Stay strong sister!

Hmm I wish her well and I hope that other people in a similar situation follow her example and get out while they can.

In regard to marrying him twice, I don’t know about that. You kick my ass once and I am not coming back for Act II.

second?
i see where she is going w/ this..
hopefully God will be on her side.
she deserves better.
and good thing she spoke up!
no one deserves that.

IT’S A DAMN SHAME.

This is a saddening situation. I wish her the best. I hope she stays strong. She’s a beautiful woman.

exactly. 1st time shame on him. 2nd time shame on you. domestic abuse is never a good thing. ive been in relationships like that and you have to be strong and walk away or get help.

I think she should divorce him, because there is no excuse in beating a women. I know some of us desearve it, but if you need to beat her for her to act the way you want her to then you should just leave her alone. Also the same thing is for the ladies, because if you hit someone even out of anger you better expect to be hit back!!!!

That is damn shame.

All of you all out there in Christendom need to get off this “pray for them and judge not lest you be judged”. Look the tree is known by the fruit that it bears. These two trees are not bearing the right kind of fruit; it’s just that plain and simple. I don’t know why the “saints” are so quick to cover up mess rather than calling it what it is. It is what it is…A BIG MESS. Even the folks (unsaved) in the world know how to call a spade a spade. No fruit of the Spirit is evident on these trees. Ya’ll need to get a grip! Stop being in denial about this situation. Sympathy goes out to Bynum, because no one deserves to be abused in any form or fashion. On the other hand she needs to stop making public appearances and sit her hips sit down somewhere so she can make sound decisions about this matter.

My prayers are for Prophetess Bynum and Bishop Weeks.
He is still a child of God and needs our prayers too.

I love Prophetess Bynum. This just goes to show that we are all human and we have our own crosses to bear and our own demons to castout. I’m certain that God will get the glory from all of this and that battered women across the world will benefit greatly from the upcoming resurgence of THE FIGHT AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE led by Bynum.

God Bless her.

That’s too bad their marriage did not work out. Good luck to her.

One more thing, we need to stop saying everybody is a child of god. If god put some of us down here, than you should also know that the devil got his kids up in here also.

Bre, the energy you are spending on yelling at others on the board because they are not seeing or saying things the way you want them to be is wasteful.

Just pray for these people and all others that are in these deadly situations and move on.
To start insulting others on the board to prove your point is ridiculous.

good for her. she doesn’t have to put up with that crap

#9 I agree. She is sending mixed messages. It is what it is, I understand the forgiveness part of this whole thing but I don’t understand the marrying twice part. She surely shouldn’t be giving any advice to women because she sounds confused. They both seem a bit shady to me anyway, just like Kirk Franklin.

Domestic violence is very common in the church-more common than people would like to admit.

Women are pressured to stay and keep the family together-it’s their “christian” duty- and that’s why it never reported, even when there are children invovled. Also some women are scared to go to members of the church for help because they think that their “business” will be put out their in the congregation. Just look at that one woman who killed her husband(a pastor) because she said he constantly abused her. I’m glad it didn’t go that far for this situation.

I’m glad that she’s taken herself out of that situation and can finally get on with her life.

BRE,

Christians are SUPPOSED to pray. It is not covering it up. It’s just basically making the statement that we are ALL human and we make mistakes. I’ve never heard Weeks preach, but I know that Bynum ALWAYS, ALWAYS puts on front street how human she really is and that life is a struggle for everyone, which is WHY you should look to God for direction, not because youare perfrect, but because you are NOT perfect.

So, praying is a way of saying, “God I know I’m not you, and I have fallen AGAIN, but I’m going to now get back up.” So that’s the puorpose of people saying to pray, because we all need it.

None should ever put their spiritual leaders on a pedestal, because most of them, the good ones, will explain to you that they are delivering God’s message, but THEY ARE NOT GOD, so they DO make mistakes!

Does that make sense?

It should have never gone past the FIRST shoving match. That’s why this was bound to happen. Trust, if a man or woman gets comfortable enough to strike you once best believe they’ll think it’s OK to strike you a second time. There’s no perfect relationship but if I have to get so mad that I want to literally whoop you, that’s a problem. I hope she learns from this. She’s too old to be going through things of this nature.

lol #2 cosign

# 7 no one deserves to be hit

#18
Excellent post!

#18 that makes perfect sense.

BTW, If a man pushes and shoves you, the slaps and punches are right around the corner then the stomping and kicking is right at the next light with death being the destination.

may God bless her AND him for that matter. I’ve heard her speak and i have their “Teach me how to love you” book and CD. i haven’t finished the book, but the CD is real. According to the CD, she’s been thru it with a former husband. i wish her the best. i think she’s making the right decision!!

…yall saw “whats love got to do with it” and she did too-she aint crazy! LOL!!!

Well, at the very least, she’s got the sense to get out. Love doesn’t give you black and blue eyes and a ring around your neck.

I don’t know about the remark about marrying him twice, but I do believe that she needs to forgive him and move on. you don’t just stop loving someone overnight just because they hurt or mistreat you. she is divorcing him so that is a good sign that she will not tolerate that behavior. it is hard for a person in the public eye, especially in the Christian circle, to admit that they are human and suffer like the rest of us. no one wants to be humilitated but when it is all over the media, it makes the situation even worse. the best thing she can do is be a testimoney for other women.

How Sad.. Speaking from past experiences, I truly hope she heals from this horrible situation and not allow “the love she still has for him”, to cloud her better judgment in the long run. Even when someone has hurt you physically and mentally beyond comprehension, its still soooo hard to believe it actually got to that point even WHEN you saw it coming a LONG time ago. Love can surly blind you to the realities of a situation. SMH.. I hope he gets what he deserves, the Bastid.

Evidently some you need to pick up a bible. That’s not judgment. That is just truth.

We are all created by God and we all his children- ALL of us. Evil spirits are of the devil and we can all be filled with them, at time. Like when you judge, diss celebs or even tell a “white” lie ..you are working for Satan because those behaviors are not of God. God does not have a sin scale….all sin stinks in his nostils.
So Satan does not have “kids”, he has willing participants that allow him to use them…. sweetie that can be anyone.

Thank God that he is a forgiving God, because he offers repentence , and in many cases a second or more chances for us all to get it together. He is not like man and their heartless judgement, so don’t put him on our earthly level.

Good for her, i’m glad she’s moving on…

I just watched the exclusive interview at MyFox9Atlanta and not once did I hear her say anything about divorcing her husband. If I am remembering correctly, she told the reporters “No Comment.”

Go here for the video and see for yourself: http://www.myfoxatlanta.c...p;pageId=1.1.1&sflg=1

@ 18, GROWNAZZWOMAN, I totally agree.

That’s why I’m not against divorce. When it comes to situations like these, you really have to run away, that’s why I applaud women who have the strength to leave like Yolanda Adams or now Juanita Bynum. It is one of the scariest situations, and it’s even worse and harder to leave when he threatens to kill you or harm your family, you feel trapped. But women need to stay strong, and have the strength to talk about it to a man that they trust in their entourage if they have any, cause keep in mind that there are some men out there WAITING TO HELP YOU OUT AND FUCK UP a woman beater. I know that my father and big cousins would cut any man trying to raise his hand on me, don’t even entertain the thought, I got protection, you’d be asking for death.

Wow!!! I think The fact that this isn’t the first time he’s put his hands on her in an argument speaks more on HER character than his..

im sorry you guys but i dont follow this woman. i do feel as if this was uncalled for but i ve seen domestic violence 1st hand and someone does just as much damage by words and then when the weaker strikes it s there fault. i feel as if this whole story hasnt been revealed yet as well it s really none of our business, but she is going to ride this all the way to the bank damn shame kinda makes me think was he set up poor thing i pray for him cause he is the one whos getting ready to get the sh_t end of the stick!

#9 I agree. She is sending mixed messages. It is what it is, I understand the forgiveness part of this whole thing but I don’t understand the marrying twice part. She surely shouldn’t be giving any advice to women because she sounds confused. They both seem a bit shady to me anyway, just like Kirk Franklin.

** This sista is not sending mixed messages. She is saying that she still loves her “real” husband and would marry that person again. Not the one Satan influenced to abuse and disrespect her.
She is being real people about her feelings.

When you really love someone and you know the real them, you cannot turn those feelings off like a faucet. Sure you need to get out of the abusive situation immediately and never go back, but those feelings and dreams you had for your marriage are real and significant.

Is it her husband whom she caught having sex with a male member of his congregation. Any man who can beat his WIFE like that publicly need to be stoned. I don’t care what anyone says. He knew better. Yes we all sin. But when you intentionally sin there is not excuse for it. He knew he was going to do that to her. He wanted to humiliate her and he did. He is a grown man and should definitely be held accountable for his ACTIONS. She needs professional help along with God’s help. Cause she doesn’t seem too certain. I know that love is blind. But in this case he certainly showed her he DOES NOT LOVE HER. She need to deal with this situation honestly and move on. He is not remorseful. I am sure this isn’t the first time he has done this. So take heed or Juanita you will be found DEAD. SERIOUSLY!

“My love for Bishop Weeks I don’t think will ever die. I said this to someone yesterday, my love for him, separating what I experienced in that parking lot, I have enough love. It’s so much until I think I can marry him twice, but this one is over,” she added.
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I hope she begins preparing herself for the fact that after he is punished (whatever that may be), he may one day soon re-marry. And i mean marry another woman.
I hope she can get some counselling and wish her well.

Juanita Bynum, I trust you will seek the help and support you need as you step towards living a life free of interpersonal violence. Sad to say you are not the new face of domestic violence, you are among thousand of women from every social-economic walk of life, who have experienced this violence. I have worked with survivors of domestic violence/ sexual assault for over 2 decades, please note that ministers, doctors, etc.. are not exempt from this crime. This violence is not limited to the poor, or to minorities.

The statement that you still love your husband is honest. The majority of survivors love the individual that is abusing them, they don’t however love the behaviors of the violent person. Many survivors stay because of that love and assume that they can change this person. The reality is that the perpetrator of this violence is the one who has to make that decision. For many perpetrators of violence their is no motivation to change, because the violence works for them, it gets and gives them what they need; power and control over another.

Mrs. Bynum, take the time you need to put your life in order. You are right in stating that the injuries will fade and heal, but the emotional impact of violence take on someone’s life take more time and remains a part of them. I know your faith in God will see you through, but based on the steps you have taken so far, (criminal justice system) I know you have an awareness that there are other resources available to you. Utilize them, we all know that there are times when we need to reach out for help, know that there are advocates who will provided support. The National Domestic Violence Hotline # 1-800-799-7233 /1-800-787-3224 TTY is available 24/7
staff is available for support and information.

Juanita Bynum you will be in the unique position of bringing information to other victims of domestic violence. You have a unique platform for bringing information into the Church. Again take sufficient time to attend to your health and safety. Afterwards carve a path that encourages and empowers women to live free of violence………

Thank you for the clip, Bayaba.

I watched half of it, I just couldn’t listen to anymore. Sounds like she wants to continue a relationship with him. Sounds like more books and church members to come, ching ching, just a new hustle for her, please give me a break. No comment on all of the questions that matter. She should have kept quite if she wasn’t going to answer relavent questions. Just my opinion.

I cosign with, #18, #29 and 35. These comments are on point and explained my thoughts on this completely.

THAT’S THE KIND OF LOVE THAT WILL GET YOU KILLED

WHEN YOU LOVE A MAN MORE THAN YOU DO YOURSELF THAT’S OBSESSION-(HIM KICKING HER ASS AND HER PLEDGING HER UNDYING LOVE)

SEEK COUNSELING SHE OBVIOUSLY HAS SOME DEEP ROOTED ISSUES THAT WILL REQUIRE INTENSE THERAPY

I’VE BEEN A FOOL FOR LOVE BUT IT ONLY TAKE’S ONE TIME FOR YOU TO PUT YOUR HANDS ON ME BEFORE IT BECOMES A THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE!

I LOVE MYSELF TOO MUCH TO ALLOW ANYONE TO PUT THEIR HANDS ON ME -I RARELY GOT SPANKED AS A CHILD AND I BE DAMN IF AS AN ADULT SOME MAN IS GOING TO PLAY MY DAMN DADDY!

THAT HOT PENNIES & GRITS, MY PEOPLE’S OFFICIAL ASS STOMPIN, AND THE CHARGES I WOULD PRESS FALSE AND TRUE WOULD BE ENOUGH TO LET ANY NEGROE KNOW I AINT THE ONE TO BE PUTTIN NO HANDS ON AND THATS FOR REAL!

I wonder if this beating didn’t happen publicly would she have stayed? Something tells me yes. Especially the way she’s talking about how she would marry him twice and how she’s not just mad at him beating her. What other reason is there? I don’t think she was mad enough. She really, really loved this man (her words) and I know she would have stayed if she wasn’t faced with this public humiliation. I’ve seen it too many times before.

@21, I agree but I also agree that some women think they’re above getting hit no matter how much they put a man through. They think that they can hit a dude, get all up in his face, talk shit, push him and not get pushed back simply because they’re a female. So in that respect I understand that #7 is saying. Not saying it’s right but that’s reality.

My prayers go out to Pastor Bynum, and the cowardly husband should step down from being a pastor at this time. I must admit, Pastor Bynum has a tendency to always SCREAM when she talks, and that could be an issue with anyone who has to listen to her closely everyday. Once again the husband is a coward and less than a man.

Not for nothing, but I bet we’ll see her on Oprah sometime next year with tears in her eyes, asking folks to help her “sow a seed” to help other victims. She will ride this one like a jockey on a horse. I’m sorry, I don’t really approve of people who say they are here to send you a message of God then more or less charge you for that message, the folks who are hurt the most by this are the ones who can least afford it while the “minister” is spreading themselves out in mansions, and adorning themselves in designer duds, high-end cars, and massive amounts of jewelry.

ms_mac, I agree. I think because it was a public beating is why it’s out. In part of her interview a reporter asked her was she participating in the prosecution and she said that she could not answer that, she most likely won’t. I think she will eventually go back.

She kinda sounds brainwashed. There is never an excuse for a man to hit a woman, ever. He needs help, and it sounds like she has alot of healing to do, mentally. People can change, with help.

cosign #44

Wait, marrying him twice?? OH H*LLLLL NO!!!!! How did I miss that part? What the heck? She definitely needs Jesus.

Im quite speechless, i just hope God helps her bear the agony and hurt.

This is a P.S. to those reading this post. Please note:

Leaving an abusive relationship is difficult. A battered woman will leave and return a number of times before making the finally decision to end the relationship. Victims should not be judge harshly for this, their are many underlying reason’s that determine those decisions for them. If you know someone in this situation, be supportive in the ways that you can. Refer them to service providers that can assist during this stressful and dangerous time. Know that it will take time…….allow them the time.

Below is information that can be found on the National Domestic Violence Hotline Website.

The Role of Religion
Religious teachings can be misinterpreted, taken out of context or used as a tool by some batterers to further their control.

Victims and survivors may struggle to understand the abuse in light of their religious beliefs. As a faith community, you can help victims recognize and acknowledge the challenge of their inner conflict, and be clear that the responsibility for the abuse lies with the abusive partner.

Speak Out
Speaking out against abuse sends a message to the victim and survivor, as well as the batterer, that domestic violence is unacceptable and contrary to religious teachings.

“Let the husband render unto his wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband.”
1 Corinthians 7:

“Vex not, for God notes her tears.”
Talmud

“Your wives are a garment for you and you are a garment for them.”
Quran 2:187

As you can see I have a commitment to advocacy. I have learned that one voice is powerful, and can change the world. All of our voices joined together would make a beautiful sound for change.

So sad. Her faith in God should help her get through this difficult time.

Stay strong Juanita. You’re a beautiful person in every way!

@ julieisadime, I would almost bet money that she would go back. She is a classic case study for an abused woman. And it’s so sad because she seems to have so much going for her. But speaking from experience, it will take a long time for her to get over him, and only if she truly wants to. She needs to think more of herself and her self-worth if she’s ever going to overcome the hold he has on her. It’s hard and I understand. But she’s in the best possible position to make it happen. She has all kinds of supporters, the church, her community, God. All she needs now is to beleive it herself.

SHE NEEDS A DAMN MAKEOVER!!

So true, ms_mac. Sometimes I think we refuse to listen to God when he is trying to help us, we can’t see past what we want. Church folk included.

#18 I totally agree the Bible says to pray without ceasing.

The really really sad thing about this is that, though I am not a holy roller by any stretch of the imgination–i don’t speak in tongues and can’t quote many bible pasages-weeks before this happened I was watching some of the relationship videos that she had on both her and weeks’ site.

There is one video I saw that talked about them going to MV (Martha’s Vineyard) and she told him to let her out of the car. He came back for her running, she picked up a brick (this is all apart of her sermon)–I mean this was at the very beginning. To me behavior like this doesn’t just come out of no where it escalates-I also think that if you have your third eye tuned you get intuitive signs. Like wasn’t he married when they first met?

The other major issue for him was her ambition. I believe that he was conflicted in many ways –that translated into aggression-then abuse-then this physical violence stuff. I’m sorry she is much more of an orator –a preacher than he is. I don’t think he knew how to handle it. She also talked about how her checkbook is open. And when a woman loves a man she is supposed to help him-and in some cases be the breadwinner-while he gets his footing.

Bottom line is-it was a bad match. I think (out of her own sermon and words) that this was a doomed relationship from the start.

Gotta go all the way back to #9. You are speaking TRUTH.

And this broad ain’t no damn PROPHET. If she was, SHE WOULD’VE SEEN THAT ASSWHUPPIN’ COMING.

She’s a fukkin FRAUD.

OKay I stopped reading @ comment 39 and I agree for any woman that goes through this to please get in contact with some help I repost that number that poster #39 posted because this is an issue that needs to be addressed and not swept under the rug like it never happened Please call The National Domestic Violence Hotline # 1-800-799-7233 /1-800-787-3224 TTY is available 24/7
staff is available for support and information.

Post #18 you are so on point with this message thank you!

My prayers go out to BOTH Juanita and Bishop weeks, because they NEED it Period. God is able to bring them through this and the prayers of the righteous availeth much. Beyond the insults, the pedestals, and the critics these are two human beings that need to BOTH be healed emotionally from all of this. Whether it be deliverance healing from anger, or emotional hurt and broken hearts they both need to be healed. Like I said I’ll close my mouth to the situation and keep praying for the healing. ON BOTH PARTS.

The bible says you can not serve two Gods. The Bynums appear to be more about flossing than saving souls. The Bynums are up to their hair lines in debt because of their lavish and quite wordly lifesyles. Thousands of people look up to them and they teach this prosperity hype but owes everybody. Juanita signed a contract for stage play, they paid her $100.000.00 up front and she never showed so now the company is suing her. They still owe Tiffanys for the wedding rings. I’m lived in the ATL and I peeped those two awhile back. There is nothing wrong with being prosperous but there a difference in prosperous and flat out greed. Wake up people!!!!!!!

SAD that she doesnt take her own advice that she gives other women. Love does not show itself with a closed fist or imprints around your neck. As Lauren Hill said, “I used to love you now I dont”.

The one has spoken. Women love yourself before you love him, Love God before any man.

@ JUSTSAYIN’, people don’t understand the psychological aspect of the situation. It’s much more complex than they imagine, but they just label victim as “weak”. Not to mention all the threats/mental abuse that these women have to face “if they think about leaving”. I know how difficult it is cause a relative of mine used to be a victim. I feel what you typed.

I believe the “marrying twice” statement meant she would have renewed her vows with him or go through the drama of a big wedding with him twice. I’m sure she doesn’t mean she would marry him again after the beating.

BRE I am with you all the way, there’s nothing more distainful than hypocrisy

WTF!!! “the new face of domestic violence,”!?!?!?

More like the poster child for how to get your ass kicked for “not leaving when God gives you a sign your man is crazy and is going to stomp the holy crap out off you in a MickyD’s parking lot”. Some women can’t take a hint. She should have known an ass whooping was coming.

Clue #1 an ass whooping was coming:
“This was not the first time that we had a physical altercation. It’s never been to this degree, never. Shoving. He’s never physically drawn a fist back and hit me, but it’s been pushing and shoving,”

Clue #2 another ass whooping is coming:
“my love for him, separating what I experienced in that parking lot, I have enough love. It’s so much until I think I can marry him twice,”

I personally think she’s sending the wrong message to battered women. Buy hey, I hear some women don’t believe a man loves them unless he’s kicking her ass. I myself send flowers…..but that’s just me.

sugarB
Friday, September 7, 2007
The bible says you can not serve two Gods. The Bynums appear to be more about flossing than saving souls. The Bynums are up to their hair lines in debt because of their lavish and quite wordly lifesyles. Thousands of people look up to them and they teach this prosperity hype but owes everybody. Juanita signed a contract for stage play, they paid her $100.000.00 up front and she never showed so now the company is suing her. They still owe Tiffanys for the wedding rings. I’m lived in the ATL and I peeped those two awhile back. There is nothing wrong with being prosperous but there a difference in prosperous and flat out greed. Wake up people!!!!!!!
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I think most of that debt is his. He was evicted from their marital home in July (but he had since bounced). I believe that she was the checkbook here. She just did a conference in FL with like 300k people in attendance at 60 bucks minimum a person. The math is simple. She had a new york times best seller book-and wasn’t she the publisher??? She came out with a gospel record that went gold “(which is good for Gospel) on flow records-of which she owns.

you do the math…

some of ya’ll better than me cause i just can’t seem to muster up the grace to pray for that man. i don’t know maybe i need to try, God forbid he gets into another relationship and beats up another woman

You are crazy, ezelmo. luvin your avatar

#56 i read that elswhere. They had an arguement, she got out of the car and threw her cell at him (the car) and broke it. He asked her to get back in and she refused. He got out to go to her and she reached down and picked up a brick. SMH

@65. Wow. I did not know that. mmm she is really flossing. Brainwashing is very lucrative.

I read on another blog this morning that he had previously “body slammed” another church member. You will not guess in a million years who helped to convince that woman not press charges- Juanita

Had a girlfriend/co-worker in the same situation. She wasn’t so fortunate to live to talk about it. She left behind a 2 week old little boy. RIP KAYLA.

#71, I’m so sorry to hear that. so sad.

@cat4everrr, are u serious? I hope this is not true, if so, she really should not be giving advice.

68.

setian
Friday, September 7, 2007
#56 i read that elswhere. They had an arguement, she got out of the car and threw her cell at him (the car) and broke it. He asked her to get back in and she refused. He got out to go to her and she reached down and picked up a brick. SMH

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dang that must of been a popular video. I think Bynum has a lot of talent. She is flawed like everyone else. She is a smart business woman. But sucks relationship building with men. I think people are being too hard on her. NO BODY SHOULD BE ONE THING TO ALL PEOPLE. When I saw these love relationship videos they had I knew that hey…maybe I should just listen to her about wealth building and spirituality…maybe when it comes to my man and my relationship I may want to consult somebody who has never thrown a brick at her husband.

its all good though.

its the same reason I wouldn’t go to my mechanic for my taxes.

Thank you.
I’m sure she never thought the man she laid down and had her first child with, would kill her with his bare hands.