, we try to love, we try to build communities…only most times to be constantly let down by our male counterparts and then when you attempt to address it, you get blessed out. By everybody. I feel sorry for Black women…..

This $hit is crazy….it’s almost like you are cursed just for trying to love and give birth. You shouldn’t enjoy sex, that makes you a whore. You shouldnt be smart and make some investments for yourself, that makes you a gold digger. You shoudln’t try to overstep your man or he can beat your or stomp on you…..

#96 –I feel sorry for Black women…..

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Heeyyyyyyyy don’t say that Its GREAT to be a black woman!

@ BOBBIE

Let me be say that what Bishop Weeks did, in beating and stomping his wife, was a vicious and cowardly act. I could never condone his behavior. And although I cannot support him in his actions, I do understand how one can be pushed to that reaction.

Our women (Black women) are indeed strong and supportive. Most black men recognize that. But they can also be mean and I mean, MEAN, at times. You can confide in her and tell her things that you’d never tell another, and she’d store it. Keep it to herself (for awhile). Even try and help you get over it. But soon as you make her mad enough, it’s “That’s why your dad left yo mom….!” or “That’s why your mom was beating your ass….!” or whatever he confided in her. Not saying ALL women do this, but a lot of black women do it. These same women want you to be open and honest with them, to share “what’s on your mind” or “what’s wrong?”, when now he’s thinking “You just want more ammo for your guns.”

It’s hard being a black woman I’m sure, but it’s equally hard to be a black man. Not knowing who to trust. Not knowing what to say. Juanita posted blogs about the Bishop calling him a fraud and blasting him last year. And this year they tried to work it out. But something tells me she pushed a serious button to make him go off. I say that not in support of him, but to show that even a woman as respected as her, is capable of going there. It’s sad. real sad

Shaunie? Well you can agree she’s no Juanita Bynum, but it’s obvious that she has some trust issues as well. And Kim? Well many think that anyone in love with a celebrity has some underline reason. So In a sense I agree that women shoulder a lot of the blame when relationships fail.

But how do we make them last? Particularly in today’s society when divorces are so easy to do. I’m afraid that the days of 50 and 60 years marriages are behind us. Most marriages are lucky to get to the ten year mark.

Men need women who understand that times have changed. That’s marriages are not as conventional or as convient as they were in the past. Black families stayed together, because so much was against us in years past. At a time in this country it was common practice to seperate the family to prevent these unions from being strong. Once freed, we continued to carry out alot of the same behavior. It truly is sad. I love my sisters. They are (to me) the most beautiful creatures that God has created. They come in so many shades, and sizes, with so many wonderful attributes. I love their laughs and their touch is definitelly comforting. At times a black woman can make a penniless man feel like a millionaire. That same woman can make a millionaire feel worthless. THEY have trememdous power. But with great power, comes great responsibility. Some women don’t understand that power or that responsiblity.

I don’t feel sorry for black women, but I do feel sorry for black men who can’t love them, despite the actions of a few. It’s not about overshadowing or out-thinking him. It’s about how you make him feel about himself that will make him want to do right by you.

wow…thing is she says that she made the “action” to leave but then she still speaks to him everyday as a “friend”. I understand she has kids with him but for someone like Diddy…who travels alot…it’s not like he was seeing her and the twins that much anyway! So talking on the phone was probably ALWAYS a big part of her relationship! So to keep doing it is not going to allow him to get the hint. She has to make other actions. Thing is, when someone is in an on/off again relationship you HAVE to come with something substantial so the other person knows you are serious. Always being there for Diddy doesn’t allow him to miss her!. I think she just doesn’t want some other woman to take her “spot” Namely, his other baby mama in ATL. He has known her for over TEN years. If SHE wanted him then she could easily slip into Kim’s “spot”.

Wow, I can’t believe what I’m reading. It’s OUR duty to keep the family together for the sake of the kids???!!! LOL, if you marriage is crap, believe me your kids know it’s crap and the only thing your teaching them is that your dysfunction is normal and they’ll go out and get themselves in the same messed up relationship.

All men cheat? Yes, men who watched their father cheat on their “long-suffering” mothers, do it because they think it’s normal (see paragraph above). Men who’ve been coddled all their lives, are spoiled, self-centered and selfish because no one in their lives has ever called them on their mess or held them to any responsiblity cheat because they can get away with it.

She put up with it, so he did it, case closed. If she had cleared her stuff out after the JLo affair, we wouldn’t be talking about this now. Black men need to stop expecting women to love them enough to put up with their mess and learn to love and respect their families and whatever promises they have made to their partner/wife. End of story.

I also agree with people saying that it is the way Puffy was so BLATANT with his cheating. Men cheat. People Cheat. But you don’t do it in front of your spouse, scratch that, in front of the WORLD. And then basically come across like you KNOW you got it like that and your significant other will stay. Puffy basically said that in so many words with his actions and she looked lame by going along with it.

awwwww those babies are sooo cute!
i want one!

sounds to me like she tried to give him an ultimatum by walking out
she may say its not about the marriage but she does want him to just be committed to her so same thing…

by the way 3 kids together?
before it was 5
now that she moved out its 3 huh
lol

#99 I also think that she made that statement for all the women who he is dealing with know that they talk everyday.

When Is Kim gonna learn that when you say you DOING YOU, YOU DONT CONTINUE TO HAVE INTERVIEWS ABOUT DIDDY! I dont have much sympathy for her, she continued to play her own damn self by being with him for 10 years w/ 3 kids and he has the adacity to still say “Im not marrying her”.And she should really stop telling the media her business. Hope you get it together Kim….

I agree with #5 for the most part.

But I can’t help to think that this girl had this all planned out! People on here are calling her stupid, dumb, and lazy. But I get the feeling that this was all premeditated. For starters, to a certain extent it just happened. She modeled, met Puffy, fell in love, had a baby, etc. But think about this. She said that she wanted the drama! So maybe, she wanted the drama so that she could get the media attention. She wanted the attention to spark her Three Brown Girls company. She wants that spark to boost her popularity. Just wait. By 2009, she’ll be staring in a movie with Will Smith and be recording her second R&B album!
Im thinking this girl is anything but lazy.

SCREW P-DIDDY HE ACTS JUST LIKE A FEMALE. HE PROBABLY THINKS THAT HE LOOKS BETTER THAN SHE DO. DO YOU SEE HOW ARROGANT HE IS. POOR KIM PROBABLY CAN’T EVEN GET A WORD ACROSS WHEN THEY HAVE A DISAGREEMENT. DIDDY AND USHER ARE WITH THESE WOMEN ONLY AS A FRONT, JUST LIKE R KELLY WAS WITH ADULT FEMALES IN PUBLIC. DIDDY IS IN LOVE WITH MONEY AND THAT IS IT, HE DOES NOT CARE WHO HE HURT IN THE PROCESS. KIM WAS WRONG FOR HAVING MORE BABIES BY THIS DUDE KNOWING THAT HE WAS NOT GOING TO MARRY HER.

Dysfuctional IS normal simply because nobodys’ perfect. Gambling, over eating/getting too fat, cheating, lying, depression, alcoholism, drug addition, terminal illness. I don’t know of ANY married couple that hasn’t had to deal with something “dysfunctional” in their marriage.

babies are cute. Kim needs to learn to move on- I don’t care what anyone says being married to a man who cheats/lies/disrespect you/ is setting yourself up for heartache UNLESS you intent to be in the relationship for your own gains==$$$$$.

Ha this is one part that I just don’t believe. She sounds like she is in denial here

KIM PORTER: Because there was no other way. You think he would have let me walk out the door? He wouldn’t have wanted me to go

WELL maybe so; maybe he didn’t want HER to leave, but only because she’s the only girl that lets him get away with so much. A lot of girls I think would have been long gone after his first screw up. If they are such good friends, they need to just keep it that way and find new partners. Several partners in Did’s case

I think that it is funny how all these women are chastising Kim for her behavior. Ever notice how when our girlfriends are accepting BS from a man, we are the first to shake our heads and point our fingers…but then when its us…its different. The only reason half of yall are gettin on her so bad is because you wish you could or would listen to your own advice.

This is her life and she has lived it how she has lived it. You are not perfect and her staying with Diddy 10 years vs, your staying with Tyrone from down the street for 2 years is no different…you both STAYED when you should have LEFT…

If you stay with someone for that long there usually is a REASON…whether it was a good reason or not… we cant say. The majority of us just look at it and say she stayed cause he was her meal ticket. But really, would Diddy be with a female that is a golddigger…is a business mogul like that reallly that stupid?Hmmm..i dont think so.
All we see are bits and pieces of their lives.Now if we saw bits and pieces of your lives, how do you think you would match up?

@110.

That’s really all that needs to be said Sweetheart.

You jes held the mirror to their faces like Jerome from The Time!

TrkGal83…. girl u r beyond ur years. lol!

The twins are getting so big, adorable…diddy has another illegitimate child in atl. dayum shame.

like why is diddy running around making all these babies with Kim and aint marry her yet??? He got like eighty kids (five counting the ATL addition) and he still running around like a little boy. LET THE GAME GO!!!! just get married already, damn!

WHAT! Diddy got a baby in ATL? Didnt know about that. Kim is beautiful, but unfortunately she is dillusional. If a man treated me the way Diddy treated her, you think I would still be his friend? NO! Sure I will let him see the kids, but there would be some animosity for sure.

hmmmmm it’s much deeper than this….she’s still frontin’ IMO.

It all comes down to a womans worth . Some women place a price tag on that, and for the right price will tolerate a whole lotta shyt that another woman (like myself wont).Money is not everything to me,esp when it comes at the cost of my own self esteem,respect,and integrity. To allow a man (whoever he is ,and however rich he might be) take advantage of you,humilaite you,and make you look like azz of the year is ridiculous. Hes paraded women around town (other than her),declared his undying love and affection for other women, and said on the record in an interview that he does not see himself getting married to you and your still around”why”?Guess some women are just suckers for punishment. Like I said before I see her going back for more DIddy because shes like an energizer bunny “take a licking and keep right on ticking”STUPID!
and I’m curious to know where there any other children in attendance besides his children?I thought that it was an adult party!The babies are cute ,but Kim Porter needs to stop trying to play that wifey role with a man that has no plans to make her a wife!

“Such Magnificence” said it all and said it best! Puff daddy, diddy or whatever he’s calling himself these days has made a complete fool out of Kim Porter. Money can’t buy you self-respect or your self-worth. This pity diddy, have no self-control, spreading his seed all over; he’s just so self-absorbed, arrogant and disgusting…

hey im tilona
i just wanna say im Tupac shakur’s biggest fan,
and just wanna tell you to watch ya back ie’t puff daddy….
lolzzz 4 2pac not diddy

bUt u ie’t
lolz 4 u 2

I THINK ITS SO SAD THAT ALL YOU WOMEN HATE ON OTHER WOMEN JUST BECAUSE A DPENIS IS AROUND. FOR ALL THE WOMEN (BLACK, WHITE, SPANSH, N ECT). EVERY TIME A MAN HAS MONEY SILLY WOMEN SPEAK GOLD DIGGER. THINK THIS MOST WOMEN ARE WEAK FOR A DUMB PENIS. TAKE A LOOK AT THE HISTORY OF WOMEN AND MEN RELATIONSHIPS. MOST WOMEN ARE SITTING AROUND WAITING FOR HER PENIS TO LOVE HER, LISTEN, COMMIT, MARRIAGE, BE FAITHFUL. MOST MEN ARE LOOKING FOR BOOTY N DONT WANT TO DO WHAT I MENTIONED IN MY LAST SENTENCE, UNTIL THEY ARE BALD N GREY N BORING. INSTEAD OF HATING ON KIM YOU SHOULD WONER WHY MOST MEN WOULD STAY WITH WOMEN FOR 10 YEARS OR LONGER, HAVE 3 OR MORE KIDS, AND NEVER WANT TO GET MARRIED??????? LOOK IN YOUR OWN FAMILIES AND LIFE EXPERIENCES ANSD SEE HOW MEN TREAT YOU,FAMILY,FRIENDS. MOST WOMEN I SEE WITH KIDS ARE SINGLE. BLACKS,WHITES, SPANISH. AND THEY DO IS TALK ABOUT THEIR NO GOOD HUSBANDS OR BABBY DADDY’S LEAVING THEM, NOT PROVIDING,SPENDIND NO TIME AT HOME. THIS SHIT IS NOT KIM N PUFFY. THIS THING IS GLOBAL. I GIVE KIM PROPS ON PICKING A FINACIALLY ABLE MEN TO DEAL WITH AND HAVE CHILDREN BY. BECAUSE IF SHE DIDNT SHE WOULD BE JUST ANOTHER BLACK STATISTIC, STRUGGLING, WELFARE MOM WITH NO BABY FATHER. JUST LIKE THE MAJORITY OF THE BLACKS,HISPANICS N NOW THE EASY LITTLE WHITE GIRLS R POPPING UP WITH ILLIGITIMATE MIXED RACED BABIES WITH NO BABY DADDY N MONEY. LOOK AT THE BIG PICTURE N GET OFF DIDDY’S JOCK BECAUSE HE IS RICH. HE STILL HAS THE RESPONSIBILITY TO BE A REAL MAN. LIKE GOD INTENDED HIM TO BE. NOT A SELF INDULGED MONEY HUNGRY TYRANT. PEACE

diddy is an arrogant assshole…and she was stupid enough to think he might one day marry her!!!!