Such a sad thing to hear. My condolences to Khandi and AJ’s family.

Why the hell is she on Twitter when her fiance has just died? This Twitter craze is ridiculous and insulting.

OMG. I saw this on Face book while I was browsing through and I noticed something saying BREAKING NEWS. At first, I thought it was a survey thingy someone took on FB and they just showed Kandi’s Pic. But, Then I read it and it said AJ was killed. After, I went on TMZ and there it was. I am pretty much in denial. Even if I don’t know him that really hit me hard. It doesn’t even matter where he was. He had 6 kids! These kids live are changed for ever. He had a mother,father,friends,cousins,families! This is so saddddd! I feel like I lost one. I feel so bad for Kandi. I know she is a good hard. I hope she gets better! RIP AJ.

I know she has a good heart****……….TYPO

wow… i’ll keep you and aj’s family in my prayers!!!…

OK for the ignorant person who obviously does NOT read the bible it DOES that that and her saying is NOT simply cliche. 1 Corinthians 10:13- No temptation has taken YOU except what is common to men. But God is faithful, and he will not let YOU be tempted beyond what YOU can bear, but along with the temptation he will also make the way out in order for YOU to be able to endure it. READ your bible and then try to come correct next time #28 “WHATITHINKS.. Sad sad sad..and whatever the case may be let her grieve and feal with her pain the way she chooses to!!!

This is not the first big loss for Kandi her brother died in a car accident a while back. I’m so sorry to hear of this. She doesn’t need sympathy right now, she just needs to be surrounded by up lifting and positive people to get through this.

some of ya’ll are some idiots.

she got on twitter because she knows she has people on there who actually care about her well being. saying “why is she on twitter at a time like this” is as stupid as saying “why is she giving a statement at a time like this” it’s good to let people know what’s going on. instead of saying it through a publicist she said it through twitter. give the woman a damn break.

To #58 I hope you read this.

We in of ourselves are not worthy, but those in Christ have Supernatural Ability, to overcome any situation that may come our way when we submit the Christ. He alone is the author and finisher of our faith. This is what church is for, not for just being fed, it says forsake not yourselves the assembling of like believers ( or close to that don’t quote me). Because at those times others around us can lift us up. But all too often we’re embarrased to tell others of our problems or things we are going thru.
So to answer your question, can one person go thru more than they can handle? Possibly and sometimes yes. But God has the answer and solution to everything, if we rely on him, and if we look to those to lift us up in times of need, we can prevail.
But do not always blame God for the times when tribulation come, because it is not always him allowing problems or The Devil attacking. Sometimes these situations come because of the lack of our ability to listen or situations we’ve created ourselves, and the Devil will use those opportunities. But God will if we allow him to, He will show up and work those things out for our benefit. This is why it is so important on the company you keep.
God is not in heaven, making us suffer for his amusement. Putting us thru trial and tribulation to make us suffer. There are people who live happy lives, because they choose to not let circumstances take there JOY, you would never know they are going thru unpleasant circumstances. And there are some people who don’t suffer at all. A lot of the times we suffer because we don’t change our circumstances, change our circumstances. I do remember on the show Kandi’s mom not liking the guy. For the most part Parents don’t want their children unhappy, so I’m sure her mom had a reason. We can definetly see that now. It’s unfortunate but in this case true. He may not have been the provoker, but he was also more than likely in a situation he shouldn’t have been in.

and twitter is not just some silly little site anymore. it has broken news before any other media and made huge impacts. it’s a very powerful social networking tool.

How awfully. I really hope the families can come together and support each other through all of this. So sad…

People don’t understand how EASY it is to be killed or kill someone else in a petty ass fight. My friend died the very same way in high school… all it takes is ONE hit…

#75 I heard she wasn’t with her Fiance at the moment, but I’m sure she still has deep feelings for him. Have some respect.

RIP AJ, that is a shock.It will be weird to see him on the rest of The Housewives season. I think they should somehow edit him out for the respect of his kids. I’m sure it would be hard for them to turn on the TV and see their dad.

Thats so said. R.I.P A.J.!!! Its weird how things just up and happen out the blue. Sucks that she has to go through this time. Hope it doesn’t affect Kandi’s career much.

Prayers go out to Kandi at this difficult time in her life. May God keep her in his care…

wow, this is shocking, and a tragedy because he has six kids. I hope Khandi and his kids get through this, it’s hard losing a parent, I ‘ve never lost one but i have too many friends that did when the were young kids, it’s hard on a kid

Sad

my heart and prayers go out kandi and her family and aj family and especially his 6kids this is a very sad and tragic incident that shouldve never happened again my heart and prayers go out to her family..

Im praying for her…09 has TOO many surprises…we almost discovered my aunt dead on the floor last week…barely made it but is paralyzed, can’t speak, etc….they’re still watching her and she was fine the night b4. Life I tell u! Its crazy to just be in contact with a love one and some ish happens that u couldnt foresee. Kandi is now carrying a lot of burden plus her uncles death too? geez. To think weeks ago AJ was looked down upon.. very sad

GOD WILL GET HER THROUGH THIS

Hi Kandi,
I want you to know how much you and your family are loved as well as being prayed for. Your family was trying to get over the car accident, the lost of your uncle; and now someone felt the need to take your soon to be husband. My prayers are with your family as well as AJ’s. Let’s continue to pray that this person (PUNK) that took AJ’s life will be put under the jail. GOD will make a way!!

Stay strong and hold onto GODs unchanging hand!!

Peace & Blessings,
Carla

P.S. If someone has any information that will help Kandi and AJ’s family regarding their lost “please” go to the police.

1st of all Controversial…they aren’t married. 2nd Twitter was an ave to get her feelings out since sooooo many were reaching out to her. She only sent 2 tweets out regarding this. Relax…people quick to tell folks how to grieve. Kandi hasn’t been on since. Im sure many of us wanted to see some reaction from her too

@ 22: I thnk it was nice and thoughtful that she wanted to keep her fans informed.. Shiiit, she probably needed to vent..

Twitter should be the last thing on someones mind when they have lost someone.

I find it disturbing to say the least , that someone gets the news that there fiancee has died and the first thing they do is log on to their twitter account to tweet about their emotions.

What happened to real life communication?

Being able to communicate with one another and being able to communicate ‘effectively’ without having a computer screen as a barrier?

Technology is not a good thing, it is an evil tool that is slowly disintergrating the main foundations of human interaction.

I believe alot of people have lost the main idea of natural communciation and most probably effective face to face communication.

This is why our world is going down, because every day it is getting more and more unnatural and alieniesed by things such as facebook and twitter.

Do you know what is even sad?

Black people have fell victim to this and are beginning to act more and more superficial, when in actual fact we are supposed to be the most natural race on this planet, but even being with the white man for more then 500 years has began to take its toll on most of you and turn you into something that you should be ashamed of.

I am not in no way being nasty, because I have Kandi’s best interest at heart. But you dont need to twitter to reach those who are close to you. You should be able to communicate to those around you in person. Because no doubt when you twitter about your greivances on twitter you are making it in a commercial vendetta and cheapening the death of that person you are ’supposed ‘ love..

At a time like this you dont need to answer to anyone but yourself and those close to you, by using twitter you are becoming a slave to media

This story is very interesting. I want to see what the particulars are before I come to a conclusion, but if I be a betting man, it was a sacrifice. We’ll see based on the amount of recognition and acclaim that she gets in the next few months. Like I said though, I want to see what the official story is on this.

@ #27 WhatIThinkIs

Lol, you had me crackin’ up with your comment, because that is EXACTLY what 99% of these so-called “Christian believers” do, MAKE THINGS UP. They concoct their own personal philosophy to deal with their problems and attribute it to the Most High. Don’t forget their other two favorites, “God don’t lie UGLY!” and “Come as ye ARE!”. Those two “sayings” are NOWHERE to be found in the Bible or Apocrypha. It’s very simple, if it’s not in the scriptures, it’s not of the Most High, it’s of your own opinion….that being Satan (Prov 16:25). The premise of God not putting on us more than we can bare is in the scriptures though (Job 34:23). There are other scriptures that allude to it (Prov 18:14, I Cor 10:13, etc.).

Oh God, I saw it this morning on the news and I was shocked. I couldn’t believe it, I feel for his children most of all but I know Kandi is hurting too. I will say a prayer for his soul and his children. What makes a person so angry to the point of murder? I just don’t understand it.

Oh shut up…of course non-twitters users would not understand. and she didn’t just come on twitter right after. all her celeb friends,etc were spreading their wishes & helped spread the word. Because of twitter this news was made possible that ur commenting on. she voiced having to deal with her uncles death and this on top of that. u act like she was giving a min by min play.

LOOK U PETTY CRABS STOP MAKING ME A TOPIC OF DISCUSSION AND CONDEMNING ME FOR MY BELIEFS. THINK WHATEVER U WANT, IT DOESNT AFFECT MY LIFE IN ANY SHAPE, WAY, OR FORM, THATS YOU! IM NOT HERE FOR BIBLE STUDY! TO JUDAH. IF I DIDNT KNOW ANY BETTER, I WOULD THINK U HAVE A PERSONAL VENDETTA AGAINST ME, LOL! AND U KNOW WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT MR…

@Jennifer Knows Best

Girl you are talking some sense!! How the hell could somebody who is genuinely devastated and grieving posting ish on Twitter about when/if they are now gonna get some sleep or whatever. WTF???

Maybe just maybe if Kandi was in the mega-star category - like a Madonna or an MJ or even a Beyonce - she MIGHT get her publicist to post a brief statement to keep her fans informed. But how the hell are you Tweeting when your fiance just got murdered. What the holy HELL?????????????

I was also outraged when Erykah Badu Tweeted DURING LABOR. We as a people are losing our minds. What next? Tweeting while committing murder? Tweeting while being murdered? Tweeting while f*cking? Tweeting while performing surgery? Gimme a break!

Kandi is having it rough. Recently she talked about her grandpa dying, now this. I’m praying for her….poor baby

@Positive Chick

So if the comments on this site are to be believed, Kandi has lost her grandpa, her brother, her uncle and now her fiance all in the past few months? Are you SURE?

FYI @Jennifer Knows Best and Rolling Like A River

Kandi was the treding topic on twitter and she got so many messages on people sending her condolences. She wanted to let people know she was okay. People have different ways of dealing with death, so for you two to criticize is some bullshit. Shut your mouth and show some respect….
(can’t stand ignorant bloggers)

@Positive Chick

you talk like you’re a friend of Kandi’s when in reality you never met her. Get a grip girlfriend.

@Candi

If you read my comment, it was directed at “WhatIThinkIs”. Again, that’s if you read. If you read, you’ll see that I acknowledged what you said in regards to the premise that the Most High not putting on us more than we can bare is actually in the scriptures. Like I said though, that’s if you read. Smh; in regards to a “personal vendetta”, never on this site have I ever referred to you.

Sad to hear the guy lost his life and i feel bad for his family but There’s a time to leave these damn rowdy clubs alone,and grow up and take care of your kids.
R.I.P

@Rolling Like A River

No, I’m talking like a person who knows what it’s like to lose loved ones. I lost my grandma and grandpa in the same month last year. It’s hard…at least show some empathy or respect. I know people like you love to judge people and make every situation seem negative, but now isn’t the time. If you don’t have something pleasant to say….don’t say it.
Have a good day

@JUDAH. OH YES BABY, I CAN READ. AND VERY WELL!

So sorry. Don’t wish such an event on anyone, especially not Kandi — easily one the most likeable women I see on TV, so it’s sad that anything bad like this has touched her life. I just pray God and the passage of time will ease your pain.

Amen @ Rolling like a River!
I don’t care what anyone says. Tweeting or Twittering (or whatever you want to call it) when a tragedy has just hit you is wrong! Period.
People will do anything for rising fame and sadly that means profiting from a loved one’s death (which Kandi is doing).
I personally think that Kandi was not in a relationship with AJ @ the time of his death, thus her having an ‘emotionless’ response to the recent news. We don’t know the full story as of yet, so it’s pointless saying how ‘sad’ we are for Kandi. Because a number of sources have already speculated and close to confirmed that they were separated!
Kandi is seeing this as nothing but a bid in resurrecting her dead career. I know that what I just said may seem heartless to some, but it’s the truth and sadly the truth hurts.
I feel greatly affected by what has happened to AJ and I have deep concerns for his real family, such as his children and immediate family (Mother, father, siblings etc), because these are the ones that are going to be deeply affected by his departure. But Kandi don’t get anything from me. Because by her twittering so soon, proves how superficial this broad is and it also proves how low the black race is stooping for defending this madness.

Twitter and all the other social network sites are FAKE. They do not represent the truth. People need to stop using them as tools hinder real life communication. Its crazy!!!

It’s so sad. My condolences goes out to both of their families. That’s just so tragic RIP.

I actually met this chick Kandi before. She seemed nice.

i am soo soo sorry Kandi that happened to you.I pray you and the family.He was a good man and you r definetly a good girl..I cant believe all this shit happening in this world…My heart pour out to you .May you and the fam be blessed……….smh..smh..soooo saddd!!!!!!!!!

my prayers go t kandi and his children this is so sad by god willing she will have the strength to carry on and know every thing going to be ok we love you kandi

RIP AJ

Such sad news! My prayers go out to both families.

This is sad.

Lets leave god out of this because their are thousands of religions that have just as much justification as Christianity, a bigoted hateful religion in its own right. A man has died because of illogical human error and its sad enough without the BS of “Christians” who pick and choose what to follow out the bible.

“…and the swine, though it divides the hoof, having cloven hooves, yet does not chew the cud, is unclean to you.” (Leviticus 11:7)

@Jeff

The swine is unclean. What’s the issue?

Why was he in the strip club. Body tap is in the hood and nothing but trouble goes on in there so if he was engaged why was he there?

He is part owner of the Body Tap. He was working. He was not a customer.

@ 21..He was there for business…he bought into the club. They were not engaged. They were sepearated but still really good friends. His kids are close to her and is a guardian to two of them. So yeah..!

I ADORE YOU KANDI, YOU ARE SUCH A CLASSY LADY AND WILL OVERCOME ALL

This is so sad. Prayers for his family, Kandi, and his children.

RIP AJ

>>> Look Kandi can use Twitter to grieve. How CAN we JUDGE her. HAVE you LOST someone before? Some children draw, or act up when they are in pain. As adults, we also have different methods of dealing with pain. SHE already said plenty of times that she DOES not DRINK or SMOKE, So how the hell you gonna JUDGE her for twittering? We are a TECH savvy society. So it’s O.K. … She’s not going to drink, so twittering my be of COMFORT to her. I respect her. This girl wears her heart on her sleeve. NOT many people are as GENUINE as her. She LOVED her mom so much, that she ALLOWED her mother to tell her about the MAN that she LOVED. She cried but did not Shun her mother, the way many other chicks WOULD.
> I wish her the best. She is the most genuine person on (RHOA) - She used the photo shoot to preach against drug driving as a tribute to her family member that was recently in a car accident. SHE is the TRUTH. Support her, DON”T hate!

For all you commenting on what he was doing at a strip club, on the night he died, you need to check your facts before posting such an insensitive comment. He was at the strip club (Body Tap), because he worked there as a manager. The person who allegedly killed him, was a co-worker (another manager). Not that it’s relevant. People are also killed in churches and schools. DO you ask what the hell they were doing in church or school? I don’t think so. Check yourselves people, before making insensitive comments. The subjects of your blogs do read this shit!

wow thats sad and unexpected. her mom must’ve had some good senses. what if they got married ?! and sorry if this sounds mean, but why in the world would she take on 2 of his kids ? where are there moms. he gave her baggage before he died.

Lord give her the strength to overcome all of these sudden deaths. R.I.P AJ. His poor kids….

This is so sad to hear. Life is too short. May he rest in peace.

soo soo soo sad
rip.

I hope she’s able to cope and overcome this sad situation. Hopefully the mother or mothers of the 6 children will take responsibility if they aren’t alraedy doing so. I just saw the Wendy Williams show last week and Kandi was up there- she seems very sweet- this year has been nothing but death after death *celebrity wise*.

Ok rolling stone,etc… wait until you have a death to judge how one should act accordingly and keep it to yourself.. Geez :rolleyes: Can’t believe this Twitter BS is up for discussion. It’s easier to address all these incoming concerns in 1 or 2 tweets and be done with it then text/call every single person back. I see no wrong in what she did…folks were concerned!! You can tweet from anywhere…phone apps, by text, web,etc.. no harm in sending a message from ur phone. Publicist comments don’t make people feel better…people still want to hear it from the actual person. And for the last time, AJ was Kandi’s EX-FIANCEE..though it still affects her in anyway you phrase it.

KANDI IM TRULY SORRY FOR THIS SAD NEWS. RIGHT NOW IM JUST SHAKING UP ON THIS CAUSE YAL WERE BOUT TO GET MARRIED NOW THIS. I REMEBER SENDING YOU THAT MASSAGE ON MYSPACE TO FOLLOW YOUR HEART. THATS ALL I CAN SAY AND THINK OF. MY PRAYERS GO’S OUT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. MAY GOD REST AJ & YOUR UNCLE SOUL. R.I.P AJ EVEN DOUGH I DIDNT KNOW YAL TWO GENTELMEN BUT YALL WILL BE MISS AND R.I.P TO YOUR UNCLE THE LORD HAD SOMETHING SPECIAL WAIT FOR THESE TWO AND IT IS HEAVEN . KANDI GIRL HOLD YOUR HEAD AND DO ALL THE CRYING YOU GOTTA DO TO EASE YOUR PAIN CAUSE THATS HOW MOST OF US DO. I LOVE YOU AND STAY SWEET AND STRONG.

so sad

OMG!! This is really sad. Kandi was really ahppy with him. Prayers to your family.

THUG LIFE!

@38

OK. So the Bible is talking about temptation. What does that have to do with AJ’s death and all the other horrible things that happen to people? When people say that God will never put more on you than what you can bear, they are addressing horrible situations that happen in life. They are not speaking about being tempted by tihngs, which is clearly what the Bible is talking about. Your passage states that God will not allow you to be tempted more than what you can handle. He doesn’t say that you will not encounter more trials and tribulations than what you can handle.
Two different things. And yet people always mix them together.

@59- AMEN!

Please forgive me, but when i read the headline i thought it said her AND her fiance died…
I was like oh laaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwdddd..!!
then i did another oh lawd because he was such a young and great guy…
Rest In Peace and hopefully Kandi can sorta temprarly get the kids because it seemed like she had a good impact in their lives..

hHIP HOP SACRIFICES
http://www.youtube.com/wa...5l_sM&feature=related

WOW, man Kandi has been dealing with alot lately my prayers go out to her and his family

I’m so dispondent to hear of Kandi’s loss! May God continue to Bless her and give her the strenghth to pull through. She will RISE ABOVE THE HATTERS…………

May God Be with the children Kandi and her family.

so sad to hear, prayers are with you Kandi and your family as well as Aj’s!!!!

dumbass mmgs she wason TWITTER
so waH?
you can TWEET from a fone
she probably had ppl blowing her up & she has thousands of friends
INCLUDING monica up there
who dont have her # but were showing support
..
thats beside the point
so sorry 4ur loss huns.
<3

dumbass mmgs she wason TWITTER
so waH?
you can TWEET from a fone
she probably had ppl blowing her up & she has thousands of friends
INCLUDING monica up there
who dont have her # but were showing support
..
thats beside the point
so sorry 4ur loss huns.
<3

can we all chill and have a moment of silence for both of these families…

my prayers go out to kandi and his children…such a tragedy that didnt need to happen. i have the upmost respect for her out of all the housewives and she def does not deserve whats happened. babygirl, keep your head up…we all love you!

‘09 HAS BEEN TOO MUCH FOR ME. ALL THESE PPL DYING WITH TOO MANY SURPRISES AND UNUSUAL TWISTS AND TURNS AND ITS ONLY GONNA GET WORSE. BRACE YOURSELF FOR 2010 AND THE YEARS TO COME CUZ ITS ONLY GONNA GET WORSE. OUR WORLD IS TOO IGNORANT TO MAKE A CHANGE FOR THE BETTER. I PRAY FOR EVERYBODY ON THIS SITE. HOPE YALL ARE SAFE. STOP THE VIOLENCE, STOP THE HATE BECAUSE THE END IS NEAR.

MARK MY WORDS BY THE END OF THE YEAR THIS WORLD IS GONNA BE IN FULL CHAOS.