Posted on 8:31 PM on Feb 6+1Too often people confuse racist and racism. There is a difference.Some people are overtly and covertly racist, while others may say/do something that is racist, yet have no conscious knowledge. This is not the case. I don't believe that Jen is racist, but shame on her because she KNOWS better. I'm not upset with her for stating truth, if she was woman enough to say it. Still, regardless it's some stuff you don't say, flat out. No matter how wrong Raqi was...the dispute could have been OVER by simply asking her driver to drive away, rolling the window up whatever because nothing else needed to be said once she stated that they see radio hosting differently. I'm not condoning Raqi's behavior, but that doesn't justify Jen's remark. That was a low blow. People say things in the heat of the moment, but the fact remains that that comment came from a place of entitlement. So I'm not jumping to Jen's defense by letting her off the hook on this one because her gloating sense of entitlement is distasteful, racially insensitive, and rooted in white supremacist ideology-- ESPECIALLY, for a woman raising a black (bi-racial) son in America. Again, I'm not calling her racist, but the core of that statement is the logic of those who believe that being white makes them better than others. Let's also be clear, Raqi called Jen a "white honkie" AFTER Jen made the comment about her "white privilege." What was she as a black woman/woman of color supposed to make of that? I wouldn't have said that, but I know she was baffled because I paused like...I was with Jen until she opened her mouth. Jen could have simply said the way I handle business or my attitude will take me further than you...not "I'm white and my white privilege." - she might as well had said the N word. Racist language is racist language...And to add fuel to the fire, as if there isn't enough images and music privy to the degradation of women, and black/women of color in particular...Cons, If Raqi is what she is, let her be, but it wasn't necessary to further degrade by calling her a hoe via social network...I just hope that everyone learns a valuable lesson and tries to keep it positive.