In an interview with Juicy Magazine, Love & Hip-Hop star Emily Bustamente spoke about her relationship with rapper John “Fabolous” Jackson. In an excerpt of her interview with the publication’s editor-in-chief, the 29 year-old talked about her relationship with the rapper, the pros of being in a relationship with him as well as whether she sees marriage in the future:
On how Fabulous feels about the show:
“Fab and I shot a pilot show together about him being a father and trying to be an entertainer as well. They ended up not picking up his pilot. But um, he was a little salty [about me being in Love & Hip Hop]. He never told me not to do it. He was just like, “You know, I don’t know if it’s a good idea, but I’m not gonna tell you not to do it.”On dating John, not Fabolous:
“He’ll go on the radio and they’ll ask, ‘Are you single?’ And he’ll say ‘As a dollar bill.’ But it’s funny because he’ll text me, and be like, ‘Don’t listen to the radio.’ I honestly feel and believe that [Fab the rapper] is a personality.”On the pros of being in a relationship with Fabolous:
“He’s so intelligent. He teaches me so much. When we’re at home he’s not a rapper. He’s John. He’s not this guy everybody else see.s I’d rather him just be John at home with the kids sitting at the dinner table eating with them. I couldn’t tell you what the pros, because to me, a pro would be just to have him at home.”
On whether she wants to marry him:
“Absolutely. But I wouldn’t want to be married to anybody that didn’t want to be married because I don’t want to be divorced either. He’s not the youngest guy, and I’m not even 30. I know it’s been a long time, but I’m not gonna force anything. If it happens it happens and it doesn’t maybe I’ll move on. I don’t know what the future holds.” [ Source ]
After reading this interview, one can’t help but think, ‘How long is too long to wait for marriage?’
I saw the preview of the show last week. She basically says he treats her like shit, so why would she want to marry him?
I understand love and behind the cameras Fab may make her feel loved. But there’s not that much love in the world if he treats her the way he does. Before watching Love and Hip Hop, I wouldn’t have known Fab had a wifey. He’s basically trying to have his cake and eat it. If he love her….. the world would know it. It’s time to wake up! If he can’t treat her they way she supposed to be treated it’s time for her to lose the zero and gain a hero!!
12 years apart, I guess.
she is dumb and need some self esteem. if we in a relationship you are not going around telling people you are single. where dey do that at. she on the show saying she goes with him to the award shows as his stylist. she doesnt go on the red carpet or anything. DUMB DUMB DUMB
NO wedding, NO womb! When are the sista’s gonna get thier shit together?
exactly. furthermore, once you have given away your body (sex) and created life (child)…what then is the point of getting married? marriage then become just a legal contract.
Thank you REAL!
People these days get in a relationship and can’t wait to hit it raw. Ain’t nobody saving their virginity til marriage, but at least save the raw for marriage. At least make that special. Broads just giving all they sh*t away to “boyfriends”. Sheeeeeesh.
Agreed!
You took the words right outta my mouth.
I’m actually to see this dialogue. Looks like some of you ladies are finally learning.
This is encouraging to see.
Ugh real “intelligent” sisters already have that message. You think an Obama daughter would be in this situation ever, no, because she was raised right. To the rest of you, stop making excuses for living out of order.
I laugh at all the women dating these guys because they don’t want to stay in the dark. Ya’ll try to make the relationship public but it isn’t the publics buisness who he dates marries or effs
Well she is the typical “side thing”….21 years old she still got some growing…& the song & video “Can’t Leave you alone” resembles her…either which way phuck them both.
Is she really only 21? I ask not only because she looks older in the pics, but also because she said, “I’m not even 30″ implying that she is close to it.
Curious…
According to this article http://www.vibe.com/content/pandoras-box-woman-behind-fabolous she is 29 years old. That sounds more accurate. Apparently she MET him when she was 21…otherwise she would have been a minor when she started dating him and had his child. Come on CL!
Thank you for clearing that up. So I don’t feel so bad about my other comment.
29 is 30, she definitely does not look 21
LA_Verite
If you read the article, Angel clearly states she’s 29. Right at the top#Readingisessential
PrincessP…you came in late and clearly did not see before they edited and made the correction. THANK YOU.
And furthermore Angel did not author this post – Christine did. Check yourself before you try to check me.
Was Fab was messing with her when she was a minor? I would not be with a man that long with his children and no ring. But if she loves it I can’t “hate”.
Ladies do your thing, get your money. If a man really wants you, he’ll be waiting for you not the other way around. We need more women on TV that represent that.
You need more women who are into men with CHARACTER, PRINCIPLE, INTEGRITY, MORALS, HONOR, and LOYALTY. Instead of dick, looks, and checkbooks.
That’s what’s missing in your dating selection ladies. Not the money, or the “do your thing” girl attitude!
I agree wit u Ash! good comment! And we so need that represented.
Is she really 21 or was that a typo?
When I watched the show a few days ago she looks so much older for one. She said she is his stylist. I wonder who else she styles.
Kids? I thought there was only one. Any who to answer the question. Hell Nah! Call me old fashion but I rather wait for marriage before having babies.
I hear you ASH ! ! !
marriage first. family second. there’s a reason for this order. for your own emotional protection among several other things. this woman is hurting. if a man is not committed to you, chances are, he won’t be committed to your child. get the ring first, sistas. get the ring first….and get it from the right dude. and to get the right dude, you must be the right (discerning) woman.
YES!!!!
Amen to that…
…and to be the right woman you must get right with God.
amen!
agreed!!!!
She dissin him in thay article and on the show. These shows need to stop. VH1 making all these “celebrities” look like clowns. These stupid celebrity reality shows get cornier and coonier every season. Come on black folks wake up! *Kanye West Shrug*
I’m a big fan of Fab but both of them are trippin’. She’s lost her mind if she has no problem with him going around saying he’s single ..
And about the marriage thing, I’m not waiting maybe more than 2 years .. they already have the family without the marriage so what’s the point? Marriage first and then I’ll have your babies.
i think she does have a problem w/ him saying it. she just feels powerless about the situation- a sign that the relationship is unhealthy and needs to be dissolved
Agreed.
If they already have a child and they are living like they are married, Why would he rush to put on a ring on her finger? He already has all the benifits.
Be smart in the begining then these situations 10 years later would be less stressfull. She wouldnt be asking questions that sould have have been laid on the table 8 years ago
*shrugs shoulders*
He takes care of her, he let her carry his seed, what else is there?
As a woman who went through the same thing, I’ll be slow to judge. It’s hard to leave someone you love. Especially if you don’t have a “good” reason to leave (i.e. he beats me, he talks down to me, he keeps getting other chicks pregnant). In your mind, you begin to believe that everything else aside, he’s an incredible guy. Eventually you get fed up with the “out of sight; out of mind” attitude he displays and leave. Hopefully this show will be the catalyst for her to find her own two. That’s what I hope for her.
As for everyone passing judgement, take a seat. Nothing is ever as easy as it looks.
Well said.
Agree to some of your comments, Here’s the point when you first meet someone make sure you check there back ground out, there are a lot of abusive mens out there and even womens, check to see if they have a felony record, these day people can cover have heavy baggage they just want to dump it on you, so you have to be careful so you want put yourself in this position, I’ve been there and it was a wake up call for me, Fab knows what he’s doing he’s not ready for marriage, she needs to move forward there is a great guy out there for her who will accept her for who she is…Stop giving up the pressure gift for free, make them work for it and if they get tried then there not the one you,…
@ Kimmy K….”out of sight, out of mind” is a EXTREMELY good reason to leave someone! Why stay with someone who doesn’t want to own your relationship love publicly?
It may be hard to leave a situation but what’s the point of life if you ain’t living it on your own terms?!?
If he wants you he will marry you and treat you like a priority>>its time to bounce. He has no intentions of marrying you and letting his martial statis affect his career nor will he ever .
WOW this girl is real DUMB. He tells ppl he is single and then calls you to tell you do not listen to that. SERIOUSLY. I understand wanting to keep your business to yourself but please do not tell me that FAB could not have answered that question with tact.
This man clearly has her on lock. He will take her for a ride until he finds someone else. The poor thing. He is telling you that there is no future with you but yet you are clinging on to the notion that there is.
Here goes everybody w/something to say. Half of yall prob got 3 or 4 kids already…lol…Times have changed. He’s not marrying her because he does not want to!!!!Point Blank Period, not because she has a child but because he can do whatever he wants however he wants to her and she won’t do shit about it!!Just like we as woman don’t want no weak ass man, men don’t want no weak ass sit back and collect off you woman. He sees what it is and that’s why he don’t take her ass seriously. Before everybody go off, it takes two people to make a baby, he knew what he was doing just like she did. The answer to the question before anyone asks. Yes I have a child, no we are not together,and yes he is committed to our child, not a day go by that he does not see her.
well said because a man will only do what you allow! It seems to me she more concerned about giving up that lifestyle than going with her heart! #real talk
Hell no! I’ll simply say i LOVE a man , who’s man enough to put a ring on it. I see no reason to wait, but she wants to follow the dream of being attached to an “unattainable man”. it’s funny how women will put their dreams on hold for a man.
No it’s funny how women will give away everything meaningful about themselves to the ‘wrong’ man. Then blame all men for her repeat and failed attempts at courtship.
Stupid is as stupid does. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result right?
Ladies change your mind, I said earlier what kind of men you should be pursuing. Make sure you’re the kind of woman who can reflect that choice, and you will get a ring…easily.
She needs to shut the Phuck up before she’s out on the street!!!! #byebyebentley
She can do so much better without Fabulous he ain’t all that cute to begin with
I think after a year you have a good idea of a person and should know rather or not you want to take it to the next level or not.. I would not want to shack and sleep in a bed defiled.. My ex friend since 3rd grade put some fire under her boyfriend of five years behind.. It was many days, nights, and mornings she called me crying. I would text him under the pretence of her, putting the right words together to soften his heart to return home.. Reminded me of when we were kids and teenagers and I would have to edit and write her love letters. I finally told her as a woman of God,”Nick, yall gonna keep having trouble, and hell to pay because you are living in sin, God can’t bless that house because yall are going about it the wrong way, you guys been playing house long enough, and this is the reason you guys are restless with no peace..” So he bought her a five hundred dollar ring, waited til Christmas night to propose after she had cursed him out.. I told her he would.. and to chill out.. When she described his proposal over the phone, I cried aligator tears, it was touching, my friend had been through a lot with this dude and I told her she deserved it.. Then, she got mouthy and beside herself, so, I dismissed her, and did not give her my new number.. And to think I bought myself a thousand dollar ring years go, sometimes we are so easily impressed, her house note was more.. But of course I did not rain on her parade.. To be honest all the things he put her through, she should have left him.. Not sure how things have been since then but something tells me she wish she still had my me to cry on, I hope he has changed.. Just a lesson ladies, when you get what it is that you think you want, don’t stab the shoulder that you cry on, you never know, you may need it again..
I think after a year you have a good idea of a person and should know rather or not you want to take it to the next level or not.. I would not want to shack and sleep in a bed defiled.. My ex friend since 3rd grade put some fire under her boyfriend of five years behind.. It was many days, nights, and mornings she called me crying. I would text him under the pretence of her, putting the right words together to soften his heart to return home.. Reminded me of when we were kids and teenagers and I would have to edit and write her love letters. I finally told her as a woman of God,”Nick, yall gonna keep having trouble, and hell to pay because you are living in sin, God can’t bless that house because yall are going about it the wrong way, you guys been playing house long enough, and this is the reason you guys are restless with no peace..” So he bought her a five hundred dollar ring, waited til Christmas night to propose after she had cursed him out.. I told her he would.. and to chill out.. When she described his proposal over the phone, I cried aligator tears, it was touching, my friend had been through a lot with this dude and I told her she deserved it.. Then, she got mouthy and beside herself, so, I dismissed her, and did not give her my new number.. And to think I bought myself a thousand dollar ring years go, sometimes we are so easily impressed, her house note was more.. But of course I did not rain on her parade.. To be honest all the things he put her through, she should have left him.. Not sure how things have been since then but something tells me she wish she still had my me to cry on, I hope he has changed.. Just a lesson ladies, when you get what it is that you think you want, don’t stab the shoulder that you cry on, you never know, you may need it again..
you got issues b. You seem like you dont have a life and that is why hers was so consuming of yours. Sending her man texts pretending to be her REALLY? A “woman of GOD” would not be pretentous sneak or lie to assist anyone expecially encourage her to have a dispute to force his proposal if you were a “woman of GOD” you would suggest they seek couples counselling and pray for them not get mixed up in the drama. People like you make me stay away from church. Psycho!
hmmm, first off you don’t have children without a real commitment, which would mean marriage, secondly, you don’t stay with a man that denies you in public but then tries to smooth it over saying “it’s just a personality…” I call BS, he wants his cake and then some. Get some self-esteem…
There we go again selling our selves into the land of baby mommahood. He will marry a white chick because she will make him. Its better to be married than to just be forever girlfriend and then when he dumps you, he gets married like Lamar and countless others. Black women do it to oureselves, he’s ready to make babies with you and then not own up to you on the radio and you dont have a problem with that, why should he marry your dumb behind. When a real woman comes along and let him know she’s not hanging around for that crap, he will then man up and make her his wife, otherwise why would he value you if you dont?!!Stop selling yourselves short and using the “he’s not ready BS”Talk to me when you ready boo boo.
“why would he value you if you dont?!!”
YEZZZ! So true. And I don’t understand males logic- dudes like Fab act like marriage is too much too soon, but having a baby is not?! At least a marriage can be dissolved if it doesn’t work out. But a babymama/daddy is FOREVER! LMAO!
@ ZZZZZZ well said it stumps me all the time when dudes would rather have baby mama drama then just marry a woman theyve dated 3 or more years. People act like Marriage is ball and chain its a simple document to get in and a simple one to get out.
Why do y’all keep saying she’s living off of him? She has a career and is paid on her own(vouch)! Sure enough she shouldn’t be waiting on him to marry her but I know for sure she has her own money SN: my new bath and bodyworks smell so yummy!
Okay here’s my thing. They have these shows basketball wives, housewives, hip hop etc. And most if not all of them are not married, then the rest just dated. I wish sum1 will just tell the truth, these grown girls are just trying to get famous. these shows do not represent the show. They’re making the real wives, girlfriends look bad. The men arent even in the show. It’s shameful how they show how Black women make a fool of themselves fighting and cussing, sleeping around on national televsion. and they claim to be smart well take ur intelligence and put it to good use. Show sum unity among us as women.
Keep waiting honey he’s never gonna come around…smh lol
My take is anyone who denies you after you put your time energy and support for him into a relationship obviously thinks your disposable. Even after you have a kid out of wedlock you can still be strong and recover: sinply give him an ultimatum that you will move out, file for custody and date other people since there is no level of commitment keeping you from doing so. If he still doesnt get it together then @tleast you know you didnt waste you WHOLE LIFETIME waitin on someone who is not going to improve your lifestyle and you will get a chance @ happiness.
A child does not make you ready for marriage and just because the relationship is “long term” doesn’t mean it’s going anywhere. People will stay together 10 years and still be all, “I’m not marrying his raggedy a**, but thats my boo though”. Who are we to judge? If she wants to “waste” her life away, that’s on her. I only wish I could have wasted years in a relationship with John’s money. At some point EVERYONE enters and stays in a relationship, longer than they should. Why is everyone catching amenesia now?
For all we know they could just be luxariating, drinking fine wine, spending millions and having fun.. and the baby was just a product of all the luxariating. It does not seem like this baby was planned out. Lets be real. He ran up in her and that was that. They love their child. They like each other. What do y’all want from them?
A child does not make you ready for marriage and just because the relationship is “long term” doesn’t mean it’s going anywhere. People will stay together 10 years and still be all, “I’m not marrying his raggedy a**, but thats my boo though”. Who are we to judge? If she wants to “waste” her life away, that’s on her. I only wish I could have wasted years in a relationship with John’s money. At some point EVERYONE enters and stays in a relationship, longer than they should. Why is everyone catching amenesia now?
For all we know they could just be luxariating, drinking fine wine, spending millions and having fun.. and the baby was just a product of all the luxariating. It does not seem like this baby was planned out. Lets be real. He ran up in her and that was that. They love their child. They like each other. What do y’all want from them?
She is a stylist and has her own money. Im sure he supports his son..She just wants him to be with her the right way and not lie and say he is single.. but she should start dating other men, and enjoying her life! clearly, fab is doing whatever he wants to do! So should she, but she is being the “good” girlfriend..Pls, couldn’t be me….she is not a ugly girl..she is being stupid, and while it may hurt at first she will be just fine!
I am stuck in a similar situation. Not saying that is right to stay in it but love is very tricky and sometimes makes us look foolish. I feel her pain as I live this everyday, even tried dating but love somehow took me back to him. It’s almost as if they live double lives, having these “alter egos” to make themselves look good just to earn a buck when we see the sides of them noone else sees at home.
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