J. DAKAR ON: THE GOOD LIFE
Tuesday, April 1, 2008

For some time, I was concerned about the car I drove & other nonsense I now find to be of little importance. At one point, I wore two carat diamond studs in my ears, but have downgraded to a less ostentatious quarter carat. In the end, it’s not going to matter how big my diamonds were or whether I drove a Ford or a Ferrari. That’s not what will determine my worth.
The status of a person is not how much money they have or what they do for a living — the real importance of a person is how they treat everybody, particularly the people who are deemed lower than them in society. I’ve figured out what it’s all about. For me, the only thing that’s going to matter is that I lived my life to the fullest and did everything I possibly could to help those around me in need.
I’m not saying I’m giving away my worldly possessions to feed the hungry & care for the sick; I like to spend money like everyone else. However, I know my limitations, and choose not to exceed them. Judging by our generation’s conspicuous consumption, not everyone shares that sentiment.
We try to stunt, living beyond our means causing more debt & superficiality. According to the Federal Reserve, over 40 percent of U.S. families spend more than they earn & a U.S. Department of Health and Human Services report claimed 93 percent of Americans will retire financially dependent on the government, family or charity.
There is nothing wrong with enjoying the fruits of your labor; however, we should be aware that rich people are not happier & adding wealth to your life does not increase a sense of well-being.1
“Instead of amassing Benjamins in our pockets & bonds in our portfolios, we should be spending our money on what will actually make us happier.”2
For each of us, that will mean something different. Personally, I love the idea of socio-capitalism. I’m not saying those who can support others should do so. It’s their money & they should be able to do with it what they want. I do, however, think it’s messed up when people base their life’s worth on the amount of money & possessions they’ve accumulated instead of realizing the number of people they could have helped. If all I am concerned with is gaining material goods just for the sake of saying I have this or that means a problem exists & there’s a disconnect with reality.
As the disparity between rich & poor grows, the wealthy become less inclined to pay taxes that benefit the average person & the rich get richer, the middle is not raised and these differences compound themselves. Materialism then becomes a threat to the unity on which any well-ordered, democratic society is based.3
“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.”
- Will Smith
2 University of Southern California economist Richard Easterlin
3 “Sick of Poverty,” published in the December 2005 issue of Scientific American by Robert Sapolsky
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76.
JW
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
@27 you must have never saw “MTV CRIBS”LOLOLO or meet Kimora Lee Simmons.
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WOW!
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
LMAO @ JSCENE! I hear what you are saying but DAMN!!
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Reggie J
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
Let me ask some of you something. If you say what he wrote is true, why do you live the way you live and confuse materialism with happiness 98% of the time until you read something like this?
Because it’s the American Way!! Capitalism at it’s finest!! We work to get what we dream about everynight and see on T.V. and if we don’t reach those goals or fall short of what we thought our life was supposed to be like we cop out and say moneys not everything and get self righteous. Money’s not everything if your going to spend it on frivalous things. But the Bible says a righteous man leaves an inheritence for his childrens children. So dont confuse chasin money with materialism. We all need to get out here and get it!!!
I’m 27 and I own my own insurance agency. I understand what’s important and materialism isn’t but how can I express that to a youngin if I llook like I’m broke!! The problem is our people need to stop hustlin for today and start building institutions for tomorrow and be able to express those sentiments with the youth. Don’t tell these kids moneys not important when the rest of the world says it is. We just have to show them what to do with it!!. Some of us in my generation just went about it the wrong way and now they’re livin check to check. Dont lie to the kids, tell them to chase wealth!!……
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Ne'
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
I didn’t realize until recently how much money I spend on nonsense.
I’d say I have just been recently content with what God has blessed me with. Whatever I am not happy with, Only I have the power to change it.
Great Post JD. It’s good to see a black man focus on things other than status.
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FINE-N-MELLOW
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
Great Post !!!!
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JUDAH
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
Lol, I agree with JSCENE. I don’t think that materialism is a threat to democracy because democracy is a facade to confuse the average U.S. citizen, in my opinion. It is idealistic and the philosophy of democracy is diametrically opposed to capitalism. America has always been predicated off of money and the rule of the few, never the will of the people. Why is it such a story how much money Obama has been able to raise if he is the choice of the people? The fact of the matter is that in America money matters and if you don’t have it, can’t generate it, or can’t get people to invest it in you, the common perception is that you don’t matter and neither does your opinion. This is why, in my opinion, people spend above their means. They want to appear to matter. It’s more effective for the few people that control America to make the peons think that they have a say than to actually give them a say. In all honesty, the opinion of the average person really has no merit in how a society should be run if the mind of the average person is not trained. Based on the average opinion that I hear voiced or see written down, I have to agree with the elite in their estimation that the common citizen does not deserve to have a direct say in how their society is run. The only difference is that the elite, and the average Americanized person, chooses Satan as their lightbringer as opposed to the Lord. The average person in America is placated by vanity so that is what they’re given in the form of sports and entertainment. This is why people worship these actors, singers, and athletes. This is also why the people that actually run America, and the world for that matter, can continue to do what they want as long as the people are ignorant and satisfied with crumbs. The Most High’s Word tells us how to live in order, how to love in order, and most importantly, how to be content. It takes our people years to figure out what the Lord has told us from the start (Eccl 5:13-15, Psa 49:16-20, Prov 11:4, Isa 52:3, Ezek 7:19, Zeph 1:18, Matt 6:19-21, Mark 10:17-27, Phil 4:11-13, I Tim 6:5-10,17-19). They still think that Satan has something to offer them.
82.
Ordinary girl
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
J. Dakar,
I don’t know if I should thank Concreteloop first for giving you a voice here, or your ability to give these insightful and very important messages to its visitors. Everything you’ve mentioned in this post are the very things I’m coming to realize in my personal life as well.
I’ll be subscribing to your blog and commenting in depth at a more convenient time.
Thank you again!
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TamDiggy
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
Who says that just because you recognize that money isn’t the key to
happiness and that is doesn’t make you any more or less worthwhile,
doesn’t mean you don’t admire those who are on their grind. But I, for one,
don’t want to be anyone but who God made me and that “revelation” is one
that has saved me from myself plenty of times. I don’t want wealth at the
expense of self-respect. The Lord provides for me everyday– what I need
for THAT day. He has never left me and I can smile and thank him for
that EVERYDAY. I can’t ask for more. Now, what I am
blessed with I will gladly receive. But recognize that blessings come with
with the responsibility to bless and help others– not for “face time” but
b/c you have been blessed. Getting a new bag has never compared to
a genuine kiss from my neices and nephews, a gabfest/emotional night with
my girls whom I can trust wholeheartedly, an beautiful evening at home
with the man I love or knowing that the pray I just prayed has already been
heard and answered!
84.
setian
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
JSCENE LMAO!!!
Oprah is one of the biggest promoters of consumerism today. On one hand, there are shows showcasing getting out of debt, on the other hand, she has a whole magazine and other shows plugging products too expensive for even her own audience to afford. She is about showcasing humanity blah blah blah yet when honoring great black women at her famous ball, she gives them each a present–diamonds. Diamonds people; knowing full well that there are Africans being maimed and killed for those stones…
Will Smith is a hypocrite for that quote. Here is a man who currently is BFF with a known cult follower/promoter for no other reason that he thinks Cruise will help his career somehow yet he had the audacity to talk about folks implying they try keeping up with the jones???
Saw this vid sometime ago and thought it was appropriate.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XvwK-3cQ6gE
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1nubianqueen
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
Great post J. I was just recently looking at some things in my life that I want to change. In doing so I recently started participating in my co 401K..Shamed to say that I’ve not been doing this, however a lot of us don’t know how to invest, because we don’t read, know and are to emabrassed to ask for help. Even if you wait until you’re are 30 and put up a mere 10% of your earnings for the next 35 years, you’ll retire quite comfortably. Jesus says to tithe 10% of your income. If you put another 10% for you(as in investing) When you look down you have less money to blow on dumb ish. Next is finding a community program that I can give back using my time.
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benny
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
@83 exactly Will trying to sound so insightful when he only making his own self sound stupid.
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justmyopinion
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
I don’t get the deal with this J. Darker fellow…all he did was wrote what was politically correct, pull some nice quotes, and sprinkled some bullshit. Money isn’t anything??????????? MONEY IS EVERYTHINGGGGGGGGGG. MONEY IS FUCKING POWERRRR I agree with comment 64 and 77. I’ve heard much more profoundness and execution than this…. and niiiiice execution with the will smith quote… NOT.
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justmyopinion
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
And why generalize black people in such a negative light???? NOT ALL BLACK PEOPLE ARE OSTENTATIOUS.
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Still Tragic
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
I am late to this post but Jscene, Judah I applaud how you both eloquently decoded the flowery speech.
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MITHA
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
@65 WOW - YOU MUST BE THE PRIME EXAMPLE OF THE TYPE OF PEOPLE YOU DESCRIBE US TO BE. YOU OBIVIOUSLY EXPECTED TO BE A BALLER AT SOME POINT IN LIFE AND DID NOT MAKE IT YOUR DAMN SELF. SO INSTEAD OF OPENING YOUR MIND AND FINDING A DIFFERENT PATH, YOUR NARROW HEADED MIND CONVINCED YOURSELF THIS IS WHERE THE BUCK STOPS FOR ME BUT I’M NOT HAPPY WITH THAT. THAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN US AND YOU.WE HAVE LIVED AND LEARN AND ARE LEARNING MORE THROUGH ANY MEANS NECESSARY. YOU ARE YOU’RE ENEMY ,YOUR OWN DISSAPOINTMENT. DON’T HATE ON US FOR WANTING TO BE INSPIRED AND SPREAD THAT INSPIRATION TO OTHERS.
JUST SAD!!!!
65 - YOU ARE A HATER!!!!
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justmyopinion
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
GOD PUT US ON THIS EARTH TO EXPERIENCE AND OBTAIN EVERYTHING LIFE HAS TO OFFER….
DON’T THINK BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T GET THAT CAR, HOUSE, JOB ETC YOU WANTED-”THE BUS STOPS HERE”…. NEVER, AND I MEAN NEVER, LIMIT YOURSELF!!!!! THAT IS BAD MENTALITY… I DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO TELL YOU……. EXCEPT STOP SITTING AROUND AND WAITING FOR GOD TO BLESS U AND GET YOUR ASS UP AND MAKE SOME DAMN MOVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RomeGeez
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
This should be required reading! Knowledge like this can help a lot of chuckleheads out there.
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UrbanWorldOnline
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
A lot of pain would be avoided if all people lived below their means. There would be no debt, no foreclosures, no welfare, no car repo’s and the list goes on.
But if people never purchased things that they didnt need…how would our economy survive?
I think that the key is to raise our incomes so that we can afford what we want so that we can keep money circulating in the economy.
If you don’t purchase a t-shirt from your fav store… employees will be laid off. When they are laid off…they don’t have money to spend at another establishment and then the cycle continues.
If everyone only purchased neccesities…who would you work for? We don’t need the extra clothes, snacks, nails, shoes, cars, homes, cells phones, video games and so on…now imagine all of the businesses that would close down if people only wore the clothes they needed.
It’s like being a police officer….if there was no crime…imagine how many cops would lose their jobs. Or if people only shopped at whole foods…then Kroger…Pathmark and other supermarkets would go out of business and with them…the jobs would go. Some people believe the only book we need to read is The Bible…if that were true…you might as well shut down all book stores…fire all of the people that print books….fire the proof readers and so on. You get the point. We need balance. In reality, we need people that are going to mess up. It keeps things running.
Thats why Bush gave the break to businesses. It’s more likely for a business to bounce back and not make the same mistake again than it is for an individual consumer. If I gave $100k to every American…they would just run out and get themselves back into more debt. It’s like a diet…eventually…most people will eat the cake if they don’t have discipline.
So I get the point of the article…but in reality…we need people to buy what they don’t need or else most Americans wouldnt have jobs or businesses.
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UrbanWorldOnline
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
I’m gonna get into the toilette paper business so when everyone smartens up and only buys what they need…you will always have a friend in me! I’ll sell toilette paper, tampons and give haircuts and i’ll be straight!
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JUDAH
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
@88
It’s not so much me coming “against” the brother or what he has to say, per se, it’s more just about reality. I understand where he’s coming from to a certain degree and I admire the fact that he put himself out there like that. I just noticed the hypocrisy of many of these black people, that’s all. That’s why JSCENE’s post spoke to me, because it was based in truth. Black people in America have had a magic carrot dangled in front of their face and when they realize that the fantasy will not materialize, they are forced to lower their expectations. They must then develop a philosophy to qualify their lowered expectations to their family, friends, and themself. This is the crux of American “spirituality” from what I see. Dissatisfied people trying to recreate God in their own image and make Him confederate in their ineptitude. Look at comment #90….”God put us on the earth to experience and obtain everything that life has to offer….”. What scripture is that? Does that mean that we should try crack because it’s here on the earth? It’s confusion and people trying to speak for God instead of letting his Word speak to them. The Lord put us here to experience everything GOOD and keep his laws to the best of our ability (Deuteronomy 30:15, Amo5:15, etc.). The source of discontent is rebellion. Now that our people didn’t get the house and job that they wanted and lusted after for the sake of appearances, “their God” loves them “no matter what”, lol. No entity loves indiscriminately (Prov 8:17). Very self-serving when you analyze it and indicative that the vanity and pride still has not been broken, just readjusted. This is why the mortgage crisis and soon to be drastic employment crisis (once a shill black politician is used to repeal affirmative action and quota based hiring) will be so interesting. It will be interesting to see how our people react when all the avenues of the success that they clamored for in America are closed off. They’ll be forced to admit things to themselves.
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reesseyy-babiie
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
PREACH ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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JSCENE
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
@MIMI RENEE
I CERTAINLY DID NOT MEAN TO OFFEND YOU OR ANYONE ELSE. BUT I’M JUST KEEPIN IT REAL, WHETHER I’M THE LONE RANGER, OR THE POPULAR VOTE.
I BELIEVE THIS POST APPEALS TO OUR “SENSIBILITIES.” IT MAKES PERFECT SENSE, BUT MOST OF THE TIME, WE AREN’T SENSIBLE UNTIL WE COME UP SHORT OR UNTIL WE HAVE NOT….THUS, I BELIEVE THIS IS A SPEECH FOR SOMEONE DOWN ON THEIR LUCK AND FEELING SORRY FOR THEMSELF TRYING TO FIND AWAY TO ACCEPT THEMSELVES. FOR THE ORIGINAL WRITERS OF THIS POST, QUOTES INCLUDED, THIS SAME INFORMATION RANG TRUE BEFORE THEY STARTED STRIVING FOR THOSE THINGS, (BIGGER CARS, BIGGER HOUSES, ETC)., HOWEVER, THESE WORDS DIDN’T HAVE A PLACE IN THEIR LIFE OR HEARTS UNTIL THEY TRIED TO GET THESE THINGS AND CAME UP SHORT. THIS INFORMATION IS NOT NEW; THESE TRUTHS WERE NOT DISCOVERED LAST NIGHT. NOW THESE WORDS ARE ADOPTABLE BECAUSE I WANT TO BE AT PEACE WITH MYSELF.
I LOVE WILL SMITH, I ABSOLUTELY ADORE HIM IN FACT…BUT ANYONE WHO KNOWS WILL SMITH KNOWS HE’S EXTREMELY AMBITIOUS AND DRIVEN, AND IN HIS EARLY YEARS, HE WOULD HAVE STOPPED AT NOTHING TO BECOME “SUCCESSFUL” IN EVERY SENSE OF THE WORD, BIG HOUSE, CARS, BIG BANK ACCOUNT, ETC. HE WOULD NEVER HAVE SETTLED FOR STATUS QUO. IT’S NOT IN THIS MAKEUP, JUST LIKE IT’S NOT IN MANY PEOPLE’S MAKEUP. PERHAPS IF THE WILL SMITH QUOTE HAD COME FROM THE WITHERED MAN WHO LIVES UP ON THE MOUTAIN WHO FOR HIS ENTIRE LIFE, HAS LIVES IN A TWO ROOM SHACK WITH NO MAN MADE LUXURIES TO INCLUDE INDOOR PLUMBING THEN THAT QUOTE MIGHT HAVE RUNG TRUE. BUT FOR THE FACT THAT IT CAME FROM WILL SMITH, ONE OF THE MOST SUCCESSFUL MALE ENTERTAINERS OF OUR TIME, WITH MONEY AND CARS HAND OVER FIST, WITH HIS CHILDREN WEARING THE BEST CLOTHES, RIDING IN THE BEST CARS, ATTENDING THE BEST SCHOOLS, IT RINGS AS BULLSHIT, SOURCE CONSIDERED. PERHAPS NOW THAT HE HAS ACQUIRED THESE THINGS, THE MYSTIQUE HAS WORN OUT, AND HE’S NO LONGER ENCHANTED BY THEM, CAUSING HIM TO NOW MAKE SUCH UTTERANCES.
I DON’T ENCOURAGE GREED, BUT I FIND NOTHING WRONG WITH SOMEONE STRIVING TO DO BETTER, BE BETTER, HAVE NICE THINGS….AS LONG AS YOU DON’T HAVE TO BREAK ANY MAN MADE LAWS, OR GOD’S LAW IN ORDER TO ACQUIRE THEM.
I LOVE WHERE I AM IN LIFE..I’M JUST MOVING OUT OF MY MID TWENTIES AND I HAVE TWO DEGREES UNDER MY BELT, I’VE MODELED, AND I HAVE OTHER THINGS IN THE PIPELINE; GREAT THINGS IF I KEEP AT IT HARD AND FAST. I’M NO WHERE NEAR WHERE I WANT TO BE BUT I’M HAPPY AS HELL CAUSE I KNOW IT’S COMING; I WORK ON IT EVERY DAY. I AM RIGHT ON TRACK AND LINED UP TO GETTING THEM. IN ORDER TO GET WHAT YOU WANT, YOU HAVE TO POSITION YOURSELF WAY AHEAD OF TIME….AND I THANK GOD FOR HAVING A MOTHER WHO PUSHES ME, AND NEVER LET ME GIVE UP…
I COME ON THESE BLOGS BECAUSE I LOVE ENTERTAINERS, I LOVE THE CREATIVE SIDE OF THE WORLD WE LIVE IN. SO I’M KEEPING IT REAL BY SAYING I LOVE WHAT SOME OF THESE PEOPLE HAS ACCOMPLISHED THROUGH HARD WORK AND A” I AINT GIVING UP” ATTITUDE. I ADMIRE THEIR WEALTH, BUT CERTAINLY NOT THEIR FAME (LORD KNOWS THEY CAN KEEP THAT)….
IF SOMEONE IS HAPPY WITH A PINTO, I’M CERTAINLY NOT RAGGING ON THEM…BUT BE HONEST, THIS SPEECH IS APPEALING BECAUSE IT SOUNDS GREAT. BUT WHETHER OR NOT IT’S WORD HAVE A REAL PLACE IN OUR LIVES, I’M NOT SO SURE….MAYBE FOR SOME, BUT CERTAINLY NOT FOR ALL….ALL OF US AINT GONE BE HAPPY WITH A DAMN PINTO WHETHER IT DOES GET YOU ACROSS TOWN.
AFTER THE MYSTIQUE OF THIS POETIC POST WEARS THIN, IN THE NEXT HOUR OR SO, WE’LL ALL BE BACK TO PRAISING THESE CELEBS WITH THE BIG CARS, BIG HOUSES, GUCCI BAGS AND SO FORTH. I WASN’T GONE EVEN PRETEND TO SUBSCRIBE TO THIS POST IN THE FIRST PLACE CAUSE IT’S NOT WHERE MY MIND IS. SO FOR ME, IT’LL BE AS I WAS.
I MEANT NO OFFENSE, I HOPE EVERYONE GET’S WHAT THEY TRULY WANT IN LIFE, BUT KEEP IT REAL, AND BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF….THAT’S ALL I’M DOING.
GOD BLESS US ALL…..
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boomby*
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
i am pleased that J. posted this. This is very correct. After reading this, I feel the urge to change some things about myself.
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Chrystal
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
my position on this issue comes from my belief in God and that as a child of God He wants and does bless me so i can be a blessing to others. there is nothing wrong with material possesions or having money. the problem comes when u worship those things INSTEAD of God who gave it to you.
Jesus came to this earth and humbled himself all the way to the cross where He died so we may live. not just survive, but live and live abundantly.
God places gifts and talents in each one of us to further His Kingdom…not everyone will be rich not every one will be wealthy, but whatever He has placed in you, use it and prosperity will follow.
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Sharonda
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
Preach!I don’t even worry about what kind of car I’m riding as long as it gets to Point A to Point B and I learned that through my dad because he kept his car until he couldn’t ride it anymore.I was 20 when he let it go and I’m 21 now and he had it since I was born.Same thing with another car of his, had it for 10 years now and it still rides ok.It’s nice to have money yes, but at the end of the day people getting uptight about a piece of paper.Clothes are clothes, shoes are shoes, cars are cars.I guess people get caught up in the name.I don’t let money bother me and when I get my degree I’m not going to let money change me because I was never that crazy about spending money on things that I can get later.
But it’s not just black people spending money on things they don’t have.If you ever looked at one of Oprah’s shows when she was talking to people about debt, these white people were living so nice and fronted like they didn’t have $70,000 of debt.Let’s not get twisted!
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my2cents
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
well since someone brought God and The Bible in this…….The BIble says that God has nothing to do with people being rich and if you don’t believe me read 1 John 2:15-17…………
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my2cents but in this case the God Thoughts
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
well sine someone brought up God and The Bible…. The Bible says that God does not have nothing to do with someone being rich and if you don’t believe me read 1John 2:15-17………..now that’s truly something to think about.
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JUDAH
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
@My2Cents
Actually the Bible does tell us that the Lord is who makes us rich monetarily (Deut 8:17,18, I Sam 2:7). The point is to not set your heart on, or “love”, riches and wealth in this world. There’s nothing wrong with being rich as long as you don’t worship your money or material items, thus making them an idol.
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J. Dakar
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
I’m glad to see this has sparked such lively discussion.
I want to make something clear, though: I’m not trying to tell you not to buy nice things or say you shouldn’t have them because 1) I can’t tell you to do anything and 2) I have nice things so it would be highly hypocritical of me to tell you that you shouldn’t have them.
I wrote this because I’m tired of seeing and hearing what we like to purport as success and those who don’t have it, in turn, are left feeling inadequate. You determine your worth…not the material items you have. Unfortunately, so many of us believe that we are what we own, but having your fleet of vehicles in your twelve-car garage or your expensive watch on your wrist doesn’t make you any better than the homeless man or woman on the corner.
I thank the Lord daily for the many blessings He has bestowed upon me, but I never get so caught up that I forget that it all can be taken away in an instant and that there is a bigger picture at hand.
Peace and blessings,
J. Dakar
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Mimi Renee
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
To Jscene: I totally understand what you are saying and that is why I said I respect your opinion.
My only point is to let people know not to feel less than because they do not have or because someone has more than they do. The world has a way of making you feel like you’re nothing if you don’t have that new car or those Louis Vuitton bags, when in fact I know people who have those things and are still not happy with their life. Those things should not give you permanent happiness.
And of course we all should strive to achieve for the best because truth is, you do need money in this life…..nothing in life is free and you’ve got to work hard for what you want. GOD will bless you but you have to take ACTION in receiving that blessing. If you’re praying for a job but you never step out and look for one, how do you think you’re gonna receive that new job? It’s not gonna magically come floating out of the sky.
I was not offended by your post because I can respect someone who can state their opinion whether it be the majority or not. Always strive to get what you want in life and remember where your happiness truly comes from so that when you do get those big houses and new cars, your happiness won’t depend on it.
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justmyopinion
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
# 94, sorry if you took my words out of context and misunderstood what I said but obviously those were not my intentions…
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QUOTE FROM AWARD WINNING PLAYWRIGHTLYNN NOTTAGE IN APRILS O MAGAZINE
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
OUR CULTURE HAS VASTLY OVERVALUED the lives of the rich and famous. Our children no longer hunger to be good citizens, but merely well-known ones.Inour misguided guest for heroes,we’ve made fame the most coveted virtue. But when our heroes cease to do heroic things,we still venerate them, where does that leave our culture? It is time to restore balance.Let’s boycott celebrity and celebrate instead all the unnamed warriors trying to make positive impact on our daily lives.
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blackisbeautiful
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
I believe there is nothing wrong with someone spending money on personal expenses, however some people do need to learn how to budget. Thank goodness I had consumer economics where we all had to learn how to budget within the salary that our teacher gave us. Some people had $20,000 to $80,000. We learned that it was quite complicated to find food, clothing, shelter, and transportation to fit in within our income. We had to use micosoft excel to create a expense data sheet and if you had went over your income you lose points it was really fun. Some teachers gave students, an income and a family lol so it made it difficult. I believe that this class should be taught in every high school shit might even middle school. We also learned how to write checks and a balance a checkbook. It’s really cool it prepared me. Thank J. Dakar for the post this was very insightful.
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blackisbeautiful
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
And I agree with Jscene lol
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Common Lady
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
Thanks for kicking some knowledge our way J.D. I thought this post was heartfelt and real.
Something that anybody and everybody can learn from, and take to walk with through life!
Good lookin!!
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my2cents and if you're not Judah you should probaly skip this one
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
@ Judah
Okay, that was during the time when God dealt solely with the Nation of Israel. Read 2Kings 17:7-18(just the first part of 18) Those scriptures you quoted didn’t neccessarily meant monetarily fortunes either. Plus remember what Jesus himself said about wealth at Matthew 6:19-21. How can he tell you to stop storing up treasure on the earth if God is the one giving it to you. Especailly at If your not satisfied read Matthew 6:24,Mark 10:17-25,Proverbs 11:28, 1 Timothy 6:9 and go back to 1 John 2:15-17. Going by what the Bible says it clearly shows that now a days that riches does not orginate with God.
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justgotit
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
i agree with j…but society steady puts images up that make these young kids think they will be millionaires at 21. with dumb shows like sweet 16 and cribs people think that having material things will make you happy..just as the fat person thinks being skinny will make them happy. when there are depressed skinny people. you have to be happy within first and foremost !!!!
and i dont mean to be rude but MA103 –house of deroen and rockawear are not major money breakers..most people i know wouldnt spend money on that crap ne way! now if your buying 200 dollar jeans or such maybe..but rockawear????? thats not really a splurge
I just dont see how sporting rockawear or babyphat would make someone think they are really doing something..Its not Prada, Hermes, Burberry, or Chanel..so in actuality they are fooling themselves
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justgotit
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
Yall ARE KILLING ME WITH THESE QUOTES FROM THE BIBLE..
ALL BLACK PEOPLE ARE NOT CHRISTIANS SO KEEP THAT TALK TO YOURSELF…DAMN I COULD QUOTE THE QUARAN, OR A BUDDHIST PRINCIPLE, OR A SCIENTOLOGY PRINCIPLE AND IT DOESNT MAKE IT RIGHT OR WRONG..STOP USING THE BIBLE AND “SO CALLED” JESUS TO JUSTIFY EVERYTHING YOU DO IN LIFE..YOU JUST SOOUND LIKE A BRAINWASHED PERSON WHO ANT THINK ON THEIR OWN…
I REPEAT EVERYONE AINT CHRISTIAN SO STOP THROWING QUOTES AROUND LIKE THEY MEAN SOMETHING TO EVERYONE!
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my2cents
Tuesday, April 1, 2008 /
@113 i can only speak for myself and was primarily speaking to Judah not you or anyone else. If i choose to quote scriptures i can do that. just like you felt what you said was neccessary. by the way who said that all black people are christians i didn’t read know one saying that? look i’m not trying to argue with you. and by me beliving in something that you don’t agree make sound brainwashhed? maybe you are brainwashed?….i am not trying to offend you but i shouldn’t have to tiptoe around things just to please you and vice versa anyways let’s agree that we have different viewpoints and move on.
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chocl8child
Wednesday, April 2, 2008 /
I couldn’t agree with this post more. I’m almost 36 and have had a similar epiphany recently. My mantra as of late is I don’t want a life that looks good, I want it to BE good.
Be well!
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Mush::..Urban Socialite..::
Wednesday, April 2, 2008 /
I really like this quote it’s def gonna be on a post o my myspace
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JUDAH
Wednesday, April 2, 2008 /
@JUSTGOTIT
You know what’s funny. My2Cents prefaced her post by saying that her comment was directed towards me but your such a disgusting vessel for Satan that it offends you to see two people speaking according to the Most High’s Word. What always entertains me about you “enlightened” negroes is that you always feel like you can trump the Bible but when you get shot or locked up, the first thing you say is, “Oh God no!” or “Jesus help me!” (i.e. that idiot Remy Ma), lmao. Bunch of clowns. I wish you would quote something from those pagan, satanic doctrines like Islam, Buddhism, or scientology so I can expose your stupidity. Not only are you not well-versed in the Bible, your not even smart enough to research what you claim you could profess. The precepts of the Bible are not meant to “mean something to everyone” because the Lord puts degenerates like yourself on the earth to make us appreciate the blessing of understanding his Word and his Will (Prov 16:4, Matt 13:10-12, ). I never understand why people like yourself feel that believers in the Lord’s Word should be embarassed to express themselves because of your idiocy, lol.
@MY2CENTS
Sis, don’t cop out by giving me that stuff about, “that was for back then…”. Either you believe in the Word of the Lord or you don’t. We can’t pick and choose scriptures to fit our doctrine, which is what you’ve ended up doing. The entire Bible is applicable and must be understood in context or not at all (Matt 5:17-19, John 5:46,47, Heb 10:7). When you read Deut 8:17,18 and I Sam 2:7 it is speaking about monetary riches. Nowhere in the scripture does it say that being monetarily rich is a sin. The scriptures detail that the “love of riches” is a sin because it leads to idolatry. Note in I John 2:15-17 it says “LOVE not the world….”. I Cor 7:31 says that we are to use the things of this world without abusing them. I Tim 6:10 says that the “love” of money is the root of all evil. It’s not the money, it’s the “love” (idolization)of the money. How can Christ be speaking against riches when he himself was monetarily rich, being of the royal house of David (Matt 1:6,16, II Cor 8:9, Hebrews 7:14). Most of the men that rolled with Christ were rich and they forsook their earthly possessions to follow him. That was the point of the story in Mark 10:17-27. Prov 11:28 doesn’t say that he that “has” riches shall fall, it says he that “trusteth” in riches (once again going into the idolization of money). Joseph of Arimathaea was a rich man that retained his riches while being a disciple of Christ but he was able to retain them because he put Christ first (Matt 27:57). Peter and his brother Andrew were fishers of a very lucrative family business that supplied the temple with fish during the high holy days (Matt 4:18,19, Luke 5:8-10). I do agree that the celebrities and “wealthy” people of today have virtually all sold their soul to Satan (Psa 73:12). That has little to do with riches. Those people had to compromise their being to attain those riches and they’re unrepentant for it. That is why they’re condemned.
The Most High deals strictly with the Nation of Israel from Genesis to Revelation (Gen 35:11,12, Psa 147:19,20, Isa 44:1, Amos 3:1,2, Matt 2:6, Matt 15:24, Acts 5:31, Gal 6:16, Rev 7:1-10, Rev 21:12). In the New Testament when it speaks of the “Gentiles” that Paul went to minister to, it was referring to the scattered Israelites who were keeping the customs of the other nations (Acts 2:5, Rom 9:4, I Cor 10:1-5, etc.). That’s a whole other topic. The other nations can only be saved through the Israelites, once they’ve served their captivity. The Israelites are the mediators between the other nations and Christ the same way that Christ is the mediator between the Israelites and the Most High.
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my2cents
Wednesday, April 2, 2008 /
@ judah………….. let’s agree that we have different viewpoints and move on. keep up with your bible reading
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ECH
Wednesday, April 2, 2008 /
Thanks for this post. Keep on doing what you do J. Dakar!
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carrie ann
Monday, April 7, 2008 /
you are cute!
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Nadia
Wednesday, April 9, 2008 /
This stuff is true but most people can’t afford to help themselves let alone help others. This country has to go through a lot of changes in order to start caring about others.
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Ms.@WorkBUT,CL'in
Friday, July 11, 2008 /
I feel that quote. Will is so right…
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