‘ROUND THE WAY: BORIS KODJOE WRITES NICOLE ARI PARKER A POEM FOR 7th ANNIVERSARY

black love is beautiful and I also thought they were married like FOREVER for some reason…

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*sigh* I agree with you

“Black love” is when an african american couple LOVE, RESPECT, & HONOR each other. Something that is a rarity among black men, when it concerns black women

@ Antoine

Those were rhetorical questions, but thank you anyway for your vain, self-serving interpretation of that contrived term that black women use as an umbrella phrase for a black man submitting to their nonsense. In order for a black man to “love, respect, and honor” the black woman, she must first be a woman, and he a man. See this is what I’m talking about lol. We must first know what words mean before they can be used appropriately Antoine. I notice that when a black female “dates outside of her race”, there is no talk of “black love”. The talk is that “love is colorblind”. Which one is it Antoine?

Black Love is incense…lol

@INDIGO

That’s what it sounds like, incense….or a bubblebath lmao. I just can’t take the hypocrisy. If someone is for maintaining their race, that’s cool, just be consistent. Don’t castigate the black man when he’s seen with a so-called “non-black” woman but then champion Halle Berry, Kerry Washington, Keisha from down the block, and all the other black women who are dating outside their race. You are either for “black love” (whatever the hell that is) or you’re not. I really don’t give a sh!t either way, but consistency is appreciated, and adherence to word meanings. People making up definitions for words or phrases on the fly only causes confusion. It’s clear that black females are in dire straits, and it’s their own fault. Most of the “black love” black females are the MAIN black females to have dated every race on planet earth, and some green dudes from other planets lol. Knock it off….

^^^

Consistency, that’s an interesting word for YOU to be using. I’m surprised you even understand the meaning.

I champion Halle Berry and Kerry Washington because, I understand how black men abandeoned the black woman, and left them unprotected and unloved. Most black men wouldn’t know a good woman if she was right in front of him. Black men have been programmed to only see “good” women in certain physical attributes. If a woman doesn’t meet “specific” criteria, black men want nothing to do w/ them. Therefore, I can appreciate it when a black man isn’t afraid to profess his undying love to another black woman. It’s a beautiful thing. Again, something you know nothing about.

@ ANTOINE

I understand the meaning of “consistency” just fine, as in, if you are a true proponent of “black love”, then that’s what it is. That’s why I ask people to define terms. Females are whimsical and make conditional statements by nature, so your stance (or lack thereof) is expected lol. You champion Kerry Washington and Halle Berry because they’re nuts and so are you. “Abandoned”? Something of value never gets “abandoned”. If a female has been “abandoned” it is because she was/is of no value. You’ve concocted a strawman argument by implying and associating “good” with “woman”. There are some “good women” (very few) but being a woman doesn’t make one “good”, nor deserving of a man (Prov 31:10). That’s you projecting due to your Cinderella programming i.e. “a man is supposed to sweep me off my feet just because…” lol. Black men don’t understand all this because they’re being instructed by “TEAM U.S.A.” i.e. the white man, the white woman, and the black woman. That’s why the black man is bugged out of his mind now, which returns me to my original response to you. In order for the relationship to be prosperous, the black male must be taught by a black MAN, so he can become a MAN. Black men only look for the physical in a female because most of you have nothing else to offer. Please tell me, what do you have to offer (not even speaking about looks)? A man only expresses “undying love” to God. Are you a god? Negro please lol…..and Kodjoe did this for PUBLICITY….for people like you to suck it up. “Essence” magazine might as well be called “Lonely A$$ Black Chic Quarterly”. That’s their target demographic.

So when a man acknowledges his feelings for a woman it’s, in your mind, comparable to worshipping the Most high? Really? The only straw man argument being concocted is yours. As for your feeble attempt to bait me, i.e. questions concerning what I can offer, please spare me….as you know I’ve wasted enough time discussing that topic w/ you…black men abandon valuable things/people everyday out of ignorance, pride, & stupidity…something I’m sure know a lot about as well, no?

@ ANTOINE

What are you winking at me for? You better have something in your eye lol. You should have somebody blow it out so you can see what I’m saying a little clearer. Who said anything about abandoning valuable things? Are you a WOMAN or a THING? Stay focused Antoine. Where did I say anything about a man acknowledging his “feelings” for a woman? I used the term that you used, which is “undying love”, which translates as a man putting up with your nonsense and worshiping you. You can’t answer any questions so I’ll transition. Who the hell is “Honey Bunches of Oats”? You sendin’ out smoke signals? I guess all you need is honey bunches of oats, because as crazy as you are, you gonna provide the nuts lol.

I agree with @Circa1984.

I don’t have anything in my eye, but I’m about to my fist in yours. What straw man argument of yours haven’t I answered? I’m not responding to bullshyt, and that’s precisely what questions like “What do you have to offer?” is. I stated to you that you don’t understand the meaning of consistency, and judging by your reply, you still don’t know the meaning. That’s why it’s so funny to me to read your little spiel about understanding the meaning of words, when clearly you don’t either. I told you that most black men have abandoned black women, your response was valuable things don’t get abandoned. I’m explaining to you that black women are valuable and that black men don’t want to recognize it or just don’t give a damn b/c it’s not packaged a certain way. I never stated women were a “thing”, I was referring to both women and things. It’s not my fault that you couldn’t make that distinction. Now, on to the rest of your bullshyt. “Who’s honey bunches of oats?” You could have saved so much time (and space) on this thread and just initially asked me this question, we both know my response to this question is my valuable to you then other previous other questions (distractions) that you were asking. My honey bunches of oats is the man that the Most High is going to send to me, b/c you see, I am a “good” woman, and he is preparing my mate. Don’t worry, the position won’t be filled w/ anyone like you. <—a smiley face, satisfied?

@ Rachel

thanks. sometimes you have to put folks in their place

@Judah, you are ON POINT… Why do you waste so much time on this site? Your mindset is beyond what the majority of ppl on this site are use to.. You have said some things to me in the past that had me like WTF..and some of your comments are hard to swallow,but once I started to READ what you were saying,,I have to agree with what you say. The only thing that makes you crazy is coming on this site..because many take what you say as being judgmental. I know better. And if you attack me next week, I take back EVERYTHING i’ve said today. LOL J/K

@ ANTOINE

The only thing the Lord is preparing for this society is it’s destruction, not a man for you lmao…..shows how bugged out you black females are. A man is not prepared for a woman. A woman is prepared for a man (I Cor 11:8,9). You do not know, neither do you believe in the Bible, so I don’t know who you’re talking about when you use the term “Most High”. You better settle for your mate being that electronic appliance lmao. I gave the scripture on what a good woman is and her attributes. Most of you black females don’t have those attributes because you go from man to man, which the scriptures prophesied (Amos 7:17). You can talk in circles, and avoid insightful questions, but you can’t talk circles around the Bible. A used car does not fetch the same VALUE as a new car, therefore the average woman in this society is of little VALUE. The bitterness shows, but it’s a self-destructive cycle for you black women because your pride will not allow you to do the things to become acceptable to YOUR HEAD, the black man (I Cor 11:3). Oh well lol…..

@RACHEL

Of course you agree with Antoine. You’re lonely as hell too lmao.

@INDIGO

I’m not concerned with what people think about what I say. They normally can’t refute it, as you can see by the interactions that I have with people on this site. People mention how I use the term “dem0n”, but it’s pertinent because a dem0n is a delusional spirit. Anytime someone can’t extrapolate their own “stance”, they’re just talkin’ to talk. That means that they’re trying to cause confusion.

“Anytime someone can’t extrapolate their own “stance”, they’re just talkin’ to talk. That means that they’re trying to cause confusion.” <<TRUE!! All over the place..til they contradict themselves and I'm not only speaking on this thread. I see it too often. "We don't know why we are mad,but someone told us we should be because (We have the right to be) things are not what I was told they should be"

"There are some “good women” (very few) but being a woman doesn’t make one “good”, nor deserving of a man (Prov 31:10). That’s you projecting due to your Cinderella programming i.e. “a man is supposed to sweep me off my feet just because…" BINGO<< Thank you for addressing this mentality. We will we learn, you have to bring something to the table,and stop playing the victim. You have to stand for something and stand firm.. My question is,how can you despise something,but then pray for god to send it to you? << Anyone can answer this question for me please… or is it another contradiction.

Not trying to start any confusion,I just want ppl to learn how to take responsiblity for their actions,and what role they play in their situation(s).

Why does it not surprise me that Indigo aka Idiot, agrees w/ Judah lol smh.

@ Judah

Are you l0nely? Why would assume that I am? I feel a brisk wind, the tone of your responses has changed. Whew. I wish you could really see how ridiculous your responses are. Why are you so dramtic? You haven’t given me any “insightful questions”. What you have given is “comical questions”.

Yes, I am an idiot for thinking my disclaimer would stop you from poppin your neck and rolling your eyes..@circ1984 Not once did I call you any names… That just shows how triffling you are. I agree with people who have their heads on straight. I’m sorry you are bitter,things will get better once you do some soul searching for yourself and not your friends. Yes,you are bitter,go back and read your comment(s),you spelled it out for everyone.. And if you THINK you “put someone in their place”(<<typical ABW mentality)you are also delusional..Judah served your ass on a platter,as usual. But you sooth your wounds by dismissing him as being
"crazy". HA! When will you learn you silly girl? You have the nerve to talk about someones responses being ridiculous…Comments are ridiculous to you when you can't comprehend them,so I understand why you feel the way you do,we all become angry when we are lost.

And for the record, you don't "deserve" better until you do better. And you can't do better because you don't know better.

Oh the debates on CL! lol… I learn alot here. I suspect there are a ton of lurkers here even though comments have gone down compared to the previous years. I think I know why but I will keep that to myself.

@Circ1984 could you answer my question;”how can you despise something,but then pray for god to send it to you?” This is a serious question. I know sooo many black women who say they are mad at black men,but then pray for one. Is this a fad? Did she get it from her momma? I feel once you answer this question,then you will be able to address the problems YOU ARE HAVING with black men. No need to walk around angry because you don’t understand something.

**Anyone…PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTION.

@ ANTOINE

What do you mean, why would I assume that you’re lonely???? You told me lmao. You said that the Lord is “preparing a man for you”. Of course, no scriptures to prove that is how the Lord operates, just confusion and delusion. Maybe you don’t remember what you said, or maybe one of your other personalities are in control now lol. You’re talking about the tone of my responses? Yours are shorter and shorter, with less and less actual content (if that is possible). I just wanted to know what “black love” is. Thank you for giving me your “opinion”.

@ STARBURST

The comments have gone down on this website because of the censorship, and it’s unfortunate. There are definitely a “bunch of lurkers” that view these comments lol.

@ INDIGO

Exactly. Alot of black females are angry by INHERITANCE lol. Never been abused, misused, or denigrated, but by LEARNED BEHAVIOR embrace the pity party mantra that “black men” don’t love “black women”. Part of that is the propaganda of mainstream media. For example this falsehood that “famous black men don’t marry black women”. The vast majority of famous and rich black men are MARRIED to BLACK WOMEN, and always have been. It has always been the BLACK WOMAN, that has gotten famous and EXCLUSIVELY dated and MARRIED WHITE. Many of these sisters have had “good black men” and BLEW IT, but don’t believe in accountability. “Antoine” stated that she agreed with Usher’s ex-wife and would attack and spit on people. That’s the bestial mentality that we’re dealing with, and MANY BLACK FEMALES embrace that faux masculine mentality, where they want to be violent but still be considered “ladies”. Like I’ve already stated, most of the “black love” black females are the first ones to DATE INTER-RACIALLY themselves lol. There are bad black males, and there are bad black females, but the black female wants to re-define the roles (assigning herself as a superior and a “teacher”) and then still want the black male to have “undying love” (worship) for her. Then they have the nerve to bring the Lord’s name into their confusion as if He or His Word co-signs it lol. It’s good that you can see that certain types of people cannot comprehend when they’re wrong, and that is why it is a vicious, BITTER, self-destructive cycle for them. She, nor most of these other black females, are actually “praying” for a black MAN, because they don’t know what a MAN is. They don’t really know what the hell they’re praying for, or who they’re praying to lol.

@ Indigo

Hold up, pause. What problem do I have w/ black men? Lol smh. Just b/c I’m waiting for certain characteristics in a man, doesn’t mean I’m “single”. I love black men, I don’t have any problems w/ them. My problem w/ “Judah”, is that he’s an inconsistent hypocrite. And trust me “Indigo”, my issues w/ him are extensive and valid. You really have no idea…lol

It seems to me that the terms “black love” (and those who use it) are only masking an insecurity. Many feel that blacks aren’t capable of loving each other, so when they see a happy black couple, they get excited. It’s like prideful slogans such as, “The blacker the berry the sweeter the juice”. I found out that most women who say that would die to be lightskin. Or “Say it loud, I’m black and I’m proud”. People who concoct these sayings are usually insecure, so they need these forms of encouragement to make themselves feel better. I hope you guys understand where I’m going with this…

@ CHEERS

Exactly lol. They’re compensating for self-knowledge and insight that they’ll never have, so they must resort to “sloganism”. To break things down for a moment, “black love” is another strawman. First off, here is no such thing as a “black” person. Secondly, “love” is based in KNOWLEDGE before anything else, not emotions, because emotions change. When emotions change, devotion will most likely change if the “love” is not based in something more substantive than “feelings”. The reason why these other cultures maintain their cultural identity and their relationships is because of KNOWLEDGE which brings ORDER. That whole “black love” nonsense is a facade to cover the black woman’s loneliness. Those are the same females that not only will be the FIRST to “date” inter-racial, but will try to 1) stipulate what “race” of woman a black man must deal with, 2) but what SHADE of black woman he must deal with lol.

@ ANTOINE

Negro please lmaooooo……hmmmm, allegedly I’m the “hypocrite” but ONCE AGAIN, you reveal your demon. Now you’re saying that you have “no problems with black men”. Well that’s strange because ORIGINALLY you stated, “most black men wouldn’t know a ‘good woman’ if she was right in front of him”, and that “black men abandon valuable things” (your words not mine). The only conclusion that I can come to is: 1) You’re dealing with multiple personality disorder (dem0nic possession) 2) You’ve suddenly changed your mind and you now actually don’t believe the black man “abandons valuable things”. 3) You’re embarrassed that your hypocrisy and BITTERNESS has been revealed lol. 4) All three. I choose options 1 and 3 but it’s not really relevant at this point. Your hypocrisy is electronically stamped lol. I’ve proved my point, with your extensive help. Thank you lol.

C’mon now, you’re far too “intelligent” to use that counter attack. You make the same type of comments pertaining to black women using terms like “most” or “many”. So does that mean you also hate black women or have issues w/ them? I mean, please. I’ve become quite adapt @ dealing w/ multiple personality disorders. I should be thanking YOU for the years of extensive research and data analysis that you’ve given me. It’s been quite helpful sir.
Good day to you!

@ ANTOINE

Hell yes I have a problem with the black woman lmao. What kind of question is that? I just happen to know what their problem is and how the problem will be solved. The difference between us (well one of them) is that I’m not putting forth my own thoughts and trying to re-define the roles. That’s why you’re so damn BITTER lol.

Lmao I also know what your problems are and how they need to be solved. Both situation require divine intervention.

@ ANTOINE

How does my problem need to be solved Mr. Dobson?

Lets hope your behavior is corrected when the Most High brings the destruction.
Oh & btw, I’m far from bitter. My bebe keeps me very happy

@ ANTOINE

Again, I have no idea who you’re talking about when you say “the Most High”, and neither do you…..and you aint happy lmao. Knock it off. You so damn bitter, just reading your comments is givin’ me wrinkles lol. Your “bebe” ain’t doing something right if you’re sending out smoke signals to someone named “Honey Bunches of Oats” lmao….

I have no idea what you mean by “smoke signals”. You’re gonna have to clarify that “Judah”. since you’re so enlighten please tell me who my honey bunches of oats is & who I’m signaling? That’s all this commentary has really been about

@ ANTOINE

Nah Antoine, obviously you have a huge ego but actually this thread has been about “black love”. You forgot again Antoine? YOU responded to MY question unsolicited. You should eat a steak. Someone once told me it helps with the memory lol……and I can’t tell you who the hell you’re talking about lol.

Here’s the funny thing about consistency :

You can’t answer any questions so I’ll transition. Who the hell is “Honey Bunches of Oats”? You sendin’ out smoke signals? I guess all you need is honey bunches of oats,

This was your comment…you made two attempts to get me to respond…so how is it that I have a big ego? After all, I’m just responding to your commentary, right?

Yes, whoever told you steak was good w/ memory problems was very wise. I just made a steak for me & my bebe.

@ Antoine

The TOPIC OF A THREAD is whatever the lead comment is about Antoine. That’s the first thing that they teach you in the white man’s school system in English class. You did “graduate” from grammar school right Antoine lol? If you were cooking a steak, it must be burnt as hell because you been running to look at my comments lmao. Probably have to cut that “steak” with a chainsaw lol. Knock it off Antoine.

LOL both of ya’ll need “divine interventions”…and a talk show

@ CHEERS

You would be the first guest on the show because you’re crazy as hell your damn self, talkin’ about you know how to mix ammonia into cooking grease lol.

I direct those grammer questions to you “Judah”. Afterall, it is YOU that have changed the topic of this thread from, black love, what I have to offer in a relationship, who is honey bunches of oats. Ya @ss is all over the place. YOU don’t even remember the topic @ all. See, this is what I’m talking about, no CONSISTENCY @ all! lmao

@ ANTOINE

Antoine smdh & lol…..a TOPIC is what leads the conversation. The TOPIC is whatever the lead comment is. A “transition” does not mean that the overall TOPIC has changed, which is why the other black women who have commented in this convo like “Indigo” and “Cheers” (who are still crazy, but a little less crazy than you lol) are still commenting on “black love”. The questions that I asked you, which you refused to answer, were not even DIRECTLY pertaining to “black love” lol. Knock it off. Get it together and put down the pineapple vodka lol. INCONSISTENCY is someone that (allegedly) believes in “black love” (black female worship) but cosigns black females dating inter-racially.,,,,hmmm, I wonder why.

I think the stanzas began perfectly…..

Ah, calm the hell down. I said it beautiful and I meant it. Geez.

Right! I’m itching @ the chance…lol

@ANTOINE

You better get some lotion because you got an ice cube chance in hell of him scratchin’ that itch….

Right?

True… and we (Black American Women) be the FIRST one talking about being stereotyped,but do it to ourselves ALL the time. Some don’t know any better.

**When you know better,you do better..