I love the video! I think she looks gorgeous and it is very different! People can say what they want, but Ashanti always has visually stunning videos and she actually writes her own records! Give respect where it is due! She gets to kiss Nelly too… I know chicks are hating!

I absolutely loved the video and found it very entertaining from the very beginning.

I’ve read the comments and while we’re all entitled to an opinion I would say for those that are really thinking that’s it stereotypical and that it “sets women back” I would just say to lighten up. I think she’s just speaking about her own personal experiences. And if baby girl has a man like Nelly coming back then she obviously
has that “Good Good” and knows what he’s talking about.

Love ya Loopers xoxo Thicky

I agree with SAY WHAT:O
it is not that deep the issues we need to look deep into we dont it is just a damn video. chill out love.

Ashanti did a good job I love it. !

@37 you are killing me… LOL… too funny… your right though, it aint that serious, it was a fun video she was having fun, looks like to me anyway…. COME ON PEOPLE- lighten up some, oppressing women are you kidding me, look around you, this video i doubt was meant to protray any such thing, it is what it is, having fun….

ashanti album still aint sell

but i will have to give it to her..the bi.tch look good in this video..and its different..kinda off the beaten path..lol…

thank god this will prolly be the last single we hear i doubt they will be promoting this album anymore lol

i lik IT song and video …

That video was too cute! Song was ok, but verrrry comical. Females trip me out saying I got that ‘good good’, so he won’t do nothing, but her man’s out there playing around. That mess is funny. No matter how good you think your ‘good good’ is, people gon do what they want. She did have a point with let your man be a man, still enjoy himself. It makes for a better relationship.

Don’t like the video nor the song

The video and the song are boring.

i wonder why they didn’t shoot this in a real house

Chi City I agree the video fits the song perfectly..it’s a light fun song and so is the video..nothing deep about it..

I was worried about this video when I heard this song was the next single but IMO the video was done very tastefully..they really could have “slutted” it up with this song but as a strong female I wasn’t the least bit offended.

I’m an equal in my relationship but I still let my man be the man, he is a man that respects my input.

Nelly helped Ashanti write this song..it obivious they have a lot of fun together.

touch my body part 2?

WOOWWWWWWWWW- I am smiling….I LOVE that video I am a Bey and Jay stan and all I have to say is thats how U do it!!!!! It was so cute take notes Bey and Jay…Shan and Nels is coming for your spot…… This video is so cute

that’s actually a really cute video!!!!! it made me actually like the song!

I’m impressed! She looked real pretty and got her sex appeal on too lol. I ain’t mad at this

From a pure entertainment standpoint the video is very creative and put together well. People need to slow down with the feminist bull here. I’m all for positive images but this is strictly for fun. Can’t anyone have FUN nowadays? Geesh…

I love the song and I love the video. Cuz I got that good good too. so I can relate to her. The lyrics are about me:) …lol

She is sexy, and the video is a treat for the eyes, I think it is cool that she is for her man, and he knows where home is. That’s real.

In response to the social commentary, as a wife and mother of a 9 year old young daughter, I don’t rely on or allow music videos or any other external imagery to shape my daughter’s views on herself. Nor does she look to that to define herself. We, as in US as a “people” need to take more responsibility for our own and stop blaming every external factor possible on the fact that we are self-destructive. I certainly am not saying that videos such as this and the media and aaaall of the many industries don’t play a part. The question and fact of the matter is, how big of a part will you allow them to play in your life and in the lives of your loved ones? Sidebar: My hubby and I barely allow our daughter to watch music videos. That’s us taking responsibility for our own.

94

Thank you…well said.

Call Me Mrs. Jones, thats it right there, I could not have said it better.

Ashanti looks cute in the video but the song is just okay.

Love the video and the song, the concept was hot. I like how she went with an old school vibe from the 50’s, very creative and different.

Great video and song!

@ KMNILES & BIGDADDYREG….Coo Thanks.

I LOVE IT !!!! I LOVE IT!!!!!! I LOVE IT!!!!!!!

I love Nelly and Ashanti together it works!!!!

The video is very “Leave it Beaver” themed I love the I got a good man at home.
Not to mention that good man is Nelly, (lucky girl).

I love it !

Very cute video, I’m digging the song.

@94 that’s great, the steps you and your husband take to monitor what your child sees, but I’m of the thinking that it takes a village. So, I am also concerned about what my neighbor’s child is viewimg or listening to on the radio and TV. Not to mention, you can’t shield your child on what they hear or see at school or at a friend’s house or in a magazine. Sociologist have written about the power of media for years and how often we are compounded with sexual and violent images that we have become numb to many things, and they do have an affect on our subconscious, obviously to varying degrees. And this is not simply about Ashanti.

beyonce-ish, twista - give it up ish, go head, sell that ass girl!

Lisa…I feel you. It certainly takes a village to raise a child but the rearing starts at home. My daughter has such a strong foundation at home that regardless of what she sees, she knows who she is. She is shielded from nothing - we simply don’t allow her to constantly watch imageries and have it marinate in her psyche. Hence, my using the word ‘barely’. We are frank and upfront with her about anything her beautiful mind can conjure to ask us. I studied Psych with a minor in Sociology so I certainly am aware of the statistics and implications and I don’t refute them. What is unanimously agreed upon is the fact that the proper foundation of love, self-esteem and self-worth at home combats external factors. My daughter knows who she is because we teach her. I tell the kids of my friends, and my nieces and nephews the same things I tell my daughter. I even talk to my 15 year old sis-in-law about these things. Yes, stars, celebrities and such have a responsibility. You just can’t leave it up to them.

Love it

It was different then most Ashanti videos

I love the different Fits - Costumes - Hair -n Looks -Color

Love tha song

*****But She Forgot or the directed Forgot the PLOT - that makes the VIDEO better.

Nelly n Ashanti — sexy ass couple

That was a hot video,Ashanti looks great and so does her man Nelly.Now they can stop the playin around jokes that their not a couple after that KISS

Super cute…I really dig ashanti but this song is just ok the visual does give it a bit of a boost though

The video is unique and so is the song. Hell women like to look good and promoting looking good for YOURS is a decent message in todays society were hoing, being slutty, and dealing with men that are taken is popular.
Ashanti’s body looks fit and her confidence is at all time high.

@94Yes, I too agree that teaching our children starts at home, but unfortunately, most children are not blessed enough to teach them valueable lessons. We account for the most out of wedlock pregnancies, std’s, less values and assets, and less education compared to our white counterparts.

Yeah, I guess I should take responsiblity for myself instead of worrying about our brothers and sister who remain stuck in unfortuante situations without guidance. I’m 22 years old and all i see is ‘US’ trying to be this brought and sold commoditized music that only negatively frames and portray only “US.” Research has clearly shown we are affected by these images, but were stuck in the notion that it’s just entertainment. I applaud you and your situation, but just like someone guided me off the streets of Detroit (not my mom or dad) and got my behind in undergrad which lead to Graduate school, I would be doing the same thing, nothing. As you come up you should always pull someone by the hand with you. I have one black sista in my class…1. I always try to bring a new light to my generation…but I think its too late, 2 many of us our stuck in getting our “own.”

I’m won’t even waste my breath anymore…its apparent we are use to staying in “our place” in society…oh, I forgot to add…IT’S JUST A VIDEO! So i’ll lighten up for the kids. (snaps figures)

But music videos aren’t totally the blame, it’s just apart of it.

I have to disagree with the comments on this joint. That video sucked. First of all it didn’t match the concept of the song. Alright for having her man in video…nice touch and all but damn. When she was on top of the milkshake was it just me or was it a reminder of Kelis’ Milkshake promo pic cover and did anyone check out the soda cans as rollers. What type of mess is that. Overall feeling the song but not the video. She should have came out with the single and video for Body on Me and post her boy Nelly in it. That song is hot.

@105…Mrs. Jones you’re right we can’t leave it up to celebs, and that wasn’t my implication, I also agree that the rearing starts at home. It justs that many children don’t have great role models at home. Continued luck raising your strong, independently thinking daughter….:)

@112 Body On Me is Nelly next video it will be out next week.

am a bigest ashanti’s fan,but 4 real the video is cheap and i hate it and i knew it would tun out this way since melina is the director and we all know melina directs whack ass videos…the video would have bn better if chris robinson directed
i hope u release struggle as a 3rd single since that song will be the biggest hit of her career..trust me

I DIDNT LIKE THE SONG BUT THE VIDEO JUST MADE ME LIKE IT! GOOD JOB ASHANTI IM GLAD SHE NOT MESSING WITH THE INC. NEMORE…I HOPE STRUGGLE IS HER NEXT SINGLE SHE WROTE THAT SONG ABOUT NELLY. AND OH YEAH I LIKE HIS LIL CAMEO TOO, IT SEEM LIKE A MODERN DAY BLACK I LOVE LUCY LOL

I think the video is really cute. I think it should have had more of story line though. The video got a little a boring after a while. At first I thought she should have picked “So Over You” as the 2nd single, but she has already released a lot of the songs about bad relationships so now I can see why she chose to go with this one.

First of all, this song is just so damn wack! It’s so boring and seems like it’s an R&B song from the early 00’s. Second of all, I thought that Ashanti looked like a young, cutesy hooker! WTF did she have on? This is why I’m not feelin’ R&B singers now-a-days. All they do is sell their look and sex. Ashanti is nothing but a wack artist. I’m glad that her album flopped big time and that her career has faded because I don’t wanna hear anything from her again. LOL.

I LOVE this video you can tell she is doing it just for FUN
dont take it so seriously
She has the BEST R&B album out this year so far…i could give a damn about sells if the marerial is hot

–dont argue with me it’s just my OPINION

OK, THIS IS MY CURRENT RINGTONE, I LOVE THIS SONG, NOT TO BE TAKEN TO SERIOUS LADIES WE ALL KNOW THAT GOODIES WOULDN’T KEEP A MAN, BUT ANYWAY I LOVE THE VIDEO ITS COLORFUL AND VIBRANT JUST LIKE THE SUMMER, I LOVE IT KEEP DOING YOU ASHANTI

@ 110 & Lisa….Yeah, I agree with both you sisters in that, we are to help others along especially if we are more socially conscious. I just don’t necessarily agree with the whole ‘musicians should do this and that’. I mean, they should! But what if they never do? Will that be another excuse for us? It’s like we need any more. That’s my whole thing.

As far as staying in our place, bump that! I am in the process of starting a Non-Profit organization geared towards encourgaing social, economical and political awareness through the arts. Screw staying in my place lol With God’s help, I’m not just talking about it…I’m being about it.

@GMISSTATA,

AND I’M WILLING TO BET ALOT OF THOSE GIRLS DIDN’T HAVE GUIDANCE TO BE SO EASILY LED BY MEDIA, NOT TO SAY THAT’S THEIR FAULT OR ANYTHING, BUT SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO LOOK DEEPER AT THE HOME INSTEAD OF THIS VIDEO, I WAS RAISED MY DAD AND MOM WHO TAUGHT ME SO THAT ASHANTI WOULDN’T HAVE TO , AND THAT’ S JUST REAL, I SEE GIRL WALKING ROUND HERE WITH SHORTS UP THEIR ASSES THE NEW J’S BUT AIN’T DOING NOTHING IN SCHOOL, WALKING AROUND ALL DAY. DOING NOTHING SO WHO IS BUYING THIS AND ALLOWING THEIR KIDS TO BE LOOKED ON AS MEAT. I JUST SAY TEACH YOUR KIDS AT HOME AND THEY MIGHT STRAY BUT THEY WILL COME BACK AROUNG I AM A PERFECT EXAMPLE TV DIDN’T TEACH ME ANYTHING THAT THAT LITTLE VOICE WOULDN’T COME BACK ( THE TEACHINGS IN REMEMBRANCE)

the concept would been okay if it didnt look sooooo cheap

@ 94. Call Me Mrs. Jones- DIDDO, i have a 19 year old and a 9 year old, never have nor will i ever allow music artist, actors etc… be the role model for my kids. PERIOD

@CALL ME MRS.JONES,

I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU SAID. BUT SOMETHINGS ARE HERE, WE NEED TO STOP MAKING EXCUSES AND IT STILL STARTS FROM THE HOME I DON’T CARE WHICH WAY YOU WANT TO PUT IT. ASHANTI’S VIDEO NO DIFF THAN BUYING HOT PANTS FOR YOUR 13 OR 14 YEAR OLD, AND JUST LIKE MRS. JONES SAID I DO NOT ALLOW MY KIDS TO WATCH VIDEOS JUST LIKE MY GRANDMOTHER DIDN’T I THINK THE REAL PROBLEM IS NOT STRUCTURE IN THE FAMILIES ANYMORE NO REAL GRANDMOMS NO MOMS ONLY FRIENDS, AND FOR AS A VILLAGE THAT BEEN STOPPED I SEE KIDS EVERYDAY AROUND MY NEIGHBORHOOD AND I WILL SAY BABY DON’T TALK LIKE THAT OR DON’T DO THAT, BUT WE NEED TO START WITH THE PARENTS FIRST CUZ THEY WANNA FIGHT YOU IF YOUR TELLING THEIR KIDS SOMETHING GOOD. SO I PRAY FOR THIS WORLD AND DO WHAT I CAN BUT I’M NOT GOING TO LOOK AT A VIDEO AND BLAME THEM CUZ I KNOW OF MY OWN HOW THE HOME AFFECTS YOU, ALSO I DON’T ALLOW MY KIDS TO LISTEN TO 95.7(ALABAMA). TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS AND HELP OTHERS IF PERMISSIBLE

I agree…I AGREE!

Even though when I was coming up, my parents didn’t stop us from watching what we wanted to watch…they simply instilled in us fact from fiction & what you see on TV isn’t reality.

Go Girl!

i appreciate your comment Gimmista. I was thinking the same thing. Her message is basically: if you want to keep a man, have “good good” sex with him every night. Really, Ashanti? What about the many men who creep on thier women regardless? Does that just mean that her love wasn’t good enough?? And what about the women who choose not have sex while dating? She just won’t be able to keep a man if she has standards because her true power to get and keep a man lies in her sexuality ??? not her mind, sense of humor, love of God, her compassion, her values etc?

SOMETIMES IT IS GOOD TO ANALYZE!!

We do need to ask ourselves these questions because far too many people accept them without challenging them.

Many people watch a video like this and can take it lightly because they’ve already decided that they don’t believe in the message behind the music but what about the other girls growing up taking notes on how to keep a man?? Ashanti is certainly not the first person to perpetuate these beliefs and certainly won’t be the last but seeing the video brings up an important point too many of us sleep on to the detriment of our children, sisters, daughters, and men!

HOT HOT HOT !!! Go AsHanTi!! I didn’t expect that!

@ 17

If celebs don’t want to talk about there relationships openly y should that matter to u, or anybody else??? I swear sum of yall people feel like o if we kno more about them we kno them more. As a celeb all yo biz is n the news n e way, so y not have sumthin sacred that they can’t talk about, and if u don’t say nuthin what can they say except what they think, instead of what it is.y b irritated wit a celeb kuz they won’t talk about they relationship???

Makes no sense

SMH…

If a young girl is watching this video…young, meaning adolescent age, and thinking, “Oooooh. That’s how I keep Tyrone. Have good sex with him!”, therein lies your FIRST problem. Even before SEEING the video, she should have been taught at home to hold her virginity sacred. Secondly, if a GROWN WOMAN is watching this video thinking the same thing??? Well, home girl has a loooong way to go. LOL Not to make light of an important discussion but really. You a grown woman girl! You should know good nookie ain’t never kept a man at home.

HATERSSSSSSSSSSSS! EVERYWHERE ..HAHAHA

EVEN PPLE DAT ARENT FANS …KNO FO SHOW DAT THE VIDEO IS CUUUTE!
SHE CAN NEVA DO ANYTHING RIGHT IN SOME PPLES EYES GOSH

ANYWHHUUUU , I LOVE THE VIDEO TOO CUUUTE!

Thank You 127. Well said!

LMAO @ PPLE BEING ALL SERIOUS ND TALKIN BOUT THE SOCIETY BLA BLA BLA… ITS JUS A VIDEO DAMMMIT.. ITS A FUN VIDEO… EVERYTIME SHANTI DOES SOMETHING, DERE’S ALWAYS A PROBLEM… LIKE LEAVE DA GURL ALONNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNE! DAMNNNNNNN!

ashanti is so pretty. she is probably one of about 2 or 3 girls i actually envy and wished i look like them. nelly looks good and the video is cute. the song will most likely grow on me, but at this moment, i am indifferent toward it.

THE VIDEO N SONG IS GROWIN ON ME!!! WELL DONE SHANTIIIi!!! GO GIRL!!! I CEE SUCCESS!

That video was very cool, haha, never thought she’d do something like that. Nelly added a nice touch and it made me like the song a tad bit more.

I feel like ‘Shanti is trying to bring the goods with this album and no one is quite listening.

Damn what do ya’ll want her to do….stand in the middle of the desert with a turtleneck and sweat pants on??? People take things tooo serious especially when it comes to ashanti! ya’ll just don’t wanna see her make it…This video isn’t degrading women at all…i guess it would’ve been better(more like typical) for her to stand in the hood with her girls and say yea it got that good good…then people would’ve been saying it’s ghetto and she’s too established to make a video like that! some of ya’ll need to relax!! this video is CUTE! & FUNNY!!! GREAT JOB ASHANTI FOR BEING DIFFERENT AND KEEPING DOING YOU GIRL FXCK THE HATERS! YOU MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT CUZ THEY STAY ON YOUR JOCK!

@56, the post was origianlly with Ashanti’s & Alicia’s new videos. I think Alicia’s wasnt playing correctly, so it was taken off. But it was on there for a minute. It was her new video to Superwoman.

It’s soooo bigger than ashanti…but i’ll leave it alone. Can somebody in the church say Amen! lol.

I CAN’T TAKE IT! THIS WOMAN IS TRYING TOO DAMN HARD! VOCALLY SHE’S WACK! HER AND HER BOYFRIEND RETHINK THEIR ROLES IN THE INDUSTRY! CAUSE HE ALBUM HAS FLOPPED AND EVERY SINGLE NELLY HAS TRIED TO PUT OUT HAS FAILED! THERE BOTH DEAD IN MY BOOK!

i like the video… she looks good.. so does nelly… i dont like the song that much but good video concept… she should win some video awards for this one.

I like the video a lot…but doesn’t it seem very Mariah-ish. She was actually the first person I thought of while watching it. Nonetheless..I thought it was cute and I like the song too.

@139 …AMEN……AMEN………AMEN!

@94, I agree with you. I have an 11 year old daughter and yes young children are VERY persuaded to immulate what they are seeing on TV. I too, barely even allow my kids to watch BET because of the strong sexual content in the videos. Sex is just everywhere now-a-days. Even certain songs on the radio get turned off. As much as kids like Chris Brown-I do not let her watch the Take U Down video or listen to the song and even certain shows on TV. She can’t watch The Game or Girlfriends because they talk alot about sex and or have sex scenes in them. I don’t like for her to watch movies with alot of fowl language either. It IS MOST DEFINETLY the parents responsibilty to guide our kids. Disney, Nickolodeon & House of Payne stay on lock at my house! Well said 94!

all i have to say is #29 u really should take the stick out of your ass.

i think the video was cute, after all it is just a VIDEO. she was just having fun, why the hell people gotta take everything so serious

i don’t even like ashanti like that, but i will give her props because i think the video was creative, and as everybody has said, it’s different from all the other videos out now.

black people just have throw something negative in, even if it’s not called for

Wow! We got people talking about how bad a message it shows when really it’s not that deep. We got haters saying it is cheap and calling out Melina visual directions for all her videos…WACK. Not too long ago she did a video for Alicia Keys. I supposed from a hater’s perspective that was wack too? Yeah I’d say this is a HIT! Ashanti you got it going on! Ashanti got Haters, Feminists, and Fans alike talking about her video. This is too funny. I just thought it was fun and cute video nothing less or more. Just fun…

the video is totally cute but im not really feeling the song.

First off If you got a man that’s good to you ain’t nothin wrong with being his wife and holding him down at home, i can’t stand these “i am woman hear me roar chicks” a woman can be a wife while maintaing her independence. that’s probably why our good black men are dating outside the race cause us sistas are up here screaming i don’t need a man and them white girls are snatchin them up. with that said it’s just a video it was cute. get the stick out your behind.

#45

I’ll take the stick out of my ass when our culture stop leading in statistics, proverty, drop out rates, teen pregnancies…need i say more? We continue to have these problems because we don’t take simple things like rape video images and messages seriously.

It’s not that deep, well, that’s evident isn’t it. lmao!

Iashanti and nelly are the most sexy and cute couple in the game