Katie Couric interviewed First Lady Michelle Obama for Glamour’s Women of the Year issue this week. In the video feature above, the ladies also spoke about what women should look for in a date, when to dump someone and how she “landed” Barack Obama.
Katie: Candice Jones from Memphis wanted to know how you landed such a good guy. Maybe he landed you, right? “Did you know that Mr. O was a great catch when you met him? What dating advice can you give a 26-year-old professional?”
M.O.: He was always special, you know? And not special, like, He’s gonna be important, he’s gonna be president. He was special in terms of his honesty, his sincerity, his compassion for other people. Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are you as a person? That’s the advice I would give to women: Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul. Look at how the guy treats his mother and what he says about women. How he acts with children he doesn’t know. And, more important, how does he treat you? When you’re dating a man, you should always feel good. You should never feel less than. You should never doubt yourself. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole. And if you’re in that relationship and you’re dating, then my advice is, don’t get married.
—–Sigh
—-I liked Michelle’s response.
So true ….
Well said Michelle and oh so true!!!
She looks great! Excellent advice!
right on Soror Michelle! right on!
wow! real talk
this is some sounds advice applying this advice is a whole nutha story
Good advice Michelle! I try to tell my homegirls that all the time! Stop getting caught up with someone’s outter image and start looking for the inner person.
This is some great advice. You’d think that she’d be on the front cover, but that’s the world we live in. Like she said, the outside fades. Let’s see how many comments this gets in comparison to music videos and fashion posts.
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Great advice
So true nowadays we fall for their appearance, those saggy jeans or crotch hugging skinny jeans and some hot Air force sneakers that we don’t mind wat the guy comes off like, we end up heartbroken lol. real talk Michelle, just love me this woman
Of coarse you have to be attracted to the person, but then you look at all the other things, not just appearance only.
Excellent! We need more positive influences like this……BRAVO!
Of course this is great advice,that`s why she and her husband are so successful because they listen to good sense,and some people on CL have been saying the same thing ,now watch the next time there is a Rihanna or Beyonce article, how most people will say the complete opposite of Michelle`s good advice and only look at the bankbook,the title and how cute someone is !
Love her.
Thank you, Michelle Obama! So right on. Sometimes the “he’s not my type” ends up being the man of your dreams with ALL the qualities you’ve prayed for. Keep your mind and your heart open, and God will surprise you in love!
pshh …”Look at how the guy treats his mother and what he says about women.”..classic advice that most women ignore cuz they think they grown and end up gettin hurt.
Aw I love Michelle she seems so down to earth and growned
-she looked cute too!
Common sense. I love the First Lady!
So true! I disregarded ALL the warnings and finally came to my senses. Pay attention, ladies. If you get even ONE feeling of something ain’t right…it usually isn’t.
Well said.
I don’t know why any woman would do the opposite of what Mrs. Obama said.
To me it’s common sense ..
TRUE MRS. OBAMA. UNFORTUNATELY THERE AREN’T MANY MEN LIKE BARACK LEFT IN THE WORLD TODAY. WE DON’T HAVE MUCH TO CHOOSE FROM THESE DAYS…ESPECIALLY HERE IN ATLANTA (THE GAY MECCA)!
Damn good advice right there.
Lets get it right tho yall… Barack LANDED MICHELE…. not the other way around……..
Yep, that’s real talk. And I like that she doesn’t tout Barack’s greatness in terms of intelligence or accomplishments (which are important too), but in terms of his heart and the way he treats others. And so tru; at the end of the day that’s what carries one through the ups n downs, and ends up being the take away, Knowing you can look back and know you acted decent in most circumstances. Money, fame, and power is just the extra..
NIcely said Mrs.Obama..I am feeling your response. I def know that I am not marrying my current boyfriend.
@Healthy Black Queens, that’s not true actually. SHE was on the GLAMOUR COVER when her interview came out. They choose about twelve “Women of the year”. Rihanna got the next cover.
THAT WAS GOD WHAT OUR FRIST LADY SAID I KEEP THAT IN MIND WHEN I GO OUT.
…aint that the truth… Because anything other than that is TOTAL MISERY.
Bad relationship = WORSE MARRIAGE
oh.. and never date a ‘one-upper’ either
I LOVE IT!
I think more people should have vieweed this…lord knows many these women need this advice to apply to their own lives!
Wow thats some really good advice. Theres so many important things she said in that one paragraph. A lot of people could do well hearing this….I’m glad I did.
Thanks Michelle
SHE IS SO FABULOUSLY REAL!!!
Agree with everything Michelle said, but want to ad to this point… “You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole.”
Only want to add / quote Oprah, that women should not expect a man to complete them. It’s a fine line that is often blurred.