The Guardian sat down with Chris Brown last weekend to delve deeper into the violent incident that turned him from the “unassailable crown prince of R&B” to the most talked about malefactor in music today.
In the detailed dialogue between the British paper and the “Fine China” crooner, Brown revealed that he lost his virginity at eight to a 14 or 15-year-old girl from around the way (child rape, according to law).
The full quote pulled from The Guardian piece reads as:
He lost his virginity when he was eight years old, to a local girl who was 14 or 15. Seriously? “Yeah, really. Uh-huh.” He grins and chuckles. “It’s different in the country.” Brown grew up with a great gang of boy cousins, and they watched so much porn that he was raring to go. “By that point, we were already kind of like hot to trot, you know what I’m saying? Like, girls, we weren’t afraid to talk to them; I wasn’t afraid. So, at eight, being able to do it, it kind of preps you for the long run, so you can be a beast at it. You can be the best at it.”
Brown didn’t discuss the deets of the incident. But to anyone with any level of empathy should be incredibly disturbed at his lighthearted disclosure. An eight year old, too young to conscientiously consent to copulation, engaged in sexual intercourse with a teen, also maybe too young to fully understand the act. (Could she have been imitating/perpetuating something done to her?)
Breezy’s credit, or reasoning, was that this sort of thing is natural because things are “different” in the country. On the contrary, things like this occur all the time and in a myriad of localities. We all should know that places where kids’ sexual experiences are shaped to be consensual really exist and, more than often, these acts are regarded as “normal” at the expense of the child’s innocence. Because really, WHO “has sex” at eight?
Jennifer Marsh, VP of Victim Services at RAINN (the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network), tells Jezebel:
“We [as a society] tell men that they’re supposed to want every sexual experience, and that if they don’t want sex, they’re not normal,” Marsh explains, and pointed out that if the genders in Brown’s scenario were swapped, the media would discuss it very differently. If Chris Brown were Christine Brown talking to The Guardian about how she had sex with a 14-year-old neighborhood boy when she was 8, no matter how much she “chuckled” during the exchange, the writer would not refer to the experience as “losing her virginity.”
Because men don’t get raped. Or so that’s the idea society perpetuates. According to organizations like RAINN, men who have been abused by women/girls, more than often feel ashamed to come forward or seek assistance.
Provided that Chris Brown’s story is truthful, is he a victim? Does he need to realize he’s a victim in order to for us to call this abuse?