Prayers go out to both Familys..
@ # 75
Now the truth came out.
in your own words: I know everyone makes mistakes and maybe I am just jealous because I don;t have it as easy as others who take it for granted. Shit…I wish Dre was my father, I sure wouldnt be out doing drugs, I would be going for my doctor’s.

Bless your heart. Jesus does everything for a reason…. You just have to find it…
Peace…;-)

@ # 75. Well good for you. I wish you nothing but the best sista.

Breaks my heart!!!!!!!

@75 Meme

Admitting your jealously is a good first step, but you still have some serious issues to work on. Issues like worrying about what others take for granted. That’s not your business. And, wishing that Dre was your father…be careful what you with for. I’m sure those young girls wished that R. Kelly was their fathers. Do you! And, count your own blessings. Jesus is your father and he is a good provider. We receive not, because we ask not. Stop saying you have no “help”! I’ve never met you, but I know that’s not true! Where are you from? And, why do you deny your African heritage? No parents??? Come clean!!!

You need to stop ctitizing Africian Americans and be thankful for all the sacrafices made on your behalf. You came to America seeking a better life. Priviledged people of all races do dumb things with their parents money. Not just Blacks.

Jealousy, envy, lying, disrespect, greed, and judging others are all issues that you need to do some soul searching on. You shouldn’t blog until you can look at yourself in the mirror and say “thank you God for what you’ve done and what you’re gonna do in my life.” Otherwise, you have a long lonely road ahead of you. Your song will be, “I can’t get no…Satisfaction”.

Work on yourself and then work on relationships with others. Get off of your pity pot and start looking for your place in life. You may have lots of knowledge…but you lack wisdom.

You’re condition is in the heart! Love, honor, respect, wisdom, longsuffering, and faith are qualities that African Americans thrive on. And, we know instantly when someone is void of these qualities. Unlike your 4.0 achievements, these qualities cannot be learned like Biology or Chemistry. They are gifts from God given freely to those who ask for them.

Meditate on that last paragraph.

May BOTH boys rest in peace and may both fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters to them find a way to move on and maybe help others with these issues!! RIP, my condolences.

to comment on the other things..I have a sister that has an addiction and I do all I can to get her treatment and I do not enable her like others in my family do. She is 26 and a mother and if I could pick her up myself and drag her to rehab I WOULD..RIGHT NOW. been there, done that doesnt work…maybe what meme and others are trying to say is that though tragic…it could have and should have been prevented with his young age and resources and that I agree with. Maybe with this lesson Dre could give more time and money to help addicts and prevent this from happening again.

Now please can we quit arguing and just agree that this is sad for everyone involved..maybe they tried to help, maybe they ignored it hoping it would go away…they still lost someone and I couldnt imagine losing one of my 3 EVER…but I know I will work my butt off and talk to them to make sure it WONT be to DRUGS!!

and as for the name MEME my grandma and mom call me MIMI and I am not black…I am white, have 3 mixed kids by the same man and cant belive how you as black people are fighting and disrepecting eachother over something so sad that should bring you together to make a change, this is crazy

“Shit…I wish Dre was my father, I sure wouldnt be out doing drugs, I would be going for my doctor’s.”

@ MEME - did you mean Doctorate? LOL!!!!!! Girl Kill yourself!!!! PLEASE

If you’re so damn educated shouldn’t you know the levels of education.

Again, you such a fool. You need to study the history of African Americans in the USA! Take a damn history class with you educated a$$ !! That money you’re talking about that White folks have is old long money. It’s money they stole from us, using our free (slavery) labor to build their mansions, business, their acres. We are now struggling to just catch up; and we never will because they have long, old money.

Their great great grandfathers have the money to pass down to the next generation, what did our great great grandfathers have to pass down? I’m glad you asked. They had inferiority, bigotry, racism, and no wealth to pass down. So that’ what were dealing with in the USA.

WE don’t take shit for granted! I worked harder than any white person at my school for my degree, and I am working twice as harder for my MBA! You need to go back to where you came from with all that HATRED in your spirit

Study the history of Blacks before you talk about being black in America, and what we take for granted dummy!!

80.

tgavb

You can’t call for a truce and then make out landish statements! Since you are white, no one cares what you believe about black people fighting amoungt ourselves. We’ve have to fight everyday of our existence in America, so don’t be trying to act like you know the code…just because you’ve enjoyed a little black bamboo 3Xs!

MEME and MIMI are way different. MEME [MBEME] is like broken Australian aboriginal (African). MIMI is French origin. Is your name Willamina?

And, MEME never starts her sentences with: “though tragic”! So, don’t be putting words in her arrogant mouth. She called him dumb and privillaged! She showed no sympathy or remorse.

And, what makes you think that money and resources can solve drug addiction? Amy Whinehouse has millions, but when they tried to get her to go to rehab, she said NO! NO! NO! Brittney and Paris get drunk every weekend! Betty Ford (clinic) and Rush Limbaugh…heavy substance abusers.

You and MEME need to stop trippin on other people’s money. Your lives must be miserable if all you think about is the money and resources Dre has. And, how do you spend more time with a 20 year old? How do you intervene for someone who says: No! No! No!

After age 14, most young people become socially independent. You want to blame Dre, you want to blame African Americans, you want to blame your ex-husbands. But, the drug industry is alive and well…even in a recession. Rite Aids, WalGreens and Longs are springing up everyday. During a depression, people turn to drugs and drinks. Rappers like Dre depend on the drug and drink image to shop their goods.

So, if you want to stop this debate, then stop worrying about Dre’s money and show some remorse for his loss. Money and resources couldn’t save Elvis, Janis or Anna Nicole.

If you want to talk about blame…let’s talk US government, Colombian drug cartels and the trafficking through Latin America and Mexico! Andre didn’t produce the heroin of morphine.

81.

TooMuch,

Great post! When you have the type of historical perspective that you described, it’s clear to see through all the arrogance and bull$#!T. It’s the truth that sets up free, not the things that MEME and MIMI have been watching on MTV and SNL. Chocolate News is much different from CNN and MSNBC.

The reason I “steryotyped” and I now “apologize” to Africans is bacause, I know many of them who make it to America, have that same old long money! With their countrymen suffering back home, they are now coming to America and going to Europe trying to blend in the universities like everyone else struggling to make it. But, the truth is, they have long money from the same slave trade system enjoyed by the Euro-Americans and their great-great ancestors.

Most Africans in America are well-connected. These are not the everyday, garden variety Africans you’ll see if you visit the motherland. Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy for their migration and opportunity. I just don’t like it when they boast about their GPAs and “no-help” stans.

MEME wouldn’t go into her heritage, but she tipped her hand when she said that she had “no help, no parents, and no scholarship.” If anyone can make it under those condition…and not share how they’re doing it, I have a big problem with them. Telling the truth means…telling the whole truth. Doesn’t it takes over $250,000 to earn a Doctorate? Eight or nine years of college @ $30,000/year!

Come clean MEME!! You admitted the jealousy, now admit the connection and gloat!

Well I am sorry for the things that I said and if I offended anyone.

@ MEAT many of the things that you said are indeed tru, but I don’t need to get into my personal life. But note that my parents were murdered, maybe thats why I am not sympathetic towards things that I consider dumb.

Everyone is makin me out to be something awful but the truth is I am a very giving and kind person, although I do kno that I have personal issues and I must agree that I can be irrogant and prejudice towards other black, namely african americans. But that is something I am working on.

@ TOOMUCH, you correcting all of my mistakes is not hurting me one bit, actually is funny because I know you will never ever in your life be as smart as I am. My english is not the best, perhaps that is the only reason I desided to take some language and algebra classes to become more familiar with the U.S terms and ways because god knows I can teach these american lectures a thing a two.

So it’s 2009 and this TGAVB goof shows up just to in time to remind “we as black people” how to behave.You just gotta love white people lol. It always kills me how dumb white broads think they’re experts on African issues just because they’ve choked on a gang of black d*ck. Who are these lost slaves still shacking up with these soulless whores anyhow?

@83 MEAT

Thanks for the great post comment! I appreciate it. I really do like your way of thinking! I’m very enlightend by your comments

Are you a female with this kind of thinking? If you’re a black man with all that kind of knowledge- I’m proud as a black sista!!!

@MEME

This will be my last post to you hon so LISTEN UP, you’re LISTENING?

OK - I am already smarted than you, just trust me on that one

In one sentence you appologize for your ignorance and arrogance, and in the next you attempt to tell me( a college grad, who teaches, who sits on the Board of a college, who has kids and a husband, who works for the biggest not-for- profit in the America, that my correcting you is laughable! You need some mental help because clearly you’re bipolar.

I was only trying to help you connect the levels of education, you clearly were confused. I’ve gotten an excellent education from one of the whitest universities in the South! I’ve lived in America all my life, I’ve lived in the racist South all my life! I know what it is to be a Black American.

Perhaps you should figure it out!

Well said TOOMUCH and MEAT! Pleases me to see people willing speak positive and have understanding where there’s much negativity on these blogs! I just wish these individuals would not so quick to label and stereotype ALL African Americans based on what they see, read and assume…

Most people on the site would have gone off but you two kept it cool. Love it!

@ 88 MY ROLE

Thanks! I feel you, I’m all about the positive and uplifting our people. I think we need it, we need to love one and other. I really try my best to only post nice comments. I hate it when everyone is dragging for others on these blogs.

Let me get back to work, I’m an Accountant, and we have more work than a little bit at the begining of the year! Thanks again, and you also keep promoting the positive!!

MEAT seems to be a very positive person and I can relate to some of the things that she said but TOOMUCH is still a huge joke to me.

@ TOOMUCH

“OK - I am already smarted than you, just trust me on that one”

And this is coming from someone who is so hooked on correcting my every mistake. Sweetheart since you are so educated and doing well for yourself then do you and stop watching other people. I know who I am, I am happy with myself. My opionions are my opinions and someone like you will never matter to me. You come on here knocking me but you turn around and do the same, perhaps over doing it. Nobody cares if you attended one of the whitest schools in the world. You will still never in your be as educated as I am. Knocking my english doesnt make you smart than someone. English is actually the language that i am worst at…I am more fluent in 4 other languages other than english and I think I am doing an okay job because you can understand me enough to respond.

@ MEME

No more to say to you- You’re a fool! LOL

@ MEME. For you to write about the accomplishments that you have attained in a year , has nothing to do with the topic at hand. I do not know the educational institution that you are currently enrolled in but i suggest that you take on another course or read a book in your history in case you dont know :BLACK HISTORY. There are many accomplished AFRICAN AMERICANS who care a great deal about their education and their personal apperance , just because you go to school and at the same time youre not financially able to do your hair dont get ignorant and talk about who does what , cause thats being sterotypical and ignorant for no reason. Its African Americans like yourself who forget where you came from and how you got there. Yes you are intelligent and very accomplished at such a young age but at the same time in order for you to go to school and receive an equal oppurtunity to get where at African Americans like Dr. Martin Luther King jr , Rosa Parks etc and many others during the civil rights movement paved that way so your 4.0 ass could sit in the seats you sit in now. Its up to you to continue to do that and you are but do not insult the intellgence of the fellow bloggers on this site who are just as educated than you , if not more when you have yet to understand that ignorance takes you know where. No matter how many Phd’s you attain, your still African American and in the corporate world they will not consider you their equal , even though you worked hard to get where your at and you know where you wanna go. Learn your history and humble your self , ps : you never get anywhere in life on your own and if you havent learnt that take a moment to self reflect and by that i mean ; GET YOUR HEAD OUT YOUR ASS AND STOP TALKING SHIT CUZ THATS ALL YOUR DOING

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