Check out the preview of “A Father’s Promise“, a thought-provoking documentary which attempts to understand an issue close to President Barack Obama: the subject of absent fathers in the black community.
It includes a cross-section of African-Americans, including NBC’s Al Roker and Tiki Barber, who come together for a round-table discussion of these situations and issues. “A Father’s Promise” aired Sunday night on MSNBC.
i missed it…forgot all about it!
This is something to look forward. And I kinda wonder why most of y’all ain’t commenting on this. Wake up ppl. This affects you in some way. If this was CB and Riri, y’all won’t give ppl a break. But something that affects you, y’all just turn your backs. I just hope y’all watch this though. CL you’re the best.
here’s my thing
its all these young black men who grew up fatherless
and they hate and resent there fathers when they grow up
and promise themselves and the mothers of there children that they will never do what there fathers did to them
but they turn around and be dead beats just like there fathers were
its a continuous cycle
Dont get me wrong, i know alot of men who love there children to death
but the majority of dudes i know dont do much for there children and if they are involve financially they arent involved physically
systas, keep ya head up .. there’s an extra hot section in hell reserved for these deadbeat muthas ..
thankfully i’ve grown up with both of my parents!!!… i know tons of people my age that haven’t had that… and i have a lot of peers that have had children and the fathers aren’t around… i see the struggle they go through every day… i see the battles they have to face and overcome!!! some have done pretty well without the fathers around… i somewhat envy them for that!!!… i’d be damned though to have a man knock me up and leave me…. it WON’T HAPPEN… not just because i’ve got that great great… lol…. but because it wont happen.. i can’t allow it to happen!!!… i’d kill the man… he wants to leave me so he can go gallivant…rip and run the streets… party and live it up while i’m taking care of OUR child(ren)……. i don’t think so… if he’s not gonna be there…. then that’s just it… he wont be there… he’ll be 6 feet under because i’m not putting up with that bs!!! i WILL not be a single mother…. i refuse to!!! so… to all you men out there tryna knock up this QUEEN…. first thing’s first… it’s not happening until i get AT LEAST a 5 carat ring… no less… (that’s to ensure i stay single because the men i meet aren’t worth my giving up anything for….)…. they’re not marriage material!!!… i’m not having kids out of wedlock… so good luck with tryna get me!!! lol…. WOOT WOOOOOOOOOOT
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I know this hits close to home but the black community needs to stop brushing things under the rug and start changing if they ever want their sons to grow up to be dignified men who cherish their women and be there for their child, work hard and honest lives so that thier children will have someone they look up too, someone who didn’t just take the easy road to get what they want and not need.
The one thing that is worse than a man not taking care of his children is a woman that does not look at important things like character, commitment level (ideally marriage), and relationship with God before creating children.
Being Afro-european I wonder wether or not I should feel concerned.
Nonetheless it’s a good initiative!
Worth checking out…
Oh crap, I missed it lol. I was too busy at the movies watching Coraline lol but I’ll check the re-broadcast… as long as it isn’t on at the same time as “How I Met Your Mother” cause that’s my show!
#8, I think everyone should be concerned (possibly to different extents but still), regardless of ethnicity. It’s pretty alarming stuff and although it has the greatest effect on the african american community, it effects the whole nation in some way or another. Chain effects and stuff.
I wonder if they’ll delve into the reasons why the numbers are so staggering for African Americans. And why did the trend begin? Is it high poverty rates? Or…I don’t know.
It’s unfortunate definitly something that with time, patience and a little bit more initiative and the acceptance of responsibility, the affected communities can change.
I had it reminded and missed it also, its not scheduled to appear on tv again (as of now) I’m gonna go through the net to find it.
I didn’t know this was on…hopefully they’ll re-air it.
This is a sad cycle that continues to happen in our community. “Mother’s-Baby-Father’s-Maybe.”
There’s a few reason’s why this is:
1. The men make all these kids and then leave, blame the mother, say she’s crazy, ghetto or whatever just to mask the fact he is a deadbeat. He gets involved with another woman/women and the mother is left raising the kids, being mommy & daddy & the kids grow up fatherless or see their dad once a year or whatever. It’s sad, because MOST of the time, the single mother did not ask for her life to be that way. She was in love and 9 times out of 10, she was done looking. He was “IT” for her. But it just keeps happening.
2. The women know the man isn’t shit and still sleeps with him anyway, either becaus their self-esteem is low or they are thinking their stuff is soooooo good, that they can “change” him and when he leaves they are crying and devastated. Well, what the hell did you expect?
3. Too much irresponsible promicuous sex happening without people thinking of the outcomes: pregnancy, STD’s and all of the emotional attachments that come with it that younger folks just aren’t ready to take on.
4. Then you have the flip–the mother gets strung out on drugs or is mentally unstable or just doesn’t want to raise them and leaves the kids with dad or a family member to raise which continues the single parent cycle.
5. The dad or mom dies.
6. Sometimes the woman chooses to have a baby and be a single parent. Sometimes it may be because they want to be loved or they just want a child and damn the man. If he’s in the kids life he is, if he’s not–he’s not. It’s whatever to them.
7. The woman was raped.
It’s sad, because #1 is usually the case which results in this horrible cycle.
I watched the show last night and it really was a well done depiction of the single family home at the hands of absent father.
Although I have a relationship with my father today, nothing could fill the gap in my life from his absence the first 23 years of my life.
The part of the show which really saddened me was the young girl who said she did not want to marry or have children because she did not want to go through the pain her father put her through. It was really profound.
Awesome! I look forward to watching this! It needs to be on the forefront of the issues that plauges America and Obama can help raise awareness.
A lot of the situations Obama named I’ve experienced and I’m still struggling with. I never realized how growing up without a father affect my life until now and I’m 26. I would get upset when I saw people on TV using their father being absent as an excuses, but I understand now. Some of the ways it has effected me is bad judgment, bad choice in men, and looking for love in all the wrong places. Don’t get me started.