With self-help books out on shelves like Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man and television segments on the statistic-driven “epidemic” of being a single black woman in America, black women without a band around their left hand’s ring finger are beginning to wonder whether they really need to look outside of the black community for their significant other as the media suggests.
In fact, earlier this month a Stanford Law professor by the name of Ralph Richard Banks spoke of the marriage deficit in the black community and concluded in his book, Is Marriage for White People?, that the 70% of black women who are unmarried would be better off stepping outside of the black community for love:
“Many women would do well to expand their options in the same way people of other races have, and look beyond black men in their search for a partner,” Stanford law professor Ralph Richard Banks told “Nightline.” “Black women are the most segregated group in our society when it comes to relationships.” (READ STORY)
In the entertainment world, some celebrities like model Iman (who is married to singer David Bowie) and others have been able to successfully hold a long-lasting relationship/marriage.
One couple that has been able to stand the test of time as an interracial couple is actress Paula Patton and Robin Thicke. The singer spoke about the 18-year ups and downs of being with his woman of color and what he thinks about the media telling black women to date white men:
I think that’s ridiculous. There are so many good Black men out there that are hardworking, decent, and handsome, you know? To start that rumor is as bad as starting any other negative rumor. There are great Black men out there. There are only a few good White men — trust me. (Laughs) Good luck finding a good White man who understands your journey. I only have three White friends. I’ve got 20 Black male friends, who are all good men who take good care of their wives, and good care of their children. I know amazing Black men. Maybe the women have to take better care of their men. Maybe you’re being too stubborn. Maybe you’re not saying you’re sorry. You have to take good care of him, too. You have to give love to get love. [SOURCE: ESSENCE]